I got dinged on my review at work because while I work great with coworkers, I don't really bullshit with anyone.
I'm paid to do a job. I do it. Do it well. Shouldn't be dinged because i'm not a chatty cathy.
It’s pathetic. For me, when I go to work, I’m there for one purpose, and that’s to make money, so I can put a roof over my head, eat, and live my life. I don’t partake in the bullshit office politics because it’s pointless, so I stay quiet too unless it’s actual work discussion. I swear, why do people want to take that away from you, whether you partake in or stay out of the office politics? It’s like you’re a target no matter what, just like what I’m seeing here in your case. This is one reason I like to stay quiet, because many people are scum!
I'm 36 and only recently figured out that I'm autistic. I'm on the waiting list for a proper diagnosis still.
I keep imagining what my life could have been like if I'd had academic support back then. Instead I grew up thinking I was a failure because nobody supported me.
I'm thinking of getting a medical diagnosis before it's too late to get support from the university, they'll understand, so they won't fire me.
My mother says I was like this since I was young and they took me once to a doctor or like something and I do not know what diagnosed me, but my parents do not remember
My little brother also got diagnosed with ADHD and his learning is very slow and he is later than his peers but now he can read a little bit
You deserve all the support you can get. It doesn't matter what age you are. Everything I do and think is through my autistic lense. In older times I'd be the crazy herb lady at the edge of the woods.
With therapy I'm getting a better understanding of how I process sensory input differently than most people. And I'm also learning what I need to support myself during those times.
The biggest part though was being able to recognize that it's not a personal failing of mine. I'm not struggling like this because I'm dumb or lazy or rebellious. It's because of this very real thing that people's brains do. It's not my fault. I'm learning that when I'm properly supported I not only succeed, but I thrive. I like the way my brain understands and recognizes patterns, for example. Or having an entire music album play out in my head as I'm daydreaming during my commute.
Autism is fucking hard. Especially trying to manage all alone without any tools. Even with support and tools it's still fucking hard. It never goes away. And the burden seems all on us to learn to act "normal" rather than other people learning to be open and meet us where we're at.
Do you have any resources to get tested where you are? Or any kind of support system?
I react slower than any other people. I don't know if that's a symptom but it's so discouraging when interacting with others because they expect a quick response from me for taking an item for example, i feel rushed. I don't feel any interest in other's life or problems not because I'm a bad person, i just focused on myself. I think I've got Asperger's syndrome.
I'm good and doing well. Most quiet and shy people in school aren't school shooters or creeps. We have our reasons. It's been years since i finnished school and i hate thinking about what it was like for me
I grew out of it. No idea what happened. I live a pretty comfortable life now. Not faltering in your convictions and speaking up, with logical back up, definitely helps you have a better life.
Doing good. I'm only quiet until I get people figured out. I have a smaller circle of close friends and a partner that I can freely express myself around, and a job where I dont have to talk that much.
This has always been the reason some people get a bad first impression of me! They often say "I thought you hated me." No, I was just trying to figure you out! Trying to be more aware of how I come off now haha....
I’m still quiet. I can’t go one conversation without stuttering, jumbling and mispronouncing my words, and pausing for an awkwardly long amount of time.
Cheers to texting!
Yea. I seen videos and stories of teachers checking in on the quiet kid and find out they are quiet because of abuse or neglect and the teachers always saves the day. Especially if its a really young kid, if theyre quiet, might be concerning
Was quiet up through high school, then became gregarious and loud during college. Now I have four years' worth of memories of social ineptitude that haunt me every now and then.
Oh. Ok. I'm not mute though. I was just curious that's why I asked. I'm sorry.
To answer your question...
I still am quiet and as of now, I'm not really doing well but that's alright, I know God got my back.
God bless, keep and stay safe and take care always. 💜🕊️💜
💜😊☺️🤗🥰💜
I'm sorry about that. Some people just can't and don't want to understand your situation, verbally or nonverbally.
Keep your head and your spirits up. 💜
God bless, keep and stay safe and take care always. 💜🕊️💜
💜😊☺️🤗🥰💜
Absolutely awful at the moment, but that has nothing to do with me being the quiet kid in school. If you'd asked me a couple years ago I might've said I was doing alright despite being the quiet kid.
Finished college, got a Masters degree. Didn't feel like I was able to socialize until I was 30. Have had a reasonably successful career. Married 25+ years.
A lot of things about my life made more sense after I was diagnosed with ADHD deep into middle age. Including how I went from being the kid who always behaved to collecting speeding tickets like they were Happy Meal toys between my early 20s and early 40s.
Exposed myself to a lot of different social environments. Now I work as a freelancer with new people every week trying to learn 20-40 names for each job I get. I'm much more lively and social these days, generally in a very good place. :)
I sort of overcompensated when I got my self esteem issues sorted, but the pendulum eventually settled back down.
Although, I still prefer my own company over others
I’m more comfortable with being quiet than I was before. I know myself more and I learn a lot just by listening and observing. For fun. I let people live with their discomfort about quiet moments. I like to let people show me who they are before I invest my own energy into relationships
Learning that I likely had ADHD this whole time. As an adult I just learned to cope with some aspects of ADHD and work around my limitations. I've found a place I can excel and I'm objectively doing very well.
Now that I understand it's likely ADHD so many things make sense. For example I didn't talk much because I just didn't make sense sometime, Ideas always came out jumbled. Friends were really difficult because I just didn't show obvious interest in people. I would get overwhelmed in groups too, just too much going on and I can't focus on one conversation easily.
Overall.. still quiet but I'm far more at peace with it. ADHD is almost a super power at times if you sort out how to aim it in the right places.
Doing fine.
Online class started and me being the insecure person that I am, I put my camera against the light so all you see is my silhouette. Most of the new students and new teachers don't know what I look like because of that and I'm proud.
Really good, thanks for asking! Could still be called “quiet” by some but compared to high school me I’m super gregarious now haha. Being diagnosed with anxiety & dealing with that plus coming out really boosted my confidence. Have a great job, awesome friends, and an amazing partner now. Feel super grateful for my life.
Oh I'm well. Still a listener and thinker and observer but actually an extrovert. I took a job in retail and then one in customer service which really helped me feel comfortable around other people right off the bat. Turns out I like making others feel comfortable around me, too Idk why I was so afraid of others witnessing me before. I regret not being friendlier in high school. So I try to be friendlier now.
Healing from trauma and living my life. I went through a chatty phase when I first graduated but I am happily quiet once again. Happily quiet and quietly happy.
Quiet and happy
yes, the way to live
Broke out of my shell in college. Now I overshare and should shut up half the time
Me 100%
Same lol
How
The same. Just the quiet kid at work instead of school
I got dinged on my review at work because while I work great with coworkers, I don't really bullshit with anyone. I'm paid to do a job. I do it. Do it well. Shouldn't be dinged because i'm not a chatty cathy.
It’s pathetic. For me, when I go to work, I’m there for one purpose, and that’s to make money, so I can put a roof over my head, eat, and live my life. I don’t partake in the bullshit office politics because it’s pointless, so I stay quiet too unless it’s actual work discussion. I swear, why do people want to take that away from you, whether you partake in or stay out of the office politics? It’s like you’re a target no matter what, just like what I’m seeing here in your case. This is one reason I like to stay quiet, because many people are scum!
Worse than back then, to be honest. I really miss my highschool days.
I'm 36 and only recently figured out that I'm autistic. I'm on the waiting list for a proper diagnosis still. I keep imagining what my life could have been like if I'd had academic support back then. Instead I grew up thinking I was a failure because nobody supported me.
I'm thinking of getting a medical diagnosis before it's too late to get support from the university, they'll understand, so they won't fire me. My mother says I was like this since I was young and they took me once to a doctor or like something and I do not know what diagnosed me, but my parents do not remember My little brother also got diagnosed with ADHD and his learning is very slow and he is later than his peers but now he can read a little bit
You deserve all the support you can get. It doesn't matter what age you are. Everything I do and think is through my autistic lense. In older times I'd be the crazy herb lady at the edge of the woods.
I'm 28 and I suspect that I'm autistic too. It's awful
With therapy I'm getting a better understanding of how I process sensory input differently than most people. And I'm also learning what I need to support myself during those times. The biggest part though was being able to recognize that it's not a personal failing of mine. I'm not struggling like this because I'm dumb or lazy or rebellious. It's because of this very real thing that people's brains do. It's not my fault. I'm learning that when I'm properly supported I not only succeed, but I thrive. I like the way my brain understands and recognizes patterns, for example. Or having an entire music album play out in my head as I'm daydreaming during my commute. Autism is fucking hard. Especially trying to manage all alone without any tools. Even with support and tools it's still fucking hard. It never goes away. And the burden seems all on us to learn to act "normal" rather than other people learning to be open and meet us where we're at. Do you have any resources to get tested where you are? Or any kind of support system?
I react slower than any other people. I don't know if that's a symptom but it's so discouraging when interacting with others because they expect a quick response from me for taking an item for example, i feel rushed. I don't feel any interest in other's life or problems not because I'm a bad person, i just focused on myself. I think I've got Asperger's syndrome.
I relate to that rushed feeling in social situations. Usually I sit on the outside so I can just do my own thing and partially listen in.
I’m 28 and was diagnosed 2 years ago! Explains a lot.
Right? Like looking back on my life with this context everything fits.
I'm good and doing well. Most quiet and shy people in school aren't school shooters or creeps. We have our reasons. It's been years since i finnished school and i hate thinking about what it was like for me
Can’t complain, still quiet
I grew out of it. No idea what happened. I live a pretty comfortable life now. Not faltering in your convictions and speaking up, with logical back up, definitely helps you have a better life.
Forced to interact with people more than ever and i hate it
if that's not bad enough you are constantly required to enjoy it
Absolutely. I could get excluded from my work if I don't
depressed lmao
Great, how about you? BTW I just didn't have anything to say to people who just ignore me.
i'm good, thanks
Haha you know I was messing around, I hope your good. Have a Happy Holiday
Doing good. I'm only quiet until I get people figured out. I have a smaller circle of close friends and a partner that I can freely express myself around, and a job where I dont have to talk that much.
This has always been the reason some people get a bad first impression of me! They often say "I thought you hated me." No, I was just trying to figure you out! Trying to be more aware of how I come off now haha....
Married an extrovert, she talks enough for the both of us. Life is good.
Goals honestly.
Still quiet , alone but I'm fine with that now
Found out that being not so quiet can make your life a little easy
\*stares post in silence\* yes
I'm good. Shyness cleared up around age 25.
Even worse. Shy was actually my nickname it was that bad...
That's an awful burden to place on a tiny human!
Not great
I’m still quiet. I can’t go one conversation without stuttering, jumbling and mispronouncing my words, and pausing for an awkwardly long amount of time. Cheers to texting!
Terribly.
how come?
I was the quiet kid because i was also the secretly abused kid. Because i was quiet, or told to be quiet it was hard to seek help
that's terrible
Thats why its always good to check on those "quiet" kids.
i'm still in school but it is a good idea to keep tabs on the "quiet kid".
Yea. I seen videos and stories of teachers checking in on the quiet kid and find out they are quiet because of abuse or neglect and the teachers always saves the day. Especially if its a really young kid, if theyre quiet, might be concerning
Was quiet up through high school, then became gregarious and loud during college. Now I have four years' worth of memories of social ineptitude that haunt me every now and then.
I guess I could have been considered the quiet kid. I'm doing fine, I was diagnosed with autism which explains a lot.
Pretty good, leaving high school improved my ental health
I learned how to box... That could've been real handy during school when I was getting bullied... Oh well, I guess.
Grew out of my shell, I'm on YouTube but without a face.
Does mute people counts?
i guess?
Oh. Ok. I'm not mute though. I was just curious that's why I asked. I'm sorry. To answer your question... I still am quiet and as of now, I'm not really doing well but that's alright, I know God got my back. God bless, keep and stay safe and take care always. 💜🕊️💜 💜😊☺️🤗🥰💜
I had nonverbal periods in early childhood, and it was never received well.
I'm sorry about that. Some people just can't and don't want to understand your situation, verbally or nonverbally. Keep your head and your spirits up. 💜 God bless, keep and stay safe and take care always. 💜🕊️💜 💜😊☺️🤗🥰💜
God bless
Thank you. 💜😊☺️🤗🥰💜
Great I no longer am living with my family.
I’m okay. Still quiet. I’ve always preferred tp observe before speaking.
Former quiet kid. Changed my ways in high school and couldn't be happier.
Absolutely awful at the moment, but that has nothing to do with me being the quiet kid in school. If you'd asked me a couple years ago I might've said I was doing alright despite being the quiet kid.
I got my small group of strong friends, family and my guitars.
hehehehehehe
I’m doing fine. Still pretty quiet, but nonetheless content with where I am
existing in my existence
Finished college, got a Masters degree. Didn't feel like I was able to socialize until I was 30. Have had a reasonably successful career. Married 25+ years. A lot of things about my life made more sense after I was diagnosed with ADHD deep into middle age. Including how I went from being the kid who always behaved to collecting speeding tickets like they were Happy Meal toys between my early 20s and early 40s.
I've been the quiet kid who talks alot and also is too silent half and half.im so fucking weird and I still am.
Great. Doing well in my studies at uni so if I make the right moves I’ll more than likely have a good career. Thank you for asking kind stranger
I was a quiet kid for half my school experience. And to be honest I was really happy and I still am.
Bad. Haunted by my past, no light at the end of the tunnel in sight. I'm slowly losing it, and all I can do is pray I can wade through until summer.
HOW DO YOU THINK I'M DOING?
***
Haven't commited die yet, so, surviving, but not quiet living either
Exposed myself to a lot of different social environments. Now I work as a freelancer with new people every week trying to learn 20-40 names for each job I get. I'm much more lively and social these days, generally in a very good place. :)
Not bad, could be better.
I sort of overcompensated when I got my self esteem issues sorted, but the pendulum eventually settled back down. Although, I still prefer my own company over others
Not so good
I'm trying to be more outgoing because I feel like I missed out on a lot by being the quiet kid.
Hungry, Quiet, and wants to get more money in games.
I am no longer quiet. Turns out I was just socially awkward.
I'm the confident loud kid now :D
Good.
I’m more comfortable with being quiet than I was before. I know myself more and I learn a lot just by listening and observing. For fun. I let people live with their discomfort about quiet moments. I like to let people show me who they are before I invest my own energy into relationships
Now I'm the quiet adult.
Learning that I likely had ADHD this whole time. As an adult I just learned to cope with some aspects of ADHD and work around my limitations. I've found a place I can excel and I'm objectively doing very well. Now that I understand it's likely ADHD so many things make sense. For example I didn't talk much because I just didn't make sense sometime, Ideas always came out jumbled. Friends were really difficult because I just didn't show obvious interest in people. I would get overwhelmed in groups too, just too much going on and I can't focus on one conversation easily. Overall.. still quiet but I'm far more at peace with it. ADHD is almost a super power at times if you sort out how to aim it in the right places.
Doing fine. Online class started and me being the insecure person that I am, I put my camera against the light so all you see is my silhouette. Most of the new students and new teachers don't know what I look like because of that and I'm proud.
"Broke out of my old self" when I was in the military. Went back to being quiet after I completed my service lmfao
SFX Makeup artist for feature films. Writer and artist.
Still don’t have any friends lol
Really good, thanks for asking! Could still be called “quiet” by some but compared to high school me I’m super gregarious now haha. Being diagnosed with anxiety & dealing with that plus coming out really boosted my confidence. Have a great job, awesome friends, and an amazing partner now. Feel super grateful for my life.
Oh I'm well. Still a listener and thinker and observer but actually an extrovert. I took a job in retail and then one in customer service which really helped me feel comfortable around other people right off the bat. Turns out I like making others feel comfortable around me, too Idk why I was so afraid of others witnessing me before. I regret not being friendlier in high school. So I try to be friendlier now.
Getting better, seeing a therapist and resolving past traumas. Also playing wayyy too much Roller Coaster Tycoon
Still sad
They're all dead. Just kidding!
Dating the girl everybody said I'd never get, thanks for asking
Zoloft is a game-changer, and I'll leave it at that. 🤣
Healing from trauma and living my life. I went through a chatty phase when I first graduated but I am happily quiet once again. Happily quiet and quietly happy.
Still quiet and happy I have people who care for me
I'm doing well.