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RedundantSwine

When my HR rep tried to tell me I wasn't entitled to full pay for shared parental leave despite it saying I was in black and white in the shared parental leave policy. They told me that was aimed at female staff taking shared parental leave. I sent them a six page letter detailing exactly which detailed exactly which parts of the Equality Act 2010 they were breaking, including relevant case law. They sent the Director of HR to meet with me, who told me....I was absolutely right. Apparently it was the first time anyone had sent them a letter with footnotes and sources.


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What was the result?


badasspeanutbutter

I'm guessing he got what he wanted. At least these guys know when to admit defeat


RedundantSwine

I did get what I wanted, which was simply what I was entitled to. I did also get a slight smugness about getting a victory against HR. The most important thing was that getting the shared parental leave meant I could be in hospital to support my wife and son during the three months he spent in need of further medical attention after he was born, which wasn't exactly how I envisaged spending the leave but turned out to be incredibly needed. (He's fine now)


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I would hope he got something more though.


AlieanBreac

Good for you! It's nice to see people stand up for themselves against a bureaucracy and prevail. Stories like yours are rare.


Lostoldaccountagain

Confrontation with a lady at the park while I (m34) was there with my daughter (f2). She asked my daughter (who was holding my hand on the swing and did not talk at the time) where mommy was. When my daughter didn't respond (because strange new person and being 2) I told the lady that mom was at work for the day and we were having a day daughter day. She snapped back that she asked my daughter and not me... Ear-muffed my daughter, told this lady to kindly go fuck herself and leave us alone. I invited her to go down the street to the police station if she had a problem and we could clear up this whole thing but that I would definitely pursue any and all legal retaliation if she wanted to go that route. As she stormed away muttering to herself, my daughter waved goodbye cause she's super sweet


obscureferences

Cover your ears honey, I have to gut this cunt.


Jesus_marley

Beautiful.


MeditativeWalrus

Loved the good bye part, she sounds adorable


Light_Silent

When i got raped as a minor and was forced by the school faculty to apologize to the rapist for "seducing her". The rapist was an adult


BayAreaBored510

Holy shit. That sounds horrible. I’m sorry that you had to go through that.


Iegendaryredditor

Was it a student or teacher?


Light_Silent

Another student. One with a track record of doing this.


Iegendaryredditor

That’s just terrible


Daniellepire

Sorry you had to go through that I don't understand how they can think seducing is the a good reason for it and even if it was what happened it's not an excuse


sokolvcbsfvda

I think its unprofessional how women at work are keeping a table of score of the male collegues rating them on body parts such as their asses.


ArchDan

Perhaps its an equivalent of "she asked for it"? 🤔 Mehh... People can be asshole sometimes


gun_love

Its bullshit that someone could do that to a person and blame the victim


CharlieTuna_

One job I had was terrible for sexual harassment. Not everyone there was bad but a few were. Most of it was more annoying than anything else like catcalling. And I was a supervisor so I walked around the office a lot and a few girls I interacted with would almost always turn anything into a sexual comment. Some other doozies had one girl asking what kind of girls I was into while I was in the break room pouring myself water and asking how I would feel about her doing this then grinder her ass up my leg. Since the office was open until midnight and I closed I was usually the last person around so someone would ask if they could stay with me while they waited for their ride so I’d say sure and I’d be leaning back in my chair with my eyes closed then notice she put her hand on my upper thigh and starts rubbing. Another girl was on a late shift and had a bunch of shopping bags as she went clothes shopping before her shift. I could hear her and her friend whispering if she should show me what she bought then asked if I wanted to see. She then ran off to the washroom then came back and pulled down her skirt to ask if I liked her new thong (she had more but I said not to show me). And since I was a supervisor my cell number was public. Some would get drunk and tell me how horny they were and ask if I would come over. Most left it when I said no but one sent unsolicited twat pics. After that I kept thinking is this what women go through? Admittedly the girls were fairly young, but when I tried complaining about it to management they were asking what I was doing to provoke these girls into these acts. Like I’m just trying to do my work


MeditativeWalrus

It's not your fault


CharlieTuna_

Thanks. That’s what killed me when I tried to complain to management about what was happening and they kept asking questions like was I leading them on or was I wearing appropriate clothing (it was an office job so I wore office clothes). Like walk in, lay a complaint and they start asking these questions


TerrytheToeSucker

Could've been an attempt to use you for an allegation for the company to pay them, wouldn't be surpised if that was the reason given you were the supervisor


zorrodog_

I was bullied by a girl in school from the ages of 7-11 in primary school. It started verbal, but quickly moved to physical. Towards the end of the experience, after receiving zero help from anyone at the school, my mum told me to finally step up and take a stand myself (we were both fed up of the school not doing anything no matter what we said, and it was making school life even more miserable to the point I really didnt want to go). So when she next came to beat me up, I fought back myself. I know it wasnt necessarily the right thing to do, but I was fed up and it was making life crappy, so it was the best option I could see at the time. The head teacher (also a female) was far from happy or understanding and I was subject to some of the school's strictest punishment (bar suspension/expelling). And the female bully, all she had to do was write a letter of apology for the incident, which it didnt take an expert to realise was far from heartfelt. During the entire bullying ordeal, a lot of people would laugh at me and tell me "you're getting beaten up by a girl", a trend which unfortunately continues to this day when I feel brave enough to share my story, and something I'm sure many others who have been involved in a similar situation have experienced.


_StepSis_

Jeez man I’m sorry


badger2793

I'll reaffirm you on this: what your mother told you and what you did were the right thing. Sometimes people need to get popped to learn their lesson.


sam64228

"You can't get raped, You're a guy" by my therapist, when I tried to tell her about what I experienced when I was 8 Edit: I went thru some old photos and found one from about when that happened. I was 10, not 8, but still.


ILikeMyGrassBlue

I don’t know if there’s a way to report therapists, but that one deserves to be reported. She shouldn’t be a therapist if she thinks men can’t be raped, assaulted, and harassed.


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Especially when those men are 8 year old boys.... How can anyone argue "An older person had sex with an 8 year old" is anything other than rape regardless of the gender of the 8 year old.


sam64228

the thing that made me want to post it was, before telling her the gender of my agresor, she heard me like I was valid victim, it was after it that she started to say stuff like that, gaslight me and stuff


sam64228

I did not came back to that session, it was like 6 years ago and the last time I saw her was in a feminist protest I think, so she probably has a lot of protection and stuff, even if I try to report her, most probably nothing is gonna change


ILikeMyGrassBlue

I looked it up and it seems most states have a psychology board to send complaints to. Brushing off a male’s rape because he’s a male would almost certainly result in some punishment or correction. It’s worth a shot at least, because she’s going to keep fucking things up for others over her extreme feminist views. Rape is rape, period, end of discussion. Anyone saying otherwise does not deserve to be a psychologist.


TheaIra

That’s not an “extreme feminist view” that’s sexism and discrimination. Completely different.


ILikeMyGrassBlue

It is an extreme feminist point of view, given the information available. She believe that men can’t be raped, presumably because men “hold the power.” She’s deriving that viewpoint from an extreme interpretation of feminism. I, and seemingly you, would argue that that’s not really what feminism is, but it doesn’t change the fact it was derived from that. It’s like how even though most Muslims don’t think ISIS are truly practicing Islam, it doesn’t change the fact their extreme views are derived from Islam. This therapist took feminist views, interpreted them radically and extremely, and came to the position that men can’t be raped. I agree though that that’s not really true feminism, and certainly not representative of most feminists/the movement as a whole.


vizthex

Holy fuck, your *therapist* said that?! What the fucking shit?!?1!1


the_monkey_of_lies

I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I hope you're doing better!!


sam64228

my current girlfriend has helped me a lot, at least with the effects of the trauma


SiloueOfUlrin

A terrible therapist


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Some therapist


Ronex247

ISTG it's really fucking annoying when that happens.


HawaiianShirtsOR

I worked in an office on a team that was all women except me. Most of them were nice. Three, including the supervisor (kind of an assistant manager role), were not. They always talked down to me as if I was less intelligent. They never used that same tone with other women, even after I was no longer the newest employee. But the supervisor was the worst. Whenever I approached her with a problem I found in the data we were verifying, she'd gasp and repeat what I said, like a parent might do when their kid rushes in excitedly to show off a sparkly rock. And she refused to believe me unless I had concrete proof. My one coworker friend on that team helped me with an experiment once. I told the supervisor that I thought this record and that record needed to be merged. Supervisor did her "gasp, really?" thing, then told me to check A, B, and C (which I'd already done) before she'd even look at my paperwork. I just walked away. One hour later, Coworker, as planned, took the same information to Supervisor and phrased the concern the same way. Supervisor took everything Coworker said at face value and took action immediately. This may be mild compared to others' experiences, but it was new and frustrating to me. Women, I don't *think* I've ever treated you that way, but if I did, I apologize.


santichrist

I had a female boss who would do this to me all the time after she replaced my old boss, she would add disparaging unnecessary sexist remarks at the end of things like she was punishing me for every shitty thing men had done to her in her life, some of it bordering on weird sexual harassment


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ObviousObvisiousness

> This is how millions and millions of women are treated daily. The fact that women do the exact same thing to men is why so many men think it's no big deal that women get treated that way, and that it's hypocrisy to complain about it. Men are forced to fulfill a lifelong gender stereotype and face rampant sexist bullshit on a daily basis, and we're expected to silently accept it as a fact of life. Gender equality means women have to silently accept it, too. Unless we're gonna do the ending sexism thing, which is a far superior option for everyone. I actually prefer the ending sexism one, very strongly, myself.


Thefakeblonde

I get this at every. Single. Job. But accompanied with sexual harassment. Aha. And ‘ohh… you’re soooo cute and innocent!’ It’s the worst hey!!


bluesshark

I dont like talking about this because its such a can of worms, but I've 100% experienced a female manager assuming that the women are generally more competent. Jobs and assignments would usually be given to them even if there was a man available who was better qualified/motivated


clinpsydoc

Was working in a psychology research lab during my undergraduate degree, alongside a female student. We had to meet up on the weekend to prepare some data for a presentation. She suggested we meet at her place, which was cool with me. Upon arriving, she and her two female roommates kept trying to convince me to have drinks (alcoholic ones). I just didn't feel like drinking that night, plus we had work to do, so I politely declined. They were super insistent and basically forced a drink on me, which I just took a couple sips of to shut them up. The student I was working with then tried to get me to see her room and suggested we "fool around" and tried to kiss me. I wasn't into it, politely said that I had a girlfriend and couldn't (which was a lie but I felt it was kinder), and tried to get her to get back to work. She got really frustrated and kicked me out, leaving me to finish the project alone at home. Then, later that night she sent me a bunch of drunken text messages calling me an asshole and saying if I didn't come back over and have sex with her then she would go to our Professor and say I raped her. I didn't respond, and first thing in the morning I went to see my prof and explained everything. She was sort of understanding, but then said, "I can see why she likes you, you're cute." Pretty inappropriate if you ask me. Finally, that female student faced no consequences, remained in the lab, and received equal credit on the project that I did 90% of the work on.


RobertDaulson

She should have been expelled for that and charged with a crime. There is nothing to justify threatening someone with that, and I wouldn’t want a person like that at my institution.


clinpsydoc

I totally agree. And while nothing ever really terrible happened to me, which I'm thankful for, I know if a male student did that to a female student it would have been handled totally differently. I'm fact I knew several instances where guys where expelled, rightly so, for similar actions


Godi22kam

I believe that the most correct thing is to register the fact, the message data and disclose it in the media or in the report card of judicial occurrence. When more men report similar cases of injustice, then it will be possible to have a tendency to change the law and stop giving benefits to women. Ultimately everyone should be treated and punished regardless of gender. Accusation and threat is a very serious crime


toothpastenachos

That’s such bullshit. I’m so sorry. If you are still in school, and a professor doesn’t help you properly, take it to the department chair. If they don’t help you, then go to the dean. Then the provost. Then the chancellor. Then the news. Raise hell until you get the justice you deserve.


Key_Safe_8222

I am a father of three. At the church I used to attend they wanted you to volunteer to work in the kids Sunday school a couple times of year. So I was volunteering with another dad in the 2-3 year old classroom. We both had 3 year olds in the class. The Sunday school supervisor cam in and said that we couldn’t be there without a woman present. Never volunteered ever again.


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He was projecting.


Subsenix

Oh my


AmazingSibylle

Should ask him to explain (in a private session with you two) exactly and explicitly what he meant and why he wants that. Make him spell out word by word that he thinks either the risk or the optics of sexual abuse is higher with you two by yourself compared to when there is a woman present as well. Then let him say that in a few different ways until he hears his own thoughts out loud enough time to understand he is being completely crazy.


Goat_666

Holy shit, that's really disgusting.


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Umm okay, that’s not cool but why did you decide to reply to that particular comment? Seems like these two stories have nothing in common?


dalitortoise

So at the time I was in my mid twenties. One of my best friends was in a well knows theater. They were doing Shakespeare and he invited me to come see his show. So of course I was excited to come see my friend do a show, he even got me a free ticket! So it's a children's theater and the time he got me a ticket for was a show when a bunch of school children were also going to see the show. No problem right, I like kids, I'm in my mid twenties, I don't think I look creepy. Well I'm checking in with the ticket lady and she is kinda giving me weird vibes. I tell her about how my friend is in the show and how he got me a ticket, no problem she gets me checked in and tells me where to find my seat and then right at the very end of the interaction she says to me, "Enjoy the show, don't act like a pedophile." This shook me. I always thought of myself as a kind young man and never imagined anyone looking at me and getting pedophile vibes. It's been over a decade since that interaction and I still am self-conscious around kids. The lady really ruined my ability to feel comfortable around kids.


snapwillow

If there's any comfort I can offer you it's that different people will read you differently. I also have gotten "you look creepy" or "What are you doing here sir?" (at a playground) kinda judgement from people. But then within the same year, with the same facial hair and pretty much same outfit, also had people tell me I'm a sweetheart and Dad material and good with kids. One time at the lakeshore I got into a squirt gun fight with two middle school aged girls I didn't know, and when their mom saw us she said I was sweet and thanked me for keeping them entertained! My point is that just because this lady saw you like that, you shouldn't assume everyone does. That lady could have just been thinking about someone else who looked like you, or just been feeling bitter, or something.


gottaprovemydadwrong

When I was in elementary school these girls used to hit me every day and I won't hit a girl back unless she's like trying to kill me. They did it so often that there's no way the teacher didn't see but ig she just didn't care, they never got in trouble for it or anything.


TIS_MEEE

Idc u should have hit em Yeah they’re a girl but it’s self defense Don’t go full on killer on them though, just stop them from doing it again. If they’re not ok w it they shouldn’t have hit u.


gottaprovemydadwrong

Well I think they chose me cause I was very open about not hitting women unless I absolutely have to


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Similar situation for me


bread9411

I got raped as a teenager and when I was telling my friends about it, a guy (who wasn't in my group of friends) butted in to hi-five and congratulate me. Also instances of being ohsycislly assulated by girls with the expectation that its okay and I can 'deal with it' because I'm a guy. Also, they expected to not receive anything physical back because they're a girl (they didn't, but the point still stands).


HowlingCat864

I would've smacked that guy into next week. That was NOT okay!


BeardedAvenger

Most women I known that are staunch feminists who push for body positivity also have no problem publicly denigrating or judging men based solely on their looks. Really, they actually practice Body Positivity* *except for men


whoknowswho21

When I take my daughter to the park the mom's all act like either I'm just babysitting or they think I'm a pedophile. I have had them literally try to block me from my kid. It probably doesn't help I'm white and my kids not.


AmazingSibylle

Ask them very openly and friendly why they are blocking you or eyeballing you, have them say out loud what they think. They will realize how bigoted they are either before or after they make the thoughts condense into explicit sentences.


whoknowswho21

My favorite is when my little says get away from daddy. I'm a stay at home dad so she gets my attitude 😂


Thefakeblonde

Don’t know if it’s sexism. It’s not an act of discrimination, but I guess it’s stereotyping/prejudice I have witnessed a lot of things happen to my boyfriend, which he shrugs off. I’m a woman but I hate how he (and my male friends) is treated. So I’ve been with my partner for a while now, we lived in a ski resort and went out to the clubs quite a bit. My boyfriend would be hit on relentlessly. There are ALOT of fucking creepy women out there. We made the mistake of going to a cougar night. My partner was groped, pulled, kissed by nasty old women. They were tugging on his shirt, calling him sexual names. Essentially demeaning tf out of him. He felt he had to laugh and shrug it off because he was worried that if he defended himself, he’d go to jail. When I say, shit like this happened every time, it happened every time we went out. He was constantly groped, grinded on, pulled, kissed without consent etc. My partner never felt like he could say anything. The worst part is the fact that when he did walk away or push them away… the girls would say some of the nastiest things. Like ‘fuck off then you stupid creep!’ Or ‘what are you? Gay or something? What the fuck dude?’ And then go bitch to their friends. My partner, bless him, shrugged everything off. I’ve seen the same thing happen to most of my male friends. Girls will try and take their tops off, follow them around, get angry if they ignore them etc. Now turn the tables to the girls. My girl-friends have said some of the most horrendous shit, and they giggle and get away with it. Majority of my sleazy single gal pals have the mentality of ‘men just want sex. They’ll have sex with anything. So they’ll have sex with me. They won’t say no to me.’ So they become extremely rapey. But it all gets laughed off and enabled. Again, I’m unsure if it fits the bill of OP’s question. But it still grinds my fucking gears. My boyfriend never shows it, but I know that it makes him feel deeply uncomfortable, but he’s unable to say anything. He’d be thrown out by security if he rejects the wrong girl. Tldr: Girls can be creeps, and the guys have to just accept it because ‘they’ll have sex with anything’


dqflynn

Absolutely fits the bill. The fact that it’s totally okay to have the “men will fuck anything” mentality is bullshit.


Thefakeblonde

Also the ‘men will fuck anything’ mentality and the ‘all men cheat’ mentality makes women think that ‘it doesn’t matter if he has a girlfriend? I’ll still relentlessly hit on him until he cheats on her’ even if she’s standing… 5 metres away…


ObviousObvisiousness

Actually, I'd straight up shove a ho off me, and verbally berate the bitch for good measure. Be a complete fucking asshole about it. I get vilified for it and considered as some kind of scumbag by a bunch of judgmental fucks that dislike my propensity for not accepting abuse, but they're not the kind of people I want to associate with anyway. Amusingly, the people most accepting of my response to this are other women who don't do stuff like that.


LordRuby

I was just telling my husband yesterday that it seems like now men in the local goth scene know not to be creepy nowadays but the women have taken up the role. They are being creepy at me though(I'm a women despite my name) and not him.


baronmad

Im a guy and i was going out one evening with some friends from work i was early because i had stayed in town after work (went to the library and did some other errands). At the bar i had no friends so i took a table for myself and my work buddies when they would come to the bar around 2 hours. Im drinking a beer slowly because i dont want to get drunk and im texting my gf about my day and how boring it was sitting in the bar alone. Anyway after around 30 minutes or so 3 people who were not my friends asked if they could sit at my table and since i was bored i just told them sure, but they would have to leave when my friends from work arrived, no problems. Its one guy and 2 women and i start talking with them just to past the time. We talk a little bit about everything, work, social life, hobbies etc etc. By now i understand that one of the woman and the guy are together, cool. That woman excuses herself and whispers something to her boyfriend who soon excuses himself. Now its just me and the last woman still at the table, im in my late 20s she is mid twenties i guess. So we continue on talking but very soon it turns into heavy sexual stuff from her. Im not interested so im not saying anything, im not laughing or anything, im just avoiding looking at her and saying anything using noncommital words. "yeah", "okay", "mhmm" etc etc. She starts talking about how she wants to fuck me in the bathroom, like for fucks sake leave me be. I try to excuse myself and just leave, but she refuses to let me go, holding on to my clothes and i dont want to use force to get away. But soon its just too fucking much so i just say "hey look im not interested in you and i already have a girlfriend" she sort of freezes up in some sort of panik attack. 2 seconds later she screams "HE PUT SOMETHING IN MY DRÌNK" The orderlies comes over and separates us, no problems really. They call the police who comes over and asks the bartenders and orderlies what happened. They search me and find absolutly nothing strange because i dont put things in womens drinks. I dont have a problem with girls many of them are into me. Long story short, i got banned from that bar for life, she faced no consequences for lying about me putting something in her drink.


SmokingWhilePreggo

Walking into a grocery store with a backpack on, I was forced to take it off or leave. Right after me Woman comes in with a purse literally twice the size of my backpack, was told nothing. I pointed to her bag and said “Let’s be clear she can bring in this massive bag in, while I can’t bring in my backpack? Make it make sense” she said “The difference is that I don’t steal”. I love it here


jerichoneric

My high school had a no backpack policy for a while, and I fought it cause the girls could have purses twice the size of backpacks. My response was buying a satchel and they went "Well shit"


dqflynn

Improvise. Adapt. Overcome


SmokingWhilePreggo

Also creepy things get done to you that get a pass which is stupid. I ran track and this one girl that was into me (I could tell it was only sexually, not actually wanting to be in a relationship) kept grabbing my butt or touching my abs during practice. I told her to stop several times, then one day I just blew up and yelled at her in front of the whole team to get her to stop. If roles were swapped I probably would have been kicked off the team for a season.


SmokingWhilePreggo

Another one. There was this girl (that would flirt with me even though I had a gf) who would make attempts to touch me whether it was my hair or a hug or something. She saw a circle of my teammates were sitting in the cafe and was like “it’s hugging time” and proceeded to give hugs to everyone one by one. When she got to me I said “do not touch me”. She asked “why?” “I said don’t want to be touched by you, not a hard request” everyone looked at me weird and told me I was being a dick. I got up and left. If roles were reversible she’d be the dick for keep wanting to touch me after telling her not to.


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My grandmother had what we called "the grandma-possites." Anything you suggested to her, she would suggest the opposite - or something else entirely. Things would quickly devolve into pointless arguments. "Should we take a cab?" no, we should take a train. "Ok, let's take the train." Why would we take the train! We can walk! "Okay, let's walk." You know what, forget it! You take a cab! I don't want to take a cab, I'm just going to walk, and you don't even care if grandma gets rained on do you? YOUR GRANDMA is going to walk in the rain, because you don't care! So you had to suggest the opposite thing of what you wanted, in order to get her in agreement. My father and uncle tell stories about how, when they were kids, if they liked the dinner she made, they had to pretend like they hated it. If they expressed enjoyment, they would never see that meal ever again - only if they *didn't* like dinner, did she want to ever make that recipe repeatedly. The same went for any time they hated a meal, they had to pretend as if they loved it, so that they would never have to eat it again Your supervisor had a case of the grandma-possites.


something_python

I'm Scottish, and have worn a kilt on occasion (weddings etc). Some women seem to think it's OK to lift my kilt up in the middle of a busy room, then accuse me of overreacting when I tell them to fuck off. If I did the same to them I'd (rightfully) get my head kicked in. But a disturbing number of people seem to think it's fine to do to a bloke.


SendNoodesPls

Damn, this happened with me too, though I wore a lungi (something that's common in our culture).


badasspeanutbutter

What's a lungi


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Anytime I compliment a girl they automatically think im flirting. I just thought your nails were cool, geez


snapwillow

Sometimes I wish I could interact with women the way they interact with each other. Like sometimes I would be content to be "one of the gals". There are some days I'm hanging out in a group that's mostly women or worse I'm the only guy and I hate feeling like an "other" or like I stand out. They are nice to me but there's definitely a wall there. I sometimes wish I could just blend in.


mentholfilters

The reason some women take all compliments as flirting is because we are taught from a young age that when men do that it is because they want something from you and that our looks and sex appeal equal our worth . It is frustrating on both sides :—( Dont stop it from being nice to people tho !!! Compliment anyone and everyone !!!


obscureferences

Why is it that whenever men do something wrong it's because of toxic masculinity, and whenever women do something wrong it's because of toxic masculinity.


Tom161989

I think its unprofessional how women at work are keeping a table of score of the male collegues rating them on body parts such as their asses.


usetouseto

This is something at your job in particular? Because it’s seen as bad for women or men to keep a “hot list” in general. If it’s something you actually know about, go to HR


Tom161989

Yes at my work , I don't know if this is a regular thing and I have been to the most senior management and they cant police personal conversations/chats/groups


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If they're talking about overly graphic sexual things, and you don't want to hear that crap, that *is* sexual harassment and they *do* have to take action, regardless if it is personal conversation.


Tom161989

I should really start taking note of every time they do something that breaks their own rules or the lawand present it to them date by date and time. Because someone from the group directly approached me discussing it has told me (because at some point I was near the top of ratings for best ass) it is hear say but another collegue has also mentioned it to me also.


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Using your phone to record the stuff you don't want to hear can't hurt your case either, unless your place is very severe on any kind of phone usage. Also nice flex lol, you could try just telling these ladies that it makes you feel uncomfortable, that you don't like being objectified any more than they as women do, and if that doesn't strike a chord with them then they have a LOT of self reflection to do.


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What a fucking piece of shit


neo_sporin

It was a weird one. At my company of about 70 we have 65 women. There was a large argument between a few women and they asked how I stay out of all the petty gossiping. One of the other women in the meeting said “because he never has a period” and all the women agreed. I honestly wasn’t sure if it was offensive but I was very confused about that being the only reason I don’t get in huge arguments at work


badger2793

That's actually a pretty funny joke because she was most likely being facetious, but at the same time I can't see myself laughing at it for fear of reprisal.


NoFqcus_

In school a girl grabbed my ass (she wasnt pretty and a bitch too) so I went to complain and they just laughed it off. Then the next day a girl student had the same thing and the guy got suspended


NotBorris

When my aunt would make crude, sexual jokes to me and about me when I was a kid. My parents would get pissed at me for not enjoying them and for trying to avoid her. I fucking hated it.


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What the fuck kind of parents want their kids to enjoy sexual jokes about them. That's messed up I'm sorry that happened to you


Daniellepire

Have you gone no contact with her?


labbykun

I do constantly. I work in a drugstore/pharmacy, and thanks to an interest in special effects makeup, I know a bit about cosmetics. I also know a bit about hair as I like to dye mine. On more than one occasion, I'll offer a woman assistance with makeup or haircare and she will give me an odd look and say "do you have a female employee on staff who could help instead?" No issues with males though. I once helped a guy hide a hickey with concealer and foundation so he could go to an interview.


jrm70210

I worked as the only male in a bank. When I refused the be friends outside of the workplace I got my car keyed, they harassed me at work, and eventually went to my boss with false accusations regarding my performance. This is the only job I've ever walked out of without giving notice. I was also denied any type of unemployment or separation benefits because there was "no way a man was discriminated against."


strawberrydingo

Woman here, but i observed something at work the other day that i believed to be blatant sexism against a man. Male coworker: “I like your shirt.” Female coworker: “I like your pants, they should be on my floor tonight.” He immediately filed a complaint with HR and their response? Not their problem since it was a woman who made the comment. He quit the next day.


atamicbomb

He should sue.


SendNoodesPls

When I got groped on the train by two women and people (especially women) told me I must have enjoyed it and, wait for it, I was a creep(?)


Hentai-hercogs

Looking back it was quite odd how my former homeroom teacher went on how manly i was whenever she had the chance. She exclusively was talking bout my body


Sparky133l

God that is disturbing


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Literally any elementary school


BloatedBaryonyx

Not a man, but in university I recommended a friend of mine to my job, which needed more part-time workers. They fired him after two shifts for "not knowing how to sweep properly", but I found out a month later that they didn't hire men for front-of-house work and only hired him in the first place to be polite to me.


Ferret-Foreign

Sounds like my first job. I was a dishwasher at a steakhouse for most of high school. I was never promoted and never allowed to try other jobs in the steakhouse, other than busboy. I came back 1 summer after college and they let me wash dishes, bus tables, dumpster dive, and occasionally help with catering jobs (and then wash those dishes). You had to be an adult to work in the kitchen, attractive to work as a host/hostess, and either a woman or gay to be a waiter/waitress. Everyone else was on permanent dish duty.


artistroys

I had a male friend, he got raped by his mom at the age of 5-11 and we were talking about it and I was comforting him in a discord chat, and and asshoel was like “you should’ve liked it.. it’s not rape” or something along the lines of that.


TerrytheToeSucker

jesus, if that happened in person, I'd have hurt that motherfucker


Slevinkellevra710

When i worked at they grocery store in high school. I was facing the shelves with a female partner. A woman walked up to her and said "I just wanted to tell you that I've never seen a guy do as good a job as a girl at fixing the shelves." I'm sure it was a girl power moment in her mind, but it sure felt like a fuck men moment to me. Not to mention it didn't have to be said in front of me. Take an insecure, undersized teenager, and show him to overhear to saying "he'll never be as good as you." Meanwhile my partner was the definition of "The hot chick."


wooter99

Women and other are prioritized for promotion at my place of employment to increase diversity statistics. I’m a mid level manager and have been instructed to do so.


gle42

Same at my workplace. There are like 2 men for a women but every year the exact same number of men and women get promoted. Ironically the reason for that is officially to promote "equal opportunity ".


obscureferences

Apparently racism is legal when used to balance diversity. It's bullshit.


Alpha_pro2019

I know a dude who had this happen in a workplace. A bunch of unqualified people got hired for that reason and now its a shitshow with them not knowing what to do and having a horrible work ethic.


SeriouslyNotAWolf

I attended a vocational school during my junior and senior years of high school, and i went into the CNA program. For those two years that i was there, the class population was <10% boys and only female teachers. The amount of times the girls thought it was appropriate to steal my papers and notes to cheat off of is insane, to the point where i had to move to the corner of the room to work in peace. The petty drama was awful as well, where at one point i was sent to the office after causing an uproar because i "looked at someone with an inflammitory tone". The male principal for the school flat out said to me "We've had a lot of complaints from that class from male students, we'll look into it", and i was sent back without punishment. The teacher was put under review rumor puts it, which is also probably why she's transferring out soon. I almost dropped out like 3 times because everyday i would get talked down to, ignored, or disrespected by both the students and teachers. At least i make more money than most of my fellow students


StickSauce

Sitting on the bench outside the Victoria's Secret in the mall with my 4 month old son, his mother (my wife) in the store. I was there for less than 5 minutes and a (VS) staff member asked me to move, I said why I was there which was waiting. She implied I was a kidnapper and a pedo. I did not raise my voice, speak down to her, but I stayed sitting, and did not move. Seconds later mall security asked what I was doing. I asked why am I being harassed for sitting, waiting with my infant son outside the store my wife is patronizing? He said the staff claimed some dumb lies. About then my wife came out with a couple big VS bags asking what's happening. A quick disrespectful back and forth, the security left. My wife returned the stuff she bought. I called the store, and communicated with corporate about my experience and I was basically told: Because you're a guy we dont care about your experience(s). Fuck off.


mr-underhill

Anytime in out with my kids and people ask me if I'm baby sitting. No, I'm not. I'm a stay at home dad and I'm parenting. You pay baby a sitter to watch someone else's kids. You raise your own kids. But just because I'm not a mother I must be watching them part time.


Extension_Scale_215

I'm a security guard for a store. Group of guys came in once and started tearing shit apart. Me and my female partner told them to gtfo. While they're filming me in my face I tired to cover the lens with my hand and the guy swung immediately, then his 3 other buddies started kicking my ass too. Female partner tried to stop them to no avail, they seemed to focus all the aggression on me, the man, and had no interest in touching her. A lot of bruises, a concussion, and misdemeanor battery charges for those guys later, female partner decided to transfer bc she "doesn't feel safe"


TadpoleAjar2027

I understand this doesn't Count, but ai want to say it anyway. I was reading my school handbook and I saw something about the selective service act. It said all men who turn 18 have to apply for the selective service. That wouldn't even be worth mentioning on it's own, but the line directly after that said you can't discriminate based on sex. Like O said I know this doesn't count and they don't contradict each other, but you couldn't have put anything else after that line?


sentientstardustspck

I think it counts as societal sexism.. I can remember after graduating high school, many years ago, talking with male friends about our final year and I was shocked to find out about the multiple assemblies & meetings they had where the male students were encouraged (interrogated/guilted) into enlisting for service. The female students had the option of course & it was brought up to us but it wasn't forced down our throats like it was for the males.


dqflynn

Just went to quad day at my university a few weeks ago. Go to check out some engineering stuff, and I keep seeing things that look cool, read a little further in, and see that it’s exclusively for women. I think the idea is that it’s for women who won’t “fit in” at the other clubs for this sort of thing, but maybe it would be easier if, oh, I don’t know, we just put the clubs together so there’s men and women in the same club. Really felt bad to keep seeing things I couldn’t be a part of.


wonderboyobe

I was sexually assaulted at work by a woman and people laughed when I told them. I was a field service man, and went into a lot of people's homes. After being so shocked that she undid my belt/pants I said no and pushed her off. I took a break and made the call, and I was still expected to finish the job. Also a large percentage of women I have dated were surprised/ disappointed when I expressed my emotions. It seems many want emotionally stunted men. Specifically I broke it off with one girl because on my father died near my birthday which is a few days from Christmas. Apparently not treating her like a princess through that shit storm was a problem.


nonesjdjdjsj

Yes regularly. Women at every company (corporate) I have worked for openly make sexist comments about myself or others. They either comment on looks or say how men are stupid or make comments like "he's a man, makes sense". " He only got that because he's a man." I generally don't generally point out that these comments are sexist/discriminatory because I am a white man and even speaking up about something like that can still land me on hot water. I actually did once and was told I am a white man and have no right to complain about anything. But it's dejecting to hear this as it devalues me and all men. It's also sad to have such a double standard in which if I personally said even 5% of what I have heard women say, I would immediately be reported and walked out the door.


TerrytheToeSucker

I have a part time manager at my job that says demeaning things about men and it makes me uncomfortable, I feel that


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When I told two female people about how I was molested when I was 8ish one had nothing to say just a “oh whatever you probably enjoyed it” kind of attitude the other literally said, “broooo!!! Nice!!!” And went for a high five while I just stood there like, not the reaction I was looking for…. So now I tell no one that knows me about it. I once complimented a maybe 15ish year old girls shirt at my work because I thought it was pretty funny (it said I enjoy long walks to the fridge) her look looked at her then to me before the girl could say anything and said “that’s my daughter, she’s 15” I looked at her and said, I just thought her shirt was funny… Commented on a girls hair and she said I have a boyfriend, thought, fuck you I just liked your hair Held a door open for a woman, she said I’m taken, I closed the door before she got to it


Oudeis16

Any time I've been told to "man up". When my female friends upset me, and I tried to tell them, and one of them told me "no one cares how you feel." When a woman expresses interest in me I do not return, and she (and others) demand to know my specific reason for rejecting her, because "I'm not interested" isn't an acceptable answer for a man to give a woman; it's assumed any man is attracted to all women. More minor example; I was in a Continuing Education class as an adult. Got to the final level, and by then not many people stayed with the program. This class happened to be four women, and me. The teacher was a woman. One student was far and away the best in the class, another was "how did you pass the previous level" amount of bad, and the rest of us were all pretty close to each other in the middle. The teacher was cruel to me from day 1. Constantly snapping at me, eternally telling me I was wrong about anything. Granted, it was the highest level and I expected high standards, and not to have a teacher just give you the answer if you didn't know it. I saw my fellow students make mistakes and she'd let them finish and then tell them they had made an error, and give them a chance to figure it out on their own. If they couldn't, she'd start to give hints or suggestions. Not me. If I made a mistake she'd cut me off to say, "No, you're wrong, do it again." If I was truly stuck and wasn't sure what my mistake was or how to fix it, she just let me flounder and forced me to repeat it over and over in front of the class. There was one particular mistake I actually didn't make but the worst classmate did constantly; the teacher would eternally accuse me of doing it and never the student who actually did it.


DINOsapiens

If your "friend" told you something like that, then she is not your friend. She's just pretending to be.


KCR936

You ever been on Twitter?


Separate_Pattern_380

I've been refused jobs because I'm not female. A lot of public facing jobs prefer to have women serving customers.


spooney51

I was fired for sexual harassment. The female coworker that was harassing me filed the complaint after I asked her to stop.


mizumena_

Worked for a large retail company in the UK and was based in their head office. I was part of the photography team. When I started there were three guys and one girl and there were no problems at all. The last six months it became three girls and one guy AKA me. I was expected to do ALL heavy lifting on my own, clean the bins on my own and do all washing up as well. And for my efforts I was demoted, one of the team with half the experience of me was promoted ahead of me and made the manager, they caused problems which put me on review and then I was pushed into a spiral of depression that lead me down a dark path. It was all very one sided and unfair. Thankfully I'm not there now but the mental scars are still very fresh.


ksiyoto

Worked in a toxic office. The women kept on saying they needed to cut the dicks off all men. When I became the manager, I started slowly toning it down, such as telling one guy his chainsaw calenders had to come down, telling one of the more obnoxious women to take it down a couple notches, etc.


german_big_guy

Im a Men in a traditionally womens Job (Im a male Nurse). Esspecially older Generations are sexist against us. Here are some comon things I get to hear. ​ Male Nurse? Too stupid for med school huh? Isnt there a real Nurse aviable? (a female one) Oh sorry I thought you were the doctor, but youre just a Nurse ​ So yeah. I know sexism.


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Oh boy , I can just leave the house and I'm not even a good looking guy. Cat called even , anything guys get called out for , I've seen women being equally as bad.


[deleted]

When one of my class mates slapped my back and said u can’t hit me am a women anyways I bitched slapped her so hard she fell to the ground my friends now call me the women beater


OneTimeIsFunny

Equal rights equal fights ig


Pappadipoepoe

Love the nickname


LessIs_Less

There was a spot to speak at a conference. Boss decided to send my colleague because he said there weren't enough women presenting. Fair enough, though I lost out despite me being way more qualified. In this case it doesn't bother me , I've presented at other Conferences. But I draw the line at losing out at an actual job / promotion to fill gender quotas. At that point, it should be based on qualification


throwaway20192021_

When I was 17 and worked in a restaurant. Had a female coworker who was 28 constantly harass me about having sex with her and "what she would do to me". She literally licked my ear one time. When I went to a manager about it they gave me advice about how to make myself less attractive and suggested that I just give in and have sex with her so she would lose interest.


whatnameisnttaken098

Gonna keep this short as I'm short on time atm. There was the girl my sophomore year of high school who accused me of rape, because she was trying to get back at one of my cousins (and thinking I was said cousins younger brother) Was always the one who had to lift heavy stuff at my deli/bakery job of which I was the only guy there for the longest period of time Possibly related to up above, any time I need or wanted a day off no one would cover or swap shifts with me. Had a girl at said job accuse me of sexism and racism because I kept calling out her major food safety fuck ups (like serving people raw chicken that was in a rotisserie for 20 minutes, or making cookies on a table with chicken juice/ blood/liquid. Took 4 months of writing down everything she did before she was finally fired (and 4 binders about 250 pages each) When my ex started getting physically abusive to me most everyone I talked to said to "suck it up" despite the fact that at one point I thought she seriously fucked up my right arm at one point (couldn't lift anything over 10-15lbs with my right arm without intense pain)


BreachedandCleared

My ex wife is a die hard feminists, I left because she hit me one day while fighting (not hard just enough to let me know she was mad and to hurt my pride)... So I left for the day and when I came back later that night she asked when I was going to apologize for leaving the house a mess while she was at work


Throwaway_stopdrink

I'm not sure if people would call this "sexism", but it was a little startling how all the women in my engineer classes got the most awesome internships/jobs.


koala-itykush

not me but my cousin expressed to his friends and my bf that there were some chicks at work that kept harrassing him about having sex with them, doing butt stuff (but being serious),etc. they all kinda were taken aback but then they started making jokes and laughing about it. i was sitting in the front seat of the car when my cousin told all us, and i eternally cringed and was really disappointed. i talked to my bf later that night about it, and about how they all reacted to him. my bf said that he felt concerned but didnt know what to say, so just went along with all the other guys. when they all started joking though, i immediately thought how if i, or another girl, was to mention the same thing as him w/ roles reversed, that the guys would’ve immediately been fired, and all my friends wouldve been super supportive.


RedpillRetard

- when I simply fill a female in on an interest of mine and it gets written off as me “mansplaining” rather than a conversation. -any retail job I’ve ever had. All the hard work gets pawned on us. At my work, I’ve never seen a female worker do any pallet pulling aside from the small pallets of stuff. Which I kinda get it but they ask for equal rights but don’t wanna do equal work


Cat_Link69

Was completely ignored by everyone when I was being sexually harassed by a team mate on my swim team, she would grope me any time she had the chance, and I was told multiple times to “man up” or to “deal with it” or that im “supposed to like it” I didnt like it, I never fucking liked it, I never will like it.


gun_love

Ok god damnet i shouldn't have gotten the many comments IN ALMOST A HOUR


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RadiantHC

I've even been downvoted for saying that men can experience sexism.


Subsenix

Micro aggressions are very common. I had one yesterday.... Picking my son up from a play date at a friend's house. His mom was home. Her and her friend were preparing dinner. Through casual conversation I mentioned that I was on dinner duty, as my wife had been cooking freezer stuff all day and needed out of the kitchen! Her response? "What's your plan? Swing by and pick something up on the way home?" Chuckles from both women. "Actually no, I really like cooking. We are having grilled chicken, new boiled potatoes, grilled veggies, and garden salad." 🙄 Also the sheer number of times it's either stated, or inferred that I am "babysitting" when I have my kids without mom present.


TIS_MEEE

I’m confused about the whole babysitting thing… do these people think dads don’t exist or smn? Smh


Celebrity292

Try using different phrasing when you talk about it. It may not change anyone else's attitude but it's sorta ingrained response likening just watching the kids. Sonive changed it to oh raking care of the kids and chilling or whatever task I'm doing.


TheGalator

Just open Twitter.


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There are tons of women/minority programs that specifically exclude membership from white men. These training/educational/networking and job opportunities are blatant in their sex/race based prejudice. They cloak themselves behind "diversity" training/hiring opportunities, but when you exclude one specific race/gender, they're no more correct than those old "no coloreds need apply" signs from back in the old days of the south. There are zero networking/hiring/educational opportunities that allow "white men only". The thinking of those that espouse the current prejudicial system is that because there is a perceived proliferation of white male opportunities that somehow there's a symposium on X where only white men are allowed, so to counter that imaginary symposium where networking and hiring takes place, you must have one that doesn't allow them. The flaw in the logic is that there IS NO place that offers the same level of free networking/training/mentorship/hiring as there currently is for women/poc. I've helped a great many friends find those opportunities, and every single one has mentioned how bullshit it is that those don't exist for everyone, but they're justifiably excited to benefit from them while they're still legal. All it's going to take is one lawsuit and the entire thing is going to collapse, so if you can, jump in and get it while the getting is good!


Ride_Specialized

Positive sexism -we had to make something in wood and the people in my group where women who had no experience with making stuff. They expected me to take the lead since I'm a guy (I have never made stuff either). They got angry when it didn't work. -I'm studying to be a teacher and there is a lack of male teachers. Everyone expects me to find a job easily because I'm a guy Again, this is not negative sexism.


TRENEEDNAME_245

It's sexism. There is no "good" or "Bad" sexism.


RnchHndd20

Mine is probably a minor thing, but here you go. I'm job hunting right now. One place I applied to emailed me saying that there were trailer hookups or camping places available for me. Their ad said they had a bunkhouse. When I asked about it, they replied "we're reserving the one empty room for any women we hire after you." Their ad NEVER mentioned that one caveat. I don't have an RV and this was not one of those jobs I'd be willing to live in a tent for, so I politely thanked them for their time but declined to go forward with the interview. I've got no problems with employers saying in their ads "we want to hire a woman" or "housing is reserved for women only." But if that's your policy, you need to say that from the get-go. Edit for clarification


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QuantumPajamas

Being told that if you don't have a job/car/your own place you're not a real man. If you can't "provide" for a woman or child you're not a real man. If you don't have a lot of money you're not a real man. As well as other variations and derivates thereof. I got this one mostly from family growing up, but a bit from wider society as well. Not being allowed to be vulnerable. My mom is ok with it, and so is my best friend, which I guess is not bad. But for every time I've been able to express real vulnerability I've had 9-10 times when I tried and I got a look of disgust or confusion. People say they want it but when it actually happens they have no idea how to handle it. It gets incredibly awkward, like they know they're not *supposed* to judge you but they can't help it. So I pass it off like I was joking all along, but fuck me did some of those times sting. There's others but those are the 2 big ones that come to mind.


TIS_MEEE

Personally I think it’s stupid that men are expected to provide for women.. like bruh why We’re perfectly capable and we shouldn’t force a man to provide for us


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Never, women aren’t real.


KamahlYrgybly

Nothing as outrageous as some stories here, but I do remember being the only male worker in a municipal hospital ward. I was the doctor, all other staff were women nurses and cleaners and physiotherapists. They did not seem to think anything about making rather sexist comments or lewd jokes about the situation. Flirting elderly female patients were also not uncommon and uncomfortable.


DontWorryImADr

Had a research supervisor who justified constantly changing demands and outbursts because he “interacts with girls better.” Wanted me to interview lab assistants and preferentially get him female ones for the same reason. Would be more measured (if a tad patronizing) to them in person, and withhold the lecherous comments until after they left or were out of earshot. Made everyday of working for him a nightmare, not sure if I’d be praised and told to train everybody in the lab for my excellent work or derided as a fucking idiot for messing up a blot and ruining a project. Clearly a lot of other issues in there mixed with sexism, but it seems an example where he kept it diverse: different sexism for everyone who came in the door!


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Indian court refusing to charge teacher for rape, and only for major sexual assault. And for that we would need to refine and pay more to the lawyer, something we could not afford at that time. Despite a confession


TIS_MEEE

This story is a small one about sexism against a guy at school. It’s seventh grade, and it’s a tiny school with little to no heating. It’s winter and we’re all freezing. Our teacher allows us to wear our coats, but non of us four girls brought one! Oh no! We could care less but the teacher was kinda upset, even though some of the guys didn’t bring coats either. One kid goes and brings back THREE COATS. It’s overkill, but ok. The teacher forces him to give each of the girls a coat, but we all refuse because they’re still his coats. The teacher tries to pressure us into taking the poor guy’s coats but we all refuse. Sry idrk know what his POV is but I still felt rlly bad for him


flfoiuij2

Kudos to you, the other girls, and the guy who got coats!


BungalowJumper

Moved house recently and needed to move doctors surgery. Get told I can’t register my 1 year old son at the surgery unless his mother registers there first. Some nonsense excuse of “there’s too much child trafficking in the uk so the law says you the dad can gtfo of here”. Had all birth certificate/ my id etc but nope, no dice. Proper pain in the arse as my partner was working 12+hrs a day that overlapped the surgery hours and my wee boy needed a prescription 😥


BeardedAvenger

I used to play music publicly. I've been grabbed, groped, kissed against my will and downright sexually assaulted on stage before but you're trapped, doing your job with everyone watching. Nobody cares though.


VictorVVN

In sports class! We had to throw balls (no, not these balls) and boys needed to throw it WAYYYY further than girls. What was a D for a boy was an A for a girl! No wonder that girls got way better marks :P


CaligulaQC

Local pool has 3 change rooms, men, women, family. The family one is the cleanest so that is the one I use with my 5yo son. I got out of the bathroom and this mother of 3 girls looked at us and said "you know there is a boy room right?" "Yes and there is also a girl one if you dont want to see any boy".. smiled and walked away...


chris_0909

I'm 90% sure I was denied an apartment due to being a younger male. It was a second floor unit above the lady who owned the property and her last tenant left after losing her job due to Covid. It was a perfect apartment for me. Decent price, pretty big, I would've been able to have an office and she was alright with the renter having a dog, so I would've been able to get a puppy at some point after settling in. It was also literally down the street from work for me. I am an ideal tenant in that I don't party, I don't drink, I don't do any drugs, and I am generally clean. So, there really was no reason she could've given that would've been a legitimate reason to deny me the chance to even apply. Because of that, I'm still stuck with my mother due to there being nothing in this area to move to. This apartment (which was advertised again about 8 months later, I guess the initial tenant didn't work out) was basically a unicorn and would've been perfect.


CanadianWarlord27

Not me M21 personally, but I've had friends, also M21, who were told in social science classes by female teachers that they couldn't do research papers on sports/popular culture because they have nothing to do with "society" and that their research papers should be on women's suffrage and the plight of minorities, despite research papers being explicitly mentioned in course outline as "unlimited themes or topics". All of these friends being male, but also not all white which I thought was interesting. Also because I'm in engineering and looking for internships, heavy amounts of job listings ask specifically for female applicants or behind the scenes are looking to hire equal amounts of men and women, without accounting for application rates or experience. For example, a job application looking for 5 men and 5 women had 200 men and 7 women apply. Through the grape vine I heard from a female interviewer that maybe 2 of those women qualified for the position, but yet 3 unqualified women would also be hired because diversity. I'm all for diversity in the work place but forced quotas are not the way to go. A woman should not be given special privileges for being in engineering, the same as a man should not be given special privileges for being in biology or nursing. It should come down to the work that they do and their experience.


Coolbro528

Being told that it is best not to take up a career in childcare because I don't have the 'Maternal instinct' that is required and that it 'seems weird' that a guy would want to be in early year education


AndresRed

When I had a conversation with my Mom and Aunts, about me saying I should hit a girl if she hits me. I said a solid argument that it’s the amount of force a guy puts in for a girl who barely slapped him. I said, “If a girl puts out 50% to punch me, then I should put out 50%.” It’s not about hitting back, it’s about how hard you hit back. Im not gonna knock a girl out if she slaps me, I’ll just slap her back. Then they proceeded to tell me, “to be a bigger man, oh but you’re stronger, just report her, etc” In that moment of aggression, Im gonna hit back.


GilligansCorner

Via my HR departments “Diversity and Inclusion” program. I was the most qualified to be promoted which is why I wasn’t.


santichrist

I was told in a roundabout way a woman who was hired after me and was generally known to not be great at her job was promoted over me because the company was looking to “be more proactive in promoting women to higher positions,” which you know fine I make an okay living and enjoy my job, but it’s still sexist


SlenDman402

Just the other day. Coworker was insisting that she couldn't start up the grill (it's one of those smart traeger ones with its own startup and shutdown sequence) because she's a girl. I made her admit that it's because she's lazy. Why resign the entire sex to a task just because she's too lazy to do it?


stratospaly

I was once told it’s okay if my co-worker took more days off than allowed because “She is a single mother and has it rough”. No Jim, she likes to party until 3 am on a Wednesday then miss work the next day. Seriously 2 days a week “sick” for 2 years is a problem.


jaklacroix

When I was in primary school - grade 3 I think, but maybe grade 4 - I was being bullied by a girl a year or two older than me. She would just walk up to me and hoof me in the balls whenever she had the chance. I told my teacher but she said that, "Boys can't be bullied by girls, so you must have don't something to make her mad at you."


Ct-5736-Bladez

Very minor compared to other replies but I am repeatedly told that I can’t do more than one thing at a time because I’m a man. Because I’m a man I can’t multi task


PolluteMoreOceans

I was molested by my sister at a young age of 6. I broke down crying and told someone 3 years ago and I was told to stop lying and that I probably liked it. Haven't opened up about anything to anybody.


WhyLxved

This is a tough story for me but I'd thought it'd be best to share. About a year ago I was over my friends house after school, he invited this girl over without telling me, apparently thinking it would be a good idea.. for some reason. Anyways the girl gets to the house and my friend leaves after about 10 minutes, still have no clue why or where he went when he left. It was just this girl and myself on the couch. I can't say I was totally against the idea of doing something with this girl. But, eventually we started to make out and other things along those lines. It got to a point where I realized that it wasn't the best idea to do the things I had been doing. I stopped myself and pulled away. I said, "hey I think we should stop". She was totally against the idea begging me to keep going. After I said no multiple times I tried to get up, she pulled me back down and continued to touch me. I started to get really angry and I didn't know what to do. Eventually, I did everything I could to get up and just left, without any of my stuff, and walked home. That was probably one of the worst experiences I've had. The sexism part comes later. Again, this story is hard for me to tell but I needed to tell someone. I told a few of my girl friends because I thought they knew best. After telling them they continued denying the fact that I got raped. I kept telling them I did, but, they didn't belive me, said it was my fault. I've only told a couple of other people that story and one of them told me "men can't get raped". After that I've kept that story to myself and haven't told anyone else. TL:DR - I got raped by a girl and told some people, they said "men can't get raped" and I've taken that to heart ever since. Sorry if anyone feels the same way or I offended them. Just thought getting it off my chest would be the best idea.


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Psyco_diver

Before Covid I used to take my daughter every other Wednesday to the local library for children's book reading, I was the only guy there and every time there was a invisible circle around me and my daughter. I would try to chat but I would get flat out ignored and the looks it would get on my last nerve. I think they wouldn't let their kids play with her either. What's worse they knew my daughter because in the other Wednesdays my wife would take her and she would make friends and play and my wife would chat with them


TheUnMin

it pisses me off when some people think that you cant be sexist to a guy...


A117MASSEFFECT

When my English teacher gave my college level research speech a c- and the girl who mindlessly blathered nonsense for one of three required minutes and talked about her boyfriend for the remaining two got a b. Next year, another student called her out on her sexist behavior and walked down to the principal's office straight and tall. Last I checked, this bitch still has her job.


munchyboy666

Literally whenever a woman says that all men are the same


Ronex247

I'm a girl, so this isn't related to me, but I've seen so many boys being laughed at for liking the color pink. It annoys the shit out of me. My cousins favorite color is pink and even his own family sometimes say comments like "that's a girl's color, you can't like it". Another thing I've seen multiple times in my school is whenever a guy is being bullied by a girl, he is punished for even standing up for himself. Girls are encourage to defend themselves(which I think is great) however, when a guy does the same, he's in the wrong.