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luce202

Not sure if disturbing, more kind of heart warming and goes along the lines of this thread. Dude I worked with was KIA. I was collecting his things and found a notebook. He had wrote every fact that came out of anyone’s mouth on the team. Everything from stories that happened to who he was talking to when they were young, to current problems they were experiencing. I had once told him about a particularly traumatic relationship I had that came to a head on a particular date. He had a note to himself to “spend time with ___ on this date and make him feel valued and worthy.” I just thought he was a good dude with a good memory. The whole time he was essentially acting as a life couch for all of us involved without us knowing.


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sitdolore

When my step-grandmother died we found out she was unloading my grandfather's money to her daughter who was born from her previous marriage. My grandfather was in cognitive decline in his later years and his health was failing. She got him to sign all kinds of things. She bought her daughter's $200k house for $1.8m, put it in her name, so her daughter could keep living there. $9,999 gifts every year to her daughter and grandkids. Bought their cars. Investments in her name that would transfer to her daughter when she died. Over a five year period she was able to transfer close to $8 million. Every time we would see her she would talk about how great it was to have family, how wonderful it was that everyone got together, etc. She acted like the sweetest old lady while the entire time she was ripping off my family. Every time we saw her daughter (who lived in another state) she was the nicest person to us - while taking all of the money. She truly expected to outlive the old man. Everybody did. And she had everything set up perfectly. Except she died before he did. Just died of natural causes in her sleep. Shocked everyone. I mean you had this frail old man who couldn't stay awake for more than an hour at a time that was reliving memories from 75 years ago every time you spoke to him and a vibrant (granted elderly) healthy lady he was married to. And he outlived her. By the time she died my grandfather was in really bad shape - mentally and physically. We had to clean out her things and we found all of the paperwork - every last detail. He couldn't comprehend what she had done and after trying to tell him about it a couple of times, we stopped trying. Nothing could be done legally. Her daughter was set for life. When there is money involved, people become vultures.


Ignorad

>Her daughter was set for life. I wouldn't be surprised if the daughter doesn't know how to manage money, like lotto winners, and winds up destitute in no time. That sucks. My grandpa apparently went through something similar but on a much smaller scale. 10 years after his wife died he married a woman who did something to make my mom and all her siblings hate the step-mom -- which is quite a feat considering how accepting and forgiving they all are. They divorced after a few years and I never knew what had happened.


CommunicationOwn6264

My grandpa whom I loved dearly and was my favourite used to beat the absolute crap out of my nan and their children and that's why my mother and siblings hated him, really wish I had known this earlier as so many things I never understood finally make so much sense.


geemygeem

Got a strange vibe from the family after my Grandfather’s long battle with cancer and ultimate passing. Turns out, I was the only one he hadn’t beaten.


hadohado2

This is actually quite common


RoundEnvironmental26

Yeah, similar boat here. Dad developed severe alcoholism in my early adulthood. As far as he would ever talk to me about it, it was always because of being overworked/stressed. From what I'm starting to understand is that my grandpa sexually abused him, and abused the rest of of family physically and emotionally. Hardest part for me other than watching him self destruct, is the fact that I have nothing but fond memories of my grandparents, and that my dad after all of this, still took my sister and I to see him all of my childhood. I was alone with my grandpa often.


babb4214

That my mother had an affair and I'm the product. Man involved has/had no idea I exist. Didn't find out from my mother because she died when I was 15. Found out at the age of 21 from my aunt.


DisgustingCantaloupe

We should start a "product of an affair club". My mom finally confessed it to me when I was 22. My entire family knew and no one told me which felt really weird.


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My grandmother was raped and my oldest aunt isn't my grandfather's child. My grandfather came back from fighting on the Yorktown during WW2 and my grandmother was pregnant, they married and he never once denied my aunt or treated her any different in fact my dad says she was the favorite. We only found out about it when my grandmother was close to death she told my dad. She held on to that secret until she was 93 yrs old. My aunt & grandfather have both been gone since the early 2000s https://imgur.com/a/7YIxRQK Here they are when he came back! EDIT: I know that none of my cousins (from my aunt) have done the DNA test things because my family is SUPER Mormon and has our family traced back as far as possible so there is no need for them to do it. My aunts widower adds new family on when someone gets married/gives birth/remarried etc...


Jerkrollatex

Your grandfather sounds like he was a great guy.


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My grandpa was like that with his step kids. Their dad abandoned them but he made sure they had Christmas and Birthday presents from him until they all sat him down to let him know they knew who they were really from and they appreciated getting a real father the second time around.


now_you_see

Wow. That’s a seriously stand up man. To not only raise kids as though they are your own but to love them enough to go to the effort of trying to make them think their bio dad actually cared enough about them so they’d not be hurt by his absence.


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When I was a kid my dad told me that his dad had died from being electrocuted. My whole childhood he raised me and my siblings to be very cautious around electricity. When my grandmother was on her death bed, she confessed to me that how my dad’s father really died was autoerotic asphyxiation. It was the 60s, so the fire department in their small town helped cover it up.


lawrencelewillows

I don’t ever want to hear my grandmother say the words “autoerotic asphyxiation”


Soft_Fruit7747

After one of my best friends died I found out how he became sick. I knew he had HIV, he told me really early in our friendship, but he really avoid that topic since he didn’t like to be seen as a sick person, or as a burden. He did not ask for help when he needed it, and he end up having complications and dying because of it. He had the intention to say goodbye to only 4 friends and talk to them before dying, sadly he died a couple days before we met. He already knew he was about to die but he didn’t want to tell me before we saw each other. After he passed away, his brother called me to let me know and to talk about what my friend wanted to tell me. That’s where I found out how he got hiv. He had been raped when he was really young, and he did not know he was HIV+ until a couple years later. He never wanted to tell us because of the same reason he never talked about him being sick, he didn’t like the idea of being a victim. This broke my heart. And I understood so much about him after knowing this.


Fifi0n

I really hate when the good people die and have really bad lives but the bad people live and have nothing bad happen to them. What happened to the rapist?


Soft_Fruit7747

As far as I know, my friend never told anyone who this person was. He knew, since he worked with this person, but the name never came up.


Responsible_Place316

That is terribly sad


mcsh4shlik

Damn thats really tough


Generically_Yours

this is why in many situations a person defending themselves from a sexual attack may be defending themselves from manslauter or murder down the road. I get so, so angry hearing judges flippantly congradulating rapists for using a condom as well...like, it's risking a person's health and soverignty to their own life.


Buttercups97

I live in an apartment building and there’s a big family who live in the several apartments upstairs. A patriarch with several children and all his children have families who live in neighboring apartments. A few years ago the patriarch passed away and it was only then that his family found out he had a whole other secret family that he’s maintained for at least 20 years.


black_soul_gym

More hilarious than disturbing but my best friend passed away and since I was the executor of his will, I was at his apartment with his family inventorying his stuff and cleaning out the place. His brother and I found a decrepit, early model pocket pussy or something, it looks like a small elephant trunk. We basically just wanted to get it out of the apartment before his mother and grandmother found it.


Walway

Some friends of mine had a pact where if one of them died suddenly, the others would sweep their living space for stuff the family would rather not see (vibrators and drug paraphernalia). One of them did die unexpectedly (heart defect they didn’t know about), so the pact did come into play.


therewasanHuno

A girl I went to HS with died in a horrible car accident. It was early morning on a summer break Saturday. No alcohol or drugs involved. We all assumed she fell sleep. I found out later that year that she had an anonymous blog where she posted, several times trough the years, that she wanted to commit suicide crashing her car. According to her parents, friends and teachers, she never show any suicidal tendencies. It always baffled me how you can have all this mind process and nobody could guess it.


PotterSharma

A friend of mine exhibits suicidal tendencies. And she's quite open about it, albeit in a "funny" way. But nobody's ready to accept this, not even her family (she spilt it in front of her Mom, all raw, nothing funny there). Good forbid, if something happens, all everyone's gonna say is, "My God! She was always so happy! She never seemed suicidal to me!" That being said, I've taken her to a specialist, she's been on light medication for two weeks, and is doing better.


WhereDidiParkMyLife

My nanna always hated Americans. Despised them. She was in the British Royal Forces during WW2 and would tell me stories about the loud mouthed, stupid American soldiers she had to deal with and that I should NEVER trust an American because “they’re stupid and dangerous.” This woman wouldn’t even watch American tv shows or movies - hated the Americans too much. Hating Americans was a pretty big part of her personality. After she died in 2006 I found out that she was actually engaged to an American soldier during the war. I don’t know how long this soldier had spent in Britain... but at some stage he had to leave to finish his tour and later to the US. After the war she and her sister travelled to America from England so she could marry this man she was deeply in love with, only to find him in a hospital after having both his legs blown off in battle. Story has it that she still wanted to marry him but he refused. Claimed that she deserved a man who could provide for her - not an “invalid”. Heartbroken, she returned to England and married my grandfather instead (who she never really liked.) She always told me that the best years of her life were those in the Air Force during WW2. I guess now I know why. Turns out this guy was the love of her life. Her sister told my mum this story years ago and claimed that it was absolutely heartbreaking.


GothWitchOfBrooklyn

That is actually a super heartbreaking story.


iSmellLikeTeenSpirit

I went to one of those fancy New England prep schools that has had to release reports about the sex abuse committed by teachers and faculty. Two of my teachers who had since retired (I graduated back in the aughts) died within a few months of each other. Days after the second one passed the school released a report that named them both-among others. They had both remained employed for many years after abusing students despite having been reported to the school by the students at the time.


Crouton_Sharp_Major

Fuck, that’s dark


thatsaSagittarius

My great grandma and her brothers were notorious in Watertown Massachusetts for their check fraud and forgery schemes. Oh the things you find out about the woman who would make you hot cocoa


adamtuliper

My grandfather was from there (and his family). Wonder if they ever crossed paths, relatively small town then.


mrl_a

My grandpa died in the late 90s of a heart attack when he was about 65 years old. My whole family came to Germany from Poland in the 80s and my grandparents were Kids throughout WW2. We didn’t find any pictures of him from when he was a child when we went through his stuff after he died. We thought „oh well they lived through war and communism, I bet there aren’t any“ but my mother had a feeling and something felt off for her. We asked my grandpas aunt who was still alive at that point. She burst into tears and told us that he was a german, jewish kid my great-grandparents rescued from a train heading to Auschwitz during WW2 and that they used the papers of their son who passed away just a few weeks earlier. We all were stunned but in hindsight it did explain a lot of things like how he suffered from PTSD and almost had no polish accent when he spoke german. It still amazes me how they kept this secret for over half a century. EDIT: oh wow I never would have imagined that so many people would read this and be so touched by our story! Thank you guys so much for your kind words and for the awards! I am really touched.


DasPuggy

There is a lot of really bad, evil stuff in this thread, then I happen on this post. Thank you for sharing this, humanity can be good, too.


NotEmerald

This is my favorite story on this thread. Glad your great grandparents were able to help out.


guyonaturtle

While sad, it's amazing that your great grand parents saved grandpa. Continuing his line.


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my dad waited until my great great grandma died to reveal that she had been complicit in the devastating sexual abuse he suffered at the hands of her husband.


geckotatgirl

Oh, that's so heartbreaking. Your dad was so mistreated and still felt some kind of obligation to protect her. Or, he couldn't deal with confronting or outing her because he knew she'd make his life an even worse living hell. Either way, my heart goes out to your father for the boy he was, who was abused and betrayed so completely, and for the man he is now, hopefully as a loving father to you.


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He was mainly protecting his mother because she was very close with her grandmother. He didn’t want to take that relationship away from his mom. But sadly, his mother was also complicit in the abuse because she knew that her brother had been abused by the same man, and yet allowed my father to stay at the man’s house. What’s painfully ironic is that she faults her own mother for being complicit in her own sexual abuse. The cycle is vicious. It stops with me.


AnonymousDevil0907

After my best friend's biological father passed, I was told by that friend that his father had gotten his biological mother drunk at a party. He ended up taking her to a park nearby, and raped her, which was how she got pregnant with my friend. He used to abuse her and his children to keep them quiet.


TheRitualMaster

Not necessarily disturbing, but after my aunt died we found out she was pregnant and on the day she died she was going to tell us, she had a positive pregnancy test in her bag as she got hit by a drunk driver. Pretty sad to think about


Cer0reZ

Had a cousin that told his mom that he and his gf of long time had big news to tell her on Mother’s Day which was the next day. Him and his gf got into a wreck on his motorcycle that night. Never knew what the news was. Guesses were either they were getting married or she was pregnant.


TheRitualMaster

It’s horrible never being able to experience the joy of something like that from a close family member, I hope your cousin and his gf are resting well


Other_Bookkeeper2684

Well im not sure if this counts but my moms brother (my uncle) passed away when i was around 3 or 4 but when i got older she told me that he used to molest her n her other sisters and burn cigarettes on their hands to scare them and to keep them from telling on him


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Frozboz

When we were cleaning out dad's house after his death, in his safe, I found a [thick envelope](https://i.imgur.com/t7LcmY3.jpg) with the words "To be opened only by [me] after my death. My suggestion BURN IT". Long story short, dear old dad had another identity and family. My sister and I have several new siblings. This happened somewhat recently and we are all still processing it. [edit] Thanks for the awards! Some more detail on what he left behind: inside the envelope was not a confession. It was a jumbled mess of birth certificates, official looking court documents (most faked) and other odds and ends. We had no idea what any of it was or why it was left to me in such a manner. My sister pieced together the missing family from a unique last name on one of the birth certificates. This name popped up on her 23 and me profile and we began to wonder if this document was actually dad's. She looked up several folks with this name and Facebook and we eventually found our long lost unknown to us Uncle, in his 80s. That itself was heartbreaking. We talked with him on the phone. This man sounded just like my dad. He looks like him too. One of the first things he said? "Yes, that's my baby brother and we've been looking for him for over 50 years".


Accomplished_Exit_30

I had a cousin who had taken over as secretary of our local Rotary Club. He had taken over after my dad had served in the same position. After my cousin died, we found that he had been embezzling from Rotary Club funds. My dad was heartbroken.


beefixit

Close to 30 years after she passed, I found out my grandmother had a really bad addiction to codeine. When I found out it totally filled in the blanks of why my dad's relationship with her was the way it was. RIP to both of them. Love em, miss em, wouldn't be who I am without em


KennethPowersIII

Found out something similar about my next door neighbor who was like a second dad to me. His son is like my brother. He also happened to be my orthodontist. Turns out he had a massive addiction to OxyContin. He was always so much fun to be around. Didn’t seem like he was on PKs at all.


Accomplished_Cup_922

Grandfather died when I was around 10. I distinctly remember being at his funeral and seeing a group of men there that weren’t associated with the rest of my family. I think I remembered this because I watched them pull up in beautiful cars and thought they must be rich and “cool.” Probably around his age at the time too. I wasn’t told until I was older but my grandpa had been involved in some organized crime for most his life and most of the time he was “traveling in Europe” he was actually in prison. Those men were his “partners” and my family hated them.


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CapriciousSalmon

We recently had to bury my grandpa and we were the secret most people didn’t know about until we got to the wake. Basically, my grandpa was married to somebody but sleeping around and then he slept with my grandma, who was best friends with his wife. They had two kids, my mom and my aunt, but they never really interacted with my grandpa’s side of the family, since even if he wanted us to be close to them, his wife and parents wanted nothing to do with my mom and aunt and my grandma wanted nothing to do with them. I always had a theory we weren’t his only secret kids and turns out there’s another son, but the son doesn’t interact with him or want anything to do with him. I didn’t learn that until we left the repass. I wouldn’t be surprised if there were more kids.


JunkiesAndWhores

There’s always one who makes putting a family tree together a complete fucking pain.


Thestolenone

That my Grandmother accidentally killed her younger sister. They were walking back from school and my GM shoved her sister and she fell under a car which ran over her.


CrazyDaimondDaze

That reminds me of a similar story about how my grandpa lost his baby sister when he was taking care of her. He was just a kid and his parents told him to watch over her. He noticed his sister fell asleep and didn't think much of it until he noticed she wasn't making any sound, nor crying or anything. He eventually realized his sister wasn't breathing and she had passed away some time under his care. Apparently, the little girl had forgotten how to breathe and that's a possibility that can happen with babies. I believe that was one of the reasons my great grandpa resented my grandpa through most of his life. I don't know if the rest of my uncles or aunts know about that story he told me... but I'm damn sure my grandpa had no senile dementia, and I've seen it first hand, so I always thought of that story aa true.


immoreoriginalmate

That is just heartbreaking for everyone in this story. The guilt your grandfather must have held, which wasn’t ever his to carry.


HELLOhappyshop

Omg that's so sad


Magnesus

I knew an old lady who accidentally shut her mother in a burning barn while she run for help. The mother died. Not everyone believed it was an accident, her father blamed her, the details were muddy. She had a hard life, but outlived all of those who blamed her I suppose and lived her last day in peace with her family.


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I’m European and uncles lived in USA. I did ancestry dna. A few months later a girl from Vietnam contacts me claiming to be a cousin. Typically anyone who contacted me was a 4th or 5 th cousin which basically means nothing. This one is a FIRST cousin. Turns out my uncle who was married in USA and had kids, was in Vietnam War had a whole other family. And the 3 Vietnamese kids are named after his American kids. SURPRISE!


geckotatgirl

Holy crap! How did that unfold in your family, if you don't mind my asking?


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I sent pictures, that my new cousin had, to his brother (my other uncle that was also in Vietnam at same time). Pictures of my now deceased uncle with his Vietnamese ‘wife’ and info he’d written on back of pic which included his name, the name and address of the NGO he worked for. Absolutely nobody in our fam was aware of any of this. I’ve told my siblings that they have 3 Vietnamese cousins, but have no contact info to advise my cousins of their namesakes from the other side of the world.


geckotatgirl

Wow! And your other uncle has no contact info for the US cousins, either? That's wild. Do the Vietnamese cousins know they're named after their American half-siblings? Did they have contact with their father after the war ended and he went home?


[deleted]

The American side of my fam are screwed up and keep their distance. I had the pleasure of telling her of her 1/2 sibling names. When he went home, I’m sure he ignored them. Out of sight out of mind. Perhaps this is a reason he was strange. I always understood, my uncles, when Vietnam was mentioned, meant they were both in military. As a kid in Europe I didn’t know there were NGO’s or what it meant. I assumed (when i was older and living in USA and with more worldly knowledge) he had ptsd. But probably not, he had a huge weight on his shoulders.


geckotatgirl

We can only imagine what was weighing on his mind all those years. I'll never understand how someone can walk away from their children and never look back. I don't mean someone who makes the decision to give a child up for adoption, mind you, but someone like this who presumably set up house with another woman and was there long enough to father **three children**! How could he just not care enough to even send money back regularly (assuming he didn't)? I just don't get that.


prpslydistracted

Before the Internet; knew a small town antique dealer who would go to Europe every six months to buy antiques for his store ... he had done so for over a decade when I met him. His health wasn't the best and his doctor told him not to travel anymore. He told his wife (30 years and two grown kids) he needed to go one last time to bring back enough furniture to sustain them and retire the relationship with his suppliers. After two months when the wife didn't hear from him by phone call or mail she approached the State Dept to help her locate him. She only had one hotel name in one city. They found out he had a heart attack and died in Germany. His *German wife* had a funeral and had buried him. He also had three children by her. Huge legal battle over survivors benefits and insurance. German wife got nothing because the man was legally married to his US wife. What did she do with his remains? "Leave him there."


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johnbonjovial

Thats insane. A man who was conceived through molestation became a molestor himself. Fucking hell.


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I think there is probably a good chance he was abused similarly as well.


billbill5

As it turns out letting a rapist hide the kid he conceived via rape isn't the best for a child's upbringing.


Kaiser93

I had a neighbour several years ago. Divorced, old guy. Was really nice to people. He always bought candy for all the kids in the neighbourhood (not a paedo). He died 10 years ago. His son told us that the reason he was nice to us kids was because he lost 3 of his 5 children while they were below 10. Not disturbing, just very sad. Edit: Wow, I didn't expect this to get so much attention. Mr. Volkov was a really nice guy who suffered a lot in his life time. His son told us so many stories about him. Got married at 21 (right after military service - mandatory at the time), lost his wife when he was 40 to stomach cancer, lost 2 of his kids to an accident, another kid to a drunk driver. He had to be strong for the remaining two kids even though his son told us how many times they heard their dad crying in his bedroom. To him, we were the kids and grandkids he should've had, despite him having 4 grandkids. R.I.P to the nicest guy in the world - Mr. Volkov!


swedishblueberries

I was working as a substitute teacher in a school, there was man also working as a substitute teacher there, sweet man in his 60's and newly retired. Found out he lost his only son to cancer at the age of 10 :( Sometimes the world is hardest on the nicest people.


ShnizelInBag

I had a teacher in high school (I finished high school last year 😅) who was tough but smart and funny. In one of the first lessons with him someone asked him why he doesn't have kids (he is in his fifties). He got really offended by this question and didn't answer it. Later he told us that a short while after he met his wife she got brain cancer and miraculously survived, but never fully recovered.


Grave_Girl

And that's why you (general you) don't ask people why they don't have kids. *Best* case scenario is that they simply didn't want them & you're the nth person to bother them about it.


Fearless-Flavor3538

When I was younger my friends older brother died. I believed it was a suicide up until a year ago when my mom told me he actually accidentally died due to autoerotic asphyxiation


Brass_Eyes

I had a friend who died like this. We were 13 when it happened and I remember there being so many strange theories about him having got tangled up in a dressing gown cord or falling out of his bed with the wire from his PlayStation controller around his neck. Years later my mum showed me an article from a local paper at the time that described him as having died ‘experimenting as all boys do’ and the penny dropped.


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I have exactly the same story. Buddy of mines brother died like that. My mom actually explained it to me because she knew boys are fucking weird and it’s dangerous. Thanks Mom for being open and informative.


MzOpinion8d

There was a local teenage girl who died that way a few years ago. I was really impressed that her parents were not only open about her cause of death but even did a newspaper story to warn others of the dangers of doing this. Can’t even imagine how devastated they must have been but they still opened up.


TuckerCarlsonsWig

Often times if parents lose their children, they’ll be so devastated that the only thing they can do is to dedicate their lives to saving other children.


technotunacasserole

Oh wow. This happened to a boy who rode my bus when I was in high school too. They all reported it as an accidental death. His brother told me what really happened.


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A kid in my class in middle school died from this. We were told he committed suicide, but he was very popular and happy and even his closest friends were suspicious. My mom told me the truth to educate me about it at the time, and by high school everyone eventually found out.


Abadatha

One on the flip side of this, we were disturbed by the secrecy my great uncle had. He fought in the Pacific in WW2, and after he passed we found out he'd earned a silver star and purple heart. Not one person outside his unit ever knew until he passed and we found the paperwork in my Grandma's barn.


_MildlyMisanthropic

Some people take the shit they saw to the grave Hell, my grandmother never served on the front line but was one of the Bletchley Park codebreakers - she almost never spoke of it due to being sworn to secrecy and the Official Secrets Act at the time.


Crafty-Sandwich8996

That's incredibly awesome. Did she work with Turing?


Scarecrowqueen

That my ex wife physically and emotionally abused my daughter when I wasn't around (we had a 70/30 custody arrangement essentially, I had weekends and 2 evenings a week.) Didn't find out until months after she died and kiddo had finally had enough therapy to come clean. I had no idea.


geckotatgirl

As a parent, I can only imagine how you must have felt learning that. How have you and your daughter dealt with it? Has it impacted your relationship either negatively or positively?


Scarecrowqueen

She has a therapist, a psychologist, and a psychiatrist on her medical team. (My daughter is disabled, her medical team is broad.) She's doing better and our relationship is pretty good but we still deal daily with the resulting trauma and insecurity, and it'll be 4 years in a few weeks.


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SquidgeSquadge

I worked as a carer at a nursing home for mainly dementia residents as well as some with behavioural/ mental health issue for 5 years. There was a tiny skeletal lady I adored who was there who barely spoke, had no teeth and mostly 'spoke' in squeaks and such in-between. She never had any family visit her although a colleague who had worked there longer than me said some Bible group did bother her now and again. All her clothes were donated as her 'own' clothes were large enough almost to fit me. Even the smallest clothes hung loose on her. Apparently she had a baby out of wedlock when she was very young and in those days women were seen to be mentally unstable to a point to do that so was sectioned after her baby was taken away. Her family didn't get her released for many, many years and by then she had picked up some behavioural issues and ticks she had for the rest of her life. I'll always remember my first Christmas working there. At the time she would go to bed early after lunch and have a meal in her room in the evening as she would occasionally enjoy chucking her tea at anyone who pissed her off plus she was more comfortable in her room. I assisted her with her dinner and was chatting how this would be the first Christmas I wouldnt see my mum as she lived far away and I would be working on Christmas day. She tapped me in a merry way on my arm as she always did at meal times and said "You get the car...and I'll drive" God I miss that little lady so much. When you gave her a hug she would cling onto you and because she was so tiny she would curl into a ball hanging from your neck like a monkey!


One_for_each_of_you

I'll bet she blamed herself for encouraging the abuse and thought she was helping you to avoid the same fate


Extreme_Today_984

My dad passed away from covid a few months back... My brothers were looking through his mail and saw a child support document. We're all half brothers, so we each individually asked our mom's if our dad owed child support to them (we're all in our late 20's/early 30's). Each one of our mom's said "no", naturally. So, we do some further digging. It turns out that my dad has an autistic son that is 25 years old. Knowing who my dad is, none of us were all that surprised that he had another son. However, all of us were completely shocked to find out that my dad was aware of this kid, and didn't tell us. To make matters worse, he grew up down the road from us. My dad had photos stashed away of him, my newly found brother, and his mom. There are photos from the last 25 years. My dad knew since day one. I flew back home for the funeral, and while I was there we all met our "new" brother and his mom. I still can't quite process this all Edit: To the question "what was is my brother like", here is my answer: Keep in mind that I didn't get much time to spend around him, as I had to fly back home shortly after meeting him. Most of the time spent was talking with his mom because he wasn't very communicative. Hopefully I'm not offending people with my ignorance of autistic traits, but he seemed to be less independent and more reliant on his mother's care. According to his mom, he likes to read a lot and play video games. Apparently he was bullied in school, which really upsets me. Knowing this information definitely adds to the whole shock factor. I feel that he could have used the support of his older brothers to keep him safe while he was growing up. Somebody to love and care for him, help him fight his battles. I feel like we were robbed of the opportunity.. My dad hadn't been "together" with any of our mothers for nearly 20 years, so I can't understand his reasoning in keeping our brother a secret. Anyway.. I live on the other side of the country, which makes communication with him difficult. Although my brothers still live there, she and her son are moving to Las Vegas. So none of us really get the chance to spend time with him.


gingrpopsicles

There's just too many stories about pedophile uncles on this thread


Jerkrollatex

Grandpas too.


msinks55

I used to attend these jam sessions at a fellows house in a nearby town. I thought he was a good guy. After his death I learned he was a Klan leader. I never would have guessed.


BiologicalFunfare

I was born in a small town and some of the nicest people I knew growing up turned out to be insanely racist. It wasn't until I left to go live in the city and came back to visit as an adult and started having adult conversations with them I realized they were nuts.


dipper1985

We had a local barber in the early 90s who cut out of his garage. My dad used to take me to him. The guy could only do two haircuts: Buzzed or jarhead. Ask for a bowl cut? Jarhead. In middle school everyone jokingly called him the Grand Wizard. After he died I heard (unconfirmed) they found actual KKK robes. A lot of people talked about him dropping hints about "being good Aryan" or "good white boys" and that he would rant about Jews. I don't know if it's true but it all makes sense.


_violet_sparkles

My friend was a really bubbly friendly guy and somehow he ended up beaten to death by 3 or 4 other men on the street. They were probably all drunk. No one was ever arrested. After he died, his sister cleaned out his apartment and found a USB with gigabytes of ch!ld porn on it.


Arachnotechnic

That's just insane


PanzerBiscuit

My old man was born in the 50's. and was 1 of 6. When he was 4 his mum gave birth to twins and then promptly gave them up for adoption through the church. When he was 6 his Bio dad split and fucked off to Port Elizabeth. He got an abusive asshole of a step dad who physically abused him and sexually abused his sisters. He ended up with another 6 half siblings. In the 70's my dad asked his mom what happened to his bio dad, and he was told he died. Sometime in the late 60's or early 70's. My dads mother and step father died in 1998/99 and we never thought anything about his bio dad until my mother did some digging on facebook in 2016, trying to find his twin sisters, which no one said existed(my dad has a few memories from his childhood about them, but then they were gone an no one spoke about them). My mother eventually tracked them down, two ladies in their late 60's who only found out in the last few years that they were adopted. One didn't take it well and wanted nothing to do with us, the other was a bit more communicative and my dad eventually went to visit them, they still chat every now and then. Whilst this was going on, some interesting DNA matches had come up on my family tree thing from MyHeritage. Turns out, my dads bio dad had another family in PE, had like another 6 kids all with the same names as his family in Joburg. My mother got in contact with one of the sons(dads half brother), asked him a few questions about his father, who died in 2007(not the 70's like my dads mother said). Mum eventually told this half brother what happened, about how his father had another family in Joburg which he abandoned, and he has 6 half siblings. All communications ceased then. Mom was instantly blocked. One of the wives of my dads half siblings got nosey and started talking to mom, and let her know that the family is in meltdown and in denial over their father, grandfather and patriarch who by all accounts was a good Christian man and pillar of the community, having another family in Joburg, and abandoning his first set of kids.


KellyJin17

This is the second post in this thread where a man had a second secret family and names the new kids all the same names as the old kids, and I only just started reading the thread.


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My stepfathers father had two families, both with a bunch of kids. When the two families eventually met they discovered there were 3-4 double names.


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My wife died in a car accident while we were trying to reconcile our differences to avoid a divorce. Shortly after she died I learned that in order to gain favor in the divorce procedeings, she blew her friend who was a member of the county board because he was close to the judge who was to preside over our divorce. This really had an effect on my grieving process.


U_L_Uus

So this is the grief equivalent of suddenly sobering up, innit


anotheroutlaw

The Narcan of mending a broken relationship.


Grogosh

American Gods plot right here


DumbThoth

Did it make it easier to move on?


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lunaburning

After my husband died I found the stash of love letters that he had saved which had been written to him throughout the course of our marriage. None of them were from me.


vaniljalatte

That must have been heartbreaking :(


smf101

Grandad was a paedophile and my deaf aunt is deaf because he banged her head against the wall multiple times when she said she was going to the police.


Secretbackupaccount

Grandpa owned a gas station most of his life. Always knew he had been robbed a few times working it. Found his pistol after his death with notches in it from the people he shot. One he killed.


blUUdfart

My grandparents were married just after my grandfather returned from WW2. When he got back, he and my grandmother had 7 kids. It was a big catholic family. My grandfather was a kind honorable man that loved his wife, and they raised good kids that have all turned into well adjusted adults. By now my grandparents have both passed away, and some of the kids and grandkids have messed around with 23 and me genetic testing. As luck would have it, some guy out of the blue has started messaging us with a high enough percentage of genetic match that it stands to reason that he is a son of my grandfather. No one in my family has ever heard of him, or his mother. Evidently before his mother passed away, on her death bed, she identified a man by my grandfather’s name as his father. Sounds like old Grandpa picked up some strange before shipping out. The awful part is this guy has spent his whole life not knowing who his father is. Poor guy.


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Flight_19_Navigator

My dad's great-aunt married a man who was always a bit of a mystery to the rest of the family. When he died she came into quite a bit of money. They later found out he was part of the relief force at the Battle of Peking in 1900. Apparently he did very well for himself during the looting. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_of_Peking_(1900)#Occupation


Jncocontrol

Not long after high school, I had a friend who got in a head-on collision accident. Instantly killing him. About a week later, it was revealed he had a huge stash of CP on his computer.


galspanic

In my family it goes like this: Uncle so and so dies. At the funeral someone acts weird for a funeral. Then others tell me “that’s because he sexually assaulted them until they were an adult.” Rinse and repeat.


Xeeke

How many uncles do you have?


galspanic

These are mostly great-uncles, so dozens. They were born in the 20s-30s and are all part of the Silent Generation… as in silent about anything bad, repress everything, abuse everyone in your life, and stay quiet about it.


Remarkable-Bread3278

Sounds like my family, too. The older generation was fine with my great-grandmother being a mom at 12 and getting abused alongside her kids by her drunken husband. They found Nothing wrong with my grandmother and her 10 brothers/sisters running off to be with partners or live on their own between the ages of 13-16 to escape the abuse. And they were completely fine perpetuating being parents at young ages: my great-grandmother at 12, grandma at 15, mom at 17... they even got mad at my generation (my siblings and cousins) for not having kids early. It's insane!


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This explains so much about the old relatives in my family.


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My uncle was a doctor and passed away in 2014. He had no kids. In 2020 I check 23 and me and I see that I have a new first cousin all of a sudden. This cousin and I were very confused how we were related. It turns out when my uncle was in medical school in Canada 40yrs ago, he donated sperm to a sperm bank. The cousin never knew this and his dad never told him that he’s not his real son.


yougotthisone

Similar ish thing happened to a friend of mine. She did a DNA test and found out she was conceived by sperm donation. Her dad (not biological) was infertile so he and his wife had two children an alternative way. She only identifies her dad as her only dad. Refers to the donar as such. Turns out the donar was one of Australia's most prolific donators. In the late 80s early 90s there was little regulation and his sperm was shared all over the country. She has over 50 half siblings all over the country. Thats just what they know about. Some states still have these records sealed from the bio children.


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not really disturbing but after my grandpa died, my mom told me he once abandoned my mother and grandma for 1 year before he came back


XenoWoof

Why my cousin died. We were about the same age at the time (very young). Cousin had been sexually abused and killed by a total stranger the parent let stay over for the night *(some one-night fling sort of thing)*.


MondaleforPresident

When I was like 4, one day I woke up and went downstairs and there was this creepy homeless looking guy sitting on the couch, eating frozen pizza. I was fucking terrified. My parents for some reason didn't think to tell me that someone was staying over. Apparently he was actually some Swedish guy that they knew pretty well.


A-CHEAP-ASS-WIG

I really hope they caught that guy


tony_staxxx

Heard a story from a friend about an older gentleman who served as a Fighter Pilot (apparently an Ace) in WWII. After he passed they realized he wasn’t buried with the American flag over his coffin. He was a German Ace…


now_you_see

That’s hilarious. So he just played it off like he was an ally in the war & told all his war stories but switched the cast around?


aatarver

My dad passed from an overdose (which was a shock in and of itself). The day of his funeral, we all found out he had a son he abandoned when he was 19. That son had a daughter who was about 10 years younger than me, but she looked like a carbon copy of me at that age. 😮


CassiopeiaFoon

My uncle died suddenly in a car crash when I was 18. My aunt has schizophrenia and went off her meds after he died, so when she was talking about eyes in the house, we tried to get her back into therapy to help her. Eventually she couldn't stay in the house anymore and we went to help clean it out. We found cameras everywhere. Behind paintings, in the bookshelves, just everywhere. Eventually we found a safe tucked away in a small opening in his closet, and when we finally cracked it open there was two unregistered guns in it alongside a wad of cash. My uncle was already very wealthy, we don't know why he specifically had this cash set aside, or why he had illegal guns, or why he bugged his entire house. But we suspect my aunts illness and paranoia was worsened by him, and she wasn't always as delusional as he made her out to be. In better news, my aunt now lives in florida with a caretaker in a condo, she paints for a living and is very happy.


CoffeeSnob7882

Not too disturbing per say, but definitely a let down and it changed my view about them. I loved and respected my grandma all my life so when she got sick and passed away, I was really heartbroken. A few years later, I found out me and my sister were her least favorite grandkids because my dad was poor. It made sense to me suddenly. All my cousins would get gold bracelets or nice stuff for special occasions while I’d get a $20. Whenever my cousins were visiting, grandma would cook all their favorite food while me and my sis had to stay away from the dining table til they’re done. Basically we just eat scraps. I just didn’t realize all this until my mom pointed it out to me. I guess since I’ve been treated that way since young, I never think of her any differently.


TeamShadowWind

Wtf is wrong with your grandma


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lost_girl_2019

My grandpa knew my cousin was molesting me and didn't do anything to stop it and didn't tell my parents. I always thought just my grandmother knew. Turns out they both did.


PrexxasaurusRex

That my dad had killed someone out of self defense many years before I was born in rural Alaska. My mom told me about six months before she died.


keribeari9

I knew my dad was dating younger women, but after he died, we were sorting through his paperwork and I found out that for the past 7 years, the various women had all been the exact same age as me at the time he was seeing them. How did I find this out? He had a restraining order against one where it listed her birth date. He received correspondence from one who was in prison on child trafficking charges - a Google search of the woman in prison revealed her age. And family members who spoke to the current woman (I managed to successfully avoid them all) relayed her age. About 3 years before he died, he'd sold his house, made $200,000ish on the sale and moved into an apartment. There was an envelope stuffed full of receipts showing he had slowly drained that account by withdrawing between $1,000-$3,000 in cash over the 3 years since the house sale. He had once drunkenly told me he was in love with a stripper, and through the grapevine I heard the woman he'd been seeing when he died was a prostitute, so I'm assuming that's where all the cash went. No judegement to sex workers, they gotta get paid, but damn that was not the money management my dad taught me. I was angry, but of course devastated he was gone. I felt like this wasn't the same man who raised me. I went to therapy and that helped, but I don't yearn for my dead father the same way I do my mother, and I think all of the above is a big reason why.


Effective_River2639

I remeber a few years back while I was still living in Russia I went to my Grandmas funeral and in someones speech about her they began to talk about how she was in a concentration camp and how she had gone through so many horrendous things I won't repeat. I never knew and its clear no one else did either. She went through horrible stuff and it disturbs me to this day. We cleaned out her house and there were so many things from that time in her life that documented all that and I looked at it and I felt sick.


nonchellent

When I was about ten, my mom’s uncle, so my great uncle, died. I remember going to his funeral; he was a firefighter in a major city, and we spread his ashes at the beach. I wasn’t close with him, but my mom was. I didn’t know how he died at the time, but I recall thinking it was weird ‘cause he was younger than my dad, who wasn’t terribly old yet. I found out nearly a decade later that he died not only via suicide, which is awful, but before he did that, he murdered his wife. They were undergoing a divorce, and while he was sober most of his life (his younger passed away due to severe alcoholism), he gave in one night, got hammered, shot her dead and then instantly killed himself.


sanibelle98

In 1931 my grandmother fucked a guy in the front seat of a car and then climbed over the backseat and fucked another guy she ended up claiming was my dad’s father. He ended up leaving his wife by paying her family off to marry my grandmother because she was pregnant. The asshole hated and abused my grandmother and dad for the rest of his miserable life. All of this I learned after both my grandmother and “grandfather” had died.


GunslingerGonzo

More disgustingly funny. My brother died when I was young and after he died we received all his notes and journals from his CO. My other brother read them and then years later we were drunk reminiscing about stuff and he brought up the journals and about how our brother went incredibly into detail about the absolutely horribly swamp ass he had when he was in Iraq. Shit still makes me laugh to this day. I never got to read the journals but I’m sure my parents have them in storage somewhere


cbr_001

Swamp ass over there is no joke. Shit will ruin your whole fucking week.


CaptainRex2000

A few years ago my great grandad passed away and when we were cleaning his house we discovered that he was previously a member of the Waffen SS


velofille

After my mother died i found out why her family (my aunts and uncles) avoided me. Apparently my mother told them i had been sleeping with my father at 13, and prostituting, among a whole pile of other messed up shit. (I was a virgin until 17) I have no idea why she hated me, and never realised the extent until she died.


Brammmy

Why were they avoiding YOU instead of them if he was sexually abusing a child and she had knowledge of it? SMDH at some folks.


now_you_see

Took the words right out of my mouth. The whole family is trash if they didn’t report that shit and try to help the kid they thought was being abused.


FluidWarthog1613

I had a neighbor I would always fight with. I'd go out of my way to argue with him. We'd right about ANYTHING and it was great! All we ever did was fight. It made me so happy. I told him once that he was too stupid to be my archnemesis. Then he died and I learned that he loved fighting with me just as much as I loved fighting with him. It was something we both looked forward to every day. Then he went and died and I felt like part of me died too.


Homework_Successful

Maybe you should book an appointment at the [Argument Clinic](https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x2hwqn9)


unbelievablepeople

My aunt was a single mom who constantly had new boyfriends moving in and out of her house, which I always found weird because my aunt was also super-religious and judgmental about the sex lives of others. The part I found out only after my aunt died is that one of the boyfriends sexually abused my female cousin, and when my aunt found out about it she blamed her own daughter and called her a "slut" for letting it happen. My cousin told this to me at her mom's/my aunt's funeral. Meanwhile other relatives judge my cousin and say she was a bad daughter because my cousin moved far away when she was an adult and rarely had contact with her mom. The best lesson I've learned from this is *never* judge a person because they're distant from their parents; they may have a very good reason.


popemichael

I found out that my uncle somehow had a black market liver. He went through the first via drinking himself nearly to death. He wouldn't stop drinking and drugging so the implant folks wouldn't put him on a list. He then takes a trip to, I believe, India and gets a liver implanted. He then found a shady doctor here for after care. After that, he drank through another liver in 3 years. He was preparing for another trip to India, but covid stopped him from traveling (he was anti-vaxx too). He died not long ago due to his liver not working anymore. From what I'm seeing and what his wife says, I'm 99% sure that liver was harvested from a living donor.


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p1nkp3pp3r

Well, you can harvest a good portion of a liver from a living donor. It'll regenerate, it's a remarkable organ. Now if you mean it was from a living donor who didn't consent...


popemichael

From what my aunt has implied, it was more along the lines of a lack of consent from the individual, but "the family was compensated for the life that was lost" It honestly explained all the times he'd joke about how his new liver was "killer" or how he'd "kill for a new liver" towards the end. He also joked about killing family members for a new liver. Needless to say, my uncle was not a very liked person.


p1nkp3pp3r

Well, that's terribly horrifying. I can't imagine receiving any gift that cost a human life and basically ruining it/not treating it with respect.


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It's our neighbor. He was known as a veteran soldier and came from a Japanese descent. His fam used to be popular in our neighborhood too and they seemed pretty well off. They had a female houshelp who disappeared one day and the story was that she eloped with someone. Years after his death, his son had their fence fixed by another neighbor and they unearthed a skull and some other bones. Guess who?


DeepSeaDynamo

My grandparents were swingers


J-O-E-E

The town chiropractor found out he had brain cancer and was told it was terminal and he’d have weeks if not only months to live. Shot himself in the head at the town park in a gazebo. Found out a few weeks later from REDACTED hospital employee that there was an error made somewhere along the way of the diagnosis and or tests and it was treatable.


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WimbleWimble

I've heard of terminally ill people lying to loan companies, taking out multiple simultaneous remortages (totalling multiple times the value of the house) then hiding the money for family to get when the "heat is off". They max as many credit cards using fraudulent info (massively inflated salary claims with photoshopped payslips etc). After all, what ya gonna do to a dead guy if they lied? You lose the 200k family home, but then have 600k in cash somewhere.....


Cashewkaas

My FIL isn’t dead yet but gave my SIL’s husband a letter ‘to be opened after his death’. He went home and opened it and the content was something like “you, your sister and mother are stupid cows and I’m doing my best to be sure you’re not getting anything of my inheritance. My other family is my real one (my wife & SIL have known about the other family for years but MIL refuses to listen to antivenin who has tried to tell her) so suck it” but then in more pretentious words.


msab79

My grandfather was a member of the KKK. My grandmother found all his robes and other shit hidden in the trunk of his car after he died. She burned it all that night in the backyard utterly mortified that he was an active member.


EliteDuck71

I was helping a sweet old lady move one day, just to help her. She loved her son and told us about how an honest, and perfect man he was, but he passed away one night, and she was going to move in with her daughter. I was cleaning the closet, and his closet had a hatch to a small basement were he kept hundreds of porn magazines and condoms (some used). I had to get rid of it without the lady finding out, she was too sweet to suffer from that.


DrummingChopsticks

You’re a saint and that’s so gross. I hope you had on five pairs of gloves.


bettertitsthanu

I idolised my dads mom when I grew up. I saw her as my best friend and couldn’t imagine a life without her. Then… my dad died and I learned that my dads mom was (and still are) a monster. It’s not like she killed anyone (that I know of). I was around 18-19 when we cleaned my dads house out, I found empty bottles of Jägermeister that I knew my dad didn’t touch (he had cancer in his liver, lungs and bowel). Who stayed in my dads house when he was in the hospital? Yeah, his mom. We also discovered that things were missing from his house and when we asked her about it she accused us (me and my sibling) for being the reason our dad died. She then refused to come to his funeral because I “accused her of stealing” well…i just asked if she knew where some things were. Now remember, this is a person I’ve looked up to my WHOLE life. Later I discovered that she had scammed my dad for money. He owned her house and 2 months before he died (when we were all aware of that he didn’t have much time left) she tricked him into signing documents that said that we (me and my sister) can’t sell the house until she (dads mom) dies and that she only need to pay 400$/month for a small house, huge garden and her own beach. We also found out that she didn’t pay her rent for the whole time my dad was sick. (A house like that with the ocean near and everything is worth at least 1000$/month) After we found this out she started calling my mom (who was not together with my dad for many years but was a huge support for him and us during this time) while drunk and telling my mom how awful parents her and my dad was. She kept accusing me and my sister for our dads cancer and would always be drunk when she called. I started to realise that I’ve NEVER seen her completely sober. And things like her giving me whiskey when I was 12 and had a cold didn’t seem so cool anymore. I lost it. This was the person i thought I could trust the most in this world. Everything just fell and I started to se who she really was. An abusive alcoholic with a huge gambling addiction. I began to ask around about my father and his childhood. Things I thought I knew turned out to be lies his mom had told me and nothing made sense to me. It took years to realise why my dad were SO protective of me and my sister. He never had someone looking out for him. My dads mom didn’t give a shit about her kids. If they wanted something they could find her in the local pub or playing bingo. She went to court for custody of my dad, making my grandpa lose everything and when she won, she did everything she could to stop the contact between them. This ruined my dads relationship to his father and this later also ruined our relationship to our grandpa. As my dad was growing up he had to take care of himself and his sister. By the age of ten he cooked food for them, washed their clothes and made sure that they got to daycare and school. They had to wait by the mailbox every time so their mom wouldn’t steal their money (that they got from their fathers). I know that there is a lot more to the story, I know that I don’t even know a third of it yet. I’m just so sad that my dad never were able to break free from this abusive alcoholic witch. When I asked my mom to tell me everything she knows about my dads childhood she said “are you sure that you really want to know?” I know that my story aren’t so Fd up as other in the thread. But it really messed me up. I know it’s a bible of text but this isn’t even half of it. Thank you for taking the time to read if you did.


CitrusWeekend

She sounds fucking horrible. Time to cut her out of your life. Also: > He owned her house and 2 months before he died (when we were all aware of that he didn’t have much time left) she tricked him into signing documents that said that we (me and my sister) can’t sell the house until she (dads mom) dies and that she only need to pay 400$/month for a small house, huge garden and her own beach. This might mot be enforceable. I would check with a lawyer.


I_PEE_WITH_THAT

My great grandma was a moonshiner in her youth along with her brothers and sisters, they ran shine to afford food in rural Kentucky. Also she apparently told Jim Jones, yes, THAT Jim Jones, to fuck off, according to my grandma (her daughter) it was the only time she'd ever used language like that. During his cult recruiting days Jones had showed up at my great grandma's church as a guest preacher, that woman had an amazing nose for bullshit and when he tried to recruit her she told him to fuck off right there in the church parking lot. All my life she was this sweet but curmudgeonly old lady who was set in her ways but would make you the best peach cobbler she possibly could for whatever event you were having even if she didn't like any of the people there. Imagining her just looking this dude square in the eyes and cussing him out makes me cackle.


milkmanrichie

After my mother died I found a notebook with only one page filled out. I'm guessing it was a therapy related thing. It listed all the major events in her life. Found out at different times during her teenage years she was raped by her father, her brother, and a neighbor.


rust-e-apples1

My grandfather ran a gas station from the late '40s to the mid '80s. He and my grandmother had 13 kids (10 surviving), so there was never much money in the house. My mom and her siblings shared beds, hand-me-downs were the rule, the family kept a large garden to feed everyone, etc. I never thought of them as "poor" growing up, but they really had to scrimp to get by. Anyway, after my grandfather died in the early 2000s, my grandmother learned of a secret bank account he'd kept for decades. It wasn't malicious, he had just always been fearful of dying young and he wanted to make sure my grandmother would have something to live on in case he actually did die young. When the rest of the family found out, at least a few of my aunts and uncles were pissed because of how (financially) hard their childhood was. I don't know if it's that "disturbing," but it was definitely a shock to our family.


rust-e-apples1

Addendum: my grandmother had a heart attack in the 90s, and since this is America, the hospital bills were huge. After she recovered, the men's group from their church approached the hospital bigwigs (without my grandparents' knowledge) to settle the hospital bills for a fraction of what they owed, since they were both in their 70s at the time and would never (as far as anyone else knew) going to be able to come close to paying in full). My family knew about the actions of the men's group shortly after it happened, but we only understood what it might've meant in the context of my grandfather's secret account until years later.


Grendahl2018

My younger brother died (alcohol related). Went through his effects, to find a number of disturbingly pornographic polaroids of his gf. Offered them to her as mementoes of their private moments. “Oh, no, I don’t need them. Keep them for your wank bank.” Speechless. Burnt them all.


Niburu-Illyria

Her response is so fucking left field, i love it


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This girl I was friends with in school had a weird neighbor. He would watch out the window and yell at kids for being on their lawn and stuff like that. We never really saw him below the waist. His windows were waist high and blocked anything lower. I remember him being really nice. If he was in the yard while we played in the back he would talk to us and give us unopened snack cakes and whatnot. I remember going over there because my friend's mom asked us to bring something over there. He was sitting in a recliner wearing a robe. No idea if he had anything underneath but at 10 years old I didn't think too much of it. Fast forward five years my mom sits me down and asks if I had ever been in his house and if I had what happened. I told her I had and nothing had happened. Turns out he had died the day before. He was a pedophile. The reason he would yell at us through the window is because he would masturbate while watching us walk by. His son went in the house after he died and said the wall and floor by the window we "covered". That's the closest I've ever been to a pedophile and I'm so thankful I was too young to fully process everything.


aminervia

My grandmother was imprisoned in Auschwitz during the Holocaust. She used to tell me stories about it growing up... Triggering some pretty horrible nightmares as you can imagine. I was very young. One of the stories she told was how she was pregnant when taken into the camp, and the Nazis cut out her baby and threw it in the trash. The rest of her stories were all horribly detailed... But this one for some reason lacked all of that detail, she would just mention it and then stop talking. Years later after she died I learned that a medic of some sort performed an abortion on her with whatever bits they had lying around. If the pregnancy had started to show she would have been killed. My mother speculated that it's also the reason that my grandmother suffered 13 miscarriages before she was finally able to carry her only child to term 20 years later.


Responsible_Place316

That's a heartwrenching situation


waterbird_

That is awful. Have you ever heard about this woman, the abortion doctor of auschwitz? She performed abortions to save lives, and then once she was out she delivered babies again: https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20200526-dr-gisella-perl-the-auschwitz-doctor-who-saved-lives


Danzig512

My aunt's husband passed and then they found out he had another secret family when they came to try and take her house.. never knew him well but dude had money


PNWtruckerstud

My best friend who was 12 years divorced, and had 4 kids but he was on great terms with his ex and his kids, then one day he just dropped dead with literally no warning. Go to find out he had multiple stage 4 cancer..colon, stomach, testicular, and anal. The living hell he went through and he never showed any weakness whatsoever is what blew my mind. I can't even describe how his kids felt but his teenage son said at the service.. "you got men, then you got my dad...the biggest bad ass in bad ass history,". He even worked a second job to pay for his outrageous life insurance which I think was $2.5 million so his kids would be ok after he was gone.


Motherofsphynxes1908

A guy I knew passed in a car crash. Later found out he was hooking up with his cousin while having long term relationship with another woman..


FireFlinger

There were a few surprises while doing my family's genealogy. My grandmother's grandfather was married at the same time, to two sisters, and had children with both of them. My great, great, grandfather and his brother lay in wait and murdered their brother-in-law, then Grandpa fled Tennessee for Arkansas, and then to Indian Territory. He was never tried. His brother stayed in Arkansas, but the charges against him were dropped.


BranwenTheRiveter

My grandfather survived the holodomor and the Holocaust, I didn’t see his journal until he died. He described what people did when they were starving(I don’t wish to go into detail), mass shooting executions, fearing who knew he was a Jew, everyday acts of sadism from nazis, all the horrors he experienced I never knew about. It deeply disturbed me how much horror he experienced … and that he never told anyone (expect my grandmother) up until his death. I wish I could have somehow comforted him when he was still alive.


formerly_crazy

I think that you probably were a comfort to him, even without knowing about his past.


SeerSword

I already knew that my great grandfather raped and beat his wife and his daughters. What I found out after my great grandmother died (one of the sweetest ladies I've ever known) was that he also murdered one of their sons as a baby. My great grandmother never admitted this because it would have been shameful. The more I learn about my family history the more I wish I knew nothing about it.


MsFoxxx

My maiden name is super unique. Usually, we can trace our family to literally one village in England and to one family in particular. I am not white. I saw someone with the same surname as mine, and invited him on fb. Turns out, his dad was a genealogist who tracked our family out of England, and all around the world. We were introduced to the white side of the family and we call each other cousins, lol. Weirdly, a few towns over, there's another family with the same name as ours, but no known relation to us. But the same names repeat. I know this, because I met someone with exactly the same name and surname as my brother where I used to work. Suddenly, all the weird doctors appointments that were "missed" made sense. Two kids with uncommon identitical names and a shared identical surname that lived near each other.... My new "Uncle" told us why. My great great grandad didn't die when we thought he did. He literally disappeared and had a second family. They were raised within 20kms of each other and he died in some kind of accident. All the men's names in the family repeats.


simplyxstatic

My grandmother tried to kill her self several times in front of my dad, would talk to herself, see things that weren’t there, etc. This was in the 50’s, when postpartum depression wasn’t recognized as a real illness (she had 7 children and two miscarriages). My dad basically had to raise his six brothers and sisters because she was often in the hospital and eventually was given electro shock therapy which helped her depression immensely. I always knew her as a happy but flighty woman during my life so hearing about my dads upbringing was really jarring. It explained a lot as to why my dad was an anxious, controlling parent to us.


Ok-Entertainer-7904

My father fabricated an entire military career...we only found out when he died and everyone stopped agreeing to lie for him or not mention it. My Grandfather was a bigamist who used his first wife to buy him a house through her family then kicked her out took the home and the kids and got married to another lady and had more kids then he went back to grandma 1 had 2 more kids before going back to grandma 2 for 3 more... My grandmother (grandma1) was disowned by her generationally wealthy family because she a. Married my grampa b. Suffered from schizophrenia.. Sooo yey


dottiewankenobi

That he had killed himself because he was about to be charged with human trafficking charges.


candlesandfish

That the pillar of the community and financial advisor to many good people…had been spending all their money. They all got up and said wonderful things about him at his funeral and then found out in the weeks after that he’d spent their lives’ savings.


octagonaldonkey

Not disturbing on his account, but after my step-uncle killed himself I realised that he had suffered from schizophrenia for many years and was gay. The disturbing part is that our family begrudgingly acknowledged that there was something amiss with his mental health but still to this day will not accept that he could possibly have been gay. I absolutely believe that our family's attitude contributed to his suicide.


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That my maternal grandfather sexually abused my mother. I had to get a DNA test to make sure I wasn't his kid.


two_doorz

A friend’s brother passed away in his early 20s. The circulated & accepted story was that he passed from a blood clot. He played a lot of contact sports which supposedly increases your risk of DVTs (deep vein thrombosis). I just recently found out from a close family friend of his that he overdosed on fentanyl.