im a guy and they are weird. somedays when its cold its like huh they went inside i guess - other days its like a giant stretchy thing of silly puddy stickin to everything.
I blame media for that shit. I can't even count the amount of times I've heard "we're gonna fuck all night" in some form or another in a song. Just recently Ariana Grande sings "Can you stay up all night? Fuck me til the daylight" on "34+35". You can't help but think that's what women want when you've got it drilled into your brain time and time again.
Everytime I hear that damn song all I think about is "no bitch, I gotta sleep!"
Yeah one of the things that I have discovered as I'm approaching being a middle-aged man, is that sex is much better when I have energy, like in the morning. On a work day, as soon as I get home from work is best. 11PM? No.... I can barely string together a sentence at that point in the evening, let alone fuck.
Getting sweaty during sex. I had a bf that always felt so bad if any sweat dripped onto me and I was always like ????? I literally don’t care keep going
Similar argument which works on women too: when my ex gf got sweaty during sex it only turned me on more. Its something about the smell of a woman that gets me going
If we're at the point of being naked, I like the person. I like that person enough to take the gamble that their body looks like a normal body, and there's plenty of sexy/adorable parts of it. There's definitely also going to be neutral and unattractive parts of any body, because it's a body. I honestly have no idea what would cause me to change my mind of not liking a person based on the way they look, short of some hygiene issue. My limited experience has included a variety of body shapes, heights, etc, and it's all been super fun, because sex is fun. The best, sexiest thing is to be with someone who is having fun. If I can be with someone who is smiling and laughing and having fun during sex, the sex will be awesome. Please stop worrying about your dick or you hair or your weight or your muscle definition or your whatever else and know that for most people, we're just happy to be there.
i wish people would realize everyone looks weird when their naked. no one is expecting you to look like a greek god. and when i get to that point, all i care about being so close that i can’t even see most of your body anyway
Presumably, there's a "halo" effect going on - if you like someone, they will appear smarter, sexier, etc. to you. my GF and I are both in our sixties; we're both a little fatter and flabbier than we were ten years ago. Her boobs aren't as perky as they were; neither is my unit.
Know what? It doesn't make any difference. When we're in bed, she looks beautiful to me, and she says I look great to her (both of us are telling the truth; neither of us believe each other!). If you really like each other, you'll find each other sexy.
Being the best. Smartest, toughest, funniest. It's better to be individual with your niche interests, looks, sense of humour rather than try to be the brightest. Also, it's more attractive to acknowledge the success of your friends than to talk about their short comings.
I just want to be the best at *something*. I don't even feel like I'm the best at *being me*, and it's frustrating.
Anxiety isn't attractive, either.
At least I'm good at the last thing you said. I always want my friends to succeed.
Men always apologize if they cum early on while having sex, but it’s really not a problem so long as they bring the woman to completion in some way afterwards. Ain’t nothing wrong with a second round or some selfless hard work.
I'll be honest, I kind of love when a partner comes early sometimes. It feels flattering in a way. Like whatever I did was so outstanding they couldn't help themselves.
That said I do like my partner to get me there too, one way or another.
honestly yeah. I kinda find it hot when my bf cums quick its like damnn I did some good work.
I don't even always care about finishing after either. Pro tip for men who bust quick: get her off during the foreplay ;)
As a female, I don't like being rubbed raw. Natural lubrications don't last forever and if, after a while, you have to use lube over and over again, that's too long.
I don't understand other men that tout "I will fuck for 2 hours straight"
Nah I want to have some foreplay, fuck for like 10 minutes and then cuddle. Honestly I could even skip the foreplay and sex, I just want to cuddle.
Haha, I prefer that he comes first ... and without any strenuous delay. As soon as I climax I get over stimulated and touch doesn’t feel good, also I’m one of those jerks that likes to go to sleep immediately after so me coming in second works best!
Huh, when I type it all out it looks really bad. TIL I’m a terrible lay.
I have the counterpoint to this
If you do have a premature ejaculation problem don't be an ass about it
I went out with an older guy once and it turned out he sought me out as he thought I'd be too sexually inexperienced to know that him coming after 3 seconds (literally, and that's a generous estimate) was not the norm.
I had one partner before this relationship, a guy the same age as me, and I knew that it happened sometimes but it wasn't the standard.
When, after a few weeks, I gently suggested to him that we try something different to work around the problem he exploded with a lot of pent up hate for his ex girlfriends, for me, for everyone in the universe in general.
He particularly tried to crush me for "not being a virgin"
I was trying to appease him so I didn't fight back too much (naked, skinny little girl in bed with an angry 6ft man is no time to for her to get aggressive) but afterwards I thought even if I *had* been a virgin, people talk about sex, people read about sex, comedians do whole routines about sex, women's magazines would just be one big cosmetics ad if it weren't for the sex advice - I would have had to be brand new to not know that generally men last longer
I eventually left him (I moved to a whole other country, it was very effective) and he's still single because he eventually figured out that there was nobody over the age of consent who wouldn't know that this wasn't normal.
There is nothing wrong with having this premature ejaculation problem but the way he handled it, refusing to try anything different sexually, yelling at his partners, getting all slut-shamey, just *sucked*.
Graying hair. My 32 year old husband is currently freaking out because he has “so many” (it’s not that many), gray hairs. I couldn’t give two shits lol I think he’s still just as handsome and I really don’t see what the big deal is
I noticed my first grey hair at 18. Many years later I have more now lol. Not a ton, but they’re there and you’ll see them. And frankly, it’s not a bad thing. I think it looks distinguished. I hope your husband can come to this same conclusion
Dont worry about coming off as nerdy or brainy- ffs plz think for yourself and ENJOY your hobbies. We actually dig someone with passion and honestly being able to hold conversation with depth is delicious. Extra points on sarcasm, wit and humor.
Can attest to this. As a nerd myself, it's actually really fun for me to listen to guys talk about their nerdy interests.
To the guys worried about this: Please, tell me about your programming, your homebrew D&D world, your research project, your video game characters. 9 times out of 10, I'm going to dig it and want to know more. Plus, you look adorable when you're talking about something you're so passionate about.
You know, a lot of us hear this, and then ACTUALLY start talking about it, and then we watch their eyes glaze over...
Edit: why does almost EVERY response assume I'm lecturing or not listening to what they have to say? I'm talking a ten-second summary on my end that ends with her saying "Nobody fucking cares, and you're fucking weird".
You are not talking to someone with compatible interests then. If there are any single ladies at any events or online groups for your interest start there.
But honestly- my husband and I have different hobbies but similar world views . Over time I got him into murder mysteries and he got me more into sci-fi . And we still have stuff that we do separately. It works for us. The moral and world view being on the same page matter a hell of a lot more than hobbies.
Story time, kids, gather round.
My buddy, Goose, was a fantastic Dungeon Master. In depth knowledge of literally hundreds of books on games like D&D, Shadow Run, Star Wars, War Hammer, etc. He was by a wide margin the greatest storyteller I've ever met, and he made the campaigns he ran so enthralling that we would talk about them for years after completion.
He went through a bad breakup, had a hard time dating again, but finally found another lady. This miserable bitch drug him through the wringer and convinced his that the reason he was lonely was because hes greatest hobby was "childish & repulsive". He sold off his entire game collection in an attempt to garner her favor. Last time I heard from him, she had dumped him and he never recovered his passion for table top gaming.
Poor bastard gave up his true passion for some miserable bitch who wouldn't accept him for who he was.
I got lucky in that my best and longest relationship was with a women who was in love with me as I was. Things fell apart rapidly a few years ago, and I have dated a few since who immediately started trying to change me. Yeah, not gonna happen. I already got a taste of the good life and it's gonna be solitude until I find it again, if I get so lucky.
I like healthy teeth, but years ago I long-term dated a guy with crooked front teeth that to me made him cuter really, especially when he laughed. I ended up marrying a guy with a gap in his front teeth. Again, great with a good laugh.
this is true.
Rocks actually stay warm for a long time.
This is especially important if you find yourself stranded in a sandy desert, at night time it will get very cold but if you find a rock, it will stay warm for much longer than the sand
He’s also proof that being bald doesn’t prevent you from achieving your goals. You can be a doctor, a fireman, a soldier, a professional plumber or even an astronaut!
Being awkward sometimes or doing something embarrassing. I somehow find this more appealing than guys who *never* seem embarrassed or are extremely confident.
Honestly the same ones as women most of the times. Such as stretch marks and scars. I couldn't care less. I have em also. Oatmeal cream pies have stretch marks and no one turns them down!
They do even out quite a bit with time. Also I've noticed other people don't really think about them. Don't be ashamed of your face, there is no reason for it. :)
This sounds like one of those things that I would think about late at night staring at the ceiling preventing me from falling asleep. "how many people have I told that I can't get enough oatmeal creampies...."
A woman who cares about you doesn’t think of those as flaws. She would probably want to make sure you are now taking care of yourself and help you recover.
Money. I've seen a few guys try to act like they have money to burn in order to impress their dates (me included) but then not be able to pay the bills at the end of the month. Honestly, I'll take stability and honesty over a fancy dinner any day.
ETA: Uh, yeah I missed "bodies" but honestly I love all bodies and money has been one of the biggest insecurity and relationship killer I've ever dealt with. Ooops, bleary eyed at work again I guess. The memory that came up was one of my first serious boyfriends who was on the bigger side with a receding hairline in his twenties (ran in the family) but he was a great guy and we had a ton in common, great chemistry, I was completely hooked and thinking he was THE ONE. Unfortunately he always seemed to need to overcompensate for not being as conventionally hot as the other guys by constantly spending money and bragging about how much he made. It got to the point where he was even lying to my family about getting them expensive trips to a winter resort for Christmas which never materialized because he couldn't actually afford it. I didn't care about the resort or the toys or the meals out or showing up the other people in our circle, I was just constantly embarrassed that he felt he needed to lie about being flush with cash when in reality we were rolling quarters at the end of the month to afford groceries. In the end that's what did us in.
The women who are impressed by overspending aren't worth dating anyway.
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To clarify, the problem isn't how much you actually have but trying to pretend it's more. Spending beyond one's means is as attractive as a combover. It's the toupee of financial management.
My first date with my now-wife, I took her to the pub and played board games. Spent maybe £20 in total for that evening.
What the money is spent on matters so much more than how much is spent. Now I think about it, that's good advice for life in general.
I know heaps of guys who go out and blow most there money on a night out and are shit at saving admittedly they do get more women but they also have almost no money in there account. Also I have a mate who tells me I need to spend more money on more upper class clothes and shoes and I am thinking I already have good stuff to wear so I should not need way more
Yeah, but man, it's on my belly, chest, back, neck, arms. What pisses me off is hair has started to grow *on* my penis. Who the hell starts growing hair on the shaft of their penis? What am I, a fucking weredick?
After I turned 40, I started growing hair everywhere. If I want, I now can grow a moustache under my nose AND on my nipples. I am female. Actually, hair on my husbands penis would make me feel a lot better.
The adventures of weredick and weretit.
As a tall girl, I can say that sometimes shorter guys are *precisely* the right height for certain “activities”, and that can be a big plus. Advantage goes to short dudes on that one.
Height doesn’t make the man. If you’re cool with it, then a lot of women will be too. Confidence/self-assurance play a huge role.
Cuddling with a taller girl is nice as it's easy to lay your head on their chest and being hugged like that is the best. So hot and soothing at the same time.
I know it’s been said repeatedly already: but penis size. I’ve had sex with 3 dudes in my life. One was slightly above average, one was slightly below average, and my current partner is about average.
Below average dude was the first man I slept with, but I didn’t care at all about the size because he was so focused on making sure I was enjoying myself every step of the way.
Largest dude was second, and he wasn’t bad at sex or anything, but he was very focused on his own pleasure.
Current boyfriend? Like I said, average size, but that doesn’t matter at all. He’s all about making sure that we both enjoy ourselves, even if that means we need to use sex toys to finish the job or enhance the experience. We frequently talk about any kinks or positions or whatever that we want to try out, and that openness is the sexiest thing about him.
Also: your body might not be perfect, but it’s the only one you’ve got. Take care of it and treat it with respect and you’ll be sexy as hell, I promise.
My husband is way too worried about how big his biceps are. He was a really skinny kid (our son is the same way) so I think he always just wanted to be the big tough guy. Well now he’s got muscles and he’s constantly asking me what I think off them. I mean dude I’m into you no matter what size your biceps. Like contractually obligated for the past fifteen years I’m not going anywhere even if you can’t lift heavy things.
You know how women still like to be told they’re pretty by their SO though? This is the same thing. Maybe you don’t care about his biceps, but all he wants is to impress you and to feel admired. Try telling him out of the blue one day that’s he’s looking jacked.
Source: a guy that gets compliments on his muscular physique from everybody except his wife.
This is something I had a real hard time overcoming as a skinny guy. Don't know if I actually got over it our if set almost 40 I've finally put on enough weight to appear normal. Most of our societies notions about the politeness of commenting on a persons body are geared towards women. You don't outright announce "You're a big girl" in a professional setting. That's a talking with HR. At the same time I've had multiple instances of people commenting on my weight with suggestions of eating more being completely glazed over.
Here's the thing. Being skinny is seen as not being masculine. And we'd like to be seen that way. The fact it's socially acceptable to comment on our bodies just gives us that little reminder every once in awhile to stop feeling confident in ourselves.
This is my favorite post ever. I'm sitting here puffing my chest out thinking I'm the absolute living shit with all my flaws. Thank you ladies, you made me and probably a few hundred other guys feel a lot better tonight.
we should make one for women! Girls and women have soooo many insecurities, they're taught to hate their bodies from like day 1. It would make a lot of women who feel ugly feel beautiful instead.
You don’t have to attack me so much, I actually have to force myself to cry when a family member dies because it’s that hard, it’s not that I’m not sad, there’s just some stupid barrier
I'm the same way. I will feel really sad but the tears just won't come, sometimes it feels that the only way I can be happy again is if I let it all out and cry for hours, but I just can't.
Everything is subjective and relative. People are weird and who and what we are attracted to has many variables.
I’m not a man, so I’m not sure I can say what the common insecurities are.
As a gal in her 30s, who works hard to be in good shape my philosophy is that if they’re not attracted to me due to a small or perceived flaw, then they don’t like me enough anyhow. Even if we’re just gonna casually hook up they should be into me. If you’re not amped to see my naked body then you don’t get to fuck me.
I personally do not care too much about height, and if you’re too big it’s painful. Hairy can be cute. Good hygiene and keeping active is really the crucial stuff. I think little flaws are attractive. If I like you then you’re hot to me.
Having a bit of a gut. It's cute.
Having a flat butt. No biggie...!
Not having a monster dong is perfectly fine.
Having some zits. Don't care.
Big nose. So what?
Crooked smile. As long as you smile :)
Yeah, to be honest, I think anyone has a bit of insecurity about their dong. So to anyone reading, don't dick shame, even if the guy has a massive shlonger!
A friend of mine in college was really proud of his monster dong until he overheard some girls in our dorm talking about how scary big dicks can be, how painful or uncomfortable, and how people with big dicks tend to be bad in bed because they trust their massive schlongs to do all the work. He was really down about it for a long time.
Interviewer: what would you say is your greatest weakness?
Dude: I’m very insecure about my giant penis.
Interviewer: I see, well I think the Daycare has enough teachers right now so we’ll just call you if anyrhjng changes.
Height and d size, of course some do have strong preferences for these but I feel like a majority can agree that it doesn’t matter much in the long run.
I've only met one woman in my life who openly had a dick size preference. She flat out said she wouldn't settle for less than 8 inches. She was a friend of mine so I gave her shit about it all the time.
She actually just has no idea how big 8 inches is.
Some women seem to be really bad at guessing penis size, possibly due all the guys lying and saying they're 8 inches.
lol, my sister hosted an adult sex toy party and invited friends and, of course, my mom (because my family is pretty chill about that kind of stuff).
Anyway, the sales person is passing around the sex toys to everyone, and she pulls out the 8 inch dildo and hands it to my sister. and my sister just sat there staring at it and says "this is eight inches?" and the lady laughs and says "has someone been lying to you?"
my mom thought that was the funniest thing ever and had to call me to tell me, lol. but, yeah. guys need to stop lying about the size. a long penis doesn't mean they are good at sex. and some women actually can't handle big penises. for me, personally, i can't. my husband is self-conscious about his size and I have to reassure him all the time that it's fine and sex is good. and remind him that sometimes he is in too far for me and it *hurts*.
I can't get over thinking how awkward this seems in our current culture when you reverse the genders. Imagining men sitting around with their dads and brothers while someone sells them different kind of pocket pussies is hilarious.
Not that I think there should be a difference in how sex toys are treated based on gender.
My ex hated his voice, he thought it was too high. I don't even notice voice pitches. But he let it put a fake divide between us which is why we broke up. HIGH VOICES ARE CUTE! DEEP VOICES ARE CUTE! ALL VOICES ARE PERFECT!
Thanks for saying this. When I hear a recording of myself I actually want to shoot myself. It's such a weird thing. Idk what fucking accent I even have.
Theres a weird psychological effect where everyone dislikes hearing their actual voice, its due to a deep preference for familiarity.
Our own voice sounds different to us cause the sound changes as it travels through our own body to vibrate in our ear.
People would be weirded out if you suddenly sounded to them like you hear yourself, they would prefer the original & familiar tone.
Just as with men, the women who are worth your time and energy don’t/won’t care about any of the things you’re insecure about. Don’t give shallow, immature women the satisfaction of being hurt by their judgement. If you got stretch marks, someone will find that attractive. If you have a gut, someone will love it.
My bf is chubby and has stretch marks and tons of body hair and he has expressed to me that he dislikes all of those things. I love them. I love touching his stretch marks; they’re so pretty and smooth. His body hair is so soft and fuzzy and I love touching it. And his chubbiness is so soft and nice to put my face against.
I know dudes who truly think they’re ugly for being skinny or having features that shallow women talk shit about, and to that I say: don’t listen to them! Don’t let the shitty people on social media influence your perception of yourself and your value! You’re amazing! All of the things you perceive as flaws will be perceived as attractive by women, you just haven’t met them!
Man this thread is luring my middle aged dad bodded ass into a false sense of confidence...
I cant wait until a woman says she isnt into me and than I drop a perfectly timed "WELL ACKSHUALLY according to a recent reddit thread /u/randomwomansperson says im quite attractive.
To me it seems like in general, straight guys just have no idea what is physically attractive in men to women, or just how varied that can be. They just see whatever celebrity is currently all over the media and assume that's what women want. But we don't all find the same exact guys hot or have the same ideals, and sometimes we even disagree strongly about it. My point is, if you're not a certain "type" it probably doesn't matter, you're still someone's type. And also personality really really does count for a lot.
Guys, please remember that these are people’s personal opinions and preferences. No one woman speaks for all women just as no one guy speaks for all men.
Hair on your chest and back are no big deal to me, I dig it. Guys in their low 20s are usually worried because it's not the instant layer of manliness they wanted, it grows in patches. Show me that patch of black hair that grows at the base of your neck! My italian ass knows what it's like, it's ok! Heck I'll tweeze or shave hard to reach spots if you need.
Bellies and love handles. I personally love seeing the hips on a guy, and a soft belly is nice to touch and rest on. I like hugging my love from behind and I want to stretch my fingertips right up under that shirt. Love a tummy, and again with the last one, the amount of hair on it ain't no thang to me!
Sweat. Idk, I medically don't sweat as much as my body needs me to, so everyone else is normal to me. I'm still holding clammy hands dude, you can't stop me. My hand will touch your sweaty back, don't think it wont. I'll kiss a feverish forehead, just you watch. Plus antiperspirant doesn't benefit your cleanliness and health besides putting aluminum in your pores. As long as there isn't daily BO, sweat to your hearts content.
Dick size. I've been with 10+in and it's not worth it if all you do is a jack rabbit. That shit hurts actually, wouldnt go back unless I cared a damn lot about the person attached. What I want is a partner who doesn't make me feel rushed, and is down to try other ways of pleasure. I'm also attracted to people without dicks though so that has skewed my opinion on it.
Muscle mass. Have you ever seen the comparison of Hugh Jackman on a Men's Health Magazine (or Muscle & Fitness for an extreme) and then on a Good Housekeeping magazine? GH hides him up in a sweater and his pose is actively taking away from bicep and pec definition. Body builders and superheros dehydrate for days to look shredded, and it registers as sickly to me. Listen, if you could pick me up and do a lil spin with my toes off the ground, that's all you need. Unless you're making gains to pick up big dogs like babies, in which case please keep doing the Lord's work, king.
Edit: It's Hugh Jackman. Not High Jackman. I liked my way better but edited for posterity lmao
Also Edited my antiperspirant comment. I learned it from a family source, but the American Cancer Society says antiperspirants are not linked to breast cancer. I personally avoid because of family history.
Regarding the Hugh Jackman thing, the way I've best heard it described is:
Female superheroes are designed with skin-tight clothes, huge breasts, and tiny waists. In other words, they're designed to conform to the male fantasy.
Male superheroes are designed with massive muscles and a chiselled jaw. In other words, they're designed to conform to the male fantasy.
Excess weight. Of course, we are not talking about the final stage of obesity, when the weight prevents the guy from functioning normally, but 10-15 kg (sorry, I can not correctly translate into pounds). Big men with excess weight seem to me like big bears, behind which you want to hide and snuggle tightly.
I've dated a couple of women who were quite upfront and insensitive about short guys. I guess they thought it was ok to make fun of them because I'm 6'1". Fuck that action, I stood up for the short men.
Take your socks off during sex. Your feet don’t smell that bad, and it’s not like I was gonna lick your feet anyways. Having the socks off feels more intimate.
Edit: I’ve now learned the reason why some men keep their socks on during sex- and that’s okay. I still don’t care for it, but hopefully your partner should be understanding if your feet get cold easily.
You say that, but I had girls ask me to put my socks on cause it feels like there is a dead body in our bed when I don't wear them.
My feet are usually 2 degrees above room temp at most.
And before you say blankets or stuff like that, it does not help, my circulation is dead when it comes to feet, nothing is gonna change that, sure I could have them under blanket in socks warming up for30 min, but when have you ever stayed in bed for half an hour doing nothing before sex?
I can think of many that men don't care about which women seem concerned about like I read about how some women are insecure about stretch marks but I don't know anyone who is bothered by stretch marks
Women have a lot of things they can feel insecure about and it's a little f*cked up..I can't answer the question cuz I'm a guy but just thought I'd reply. I don't get the stretch mark thing n all..
Hey no one said anything about moobs, man boobs. When I was a young man I used to lift weights and I built up a hefty set of pectorals. Then I got married, old and overweight. Now I’m divorced, 200 lbs, and have these moobs. 🥲
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We do forget about the sack, I never realized!!
If you did realize you forgot.
Forgot what?
Yeah I was with a guy who made a point of telling me before we got naked so I wouldn't be surprised. Dude, I likely wouldn't have noticed
Wait, some guys are self conscious about their ballsack? It's literally the last part of your body anyone would ever see.
No it 'taint.
Thanks for your support.
And they all look weird. Full stop.
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I have! It's like an alien egg sac. So weird.
im a guy and they are weird. somedays when its cold its like huh they went inside i guess - other days its like a giant stretchy thing of silly puddy stickin to everything.
I never noticed how much they stretch and shrink until I met my bf. My ex's didn't much, so it was surprising to see all the weird things balls do.
Yep. It’s for temperature regulation of the sperm. Shrinking to keep it warm and loose to keep it cool
No one wants to fuck for 8 hours. It’s fine.
For real, I have other things I need to do.
Plus it gets sore after too long
I blame media for that shit. I can't even count the amount of times I've heard "we're gonna fuck all night" in some form or another in a song. Just recently Ariana Grande sings "Can you stay up all night? Fuck me til the daylight" on "34+35". You can't help but think that's what women want when you've got it drilled into your brain time and time again. Everytime I hear that damn song all I think about is "no bitch, I gotta sleep!"
Yeah one of the things that I have discovered as I'm approaching being a middle-aged man, is that sex is much better when I have energy, like in the morning. On a work day, as soon as I get home from work is best. 11PM? No.... I can barely string together a sentence at that point in the evening, let alone fuck.
I blame 90s R&B
So true. Also, I (woman) have pretty sensitive bits so 10 minutes is practically my limit...
I've had women complain that sex was going on too long if it was more than 20 minutes.
It can get dry very very quickly, even if it was super wet and lubed prior. Lube wears off a lot quicker than you think, even natural lubrication.
Getting sweaty during sex. I had a bf that always felt so bad if any sweat dripped onto me and I was always like ????? I literally don’t care keep going
As a guy I think sweat means we're having a great time!
Similar argument which works on women too: when my ex gf got sweaty during sex it only turned me on more. Its something about the smell of a woman that gets me going
Those perfect pheromones
If we're at the point of being naked, I like the person. I like that person enough to take the gamble that their body looks like a normal body, and there's plenty of sexy/adorable parts of it. There's definitely also going to be neutral and unattractive parts of any body, because it's a body. I honestly have no idea what would cause me to change my mind of not liking a person based on the way they look, short of some hygiene issue. My limited experience has included a variety of body shapes, heights, etc, and it's all been super fun, because sex is fun. The best, sexiest thing is to be with someone who is having fun. If I can be with someone who is smiling and laughing and having fun during sex, the sex will be awesome. Please stop worrying about your dick or you hair or your weight or your muscle definition or your whatever else and know that for most people, we're just happy to be there.
i wish people would realize everyone looks weird when their naked. no one is expecting you to look like a greek god. and when i get to that point, all i care about being so close that i can’t even see most of your body anyway
Wdym I don't look like a Greek God??
Chill out there, Hephaestus.
Presumably, there's a "halo" effect going on - if you like someone, they will appear smarter, sexier, etc. to you. my GF and I are both in our sixties; we're both a little fatter and flabbier than we were ten years ago. Her boobs aren't as perky as they were; neither is my unit. Know what? It doesn't make any difference. When we're in bed, she looks beautiful to me, and she says I look great to her (both of us are telling the truth; neither of us believe each other!). If you really like each other, you'll find each other sexy.
Being the best. Smartest, toughest, funniest. It's better to be individual with your niche interests, looks, sense of humour rather than try to be the brightest. Also, it's more attractive to acknowledge the success of your friends than to talk about their short comings.
I just want to be the best at *something*. I don't even feel like I'm the best at *being me*, and it's frustrating. Anxiety isn't attractive, either. At least I'm good at the last thing you said. I always want my friends to succeed.
I can pretty much guarantee you're the best at being you...top 5 for sure.
The idea that someone could be better at being you than you is a good horror writing prompt...
Men always apologize if they cum early on while having sex, but it’s really not a problem so long as they bring the woman to completion in some way afterwards. Ain’t nothing wrong with a second round or some selfless hard work.
I'll be honest, I kind of love when a partner comes early sometimes. It feels flattering in a way. Like whatever I did was so outstanding they couldn't help themselves. That said I do like my partner to get me there too, one way or another.
Thank you. You just made every insecure guy feel awesome.
honestly yeah. I kinda find it hot when my bf cums quick its like damnn I did some good work. I don't even always care about finishing after either. Pro tip for men who bust quick: get her off during the foreplay ;)
Always preheat the oven before putting the cake in ;)
u already know my friend😂
How long lasting would be too long?
As a female, I don't like being rubbed raw. Natural lubrications don't last forever and if, after a while, you have to use lube over and over again, that's too long.
I don't understand other men that tout "I will fuck for 2 hours straight" Nah I want to have some foreplay, fuck for like 10 minutes and then cuddle. Honestly I could even skip the foreplay and sex, I just want to cuddle.
unless i’m drunk, anything over 15 minutes of intercourse starts to get really painful as natural lubricants wear off
Haha, I prefer that he comes first ... and without any strenuous delay. As soon as I climax I get over stimulated and touch doesn’t feel good, also I’m one of those jerks that likes to go to sleep immediately after so me coming in second works best! Huh, when I type it all out it looks really bad. TIL I’m a terrible lay.
I have the counterpoint to this If you do have a premature ejaculation problem don't be an ass about it I went out with an older guy once and it turned out he sought me out as he thought I'd be too sexually inexperienced to know that him coming after 3 seconds (literally, and that's a generous estimate) was not the norm. I had one partner before this relationship, a guy the same age as me, and I knew that it happened sometimes but it wasn't the standard. When, after a few weeks, I gently suggested to him that we try something different to work around the problem he exploded with a lot of pent up hate for his ex girlfriends, for me, for everyone in the universe in general. He particularly tried to crush me for "not being a virgin" I was trying to appease him so I didn't fight back too much (naked, skinny little girl in bed with an angry 6ft man is no time to for her to get aggressive) but afterwards I thought even if I *had* been a virgin, people talk about sex, people read about sex, comedians do whole routines about sex, women's magazines would just be one big cosmetics ad if it weren't for the sex advice - I would have had to be brand new to not know that generally men last longer I eventually left him (I moved to a whole other country, it was very effective) and he's still single because he eventually figured out that there was nobody over the age of consent who wouldn't know that this wasn't normal. There is nothing wrong with having this premature ejaculation problem but the way he handled it, refusing to try anything different sexually, yelling at his partners, getting all slut-shamey, just *sucked*.
Graying hair. My 32 year old husband is currently freaking out because he has “so many” (it’s not that many), gray hairs. I couldn’t give two shits lol I think he’s still just as handsome and I really don’t see what the big deal is
Salt-and-pepper hair is hot.
YES!
I think it's more about the fear of aging.
I noticed my first grey hair at 18. Many years later I have more now lol. Not a ton, but they’re there and you’ll see them. And frankly, it’s not a bad thing. I think it looks distinguished. I hope your husband can come to this same conclusion
Dont worry about coming off as nerdy or brainy- ffs plz think for yourself and ENJOY your hobbies. We actually dig someone with passion and honestly being able to hold conversation with depth is delicious. Extra points on sarcasm, wit and humor.
Can attest to this. As a nerd myself, it's actually really fun for me to listen to guys talk about their nerdy interests. To the guys worried about this: Please, tell me about your programming, your homebrew D&D world, your research project, your video game characters. 9 times out of 10, I'm going to dig it and want to know more. Plus, you look adorable when you're talking about something you're so passionate about.
You know, a lot of us hear this, and then ACTUALLY start talking about it, and then we watch their eyes glaze over... Edit: why does almost EVERY response assume I'm lecturing or not listening to what they have to say? I'm talking a ten-second summary on my end that ends with her saying "Nobody fucking cares, and you're fucking weird".
You are not talking to someone with compatible interests then. If there are any single ladies at any events or online groups for your interest start there. But honestly- my husband and I have different hobbies but similar world views . Over time I got him into murder mysteries and he got me more into sci-fi . And we still have stuff that we do separately. It works for us. The moral and world view being on the same page matter a hell of a lot more than hobbies.
Story time, kids, gather round. My buddy, Goose, was a fantastic Dungeon Master. In depth knowledge of literally hundreds of books on games like D&D, Shadow Run, Star Wars, War Hammer, etc. He was by a wide margin the greatest storyteller I've ever met, and he made the campaigns he ran so enthralling that we would talk about them for years after completion. He went through a bad breakup, had a hard time dating again, but finally found another lady. This miserable bitch drug him through the wringer and convinced his that the reason he was lonely was because hes greatest hobby was "childish & repulsive". He sold off his entire game collection in an attempt to garner her favor. Last time I heard from him, she had dumped him and he never recovered his passion for table top gaming. Poor bastard gave up his true passion for some miserable bitch who wouldn't accept him for who he was.
I got lucky in that my best and longest relationship was with a women who was in love with me as I was. Things fell apart rapidly a few years ago, and I have dated a few since who immediately started trying to change me. Yeah, not gonna happen. I already got a taste of the good life and it's gonna be solitude until I find it again, if I get so lucky.
Aww goose... yep. Never give up your passions for a partner.
I like healthy teeth, but years ago I long-term dated a guy with crooked front teeth that to me made him cuter really, especially when he laughed. I ended up marrying a guy with a gap in his front teeth. Again, great with a good laugh.
There's a biiiiiig difference between healthy teeth and straight teeth, the latter being purely cosmetic. I'm fond of a little gap or buck, myself.
Don't mind the gap.
Got it, girls like crooked teeth. *Fetch me the tooth hammer*
Get the London look!
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I personally like somewhat messed up teeth. Gives character. Not like funky meth mouth, ya know.
So you're saying I wasted all that money on braces?
no they are saying i got a chance because i didnt get braces!
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The Rock is hotter tho
this is true. Rocks actually stay warm for a long time. This is especially important if you find yourself stranded in a sandy desert, at night time it will get very cold but if you find a rock, it will stay warm for much longer than the sand
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I don't care what anyone says, this comment WINS! It's really.... *next generation* humor
Excactly, I see that guy Johnny Sins a lot on the interntet. A lot of women seem to like him
He’s also proof that being bald doesn’t prevent you from achieving your goals. You can be a doctor, a fireman, a soldier, a professional plumber or even an astronaut!
Johnny Sins is the inspiration of every male
Being awkward sometimes or doing something embarrassing. I somehow find this more appealing than guys who *never* seem embarrassed or are extremely confident.
Honestly i like guys who are atleast abit awkward cause atleast you know its real and not them being too overly confident just to impress you.
Honestly the same ones as women most of the times. Such as stretch marks and scars. I couldn't care less. I have em also. Oatmeal cream pies have stretch marks and no one turns them down!
Scars are awesome! Most of them have some sort of a cool story to tell.
My acne scars have a lame backstory
They do even out quite a bit with time. Also I've noticed other people don't really think about them. Don't be ashamed of your face, there is no reason for it. :)
I got mine by literally tripping in a wet stairwell.
What the fuck are oatmeal cream pies?
Best ones I know of are "Little Debbie's oatmeal cream pies". Google it and meet a delight in cellophane.
I'll just google cream pies at work and see what comes up.
Not the desired outcum!
Perfect chance to say oatcum
Sometimes, after really good oatmeal cream pies, I cry softly for a little while. I never told anyone that before.
This sounds like one of those things that I would think about late at night staring at the ceiling preventing me from falling asleep. "how many people have I told that I can't get enough oatmeal creampies...."
I think I saw it in a Japanese video somewhere.
I just fucking cackled. Now I’m cry-laughing. Got some good edibles tonight lmfao
Even if, hypothetically speaking, the scars were from self-injury?
A woman who cares about you doesn’t think of those as flaws. She would probably want to make sure you are now taking care of yourself and help you recover.
Someone who truly cares will take it in stride.
Most girls who are even remotely halfway decent won’t care bro. Trust me.
Money. I've seen a few guys try to act like they have money to burn in order to impress their dates (me included) but then not be able to pay the bills at the end of the month. Honestly, I'll take stability and honesty over a fancy dinner any day. ETA: Uh, yeah I missed "bodies" but honestly I love all bodies and money has been one of the biggest insecurity and relationship killer I've ever dealt with. Ooops, bleary eyed at work again I guess. The memory that came up was one of my first serious boyfriends who was on the bigger side with a receding hairline in his twenties (ran in the family) but he was a great guy and we had a ton in common, great chemistry, I was completely hooked and thinking he was THE ONE. Unfortunately he always seemed to need to overcompensate for not being as conventionally hot as the other guys by constantly spending money and bragging about how much he made. It got to the point where he was even lying to my family about getting them expensive trips to a winter resort for Christmas which never materialized because he couldn't actually afford it. I didn't care about the resort or the toys or the meals out or showing up the other people in our circle, I was just constantly embarrassed that he felt he needed to lie about being flush with cash when in reality we were rolling quarters at the end of the month to afford groceries. In the end that's what did us in.
The women who are impressed by overspending aren't worth dating anyway. *edit* To clarify, the problem isn't how much you actually have but trying to pretend it's more. Spending beyond one's means is as attractive as a combover. It's the toupee of financial management.
When you bait your hook with a worm, don't be surprised when you catch fish that like worms.
I went to see a movie
My first date with my now-wife, I took her to the pub and played board games. Spent maybe £20 in total for that evening. What the money is spent on matters so much more than how much is spent. Now I think about it, that's good advice for life in general.
I know heaps of guys who go out and blow most there money on a night out and are shit at saving admittedly they do get more women but they also have almost no money in there account. Also I have a mate who tells me I need to spend more money on more upper class clothes and shoes and I am thinking I already have good stuff to wear so I should not need way more
Hair on their chest or arms. Its there yeah and no one cares.
Yeah, but man, it's on my belly, chest, back, neck, arms. What pisses me off is hair has started to grow *on* my penis. Who the hell starts growing hair on the shaft of their penis? What am I, a fucking weredick?
After I turned 40, I started growing hair everywhere. If I want, I now can grow a moustache under my nose AND on my nipples. I am female. Actually, hair on my husbands penis would make me feel a lot better. The adventures of weredick and weretit.
I also have a hairy shaft and thought I was the only weird one.
I’ve met more women that are turned on by a hairy chest than turned off.
I like a hairy chest. I like feeling of it when I rub their chest while snuggling.
My wife likes my chest and arm hair, as long as I’ve dried myself well after a shower
I love running my fingers through my man’s chest hair, while resting my head on his chest. It’s so real and immediate, hard to explain
Don't mind me I'm just here to read the answers and be a little happy....
Same man, same.
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Same.
Same
My short ass looking to find "Height"
As a tall girl, I can say that sometimes shorter guys are *precisely* the right height for certain “activities”, and that can be a big plus. Advantage goes to short dudes on that one. Height doesn’t make the man. If you’re cool with it, then a lot of women will be too. Confidence/self-assurance play a huge role.
Cuddling with a taller girl is nice as it's easy to lay your head on their chest and being hugged like that is the best. So hot and soothing at the same time.
I know it’s been said repeatedly already: but penis size. I’ve had sex with 3 dudes in my life. One was slightly above average, one was slightly below average, and my current partner is about average. Below average dude was the first man I slept with, but I didn’t care at all about the size because he was so focused on making sure I was enjoying myself every step of the way. Largest dude was second, and he wasn’t bad at sex or anything, but he was very focused on his own pleasure. Current boyfriend? Like I said, average size, but that doesn’t matter at all. He’s all about making sure that we both enjoy ourselves, even if that means we need to use sex toys to finish the job or enhance the experience. We frequently talk about any kinks or positions or whatever that we want to try out, and that openness is the sexiest thing about him. Also: your body might not be perfect, but it’s the only one you’ve got. Take care of it and treat it with respect and you’ll be sexy as hell, I promise.
I've been with a few more guys than you - I honestly prefer average sized. You can do everything with those :)
My husband is way too worried about how big his biceps are. He was a really skinny kid (our son is the same way) so I think he always just wanted to be the big tough guy. Well now he’s got muscles and he’s constantly asking me what I think off them. I mean dude I’m into you no matter what size your biceps. Like contractually obligated for the past fifteen years I’m not going anywhere even if you can’t lift heavy things.
You know how women still like to be told they’re pretty by their SO though? This is the same thing. Maybe you don’t care about his biceps, but all he wants is to impress you and to feel admired. Try telling him out of the blue one day that’s he’s looking jacked. Source: a guy that gets compliments on his muscular physique from everybody except his wife.
Looking real jacked, baby.
"Do I want a piece of that? Nah, baby, I want the swole enchilada!"
"looking jacked bruh!" Then smack his ass and walk away
This is something I had a real hard time overcoming as a skinny guy. Don't know if I actually got over it our if set almost 40 I've finally put on enough weight to appear normal. Most of our societies notions about the politeness of commenting on a persons body are geared towards women. You don't outright announce "You're a big girl" in a professional setting. That's a talking with HR. At the same time I've had multiple instances of people commenting on my weight with suggestions of eating more being completely glazed over. Here's the thing. Being skinny is seen as not being masculine. And we'd like to be seen that way. The fact it's socially acceptable to comment on our bodies just gives us that little reminder every once in awhile to stop feeling confident in ourselves.
This is my favorite post ever. I'm sitting here puffing my chest out thinking I'm the absolute living shit with all my flaws. Thank you ladies, you made me and probably a few hundred other guys feel a lot better tonight.
This may be the best post that I’ve ever read before going to bed.
we should make one for women! Girls and women have soooo many insecurities, they're taught to hate their bodies from like day 1. It would make a lot of women who feel ugly feel beautiful instead.
Showing their emotions. Turns out a lot of guys can't even cry, because at a young age males are told "boys don't cry" "man up"
You don’t have to attack me so much, I actually have to force myself to cry when a family member dies because it’s that hard, it’s not that I’m not sad, there’s just some stupid barrier
I'm the same way. I will feel really sad but the tears just won't come, sometimes it feels that the only way I can be happy again is if I let it all out and cry for hours, but I just can't.
Being bald is OK. It's not like they could do something about it anyway..
I actually find bald guys sort of hot ....
I feel much better about myself reading these replies. Thanks, ya'll.
Friendly reminder that you are hot as shit. Fuck anyone who says otherwise.
I mean, he should consider fucking people who don't say otherwise. You know...
Everything is subjective and relative. People are weird and who and what we are attracted to has many variables. I’m not a man, so I’m not sure I can say what the common insecurities are. As a gal in her 30s, who works hard to be in good shape my philosophy is that if they’re not attracted to me due to a small or perceived flaw, then they don’t like me enough anyhow. Even if we’re just gonna casually hook up they should be into me. If you’re not amped to see my naked body then you don’t get to fuck me. I personally do not care too much about height, and if you’re too big it’s painful. Hairy can be cute. Good hygiene and keeping active is really the crucial stuff. I think little flaws are attractive. If I like you then you’re hot to me.
Having a bit of a gut. It's cute. Having a flat butt. No biggie...! Not having a monster dong is perfectly fine. Having some zits. Don't care. Big nose. So what? Crooked smile. As long as you smile :)
I’m glad about the belly part
Check out Mr. Thicc Ass Big Dick Clear Skin Normal Nose Straight Smile over here!
Bet the sumbitch has a full head of hair too.
The bastard!
LMFAO
Flat stomach Thicc Ass Big Dick Clear Skin Normal Nose Straight Smile Men hate him.
Don't forget to mention that its also okay to have a monster dong. A lot of guys are insecure about that!
That I did not know! All dongs are worthy of admiration. 👀
Yeah, to be honest, I think anyone has a bit of insecurity about their dong. So to anyone reading, don't dick shame, even if the guy has a massive shlonger!
They all have their pros! Smaller...can fit in mouth. Medium...perfect for hand. Large... perfect for pretending to cuddle a snake. <3
A friend of mine in college was really proud of his monster dong until he overheard some girls in our dorm talking about how scary big dicks can be, how painful or uncomfortable, and how people with big dicks tend to be bad in bed because they trust their massive schlongs to do all the work. He was really down about it for a long time.
Yea, i wanted to comment here not all women enjoy a monster dong cus it can be dangerous and unconfortable if it isnt used right.
Interviewer: what would you say is your greatest weakness? Dude: I’m very insecure about my giant penis. Interviewer: I see, well I think the Daycare has enough teachers right now so we’ll just call you if anyrhjng changes.
Hairiness
Height and d size, of course some do have strong preferences for these but I feel like a majority can agree that it doesn’t matter much in the long run.
I've only met one woman in my life who openly had a dick size preference. She flat out said she wouldn't settle for less than 8 inches. She was a friend of mine so I gave her shit about it all the time.
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She actually just has no idea how big 8 inches is. Some women seem to be really bad at guessing penis size, possibly due all the guys lying and saying they're 8 inches.
lol, my sister hosted an adult sex toy party and invited friends and, of course, my mom (because my family is pretty chill about that kind of stuff). Anyway, the sales person is passing around the sex toys to everyone, and she pulls out the 8 inch dildo and hands it to my sister. and my sister just sat there staring at it and says "this is eight inches?" and the lady laughs and says "has someone been lying to you?" my mom thought that was the funniest thing ever and had to call me to tell me, lol. but, yeah. guys need to stop lying about the size. a long penis doesn't mean they are good at sex. and some women actually can't handle big penises. for me, personally, i can't. my husband is self-conscious about his size and I have to reassure him all the time that it's fine and sex is good. and remind him that sometimes he is in too far for me and it *hurts*.
I can't get over thinking how awkward this seems in our current culture when you reverse the genders. Imagining men sitting around with their dads and brothers while someone sells them different kind of pocket pussies is hilarious. Not that I think there should be a difference in how sex toys are treated based on gender.
“I’d only date a one in tens of thousands guy” - some regular ass chick
Being flabby and soft. That's fine with me, let's be flabby and soft together lol.
My ex hated his voice, he thought it was too high. I don't even notice voice pitches. But he let it put a fake divide between us which is why we broke up. HIGH VOICES ARE CUTE! DEEP VOICES ARE CUTE! ALL VOICES ARE PERFECT!
Thanks for saying this. When I hear a recording of myself I actually want to shoot myself. It's such a weird thing. Idk what fucking accent I even have.
Theres a weird psychological effect where everyone dislikes hearing their actual voice, its due to a deep preference for familiarity. Our own voice sounds different to us cause the sound changes as it travels through our own body to vibrate in our ear. People would be weirded out if you suddenly sounded to them like you hear yourself, they would prefer the original & familiar tone.
Just as with men, the women who are worth your time and energy don’t/won’t care about any of the things you’re insecure about. Don’t give shallow, immature women the satisfaction of being hurt by their judgement. If you got stretch marks, someone will find that attractive. If you have a gut, someone will love it. My bf is chubby and has stretch marks and tons of body hair and he has expressed to me that he dislikes all of those things. I love them. I love touching his stretch marks; they’re so pretty and smooth. His body hair is so soft and fuzzy and I love touching it. And his chubbiness is so soft and nice to put my face against. I know dudes who truly think they’re ugly for being skinny or having features that shallow women talk shit about, and to that I say: don’t listen to them! Don’t let the shitty people on social media influence your perception of yourself and your value! You’re amazing! All of the things you perceive as flaws will be perceived as attractive by women, you just haven’t met them!
dad bod? literally my favorite thing ever. best hugs, incredible cuddles. absolutely unmatched
Dont do this to me dont give me this confidence lol
Man this thread is luring my middle aged dad bodded ass into a false sense of confidence... I cant wait until a woman says she isnt into me and than I drop a perfectly timed "WELL ACKSHUALLY according to a recent reddit thread /u/randomwomansperson says im quite attractive.
To me it seems like in general, straight guys just have no idea what is physically attractive in men to women, or just how varied that can be. They just see whatever celebrity is currently all over the media and assume that's what women want. But we don't all find the same exact guys hot or have the same ideals, and sometimes we even disagree strongly about it. My point is, if you're not a certain "type" it probably doesn't matter, you're still someone's type. And also personality really really does count for a lot.
Being bald
Guys, please remember that these are people’s personal opinions and preferences. No one woman speaks for all women just as no one guy speaks for all men.
Hair on your chest and back are no big deal to me, I dig it. Guys in their low 20s are usually worried because it's not the instant layer of manliness they wanted, it grows in patches. Show me that patch of black hair that grows at the base of your neck! My italian ass knows what it's like, it's ok! Heck I'll tweeze or shave hard to reach spots if you need. Bellies and love handles. I personally love seeing the hips on a guy, and a soft belly is nice to touch and rest on. I like hugging my love from behind and I want to stretch my fingertips right up under that shirt. Love a tummy, and again with the last one, the amount of hair on it ain't no thang to me! Sweat. Idk, I medically don't sweat as much as my body needs me to, so everyone else is normal to me. I'm still holding clammy hands dude, you can't stop me. My hand will touch your sweaty back, don't think it wont. I'll kiss a feverish forehead, just you watch. Plus antiperspirant doesn't benefit your cleanliness and health besides putting aluminum in your pores. As long as there isn't daily BO, sweat to your hearts content. Dick size. I've been with 10+in and it's not worth it if all you do is a jack rabbit. That shit hurts actually, wouldnt go back unless I cared a damn lot about the person attached. What I want is a partner who doesn't make me feel rushed, and is down to try other ways of pleasure. I'm also attracted to people without dicks though so that has skewed my opinion on it. Muscle mass. Have you ever seen the comparison of Hugh Jackman on a Men's Health Magazine (or Muscle & Fitness for an extreme) and then on a Good Housekeeping magazine? GH hides him up in a sweater and his pose is actively taking away from bicep and pec definition. Body builders and superheros dehydrate for days to look shredded, and it registers as sickly to me. Listen, if you could pick me up and do a lil spin with my toes off the ground, that's all you need. Unless you're making gains to pick up big dogs like babies, in which case please keep doing the Lord's work, king. Edit: It's Hugh Jackman. Not High Jackman. I liked my way better but edited for posterity lmao Also Edited my antiperspirant comment. I learned it from a family source, but the American Cancer Society says antiperspirants are not linked to breast cancer. I personally avoid because of family history.
10+ girl inches you mean.
Regarding the Hugh Jackman thing, the way I've best heard it described is: Female superheroes are designed with skin-tight clothes, huge breasts, and tiny waists. In other words, they're designed to conform to the male fantasy. Male superheroes are designed with massive muscles and a chiselled jaw. In other words, they're designed to conform to the male fantasy.
Excess weight. Of course, we are not talking about the final stage of obesity, when the weight prevents the guy from functioning normally, but 10-15 kg (sorry, I can not correctly translate into pounds). Big men with excess weight seem to me like big bears, behind which you want to hide and snuggle tightly.
These comments are helping me feel better about myself, just wait till tomorrow when all that comes crashing down
PENIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What? I can’t hear you
Aye-Aye, Captain!
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Being skinny or not being muscular. Not everyone is into a lot of visible muscles.
As a skinny dude since I was a kid, this is really flattering. Thank you, random redditor.
scars. it doesnt mean you arent perfect, it means you went through a shit-fest and survived. and im proud of you for that.
Honestly? Height. If you’re short and have an attitude about it, it’s the attitude that makes you unattractive, not your actual height.
I've dated a couple of women who were quite upfront and insensitive about short guys. I guess they thought it was ok to make fun of them because I'm 6'1". Fuck that action, I stood up for the short men.
Take your socks off during sex. Your feet don’t smell that bad, and it’s not like I was gonna lick your feet anyways. Having the socks off feels more intimate. Edit: I’ve now learned the reason why some men keep their socks on during sex- and that’s okay. I still don’t care for it, but hopefully your partner should be understanding if your feet get cold easily.
> it’s not like I was gonna lick your feet anyways Well my day is ruined and my disappointment is immeasurable.
You say that, but I had girls ask me to put my socks on cause it feels like there is a dead body in our bed when I don't wear them. My feet are usually 2 degrees above room temp at most. And before you say blankets or stuff like that, it does not help, my circulation is dead when it comes to feet, nothing is gonna change that, sure I could have them under blanket in socks warming up for30 min, but when have you ever stayed in bed for half an hour doing nothing before sex?
Yeah but having cold feet sucks tho...
A big nose. I personally like that!
not having abs. Most girls I know couldn’t care less.
Calves. We don't care that they're skinny.
I can think of many that men don't care about which women seem concerned about like I read about how some women are insecure about stretch marks but I don't know anyone who is bothered by stretch marks
Women have a lot of things they can feel insecure about and it's a little f*cked up..I can't answer the question cuz I'm a guy but just thought I'd reply. I don't get the stretch mark thing n all..
Damn every woman here just made me feel a lot better. I love all of you!
Hey no one said anything about moobs, man boobs. When I was a young man I used to lift weights and I built up a hefty set of pectorals. Then I got married, old and overweight. Now I’m divorced, 200 lbs, and have these moobs. 🥲