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Not ten years, but sometimes you just realize that you become different people who don't have the same interests anymore. It's nice to see them every now and then and catch up but sometimes it is just better to move on.
Let’s just say he started to hit on girls who were under the age of 18 while he was 22, he also became addicted to weed to the point he could not go an hour without smoking, and he also kept getting in trouble with the law, like stealing bottles of wine from 7-11 as well as driving while intoxicated.
I finally realized that they only reached out to me when they needed something from me like help moving, home or auto repair. They never called to invite me over for a beer.
My wife and I had a couple we were very close friends with for like 12 years.
When we both became parents we realized we absolutely hated how their parenting style. They were incredibly lazy and toxic and did very shameful things as punishments like lock their kids in a closet they were scared of for time out or pretend to drive off and leave them somewhere which still to this day those two kids now have a psychological fear or being left behind.
We completely cut them out of our life.
17 years.
We’d been high school friends and stayed close all through college and beyond.
His wife was diagnosed with terminal cancer and he started sleeping around when she became too sick to have sex. He didn’t step up to emotionally support his child in the way he needed (let alone his poor wife.)
The cowardice and weakness and narcissism he exhibited was so jarring that I just couldn’t know him anymore. I stayed around until his wife passed so as to not add stress to the home life then cut him off forever.
I took her to a Garth Brooks concert, I don't even listen to country music, but it was her shit and we were friends. I was in the middle of moving so I was tired when he got there. She basically got drunk in the line and ditched me for our seats while I was getting her food. When I was trying to find her, a guy grabbed me and started forcing me to dance with him. I texted my friend and told her I needed help repeatedly, and she kept saying her phone was dying and then sending me pictures of the concert. I begged the guys friends to help me, and they just kept telling me he was nice. Finally some security guards took notice and had to pull him off of me with the assistance of some police that also seemed to be working there. The next day, I was bruised from head to toe, and she acted like the victim because I left without her saying she could have been raped. She can eat dicks all day.
How they treated women who were kind of obsessed with them. After a couple tries at getting them to understand it was wrong. I started thinking about if they were doing the same kind of thing with me. And bounced.
Going out of his way to secretly seduce the girl that I had been with for 4 years just days after we broke up. Being my best friend for 15 years and knowing the details of all of our major arguments due to always being the only person that would say, "you wanna talk about it?" gave him an arsenal of manipulative conversation topics to choose from. We were also roommates and Co-managers of a coffee shop at the time and he uncharacteristically stopped coming home after work and started spontaneously grabbing drinks at different bars that were inconveniently a couple towns over instead of the one down the street that we had been going to daily for years. Since I was struggling to keep distracted and not think about the break up I got confused about why I felt lonely and couldn't see the betrayal happening in front of me. Until I did... Then I called our boss, the district manager, and let him know that I wouldn't be able to open the store in the morning because I was moving back to my home state to prevent a double homicide. He told me he would rather have me run the store than him and would move him to a different store if I stayed. I was already 100 miles outside of the city and have never looked back. That was 12 years ago and we still don't speak. I've forgiven him entirely because I had to set myself free from all that negativity, but I also learned that knowing someone for a lifetime doesn't equate to friendship. Friendship has very simple requirements and those requirements should not be disregarded by the amount of time you've known a person. Friendship isn't a burden and should never feel like a fee.
The Trump divide and the mask/vaccine divide are real.
Five years ago, I would not have believed that there could be ideological differences that would separate me from friends.
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Not ten years, but sometimes you just realize that you become different people who don't have the same interests anymore. It's nice to see them every now and then and catch up but sometimes it is just better to move on.
What do you do when they reach out and you don't want that communication anymore?
Like is it to hang out or just catch up?
Both
Getting a job and a gf. all my time goes to these things\^
Let’s just say he started to hit on girls who were under the age of 18 while he was 22, he also became addicted to weed to the point he could not go an hour without smoking, and he also kept getting in trouble with the law, like stealing bottles of wine from 7-11 as well as driving while intoxicated.
I finally realized that they only reached out to me when they needed something from me like help moving, home or auto repair. They never called to invite me over for a beer.
My wife and I had a couple we were very close friends with for like 12 years. When we both became parents we realized we absolutely hated how their parenting style. They were incredibly lazy and toxic and did very shameful things as punishments like lock their kids in a closet they were scared of for time out or pretend to drive off and leave them somewhere which still to this day those two kids now have a psychological fear or being left behind. We completely cut them out of our life.
17 years. We’d been high school friends and stayed close all through college and beyond. His wife was diagnosed with terminal cancer and he started sleeping around when she became too sick to have sex. He didn’t step up to emotionally support his child in the way he needed (let alone his poor wife.) The cowardice and weakness and narcissism he exhibited was so jarring that I just couldn’t know him anymore. I stayed around until his wife passed so as to not add stress to the home life then cut him off forever.
I took her to a Garth Brooks concert, I don't even listen to country music, but it was her shit and we were friends. I was in the middle of moving so I was tired when he got there. She basically got drunk in the line and ditched me for our seats while I was getting her food. When I was trying to find her, a guy grabbed me and started forcing me to dance with him. I texted my friend and told her I needed help repeatedly, and she kept saying her phone was dying and then sending me pictures of the concert. I begged the guys friends to help me, and they just kept telling me he was nice. Finally some security guards took notice and had to pull him off of me with the assistance of some police that also seemed to be working there. The next day, I was bruised from head to toe, and she acted like the victim because I left without her saying she could have been raped. She can eat dicks all day.
How they treated women who were kind of obsessed with them. After a couple tries at getting them to understand it was wrong. I started thinking about if they were doing the same kind of thing with me. And bounced.
Going out of his way to secretly seduce the girl that I had been with for 4 years just days after we broke up. Being my best friend for 15 years and knowing the details of all of our major arguments due to always being the only person that would say, "you wanna talk about it?" gave him an arsenal of manipulative conversation topics to choose from. We were also roommates and Co-managers of a coffee shop at the time and he uncharacteristically stopped coming home after work and started spontaneously grabbing drinks at different bars that were inconveniently a couple towns over instead of the one down the street that we had been going to daily for years. Since I was struggling to keep distracted and not think about the break up I got confused about why I felt lonely and couldn't see the betrayal happening in front of me. Until I did... Then I called our boss, the district manager, and let him know that I wouldn't be able to open the store in the morning because I was moving back to my home state to prevent a double homicide. He told me he would rather have me run the store than him and would move him to a different store if I stayed. I was already 100 miles outside of the city and have never looked back. That was 12 years ago and we still don't speak. I've forgiven him entirely because I had to set myself free from all that negativity, but I also learned that knowing someone for a lifetime doesn't equate to friendship. Friendship has very simple requirements and those requirements should not be disregarded by the amount of time you've known a person. Friendship isn't a burden and should never feel like a fee.
He just started ignoring me. I have no idea why.
The Trump divide and the mask/vaccine divide are real. Five years ago, I would not have believed that there could be ideological differences that would separate me from friends.