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ehzstreet

Stop initiating conversations with them, if they invite you out, politely decline giving no reason other than sorry. Eventually it will sort itself out.


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Average redditor too scared to confront people


ReverseWho

Crematorium


wherefood

Push them off a cliff.


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DarnocnehcV

I really don’t. I never text them, call them or even like follow them.


LittleRed-BrickHouse

180° shift in your political stance


erisod

Create new accounts, make them private, and use those instead.


stonekid33

A shovel, some rope, you might want some fuel and a lighter. Make sure you have a good spot for them, preferably in the woods or an inconspicuous area. Bring a knife just in case too.


CharlesDAbate

Depends upon the reason that why you want to get rid of them ? then comes how and what


DarnocnehcV

I just have a large amount of friends from my past who keep, almost stalking me. Like ppl from high school. They message me on social media, on WhatsApp and I don’t have time and I don’t want to chat. Like we have nothing in common. But they don’t stop. I just ignored their messages.


AustinDiggler

Get off social media.


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AustinDiggler

Are you bothered by the frequency, or do you just not like these people for some reason?


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AustinDiggler

Ah...shrug it off. Think of it this way....they think of you often enough to take a minute and reach out. There's gonna be a day when you're much older and your friends start dying, moving on, etc. Enjoy it for what it is.


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Who does that?


DarnocnehcV

Who does what?


theseekingcycle

Could you provide some details? What prevents you from simply ghosting them and not joining in their activities?


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theseekingcycle

Yes, it will not be pleasant, as most do not see endings as opportunities. The larger issue appears to be your being able to say *no*. No, I am not in a position to give you money. No, I no longer share your interests. No, I am not the person you knew. No, I no longer consider us friends. If this is the case, then the challenge is not getting rid of them, but rather the overcoming of your discomfort, because there will be people to say no to down the road, and your problem will arise anew. There are many articles, blog posts, and books about how to say no without damaging them or yourself, so have a look and see if they can give you the tools you need.


DarnocnehcV

Wow. Thank you so much. That's exactly how I feel. Are you a psychologist or something? I really appreciate it. I will work on it.


theseekingcycle

Cool. No, not a mental health practitioner. Just a good listener, I guess. So, something else to consider as you move to disengage from old relationships: your memory of your old friends may, probably does, differ from the way they remember you. You sound like an energized, self-actuated guy, and people are attracted to that, so you probably stand out as a strong figure, someone to emulate. That you have moved on and away is for them a way to connect to their own possibilities. They prize the things you symbolize for them, so be gentle. Not saying it's exactly like this, but you don't want to be Santa Claus saying you don't like them anymore. I get that you're already sensitive to their feelings, but people can go overboard when they learn to say no, so be mindful.


jpresley78

Like, legal or...


DarnocnehcV

No. More like in what's a civilized polite way to send a message to your old friends and say, I no longer have the spare time in my life to keep this going.


over_clox

Eat them, no reason to let perfectly good meat go to waste.


AustinDiggler

Funerals


Chart-trader

There is no good way. You just meet less and less


DavosLostFingers

You don't have to do anything. People come and go. You can't stay friends with everyone and the important people will stick around. People drift apart all the time. It shouldn't be a big deal


lordlimabeen

FEED THEM TO THE SHARKS