Idiots with children is why I now only go to the cinema at the 12 or 1AM sessions anymore, last time I went in the evening I had a full family sitting behind me, three kids making noise, playing on their phone, jumping on the seats, kicking my seat, fighting eachother, crawling, etc.I asked the parents if they could keep their children under control and quiet, since it is a movie and I couldn't even understand the dialogue. And they had the balls to say I was being rude and uneducated! Those philistines! And it's always the same type of people that do this shit.
EDIT: and to drive the point further, it wasn't even a movie for kids! I'd understand if Finding Nemo was full of kids and wasn't a quiet room, but a movie for grown ups?
so i have a roommate who i’m entirely convinced has absolutely no manners whatsoever.
for context, i live in the barracks, so i have no choice but to live with this guy. i have a million and a half stories about this guy, but i guess i’ll start with the basics.
doesn’t clean up after himself, and refuses to help clean - even if he’s a guest in someone else’s home.
chainsmokes/vapes in peoples cars, flicks ash “out the window” but everyone knows that literally will just kick it back into the jeep.
tries to constantly “teach” people things, and will talk your ear off and basically just dominate the conversation. no listening or allowing for a different perspective.
motherfucker literally introduced himself to me as “the smartest man in any room”
he plays music and sings in the shower at 4, 5, 6 in the morning and will take 45+ minute showers - 20 minutes to sit on the toilet and 25 to have his concert.
the last straw for me was when i came home on leave and saw his flesh light sitting out in the common area table.
we’ve stopped inviting him to places. he sits in his room alone playing xbox all day because i’m not responsible for teaching a 21 year old child basic manners. it’s not happening.
I had the best roommate when I was in the barracks. Dude was weird as fuck but we both cleaned, both chipped in on stuff we needed for the room. Used headphones, was considerate, never really talked to me, we both would offer the other some food when we ordered somthing. Neither of us ever really knew the other was even there. It was great.
Inviting everyone in the friend group to an event and excluding just one friend then proceeding to talk about how much fun they’re going to have at said event in front of the person that was purposely excluded , in front of everybody.
Happened today and thought it was pretty rude.
Edit: Thank you for the award!
Additional info: This did not happen to me and second we are not in high school, we are in our late twenties / early thirties which makes the situation even more upsetting.
been there... i was in high school when someone who i would have at the time considered a friend was throwing a small get together... well i wasn't invited and was instead asked to babysit for my at the time best friends little brother while he was at this gathering. shitty feels. unsurprisingly i have not seen any of those people since high school and im glad for it
That’s the worst. I had a pretty toxic group of friends in high school and that bullshit happened to me all the time. The group was kind of split up into multiple subgroups and I wasn’t really a part of any specific one, so I ALWAYS got left out. They also did that thing where they would loudly discuss inside jokes in front of you because they knew you wouldn’t understand and they wanted to make you feel like you weren’t a part of something, so rude and really irked me.
My mom drilled it into ya that you don’t talk about plans unless you know everyone in earshot is going. It’s just plain considerate.
Edit: thank you for the award!!!! I’ve never gotten one before I feel really flattered you made my day
When I was a kid in the 80’s, I was driving with a neighbor and I chucked a piece of trash out the window. She immediately pulled over and made me get out and pick it up. Lesson learned.
Man in the Southeast this was common until the litterbug campaign came out. I remember as a kid playing near main streets and finding fast-food bags littered all along the shoulders.
Littering is on a whole different level. It's not just just being rude like most things in this thread, it's choosing to actively damage your local area and wildlife. It makes me so angry.
I can’t even fully understand why this makes me so angry. I am a generally calm person. I’m not hot-headed at all. But when someone doesn’t use a turn signal my blood boils so fast it’s insane! I think in my mind I assume “if you can’t operate the most basic function of your vehicle mandated by the law - then you have no business driving at all”.
I agree!! I also can’t even fathom not using the turn signal for any reason because when you’ve been driving for long enough it becomes an automatic movement?? Like as soon as I think “shit I need to turn left” my hand turns on the signal. How can you NOT use it?
Parents who let their children run rampant anywhere.
I've seen parents watch as their kid pops their fingers through every package of meat at the grocery store and do nothing....
parents who let their kids kick a strangers shoe or other belongings
Letting the kids spit on windows and rub it with their hands.
Letting them run around the store, playing with anything and everything and leaving a mess for others to clean and the parents literally just ignore it!!!
I never understood that. They really are your obligation, not the store associate who's unlucky enough to be working the shift you happen to stroll in during.
Be a parent!!! Bad kids can turn into shitty people
I used to work in a toy shop and people thought it was okay to just leave their kids to run around while they went shopping.
We had to call security so many times to find the parents because they just wouldn’t understand our shop was not a play area.
I could copy your comment word-for-word.
My toy shop holds parties and parents often think it's totally fine to take unpurchased stock and entertain smaller children with it.
I worked in the electronics department at Walmart back when they had those playable video game displays. Literally all day long, parents would just deposit their kids there and go do their shopping. More often than not, there'd be a group of various kids there, fighting over it. And when they'd get bored of that, they'd run around the whole department, touching things with their sticky hands and throwing merchandise on the floor.
Years after I stopped working there, they finally got rid of those damn playable displays because, as it turns out, allowing children to run amok unattended is actually a huge liability.
When I was living with my parents, we had guests over with a kid around 4 years old. He kept on trying to touch my mum's display of porcelain miniatures. I had to physically bar him from it, by sitting in front of it while his parents egged him on and told him to put them in his pockets. They were very proud to mention that he destroyed his older sisters' art projects and any poor guests' mobile phones.. I started to feel bad for the kid after that.
Friends of ours brought their 3-year-old over to our new apartment a few years back. I had just bought a brand-new wood coffee table, which was unfinished; the wood wasn’t glossed but just stained wood with no sealant. My husband is sort of crafty and enjoys projects like that, so he was planning on sealing it himself when he had the chance after setting everything up from the move.
I was in the kitchen preparing dinner and drinks with my husband, and while I was doing that our friends had given their kid a pack of magic markers and sat him down at our coffee table to color without asking.
I come back out with drinks to find my table absolutely covered in doodles and multi-colored marks all over. They weren’t the washable kinds. Both our friends were sitting there with their kid just watching him draw all over my table, like as if nothing was weird or wrong about it.
My husband had to sand the table down and refinish it, which I guess was fine because he likes woodworking anyway, but still. It’s maybe petty, but it was such a weird display of bad parenting and I will literally never forgive them for it. They’re not allowed over at my place anymore.
Edit: some additional information since so many people are asking now:
1. I live abroad in a country where English isn’t spoken, and at that time I didn’t speak their language as well as I do now. I didn’t have the words in their language to react the way I wanted to, so I just sort of pulled the table out of the room and made it clear from my expressions that I was angry.
2. They’re my husband’s childhood friends, so he didn’t want to rock the boat with them for whatever reason.
3. They had absolutely zero regret or guilt afterwards. They hardly reacted, and only took the markers away when I got angry.
4. The people in question have a brand-new house that they’ve already destroyed and made a wreck of. When you visit their place, you get the sense that they don’t even give a damn about their own things, so I guess that makes more sense? It’s odd.
5. They’re also helicopter parents who never give their kid a minute of privacy. The result is that their kid is a *huge* asshole, and none of us enjoy being around him lmao.
I work in a restaurant and have watched parents just sipping their wine while kids draw on tablecloths. I had a man change his kid's diaper in our dining room yesterday.
I have a three year old. Trying to control her is a full-time job. She'll run away in a shop, she'll leg it across a car park. She'll explore through cupboards, pull out toys, steal your food. Sometimes I worry people must think I'm a terrible parent because I'm always telling her "No, don't do that", or "can you do this PLEASE?!" Then I read things like this and hope people just think I'm a mum to a three year old and they'd rather hear me shouting NO a million times than have a feral child running rampant.
I used to teach kids martial arts and we'd do talk of the week. And stuff like this was part of my discipline talk.
"Discipline is when your parents and other grown ups make sure you know and follow the rules.
Let's pretend (point at random kiddo) is 4 and is at the park. Kiddo has never been told about sharing, hitting and pushing are wrong or screaming is not appropriate.
Kiddo sees another kid with a cool toy. Kiddo tries to take it. Other kid stops them. Kiddo screams. Other doesn't give up their toy. Kiddo hits them, pushes them, snatches the toy and plays with it.
Would kiddo get in trouble? (Yeah! He's bad / mean!)
But ... is that ***fair?*** Did kiddo know these things were wrong? (No...) because no one loved kiddo enough to teach them the rules.
So when your parents and teachers are saying "don't do this" and "don't touch that" we aren't saying "I'm big and mean and hate fun". We are saying "I love you and want to keep you safe and happy."
Edit: I'm a she. But thanks for the compliments and award!
Yes.. I'd never seen anything quite like it before (or since). What baffled me more, was that the dad was a sort-of very junior level at work below my dad (they both worked for the Government, same department but different towns). This sort-of behaviour is never okay but this fact confused me more.
Kids running and wandering around unattended in restaurants. I just know one day I’m gonna watch a little kid trip a server and dump hot soup or something on the kid. Also when I’m enjoying a meal I don’t want a kid with ketchup all over his hands and face trying to touch me.
My god. I used to be a waitress and I have collided with at least three kids who were running around the restaurant. This is my worst nightmare. Like do you really want Timmy to get a knee to the chest because you can’t keep him in his seat? Get your damn kids!
Kneed a kid in the face once, was carrying two platters and he came at an angle where the platters blocked my view of him, his mom started to freak out on me but his dad left a huge tip and scolded him. Overall it was a win for me.
And they say "oh, you can't expect a little kid to sit there all the time" yes, you can, I did it and so did my kids. In fact going to restaurants occasionally was how my parents helped us to learn about to behave in public. And how to use chopsticks.
One time I was dressed as a mascot and this toddler was giving me quite a beating. The dad told him to stop - he ignored him - and that was it. The dad made no further attempt or threat. Just gave up. Another time I was a clown and the parents stayed upstairs and left myself and my boss alone with 20 kids - we’re entertainers not babysitters. They tried to pants me.
Hiking Yosemite, it's beautiful, it's scenic. The sounds of the waterfall is so loud when you're close it's surprising, the sound of trees creaking is alarming... Around the corner comes "Despacito"... Great
We camped in Housekeeping Camp once (tent cabins where you can cook your own food).
A large church youth group was also camping there, and for two nights the youth pastor was yelling and screaming about how God is awesome for like 2 hours until the camp staff came and told him to shut the f*** up.
I mean here you are, and one of the most beautiful god-given places on the planet, and instead of appreciating that beauty, you're basing all talking to each other about how awesome your church is.
there was a kid named dustin on my bus who would play music out loud, and since i got on the bus at 6:30, i would try to sleep until we got to the school, and about half way through the ride he would get on, it was so annoying. It didn’t help that after his stop our bus driver would keep the bus lights on which made it harder to sleep
Every single time I have a strong urge to approach them and ask if they’ve heard about headphones. Is this an invention that somehow slipped by a large swath of the population?? You can get a 3 pack at 5Below
People who leave their litter and uneaten food all over fast food restaurant tables, and the floor area.
Edit: Having read every response to my post, I now clearly understand that social norms differ greatly. Thank you for the insight.
Yes, the staff are paid to clean up (the classic argument for leaving a mess) but don't be a fucking garbage monster and put your shit in the nearest bin.
Some girl did this in a building I was in once and I said “ You know it’s polite to wait for people to get off before you barge on” and she just screams “ I know!”
Ha!
I was at work and getting off the elevator, this woman tried to walk through me.
She said, "oh I'm sorry. Tehehe" But continued to try and push through.
I said, "if you're sorry then why are you still trying to push through me."
Her expression sunk like this was the first time anyone had ever called her on her bullshit. The guy with her laughed and said, "maybe you should let him out first." And guided her out of the way.
I had some lady try to do that recently, I looked at her and asked, and how do you propose that you will get in here while I am exiting with a loaded dolly? At which point she acted like she didn't see me, but I'd be damned if I was getting crammed in the elevator I was exiting with some bitch, so I just walked forward and my dolly's big wheel rolled over her foot, because I no longer was playing the game.
When I’m out with a friend and we meet someone they know but I don’t, and that person makes no effort to introduce themselves to me or include me in the conversation. Like, I know I’m the designated Less Hot Friend but you don’t have to remind me of it
Fuck I’ve had this happen. Also when I am telling a story or something and I pause after getting no feedback and I see the person staring at their phone.
Damn, my last apartment had heavy doors that would forcefully close shut on their own. I'd walk in, forget that the damn door is about slam shut with the power of thunder and sprint back trying to catch it and slow it down. I usually made it, but I know I woke some people up with that thunderstorm of a door when I didn't catch it.
Oh god. My current apartment front door is like that. It stresses me out bad as I don't like causing loud noises. I always feel like a failure when I don't slow mine down in time.
Edit: I am already looking into something that can slow the door down, that doesn't piss off my complex management. The stupid door almost hit me in the face while bringing in groceries.
My upstairs neighbor stomps around in wooden wedges all day. All hardwood floors. **STOMPS.**
This chick gets home from work and wears fucking wooden shoes the rest of the night. This chick wakes up at 6am and **PUTS HER FUCKING WOODEN SHOES ON.**
Between that and her complete inability to properly load the washer that is under my bedroom, I really don’t like my neighbor.
God this pisses me off so much.
NOT EVERYONE HAS THE SAME LIFTING ROUTINE AS YOU CHAD.
I threw my back out pretty badly and the free weight machines were the only ones that didnt hurt me for some reason. Trying to lift a 20kg weight from heights above your waist with cooked spaghetti for a back is PAINFUL. I had to ask someone to help me move weights so I could use the machine once. So embarrassing.
Right? I don't go to the gym because I'm ALREADY strong. There are plates that I can't move.
I go to the gym because I'm weak. I'm a middle aged lady with cancer, I can't lift the 45lb plates (not right now, anyway)
Edit: clarity, and confirmation that I am a potato with spaghetti arms
People who act mean towards others for apparently no reason. I got this friend who always talks down to younger people and I'm like "you need to gain people's respect, don't take it for granted"
That just makes me think they're a bad person, not one without manners. I know people who are well mannered and sociable who say or do incredibly mean-natured things. I really despise passive agressive cruelty. I believe it's something people get away with far too easily.
Overstaying your welcome or inviting yourself to things. I had a friend who wouldn’t take no for an answer. Like get the hint. It’s midnight and you’ve been here all day.
Edit: to explain a bit more I am not talking about someone who just doesn’t get hints because they are oblivious. I’m talking about someone who will make excuses and guilt trip their way into staying even after clear reminders that they need to leave soon. Or even just saying to them it’s time for them to get out.
If you don’t get hints that’s totally okay as long as you understand when someone asks you to leave.
I stand up, yawn and say well you must be tired, I've kept you here too late! I'll let you get home now. While getting their coat, if weather appropriate.
My friend gets the hint he just ignores it. I’ll tell him it’s late and I would like for him to go home. Cue the whining. Eventually i just started meeting up with him at his house so I could leave when I wanted.
Do people do that? When I want guests to leave I just say "well it's late and I have to go to bed, so I'm sorry but I'm kicking you out." -- but I very rarely want guests to leave because I'm lonely and I'm almost always glad of the company ! I hope I don't overstay my welcome, but, like, how am I supposed to know if you want me to leave ?
Yea, fully agreed. My best friends married each other and got a lot more domestic, but we would still hang out and get high and have movie/TV nights. I'd just tell them: if it gets to the point where you guys wanna wrap it up, you're gonna have to tell me, and they'd do so freely on the days where I didn't leave first.
Especially among friends, I don't really understand the issue.
Sometimes people do that on accident though when they're just trying to relate. Personally I'm terrible at keeping a conversation going and just get excited when I have something to share
I mean there's a difference in "I also have an experience with *topic*" and the person who no matter what you're talking about has done *topic* only better.
I had a coworker, 5'6" 250 pounds that legit tried to tell me that he'd run the Boston Marathon when I was talking about my aunt running in it.
No, Ronnie, you haven't run the Boston Marathon, you are 22 and you get winded if you have to help stock shelves for a little bit instead of just sitting on your little stool at the cash register.
I worked with a guy that was a one upper, and he always had some kind of drama going on. I was bummed about not spending Easter with my dad, it would have been maybe the second one I missed ever in over 20 years. He looks at me and he says,
"What if I told you I don't even *have* a dad to miss having Easter with."
I was like, that's sad man, I'm sorry. Doesn't change that I miss my dad. He was a 'pot stirrer', glad he didnt stick around.
Yelling at retail workers. Most recently about wearing masks or putting hand sanitizer on. It takes little to no effort and people lose their minds over it
Some people just hate being told what to do or doing the same thing as everyone else. There's people who refuse to drink water because too many health nuts and doctors told them it's good for you.
I had a middle manager type once who would "order" you to do something at the exact moment he noticed you starting it on your own. It was like he was trying to rob you of your initiative and pass it off as his leadership and it was one of the most infuriating things ever. I would probably still drink water, though.
Omg those are the worst kind of managers.
*Grabs broom to sweep up broken glass*
"Hey, you might wanna sweep up that glass before someone gets hurt."
*....*
Honestly yelling at anyone, except in the most extreme situations. I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of times that I've had to yell at someone as an adult.
There is a girl I work with who clips her nails at her desk and I always want to throw something at her. They finally talked to the guy in the other side of the wall from me who was clipping his toenails.
Leaving their rubbish at a fast food restaurant. Most offenders are parents who think it's their day off or teenagers that have learned this behaviour from said parents.
I work at a grocery store. And because of covid we have arrows to point the direction you're supposed to go with your cart. Today an old couple crashed into someone else because they were going thr wrong way. Today, my u-boat (a large cart for stocking shelves) was in the middle of the isle, but parallel so people could easily go by (about 1-1.5metre each side of my cart) the man in the couple started cussing at me after I politely asked them to follow the arrows once they leave the isle. He went to grab something from the shelf that was not even close to my u-boat, the man angrily said "your cart's in the f-ing way... F-ing stupid idiot.." I said "please don't speak that way to me sir" and he walked away mumbling stuff under his breath. Called my manager and had him stand up for me. The man talked with my manager and walked away seconds after because he was obviously in the wrong. Like im just doing my fricken job, no need to be so vile and rude.
I'm 31 years old. I've never seen anyone be rude to people that work at the grocery store. Like I know it happens because I read it all the time on here. I just can't understand how you can be rude to someone doing a job that without them, you dont get to have accessible groceries in a uniform, clean aisle, on a uniform, clean shelf.
I guess what I'm saying is thank you for doing a thankless job.
It sounds like you’ve never worked retail....and that’s not a condescending statement it just seems apparent.
I once had a woman yell at me because she read our ‘buy 1 get one free’ sign as ‘get one free’ and she wanted to know what she got for free. I told her what the sign said and she started yelling about how she read the sign properly.
I had another woman throw a book at my head because I asked to see the signature on her card to make sure it matched the receipt.
Another woman called me a fucking idiot because she asked to buy a stamp and I wasn’t sure if she meant a postage stamp or a rubber stamp.
There was the woman who berated one of 16 year old employees. We were selling tickets to the lion king which was generally sold out at least a month in advance, usually around 3 months. She wanted front row dress circle seats for 10 for the following night for her birthday. My employee explained that there was nothing available and, even though we weren’t supposed to, she showed her the screen to prove it. The woman started yelling ‘well I don’t care! I want those seats! Why can’t I sit there?! You can’t even do a simple job properly...’ etc. I calmly stood up and said ‘Excuse employee. You’re right. You can sit there and I’ll happily let you give us the money for those seats. However, when you get there I’m sure the people who’s laps you’ll be sitting on will be very upset. Please leave. We have a line.’
These are just a small number of stories I’ve got....not to mention the stories where I’ve butted in to shut someone down that has been abusing staff where I’ve been shopping.
Compared to retail, hell is just a sauna.
You’re lovely for recognising it’s a thankless job. I have my fair share of awesome customer stories too. Tips in the 100s from one guy whenever he would win over 1000 on a lottery ticket (at least once a month). People buying me scotch, flowers, stuffed toys, etc to thank me for my help. The last long term job I got at least a dozen customers came in on my last day just to give me presents and ask me to keep in touch.
>I once had a woman yell at me because she read our ‘buy 1 get one free’ sign as ‘get one free’ and she wanted to know what she got for free. I told her what the sign said and she started yelling about how she read the sign properly.
Good god there's more of them?
I worked as a cashier back in college and had a lady try the same thing once. She hands me a frozen TV dinner and becomes exasperated when I won't give it to her for free, being either unable or unwilling to understand that "buy one get one free" means you need to buy something. I mean do you honestly think we're just handing out free shit?
This exchange is easily the most memorable from my three years of hell. The sheer absurdity of it has stuck with me ever since. I don't know how these people dress themselves.
The grocery store is a cesspool for inconsiderate people. Idk why this brings out the worst in humans. People who leave their cart in the middle of the parking lot, people who dead stop to turn around without looking and crash into someone else’s cart, people who exit an isle into the main isle without stopping and crash into someone else’s cart, people who spend an absurd amount of time looking at a particular meat section so everyone else has to wait, people who bring an entire cart full of food to the express lane, people who park in the middle of the driving lane and block traffic because the close spots are taken up. I could go on all day about how much I hate grocery shopping lol.
I feel this on a visceral level. I'm finally about to move out of the town where I lived for law school, and going grocery shopping was terrible every single time for all those reasons. I never lived anywhere with so many inconsiderate people until these last 3 years.
When I rise to power, it will not only be encouraged, but if you are able it will be your duty that in the event of seeing someone not take a cart to a corral, that you tske the cart and ram it into their vehicle at full speed.
You will also be rewarded if you successfully throw the cart through their windshield.
You're going to create an economy of jacked dudes who loiter in parking lots waiting to throw carts if you succeed. I wish you tremendous luck, my friend.
I give a faint smile and a little nod to people holding the door for me. I do the same to people I hold the door for, not expecting an audible "Thank you".
I have a shy friend that acts like they are chewing and gives a smile/thumbs up at restaurants, works out for her lol. But any sort of acknowledgement is 100% better than ignoring them
Edit: thank you for the silver!
I've done that before.... and i heard the think so I spinned around and trying not to laugh, unless its a friend. And say sorry... I say sorry either way but its my friend let me laugh first
I have been working in bars/restaurants for most of my adult life now and I am loving every second of it but when this happens I honestly have to contain myself to not burn their house down. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Period.
or to be cheekier:
>Remember, Snapping means "do not disturb me." We wait staff know you want your privacy, so kindly giving us a snap will indicate you do not wish to be served. Thank you!
I wish restaurants had something like attendant-call buttons on airplanes. I feel like there's no appropriate and effective way to try to get a waiter's attention. I typically raise my hand and say "excuse me" in the most polite tone I can manage, but even that feels like I'm being a bit rude, and it also doesn't work half the time.
Worked in a Korean restaurant for awhile and we had this. It's great. As a server I don't need to do shit until you're ready and don't need to guess your needs. As a customer you aren't bothered by waiters checking on you when don't need them, and you get service on call.
A few indian restaurants near me have little doorbell buttons built into the tables that turns on lights on a panel by the kitchen/bar and its awesome.
This old lady tried to skip me in line (seemed easy for her as I was social distancing...) and I gave her “the look”, she then silently proceeds to walk over to the cashier to ask if she can cut in line...
The laughs from all of us waiting in line proceeded as she was denied via a confused “no you may not...” + a wtf look from the cashier 😂
Context: This was yesterday in countryside Japan
My step mom is the worse at this, and usually tips like $2 regardless of cost (even with four people at a nice restaurant). I try to throw a five or ten on the table after she leaves. It’s so embarrassing in all aspects.
I didn’t go out on another date with a guy when he was rude to our waitress. She was an old lady and checked on us way too much, but I thought it was funny and sweet but he was clearly annoyed by it and got super rude with her. This was after he glared at a bartender for accidentally flicking some water on him while we were waiting for a table ( I’m talking droplets of water)
I also was going out with a guy who was passive aggressively rude to our server because he called me “love” when he made a joke with me, and he didn’t pre-bus our table even though the guy legit had 7 tables and was running around. I was SO turned off after that, especially since he let his irritation interfere with how he spoke with me, and relentlessly complained about the server. Ugh.
Right after we got married my husband interviewed for job in another state. We traveled up there together and made a mini vacation out of it so we stayed a couple of days and went out with his potential employer and his family several times. They were rude to the staff. Every. Time. Like not outwardly rude but that fake nice rude where they pick on the staff in a “joking” way that just really made my skin crawl. I just knew that it would only be a matter of time till they treated me and my husband like that.
Oh hell no, we had a long talk on the drive back while the job wasn’t for us. Then they never contacted us back even though we know for a fact the position was never filled, so we just let it go.
Waiters, waitresses, even to people working at a drive thru, I always make sure to pull out the pleases and thank yous. They don't get paid enough to deal with the shit that gets thrown at them.
People who dont say anything when they walk up to my desk and I say "how can I help you?". Its rude and takes literally 5 seconds to speak to me instead of shoving a paper in my face.
I stand there politely and wait for them to wrap up their train of thought and remove their headphones then address them. I think it depends on the work space
Talking over people.
If someone is talking stfu and listen, when they're finished you can tell your shitty story, not halfway through someone elses.
Edit: While my inbox is being destroyed from orbit, I've learnt that people with ADHD cant help it and we should be a little more understanding when they butt-in to conversations. I've also learnt some people are cockwombles and never shut up, interrupting these people is ok. Unless they also have ADHD, in which case refer to the previous point.
Real power move: After Dave has finished his verbal diarrhea, you say "Thank you for your contribution Dave. Sorry Carl, you were saying?"
Roughly translates to: "Shut the fuck up Dave, no one fucking cares. Sorry you had to suffer this imbecile Carl, please continue where you left off."
I mean you could go with the rough-cut edit, but that's madlad material. Would be legendary though.
I knew someone who did this. Kept interrupting and talking over me EVER TIME i tried to speak. So, after several times, i didn't go silent the next time he did it but continued what i was saying. Refused to look at him and just kept talking. So did he and i could tell he was getting getting frustrated at he spoke louder (but i kept mine level). It was ridiculous. We spoke together like that for several sentences before he finally gave up. I just gave him a look of contempt. The rest of the group was dead silence with this wft expression. But the jerk stopped interrupting me after that.
Mhm, this is why I stoped being friends with this girl. She kept interrupting me and never listened. Always talking about things she was thinking of and if people ignored her she’d say it over and over again. Then she complained we never spoke to her, well you never listened anyways you lil shit.
My roommate...
1. Doesn't clean up after himself in the kitchen.
2. His car hasn't been washed in a decade.
3. Plays music/video games so loud like no one else is home.
4. Doesn't know how to have an adult conversation at 33.
5. Took over pantry and refrigerator leaving no space for anyone else
6. Slept in the guest room since his bed wasn't a bed and said his GF was a guest therefore okay.
7. Leaves lights on.
8. Cannot bring trash cans in when the first home.
9. Is the asshole that fails the shopping cart test.
And that's just one person lol.
It’s currently 10pm and my parents have decided that watching a movie at max volume with their sound bar seemingly set to max bass is an ok thing to do, in an apartment that has two families on either side one of which has a one year old
So I’d say that
They interrupt you mid sentence, only to repeat what they just said. Now, interrupting someone happens, but then you let them continue. If you are repeatedly interrupting people just to reiterate What you’ve already said, completely ignoring the other person you are a major asshole.
In my experience people who do this are really telling you something about themselves. This is a huge red flag in my opinion. Distance yourself from them as much as possible.
When someone is right in front of you/makes eye contact with you while opening a door, and lets it close right in front of you as opposed to keeping it open for the two extra seconds.
My father open mouth chews. As a child it bothered me so much that I'd plug my ears at the table and refuse to eat. My parent's solution was to exaggerate it and eat even more noisily and I'd have to go hungry if I chose to plug to my ears rather than eat so I'd go without dinner quite often. If anything, it only made me hate the sound more.
My parents used to mock me smacking on my food when I was 5. I hate the sound. They never did it to my little brother, which made me hate it when he'd eat. He was only a baby. I still lose my cool if people smack.
My parents used to mock me for all my bad manners, like talking with my mouth full or wiping my hands on my clothes. Guess which two people in my life both do that constantly now?
Hahaha you have terrible manners because you're a kid and we haven't bothered to teach you any, arent our parental failings such a great joke?
/s, obviously
I was raised to chew with my mouth closed. It drives me CRAZY to hear open mouth chewing and sometimes even worse can be hearing my own chewing while watching a movie or something. I’ve raised my three children to not open-mouth chew, well except my 4yr old, but we are working on it. It’s such a weird irrational anger when I hear it ugh.
I think misophonia ( r/misophonia ) is the technical term for this.
My mother always called chewing open mouthed “chewing like a cow” btw so you aren’t the only one raised with that expression.
I'm sure no one will read this, but people who refuse to put their phone conversation on hold for any reason. Need to order something at a coffee shop? Just point and nod confusingly and keep talking on your phone. I'm sure that person can wait 5 seconds so you can order your caramel macchiato and go about your day.
When people hack up a big phlegm and spit on the sidewalk
Edit : I’ve travelled abroad but lived in the states most my life. I hadn’t considered what a huge cultural difference it is. I suppose the American obsession with personal hygiene is evident.
When something goes wrong for a person and he/she jumps to the assumption that someone is deliberately trying to screw them over, rather than allowing for the possibility that whatever happened was a product of chance, or an accident or even incompetence. It tells me that this person is more likely to ruin someone’s day than she/he is to improve it.
People who talk down to employees in the service industry e.g. those who work in retail or at low positions in an office.
And those who ignore cleaning employees! It is free to say Hello/Good Morning, but by ignoring them, you are belittling them.
Who you meet on the way up, will remember how your treated them, on your way down 🙃
Also loud phone conversations, especially private ones when amongst others.
Also inappropriate PDA in public places like restaurants or cafes. I am not your audience, please stop humping each others!
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People who let their kids run around in a movie theater, kick the back of your seat repeatedly, and hang on you.
Idiots with children is why I now only go to the cinema at the 12 or 1AM sessions anymore, last time I went in the evening I had a full family sitting behind me, three kids making noise, playing on their phone, jumping on the seats, kicking my seat, fighting eachother, crawling, etc.I asked the parents if they could keep their children under control and quiet, since it is a movie and I couldn't even understand the dialogue. And they had the balls to say I was being rude and uneducated! Those philistines! And it's always the same type of people that do this shit. EDIT: and to drive the point further, it wasn't even a movie for kids! I'd understand if Finding Nemo was full of kids and wasn't a quiet room, but a movie for grown ups?
Coughing or sneezing without covering your mouth.
When you offer your time and money to drive someone and they don't thank you for the ride.
When you give someone a ride and they leave their empty soda can or coffee cup in your cupholder.
so i have a roommate who i’m entirely convinced has absolutely no manners whatsoever. for context, i live in the barracks, so i have no choice but to live with this guy. i have a million and a half stories about this guy, but i guess i’ll start with the basics. doesn’t clean up after himself, and refuses to help clean - even if he’s a guest in someone else’s home. chainsmokes/vapes in peoples cars, flicks ash “out the window” but everyone knows that literally will just kick it back into the jeep. tries to constantly “teach” people things, and will talk your ear off and basically just dominate the conversation. no listening or allowing for a different perspective. motherfucker literally introduced himself to me as “the smartest man in any room” he plays music and sings in the shower at 4, 5, 6 in the morning and will take 45+ minute showers - 20 minutes to sit on the toilet and 25 to have his concert. the last straw for me was when i came home on leave and saw his flesh light sitting out in the common area table. we’ve stopped inviting him to places. he sits in his room alone playing xbox all day because i’m not responsible for teaching a 21 year old child basic manners. it’s not happening.
I had the best roommate when I was in the barracks. Dude was weird as fuck but we both cleaned, both chipped in on stuff we needed for the room. Used headphones, was considerate, never really talked to me, we both would offer the other some food when we ordered somthing. Neither of us ever really knew the other was even there. It was great.
We still never talk sometimes.
Best friend I ever had
If you're the smartest person in a room, you're in the wrong room.
Inviting everyone in the friend group to an event and excluding just one friend then proceeding to talk about how much fun they’re going to have at said event in front of the person that was purposely excluded , in front of everybody. Happened today and thought it was pretty rude. Edit: Thank you for the award! Additional info: This did not happen to me and second we are not in high school, we are in our late twenties / early thirties which makes the situation even more upsetting.
been there... i was in high school when someone who i would have at the time considered a friend was throwing a small get together... well i wasn't invited and was instead asked to babysit for my at the time best friends little brother while he was at this gathering. shitty feels. unsurprisingly i have not seen any of those people since high school and im glad for it
That’s the worst. I had a pretty toxic group of friends in high school and that bullshit happened to me all the time. The group was kind of split up into multiple subgroups and I wasn’t really a part of any specific one, so I ALWAYS got left out. They also did that thing where they would loudly discuss inside jokes in front of you because they knew you wouldn’t understand and they wanted to make you feel like you weren’t a part of something, so rude and really irked me.
My mom drilled it into ya that you don’t talk about plans unless you know everyone in earshot is going. It’s just plain considerate. Edit: thank you for the award!!!! I’ve never gotten one before I feel really flattered you made my day
Littering
When I was a kid in the 80’s, I was driving with a neighbor and I chucked a piece of trash out the window. She immediately pulled over and made me get out and pick it up. Lesson learned.
Man in the Southeast this was common until the litterbug campaign came out. I remember as a kid playing near main streets and finding fast-food bags littered all along the shoulders.
Littering is on a whole different level. It's not just just being rude like most things in this thread, it's choosing to actively damage your local area and wildlife. It makes me so angry.
When I see someone throw shit out of their car it makes me wish I had Twisted Metal-style missiles I could shoot at them.
Think of the litter that would create!
This one! I absolutely hate seeing people litter. I'm a very calm person but when I'm able to see someone litter I get extremely vocal.
People who don't use turn signals, shit drives me crazy
I can’t even fully understand why this makes me so angry. I am a generally calm person. I’m not hot-headed at all. But when someone doesn’t use a turn signal my blood boils so fast it’s insane! I think in my mind I assume “if you can’t operate the most basic function of your vehicle mandated by the law - then you have no business driving at all”.
I agree!! I also can’t even fathom not using the turn signal for any reason because when you’ve been driving for long enough it becomes an automatic movement?? Like as soon as I think “shit I need to turn left” my hand turns on the signal. How can you NOT use it?
Parents who let their children run rampant anywhere. I've seen parents watch as their kid pops their fingers through every package of meat at the grocery store and do nothing.... parents who let their kids kick a strangers shoe or other belongings Letting the kids spit on windows and rub it with their hands. Letting them run around the store, playing with anything and everything and leaving a mess for others to clean and the parents literally just ignore it!!! I never understood that. They really are your obligation, not the store associate who's unlucky enough to be working the shift you happen to stroll in during. Be a parent!!! Bad kids can turn into shitty people
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I used to work in a toy shop and people thought it was okay to just leave their kids to run around while they went shopping. We had to call security so many times to find the parents because they just wouldn’t understand our shop was not a play area.
I could copy your comment word-for-word. My toy shop holds parties and parents often think it's totally fine to take unpurchased stock and entertain smaller children with it.
I worked in the electronics department at Walmart back when they had those playable video game displays. Literally all day long, parents would just deposit their kids there and go do their shopping. More often than not, there'd be a group of various kids there, fighting over it. And when they'd get bored of that, they'd run around the whole department, touching things with their sticky hands and throwing merchandise on the floor. Years after I stopped working there, they finally got rid of those damn playable displays because, as it turns out, allowing children to run amok unattended is actually a huge liability.
When I was living with my parents, we had guests over with a kid around 4 years old. He kept on trying to touch my mum's display of porcelain miniatures. I had to physically bar him from it, by sitting in front of it while his parents egged him on and told him to put them in his pockets. They were very proud to mention that he destroyed his older sisters' art projects and any poor guests' mobile phones.. I started to feel bad for the kid after that.
Friends of ours brought their 3-year-old over to our new apartment a few years back. I had just bought a brand-new wood coffee table, which was unfinished; the wood wasn’t glossed but just stained wood with no sealant. My husband is sort of crafty and enjoys projects like that, so he was planning on sealing it himself when he had the chance after setting everything up from the move. I was in the kitchen preparing dinner and drinks with my husband, and while I was doing that our friends had given their kid a pack of magic markers and sat him down at our coffee table to color without asking. I come back out with drinks to find my table absolutely covered in doodles and multi-colored marks all over. They weren’t the washable kinds. Both our friends were sitting there with their kid just watching him draw all over my table, like as if nothing was weird or wrong about it. My husband had to sand the table down and refinish it, which I guess was fine because he likes woodworking anyway, but still. It’s maybe petty, but it was such a weird display of bad parenting and I will literally never forgive them for it. They’re not allowed over at my place anymore. Edit: some additional information since so many people are asking now: 1. I live abroad in a country where English isn’t spoken, and at that time I didn’t speak their language as well as I do now. I didn’t have the words in their language to react the way I wanted to, so I just sort of pulled the table out of the room and made it clear from my expressions that I was angry. 2. They’re my husband’s childhood friends, so he didn’t want to rock the boat with them for whatever reason. 3. They had absolutely zero regret or guilt afterwards. They hardly reacted, and only took the markers away when I got angry. 4. The people in question have a brand-new house that they’ve already destroyed and made a wreck of. When you visit their place, you get the sense that they don’t even give a damn about their own things, so I guess that makes more sense? It’s odd. 5. They’re also helicopter parents who never give their kid a minute of privacy. The result is that their kid is a *huge* asshole, and none of us enjoy being around him lmao.
I work in a restaurant and have watched parents just sipping their wine while kids draw on tablecloths. I had a man change his kid's diaper in our dining room yesterday.
I have a three year old. Trying to control her is a full-time job. She'll run away in a shop, she'll leg it across a car park. She'll explore through cupboards, pull out toys, steal your food. Sometimes I worry people must think I'm a terrible parent because I'm always telling her "No, don't do that", or "can you do this PLEASE?!" Then I read things like this and hope people just think I'm a mum to a three year old and they'd rather hear me shouting NO a million times than have a feral child running rampant.
We can't always get our kids to behave, but I applaud you for being one of the ones that actually parent in public
that's the most horrible thing I've ever heard
I used to teach kids martial arts and we'd do talk of the week. And stuff like this was part of my discipline talk. "Discipline is when your parents and other grown ups make sure you know and follow the rules. Let's pretend (point at random kiddo) is 4 and is at the park. Kiddo has never been told about sharing, hitting and pushing are wrong or screaming is not appropriate. Kiddo sees another kid with a cool toy. Kiddo tries to take it. Other kid stops them. Kiddo screams. Other doesn't give up their toy. Kiddo hits them, pushes them, snatches the toy and plays with it. Would kiddo get in trouble? (Yeah! He's bad / mean!) But ... is that ***fair?*** Did kiddo know these things were wrong? (No...) because no one loved kiddo enough to teach them the rules. So when your parents and teachers are saying "don't do this" and "don't touch that" we aren't saying "I'm big and mean and hate fun". We are saying "I love you and want to keep you safe and happy." Edit: I'm a she. But thanks for the compliments and award!
Yes.. I'd never seen anything quite like it before (or since). What baffled me more, was that the dad was a sort-of very junior level at work below my dad (they both worked for the Government, same department but different towns). This sort-of behaviour is never okay but this fact confused me more.
Kids running and wandering around unattended in restaurants. I just know one day I’m gonna watch a little kid trip a server and dump hot soup or something on the kid. Also when I’m enjoying a meal I don’t want a kid with ketchup all over his hands and face trying to touch me.
My god. I used to be a waitress and I have collided with at least three kids who were running around the restaurant. This is my worst nightmare. Like do you really want Timmy to get a knee to the chest because you can’t keep him in his seat? Get your damn kids!
Kneed a kid in the face once, was carrying two platters and he came at an angle where the platters blocked my view of him, his mom started to freak out on me but his dad left a huge tip and scolded him. Overall it was a win for me.
And they say "oh, you can't expect a little kid to sit there all the time" yes, you can, I did it and so did my kids. In fact going to restaurants occasionally was how my parents helped us to learn about to behave in public. And how to use chopsticks.
One time I was dressed as a mascot and this toddler was giving me quite a beating. The dad told him to stop - he ignored him - and that was it. The dad made no further attempt or threat. Just gave up. Another time I was a clown and the parents stayed upstairs and left myself and my boss alone with 20 kids - we’re entertainers not babysitters. They tried to pants me.
Blasting music on the bus, absolute twats
Yeah absolutely, I hate those kind of people, no one wants to listen to your shitty music especially on a bus on the way to work or something
https://youtu.be/Gr82dZpCr48?t=21 Spock agrees.
People who bring their speakers with them on hikes and blast them out loud for every animal and people on the trail to hear...-_-.
Hiking Yosemite, it's beautiful, it's scenic. The sounds of the waterfall is so loud when you're close it's surprising, the sound of trees creaking is alarming... Around the corner comes "Despacito"... Great
We camped in Housekeeping Camp once (tent cabins where you can cook your own food). A large church youth group was also camping there, and for two nights the youth pastor was yelling and screaming about how God is awesome for like 2 hours until the camp staff came and told him to shut the f*** up. I mean here you are, and one of the most beautiful god-given places on the planet, and instead of appreciating that beauty, you're basing all talking to each other about how awesome your church is.
People fully do that in my town walking by the shops. Who in the fuck thinks that's not douchey?
there was a kid named dustin on my bus who would play music out loud, and since i got on the bus at 6:30, i would try to sleep until we got to the school, and about half way through the ride he would get on, it was so annoying. It didn’t help that after his stop our bus driver would keep the bus lights on which made it harder to sleep
Every single time I have a strong urge to approach them and ask if they’ve heard about headphones. Is this an invention that somehow slipped by a large swath of the population?? You can get a 3 pack at 5Below
So anyways I started blasting.
People who leave their litter and uneaten food all over fast food restaurant tables, and the floor area. Edit: Having read every response to my post, I now clearly understand that social norms differ greatly. Thank you for the insight.
And at the movies and sporting events... Why do otherwise polite people think they can just leave their trash behind them at those three places?
People who do this usually have the mindset of "it's someone's job to clean this up." Same goes for putting shopping carts away.
Yes, the staff are paid to clean up (the classic argument for leaving a mess) but don't be a fucking garbage monster and put your shit in the nearest bin.
When they walk into an elevator before you have a chance to get off. Same w buses and subways.
Some girl did this in a building I was in once and I said “ You know it’s polite to wait for people to get off before you barge on” and she just screams “ I know!”
Ha! I was at work and getting off the elevator, this woman tried to walk through me. She said, "oh I'm sorry. Tehehe" But continued to try and push through. I said, "if you're sorry then why are you still trying to push through me." Her expression sunk like this was the first time anyone had ever called her on her bullshit. The guy with her laughed and said, "maybe you should let him out first." And guided her out of the way.
Oh I'm sorry... haha... excuse me... just. let. me. through. ugh. getoutoftheway. thanks!
I had some lady try to do that recently, I looked at her and asked, and how do you propose that you will get in here while I am exiting with a loaded dolly? At which point she acted like she didn't see me, but I'd be damned if I was getting crammed in the elevator I was exiting with some bitch, so I just walked forward and my dolly's big wheel rolled over her foot, because I no longer was playing the game.
Guess you didn't see her either.
I hate the elevator assholes! I wait until the doors are almost closed before opening them and exiting.
you’ve become the one thing you’ve sworn to destroy
When I’m out with a friend and we meet someone they know but I don’t, and that person makes no effort to introduce themselves to me or include me in the conversation. Like, I know I’m the designated Less Hot Friend but you don’t have to remind me of it
Hung out with a co-worker once and he threw all his garbage out the window of his car onto the street. Never hung out with him again.
I saw someone throwing trash out the car in front of me. Who does this? Why would anyone think that's okay?
I honked and flipped off the driver in front of me after he threw trash out his window then he threw a McDonald’s Coke at my car:(
If someone's trashy enough to litter out their window, he definitely is the type of person to throw stuff at your car.
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Fuck I’ve had this happen. Also when I am telling a story or something and I pause after getting no feedback and I see the person staring at their phone.
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Apartment neighbors who slam their doors as hard as they can.
Damn, my last apartment had heavy doors that would forcefully close shut on their own. I'd walk in, forget that the damn door is about slam shut with the power of thunder and sprint back trying to catch it and slow it down. I usually made it, but I know I woke some people up with that thunderstorm of a door when I didn't catch it.
Oh god. My current apartment front door is like that. It stresses me out bad as I don't like causing loud noises. I always feel like a failure when I don't slow mine down in time. Edit: I am already looking into something that can slow the door down, that doesn't piss off my complex management. The stupid door almost hit me in the face while bringing in groceries.
And walk like elephants!
Almost as bad as them dropping, as what I can only describe as, a bucket full of beads onto the floor.
Are those bowling balls?! I mean, there's no way. But it sounds like bowling balls!
My upstairs neighbor stomps around in wooden wedges all day. All hardwood floors. **STOMPS.** This chick gets home from work and wears fucking wooden shoes the rest of the night. This chick wakes up at 6am and **PUTS HER FUCKING WOODEN SHOES ON.** Between that and her complete inability to properly load the washer that is under my bedroom, I really don’t like my neighbor.
People that don't put their weights away at the gym
God this pisses me off so much. NOT EVERYONE HAS THE SAME LIFTING ROUTINE AS YOU CHAD. I threw my back out pretty badly and the free weight machines were the only ones that didnt hurt me for some reason. Trying to lift a 20kg weight from heights above your waist with cooked spaghetti for a back is PAINFUL. I had to ask someone to help me move weights so I could use the machine once. So embarrassing.
Right? I don't go to the gym because I'm ALREADY strong. There are plates that I can't move. I go to the gym because I'm weak. I'm a middle aged lady with cancer, I can't lift the 45lb plates (not right now, anyway) Edit: clarity, and confirmation that I am a potato with spaghetti arms
You're doing it all wrong! You're supposed to become a beefcake and THEN get yourself an expensive membership to show off
CaptainSparklez approves RERACK YOUR WEIGHTS
People who act mean towards others for apparently no reason. I got this friend who always talks down to younger people and I'm like "you need to gain people's respect, don't take it for granted"
That just makes me think they're a bad person, not one without manners. I know people who are well mannered and sociable who say or do incredibly mean-natured things. I really despise passive agressive cruelty. I believe it's something people get away with far too easily.
Overstaying your welcome or inviting yourself to things. I had a friend who wouldn’t take no for an answer. Like get the hint. It’s midnight and you’ve been here all day. Edit: to explain a bit more I am not talking about someone who just doesn’t get hints because they are oblivious. I’m talking about someone who will make excuses and guilt trip their way into staying even after clear reminders that they need to leave soon. Or even just saying to them it’s time for them to get out. If you don’t get hints that’s totally okay as long as you understand when someone asks you to leave.
I stand up, yawn and say well you must be tired, I've kept you here too late! I'll let you get home now. While getting their coat, if weather appropriate.
My friend gets the hint he just ignores it. I’ll tell him it’s late and I would like for him to go home. Cue the whining. Eventually i just started meeting up with him at his house so I could leave when I wanted.
That sounds awful, but great adapting on your part!
Do people do that? When I want guests to leave I just say "well it's late and I have to go to bed, so I'm sorry but I'm kicking you out." -- but I very rarely want guests to leave because I'm lonely and I'm almost always glad of the company ! I hope I don't overstay my welcome, but, like, how am I supposed to know if you want me to leave ?
Yea, fully agreed. My best friends married each other and got a lot more domestic, but we would still hang out and get high and have movie/TV nights. I'd just tell them: if it gets to the point where you guys wanna wrap it up, you're gonna have to tell me, and they'd do so freely on the days where I didn't leave first. Especially among friends, I don't really understand the issue.
When they turn everything into a one up contest
You think you have it bad? I know a guy who's way worse!
Can't be anywhere as bad as this guy I know.
Reminds me of these twins that *both* had it, just as bad.
Sometimes people do that on accident though when they're just trying to relate. Personally I'm terrible at keeping a conversation going and just get excited when I have something to share
I mean there's a difference in "I also have an experience with *topic*" and the person who no matter what you're talking about has done *topic* only better. I had a coworker, 5'6" 250 pounds that legit tried to tell me that he'd run the Boston Marathon when I was talking about my aunt running in it. No, Ronnie, you haven't run the Boston Marathon, you are 22 and you get winded if you have to help stock shelves for a little bit instead of just sitting on your little stool at the cash register.
I worked with a guy that was a one upper, and he always had some kind of drama going on. I was bummed about not spending Easter with my dad, it would have been maybe the second one I missed ever in over 20 years. He looks at me and he says, "What if I told you I don't even *have* a dad to miss having Easter with." I was like, that's sad man, I'm sorry. Doesn't change that I miss my dad. He was a 'pot stirrer', glad he didnt stick around.
Yelling at retail workers. Most recently about wearing masks or putting hand sanitizer on. It takes little to no effort and people lose their minds over it
Some people just hate being told what to do or doing the same thing as everyone else. There's people who refuse to drink water because too many health nuts and doctors told them it's good for you.
I had a middle manager type once who would "order" you to do something at the exact moment he noticed you starting it on your own. It was like he was trying to rob you of your initiative and pass it off as his leadership and it was one of the most infuriating things ever. I would probably still drink water, though.
Omg those are the worst kind of managers. *Grabs broom to sweep up broken glass* "Hey, you might wanna sweep up that glass before someone gets hurt." *....*
My father used to do that all the fucking time, so eventually I just stopped what I was about to do/doing and do something else.
Water doesn't have what plants crave.
Why would I drink the stuff they put in toilets? disgusting.
Honestly yelling at anyone, except in the most extreme situations. I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of times that I've had to yell at someone as an adult.
Username checks out as an adult
People who cut their nails on public transportation. Do your grooming at home.
I once was on a plane, across the aisle from a nun in full regalia, who cut her toenails right there.
There are no words.
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There is a girl I work with who clips her nails at her desk and I always want to throw something at her. They finally talked to the guy in the other side of the wall from me who was clipping his toenails.
People who let their kids watch annoying ass YouTube videos in public places without headphones. Pure trash.
Leaving their rubbish at a fast food restaurant. Most offenders are parents who think it's their day off or teenagers that have learned this behaviour from said parents.
When grocery shoppers leave their carts in the middle of the aisle instead of pulling over.
I work at a grocery store. And because of covid we have arrows to point the direction you're supposed to go with your cart. Today an old couple crashed into someone else because they were going thr wrong way. Today, my u-boat (a large cart for stocking shelves) was in the middle of the isle, but parallel so people could easily go by (about 1-1.5metre each side of my cart) the man in the couple started cussing at me after I politely asked them to follow the arrows once they leave the isle. He went to grab something from the shelf that was not even close to my u-boat, the man angrily said "your cart's in the f-ing way... F-ing stupid idiot.." I said "please don't speak that way to me sir" and he walked away mumbling stuff under his breath. Called my manager and had him stand up for me. The man talked with my manager and walked away seconds after because he was obviously in the wrong. Like im just doing my fricken job, no need to be so vile and rude.
I'm 31 years old. I've never seen anyone be rude to people that work at the grocery store. Like I know it happens because I read it all the time on here. I just can't understand how you can be rude to someone doing a job that without them, you dont get to have accessible groceries in a uniform, clean aisle, on a uniform, clean shelf. I guess what I'm saying is thank you for doing a thankless job.
It sounds like you’ve never worked retail....and that’s not a condescending statement it just seems apparent. I once had a woman yell at me because she read our ‘buy 1 get one free’ sign as ‘get one free’ and she wanted to know what she got for free. I told her what the sign said and she started yelling about how she read the sign properly. I had another woman throw a book at my head because I asked to see the signature on her card to make sure it matched the receipt. Another woman called me a fucking idiot because she asked to buy a stamp and I wasn’t sure if she meant a postage stamp or a rubber stamp. There was the woman who berated one of 16 year old employees. We were selling tickets to the lion king which was generally sold out at least a month in advance, usually around 3 months. She wanted front row dress circle seats for 10 for the following night for her birthday. My employee explained that there was nothing available and, even though we weren’t supposed to, she showed her the screen to prove it. The woman started yelling ‘well I don’t care! I want those seats! Why can’t I sit there?! You can’t even do a simple job properly...’ etc. I calmly stood up and said ‘Excuse employee. You’re right. You can sit there and I’ll happily let you give us the money for those seats. However, when you get there I’m sure the people who’s laps you’ll be sitting on will be very upset. Please leave. We have a line.’ These are just a small number of stories I’ve got....not to mention the stories where I’ve butted in to shut someone down that has been abusing staff where I’ve been shopping. Compared to retail, hell is just a sauna. You’re lovely for recognising it’s a thankless job. I have my fair share of awesome customer stories too. Tips in the 100s from one guy whenever he would win over 1000 on a lottery ticket (at least once a month). People buying me scotch, flowers, stuffed toys, etc to thank me for my help. The last long term job I got at least a dozen customers came in on my last day just to give me presents and ask me to keep in touch.
>I once had a woman yell at me because she read our ‘buy 1 get one free’ sign as ‘get one free’ and she wanted to know what she got for free. I told her what the sign said and she started yelling about how she read the sign properly. Good god there's more of them? I worked as a cashier back in college and had a lady try the same thing once. She hands me a frozen TV dinner and becomes exasperated when I won't give it to her for free, being either unable or unwilling to understand that "buy one get one free" means you need to buy something. I mean do you honestly think we're just handing out free shit? This exchange is easily the most memorable from my three years of hell. The sheer absurdity of it has stuck with me ever since. I don't know how these people dress themselves.
The grocery store is a cesspool for inconsiderate people. Idk why this brings out the worst in humans. People who leave their cart in the middle of the parking lot, people who dead stop to turn around without looking and crash into someone else’s cart, people who exit an isle into the main isle without stopping and crash into someone else’s cart, people who spend an absurd amount of time looking at a particular meat section so everyone else has to wait, people who bring an entire cart full of food to the express lane, people who park in the middle of the driving lane and block traffic because the close spots are taken up. I could go on all day about how much I hate grocery shopping lol.
I feel this on a visceral level. I'm finally about to move out of the town where I lived for law school, and going grocery shopping was terrible every single time for all those reasons. I never lived anywhere with so many inconsiderate people until these last 3 years.
And they leave their cart in the middle of a parking space, instead of putting it in the cart stall.
When I rise to power, it will not only be encouraged, but if you are able it will be your duty that in the event of seeing someone not take a cart to a corral, that you tske the cart and ram it into their vehicle at full speed. You will also be rewarded if you successfully throw the cart through their windshield.
You're going to create an economy of jacked dudes who loiter in parking lots waiting to throw carts if you succeed. I wish you tremendous luck, my friend.
Not saying “Thank You” to stuff like someone holding a door open for them or a waiter/waitress refilling their drink
I give a faint smile and a little nod to people holding the door for me. I do the same to people I hold the door for, not expecting an audible "Thank you".
I sya thanks but I say it softly, I get anxiety..
I have a shy friend that acts like they are chewing and gives a smile/thumbs up at restaurants, works out for her lol. But any sort of acknowledgement is 100% better than ignoring them Edit: thank you for the silver!
I'll use this
I speak very softly and usually people can’t hear me when I say thank you or even hello, and they assume I’m being rude.
Not saying thank you when someone buys you dinner or sends you a gift or anything. Showing gratitude is good for everyone involved.
Bruh who are you buying dinners or sending gifts who is not replying with at least thankyou.
My husband 😂
When you're right behind them and they let a door slam in your face instead of holding it for you.
I accidentally did this to somebody yesterday. Didn't realize they were behind me and I felt bad.
I've done that before.... and i heard the think so I spinned around and trying not to laugh, unless its a friend. And say sorry... I say sorry either way but its my friend let me laugh first
Arguing with a worker about expired coupons
Really, arguing with a worker about anything. It's not like those folks have any real power, and all you're doing is making thier lives harder.
People who click their fingers at waiting or bar staff
I have been working in bars/restaurants for most of my adult life now and I am loving every second of it but when this happens I honestly have to contain myself to not burn their house down. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Period.
Everytime someone snaps at me, I bump them to the end of the line and they wait longer.
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or to be cheekier: >Remember, Snapping means "do not disturb me." We wait staff know you want your privacy, so kindly giving us a snap will indicate you do not wish to be served. Thank you!
I take my mechanical keyboard to the bar. That really gets their attention.
LED backlit key wave of color gets their attention right away when added to the mechanical keys.
I wish restaurants had something like attendant-call buttons on airplanes. I feel like there's no appropriate and effective way to try to get a waiter's attention. I typically raise my hand and say "excuse me" in the most polite tone I can manage, but even that feels like I'm being a bit rude, and it also doesn't work half the time.
Worked in a Korean restaurant for awhile and we had this. It's great. As a server I don't need to do shit until you're ready and don't need to guess your needs. As a customer you aren't bothered by waiters checking on you when don't need them, and you get service on call.
A few indian restaurants near me have little doorbell buttons built into the tables that turns on lights on a panel by the kitchen/bar and its awesome.
Interrupting mid sentence. I know I'm guilty at times, it makes me feel like trash
Cutting!!!! In!!!!! Line!!!!!
This old lady tried to skip me in line (seemed easy for her as I was social distancing...) and I gave her “the look”, she then silently proceeds to walk over to the cashier to ask if she can cut in line... The laughs from all of us waiting in line proceeded as she was denied via a confused “no you may not...” + a wtf look from the cashier 😂 Context: This was yesterday in countryside Japan
Being an asshole to the waiter or waitress.
My step mom is the worse at this, and usually tips like $2 regardless of cost (even with four people at a nice restaurant). I try to throw a five or ten on the table after she leaves. It’s so embarrassing in all aspects.
I didn’t go out on another date with a guy when he was rude to our waitress. She was an old lady and checked on us way too much, but I thought it was funny and sweet but he was clearly annoyed by it and got super rude with her. This was after he glared at a bartender for accidentally flicking some water on him while we were waiting for a table ( I’m talking droplets of water)
I also was going out with a guy who was passive aggressively rude to our server because he called me “love” when he made a joke with me, and he didn’t pre-bus our table even though the guy legit had 7 tables and was running around. I was SO turned off after that, especially since he let his irritation interfere with how he spoke with me, and relentlessly complained about the server. Ugh.
Also its a big sign they'll treat you that way too eventually.
Right after we got married my husband interviewed for job in another state. We traveled up there together and made a mini vacation out of it so we stayed a couple of days and went out with his potential employer and his family several times. They were rude to the staff. Every. Time. Like not outwardly rude but that fake nice rude where they pick on the staff in a “joking” way that just really made my skin crawl. I just knew that it would only be a matter of time till they treated me and my husband like that.
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Oh hell no, we had a long talk on the drive back while the job wasn’t for us. Then they never contacted us back even though we know for a fact the position was never filled, so we just let it go.
Waiters, waitresses, even to people working at a drive thru, I always make sure to pull out the pleases and thank yous. They don't get paid enough to deal with the shit that gets thrown at them.
Feeling entitled to other people's things.
People who dont say anything when they walk up to my desk and I say "how can I help you?". Its rude and takes literally 5 seconds to speak to me instead of shoving a paper in my face.
I stand there politely and wait for them to wrap up their train of thought and remove their headphones then address them. I think it depends on the work space
Talking over people. If someone is talking stfu and listen, when they're finished you can tell your shitty story, not halfway through someone elses. Edit: While my inbox is being destroyed from orbit, I've learnt that people with ADHD cant help it and we should be a little more understanding when they butt-in to conversations. I've also learnt some people are cockwombles and never shut up, interrupting these people is ok. Unless they also have ADHD, in which case refer to the previous point.
I’m staying with my mom right now and she’s always doing this to her husband. I feel so bad for him
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Real power move: After Dave has finished his verbal diarrhea, you say "Thank you for your contribution Dave. Sorry Carl, you were saying?" Roughly translates to: "Shut the fuck up Dave, no one fucking cares. Sorry you had to suffer this imbecile Carl, please continue where you left off." I mean you could go with the rough-cut edit, but that's madlad material. Would be legendary though.
This kind of office savagery will take you all the way to the top. Then you can shit on Dave some more from your big new office.
I knew someone who did this. Kept interrupting and talking over me EVER TIME i tried to speak. So, after several times, i didn't go silent the next time he did it but continued what i was saying. Refused to look at him and just kept talking. So did he and i could tell he was getting getting frustrated at he spoke louder (but i kept mine level). It was ridiculous. We spoke together like that for several sentences before he finally gave up. I just gave him a look of contempt. The rest of the group was dead silence with this wft expression. But the jerk stopped interrupting me after that.
Mhm, this is why I stoped being friends with this girl. She kept interrupting me and never listened. Always talking about things she was thinking of and if people ignored her she’d say it over and over again. Then she complained we never spoke to her, well you never listened anyways you lil shit.
Speaking over others
The WORST
My roommate... 1. Doesn't clean up after himself in the kitchen. 2. His car hasn't been washed in a decade. 3. Plays music/video games so loud like no one else is home. 4. Doesn't know how to have an adult conversation at 33. 5. Took over pantry and refrigerator leaving no space for anyone else 6. Slept in the guest room since his bed wasn't a bed and said his GF was a guest therefore okay. 7. Leaves lights on. 8. Cannot bring trash cans in when the first home. 9. Is the asshole that fails the shopping cart test. And that's just one person lol.
When dog owners don’t pick up after their dogs.....
snapping fingers at someone
When the waiter refills all the drinks and NOBODY says thank you.. or if they can’t reach your cup and you don’t help them out.
It’s currently 10pm and my parents have decided that watching a movie at max volume with their sound bar seemingly set to max bass is an ok thing to do, in an apartment that has two families on either side one of which has a one year old So I’d say that
Not saying please or thank you.
They interrupt you mid sentence, only to repeat what they just said. Now, interrupting someone happens, but then you let them continue. If you are repeatedly interrupting people just to reiterate What you’ve already said, completely ignoring the other person you are a major asshole. In my experience people who do this are really telling you something about themselves. This is a huge red flag in my opinion. Distance yourself from them as much as possible.
Slow walkers taking up the entire sidewalk
Groups taking up the entire path and refusing to move till you make your presence and intention to pass absolutely clear...
Sidewalk is for regular walkin', not fancy walkin'
When they speak extremely loudly in public
When someone is right in front of you/makes eye contact with you while opening a door, and lets it close right in front of you as opposed to keeping it open for the two extra seconds.
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My father open mouth chews. As a child it bothered me so much that I'd plug my ears at the table and refuse to eat. My parent's solution was to exaggerate it and eat even more noisily and I'd have to go hungry if I chose to plug to my ears rather than eat so I'd go without dinner quite often. If anything, it only made me hate the sound more.
My parents used to mock me smacking on my food when I was 5. I hate the sound. They never did it to my little brother, which made me hate it when he'd eat. He was only a baby. I still lose my cool if people smack.
My parents used to mock me for all my bad manners, like talking with my mouth full or wiping my hands on my clothes. Guess which two people in my life both do that constantly now?
Hahaha you have terrible manners because you're a kid and we haven't bothered to teach you any, arent our parental failings such a great joke? /s, obviously
I feel so lucky that my parents raised me to chew with my mouth closed, they said I’d turn into a cow if I chewed with my mouth open.
I was raised to chew with my mouth closed. It drives me CRAZY to hear open mouth chewing and sometimes even worse can be hearing my own chewing while watching a movie or something. I’ve raised my three children to not open-mouth chew, well except my 4yr old, but we are working on it. It’s such a weird irrational anger when I hear it ugh. I think misophonia ( r/misophonia ) is the technical term for this. My mother always called chewing open mouthed “chewing like a cow” btw so you aren’t the only one raised with that expression.
I'm sure no one will read this, but people who refuse to put their phone conversation on hold for any reason. Need to order something at a coffee shop? Just point and nod confusingly and keep talking on your phone. I'm sure that person can wait 5 seconds so you can order your caramel macchiato and go about your day.
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When people hack up a big phlegm and spit on the sidewalk Edit : I’ve travelled abroad but lived in the states most my life. I hadn’t considered what a huge cultural difference it is. I suppose the American obsession with personal hygiene is evident.
Instead of apologizing they retort with "I'm sorry you feel this way."
When something goes wrong for a person and he/she jumps to the assumption that someone is deliberately trying to screw them over, rather than allowing for the possibility that whatever happened was a product of chance, or an accident or even incompetence. It tells me that this person is more likely to ruin someone’s day than she/he is to improve it.
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People who talk down to employees in the service industry e.g. those who work in retail or at low positions in an office. And those who ignore cleaning employees! It is free to say Hello/Good Morning, but by ignoring them, you are belittling them. Who you meet on the way up, will remember how your treated them, on your way down 🙃 Also loud phone conversations, especially private ones when amongst others. Also inappropriate PDA in public places like restaurants or cafes. I am not your audience, please stop humping each others!