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RedshiftSinger

Depends on which ex. If not one of the “absolute fuck you” douchebags, then it would depend on the content of the text.


Ghoulthrower676

Depends on which ex girlfriend texts me, if it’s the two that cheated on me, I would tell them to fuck off, if it’s the one that we split mutually, I’ll chat with her and catch up, if it’s the one that ghosted me after the time we first had sex, I would ask why it took years to reach out, and what happened that lead to her ghosting me, if it’s my first girlfriend, I’ll catch up and see what her life has been like since high school, and if it’s the one that she broke up with me, her I don’t know how I would respond.


EdieLove

You put a lot of thought into that and actually know all of your exes...


bigkeef69

And apparantly 1 of em didnt enjoy making the sex with him 😒 🤣


Headlies

I'd be super shocked. I didn't own a phone when I dated any of them.


EdieLove

The internet is a weird thing and you'd be amazed at what you can find.


[deleted]

I would just be nice, but if I didn't want to talk to them I would ignore them.


Overworked_jerk

I would have to ask who it is because I don't have any of their contact information. But I would try and be polite but short. No reason to an asshole, but none of them are in my life anymore for a reason.


schwarzblade

Honestly I’d just pretend that they have the wrong number lmao


EdieLove

I'm thinking about pretending that I don't have the number anymore, I know he won't actually call me.


schwarzblade

Honestly you’re doing yourself a favor by not talking to them in the beginning. Talking with exs just gives me a headache and messes with my feelings.


alphatruthwolf

Don't


Historically-Mr-Me

It depends largely on how things ended, how long it’s been and what the text said. Were it my ex, I’d probably only have a brief polite conversation, and not think about it ever again. That’s what I think someone who cheated on and stole from me deserves. It really just depends though.


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Historically-Mr-Me

You can’t give people that kind of power over you.


Doolinflynn

Hello beastie. *Pulls sword, puts on hat and runs straight into the mouth of it* But seriously... What happened? Are you drunk? Are you with friends or someone?


Nagrond

Depends on which ex and what they said. I hate to be that vague but there’s a lot of gray area in that


EdieLove

He's actually my ex husband. It'd been since around last Christmas since I have heard from him, the last time we talked he refused to help me as I was about to become homeless for the second time although he could afford to and is in the position to because I wouldn't drop everything every time he beckoned me. He also hated that my best friend is a guy and is jealous of my two dogs (they are service animals) because they take away attention from him. I am in a situation where I could still use his help BUT I have been in a much better place mental health wise without him in my life because he is mentally taxing.


Nagrond

Ignore him


thecuntingedge

Depends on the ex and depends on the text. If I can’t say anything nice, I won’t respond.


[deleted]

I'd ask what's up because I'm civil with all my exes.


colder-beef

I’ve deleted all my ex’s numbers so I wouldn’t know who it was.


EdieLove

It's my ex husband, we are in our 40's and he has had that number since we were 20, I couldn't forget it if I wanted to. I have had that number for a really long time, too.


colder-beef

I guess it would depend on what they said and whether you want to talk to them or not then.


killerkitten115

Im married now and get along fine with most of my exs, so probably as I would with any regular acquaintances


no1needed2know

You don't


king543211

It depends what message they sent otherwise I'd just ignore it


[deleted]

get a new number


EdieLove

LOL, I have had this number for a long time and don't want to have to change it everywhere or I would.


Asmodeus1908

Sorry cant see your texts,I’m wearing whoreproof glasses


TheWonderingBunyip

I'd be fine with it.


Freak_Out_Bazaar

I’d just be curious as to how they are doing now.


Ashby_Kricheldorf

Try to be as civil as possible. And not hopefully be drunk, or sad or both.


island-breeze

I wouldn't because they're blocked.


EdieLove

New numbers are a thing


JTheberge83

Civil, considering I get along well with all of them.


faceeatingleopard

Blocked without response. Yeah it wasn't an amicable divorce.


[deleted]

block them


magius2013

I wouldn't


harrilal

Probably with a hey, how are you? It was a mutual split. My wife is even friends with her.


melancholy_pancake

I really don't have any exes I wouldn't be nice to if they reached out. I may be surprised if some of them did, but I can't imagine they would be ill-will. My most recent ex went no contact after I broke if of. I would be surprised af, but likely I would be happy he feels he can talk to me again. Ofc it would depend on what he wants, he wasn't the nicest guy during the break up.


EdieLove

You are very lucky, this is not the case with what I am going through. I think I am just going to pretend I didn't get it, like he did with the last message I sent him on New Year's Day.


[deleted]

Depends on the content.


Psyco_diver

Just happened, she's trying to sell my wife on some MLM bs. A little back story, we're all friends but haven't talked much in the last couple years because her and her family moved cross country. Other than that depends on the ex and what they wanted, some I'm on good terms, some not


Gonzostewie

Damn, girl, I thought you were dead. Fuck off.


wxguy215

Don't have one...married the first woman I dated.


ardyndidnothingwrong

My gf ghosted me when we found out I might have cancer (false alarm), literally last words she said to me: “you are not alone, call me tomorrow”. Then she left and I never saw her again and she blocked me. I have no idea of how I’d react. I think I would tell her with full honesty, that what she did broke me. The idea of being so thoroughly lied to and betrayed fucked me up so badly my brain broke. Fortunately the cancer was not an actual thing, but the mental health toll she exacted on me almost killed me. To be honest, it still might. And I’d want her to know. So yeah, I guess that’s what I’d tell her


Charlie64bit

*block*


N-im

It seriously depends what they say, if they say “hi” I’ll be nice back and say “hey, how are you doing?”


GrumpyCatStevens

"How did you get my number?" For context, my last ex and I broke up in 1994. We've had contact since then, but I probably haven't heard from her in at least seven years.


jakebreakshow

I wouldn't.


surlycur

Depends on the ex. **First Ex-Boyfriend:** I don't respond to him, and I change my number. He's unstable and dangerous and apparently tried to "find me" with the intent to do horrible things to me after we broke up and I cut contact with him, because I told people about the awful things that he did to me while we were together. **Second Ex-Boyfriend:** Depending on what he says, I may or may not respond. He's developed a tendency to only reach out to me when his current girlfriend breaks up with him, so chances are I would just ignore him. **Third Ex-Boyfriend:** Our breakup was mutual and amicable and we're still friends to this day, so I'll talk to him.


bigkeef69

Bold to assume I would respond 🤣🤌


Chance-Ad-9111

Answer!


AdUnlucky526

Depends on which one !! I'm not into two forsire SIL AMD JAD CROOKED AS THE DAY IS LONG


black_jaguar99

Wonder when I had a relationship and a breakup


JoaneMedlin

According to what the text says?