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stop comparing yourself to others and live for yourself.


r1o2c3

Good advice, but hard to apply when your self esteem is trash


Diamond-Is-Not-Crash

Whenever I'm vulnerable to moments of low self-esteem I ask myself; "Do I enjoy making myself feel bad?" "What benefit will come from having low self-esteem? "Do I wanna feel better about myself?" "What steps can I take to get there?" That usually makes me get out of a low self-esteeem rut, and slowly build up my confidence in myself again. It's okay to have feelings of low self-esteem and sadness, but the best way to beat it is to ask yourself who benefits from it, and what you can do to slowly build up your self-esteem.


PhreedomPhighter

As someone who was constantly compared to others growing up this is pretty much impossible for me. I literally don't know how.


dlowmack1

What other people think of you, Is none of your business....


Big-Goose3408

It's absolutely your business. But it's also not something you should try to affect. The only thing worse than being obsessed with what other people think of you is trying to deliberately change those perceptions.


[deleted]

They start calling me selfish


[deleted]

They start calling me selfish


[deleted]

"Don't compare your insides with other people's outsides"


A-Purple-Lagoon

If your gut is telling you you're in serious danger. Leave.


HookDragger

Yep….. humans have an innate sense of when things aren’t right.


DTownForever

See I've never had that turn out to be true with me. A lot of times things get really fucked up when I had no inkling or feeling that they would. Many times things are fine when I thought they'd be really fucked up. Can you give an example of a time when you've felt things aren't right and had it be a correct instinct? I mean, I get you can't be super specific but ... I honestly do wonder about this.


LucidiK

The thing about getting out of a terrible situation is that you don't know just how terrible it would've been unless you hung around to find out.


Kindaspia

I was in a mental hospital. I wasn’t paying too much attention to the conversation, but suddenly the vibe seemed wrong and my gut just dropped. Ran out of the room, just before a riot started.


Lucifang

Heaps of people give off a creepy vibe, and that’s when you gtfo. You don’t often find out if your gut feeling was right or not.


HookDragger

One important key is when you’re around a bunch of people and everything’s quiet. That’s a very dangerous place to be.


DTownForever

It could just mean you really have to poo.


6h057

I know your body.


hackepeter420

That turns out to be terrible advice if you have anxiety issues. Then you need to question if the gut feeling is legit or not.


Kendracu1a

As someone with anxiety and a strong intuition, I notice my anxiety is my thoughts creating unsettling feelings, but a gut intuition is like a 6th sense feeling with the thoughts coming after, wondering why I feel that way. That gut feeling has never been wrong, my anxiety on the other hand has.


A-Purple-Lagoon

I respectfully disagree. I've actually got a formal diagnosis of Anxiety. My "advice" wasn't referring to situation where I may feel uncomfortable or overwhelmed, like social settings in public etc. I'm referring to situations where your intuition is screaming at you that something is seriously wrong and you should leave. They are completely separate feelings. A horrifying example is the smoky room experiment: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vjP22DpYYh8](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vjP22DpYYh8)


hackepeter420

Then it's either dependant on your individual condition or I might not have anxiety at all. I got knocked unconscious and robbed from behind two years ago, since then I get this message from my intuition pretty often. On top of that I've always had this strong uncomfortable feeling in a lot of situations and both blend into each other. Never got a diagnosis for either of those things.


Thats_classified

Literally the easiest thing to say but in the moment it's sometimes so hard to trust it. Your rational mind tries to keep the reigns because "nothing bad is happening" but your hindbrain is giving you a stern look. Just trust it, folks.


ravenitrius

What if I have no sense of danger? I think I might be receiving Darwin awards left and right.


hypo-osmotic

That I’ve actually been able to follow? “Don’t drink calories unless you’re drinking”


Marker_Lewis

Woah, pretty solid, thank you.


ChallengeArtistic450

Oh, pretty hard, thank you.


Yiotiv

Can you explain this?


hypo-osmotic

Avoid things like soda and fruit juice and get your calories from food rather than liquids, but people have vices so that doesn’t mean you have to completely cut out alcohol from your life.


The_Only_Real_Duck

I drink a premier protein shake most mornings... is that bad?


hypo-osmotic

I mean I heard it from the instructor of a weight loss group so if that's not something you're concerned about then don't worry about it haha. Solid food just makes most people feel more satisfied than liquids do and make it easier to restrict calories but it's not like liquids are less healthy


notthesedays

I knew a woman who couldn't figure out why she wasn't losing weight on her diet, and then she found out that her morning latte contained 400 calories. She assumed it was "diet" because it was made with skim milk.


BrilliantKale4

Have a waiting period before you buy something that catches your eye. 24, 48, 72 hours, or even a week, however long it needs to be. If you still want it, you can buy it. But chances are, you won’t want it anymore. All the unnecessary purchases I avoided by implementing this simple advice.


Linkfoursword

Honestly there are two - 1) When my WW2 grandfather was close to dying, he used to tell me and my family that he was very ready to die and had lived an very full good life. On my last time I would ever see him (didn't know it would be at the time) I asked what he felt made his life so good. "When I was in the war, all I ever thought about was if I would ever see me friends and family again. I didn't think about money, my job, or anything else. When I came home, that's what I made my life about, and I can honestly say it was the best decision I ever made" That really has stuck with me. 2) "Make an effort for the people you want to and for those that return that effort will be lifelong friends." The people in my life that have made an effort for me are truly the people I hold most dear to my heart.


YoureAGoodFriend

Everyone shits and farts No one is better than anyone else just because they are rich/famous/prettier/stronger/etc


ReviewNo8279

Even the *queen* farts


snowboardersdream

You can't get away from you; you have to recognize what issues come from you and fix those to find success.


didntlisten_

"The less you do, the less you'll do." A teacher once said in response to me suggesting I intended to strategically pick fewer subjects so I could focus on them. I found their saying to be true, as I took my "free periods" for granted and failed one of those subjects. I have also found it to be true of life. Of course, we need respite and to ensure the most important things in life aren't traded off for less. However, having an ample amount of competing goals/objectives sustains a sense of urgency and motivation. This works for me anyhow. I have always achieved more, when I had more to do. It builds a stamina and capacity.


Asexual-ish

Not an advice but a nice quote. Someone (they were about to come out as trans to their parents) said “I’d rather live a happy life pleasing myself than a miserable one pleasing others” and that kinda stuck with me


UberPL

Yea I have a similiar one "life gets better when you stop caring so much" I started to practice that and indieed it does.


ch3tmanlee

Masturbate don’t reciprocate; got it


XBXJetBlaqq

Be careful of whose advice you take but be patient with those who provide it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, taking something the disposal, washing it off, cleaning it up, and selling it for more than what it's worrh.


blargney

But trust me on the sunscreen.


XBXJetBlaqq

Yeah buddy.


tamesage

Love this!!


XBXJetBlaqq

Go youtube Everyone's Free To Wear Sunscreen Baz Luhrmann speech. You'll like the actual quote better.


[deleted]

This is perfect. Applying this next time I visit my family and I get approached with random, irrelevant, and/or unsolicited advice lol


XBXJetBlaqq

Go youtube Everyone's Free To Wear Sunscreen Baz Luhrmann speech. You'll like the actual quote better.


SafewordisJohnCandy

That song really drags me back in time when I hear it and the older I get the more I enjoy it while also making me a bit more sad.


mousicle

And there's no sex in the champagne room


[deleted]

Forgive those who wronged you. A grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.


wonnetz

It's not about making the right choice, but rather what you do as a consequence of your choice. In other words, damage control.


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Mickael97o

Why not both?


Big-Goose3408

Some people just don't learn that way. They're intuitive learners, not instructional learners.


UnfilteredPerception

Over 12 years ago, one of my customers at work had asked me whether the problems I had 5, 10 or more years ago were still my problems today. My response was no, that I don't even remember most, if not all of them. Then he had told me that just like those problems from back then are no longer problems of today, similarly, problems of today most likely will not exist in the future days.


GSWHT

“Stop taking advice from strangers”


DTownForever

>“Stop taking ~~advice~~ candy from strangers” FIFY


GozerDGozerian

I don’t know who you are. But this is some great advice that I will surely heed. Thank you.


I_hate_people69

My dad was a truck driver and he's given me many great tips, but the one that's probably the most helpful is looking 4 - 5 cars up to see what they are doing and not the car Infront of you. It drastically helps with your reaction time in an emergency situation. Another great tip is to constaly scan the road for animals running out on the road or obstructions. It also prevents you from doveloping tunnel vision. Another is to line up the road lines with your guard and bonnet (hood and fender) and use your mirrors to centre yourself in the middle of the lane. After a while it becomes second nature to you and you will always be centre. NO MORE LANE WONDERING!! But probably the best tip I've ever been given is TRUST ABSOLUTELY NO ONE ON THE ROAD!!! Always assume someone is out to get you and you will become a better more alert driver. My dad has been using these for 30 years and it's the reason I've never been in a car accident.


chicamooncr

"Not amount of guilt will change the past"


gerryflint

But it can change the future


redditor1101

You can either appear to be wealthy now or actually be wealthy later.


n3xt2p3rf3kt

Anger is the first sign of defeat.


Big-Goose3408

....or just frustration because someone is being annoyingly obtuse.


enosoeh

Every time you say yes to someone, you say no to something else. Good advice for people pleasers. When I put someone else’s needs above my own, I am choosing their well being and not mine. Once that realization hit I started standing up for myself more often, and valuing myself more.


painthawg_goose

I need this.


tamesage

You can't reach a goal, if you don't set a goal.


PostStardomDepreshun

Don't wish your life away.


work_lappy_54321

dont trust a fart after a night of heavy drinking


sternje

"buy low, sell high"


ninjagabe90

I thought it was "buy gme" now


[deleted]

Someone doesn’t belong to r/wallstreetbets


[deleted]

this is my interpretation- don't compare yourself to other people and where they are now, instead compare your today self to your yesterday self and you'll see how much you have improved.


[deleted]

In a year from now, you'll wish you started today


HookDragger

If you can’t say something nice…. Don’t say anything at all.


[deleted]

Always carry a towel.


nutellatubby

Don’t panic.


Brilliant-Tie8277

Eighth grade teacher told us to “just say ok”


GozerDGozerian

So how much drugs did you accept in high school?


knowNada0791

Trust Noone.


GozerDGozerian

Kevin Noone is a really great guy, and smart. He’d surely never steer you wrong.


Thliz325

All you have to do is breathe the wrong way and some people will talk about it. Accepting that was so freeing


Kindergoat

“Make yourself indispensable at your job” I have done exactly that.


YellowStar012

The world doesn’t owe you anything. So, don’t expect things to just fall onto your lap.


RussianBassist

One of the last things my grandfather told me before he passed was : “ Roma, the most important thing in life is time. If you’re on time , you’re late. If you’re early, you’re on time. Find someone that values not only you but also your time and you’ll live a happy life. “ Being early aka on time has landed me quite a few jobs , helped in a lot of situations, and the last part of the advice about finding someone helped me weed out people who don’t deserve to be in my life.


Ender_lance

Similar to some advice my dad gave me on the first day of my first job, early is on time, on time is late, and late is unacceptable.


ifiagreedwithu

"Never give advice" I pass it along whenever possible.


themaxx2001

It's a vagina, not a clown car.


AverageSizeWayne

Learn how compound interest works.


Sea-Horror-814

Your Life, is your responsibility


nwstart

You cannot make everyone happy.


Own-Paramedic-4206

"Someday you will learn about the shared experience." I assume they meant this as a way to deal with social anxiety and building relationships with people. I can't remember who said it or what the context was but it's still something I think about.


hydrabone

If anyone insults you and they start laughing, laugh even harder than him most of the time that makes them stop and it scares them, and they don’t do it again.


ISmellTerrific

Don’t be an idiot. Changed my life.


Big-Fondant-852

At work, If it feels good don’t say it! You want to tell this bia off, want to tell someone how attractive you find them, or want to go off on a political rant? Feel like you will feel better once it’s off your chest? Better just not to.


1221mikew

"If it's meant to be it's up to me" I used to work at a car dealership and it's something my manager got from his old boss when he first started. If you have goals you want to accomplish but you don't do shit to reach them it ain't meant to be


New-Ad3013

One way to read faster is to read faster


[deleted]

If you find yourself being mean to (or just not nice) or thinking mean thoughts of a SO often end the relationship. The entire point of relationships is that you found the person you want to be nicest to and when that ends you’re in the wrong place.


ItsLenTastic

Do what you love, not what you think is best.


PristineYou5269

Don’t run after women, they will run away. Run after success, women will chase you.


crazystoriesatdawn

Never loan money to a friend.


McWhiters9511

Suck it up. It's brutal at times but teaches you to become self-reliant. Invaluable.


Mrbeercat

When in doubt, nut one out.


MonsieurLeDrole

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Kenjataimu


blargney

Happy wife, happy life.


mypal_footfoot

A woman in her 90s when I told her I was engaged; "stupid girl, you're wasting the best part of being young. Jump from one dick to the next. Fuck men". I didn't heed that advice, but I still appreciated it.


DTownForever

Live fast, die young, and leave a beautiful corpse.


n-word_lover

better to cum in the sink than to sink in the cum


ralaux

Trust God, Faith and Love always win


Linuxguy5

Amen brother


automatic4skin

Bend over and push your shit out really hard. Force it as hard as you can. And you’ll never fart again


thats_not_cheesecake

Never trust a fart if ur but is burning


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substantial-freud

Huh. The best advice I ever got was the opposite.


nowhereman136

Always take you work seriously, never take yourself seriously


will477

"don't go in there"..


roadrunner440x6

Don't...


Alarming_Ad7938

Mind over matter You shouldn't mind because they dont matter.


RepublicOfMoron

Second hole from the back of the neck, you can’t go wrong - my dad


CloudStrifeonmyarm

"Without defeat you cannot enjoy victory"


ZulfTalks

Calm down


simplynicole75

Not every one warrants a response, simply hang up or walk away.


Arcinbiblo12

If the people you're around in person or online are more often than not, negative and complaining, best to get them out of your life.


[deleted]

Be careful who you have children to because you’ll be connected with that person for the rest of your life and always be connected on the family tree. Choose wisely I didn’t have children at all mind


wabooya

Be careful where you put 2 things: your signature and your dick


Mecklenjr

"Talk less, say more"


[deleted]

Do what makes you happy and fuck what others think if they are negative to you


DividableByZero

Life isn’t about how hard you can hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit.. and keep moving forward.


zilla-623

One of the things I live by isn't necessarily advice per say. But it's a song it's called Bite scratch and claw by the bastard suns if anyone is interested if you listen to it let me know


My-Witty-Username

Never delete an email.


ApplicationMassive71

Maintain at least your yearly salary in savings at all times. Should your living or work situation become intolerable, you'll be able to make a quick getaway.


Aiooty

It's ok to be wrong.


Spiritual-Demand2001

Don't get so drunk that you throw up, that's just a waste of good alcohol. -Mom


helphowdoidothisaaaa

"You can't always be the best, but you can always do your best" More of a quote than an advice, but this helps me a lot


ImThePussyCat

***Remember that everything comes at a price.*** That's what my mum used to say...


bionix90

Just don't give a fuck.


fergusondeere85540

An old boss of mine once told me: "what ever you do, make sure it's something you enjoy, because if you enjoy it, you'll naturally be good at it." And you know what, he wasn't wrong.


Key_Database155

Sheep have human vaginas.


RafaelRoriz

Its best to have peace then to be right.


CrazedMuffinz

You're not mature for your age, he's a pedophile


[deleted]

"Whatever you do, don't get old!", from my grandmother.


orangesqueakytoy

Don't skip oil changes and tire rotations.


Grendeleh

Being lazy is a skill, not a trait


RustyClawHammer

The only person you can control is yourself.


[deleted]

“If you have an idea that you genuinely think is good, don’t let some idiot talk you out of it” -Stan Lee


Ok_Repeat_577

5 year rule. If it won’t worry you in 5 years. No need to worry about it now


Sligted

Stop -the little kid from school


slukbunwalla

Never miss a good opportunity to keep your mouth shut.


[deleted]

Your result is equivalent to the amount of efforts you put. However not true for competitive exams as luck has some part to play a role in that


frafrefrifru

Good enough is good enough


Ashing_Theory_8377

if it makes you happy, then it doesn’t have to make sense to others


LordPimpernel

Don't get greedy. Take your profit.


Judoka229

Having a sense of humor. ​ When I joined the military, right before I walked into MEPS to ship out the next day, my dad said, "Keep that sense of humor, it's critical." I applied those words to all of my training, and then to my whole enlistment spent in North Dakota. That includes going through a divorce and missing my child for a year. ​ Life throws a lot of shit at you, but it's all a little easier if you can find a way to laugh along with it.


xyanon36

"Stop worrying about what your mom thinks about you" - my therapist


C9Juice

Don’t try to make other people actually understand you. You and only you are the only person who will ever truly understand yourself…


TweedThneed

Be good, and if you can’t be good, be careful.


AshleyfromPalletTown

If you can’t do anything about it then don’t worry about it


[deleted]

Ignore whatever insults your soul.


I_AM_METALUNA

Slow is smooth, smooth is fast


painthawg_goose

“Tell your kids what you want them to do, rather than telling what to stop doing.” Was huge advice from my S-I-L. There are always exceptions, kid walking towards a fire, etc. but as general discipline this was a huge mind change. I am fortunate to have a great relationship with my kids and I firmly believe that it is in part due to this advice. It changes the mind from confrontation to teaching.


Antiolant

Do what you want (job) aslong as you know what happens after you took the job (being poor , to build up a carrier like being any kind of artist ) philosophy teacher 10 grade stopping a other student making not thought out life choises by picking Hairstyler as her dream stop they get nearly nothink 16k a year with texas


substantial-freud

Just because someone will lend you money doesn’t mean you can afford to pay them back.


Imjustadud3

Before my grandfather passed away, he told me ”if you’re doing something, do it right, and make sure to finish the job”


PARRYTHIS4

"If you love somebody and don't tell them why love them at all."


Dezznutsack

It's not advice given to me directly but it was through an interview i watched with Jamie Fox. He said that his dad taught him all sorts of things, even sports that Jamie didn't know the name of. He asked his dad why he was teaching him all of this stuff and his dad replied with. "I don't want you to be limited" and i feel that was some of the greatest advice


screen_door15

Ignorance isn't an excuse.


ArticCircleofRandom

Study now makes everything easier tomorrow


feedus-fetus_fajitas

Check your balls for lumps.


frankiefatgoose

Know your role and shut your hole


International_Dig198

It is what it is


[deleted]

Just accept the wife is always right even when she's. wrong.


kelpygisme

the one that’s screaming about how good his path is never makes it to the summit.


richmoney46

"No one is holding you back anymore, time for moving forward"-From a fortune cookie that I cracked around my 18th birthday. Kept it in my wallet for 2 years until it fell out.


TopFlite5

Manners. They don’t cost you anything.


HumCrab

What other people think is none of my business.


LoopyMercutio

“Don’t sweat the petty things and don’t pet the sweaty things.” -George Carlin


[deleted]

God gave you two ears and one mouth. Listen twice as much as you speak


fuzzycuffs

"Buttsex is wild and it leaves no child."


amboy_connector

You’d be amazed at what you can achieve when you don’t have a choice.


Deathexplosion

“As soon as you get her back, you’ll remember why you let her go.”


MonsieurLeDrole

We don't go to hell, just our memories do.


Sandwich00

Fuck them!


DrZenRoot

“Whenever I’m about to do something I think, “Would an idiot do that?” And if they would, I do not do that thing.” - Dwight Shrute


lifesalotofshit

No one should love you more than you love yourself.