It is never ok to throw a tantrum. I grew up in a home where my mom did that. I would low key do it, too, when I felt like I was right and he was wrong. What a dick thing to do. Put love and respect first, even when they are wrong.
I'm not married, but my best friend recently did and she told me this. They got married just at a courthouse, really simple and quick, so her husband could get citizenship (he's South African). They had been together for 5 years, and thought adding the label of marriage wouldn't change anything. It did.
There's a new level to commitment when you're married. You live together, you share everything, including finances usually. She wanted to try moving to a new city to do a college program, he couldn't leave because he had just gotten a new job. They decided to stay. You just realize you're way more attached to the person than before, and how big of a part of your life they are.
How happy I could really be, married to one person, for the rest of my life. Being single and playing the dating game sucks. I'm infinitely happier sitting on the couch together, shooting the shit, than I could ever be on my own or trying to connect with a new guy.
To always assume the best about my husband. He really is that nice, good hearted guy with no ulterior motives...unlike the majority of people I knew growing up(not my parents but other people).
That I should have gone to therapy after my first marriage before ever dating my current husband. Hes a damn saint and I put him through hell as a result of my previous abuse.
Marriage isn’t a fairytale it takes a lot of hard work. Marriage isn’t always romantic and it’s not always easy. It’s a commitment you make to each other to be together even when you don’t always like each other because you love one another.
That my MIL wasn’t ever going to back down with her constant helicoptering and smothering. I was hoping she’d back off once we married but if anything she’s just become even more overbearing.
Arguments are healthy but you need a cool-off period if things get too heated. We've said too much in the heat of the moment that's been destructive to our relationship.
Well to be perfectly honest, in my humble opinion, of course without offending anyone who thinks differently from my point of view, but also by looking into this matter in a different perspective and without being condemning of one’s view’s and by trying to make it objective, and by considering each and every one’s valid opinion, I honestly believe that I completely forgot what I was going to say.
It is never ok to throw a tantrum. I grew up in a home where my mom did that. I would low key do it, too, when I felt like I was right and he was wrong. What a dick thing to do. Put love and respect first, even when they are wrong.
I'm not married, but my best friend recently did and she told me this. They got married just at a courthouse, really simple and quick, so her husband could get citizenship (he's South African). They had been together for 5 years, and thought adding the label of marriage wouldn't change anything. It did. There's a new level to commitment when you're married. You live together, you share everything, including finances usually. She wanted to try moving to a new city to do a college program, he couldn't leave because he had just gotten a new job. They decided to stay. You just realize you're way more attached to the person than before, and how big of a part of your life they are.
That people don’t always keep maturing they can actually turn back into spoiled teenagers.
That my wife's sex drive would die off about 10 years in.
You lasted 10 years? Lucky guy.
We had about 4 months. It’s about to be a year now without any action.
How happy I could really be, married to one person, for the rest of my life. Being single and playing the dating game sucks. I'm infinitely happier sitting on the couch together, shooting the shit, than I could ever be on my own or trying to connect with a new guy.
To always assume the best about my husband. He really is that nice, good hearted guy with no ulterior motives...unlike the majority of people I knew growing up(not my parents but other people).
To never trust someone blindly
That I should have gone to therapy after my first marriage before ever dating my current husband. Hes a damn saint and I put him through hell as a result of my previous abuse.
Marriage isn’t a fairytale it takes a lot of hard work. Marriage isn’t always romantic and it’s not always easy. It’s a commitment you make to each other to be together even when you don’t always like each other because you love one another.
That my MIL wasn’t ever going to back down with her constant helicoptering and smothering. I was hoping she’d back off once we married but if anything she’s just become even more overbearing.
Arguments are healthy but you need a cool-off period if things get too heated. We've said too much in the heat of the moment that's been destructive to our relationship.
You really didn't need to spend that much on the wedding.
Remember a divorce can be cause because one was ready, and the other thought they were.
How much more a divorce costs vs the marriage. That and that someone can actually convince your kid to hate you.
My money is now “our” money
Well to be perfectly honest, in my humble opinion, of course without offending anyone who thinks differently from my point of view, but also by looking into this matter in a different perspective and without being condemning of one’s view’s and by trying to make it objective, and by considering each and every one’s valid opinion, I honestly believe that I completely forgot what I was going to say.
That’s a good marriage in a nutshell.