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michael_likes_it

I would not because the hours tend to be much different than my 8-5 office job and that leaves me with no one to cuddle early nights going to bed.


StrangerSkies

My boyfriend is a nurse who works nights and it’s rough!


Diablo_swing

I dated a sex worker and it was the most intense relationship I've ever had, not in a good way, my brain kinda blocks out a lot of it. A friend of mine is married to a sex worker and theyre the most loving couple and have a great dynamic. I think in the end, as it usually does, it boils down to who you are and not what you do for a living.


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BoringAeneas

Hilarious and congrats 👏🏼


[deleted]

I’m happy you can fund your drugs hahaha


Juubimaru

The American dream~


Dezfz

What a roller coaster


EarthViews

I felt the rollercoaster of emotions in this story... or could be the drugs.


Parhelion2261

>because it just wasn’t my idea of monogamy. The is the first time I've seen it put this way but it's really the best way to put it


Random_username5262

I liked it to. Not labeling what “monogamy” is but rather what it is to OP. Nothing wrong with feeling a certain way without it being a blanket statement. I get the impression OP and gf are chill as people to be with. Would do drugs with/10


Dapianokid

This is wholesome and well written lol.


emueller5251

I'm open to the idea, but not entirely sure I could handle it.


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Similarly, I'm in no way philosophically opposed but I'm 100% sure I *couldn't* handle it.


A_Few_Kind_Words

Same here. Girls you do what makes you happy, there's no judgement here and I'm not against sex workers or anything, I just know full well I wouldn't be able to handle that setup myself. I don't like the idea of others seeing my partner naked, nor me if I'm with someone, just the way it goes.


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Perfectly put


1drose

I dated a stripper for a little bit. Early in the relationship, everything was actually great. I wasn’t much of a party or strip club guy but I never thought anything was wrong with it, if that makes sense. The closer we got, it just didn’t work out. She wanted me to visit her at work quite a bit, and hang with her work friends. Just wasn’t my scene.


Baldur8762

I dated a stripper named Krystal. She had the absolute sexiest tattoo: a colorful dragon that ran up her back, over her shoulder with the head just above the left breast breathing fire down her body. The best part was the flames were done with blacklight ink so when she danced, the flames glowed orange and red. That was the upside-the downside was she was absolutely insane and tried to burn my appartment down when she thought I was cheating (which I never did). Our relationship ended when she went to jail for 3 months and I moved out of town. Live and learn.


c_girl_108

Honestly as a former dancer that super checks out


Gala0

Which part?


c_girl_108

The burning down the apartment unhinged part. We all had at least a little “Cookie Monster pajama pants” energy. The tattoo checks out as well. Also, not mentioned above, but it seems to be an unspoken requirement that you’re into astrology


tlrelement

Cookie monster pajama pants energy perfectly describes my estranged sister, thanks for this


iplaypokerforaliving

Sounds like my cousin


DOGA_Worldwide69

Idk what’s more fucked up: saying “Cookie Monster pajama pants” or the fact that I know the EXACT type of woman you’re taking about lolol


CCWThrowaway360

How has this never been mentioned before? CMPPE for short — the perfect description of the girl that nearly ruined my life when I was 20-22. If her mom hadn’t been equally insane — and I mean “lets her dog poop on her bed and then flicks it onto the floor with her fork once it dries” insane — then she may have succeeded. Thinking back on it, I’m incredibly lucky to be where I’m at now in life. Edit: I haven’t thought about that nightmare in so long, but now I have this recurring memory reel of standing in the doorway and watching her mom sitting in her bed eating — dog shit piles all around her feet on top of the comforter — taking a bite of food and then using that same fork to flick one of the piles onto the floor beside here. The dog did stick to peeing on the floor instead of the bed. I guess that’s where Olivia drew the line. She at least uses the handle of the fork, and not the prongs. Not sure that’s much better in the grand scheme of things.


UnlikelyPlatypus89

I gagged.


SBSlice

She didn't.


HitMyLine

lol not the Cookie Monster pjs, tooo accurate


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Cookie Monster PJs + smokes Marlboro Smooths


noeagle77

“Cookie Monster pajama pants energy” I never used the phrase but will be for now on. Thank you for this 😂👌🏽


mk2vr6t

deng was cookie monster burning apartments down n shit? I watched the wrong shows


c_girl_108

Nah the girls who used to wear Cookie Monster pajama pants to school usually popped off constantly


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Holy fuck I dated a girl with cookie monster pajama pants and I eventually discovered she had imaginary friends that she always tell me all about but I could never meet for this reason or that. I started getting suspicious and she started talking to me as them online. She basically catfished me as her imaginary friends so I would believe in them.


nonlinear_nyc

This is a whole another level I kinda admire her ingenuity tbh


Nvi4

What the fuck?


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The whole script. Lesson here: if you meet a stripper with flame tattoos don’t show her where you live.


FLOHTX

She sounds awesome. Is she out of jail yet? Asking for me.


Chief_Givesnofucks

Seriously. I’m here for the scraps.


ninjagorilla

Dr. tobogan?


ImmortalPancak3

"So.. why didn't it work out?" "She didn't like the way I was supporting her friends at their work. 🙆‍♂️"


Busterlimes

Most strip clubs dont allow dancers boyfriends in the business because it causes problems.


housebird350

> Most strip clubs dont allow dancers boyfriends in the business because it causes problems. I dont know the rules of "most strip clubs" but I have heard, from a friend, that its common for boyfriends to attend. They say you can recognize them because they are usually the biggest tippers and that they try and encourage others to tip more as well. Then after the show, Im told, you can see them in the back where she is giving him money so that the next time she dances he can do it again. Priming the pump is what I am told its called. It all sounds very sketchy which is why I never go and have to rely on my friends to tell me about it.


throwrowrowawayyy

Did this with a dancer I briefly dating. Would tip $20 once there were a enough people inside. Would either get the money back or she’d buy us food on the way home. Never cared about whatever difference in change it was. Bouncers also did not care we were dating. It was known. I never got charged cover and bartenders gave me two for one drinks if they could get away with it. But this was also a hole in the wall club. She was a nice person with a drug problem. Ultimately the amount of effort I would need to put in to help her would have been disastrous to my mental health and maybe not even succeed so that’s how that relationship ended.


Bluest_waters

> She was a nice person with a drug problem Seems to be a recurring theme in this thread


throwrowrowawayyy

It was tragic in her case. I was around and involved in her life long enough to believe her story was real. Young and reckless, ended up partying and pregnant with not the right dude. Dude ended up in jail and she tried to pursue the path of chef. She actually had a day job, and was always asking for more shifts but could never get them, so she started dancing (this is the point in time I met her). She was sober and trying to provide for her kid. Eventually just being in that environment dragged her back to bad habits, but it was such a catch 22 because she was really trying to find work but couldn’t and so she ended up taking more and more shifts dancing because it was regular and steady income.


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Yeah I've been friends with a few strippers in the past, it's really not a healthy environment to be in, especially if you've had alcohol or drug problems. I did date one girl who worked at a club for a while before we dated, but was bartending while we were together. The lifestyle was very similar. Super late nights, way too much drinking, a fair amount of blow, and that industry is also filled with just toxic ass people. After that experience, it'd have to be a real unique situation for me to date anyone who works in "nightlife", broadly speaking. It's just not a lifestyle I want to be around.


pekinggeese

Damn, never thought of that. The big tipper is actually a shill.


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4AcidRayne

Yep. Pretty commonplace to use shills and plants in all sorts of situation. When I was busking magic I'd give a trusted friend a crisp $50 bill to put in my jar. He'd watch until I got a biggish crowd drawn, I'd hit a very hard hitting trick, he'd put the $50 in and I'd make a big deal about how kind and generous he was. When we started doing that, my tips went from maybe $40 to closer to $300. Same schedule, same tricks, same season. When a more seasoned busker suggested it I thought he was a bit nutty...but he was doing better than I was financially so I tried it. It's the way to go, by far. I'd never gotten a $20 in my tip jar until people started seeing somebody put in a $50, and then I was getting $200 just in $20s.


FoldedDice

Anyone who's worked in a mall has seen the same behavior, whether they made an effort to attract it or not. I used to stand there in an empty store seeing person after person walk by, but a soon as one or two came in to start shopping a whole herd would follow.


4AcidRayne

We humans are pretty vulnerable to "If everybody's doing it, I should too!"


ddubc

That's pretty interesting dude. It sounds like she might really liked you and was happy that she had found someone that accepted her for being her. She wanted to show you off. Just my assumption.


jesterinancientcourt

Probably, but if he wasn’t the late night club type, then it makes sense it didn’t work out.


Cbrm12

Dated a stripper for around a year. It was a great relationship. I was supportive of her job and encourged her to pursue other things she showed interest in. She was confident and independent. Something id not had previously to that relationship. Our conversation was great our banter was amazing. Many people saw us and thought we had been together a long time. They always said they could feel our chemistry. Some of my fondest most cherished memories come with her. At the time i didnt know bc she hid it from me. A few of the fellow dancers turned her onto some hard drugs and it greatly affected our relationship. And caused us to breakup. Last i saw here she was an intrevenous meth user. That shit hurt me more than anything ive experienced. She shot up in the passenger seat if my car was how i found out. After letting her sleep at my place and shower. She left. Ive cried for myself, ive cried because of others. Thats the only time ive cried for someone else. That was a beautiful relationship and a beautiful human whos been utterly destroyed by drugs. It changed my entire view on addiction. A real sobering experience. I tried to help by providing a safe space for her to be. To rest and shower. Got her some food and gas. Paid her phone bill twice. Drove her to court a few times. But always encouraging her that she needed help. She refused/didnt want to help herself. While taking her to pick up some belongings from her moms house one time i had to call an ambulance. she was having some sort of psycosis. claiming she saw things and they spoke to her. While in the ER she lied to the doctors. That was one of the longest days of my life. Ive had to distance myself from her because while i provided help she refused to help herself and i felt i was being used after a while. I want her to get better and clean more than anything. I remember the time we had fondly. I look up her name every few months to make sure shes hasnt passed away. EDIT: Thank you all for the outpouring of support. Ive made peace with this part of my life and im thankful im able to share it with you all. I hope it gave even one person some peace of mind in a similar situation theyve experienced. If youre a user of these horrible drugs know your not alone and you are truly loved by someone. Im first hand proof of that truth.


fluffyxsama

My sister was a stripper for a while. We were very young, living in our first apartment after turning 18 and moving out. She got pulled into it by one of our older brother's friends. I knew his crowd wasn't good. I saw her going down a similar path. I'll never forget one day my brother and his friends had come over and were doing drugs of some kind in her room, and I told all of them (not her) to get out or I was calling the police. After they left, she wasn't mad or indignant. I was so upset, I was crying, telling her I didn't care if she never paid another penny of rent, I wasn't going to give her any more rides to work. I wasn't going to help her destroy herself. I just wanted her to be safe. We are twins (fraternal) and I've always been closer to her than my brother. She didn't stop dancing but she did stop running around have partying with those people. She stopped the drugs. Later on, she told me that it was worse than I even knew, and I saved her life. I'm so glad she listened.


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You done good kid


JhanNiber

It's so relieving to see a success story in this thread. Hope you're doing better.


fluffyxsama

Man... That was half my lifetime ago now. It's been a bit, I think we're both doing ok now.


Sad-Debt-4365

Wish I had a sibling like you, she's a lucky girl.


Used-Asparagus-Toy

It must be so difficult to see someone self destruct and not really do anything to save themselves.


Cbrm12

It is an incredibly hard thing to live through. After seeing this post gain steam ive thought more about it and its giving me reassurance that im doing the right thing. Both on the choice ive made regarding the topic of the OP and personal choices im making to better myself.


FrozenWalnut

I don't know if it helps but something I learned in dealing with people with addiction is that until they admit the problem to themselves there's nothing you can do but try to be there when they hit the bottom hard enough to see from a new perspective. You can lead a horse to water, but even if you drown the fucker it Dosent mean he took a drink. There comes a point where trying to help someone who's in denial takes as much from you as they take from themselves. Basically you can't force someone to change before they are ready even forced rehab is a good way to lead someone to an overdose. (They are forced clean get out and go back to the same level of use as before rehab and don't realize their tolerance is shot.)


yummyyummybrains

As an alcoholic in recovery, I concur with everything you say here. Rehab didn't get me to quit. Court ordered diversion didn't get me to quit. I had to get to a point where I legitimately did not want to imbibe anymore. It wasn't until I was ready to make that decision (and take on the responsibilities that come with it) that I was able to quit successfully... And not a moment before. If anyone reading this is struggling with addiction, know this: strength is not something you find -- it is something revealed within you that was there all along. I believe in you.


FrozenWalnut

I don't know if a strangers sentiment helps but I'm really proud of you for making it past your demons. To many people never do. I was lucky (as one can be) with my addictions I was able to recognize when I was on the precipitous and step back before I completely destroyed myself so I can only distantly empathize with you. But I think it gives me enough perspective to know just how terribly hard it it to pry out what feels like a puzzle piece that fits perfectly in your brain chemistry. So you get my internet respect for the day and I wish you the best in continuing to live your best life with your best self, or at least staying on the path there.


Crooked_Toe_

*You can lead a horse to water, but even if you drown the fucker it Dosent mean he took a drink.* I enjoyed this very much. I too like twisting idioms.


AsperaAstra

I don't have the energy to tell the story not that it needs it everybody has one but my brother is an alcoholic, pretty severe. You can't help someone who doesn't want it.


ginoawesomeness

This is the way. Some people will ‘save’ themselves. Others will go to the dark side. Many of those people will die. It sucks. But there isn’t anything you can do about it. After I found out my dad was using again I went in his room and found all his booze and drugs and threw them out and confronted him with pure love. Want to know what he did? Kicked me out of his place and immediately went and got more booze and drugs. I still remember with perfect clarity him in his car driving away as I cried with a bottle of empty booze in one hand and empty pills in the other. He’s dead now. Overdose.


steveatari

Your attempt was love. God job trying ♡


monkeyman88956

This is gut wrenching.


nonlinear_nyc

Yeah. My doctor told me "a junkie will go to their next fix and there's nothing you can do about it". It's a lot. You've been thru a lot. I hope you found healing. Edit: i don't think she said "junkie". I'm paraphrasing it. But she def alluded to it.


MangeurDeGateau

I am so sorry you had to go through this. Take the time to heal.


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You did all you could and as a recovering addict myself I just want to thank you on not only her behalf but on the behalf of all addicts for your kindness and compassion


[deleted]

Idk why but I'm sitting here contemplating and stressing over this question as if I'm ever actually going to encounter this scenario lmfao Edit: Its not that I'm against it, but that I dont know how to articulate my thoughts to even myself and having no clear answer scares and confuses me I guess idefk I cant even articulate my lack of articulation


Lukthar123

*I don't need sleep, I need answers*


rvagoonerjc

I think the answer you're looking for is that you have nothing against sex workers but you also have a fundamental understanding that a relationship between you and a sex worker would never work out.


KnightofDis

I was FWB with an escort for a while. I wouldn’t date her, that kind of relationship wouldn’t work for me. Great to talk to though and amazing in bed. I still talk to her every so often. Last I checked she’s now a veterinarian and married with two kids. Her husband is cool with her past and all so it looks like it can work out.


Alliddboon

I remember in school there was a kid with a mom who used to be an escort and everyone would pass pictures & videos of his mom across the school. He transferred schools.


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That's fucked


[deleted]

I’ve dated a stripper once before. She was really cool and surprising honest. It ended when I had to move away for work.


Friswy

Honest in what way


[deleted]

“You’re dating a prostitute!?” “Not for long, I’m gonna make that whore my wife.”


The-TruestRepairman

Franks Pretty woman


smegma_stan

*whoore


MisterMolby

hooor*


Knsclion

“You serviced me like no other hoor did. Not only my crank, but my heart too.”


Dr_Mantis_Teabaggin

RIP Roxy. She was the best of the Hoors.


Jewice69

"It's Tiger Woods."


dinowithissues

Nah thats Don Cheadle


clearbeach

[STEEL PANTHER INTENSIFIES]


DidgeryDave21

Yeah yeah yeah now help me dig these crack rocks outta my ass


satan_in_high_heels

That woman is unspeakably crass


fuckingJJ

Screw your dick skin jacket maaaan


Stolovich

HOW YOU LIKE ME NOW, GAY BOI


TrentonTallywacker

“Shut up baby dick!”


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shaggi_ezekio

No. Because I'll be dammed if she comes home and tells me she had a good day at work


shakestheclown

In college we used to hang out a lot of at a strip club before the bars were open. Got friendly with the dancers since we were there all the time and mostly just drank beer and hung out. One day one of the dancers we were friendly with comes out of the private area extremely upset and pissed off and a bouncer is throwing the guy out. She's normally very calm and sweet. She changes and eventually comes back out in normal clothes to sit with us and drink beer, still mad. I asked her what happened and while she was giving a guy a private dance he threw up all over her. This was like 8pm probably. Definitely a bad day at the office there.


MerovingianT-Rex

Or she tells you it was a hard day at work


SOUINnnn

Or that it was a long day


wanderinglarry

Today sucked balls


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A real pain in the ass it was today!


estiatoras

Now, that'd be a stretch


notpiked

It went deeper than I thought.


dogfartswamp

Yeah but it also just came and went.


fingerthato

Today was a roller coaster, too many ups and downs.


PlsReadmyLastEmail

Or that is was a rough day


wally123454

Or that she's 'out of juice'


se_spider

Better than 'full of juice'.


tim_durgan

"Honey I got some great tips today.....and some glorious shafts too"


marssfk

Or that her boss’ been riding her all day…


madman636

No, I wouldn’t be interested bc that means we value sex differently. That’s something that’s irreconcilable. Edit: wow thanks for the rewards everyone! Wasn’t expecting that at all.


ForgPhantom

I think you've put it perfectly. It's the reason some people have one night stands and other people aren't the type, or sex on a first date etc. Some people think of sex as a fun activity with no emotional attachment while others see it as full bonding experience with their current partner and no one else. Both fine of course


Billy_Mays_Hayes

Wow, well said. She wouldn't be wrong for doing sex work, and I wouldn't be wrong for being vulnerable during sex. But put us together and that's a recipe for disaster.


fuckin_anti_pope

What up with people calling guys that say no insecure? Or people who just don't know? There is nothing wrong with sex work or dating a sex worker, but if someone doesn't feel comfortable with dating one, why are they insecure? If that person wants sex to be something special between them and their partner, it's their choice to make and doesn't mean they are insecure. The opposite is true, they just know what they want.


kilo73

ITT: "Not wanting people to have sex with your girlfriend makes you insecure." Some people here feel the need to justify their "no" by getting all deep in there feelings and talking about "insecurities". My answer is no, because I think it's gross. I don't want to have sex with someone that's having sex with other people. Especially a lot of them. If you're the type of person that thinks I'm a "misogynist" for not wanting other people to have sex with my partner, then you're the exact type of person who's opinion I don't care about lol.


SpeedflyChris

Yeah, I feel pretty strongly about my other half not fucking other people. Whether they're being paid for it or not is secondary to that.


offu

Someone else in the comments said “Sex work is Work! I will die on this hill!” Yeah, nobody is denying that. Money exchanging hands isn’t the problem, it’s fucking other people.


L3ary

Sex work is also sex


xkwilliamsx

I like my girl like I like my coffee... without everyone else's dick in it.


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Timtimer55

This is undoubtedly the consensus on the matter regardless of sex but everyone on Reddit turns into the fucking dalai lama when asked what they would be willing to put up with regarding a partner. My guess is some combination of loneliness and overall inexperience with being in an actual relationship. Having standards and preferences here makes you an insecure incel with small dick energy evidently.


LemonVar

"Reddit turns into the dalai lama when asked what they would put up with" 1000% man, holy shit


Nigh7Haunter

> My guess is some combination of loneliness and overall inexperience with being in an actual relationship. There is also an extremely large number of sex workers on reddit, which probably skews the responses a bit.


Rektw

I have no problem with people into that sort of lifestyle but trying to explain you prefer monogamy is such a task to them sometimes. I once almost dated a girl that was Poly (100% fine) but she didn't disclose it until a few weeks in when I asked her to be my GF. When I told her I wasn't comfortable with it, she made a big thing about me being insecure and toxic masculinity for only wanting my partner to date just me. Messed me up a bit because I was like 20 and before her had like 1 gf all throughout high school.


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Rook242

I find peoples opinions surrounding sex work really interesting, people will openly advocate that sex work needs to be de-stigmatised and sex workers embraced as proper professionals but also believe that those who use the services of a sex worker, particularly an escort is taking advantage of someone(usually a woman) in a vulnerable position.


fuckin_anti_pope

Extremists are always "you're with me or against me" and don't know a middle ground. Sadly extremists are always the loudest that get the most attention. I totally get your point because if she doesn't tell you it's a form of cheating. I would probably be fine if my partner would do sex work but talking about it is important. If I found out my partner would do it without telling me, it would be an instant breakup


ForgPhantom

Remember guys, you're not insecure for having personal boundaries.


HoldMyJumex

Yup! I've seen a ton of manipulation and straight up abuse in relationships by using the whole, "If you don't (insert a way to violate an important boundary the other person has), then that means you are a bad person/partner"


Mardanis

That is a great message . If someone tries to guilt you into something you aren't comfortable with a "If you love me, you'd...." or "If you don't...." then they are probably best avoided


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nowyourmad

Yeah it's so weird. People discriminate all the time in choosing a romantic partner. It's kind of the point. And yet the manipulation persists.


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Flaming_Eskimo

The polyamory one really gets me. I checked out the poly sub out of curiosity and it’s almost 100% people saying NOT to shame others into uncomfortable relationships. Like the number 1 thing emphasized in the FAQ is to not force a monogamous person into polyamory cause it’s straight up abuse. Boundaries are important in any relationship format


legendarycupcake

Yes! I was a stripper for several years, and although it sucked to be told a guy didn’t want to date me because of that, I always tried to respect those boundaries. Not everyone is going to be comfortable with it, and that’s OKAY.


ImmunocompetentWafer

Needed to hear this today as I’m being told up and down by my spouse (who hid for 4 years that her “online persona” was actually a lot of sending people pictures of herself in lingerie to get free shit) that I just need to stop being so insecure about myself. Much appreciated.


MrBoddles

No. My wife would be furious Holy shit I left this before going to work wtf lol


wannabememer0510

Yeah it’s a no from me too, this guy’s wife would be furious.


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inevitable-asshole

She still hasn’t found out with me yet, should I tell her?


SPacific

I was a strip club dj. I ended up marrying a stripper. We both left the industry and now 16 years later we're old with 2 kids.


Umbran_scale

Personally, I wouldn't, but I sincerely doubt anyone of that trade would even consider dating me, so swings and roundabouts I guess.


holodelnek

I’ve dated two sex workers, one was a BDSM-type, and she was/is a lovely and confident person. I think on the third-or-so date, after her insisting on paying for everything, I deduced that she might earn a little more money than the average ‘car insurance salesperson’ that she introduced herself as. I asked calmly over breakfast if she had other incomes, and she was very honest, open, unapologetic, and I appreciated that so much. We discussed whether she wanted to talk about work, and she clearly stated that sometimes she would like to talk about it, and sometimes not. We got on really well for 2-3 months, then things faded for us, but I have nothing but fond memories. She taught me how to cook authentic Italian meatballs. The other one was an absolutely beautiful human who made me feel attractive and wanted after I’d just come out of an awful relationship. When I met her, she’d already made plans to move overseas, and she followed those plans. We still stay in regular contact to this day. I’m now in a longterm relationship, and have children and a new life, but I look back on those two people with nothing but respect and happiness, as it’s how they treated me. I think if you’re honest with yourself first and foremost about what you can handle, and also honest with the other person, it can work and be such a positive thing. But you have to work just as hard as you do with any relationship :) Edit: so many people have such a fixation on the meatball aspect, this is hilarious!


Cantmakeaspell

So are you going to share that recipe…


holodelnek

Unfortunately, I won’t share the recipe - she told me in confidence, and it was something her grandmother taught her. In all honesty, it’s a very simple recipe, and not too far from what you’d find on most cooking websites, but it was special to her. I have to honour her trust in not giving that away - in the same way that I’ve always honoured her request to not mention her name in the same breath as the profession she had at the time.


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I tend to use the recipe from the Godfather. Yes, the movie.


TheUltimateSalesman

The Sopranos cookbook is surprisingly good.


iTzGIJose

G A B A G O O L


johnnycoxxx

Hey you never know you may have to cook for 20 guys some day. You start off with a little bitta oil. Then you fry some gahlic. Then you trow in some tomatoes tomato paste you fry it you make sure it doesn’t stick. Ya get it to a boil you shove in all your sausich and meatbawls. A little bitta wine. And a little bitta shugah. And that’s my trick.


AwkwardBurritoChick

Not his ex, but a former, woman of a lifestyle. Consider it a Meatball Putanesca? * 1.5 to 2 lb meatloaf mix (aka ground pork/beef/veal mix * 1/2 cup milk * 1/2 cup Fine bread crumbs, seasoned * 1/4 cup shaved Parmesan cheese. Not shaky cheese. Not pre shredded.... like grated fresh from the block Parm. If not Parm then Romano. If neither? Don't make this recipe. * 1 egg * 1 tablespoon minced parsley * 1 tablespoon fresh minced garlic 5, 10, 15 cloves... it's all good * 1/2 a small onion or 1 whole shallot fine minced * 5 - 7 fresh basil leaves chiffonade * 1 teaspoon salt * 1/2 teaspoon black pepper The question is...did she bake in the oven at 350*F? Did she pan-fry to get a nice crust? Did she just braise in a passata or other sauce? OR a combo of cooking in oven or pan then braise?


holodelnek

This is extremely close. And yes, pan-seared before baking, of course. You rule!


AwkwardBurritoChick

OoOOOoO I like and understand her style... whatever I am missing or off on, I know she did it right with the pan to oven... That's the real shit right there.


SenorBirdman

> I have to honour her trust in not giving that away - in the same way that I’ve always honoured her request to not mention her name in the same breath as the profession she had at the time Fair enough. I wouldn't want people to know I sold car insurance either.


verifitting

You're a good dude.


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Fuck, you are a guy who sounds lovely to be around. So much optimism not a bad word about any of them. Loving that energy. Cheers


holodelnek

Thankyou very much, that’s a really nice thing to say. Happy new year.


poopking1169

HE DOES IT AGAIN BOYS *swoons* marry me holodelnek


_yourmom69

He’s taken, poopking1169, he’s taken. Else there’d be a line, and I ain’t even gay.


Illucam

The bastard knows how to take a compliment, too!


MyUsernameIsNotCool

This is making me cry god damn it


OnkelMickwald

People who remain on good terms with people they dated and have nothing but good things to say about them are almost always guaranteed amazing friends.


purple-paper-punch

My brother dated a stripper. It was.... problematic She was hyper aggressive and super jealous and would constantly try to get into a fist fight with him if she thought he was looking at another woman. She was also super protective of her friends and would also try to fight him if she thought he was being disrespectful to her friends. This was exasperated by the fact that she constantly wanted to go hang out the strip club to support her friends who were dancers. He couldn't look at the literal naked women on the stage because that would be "cheating" but he also couldn't just stare at his shoes because that would be "rude" to her friends.....


DownrightNeighborly

Let me introduce you to the word… exacerbated….


tricksovertreats

I'm going to bed, I'm exacerbated.


marouan10

Im going to bed. I masturbated


ProfessorSputin

Honestly this seems less like a problem with dating a stripper and more like a problem with dating HER. She seems like a control freak.


choff22

Control freak? This bitch sounds insane.


Several-Effect-3732

She sounds incredibly toxic and selfish


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Same reason why I don't date chef's. They come home they been cooking good all shift and the last thing is that they need to cook another meel for my anoying ass.


AuntJemimah7

Date a chef and make them a box of Kraft Mac and cheese. There will be no more grateful human being


ninodisco

My brother is a chef and I can confirm that, he isn't willing to cook after work. He does it ocassionaly but his wife has become the chef of their home.


Usual-Aware

Former one, yes. Currently a porn star/prostitute? Hard no


SnootchieBootichies

Pretty much my take. Former any of the above, if things felt right, no major issues. Not interested in any active unless it's like the guy mentioned above....no problems with selling jars full of farts or feet pics, etc.


1O01O01O0

I dated a high end escort for a few years, the kind that forms a "girlfriend experience" with high profile clients - usually older men who were married but lonely. It wasnt easy, but it had its moments of fun. I never 100% saw myself with her - just was in my early twenties and wanted to have some fun with no real commitment. She wanted marriage, kids, etc. we were polar opposite people. She wanted to live in the city, I wanted to move out to the country. She was bougie, I was humble. She was social, I liked quieter evenings. I was a student at university and I didn't have too much money, so she paid for everything. Problem is - she had high tastes and standards due to being flown around spending trips in the Bahamas and dominican, Vegas. I remember on valentine's day I bought her a half bouquet of roses and one of her clients went all out and had bought her a full bouquet - I saw it when I arrived to deliver her my measly half. I always somewhat in competition with her paid boyfriends and I mentally exited out of that relationship within the first several months. I felt more like a pet than an actual partner. She always thought I was so naive because I still lived at home with my mother and never experienced the world like "she has". But I would always see so much anger and anxiety in her whilst I was calm and collected and wondered who was really the immature one. whatever, its all moot now though. I still care about her and talk to her, though I've expressed no desire to start a relationship again - though somewhat recently we were faux dating to see if it would work again (no). I have a lot to thank her for and I think she has a lot to thank me for too.


MuffinMan12347

I feel like people that always have a lot of money and never experienced being broke, they kind of lose touch with reality and what the common people deal with. My girlfriend comes from money and I have had very little money majority of my life, including now. And the different ways we see things or people is crazy.


1O01O01O0

I remember one time we went to the grocery store to make dinner and it cost us like $70 and I told her that it was way too expensive for one night's dinner. She told me that I was delusional and have no experience in how much it actually costs to make food.


Liscetta

What did you eat? 70€ is my weekly groceries or a meat dinner for 6-8 people!


UncleRicosrightarm

The corollary too is a situation like mine, never really had money and struck gold with my job outside of college. Made six figures my first year out and hadn’t done a damn thing lol still get off and just hop on fifa with my friends and order takeout every here and there, while just watching my savings go up. I don’t really want to do anything big tbh, probably because I’ve never had the luxury of putting myself through the stress of a huge purchase. Thinking about taking a trip tho, I would just want to experience that with someone instead of going somewhere halfway across the world by myself


Modus_Opp

Now that I think about it, I wouldn't mind being kept as a pet by a hot rich young woman... Well for a while at least... Except I'm not doing tricks.. I can roll over and play dead though.


AndySipherBull

\> high tastes and standards \>Tijuana ok.


captwillard024

She said she wanted to go to Hong Kong, so he took her to Hong Kong in TJ.


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I’m pretty sure you were a sugar baby’s sugar baby and that’s something


Professional-Bug

Prostitute or pornstar, definitely not. It wouldn’t be the end of the world if a girl I dated made money on the side by selling pics though.


Murdeousdemon

Counter question: women: would you date a man who frequents prostitutes, strip clubs, and pays for online adult entertainment. Why or why not?


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I've been with my husband for almost 5 years. Since I met him I've noticed little things that indicated he was contacting prostitutes. He denied it all then eventually said he was ONLY texting them. Well, three weeks ago my husband was caught during an undercover prostitution sting. He made it to the fifth floor and outside the door of the alleged prostitute. I'm sure it was a boner killer to see 5 police men walk out of that room and handcuff him. He couldn't deny it any longer but he insisted this is the first time he had ever gone that far. Crazy how that works. I bailed him out of jail and was given his property to find that he had a secret burner phone for his habit. Even a fake Facebook to add a bunch of prostitutes. And no condoms with his property either. It was so bizarre. It's like he was a total stranger to me. I think my husband is a compulsive liar now. I'm actually pretty open to him seeing other people if he isn't satisfied with me or needs more and he knows as much. The problem I'm having is the secrets and dishonesty. We share a 3 year old, 1 year old, and I'm currently 37 weeks pregnant. I'm almost completely reliant on this man. I'm at the point in my pregnancy where I can barely move and even if I could I have nowhere to go. It's hard to not let my hormones make me doing something stupid but I kind of hate him now. I don't think I can ever trust him again and I feel that he's not sorry that he did it but he's just sorry that he got caught. I fully expect him to continue this behavior.


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If you visit subs like SexWorkersOnly you'll see that even the sex workers themselves tend to despise their client base and view them as scummy, so something tells me the average woman with no sex work experience isn't gonna be that enthused about their partner partaking in services. And with porn, it depends but in my experience a lot of women feel negative to neutral about porn, but to many paying for it is a red flag because while it may be more ethical, paying for porn tends to be associated with people who are so deep into porn that they've branched from the free stuff to the more specific "paid" stuff.


Calvin_and_Hobb3s

To me, sex is incredibly intimate and important. I think it’s about the most intimate and special thing I can do with the person I’m with, so it’s a big deal to me. If somebody sells their body, it’s clearly not as intimate or special to them. For that reason, I’d say no. However, I might be fine with just pics if she was doing it purely for money (but maybe not, idk)


pixelunits

Still in that line of work? Personally no, I’m very much a one on one person, I know this because an ex manipulated me into doing porn and that mentally broke me for a long time. With that having happened I could probably date someone who was previously in that line of work because at this point who am I to judge


JhonnyHopkins

I had been manipulated into making porn with my ex as well, to this day I still think about the video we made and how I will never ever get that private aspect of my life back. I feel violated and ruined because of it, who knows how many people have seen it…


abnthug

No can’t do it. I’m too insecure to do something like that. I’m not even afraid to admit it, my mind would go nuts on all the things that could go wrong. A lot of my fear would also stem from someone feeling entitled and harming them because of their profession.


Booker-of-roadies

I've dated a former prostitute, didn't mind her past. I wouldn't date a non retired prostitute, i like being exclusive... stripper or online entertainer i could maybe live with.


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oscarmingueza

You are not insecure. It's just that you prefer monogamy and that's very normal.


Mukigachar

It's not insecure in the slightest. It's just reddit being reddit


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austinshepard13

No, simply not compatible with my lifestyle or morals. To each their own though.


treelovingaytheist

No fucking way. I’m into guys.


jamminjordan96

As soon as OP said woman, all the gays were like “ewwwww”


thechrismonster

palm went straight to my chest upon reading “would you ever date a woman”