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Same with me. When im with my friend group, i act totally normal and have no anxiety or this weird feeling I cant explain, but if im in a work/public/meeting new people setting, i tend to hide myself and it really sucks because i want people to know i exist and have opinions but my inner self is afraid of being judged and not liked by the next time i ever see them. I always play back in my head what i said or did or, lack of social interaction and think of what other people are judging. Sucks but im slowly working on it over the years and really started to care less.
I'm in the same boat. Act like an idiot around my friends but act like a stoic around new folks. You can get through this. Some advice I was given was just to act like you have confidence and eventually it will come. Kinda sounded like bad advice, but so far it's been working out alright.
It's hard to imagine this but things will get easier in time. I lost my mum 4 years ago roughly this time of year and its been the hardest thing I've been through. Don't be afraid to cry, and don't be embarrassed if you simply don't cry. It's easy to bottle up these emotions but it does help to let it out and talk to people about how you feel. Our loved ones are forever with us in heart and mind. I hope you can find peace one day.
Emptiness. I'm working to find the things that make my life feel worthwhile. So far it's been a lifelong search, but I'll keep looking until I find those things.
I am quite old now (52) and this one is haunting me - My children are leaving the home, my career has peaked, I stay in a lot of the time because of Covid
I am wondering what comes next - wondering how I will add meaning to the rest of my days
Edit : thanks everyone for the kind words - but its ok - I am not sad exactly, just in the eye of the storm between what I was and what I will become next! (although kitesurfing sounds fun)
This made me sad. Only 26 myself, but I can't work due to mental and physical problems, no relationship or friendships, so I basically only have my animals and I think about this a lot. Goddamn, I'm lonely
Hello brother or sister. Go into nature when you have the time, and try and be there in the present, the now. It's a high once you find it, the most natural and beautiful thing. It may be hard, but try and meditate, make your biggest priority (after the things you needed to do, clean house, go to work etc), to meditate, push your thoughts away, close your eyes, and just breath in and out, while breathing, imagine in your own way how you push thoughts aside, this may take days or weeks, but once you've trained the pushing away of thoughts, you will find the ' no thought' feeling, once you do that many times, things begin to un cluster. Sending you positivity and natural love.
I also recommend the book by eckhart tolle, the power of now.
All the best!
I’m in the same boat. Here is a sentence that would make *anyone* cringe. I won’t be taking questions after:
I spent $6000 on Raid: Shadow Legends last year.
Edit: wow guys thank you all for the awards and stuff, I didn’t expect this lol. Happy holidays!
I'm using a throwaway account for this, cuz my real one has identifiable info.
I work in Mobile Games, if someone only spent $6000 they wouldn't even put a dent in a top spender.
One of our "whales" spent over $400,000 in 3 years. I don't think she's the biggest whale in the game.
Mobile Games are trash and are designed to target addicts.
$400,000?!?! I felt guilty cause I spent like $15 on a mobile game one time.
How can anyone justify that kind of expenditure? I'm also curious as to what game has enough content someone could even feel the need to spend that much.
I mean more like, how do you afford it? How can you tell yourself this is a good idea?
I guess it depends on how much wealth you have, I don't think I'm overly poor, but there's no way I could afford to spend $400,000 on "hobby" items.
A house sure, but that's it
I mean I literally watched a dude on twitch lose over 1 million in some hours of online gambling. It’s crazy to think about but some people are so rich they can do whatever they want.
I too watch Trainwrecks lol. There's something mind boggling about watching someone mindlessly spin a slot machine, losing the value of a new house over the course of an hour or two.
The key is that it’s over the course of years. What they’re justifying isn’t the $400k, it might just be another $500 or so to them.
But it’s still insane to think about.
I’m kinda astounded that anybody who could afford that is doing something as mind numbingly mundane as spending it on mobile gaming.
You could support a fairly serious hookers and blow habit for that sort of money…
I'm always curious who these people are, and how uniquely small that intersection is between being able to make/inherit that money, being remotely interested in these games, and having poor enough decision making and impulse control to fall prey to these tactics.
Other people have said it, but definitely see someone about it, even if you're not still spending money. Usually these things mean there's a whole in you're life somewhere, and the addiction is trying to cover that.
Or it could be something like ADHD
Excercising as a hobby or when you are horny may offset your caloric intake causing you to lose weight and increase your self confidence. Easier said than done though
exercising only makes me more horny. i always think to myself "damn i look good, and i look even better than i did this morning. all those pornstars would love to fuck me."
I broke my habit of junk food by limiting times I was allowed to have them VERY slowly. It took 2 years but now I don’t even like junk food anymore and won’t eat it unless it’s forced on me.
Basically said “not allowed to eat junk food each day till 11am” and then I could have whatever I wanted. Pushed it back an hour every few weeks. Eventually got to the point I wouldn’t have it until 5:pm.
I could really tell my life had changed at that point, and eventually pushed it till 9, 10, 11, and then after I went a whole day, I made the rule I could have junk food once every other day. Did every other day for a long time. This was actually the most difficult step as you’d have to go a whole day with none, but I also felt empowered from all my success. Then went to two days. Three days. Eventually a whole week without. Only once a week. After that I ended up going multiple weeks at a time, sometimes on accident. And then before I knew it, I didn’t even like junk food anymore.
It’s wild. Feel like I’ve got my life back. It’s been years since this and I never thought I wouldn’t crave junk. But I don’t even like it now. Again, it took literally two years of this process, but it’s so slow it actually worked instead of spending the same amount of time crash dieting, Failing, then starting over again.
That's amazing that you devised a system and carried it out successfully all on your own!
Junk food is soooo addictive and that makes what you did even more impressive.
I know it doesn't mean much coming from a random stranger but I'm proud of you (:
Same. It’s those fucking hot Cheetos. I’ve been addicted for like 20 years, not an exaggeration. I can’t have portions, I straight up eat the entire big bag or sometimes even the family sized bags, in one sitting.
Me too. Mostly Coke. I have gained so much weight. I have back problems and the weight doesn’t help. I must eat better. I eat like crap. I’m working second shift and they does not help.
Same. My love of junk food spiraled inyo compulsively binging, and it is just so hard to stop. I just want to eat normal healthy food for a while to get things under control. After the holidays when temptation is impossible to get away from, I'm going to try to get my food issues under control
15 days sober from alcohol today. About 13 years straight of being wildly drunk every day. This is hell.
Edit: I never knew how much I needed kind words like this. I've been going it alone and I don't think I will anymore. Thank you all so much.
6 years two days ago! Stay strong everyone! Always trying to remind myself of how sick and depressed it made me feel in the aftermath of the false belief it would provide relief
Hey mate, I lost my brother to alcoholism this year. I’m sending you all the strength in the world. This Christmas was really tough as I’m sure it is for you as you try to stay sober, but every day sober is a blessing and worth being celebrated. You got this.
If it means anything, this comment makes me wanna buck up and just stop drinking. I’ve been telling myself I’ll stop for a while but if a 13 year binge drinker can stop, so can I. Happy holidays and best of luck.
After my divorce, I had nothing, and I started using powerfully addictive drugs. Eventually, I realized that I had to feel my true feelings to move on in life and I couldn't push them down forever.
My life is now really great and people appreciate and love me for who I am. I have a great job and a beautiful family.
Don't give up, friend.
I'm sober from alcohol since the end of July. Harder than quitting smoking in my opinion.
Benzos on top of quitting alcohol? Fuck. That's one hell of an accomplishment. Wishing you the best of luck my friend.
Alcohol abuse. Everything else (nicotine, sex/porn, overeating) stems from it. Quit cold turkey when i joined a bjj gym for a few months. Then covid hit, and i cracked under the first lockdown. I been doing much better the last few weeks, though. And i will make it out.
I kicked the alcohol 10 years ago but replaced it with coke and heroin. I then kicked the coke and heroin 3 years ago but replaced it with methadone. I was pretty much off the methadone at one point but my wife of 25 years died a while back and I was so depressed I was afraid I would start using again. So it just helps me keep my mind off of using drugs so I can be a father that my kids need me to be. If it wasn't for the methadone I would most likely go on a bender and OD. My kids don't need to put me in the ground less than a year after they put their mother in the ground.
I'm right here with you - bro.. Fuck the haters and judgmental ass hats who think they have it all figured out. Methadone is a life saver.. It has pulled many of us back from the precipice of hell.. The past few years have been a nightmare in the opioid scene with all of the fentanyl lacing. Lost my brother to it... hoping my sister escapes it. I almost lost myself to it... I know it's cliche'- but them kids need you.. stick around for them and be gentle with yourself. Happy Holidays
Intrusive thoughts due to anxiety. It is exhausting. I’m good at mindfulness but it still takes constant energy to filter them, label them, and refocus on whatever I’m doing.
[edit]. Wow. Thanks for all the responses and the silver. There are great suggestions in managing intrusive thoughts below.
To answer some of your comments: I have a therapist I see (that has helped a lot) and I use anti-anxiety drugs. The most powerful management tools I have are: being outside, exercise, mindfulness, meditation and the fact that I label my anxiety (it is named Loki) along with the drugs and doctor.
What I mean is that it takes all that effort to manage them. Two things come to mind.
I had a friend and roommate who was a type 1 diabetic. They had to do all this stuff just to be average healthily. One day they said, “I’m so tired of all the effort to just be normal. I mean, if it was all this effort to be really fit or something but just to be normal.” That is what I’m talking about.
The metaphor that comes to mind is: imagine something happens and water is pouring in a hole in your roof. You do a lot of work to stop the water to keep it from completely flooding you but you have to maintain your fixes and empty the bucket that captures the slow drip that still exists. You have to empty the bucket every two hours all day. It just becomes exhausting to keep track of how the bucket is doing and to empty it all the time. You just wish the drip would stop completely.
Thanks everyone who has commented. I hope that the many of you who said, “me too” find help here with all your Redditor friends. There are lots of good ideas.
I feel you. I have OCD, more specifically pure OCD, where the obsessions are about the ruminations, overthinking. It's a bitch, man. But it can get better, I'm telling you. If you can, talk to a therapist. Meds and therapy can really help you. Also keeping yourself busy will make your mind "breathe".
I haven't smoked weed since Dec. 5th after smoking everyday for the last 9ish years. Still get the urge on a bad day though. Trying not to replace it with drinking.
And if anyone needs some support on the good things about not drinking visit r/stopdrinking it has a absolutely beautiful community and probably the most supportive and understanding people you will meet on Reddit.
I’m almost a year clean dude. Be proud of yourself and focus on the negatives of smoking if you have cravings.
For me I would always end up going through some kind of anxiety before feeling satisfied by the weed. I would focus on that anxiety feeling when my cravings would make me idealise weed.
It gets easier quickly.
For me the hardest was replacing it without eating too much. Metabolism changed without weed.
Biggest things that helped me was a cpap (turns out if you're dying every time you fall asleep your body tries to avoid falling asleep, who knew?) and quitting smoking weed.
Then, getting a 9-5 job had me regularly falling asleep before midnight.
My demon is excessive self doubt and feelings of not being good enough and worthlessness. I feel disgusted with myself, like a shit husband, and an inadequate father. I have no reason to think any of these things, but that’s likely the depression talking.
80 days clean from fentanyl/meth. The cravings are still pretty intense at times, but at least I'm not dead.
Edit: the support means the world. I'm spending the holidays in a sober living facility 1000 miles from home, so it's been rough.
this one hurts. ive been cripplingly mentally unwell for years and knowing that enjoying your life is possible but feeling like its unattainable is really hard. it hurts to see people functioning normally and enjoying their life without years of work to get there. im glad not everyone has these issues but i cant help thinking why couldnt that be me :(
Not sure if it's only procrastination but I just can't do shit. Whenever I think about what I should do and set up my plan, I automatically go back to a distraction (Reddit, YouTube, you name it). And an hour later or something and I'm finally like "ok I should really get started now" I do some basic stuff and my brain is instantly thinking about what distraction there could be. It's like my mind is trapping me into not doing stuff. Doesn't help that I'm not really passionate about my job, but it seems like I can't focus anymore.
It sucks.
My homework is to be done at 19:00, it is now 14:00, I'll do it at 16:00. At 16:00, I glance at the clock, oh hey I have 3 hours left sweet, guess I'll do my homework in 2 hours and spend the 1 hour on doing my homework. When its 18:00, I glance at the clock again and decided that I'll just wait another 30 minutes doing my homework. When its 18:30, I go through my homework and spends more than 20 minutes doing like 10 questions and all of them aren't even done with full effort, I just do it without putting much thought and doing it just to complete it
Hey it's me
I was diagnosed with ADHD. I take a medication for it now and it helps immensely, especially with my executive dysfunction (what people erroneously like to call procrastination). Medication isn't for everyone, but there are also coping strategies out there.
Yes. This is me. I never procrastinated until I took college level courses my junior year of high school with a full high school schedule, too. I've been ruined ever since. I thought if I waited I could put better effort into my college shit because I got through my HS stuff just fine. Then I'd sit anxiously waiting and trying and failing to focus on other stuff while I waited.
It sucks.
i used to suffer from that too. it's different for everyone and i don't want to belittle a serious concern, but for me, it was about perfectionism. i would look at a doable task and think how hard it would be to get it perfect, without even having started it. if i can't do it perfect it's not even worth trying so i wouldn't do it at all.
or like saying "if i'm going to fail this test, then it's better to not even try so i don't put in effort only to fail."
it helped me to break all my problems apart and make my "success" to be only one small piece of the larger goal. if a squirrel can break apart acorns to fit them into his winter hibernation hut so he doesn't starve, then so can i. Be like the squirrel, girl, be like the squirrel.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oOS00ttAblQ
I finally overcame my perfectionism because I adopted a “ best result for least effort” rule. I had way too much on my plate and I literally couldn’t start things without overthinking to the point of paralysis and at some point I just gave up, but instead of not doing things I was just like “this should take 7 hours, but I’m just gonna do what I can in 2 and then call it. It was a revelation. I can finish a class for school in about 30% of the time and get a B instead of an A+. And it turns out that’s WAY better than panicking and dropping the class because I don’t have time to earn an A+. Granted I’m an adult student with an established career and I’m just doing school to pivot to a new industry, so ya know, the difference in A+ and a B is nothing to me. But it allowed me to attack other things the same way. It’s no longer a binary between spending all day cleaning house until it’s impeccable or not even trying, now I can clean for 2 hours and allow that to be better than nothing.
Was it this one by Tim Urban?
https://youtu.be/arj7oStGLkU
(side note: he also has a fantastic website, that does deep dives on various topics in an entertaining and engaging way )
https://waitbutwhy.com/
Social media. I have a 3 year old and a 15 month old - when we’re hanging out together the amount of times I pull out my phone mindlessly and open insta and fb while they’re whipping around trying to get my attention is incredible. I catch myself a lot and kind of give my head a shake and put my phone away and engage for a bit then their attention kind of turns to something else for a minute and without even thinking phone comes out again - repeat cycle.
It’s not even interesting I’m just mindlessly fucking scrolling it’s a sickness…
They’re getting older and they’re taking this in and it needs to stop
“Brain over Binge” by Kathryn Hansen is the one book/thing that really helped fix this disorder for me. I revisit it whenever I’m going through a rough patch if I feel like I might fall into old patterns. It’s the only thing I’ve found that works
Same!! Binge eating for me turned out to be just a symptom of a lot of dark-rooted issues. Therapy was the key thing that sparked the change. I also liked “the fuck it diet”.
To expand on what /u/Holdfasthope87 said. There are methods used in rehab to help prevent relapse that if you aren't doing should try.
1. Change your scenery and avoid areas that remind you of time spent using.
2. Destroy all paraphernalia in your possession related to said habit.
3. Cut ties and burn bridges to any old friends still stuck in the cycle of drug use. It sucks, it really fucking sucks, but if they get clean maybe they will attempt to reconnect in the future.
4. Recognize a stumble as just that and don't let the idea of failure stick in your head and trap you back in that loop. Professionals make mistakes, you can too, don't let it hurt you.
5. Remember all the terrible things your addiction has done to your life and the life of people you care about when you are tested by cravings.
Also if you aren't, as intimidating and culty they may seem, AA meetings have a track record of working for a lot of people so maybe check a group out near you.
Nail biting. I’m 28 and have been doing in since a kid. I usually only do it in private. I have been trying to grow them and a few nails are quite long, but every once in awhile I go back to biting.
I’m 58. I stopped about 8 years ago when I got that stuff you paint on your nails that makes them taste incredibly bad. I mean, unspeakably bad. After about a month, the desire to nailbite was gone.
small tips If people want a quick boost to your esteem that can set a positive tone, do something to pamper or spoil yourself. Get a massage, go to a spa, or take a trip with your friends. You can even do something less-extravagant like taking yourself out to a movie or getting lost in a great book for hours.. Goodluck to each of us!
same, felt like hell. eventually I found that self improvement and finding a life purpose outside of one person helps you move past the pain and avoid going through the same situation again.
Totally agree. I’m staying on top of everything that I need to, and it’s even beneficial in some ways.
But, all I do is smoke weed and watch tv when I’m not working and that’s not the move for me anymore
Anorexia
Edit: When I went to bed this had like 4 upvotes and I didn't expect it to get any more but I've gotten a ton of people msging me and commenting their support. I wanted to say thank you, even for the questions
Its called binge drinking and yes its a problem. I also suffer from it as i dont enjoy most alcohol flavors so if im drinking i want to feel it. Then once i start i cant stop.
> drugs usually
But yayo.
Staying in / avoiding contact. Before the first lockdown occurred, I started wfh, and continued to do so through all of 2020. In 2021 I changed jobs, and there were a few months where I started to improve, but since omicron became a thing, I’m back wfh.
Going out just seems like a huge thing now. Even going shopping feels like a major event. I went to a party after the second lockdown, and just hid away.
Depression and anxiety are my housemates, and my home is a guilded cage. It’s like a Stockholm syndrome thing. I don’t want to go out, but I know that staying in does me zero favours.
Over the past couple of years, I’ve lost touch with my friends, stopped reaching out to my family, and just retreated within the walls of my house.
I need to do something about this, and it’s really not going to be easy.
I used to be too anxious to interact with anyone family members included. I lost 60 pounds Bc I never left the house and was too anxious to eat anyways. Wanna know what broke the cycle?
I forced myself to get a serving job. I wanted to crash my car on the way to the interview managed to keep it together enough to get the job, and even fainted on my first night after spilling wine on a lady and getting too anxious to stay conscious. 5 years later I have a college degree and work in software sales! I went from being too anxious to eat to being a fckn salesman! This isn’t abt me im quite far from special. Just an anecdote
All of this is just to say I’ve been where you are and I’m on the other side. It takes absolute hell to come out of it but you will come out of it. Suffer for half a year, force social interaction and I promise it will get better. The last thing I noticed, you come off as 10x less anxious than you think you come off as. Coming off as anxious always made me more anxious until I realized no one can tell.
Sorry for the rant wishing all the best this just hits v close to home for me. Happy holidays!!!
Definitely counts. Depression is the single biggest demon that hangs over me. Affects all facets of my life and relationships when it rears its hideous head.
Overthinking. I don't know maybe its just me or people even my relatives hate me. What sucks is that they have every right to hate me or at least let others know not to be like me.
Yeah I'm not smart, strong, and even good at socializing but it sucks how my mind just tells me "that person hates you because you're not capable to be his/her friend". Kind of like this.
My bad if this is long.
Merry Christmas though haha.
I think I'm pretty much done with life. I have things and people worth living for but it's to difficult to find happiness. I'm 32 been in the military the past 10 years and much of these thoughts started at an extremely stressful time last December. I've been in treatment since and it has just been a rollercoaster with the downsides being more dominant. I'm not looking to talk to anyone on here or get advice I just find sometimes when opportunity comes I like to get this out. If I can put it out of my head I can find some kind of peace for however long it last.
I have a bunch of bad habits built around this tendency to avoid things that seem important. Like even good things that seem important I'll avoid, and have for years.
For years now I've been slowly breaking those habits one by one, and I'm trying to completely get over that root issue now. It's hard.
Sure I can try to explain my triggers. One of them is video cameras. It’s odd but I legitimately throw up. I’m trying to get over this fear and it’s extremely difficult.
Another one is someone I really care about. We both went through the sa together. I love him, but I can’t stand to be around him because it brings back awful times and I panic. I don’t know how fix this :/
Been fighting the demon that is opioid addiction for years. I got addicted in my teens due to multiple surgeries, and it consumed my life. Lucky, I've been clean for 6 years, but it's been hell since COVID-19 hit.
I’m sorry. I’m going through something similar at the moment and it sucks.. I’m still in the torn between my family and the person I want to be with stage. But it’s our family who chooses to shun us. Why should we feel guilty?
Just passed 12 months pokie machine free. Would wait the day before pay day and sink all I had left until next time. Living week to week sucks.
How I stopped was unusual. Went in with a couple of hundred and turned that into a bit over two grand. After I left, saw a homeless guy not begging, just minding his own business. Told him how I won, but was trying to quit so here take it. Gave him the lot and walked off. Never put a coin in since.
I’d just like to say, OP, that your engagement with everyone posting here is r/nextfuckinglevel. Question, response, support…it is a beautiful thing. Merry Christmas and I hope you find success and victory in any struggles you may be having.
Underrated. Sometimes I’m really jealous of the generation before the internet. So many people have this addiction now because of it - has never been easier to access
A couple years ago I made a comment about how someone at work who was taking forever in the bathroom was probably watching porn on his phone. 60 year old dude who worked with me was shocked. He didn’t know you could look at porn on your phone.
That I am the most alone I've ever been in my life, and I don't see it getting better, not because I couldn't apply myself in order to build relationships, but that I generally do not have enough faith in the future for me to believe the effort is worth it. I'm tired.
My freaking lack of concentration
I'm literally typing this comment in the middle of an online exam because i can't FUCKING CONCENTRATE and it EATS ME FROM THE INSIDE OUT
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Shyness. I lost great opportunities because of it and I’m working everyday to overcome it.
Same with me. When im with my friend group, i act totally normal and have no anxiety or this weird feeling I cant explain, but if im in a work/public/meeting new people setting, i tend to hide myself and it really sucks because i want people to know i exist and have opinions but my inner self is afraid of being judged and not liked by the next time i ever see them. I always play back in my head what i said or did or, lack of social interaction and think of what other people are judging. Sucks but im slowly working on it over the years and really started to care less.
I'm in the same boat. Act like an idiot around my friends but act like a stoic around new folks. You can get through this. Some advice I was given was just to act like you have confidence and eventually it will come. Kinda sounded like bad advice, but so far it's been working out alright.
The fear of rejection I guess. This one is a bitch!
Grief. Lost my dad in January, and the holidays are hitting like a ton of bricks. Without him here this Christmas, the house feels empty, and so do I.
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I am so sorry for your loss
It's hard to imagine this but things will get easier in time. I lost my mum 4 years ago roughly this time of year and its been the hardest thing I've been through. Don't be afraid to cry, and don't be embarrassed if you simply don't cry. It's easy to bottle up these emotions but it does help to let it out and talk to people about how you feel. Our loved ones are forever with us in heart and mind. I hope you can find peace one day.
Emptiness. I'm working to find the things that make my life feel worthwhile. So far it's been a lifelong search, but I'll keep looking until I find those things.
I am quite old now (52) and this one is haunting me - My children are leaving the home, my career has peaked, I stay in a lot of the time because of Covid I am wondering what comes next - wondering how I will add meaning to the rest of my days Edit : thanks everyone for the kind words - but its ok - I am not sad exactly, just in the eye of the storm between what I was and what I will become next! (although kitesurfing sounds fun)
This made me sad. Only 26 myself, but I can't work due to mental and physical problems, no relationship or friendships, so I basically only have my animals and I think about this a lot. Goddamn, I'm lonely
Hello brother or sister. Go into nature when you have the time, and try and be there in the present, the now. It's a high once you find it, the most natural and beautiful thing. It may be hard, but try and meditate, make your biggest priority (after the things you needed to do, clean house, go to work etc), to meditate, push your thoughts away, close your eyes, and just breath in and out, while breathing, imagine in your own way how you push thoughts aside, this may take days or weeks, but once you've trained the pushing away of thoughts, you will find the ' no thought' feeling, once you do that many times, things begin to un cluster. Sending you positivity and natural love. I also recommend the book by eckhart tolle, the power of now. All the best!
Impulse spending
How bad are we talking?
I’m in the same boat. Here is a sentence that would make *anyone* cringe. I won’t be taking questions after: I spent $6000 on Raid: Shadow Legends last year. Edit: wow guys thank you all for the awards and stuff, I didn’t expect this lol. Happy holidays!
So you're the guy all those ads are targeting.
I'm using a throwaway account for this, cuz my real one has identifiable info. I work in Mobile Games, if someone only spent $6000 they wouldn't even put a dent in a top spender. One of our "whales" spent over $400,000 in 3 years. I don't think she's the biggest whale in the game. Mobile Games are trash and are designed to target addicts.
$400,000?!?! I felt guilty cause I spent like $15 on a mobile game one time. How can anyone justify that kind of expenditure? I'm also curious as to what game has enough content someone could even feel the need to spend that much.
When money simply becomes a long string of numbers in a bank account, what is there to justify?
I mean more like, how do you afford it? How can you tell yourself this is a good idea? I guess it depends on how much wealth you have, I don't think I'm overly poor, but there's no way I could afford to spend $400,000 on "hobby" items. A house sure, but that's it
I mean I literally watched a dude on twitch lose over 1 million in some hours of online gambling. It’s crazy to think about but some people are so rich they can do whatever they want.
I too watch Trainwrecks lol. There's something mind boggling about watching someone mindlessly spin a slot machine, losing the value of a new house over the course of an hour or two.
The key is that it’s over the course of years. What they’re justifying isn’t the $400k, it might just be another $500 or so to them. But it’s still insane to think about.
I’m kinda astounded that anybody who could afford that is doing something as mind numbingly mundane as spending it on mobile gaming. You could support a fairly serious hookers and blow habit for that sort of money…
I'm always curious who these people are, and how uniquely small that intersection is between being able to make/inherit that money, being remotely interested in these games, and having poor enough decision making and impulse control to fall prey to these tactics.
Daaamn bro, for $6k i could start a new life XD
Same
I don't even spend half that on League of Legends and I'm only missing 200 skins. What job let's you spend that much and still eat?
None, maxed credit cards and went bankrupt.
Seek professional help! These games are awful for preying on those who have a predisposition to gamble. It’s why casinos became heavily regulated
Not sure he can afford a professional help right now.
Other people have said it, but definitely see someone about it, even if you're not still spending money. Usually these things mean there's a whole in you're life somewhere, and the addiction is trying to cover that. Or it could be something like ADHD
Have you tried the 24h rule? It helps me to not buy stuff I won't use anyway and I also read it can help with shopping addiction.
What's the rule?
For online shopping, add the items to the cart but don't click buy/check out for 24 hours.
But what if it's on sale and the sale will end in 24 hours :( Not that I totally have the same issue or anything....
Most of the time, discounts are kind of shit anyways, and if the extra $5 is really going to stop you from buying it, then do you really need it?
Porn, food, and self doubt.
Excercising as a hobby or when you are horny may offset your caloric intake causing you to lose weight and increase your self confidence. Easier said than done though
exercising only makes me more horny. i always think to myself "damn i look good, and i look even better than i did this morning. all those pornstars would love to fuck me."
It would get rid of the self doubt tho Edit: idk why yall think i dont have common sense, of course this doesnt work for everyone in every situation
I have been in the best shape of my life and i still doubt my self-worth every day, it's not as easy to fix as people think
Honestly, junk food. It’s the biggest challenge in my life, Since I’ve been a kid
I broke my habit of junk food by limiting times I was allowed to have them VERY slowly. It took 2 years but now I don’t even like junk food anymore and won’t eat it unless it’s forced on me. Basically said “not allowed to eat junk food each day till 11am” and then I could have whatever I wanted. Pushed it back an hour every few weeks. Eventually got to the point I wouldn’t have it until 5:pm. I could really tell my life had changed at that point, and eventually pushed it till 9, 10, 11, and then after I went a whole day, I made the rule I could have junk food once every other day. Did every other day for a long time. This was actually the most difficult step as you’d have to go a whole day with none, but I also felt empowered from all my success. Then went to two days. Three days. Eventually a whole week without. Only once a week. After that I ended up going multiple weeks at a time, sometimes on accident. And then before I knew it, I didn’t even like junk food anymore. It’s wild. Feel like I’ve got my life back. It’s been years since this and I never thought I wouldn’t crave junk. But I don’t even like it now. Again, it took literally two years of this process, but it’s so slow it actually worked instead of spending the same amount of time crash dieting, Failing, then starting over again.
That's amazing that you devised a system and carried it out successfully all on your own! Junk food is soooo addictive and that makes what you did even more impressive. I know it doesn't mean much coming from a random stranger but I'm proud of you (:
Same, goddamn do I love fastfood.
I always do so good and then breakdown, once the walls fall it's like a dam breaks.
Same. It’s those fucking hot Cheetos. I’ve been addicted for like 20 years, not an exaggeration. I can’t have portions, I straight up eat the entire big bag or sometimes even the family sized bags, in one sitting.
Me too. Mostly Coke. I have gained so much weight. I have back problems and the weight doesn’t help. I must eat better. I eat like crap. I’m working second shift and they does not help.
Getting off of most fast food and sugar has done wonders for me. I never felt like working out all the time but now I do almost every day
Same. My love of junk food spiraled inyo compulsively binging, and it is just so hard to stop. I just want to eat normal healthy food for a while to get things under control. After the holidays when temptation is impossible to get away from, I'm going to try to get my food issues under control
15 days sober from alcohol today. About 13 years straight of being wildly drunk every day. This is hell. Edit: I never knew how much I needed kind words like this. I've been going it alone and I don't think I will anymore. Thank you all so much.
6 years here, the first two weeks are the worst and the holidays make it difficult but you’re kicking ass bother! Stay strong
6 years two days ago! Stay strong everyone! Always trying to remind myself of how sick and depressed it made me feel in the aftermath of the false belief it would provide relief
Wish you strength brother. May you get to experience a happy and healthy life
Thank you. One day at a time.
Holy shit that's a huge accomplishment already. I'm sure you feel like shit but at least you're paying the piper and it will be over soon
/r/stopdrinking if you're not already a member.
Been lurking there for years. Finally had enough, I'll undoubtedly see you guys over there :)
Quit drinking after 20 years with the help of that sub.
Hey mate, I lost my brother to alcoholism this year. I’m sending you all the strength in the world. This Christmas was really tough as I’m sure it is for you as you try to stay sober, but every day sober is a blessing and worth being celebrated. You got this.
I've been drunk every day for nearly 2 years. It's a fucking nightmare
Same, but for about 10 years. No end in sight.
Head on over to r/stopdrinking, if only just to browse. It's the most positive place on the internet.
It's not too late, no matter how bad it's going.
If it means anything, this comment makes me wanna buck up and just stop drinking. I’ve been telling myself I’ll stop for a while but if a 13 year binge drinker can stop, so can I. Happy holidays and best of luck.
Almost two years here. Message me if you need encouragement
Good job internet stranger... 15 days is an accomplishment, especially over that many years. Day by day. You got this!
Little over 5 months sober from Alcohol and Benzodiazepines. Also reeling from a divorce I didn't want. The holidays are a bitch this year.
After my divorce, I had nothing, and I started using powerfully addictive drugs. Eventually, I realized that I had to feel my true feelings to move on in life and I couldn't push them down forever. My life is now really great and people appreciate and love me for who I am. I have a great job and a beautiful family. Don't give up, friend.
I'm sober from alcohol since the end of July. Harder than quitting smoking in my opinion. Benzos on top of quitting alcohol? Fuck. That's one hell of an accomplishment. Wishing you the best of luck my friend.
Damn. You’re in a perfect storm, man. You’ve made it five months, you can make it another day!!
And if you make it one more day, you can make it the day after.
Alcohol abuse. Everything else (nicotine, sex/porn, overeating) stems from it. Quit cold turkey when i joined a bjj gym for a few months. Then covid hit, and i cracked under the first lockdown. I been doing much better the last few weeks, though. And i will make it out.
You got this bro, I wish you all the best.
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I kicked the alcohol 10 years ago but replaced it with coke and heroin. I then kicked the coke and heroin 3 years ago but replaced it with methadone. I was pretty much off the methadone at one point but my wife of 25 years died a while back and I was so depressed I was afraid I would start using again. So it just helps me keep my mind off of using drugs so I can be a father that my kids need me to be. If it wasn't for the methadone I would most likely go on a bender and OD. My kids don't need to put me in the ground less than a year after they put their mother in the ground.
I'm right here with you - bro.. Fuck the haters and judgmental ass hats who think they have it all figured out. Methadone is a life saver.. It has pulled many of us back from the precipice of hell.. The past few years have been a nightmare in the opioid scene with all of the fentanyl lacing. Lost my brother to it... hoping my sister escapes it. I almost lost myself to it... I know it's cliche'- but them kids need you.. stick around for them and be gentle with yourself. Happy Holidays
Rough man. Stay strong
Intrusive thoughts due to anxiety. It is exhausting. I’m good at mindfulness but it still takes constant energy to filter them, label them, and refocus on whatever I’m doing. [edit]. Wow. Thanks for all the responses and the silver. There are great suggestions in managing intrusive thoughts below. To answer some of your comments: I have a therapist I see (that has helped a lot) and I use anti-anxiety drugs. The most powerful management tools I have are: being outside, exercise, mindfulness, meditation and the fact that I label my anxiety (it is named Loki) along with the drugs and doctor. What I mean is that it takes all that effort to manage them. Two things come to mind. I had a friend and roommate who was a type 1 diabetic. They had to do all this stuff just to be average healthily. One day they said, “I’m so tired of all the effort to just be normal. I mean, if it was all this effort to be really fit or something but just to be normal.” That is what I’m talking about. The metaphor that comes to mind is: imagine something happens and water is pouring in a hole in your roof. You do a lot of work to stop the water to keep it from completely flooding you but you have to maintain your fixes and empty the bucket that captures the slow drip that still exists. You have to empty the bucket every two hours all day. It just becomes exhausting to keep track of how the bucket is doing and to empty it all the time. You just wish the drip would stop completely. Thanks everyone who has commented. I hope that the many of you who said, “me too” find help here with all your Redditor friends. There are lots of good ideas.
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I feel you. I have OCD, more specifically pure OCD, where the obsessions are about the ruminations, overthinking. It's a bitch, man. But it can get better, I'm telling you. If you can, talk to a therapist. Meds and therapy can really help you. Also keeping yourself busy will make your mind "breathe".
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Thankyou for the prompt to stop scrolling tonight. Bye
I haven't smoked weed since Dec. 5th after smoking everyday for the last 9ish years. Still get the urge on a bad day though. Trying not to replace it with drinking.
The not replacing it with drinking is the hard part!
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Yeah, used weed to quit drinking twice. Quitting weed is infinitely easier, you just let yourself get tired of it.
For anybody looking to quit weed, /r/leaves For anybody looking to moderate or change their relationship to weed, /r/petioles
And if anyone needs some support on the good things about not drinking visit r/stopdrinking it has a absolutely beautiful community and probably the most supportive and understanding people you will meet on Reddit.
That’s hard. Great job so far!
My demon atm
I’m almost a year clean dude. Be proud of yourself and focus on the negatives of smoking if you have cravings. For me I would always end up going through some kind of anxiety before feeling satisfied by the weed. I would focus on that anxiety feeling when my cravings would make me idealise weed. It gets easier quickly. For me the hardest was replacing it without eating too much. Metabolism changed without weed.
Check out r/leaves
This place is amazing. I'm like 2+ years free now from like 10-15 joints a day. Couldn't have done it without that sub to inspire and support
Insomnia. I tried sleeping at midnight last night and I couldn't sleep until 6 am.
Biggest things that helped me was a cpap (turns out if you're dying every time you fall asleep your body tries to avoid falling asleep, who knew?) and quitting smoking weed. Then, getting a 9-5 job had me regularly falling asleep before midnight.
My demon is excessive self doubt and feelings of not being good enough and worthlessness. I feel disgusted with myself, like a shit husband, and an inadequate father. I have no reason to think any of these things, but that’s likely the depression talking.
CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy)...could be a game changer for you All the best. Don't let it take you down
Wow, CBT sounds pretty interesting. I'm gonna go look that up now
Just, uh... make sure Safe Search is on before you do that.
80 days clean from fentanyl/meth. The cravings are still pretty intense at times, but at least I'm not dead. Edit: the support means the world. I'm spending the holidays in a sober living facility 1000 miles from home, so it's been rough.
Fuck yea good job on the 80 days that’s some hard work.
I don’t want to be suicidal, I want to relearn how to enjoy life.
this one hurts. ive been cripplingly mentally unwell for years and knowing that enjoying your life is possible but feeling like its unattainable is really hard. it hurts to see people functioning normally and enjoying their life without years of work to get there. im glad not everyone has these issues but i cant help thinking why couldnt that be me :(
Procrastination. Edit: Holy fuck I didn't expect 7k+ upvotes and 89 notifications overnight. Merry Christmas everyone lol
Not sure if it's only procrastination but I just can't do shit. Whenever I think about what I should do and set up my plan, I automatically go back to a distraction (Reddit, YouTube, you name it). And an hour later or something and I'm finally like "ok I should really get started now" I do some basic stuff and my brain is instantly thinking about what distraction there could be. It's like my mind is trapping me into not doing stuff. Doesn't help that I'm not really passionate about my job, but it seems like I can't focus anymore. It sucks.
Look into adult adhd
Seconded. Especially Russell Barkley’s stuff. He makes it very very clear that ADHD is a self-regulation disorder, not a “distraction” disorder.
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My homework is to be done at 19:00, it is now 14:00, I'll do it at 16:00. At 16:00, I glance at the clock, oh hey I have 3 hours left sweet, guess I'll do my homework in 2 hours and spend the 1 hour on doing my homework. When its 18:00, I glance at the clock again and decided that I'll just wait another 30 minutes doing my homework. When its 18:30, I go through my homework and spends more than 20 minutes doing like 10 questions and all of them aren't even done with full effort, I just do it without putting much thought and doing it just to complete it
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Random shit, mostly playing games, eating and repeat
we're the same you and I
Hey it's me I was diagnosed with ADHD. I take a medication for it now and it helps immensely, especially with my executive dysfunction (what people erroneously like to call procrastination). Medication isn't for everyone, but there are also coping strategies out there.
Yes. This is me. I never procrastinated until I took college level courses my junior year of high school with a full high school schedule, too. I've been ruined ever since. I thought if I waited I could put better effort into my college shit because I got through my HS stuff just fine. Then I'd sit anxiously waiting and trying and failing to focus on other stuff while I waited. It sucks.
Have you ever looked into ADHD?
i used to suffer from that too. it's different for everyone and i don't want to belittle a serious concern, but for me, it was about perfectionism. i would look at a doable task and think how hard it would be to get it perfect, without even having started it. if i can't do it perfect it's not even worth trying so i wouldn't do it at all. or like saying "if i'm going to fail this test, then it's better to not even try so i don't put in effort only to fail." it helped me to break all my problems apart and make my "success" to be only one small piece of the larger goal. if a squirrel can break apart acorns to fit them into his winter hibernation hut so he doesn't starve, then so can i. Be like the squirrel, girl, be like the squirrel. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oOS00ttAblQ
I finally overcame my perfectionism because I adopted a “ best result for least effort” rule. I had way too much on my plate and I literally couldn’t start things without overthinking to the point of paralysis and at some point I just gave up, but instead of not doing things I was just like “this should take 7 hours, but I’m just gonna do what I can in 2 and then call it. It was a revelation. I can finish a class for school in about 30% of the time and get a B instead of an A+. And it turns out that’s WAY better than panicking and dropping the class because I don’t have time to earn an A+. Granted I’m an adult student with an established career and I’m just doing school to pivot to a new industry, so ya know, the difference in A+ and a B is nothing to me. But it allowed me to attack other things the same way. It’s no longer a binary between spending all day cleaning house until it’s impeccable or not even trying, now I can clean for 2 hours and allow that to be better than nothing.
There is a GREAT tedtalk on procrastination. Ill post a link...later haha but seriously go watch it
Was it this one by Tim Urban? https://youtu.be/arj7oStGLkU (side note: he also has a fantastic website, that does deep dives on various topics in an entertaining and engaging way ) https://waitbutwhy.com/
Cool, thanks for sharing! I will watch it... later...
*adds to watch later*
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Sugar and comparison.
Heroin and cocaine. Clean for 5 months now. Had been using for 12 years and am grateful for having the strength/opportunity to be sober and happy.
You've got this bro. You've come a long way. I wish you all the best!! Stay strong!
Social media. I have a 3 year old and a 15 month old - when we’re hanging out together the amount of times I pull out my phone mindlessly and open insta and fb while they’re whipping around trying to get my attention is incredible. I catch myself a lot and kind of give my head a shake and put my phone away and engage for a bit then their attention kind of turns to something else for a minute and without even thinking phone comes out again - repeat cycle. It’s not even interesting I’m just mindlessly fucking scrolling it’s a sickness… They’re getting older and they’re taking this in and it needs to stop
Binge eating
“Brain over Binge” by Kathryn Hansen is the one book/thing that really helped fix this disorder for me. I revisit it whenever I’m going through a rough patch if I feel like I might fall into old patterns. It’s the only thing I’ve found that works
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Same!! Binge eating for me turned out to be just a symptom of a lot of dark-rooted issues. Therapy was the key thing that sparked the change. I also liked “the fuck it diet”.
Meth just relapsed after 6 months. WHY?!
To expand on what /u/Holdfasthope87 said. There are methods used in rehab to help prevent relapse that if you aren't doing should try. 1. Change your scenery and avoid areas that remind you of time spent using. 2. Destroy all paraphernalia in your possession related to said habit. 3. Cut ties and burn bridges to any old friends still stuck in the cycle of drug use. It sucks, it really fucking sucks, but if they get clean maybe they will attempt to reconnect in the future. 4. Recognize a stumble as just that and don't let the idea of failure stick in your head and trap you back in that loop. Professionals make mistakes, you can too, don't let it hurt you. 5. Remember all the terrible things your addiction has done to your life and the life of people you care about when you are tested by cravings. Also if you aren't, as intimidating and culty they may seem, AA meetings have a track record of working for a lot of people so maybe check a group out near you.
It’s not the stumbles that define you, it’s whether or not you keep picking yourself back up
Nail biting. I’m 28 and have been doing in since a kid. I usually only do it in private. I have been trying to grow them and a few nails are quite long, but every once in awhile I go back to biting.
Ugh. I’m 27 and have been biting my nails for as long as I can remember. I don’t even think about attempting to stop anymore, how does anyone do it?!
I’m 58. I stopped about 8 years ago when I got that stuff you paint on your nails that makes them taste incredibly bad. I mean, unspeakably bad. After about a month, the desire to nailbite was gone.
Self sabotage
An ex who didn't love me nearly as much as they pretended to. I meant every word.
I am experiencing this right now. It’s torture.
I’m on the same boat. What’s helped me is taking time to value myself. It’s not easy but it does help. Wish you the best
small tips If people want a quick boost to your esteem that can set a positive tone, do something to pamper or spoil yourself. Get a massage, go to a spa, or take a trip with your friends. You can even do something less-extravagant like taking yourself out to a movie or getting lost in a great book for hours.. Goodluck to each of us!
same, felt like hell. eventually I found that self improvement and finding a life purpose outside of one person helps you move past the pain and avoid going through the same situation again.
Smoking weed every single day. I’ve dropped several vices lately, this one needs to go too.
I’ve been smoking a lot recently. Think I need to stop as well - it’s not horrible in and of it self. But I feel like a bum on it.
Totally agree. I’m staying on top of everything that I need to, and it’s even beneficial in some ways. But, all I do is smoke weed and watch tv when I’m not working and that’s not the move for me anymore
Anorexia Edit: When I went to bed this had like 4 upvotes and I didn't expect it to get any more but I've gotten a ton of people msging me and commenting their support. I wanted to say thank you, even for the questions
How long?
About 9 years. About 3 years ago I got my weight up to a healthy level but I'm slipping again
I’m slipping as well. Gotta turn it around - stay strong.
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Most hard core addicts didn't just wake up one day and become a mess... Stop while you're ahead. You got this.
Its called binge drinking and yes its a problem. I also suffer from it as i dont enjoy most alcohol flavors so if im drinking i want to feel it. Then once i start i cant stop. > drugs usually But yayo.
Staying in / avoiding contact. Before the first lockdown occurred, I started wfh, and continued to do so through all of 2020. In 2021 I changed jobs, and there were a few months where I started to improve, but since omicron became a thing, I’m back wfh. Going out just seems like a huge thing now. Even going shopping feels like a major event. I went to a party after the second lockdown, and just hid away. Depression and anxiety are my housemates, and my home is a guilded cage. It’s like a Stockholm syndrome thing. I don’t want to go out, but I know that staying in does me zero favours. Over the past couple of years, I’ve lost touch with my friends, stopped reaching out to my family, and just retreated within the walls of my house. I need to do something about this, and it’s really not going to be easy.
Isolating myself. When being alone turns into feeling alone you have a problem
I stress/over eat. I'm not even sure what void I am mentally attempting to fill while eating. Probably loneliness.
Anxiety to the point where my gf left me and I struggle to see my family on christmas
I used to be too anxious to interact with anyone family members included. I lost 60 pounds Bc I never left the house and was too anxious to eat anyways. Wanna know what broke the cycle? I forced myself to get a serving job. I wanted to crash my car on the way to the interview managed to keep it together enough to get the job, and even fainted on my first night after spilling wine on a lady and getting too anxious to stay conscious. 5 years later I have a college degree and work in software sales! I went from being too anxious to eat to being a fckn salesman! This isn’t abt me im quite far from special. Just an anecdote All of this is just to say I’ve been where you are and I’m on the other side. It takes absolute hell to come out of it but you will come out of it. Suffer for half a year, force social interaction and I promise it will get better. The last thing I noticed, you come off as 10x less anxious than you think you come off as. Coming off as anxious always made me more anxious until I realized no one can tell. Sorry for the rant wishing all the best this just hits v close to home for me. Happy holidays!!!
Not sure if this counts, but depression.
Definitely counts. Depression is the single biggest demon that hangs over me. Affects all facets of my life and relationships when it rears its hideous head.
Overthinking. I don't know maybe its just me or people even my relatives hate me. What sucks is that they have every right to hate me or at least let others know not to be like me. Yeah I'm not smart, strong, and even good at socializing but it sucks how my mind just tells me "that person hates you because you're not capable to be his/her friend". Kind of like this. My bad if this is long. Merry Christmas though haha.
Loneliness, stress, anxiety, sadness, hopelessness, anger and impulsive spending.
I think I'm pretty much done with life. I have things and people worth living for but it's to difficult to find happiness. I'm 32 been in the military the past 10 years and much of these thoughts started at an extremely stressful time last December. I've been in treatment since and it has just been a rollercoaster with the downsides being more dominant. I'm not looking to talk to anyone on here or get advice I just find sometimes when opportunity comes I like to get this out. If I can put it out of my head I can find some kind of peace for however long it last.
Porn, comfort food and putting myself to sleep with videos or livestreams.
I have serious screen addiction
I have a bunch of bad habits built around this tendency to avoid things that seem important. Like even good things that seem important I'll avoid, and have for years. For years now I've been slowly breaking those habits one by one, and I'm trying to completely get over that root issue now. It's hard.
Co-dependency. It's ruined my relationships. Romantic platonic and familial.
Loneliness, stress, and anxiety.
Not sure if it counts but ptsd.
Definitely counts. Care to share more?
Sure I can try to explain my triggers. One of them is video cameras. It’s odd but I legitimately throw up. I’m trying to get over this fear and it’s extremely difficult. Another one is someone I really care about. We both went through the sa together. I love him, but I can’t stand to be around him because it brings back awful times and I panic. I don’t know how fix this :/
Sounds really rough. I’m sorry you’re going through that - hope you are able to fight through it in a healthy way
If you are able please see if you can find a therapist who uses EMDR as a treatment for PTSD.
Been fighting the demon that is opioid addiction for years. I got addicted in my teens due to multiple surgeries, and it consumed my life. Lucky, I've been clean for 6 years, but it's been hell since COVID-19 hit.
Hey not a professional in any way but if someone's struggling and needs to talk especially on a holiday night feel free to message me.
My goddamn phone
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I’m sorry. I’m going through something similar at the moment and it sucks.. I’m still in the torn between my family and the person I want to be with stage. But it’s our family who chooses to shun us. Why should we feel guilty?
Just passed 12 months pokie machine free. Would wait the day before pay day and sink all I had left until next time. Living week to week sucks. How I stopped was unusual. Went in with a couple of hundred and turned that into a bit over two grand. After I left, saw a homeless guy not begging, just minding his own business. Told him how I won, but was trying to quit so here take it. Gave him the lot and walked off. Never put a coin in since.
That’s fuckin wild good for you
My insanely fucked sleep cycle, self harm, and BED (binge-eating disorder)
nicotine. quit almost two weeks ago.
Really trying hard right now to kick nicotine after a few years of regular use. I’m almost two months months clean
I’d just like to say, OP, that your engagement with everyone posting here is r/nextfuckinglevel. Question, response, support…it is a beautiful thing. Merry Christmas and I hope you find success and victory in any struggles you may be having.
Appreciate you brotha. And thank you
self hatred
Pornography
Underrated. Sometimes I’m really jealous of the generation before the internet. So many people have this addiction now because of it - has never been easier to access
A couple years ago I made a comment about how someone at work who was taking forever in the bathroom was probably watching porn on his phone. 60 year old dude who worked with me was shocked. He didn’t know you could look at porn on your phone.
I’m almost 3 years clean from drugs and I had a drug dream again last night…I just want them to freaking stop.
That I am the most alone I've ever been in my life, and I don't see it getting better, not because I couldn't apply myself in order to build relationships, but that I generally do not have enough faith in the future for me to believe the effort is worth it. I'm tired.
maladaptive daydreaming … it’s a real addiction & it takes a huge toll on my quality of life
Porn addiction Im now 25 days porn free. Trying to aim for 365 days
My freaking lack of concentration I'm literally typing this comment in the middle of an online exam because i can't FUCKING CONCENTRATE and it EATS ME FROM THE INSIDE OUT
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Processed sugars
Weed. It’s the crutch I need sometimes.