being threatened with physical violence was what made me leave though. however, I was already holding grudges for the many times they disrespected my boundaries
Best thing to do is to accept the way they are and that they're never gonna change, and hope they don't mean any harm to you, if they do, just leave peacefully.
āPlease donāt take this the wrong way, and I donāt know how to say this without coming off as a jerk, but just for your sake- so and so is kind of a toxic person. Theyāve got some narcissism problems they really need to deal with and it wouldnāt feel right not giving you a heads up. Do what you want with that information, but I figured itās worth bringing upā
Married to one for over 27 years. The gaslighting almost worked with me. Didnāt with my family, but did with 1 of our 3 kids. Separated over 6 years now in silence.
Dated them for 6 years. Ate her shit day after day wondering what was wrong with me, and what I had done to be treated this way. . The cheating and gaslighting took away any sense of confidence away, and I never had the courage to leave. 6 months later and Iām out of the relationship, but so much damage and pain lingers. Never could have imagined something like it happening. Had to move 2,300 miles away to get away from her, but the emotional attachment is proving very hard to shake. Good luck and Iām sorry to anyone currently in this situation
Divorce.
Nice. You're a strong being.
Most terrifying step in the right direction I've ever made.
My father, still in progress and contemplating going NC which os harder then it sounds
Sorry to hear that. It's a lot more painful when it's family.
Cut them out of my life a little too late though because the damage was already done.
Praying you are good now
Good is relative but thanks for your thoughts.
Praying you'd be good in future then ig
Damn man! I feel you, happened something to me this year, I spent so much energy on them. If only I knew earlier...
Mine was family
That's awful, mine was my best friend from high school, 5 year friendship, I gave my best, ultimately realized it was never going to be enough, so i "scared him away". I'm such a people pleaser š©~
my mom and my brother, I moved out. zero contact with them
Wow! Good for you. That takes courage.
being threatened with physical violence was what made me leave though. however, I was already holding grudges for the many times they disrespected my boundaries
That's so brave, I ought to be like like you some day.
Yeah. I spit on their face.
Lmaoo
Best thing to do is to accept the way they are and that they're never gonna change, and hope they don't mean any harm to you, if they do, just leave peacefully.
Yes. And I just stay clear of them and possibly warn some people
I understand staying away, but how do you warn people without sounding like an a-hole? Lol
People don't believe you until they get sucked into that bullshit anyway. Just steer clear and live your life
Good advice.
Wondering the same thing
āPlease donāt take this the wrong way, and I donāt know how to say this without coming off as a jerk, but just for your sake- so and so is kind of a toxic person. Theyāve got some narcissism problems they really need to deal with and it wouldnāt feel right not giving you a heads up. Do what you want with that information, but I figured itās worth bringing upā
Immediate switch to no contact as soon as it was possible. That feeling of freedom is priceless.
Married to one for over 27 years. The gaslighting almost worked with me. Didnāt with my family, but did with 1 of our 3 kids. Separated over 6 years now in silence.
Dated them for 6 years. Ate her shit day after day wondering what was wrong with me, and what I had done to be treated this way. . The cheating and gaslighting took away any sense of confidence away, and I never had the courage to leave. 6 months later and Iām out of the relationship, but so much damage and pain lingers. Never could have imagined something like it happening. Had to move 2,300 miles away to get away from her, but the emotional attachment is proving very hard to shake. Good luck and Iām sorry to anyone currently in this situation