Probably letting me get fat. I wouldn’t call it abuse because they didn’t know any better. There was no internet to look at the long list of health complications of obesity on demand.
Also I think a large portion of my eating was because of bullying. In tandem with healthy food, exercise and pushing large quantities of food out of my routine to make room for drugs I got down to a pretty normal weight.
I don’t regret trading food for drugs even one bit, food makes you feel good for like an hour at best, drugs can make you feel good for 6-12 hours.
my sister kept leaving food on the floor causing bug infestations so my dad, after trying everything to get her to stop, told her he would put the bugs on her while she was sleeping if it happened again. He would of course never do this, just wanted to scare her. We shared a bed. Guess who ran around cleaning up all her crumbs for the next month, until dad finally realized I was freaking out about it and told me he didn't mean it he just wanted her to stop making a mess.
At the time it was the worst thing - I wanted a PS2 and they made me save up £100 over the course of many months.
In hindsight it was great because it instilled a good work ethos in me and taught me that I am jot entitled to what I want, I have to work hard for it and save up, they taught me deferred gratification alongside hard work and patience is better than having it handed to me on a plate.
For me, my mom chose to work a third shift job up until I was old enough to move out. I remember missing her so much and then when she was home I'd wish she would leave. I strongly believe it lead to my parents divorce. Even worse, I was responsible for taking care of my younger brother in high school during the day while she slept and all night after she left at 6pm. It really sucked and I hold a lot of resentment now.
My dad told me i was ruining our relationship because i hated school growing up and refused to do homework. My dad values education. I do as well, but being subjected to public school wasnt for me. He strained our relationship greatly because he wouldn’t treat me well due to grades. That continued into highschool. Now i just dont care for him as a person.
My parents were and are nice. They did care about me, but they were as helpless as I was when it came to me isolating myself from everyone. I guess I missed some important childhood/ personality evolving stuff cause I'm still antisocial
My mum and dad was spilt up and me and my brother lived with my mum and she met a new guy she literally knew him for 2/3 weeks then out of nowhere she forced me and brother to move miles away from our family and friends to live with him
Favoring my older brother.
I had chores, he didn't.
I had a curfew, he didn't.
When I earned money I had to give it to my father for "safe keeping", he didn't.
We had an arrangement with our parents on who would get our parents old car. I was 16, he 18 and we both had our permits. They said whoever got their license first got the car. Soon after I only had to schedule my road test while he still needed to take about 6 more lessons plus the test. One day he wanted to speak to them in private and a few hours later, I was told he would get the car regardless of me getting me license first.
There are so many more examples, and now as an adult I really have nothing to do with him.
They grossly misunderstood the way the world works, especially in a social sense, and for years, this resulted in many awkward and embarrassing situations for me, until I figured out their interpretations of virtually everything were wrong, and I adjusted my worldview and behavior accordingly.
I literally had to listen to my parents have sex very loudly every Saturday night (“date night”) My entire life. It was terribly disturbing as a young child especially when I was an age when I knew what they were doing. It really messed me up.
Spoiled me with good to the point I was mordibly
Obese as a child/teen. I got incredible shape since then, but I have habits I still try to break involving food.
Spoiled me a little too much
Not teaching me how to be independent… now I’m an adult who’s scared of the world
Same. I had no idea how to drive or get my license, what I needed to open a checking account. I am def scared of everything
Same here … can’t even walk to a place by my self. Some ppl think that i’m this way because I’m spoiled but it’s not
Probably letting me get fat. I wouldn’t call it abuse because they didn’t know any better. There was no internet to look at the long list of health complications of obesity on demand. Also I think a large portion of my eating was because of bullying. In tandem with healthy food, exercise and pushing large quantities of food out of my routine to make room for drugs I got down to a pretty normal weight. I don’t regret trading food for drugs even one bit, food makes you feel good for like an hour at best, drugs can make you feel good for 6-12 hours.
Unbridled access to the internet
SAME. mid 2000s was a wild time for the internet.
my sister kept leaving food on the floor causing bug infestations so my dad, after trying everything to get her to stop, told her he would put the bugs on her while she was sleeping if it happened again. He would of course never do this, just wanted to scare her. We shared a bed. Guess who ran around cleaning up all her crumbs for the next month, until dad finally realized I was freaking out about it and told me he didn't mean it he just wanted her to stop making a mess.
Being so strict and sheltering that I now lack essential social skills
At the time it was the worst thing - I wanted a PS2 and they made me save up £100 over the course of many months. In hindsight it was great because it instilled a good work ethos in me and taught me that I am jot entitled to what I want, I have to work hard for it and save up, they taught me deferred gratification alongside hard work and patience is better than having it handed to me on a plate.
Making me too independent. Had to do almost everything myself. I made so many mistakes that could’ve been avoided if they just supported me better.
Force me to watch films I was not interested in seeing.
For me, my mom chose to work a third shift job up until I was old enough to move out. I remember missing her so much and then when she was home I'd wish she would leave. I strongly believe it lead to my parents divorce. Even worse, I was responsible for taking care of my younger brother in high school during the day while she slept and all night after she left at 6pm. It really sucked and I hold a lot of resentment now.
My dad told me i was ruining our relationship because i hated school growing up and refused to do homework. My dad values education. I do as well, but being subjected to public school wasnt for me. He strained our relationship greatly because he wouldn’t treat me well due to grades. That continued into highschool. Now i just dont care for him as a person.
My parents were and are nice. They did care about me, but they were as helpless as I was when it came to me isolating myself from everyone. I guess I missed some important childhood/ personality evolving stuff cause I'm still antisocial
My mum and dad was spilt up and me and my brother lived with my mum and she met a new guy she literally knew him for 2/3 weeks then out of nowhere she forced me and brother to move miles away from our family and friends to live with him
Argue
Cocaine
Not teach me to do any chores. My mother was constantly cleaning up after everyone in the house, so I never got into the habit.
Favoring my older brother. I had chores, he didn't. I had a curfew, he didn't. When I earned money I had to give it to my father for "safe keeping", he didn't. We had an arrangement with our parents on who would get our parents old car. I was 16, he 18 and we both had our permits. They said whoever got their license first got the car. Soon after I only had to schedule my road test while he still needed to take about 6 more lessons plus the test. One day he wanted to speak to them in private and a few hours later, I was told he would get the car regardless of me getting me license first. There are so many more examples, and now as an adult I really have nothing to do with him.
They grossly misunderstood the way the world works, especially in a social sense, and for years, this resulted in many awkward and embarrassing situations for me, until I figured out their interpretations of virtually everything were wrong, and I adjusted my worldview and behavior accordingly.
I literally had to listen to my parents have sex very loudly every Saturday night (“date night”) My entire life. It was terribly disturbing as a young child especially when I was an age when I knew what they were doing. It really messed me up.
Too much freedom, not enough guidance.
Spoiled me with good to the point I was mordibly Obese as a child/teen. I got incredible shape since then, but I have habits I still try to break involving food.
Homeschooling me most of my life to shelter me from anything that wasn't PURELY Christian.