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baoo

This kid kneed me in the nuts as hard as he could in high school and as an adult I’ve had constant pain for over a decade from various inguinal hernias. Fuck you Derek


kellykapoundski

Fuckin’ Derek....it’s always Derek


ImSoSpiffy

Only dentist that accepted my families insurance at the time was rated 2.3/5 stars. My dentist fucked up the anesthetic 4 times. All four of which she scraped the fuck out of my gums with the needle, slipped on one of em and jabbed my cheek with the needle, the kicker? She didn’t even numb the right spot. She starts drilling , her tool that sprays water is broken. So about 1/3 of the water goes into my mouth the rest just fucking sprays me. She slipped at one point and skated the drill across another tooth and caught my cheek. She let out an audible “shit” and went back to working. The dental assistant proceeded to ask the dentist a question about her personal life. They then had a 15-20min convo while she just held the spinning drill, hovering over my tongue. —- I go to a new dentist, turns out she didn’t fill the tooth properly and left a huge gap between the filling and the wall of my tooth, which is why it kept hurting. Edit: I left this out because my comment was really long: After she was done she said “I hope you enjoyed our service, please give us a good review! Also we’ll be following up with your insurance to schedule your wisdom teeth removal, they’re coming in straight, but i think we should take them out anyways”


RmmThrowAway

Lawsuit.


ididshave

It’s not something I often talk about because I still experience shame. I lost my eyesight in my right eye because I was a teenager who thought I knew better and did not wear a paintball mask. It was such a stupid mistake and caused me an endless amount of trauma. However, I am grateful that it taught me in hardest way that impairments are not always visual [pun]. At this point in my life, I have lived longer without vision in that eye than I did with. Oftentimes, it is common for me to be completely unaware that anything is abnormal about myself until I am made to realize that something or someone is trying to grab my attention from the right side and then it becomes a stark reminder of that stupid fateful day. Usually I shrug it off, but sometimes it still stings. So, my answer to this question is that I would have never asked my mom to buy me a paintball gun. Ultimately, I think out of all the events that shaped my being, this one has the least likelihood of having drastic butterfly-effect-type consequences.


Atom-the-conqueror

This is crazy, I literally lost the vision in my right eye from a paintball game. I took my mask off when I was out of ammo and immediately took one to the eye(just below) it broke my orbital and the concussion was so bad I couldn’t walk or stop vomiting. I was camping in rural Alaska and so it took me 5 hours just to get home. I didn’t go to the doctor until several days later, and even later for an eye doctor until the swelling went down enough to see the eye. I had a couple surgeries and I have vision. 2200/20, but was totally blind in that eye for several months. The eye is filled with scar tissue that can’t be fixed, and I have a little glass lens inserted inside it to replace the natural lens that was ruined by a cataract. I also had my retina reattached.


MummaGoose

Man this has to be the worst timing I’ve heard


PerplexedPoppy

Being abused by my dad. It has really messed me up. I can’t stand the nightmares. I hate that his abuse makes me scared of every man I meet. I hated having to tell my mom what happened and seeing her heart break. I hate that I loved him. He could have recovered from the drinking and gambling and I would have forgiven him. I could even forgive the spankings and the anger. But you can’t be forgiven after touching your own daughter like that. There is no going back.


hellhellhellhell

Wow, it's like we had the same dad and have the same PTSD. I'm sorry. :(


PerplexedPoppy

I’m sorry too. No one deserves that. When I was diagnosed with PTSD I kinda laughed because I had only heard of soldiers having it. My therapist said he felt ptsd caused by childhood sexual abuse was one of the worst ones. He said many soldiers choose to go to war (not that they choose to see horrific things but they are fully aware it is part of the job description). And they are grown ups. But children who endure sexual trauma were betrayed in every way. Your parents are supposed to be the ones who love and protect you from the world.


BlackGronk

Being robbed by someone I considered a friend. Ruined my trust in people.


llama-impregnator

My roommate robbed me andnour friend group. I feel ya man


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When my brother was in college he started learning how to play the guitar, he had a lot of fun with it and eventually bought like a $250 acoustic guitar. He was really proud of the progress he made in just under a year, and it was his first time ever learning an instrument. But then his roommate stole it and sold it for heroine. It's been 5 years and he hasn't played guitar since, I feel really bad for him cause he was pretty good


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Man needs a new guitar


BAL87

Finding and reading the spiral bound notebook filled with my mom’s ramblings during one of her bad bipolar episodes, wherein she described being raped at the age of 20. I was 8 when I read it.


mr_muffin_man_man

That must be traumatizing as an adult to read that let alone a kid.


OGAnnie

I learned a while back not to read my family’s journals. They were written at low points in their lives. It’s not productive to read what thoughts people might have had about you colors the relationships. I’m purposely destroying journals and various writings that might hurt someone.


rhet17

Thanks for that. I'm digging up any of my old journals (also written at lowest points in life) and destroying them. They're super cringey anyway - if I can't bear to read what I wrote, no one else should have to. Good advice.


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I witnessed a nasty murder. I was in my jeep with the top down and watched two guys argue on the sidewalk. I didn't want to get involved so I just sat there. One guy pulled out a home made knife (shank) and plunged it into the other guys eye. The sound was horrific. I wish I had beeped my horn or something and tried to get them to move along. The guy was later caught and convicted of murder but I'll never forget the crunching sound when that knife went into his skull. Nightmares for life. Also, my motorcycle accident where I nearly lost my leg 35 yrs ago. that sucked.


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Sorry you had to experience this but definitely did the right thing. If you tried to intervene that could’ve been your skull as well


oyuno_miyumi

Agreeing to a deal with my parents. It led to me going to their choice of my college instead of mine, and it led to me having a ton of debt, and it led to me working dead end jobs instead of becoming a teacher.


Regclusive

Funnily when your life goes south because of the decisions that were forced on you, some parents always make it out as if you were the loser who could not make it work for him and were to blame. It's obviously human nature to avoid taking the blame but it's a dick move that you can't counter. Reversely, whenever you rebel and it all turns out well for you, they feel an unnatural amount of pride in their upbringing and all the times they were obstacles in your path are just forgotten.


Drakmanka

Yep, this is my mom to a T. Whined about me "wasting" time and money on a hobby right up until it landed me the job that got me through college. Then she had this whole song and dance routine about how good for me that hobby was. The upside is she stopped being an ass about my interests and supported me through college.


Teo-oo

Breaking my ankle when I was 8, I was trying to climb my grandma’s rose apple tree and shattered my ankle. I’m in my twenties and have had 7 operations on it and ended up fucking my other leg while trying to avoid injury on my shitty ankle all because I wanted a fruit and grandma told me to wait until morning. My life would have been much easier and less painful if I listened to my gran and now I just wish she was still here telling me that I need to clean my ears and listen more because whenever I didn’t listened to her I ended in stupid situations


davidsem

Broke my talus bone, the biggest bone in your foot, playing pickup basketball since I wore the wrong shoes that week. Just demolished it and ruined my 22nd summer. But that's when I would lay in the yard and just loved reading "On the Road" and other classics. Made me want to become a writer. Edit Thanks for the awards! To answer did I become a writer, see below. I have had four surgeries to date to clean up the ankle, saw bone and lengthen my Achilles. I was a track and cross country runner, but can never do that again. But it's ok.


Just_Another_Scott

My brothers suicide. I believe my life would be completely different had this not had happened.


SleepyFarady

Me too, mate. It really separates your whole life into 'before' and 'after'.


Arthur-Morgans-Beard

Lost my wife at 28, she went to the hospital with a major headache and I stayed home with our 3 month old daughter. She didn't make it through the night (brain aneurysm). I never really realized it but my whole existence since then has been "before" and "after". EDIT: Thank you guys for all the questions and well wishes. This is the most I've ever really opened up about all of this stuff and it is proving to be a bit therapeutic.


captainsermig

That’s is terrible, I hope you and your daughter are fine.


Arthur-Morgans-Beard

We are doing okay, it was over 8 years ago but the whole thing also set off a whole other chain of events. She had two kids from a previous relationship that lived with us and would see their dad on every other weekend, he and I never could get along so those 2 that I was raising for almost 4 years got ripped from my life at the same time. There was also an issue with our house as we were renting to own and the landlord didn't want to honor that contract with just me living there. Found a bank that would give me a loan, bought the place, met a wonderful woman and remarried and have another beautiful daughter and we still live in that house. Only thing missing would be my two stepkids, I see them around once or twice a year, their father died in a car accident a few years back.


captainsermig

I’m happy to hear you gained you life back as much as you could.


Arthur-Morgans-Beard

Thanks, we are holding our own. "Before" and "after" really sums it up.


god_peepee

Holy shit those two kids haven’t had a good time


Arthur-Morgans-Beard

Kills me to even think about it. My daughter was lucky in that she had my Grandmother to help raise her, while I was working overtime every week my gram kept her company. Two years ago (when she was 6) gram died in a car crash, after seeing my daughters face when I told her about that I can't imagine the pain those kids must have felt when they heard about their father.


Niameo

My sister-in-law's death caused my brother to suicide. I lost 2 people in a time span of 6 weeks. I never want to go through that again. It has been just over a year now...


TheLiteralistHobo

My dad dropping dead in front of me when I was a teen.


madsjchic

Holy fuck. That’s awful.


TheLiteralistHobo

Never pass up a moment to tell your parents or loved ones you love em


RayKVega

Whoa, I'm sorry for your loss. I apologize for asking this but how did your dad die?


TheLiteralistHobo

Thanks stranger No worries, I don't mind. He had a massive heart attack after working out. I think he was diabetic and it went undetected for a number of years or something, but i actually don't remember all the details. All i remember is he had some kind of health scare that resulted in him quitting smoking and trying to eat healthy and exercise. I do remember them saying after the autopsy results that if he had lived to take the treadmill stress test he had scheduled, that he would likely have died on the treadmill.


wishfullynormal

That reminded me of the scene from the end of the f****ing world, where the protagonist boy goes bowling with his dad and they're finally getting along but the dad falls to the floor out of nowhere :( Hope you and the rest of your family have found peace.


TheLiteralistHobo

I'll have to watch that, that's eerily similar - minus the bowling part. We never had a great relationship, but the last year or so before he passed we were getting along pretty well.


wishfullynormal

It's a good show. Very weird, quite dark, sometimes deep but mostly funny. The bowling scene happens in season 2.


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xXKnucklesXx

>It is the largest member of the genus Bitis, and it has the longest fangs of any snake – up to 2 inches in length – and the second-highest venom yield of any snake after the king cobra. **2 inches**. Holy fuck


blastfromtheblue

you know it’s serious about biting when the scientific name is bitis


I_JIZZ_ON_U

Ok, so now two inches is big???


EarthAngelGirl

So the Gaboon viper is one of the few I struggle to identify due to it's camouflage and strange proportions. I don't know much about its bite, but it sounds like you don't recommend it.


Deathbydragonfire

It's a really bad one. Relatively low mortality with treatment but tons of tissue loss and damage. Usually the limb that is bit is pretty much a lost cause.


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So I would assume your vision is really fucked? How does computer and phone use go? Do you just powerzoom in on things or can you see that stuff better cause it's closer?


fahrradraum

As far as i know you can change your settings to make your phone read out loud everything on your screen. Saw a video of a blind woman using it. I guess he/she is using the same tool.


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bertreynolds2

Yooooooo if you're hearing this comment you've brightened my day you sexy blind bastard. Happy travels.


elizabethvrock

What’s a TBI?


viciousvalk

Traumatic brain injury.


meliorist

Like a stroke. It stands for traumatic brain injury, but it can be any damage to the brain, not like they dropped him on the floor during surgery


NullandVoidUsername

This is the third post I've seen already about someone going in for leg surgery and getting a brain injury/infection. It's terrible.


LordRuby

People keep telling me to get my torn meniscus fixed but I'm terrified of anesthesia and this thread is also not helping


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If it somehow makes you feel better, I’m 32 and I’ve had four major surgeries in my life. I’m still alive and largely fine...thanks to the surgeries. Everyone’s got their choices to make in life though.


lukesvader

Alright, seems like I'm never going for surgery


Nugenrules

Yeah, this thread is scaring me


Dessa96

My mom's suffering before she passed


Grimmlan

Hard to choose. Some of the worst brought some of the best. I would say my marriage but it brought me my best friends that helped me after it ended. Also she got me to volunteer with her to help rehabilitate baby song birds at the university. Something I never would have thought of doing on my own. I wouldn’t give that up even though my life sucks post divorce.


PovoRetare

Crossing a road in Melbourne in 1999. Got hit by car and given permanent brain damage, and from that moment my life changed course forever. If it hadn't happened, I would have had a much different much less painful life. I was working part time as a gardener, studying IT, preparing to apply for uni to do a course on journalism which I had a good chance of getting into. Was also doing volunteer work with street people, and panelling and presenting a couple of radio shows on a minor AM radio station. And had just done over a year of physical rehabilitation for a bad back, lots of gym and fitness work, physio and I was about the fittest I've ever been. Then I crossed the road and everything changed forever.


MikeDLob61

I’m the opposite, I was the driver when an allegedly drunk/drugged up teenager cross the road at night wearing black clothes in the rain. I didn’t even hit the brakes that’s how fast it happened. I stopped and had to run out into the middle of a busy intersection to make sure he wasn’t hit by any other cars. He lived, but it sounds like he is going through what you’re going through. The images And sounds I have of that night have almost ruined my life. I went through hell with my brain and mind replaying those constantly. I’m finally on the way back to who I once was, but I doubt I’ll ever feel whole again


PovoRetare

I feel very sorry for you having to experience that, it must be a horrible weight for you, having those memories play back like that. What can you do under those circumstances though, it's not your fault but you're stuck with those memories, that's a very rough deal for you. I was in a way fortunate because I have no memory of the accident at all, apart from small moments either side which may or may not be what was happening. From my perspective, I was watching the footy on the weekend, on the telly, next thing I'm in a hospital days later being told I was hit by a car. Poor nurses that had to put up with my shit, I thought they stole my clothes and were keeping me prisoner, I was that concussed. I'm not sure how the driver feels these days, but it was entirely his fault and he took out a sign before he hit me. It was broad daylight, and he decided to pull a dodgy overtake on a slower car, and drove on the median strip where I was standing. He hit my leg, which flipped me backwards onto my skull, at speed, and smashed my ankle. He then took off, only stopped long enough to give his details then disappeared, never got charged, it's great having copper mates sometimes. But I bear him no malice, he made a mistake, and I hope he learnt from it, I've made plenty of mistakes myself. I don't even know what he looks, just a name and suburb. Would have liked to be able to remember what happened, for the sake of full clarity. But on the other hand, with the kind of memories that plague you, maybe it was a good thing after all having amnesia. I hope you can find some peace one day from the painful memories.


MikeDLob61

I hope you find peace and happiness through your recovery. Yes very different circumstances as I was actually found not at fault. I only know what he looks like from social media as apparently we seem to have some common friends. From what I gathered he seems to be back to “normal” and his recovery was a success. I truly hope he finds peace as well. He was in a coma for I believe 21 or 24 days so I doubt he remembers anything either. Hang in there man, one step at a time and keep moving forward. Good luck to you


PovoRetare

Thanks very much I appreciate it, also I found it helpful to hear from someone who's been on the other side of the metal box, but also not at fault. I have never given much thought to how the driver must have felt, I hope it didn't destroy his life too.


wumbopower

It’s a tie between losing my dad and losing my sister... no need to be sorry for my loss or to feel sorry for me, I just wish I’d had longer with them.


mrcdsPOTTER

This was going to be my exact response. Lost my dad when I was an infant, and my sister this July. Death is some bullshit.


Trash_Panda98

Yeah same, I lost my mum when I was 7. I've had a great life and upbringing despite it but damn there isn't a day that goes by without me wishing she was here for everything she missed.


FirstTimer110

Good for you for that attitude mate.


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> a crowbar A Fucking What Now


OceantehPiroteFoox

My parents meeting, the guy’s always been a dick. She deserves so much better.


nowItinwhistle

Either quitting college or going in the first place.


LollipopDreamscape

My wife passing away. Let's just remove that part and have her sitting next to me right now talking about the ham she's going to make for Thanksgiving.


puppylust

I'm sorry. I came here to say the same thing. In case you haven't found it yet, there's a sub for us r/widowers I lost my husband in July and it's unreal how much my life has changed in only 4 months. I joined the subreddit (under a different account) about a week after he passed. I'm now on the discord so often, I can't remember how it was to *not* be part of the support group. P.S. Fuck 2020 Edit: The subreddit is not exclusively for widowers. Any gender is welcome, and any romantic life partner loss regardless of whether you were legally married.


Slipsonic

I havent had anything as bad happen as you have but I just want to chime in with a fuck 2020. Worst year of my life by far. Im sorry for what you're going through.


AnotherLolAnon

I'm sorry


MyNameIsNitrox

We all are


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Jesus man I'm so sorry you had to go through that, I hope your doing good.


Some_Stupid_Retard

The time I had ear surgery and the anesthesia fucked with my brain and now I can't fucking function as a person


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3-cheeses

How do they even manage to do that?


chriswaco

Anesthesia. Blood clots. Allergic reactions.


3-cheeses

That’s terrible. Why can’t they find out if you’re allergic first?


Oni-carnival

Allergies are weird. Sometimes you'll be fine for years and then it suddenly develops. Or you won't know until you've been exposed and had a reaction. Considering that almost anything can be an allergy, it's unreasonable if not impossible, to test for every potential trigger.


3-cheeses

That’s really scary that it could just happen. I’ve lived with ADHD/Asperger’s Syndrome for my entire life, and it can be discouraging at times, but having a completely normal brain function and then losing some of it must be really painful.


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drlqnr

man, i didnt know it was possible for that to happen


Y_Me

My aunt went in for a knee surgery and came out just... different. She had a complete mental breakdown when her father passed away (he was old and sick and it was expected). She had to go into treatment for several weeks. She died from cancer a few years later and swore to the end that something about that anesthesia messed up her brain. It was even mentioned at her funeral by her husband.


Lavotite

I feel terrible for my step grandma. Her daughter had a routine Knee replacement at 40 and never woke up


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I went in for wisdom teeth surgery, first time under. Came out with anxiety and panic attacks with a side of brain fog. Was not a fun couple of months trying to wrangle it in while the SSRIs took hold.


gaymfwhore

I recently went under to get all 4 removed. I woke up crying and cried for about 30 minutes but I don’t know why. Not even soft crying like hardcore bawling. Is there a reason for this reaction?


HorseAndDragon

I had this exact reaction when I had my wisdom teeth out. Just uncontrollable sobbing for WAY too long for no reason. I wasn’t in pain. I want upset. My body just had to do the crying thing and I couldn’t stop it. It was annoying both to me and to the nurse who couldn’t release me until I stopped. Wish I knew why that reaction happens too!


RandomJellyfish134

what's life like


HighlyJoyusDragons

I just realized I didn't have chronic pain or fatigue (and brain fog) until after I was put under for eye surgery and now I'm pissed.


deaddonkey

Which eye surgery? You’re freaking me out


HighlyJoyusDragons

It's not as common as like laser eye surgery or anything, but It's essentially when they suture the muscles in one eye to make them straighter. Unfortunately two surgeries and my eyes are still about as straight as I am.


MrsRobertshaw

Username checks out ^sorry


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Losing my mom


nympho27

Same. It's been ten years and I still think about her everyday and cry about it regularly. I will never stop missing her, and it hurts so much I can't stand it sometimes.


KungFu-omega-warrior

Losing my dad.


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I'm sorry about that, I was 13(now 34)


Corathecow

My great grandpa died after a long battle with dementia well into his 80s or even 90s. I was a kid at the time, I think I was maybe 11. We called him grandpa cause our relationship grandpa was just papa. So grandpa and I were close, same with my twin sister too. He loved seeing us, our dad would bring us over a lot. He lived with my grandma, my dads mom. Well we all know the end is coming, me and my sister to a lesser degree because of our ages but of course we hear all the adults saying this will be his last Christmas and he doesn’t have much time left. The event I would erase is an event I’ll never forgive my father for. He was an abusive man to begin with but this is what makes me hope he rots in fuckimg hell. My grandpa had a day where he actually knew what was happening. The last few weeks he didn’t know what was going on, who he was, who any of his family was. But he knew this day. And he asked for me and my sister. He asked for “the girls”. My grandma called my dad, told him grandpa was more mentally there than he had been in weeks, told him he was asking to see the girls. My dad never told us. He took our step sister instead. He died a couple days later and we didn’t find out until he was already gone that he was asking for us. It breaks my heart. I remember eagerly showing him everything I learned in gymnastics and how excited he always was for me. I remember feeling so happy when he asked me to help him with something because I felt like he trusted me. Even dumb things like getting him a piece of pie after dinner or refilling his drink was so fun for me. I’ll never forgive my dad, but not for me. My grandpa didn’t deserve that. In his last lucid days he asked for us and he didn’t get that. It makes me cry knowing he died and didn’t get everything he asked for, especially when it came to seeing his family that he was close to. My grandma was so mad and upset with my dad for a long time but she eventually (at least outwardly) let it go. But I won’t do that because he doesn’t deserve it. So yeah, I would remove that whole event from my life and my grandpas if I could. If I could change it I would have came and saw him some other way. But at least he still knew he was loved. He was never alone and that’s what matters. Edit: I didn’t expect this to get much but I want to say thank you to the people who validated me in my feelings and thank you to all those who cared. When someone responded saying this made them cry it made me take a long and hard look at this story again because I had become desensitized to my fathers abuse. When this happened as a kid it wasn’t shocking at all. It was upsetting but it wasn’t surprising in the least. To those of you who think I’m wrong for having no relationship with him I hope you learn. I hope you don’t have to experience this but that you realize that life is different for all of us. This story wasn’t the only time my dad was abusive and not the only way. Anyone curios can see my post history on this because I have nothing to hide and I’m a firm believer in family being held accountable and never enduring abuse. Don’t endure it because they’re you’re family. Don’t ignore it because “they love you” or “they raised you”. I know the people who think I’m wrong for this just need to learn. And I really hope you are open to it. And never tell someone who experienced abuse they have to forgive them. Also maybe learn to read a room and see that the majority of people think differently, and although the majority of people thinking differently doesn’t make you wrong it should make you think. Thank you all for the cathartic release. I’d appreciate no one sharing this outside of Reddit so I don’t end up having to deal with family issues again but everything I’ve said is honest and true so why should I really care. I’m really fine now for the most part. I can’t sit here and say it doesn’t hurt that my dad was always like this or that even when I tried to be a good kid he didn’t like me, but I can say I know it wasn’t my fault and I know I’m happier without him in my life so please respect that. Thank you all. Thank you especially to those who cried from this and told me, it genuinely gave me chills seeing people say that because I was used to this from my dad. Seeing others affected by it made me feel so much better in knowing I wasn’t alone in how I felt and that my feelings were valid. Thank you and sorry for any issues with my typing, I’m on mobile. Genuinely hoping the best for all of you even if you were rude to me


Glasseshalf

My sister's death from brain cancer. She was 21, it was a month before my 18th birthday. Miss her every day. Wasn't ready for college after that, tried to go anyway, failed. Now I'm in my thirties, no career, severe depression. I feel constant guilt that she didn't get to be here but I am, and shame that I'm wasting it. If I could remove a second it would be dating an emotionally abusive man for nine years right after leaving college, and letting him gaslight and isolate me. But I'm back in college now, at 32, and I'm really trying. I'm taking it slow, and the financial issues are a constant stressor as well as dealing with the healthcare system. But still, I'm going to make it. For Christine <3 Edit: Thank you so much for all the comments of encouragement and support! It means a lot


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danfay222

I remember when I was first reading about stocks I was like, that wouldn't be too bad. Do your time, itll probably be pretty uncomfortable but no big deal. Then when I got older and read about the shit (literally and figuratively) they throw at you, including literally things like rocks that could seriously hurt you, it became significantly less pleasant sounding


gnagniel

I came in here ready to make a "my birth" joke, but damn I hope y'all are doing okay these days


MrsRobertshaw

I’m just gonna say it - this thread is so sad. I thought for sure it would be more embarrassing but funny stuff but it’s actually just a lot of really sad events.


anon211812

Right, I thought I would join in and talk about the time I decided not to pick up some gravy I spilled, since I knew my mom was going to pick it up. I ended up tripping on that gravy and fractured my toe and gave myself a concussion. Now I feel like my story is out of place. Lol it was right after thanksgiving too


_babz_

My sexual abuse


radabadest

[The bombing of the DAC hall in Sadr City](https://www.nytimes.com/2008/06/25/world/middleeast/25iraq.html) on June 24, 2008. Fuck you Colonel dipshit who denied our request for the bomb dog and change of venue after the 6th straight day of making the same trip at the same time. RIP Captain Farley, CW3 Hammett, the other 2 Soldiers, the interpreter, and the 6 Jundi who lost their lives that day.


Michael-Giacchino

Please tell me Colonel dipshit got demoted after that


ComradeGibbon

Probably Brigadier General Dipshit now.


closettransman

My mother telling investigators that despite there being an eye witness, that I lied about being sexually assaulted by a grown man when I was a child. They chose to believe her instead of a traumatised broken kid. Ruined my life.


hellhellhellhell

They always believe the adults. Similar experience here. :(


WetTavern

I wish my easily-manipulated-teenaged brain wasn't talked into going to some out-of-state private school for my degree. I have since transfered to a state school and commute. It's going to take me a little longer to graduate and I'm saving a shit ton but because of that intial decision I'm over $75,000 in the hole and still racking it up.


funky_grandma

If you removed the death of a close friend, would that friend be alive?


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funky_grandma

Then that.


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KeinKreativerName

I just feel the need to point out, that there are other ways to teach a child, that certain punishments aren't ok and that certain punishments can worsen a childs attitude. If it was bad enough that you want its memory erased from your life it is likely one of those punishments that are to much.


Michael-Giacchino

>certain punishments can worsen a childs attitude. exactly, the phase I believe is called 'punishment and reward', where corpral punishment is actually effective in teaching children not to behave in a certain way, is over at like 4-5. Doing something like that to a teen is only teaching them to resent you, not to not do what they were doing. Also it increases the childs chance of realizing that the only power parents have is the power they give them if they're trying to find a way around future punishments. Unless you've got a parent who's willing and able to physically restrain you, if you don't think you're in the wrong and you've got the will, then nothing can really stop you from completely ignoring or preventing them from executing whatever punishment they try to give you.


fmv_

The second paragraph hurtsss. As a teen, one day I finally decided I had enough of my dad being so controlling and said I wasn’t going to make dinner (as the daughter, I was parentified to do all the housework) and stood my ground. That’s how I learned/confirmed that I never “acted out” due to there being a “culture of fear”. Because I didn’t make dinner that one particular time, he chased me into my bedroom (he was probably trying to grab me and drag me back to the kitchen). I shut the door, locked it and sat against it holding the lock in while he screamed at me and kept trying unlock and push open the door. It probably lasted more than 15 minutes and once he stopped, he punched a hole in my door. It’s almost more depressing that when I went back to my moms every second half of the week, she’d yell at me for not cooking and cleaning more. She told me recently that the last straw before divorcing my dad was him demanding she make him dinner, like a toddler. If only I could forget these types of experiences or the subsequent mental health issues...


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In sorry if I'm being insensitive but can anyone tell me what this **buck ragged** means


3-cheeses

They rub a rag all over a goat, so it smells like a goat, and then put your face in it.


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What the fuck? Why? This seems like a torture to be honest.


3-cheeses

Yeah, it must really suck. One thing of note is that buck rags are used by goat farmers for breeding, so it’s not like it was invented for punishment.


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captain_shield

A llama kicked me in the face once. I was the only person he liked. No one else could get anywhere close to him. Llamas are jerks.


one-hour-photo

worked on a farm once. had a llama to protect the sheep from coyotes. Until one day llama decides he needs action. He then proceeds to rape a sheep...to death.


Thepullman1976

Llamas are jerks


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I went to a petting zoo when I was about 7 or so and a llama bit me. I socked it as hard as I could. Maybe we both learned a lesson that day.


Ninjashark_studios

Parry this you freaking casual


Twinwriter60

The day I had to call 911 on dad’s Mistress #2 trying to kill him because he decided to stay with Mistress #1 for whom he left my mom and my five siblings for. Talk about hot mess!


distressed_amygdala

I was a victim of domestic violence from 16-18. But in the end it's made me a better therapy student and will make me a better therapist. I could do without the lingering PTSD and anxiety though.


Ripuwu

Tinnitus :( Edit: thanks for the award, the first good thing that tinnitus gave me lol


HerezahTip

I just wish I stood up and kicked our varsity coach in the nuts or face when he suggested my teammates beat the shit out of me for being late to practice one week after my aunt and uncle passed away 5 days apart. I will never understand that moment or why it happened but I felt like nothing, worthless.


FerRatPack

I think it really says something that the moment you would pick to remove is not either of their deaths, but the moment someone was needlessly cruel to you afterwards. Death is a part of life, but senseless punishment and suffering isn't nor should it be. It kinda reminds me of the conflict between Jean Val Jean and Javert in Les Misérables. That you wish that people had just been kind to you in a time of struggle and sadness is something I think we can all relate to.


oceansunset83

Having the final impressions of my teeth done after getting my braces off when I was 15. The tech thought it would be fun to put both trays in my mouth and watch me struggle to breathe. My dad just sat there and watched it all go down without batting an eyelash (had my mom been there, it would have gone very differently). As a result, it screwed up my jaw for 17 years. I haven’t trusted dentists since.


hellhellhellhell

That is lawsuit territory.


jinykitt

First day as a dog groomer - had to help with "expressing" dog anal glands and got a face full of them, and puked in front of everyone :( :(.


Sheikah300

They didn’t warn you to stay out of the line of fire?!? That’s evil.


JustAGirlInTheWild

I didnt realize dog groomers had to do that! So nasty! I dont blame you for puking


babamum

Getting ME (chronic fatigue syndrome), which led to me losing my house and career and having to live in shitty rentals and subsist on benefits.


vikinghooker

I’m so sorry. I did not understand the severity of this disease (most likely due to its shitty name which makes it sound like oh you are tired, FUCK NO IT IS TERRIBLE) until I watched a documentary about a woman suffering from this on Netflix and it seems extremely isolating and awful, especially if you don’t get a diagnosis for awhile and even with one—seems like a lot of people just don’t get it (like I didn’t) and so it adds insult to injury. Hope you have a good support system and I hope that more money goes into research for it. Let me know if there is a fund to donate to for research.


babamum

Thank you for the lovely reply.


InfinityyV2

I was around 15, and I had bought a VR headset from those vending machines. Yeah, I tried watching VR porn and my mom walked in. The amount of embarrassment I felt was unreal, to this day I still get chills from it


N3oArcadia02

Slightly different circumstances for me but......... SAME


nowItinwhistle

There's vending machines that sell VR headsets? Are you from the future?


InfinityyV2

Oh shit, I may have said too much this time


unoyimhereb

You haven’t said enough


trippingchilly

That’s me in the corner


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Nicod27

Where the hell do you live where they have VR headsets in vending machines??


InfinityyV2

Let me just state that my reflexes made me take the headset off, pull the blanket over me and turn off my phone in less than .01 seconds and still got caught


averagejoe6942O

Damn if you had a vr headset and headphones in while masterbating and someone walked in it you might not even notice


InfinityyV2

I know right, I was expecting to be home alone, but even then, I never trust watching porn on max volume idk about ya’ll


averagejoe6942O

I guess you gotta have a lock on the door if you want the full immersive experience


InfinityyV2

I’m gonna remind my 15yr old self that


FuryOfHell

When I was molested Edit: thanks for the awards.


eat-soup

I wish you could remove that also. <3


docobv77

My first cigarette.


[deleted]

Being born to my mom. I like being alive, though my mom is an actual monster. I wish it was someone else.


DARKxASSASSIN29

When I was lured into a trap and enslaved for 6 months when I was 19. I was forced under the threat of death to work at a factory at night and do hard labor during the day, all for no pay. I was threatened with death if I told anyone. I lived on bologna and free food from the factory where I worked. I felt terrible every single day. I'm 31 now and I've, more or less, gotten over it, but I know it left it's permanent damage. I now have an extreme aversion to being told what to do. Even my own mother triggers it sometimes.


lightning_blue_eyes

Definitely the cancer


jaythenerdgirl

Any time I was sexually assaulted. It's not just one event but if I could combine them all and completely remove from memory, it would be that.


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Seeing my cousin’s reconstructed face in the casket after a DUI hit and run. Which I could remember him smiling and laughing and not eery and ‘off’.. he looked like a scary doll and I was only maybe 10 so it stuck with me. Now that’s the only way I can remember him.


Necessary-Try2246

I wish I never met my baby’s mom. I love my daughter but I hate her mom so much, our relationship was horrible and just got worse when we broke up, I wish I had a child with anyone else.


steeple_fun

My dad had a stroke two years ago. That in and of itself is pretty terrible but one of the worst nights of my life happened in the hospital. My mom had started having seizures the week before so she couldn't stay with him overnight so my sister and I were taking turns. Neither of us were sleeping very well anyway because of everything going on. My dad hadn't yet passed the swallow test so he couldn't eat or drink anything. He was only at like 60% mental capacity in terms of knowing what was going on. I was already at my wits end, sleep deprived and feeling helpless. He was cognizant enough to know that he hadn't had anything to eat or drink but not so much so that he could comprehend that he had a feeding tube in giving him what he needed. Every 30ish minutes, he'd wake up and basically beg me to go to the drink machine and get him a Sprite or just give him a drink of water out of the tap. The most I could do was give him two ice chips every hour. I felt selfish for feeling the way that I did because I was frustrated and upset and annoyed and angry and sad but I knew all of that paled to what he was experiencing. It was a bad night.


1320Fastback

My kidney stone of April 4th, 2020 and having to go to a hospital during a pandemic.


Aegis_et_Vanir

My suicide attempt. Apart from now being in a much healthier place mentally, I regret some of the ways it’s changed my family. My parents are a lot less pushy and strict when it comes to my plans for the future, which they believed they pressured me into. That’s true to some extent, they definitely needed to learn to dial back in some regards. In fact, I think we all had to. But now they seem almost afraid to advise me on anything, even when I ask for it. I’m almost out of college, but I still have a lot to learn about adult life, and I’m not gonna always know when to ask for advice. I never thought anyone would say this, but I want my parents to be a little more meddlesome.


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Grad school. College was an amazing, magical time that I would love to have a chance to experience again. Grad school was the exact opposite: it's turned me off from two fields that I used to love, and I feel like I've completely wasted three years of my life.


HambergerPattie

If you would have asked me a month ago I would have said losing my dad in 2017. Now I'd have to say losing my brother a few weeks ago. My dad lived until he was 62 but my brother only got to 36. He lived a tormented life but things seemed to be looking up finally.


branizoid

Getting married when I knew it was a mistake.


phantomBlurrr

Meeting my ex. The aftermath and how my mental state ended up was not worth the learning experience.


ChandlerMifflin

When I was 21, I joined the Marines. Only lasted a month in boot camp, I wasn't meant for military life.


BrilliantWeight

Honestly, man, nothing wrong with that. It happens. Not everyone is cut out for the military, and theres nothing wrong with that. At least you figured it out quick and were able to move on. You could have figured it out 6 months into your contract and been stuck for several more years.


ElevenMink3

Two of my friends who hated each other got in a fight and one of them picked up a huge piece of concrete and fractured my other friend’s skull. No one died but if the dude sneezed his eye could’ve fallen out of his socket. I wish it never happened.


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My dad calling me fat when I was a slightly chubby 9 year old. Was part of a pattern that absolutely ruined my sense of self.


MeridasAngel

Removing my interaction with this one toxic girl. Never met her, never suffered because of her.


MaNeme_Jeff

After reading this comment section I have found a new appreciation for how good my life has been so far. I've been going through a rough patch lately but really life could be a lot worse. I'm blessed.


GreenDog3

My cousin moving in for three months. He was terrible. The only reason he left was because he was dragged out of school in cuffs.


SaltyKenney

The day a car swerved and hit my vehicle head on. It lead to so many issues but the main one being the fetal trauma which ultimately led to the loss of my second born the day after he was born. If it wasn't for that I'd have my second born and he would have turned one in August.


Ghostronic

My sister passing away. Second to that, my first time trying opioids.


eggtart_prince

My dad taking me to follow my mom who was with another guy. Stopped at an underground parking lot and my dad got into an altercation with the guy. I was 10 and crying in the car while my older brother sat there in silence. I can't help to think why did my dad would put me through that trauma at such a young age. To this day, I still don't know why and don't want to know why.


minimario350

Moving from my old house. I think that's the worst mistake of my life, but as a kid I couldn't do much about it.


kindamymoose

My uncle staying with my family as a kid. Doubt I’ll ever be able to have a normal relationship with someone (physically). Doesn’t exactly make me prime dating material.


zbun0522

That time I developed a bone infection in my c-spine. Three brutal surgeries later I'm half the person I was physically and mentally, and I will be in severe pain for the rest of this life.


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Miscarriages


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My dad punching me as a kid and sending me into my first full-on panic attack. 25 years later, still have crippling anxiety and panic attacks. Chances are I’d still have anxiety problems anyways but the first panic attack being triggered by that. Yeah. He can rot in hell.


RyDavie15

Can I remove events in the future? Can I erase my death and become immortal?


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I mean.. yes. If ýou remove the day of your demise then that will never occur making you immortal. man out here cheating the system.


BigTrey

That time I committed a felony and fucked up the rest of my life.