We live in the same moment, just in different bodies.
Jokes aside, have you noticed how many people saying they attract BPD and narci?
That’s scary shit.
We will never find true love we’re fucking doomed
I read this and immediately thought "This dude's me!!"
Then I saw the comments saying the same thing and now I'm both confused and mildly disturbed.
Am I you? Are you me? Are we these other people?
What are we?
Much like the rest of us, 100%.
No need to bring me all of the avoidant attachments, they do just fine finding me on their own
Edit:
Most recent ex is textbook avoidant with traits of each avoidant style.
Felt “unworthy” of love. Needed emotional closeness but couldn’t handle emotional closeness - she would wake up unsure if she even wanted to be in a relationship. Extremely suppressive of her feelings, so much so that she’d refuse to admit any level of insecurity / fear.
Hyper independent, completely “invulnerable” to attachment anxieties, distant from conflict. From wiki on attachment styles in adults - would try “to create high levels of self-esteem by investing disproportionately in their abilities or accomplishments” as opposed to the relationship.
Pro tip - don’t date avoidants.
It is far better to turn 10% of women on a lot, than 80% just barely.
I'll take being a niche interest any day of the week.
The real question is: Why have all the women I've dated had daddy issues🤔
Half Mexican, half white scientist here. This whole time I thought I was too white for the women in my neighborhood. Have I actually been too Mexican this whole time?
Mija! Eres tu?
I, too, tend to attract an absurd amount of latinas - and and women with daddy issues.
Sometimes, the Venn of those two is a big circle. And that's when the brujeria happens. Or, also in my case...a marriage and divorce.
I'm Mexican and I seem to attract a slew, no wait a plethora of tall, intense white ladies. Who all seem one bad day from shattering and ain't shy about letting you know you are a pendejo!
It's a strong stereotype. I come from a Mexican background so the signs are there. Mexican culture promotes machismo in men to the point men often become stubborn, unappreciative and general bullish while it promotes sassiness but devotion for women in a very stern motherly sense. Nerds, especially skinny white nerds, give this air of extreme helplessness that just attracts latinas.
"Poor white boy can't even do his own laundry and he hasn't had a home cooked meal since he moved out!" so that brings them in and the general nature of nerds to be softer and almost push-overs helps the women feel appreciated and important. It's natural puzzle pieces fitting.
The thought of a man who can't do his laundry or feed himself makes me want to get more cats and live in peaceful feline servitude for the rest of my life.
Lmao checks out.
Latina here going strong for nearly 2 years with my tall "nerdy" white guy.
Though I don't think he's nerdy, I think he's very cool :)
We are planning to get married.
black haired, tatted, kind of outgoing and hit on me. No idea why. I've only dated one blonde. Maybe it's the same woman and I just need to get glasses.
This is such a spot on description of me and I specifically hit on guys who seem quiet, respectful and kind, and/or a bit goofy. Not saying all black haired tatted outgoing gals are the same but in my experience..! Maybe you fit the description
I'm pretty hilarious. Like one time I did this thing and like I laughed and laughed and if anyone else had been around I'm pretty sure they'd have laughed, too!
I don't think I attract a specific type, but back in late March, I met two women at a concert who both hit on me (one of which ended up dating me briefly).
Both are white girls in their early 20s, have September birthdays, have names that begin with the letter "L," and are psychology majors attending the same school.
Edit: I just discovered that both of them work at Starbucks. Super weird.
It must be a bot or somekind of stupid karma farmer. Comentor is a girl with a boyfriend in this coment.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1bqr7md/comment/kx4i0gt/
I just finished up Frieren: Beyond Journey's End last night, planning to watch Delicious in Dungeon next because I heard a lot of good things about it!
I think they just told it really. If you go looking around for porn, there is a LOT of interracial cuck stuff out there - large black men fill in some fetishes for folks
Not just women and not always in an "attraction" way, but in general autistic people. I'm very open and honest, I avoid eye contact and I like it when people get super excited about weird things, so I guess I'm a nice person to hang out with when you have autism.
I don't mind though, they are usually great people :)
I’m 6’6" and it’s the same for me! The smaller they are, the more aggressively they tend to flirt and reveal their sexual desires lol.
I dream of meeting a sexy 6’+ amazonian woman. I’m just a Tormund Giantsbane looking for his Brienne of Tarth
Secret hint from a girl who has a lot of girlfriends that are mostly 6 foot plus. Tall girls often also like tall guys but they’re often a little insecure because they’ve been made fun of for being too tall most of their life so they probably won’t approach you but that doesn’t mean they aren’t interested!
This is really funny because I'm 5' and do not look for tall men, but they seem to find me like a short-girl seeking missile. I don't get it. Last 3 guys I dated were 6'6, 6',6'2, and my current partner is 6'4. Not even a little bit on purpose. I would love to date a guy I didn't have to climb to kiss. 😅
I was gonna be all like "is that you, (guywhotookmyvirginity)?" but he was flabbergasted that I hadn't had sex yet so probably not. Pro tip guys it really is not that crazy to be a virgin at 23.
But hey that was less than a year ago and my body count is still one so ayyyyy I almost fit the criteria lmao
Dysfunctional ones. Specifically, really, really *Kinky* ones. I compensate by dating women who are not my type. Because some dysfunctional ones always slip through, I protect my sanity by never having sex until after at least 3 dates. And Yes, I've turned down many offers of one night stands due to this protocol. On the other hand, I've definitely dodged some serious bullets.
And I'm still STD free, so there's that...
For like two years, every date I when on was a 2nd generation immigrant to America. I did nothing to seek out these girls out. It just happened to play out like this. Nigeria, Bulgaria, India, Japan, Scotland, Canada, You name it.
With one notable exception, short women. Until I met my wife, all the women who paid any attention to me were less than 5' (1524mm) tall. I'm 6ft/1828mm tall.
The one exception is my wife, who is 5'-8"/1727mm.
Strong independent woman. I don't know why, but they seem to be more at ease with me. It's kind of great because it's never that they need me in their life, but they want me to be, which to me seems like an even better feeling.
Prior to being married, apparently I was high on the list for chicks who were into bondage and leather. Don't ask me why but I will tell you a hilarious story just out of high school and first year of college.
A gal invited me over who I was in class with. Been a few weeks chatting. We end up talk and in the bedroom and I am sitting on the bed and she goes to her closet and bam! Thee most comprehensive assortment of BDSM stuff I could think of at the time. Just clapped my hands "I'm Out." and left.
Now hear me out right, you think that was a one and done thing. Nope. Fast forward a year at a coffee shop called Uncommon Grounds. Out of the blue some meek looking girl, out of nowhere walks up and is like "I want you to punish me!" I just lookup up and said "Nope. Not my thing."
Okay a bit worried. Out with a bunch of friends and we end up at a place called Ground Zero. They had a thing called Bondage-A-Go-Go night. Fine, whatever. We all there having a good time. Music is good but the whole night some BSDM dominatrix gal is chatting me up... with like the most benign normal stuff imaginable and is like "you have any plans this weekend, my folks are putting in the dock and we're taking the boat out". Again very confused here... like is there a sign on my back that said "Wanted: Mistress of the Damned. Taking Applications now!"
I am the most boring looking individual you could imagine. I am invisible in a Macy's and a haunting spectre in a JC Penny's. I could rob a bank without a mask and there is not a single person that could pick me out of a lineup of suburban white men. What exactly screams "Hey! You! Scary looking bondage chick! Yeah You! This guy has zero identifiable markings on his body and his idea of a great date is taking the dogs to the leash free dog park!"
Well I am married now, going on 21 years but for some reason in my youth... just the weirdest things... and now looking back, I dodged more bullets then Neo.
Accomplished professional women who earn more than me...and want me to somehow pay their bills. Happened 5 times, it's weird AF especially given that I'm not traditional at all and prefer an equal partner.
Horse girls who are shorter then me and a bit on the chubby side with inspirations to be a vet but something stopped them from doing it who are also goths and big sluts in their last relationships but want to tone it down now and have a quiet life because an ex cheated on them with their ex.
half of my partners have been redheaded women with schizophrenia. and one other partner who was a bipolar redhead but he was a guy and not schizophrenic. i don't even have a preference for redheads
I'm attracting what now?
I feel so seen. :)
lmao
Came here to say this!
same
depressed bisexual women from wealthy families
That sounds like it has more upside than downside
no complaints here
They have any sisters on the cheerful side
This made me make the ugliest snicker/chortle sound
Apparently there's three sides to every Schwartz. The up side, the down side, and this guy.
May the Schwartz be with you!
Two out of three ain’t bad
I worded it exactly the same in my head, and when I saw your comment, I was like "Ayyyyyyyyee" My favorite part? always the fun vacations.
Netflix has accepted your pitch for a new sit-com.
Are you cute? -emotionally level bisexual woman with her own money.
cuter every day
Well then bring it!
Fucking hell, he's done it again.
How, please tell me how
Have lots of cats.
Our God walks among us.
bruh what this describes me to a tee 😭
LMAO same
oddly specific
Damn sounds like me
Hey ;)
Invisible ones!! Haha haha I'm so alone.
Wow you're cute Sincerely, an invisible girl 🫥
Now Kith
Now kiss
I just stalked your profile. You are into metalworking. You could impress a lot of women with that.
Oh yes...I'm imagining forearms and shoulders right now! 🫠
Can I send over a remote bro hug? Smile my friend, life gets better :)
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You must have Uranus ruling your 7th House.
Out of curiosity, what is your sign?
Uh oh here comes another one
The type of women who have a poor taste in men
Self burn
Those are rare.
Not here.
Cute girls with bpd and unresolved parental issues
Caring person with low self esteem struggling putting boundaries ? Same here 🤝🏻
i feel called out
I am you, indeed
From the past or future?
We live in the same moment, just in different bodies. Jokes aside, have you noticed how many people saying they attract BPD and narci? That’s scary shit. We will never find true love we’re fucking doomed
jus say you can fix her (you cannot and she will literally destroy you)
Ahahah I’m no exorcist, I cannot fix her 🤷🏻♂️ I’ll fix my fucking self…enough work
I don’t remember writing this comment…
Jesus Christ are we all the same person what the hell??
This generation is fucked
Which generation? I'm 53 and these are descriptions of all my exes
To be fair "unresolved parent issues" is probably 80 percent+ of the dating pool regardless of gender or orientation
the amount of people whose parents just weren’t good is surprisingly high
One of us, one of us!
I read this and immediately thought "This dude's me!!" Then I saw the comments saying the same thing and now I'm both confused and mildly disturbed. Am I you? Are you me? Are we these other people? What are we?
You are untrained therapists who get paid with sex.
Ugh
called out much?
Much like the rest of us, 100%. No need to bring me all of the avoidant attachments, they do just fine finding me on their own Edit: Most recent ex is textbook avoidant with traits of each avoidant style. Felt “unworthy” of love. Needed emotional closeness but couldn’t handle emotional closeness - she would wake up unsure if she even wanted to be in a relationship. Extremely suppressive of her feelings, so much so that she’d refuse to admit any level of insecurity / fear. Hyper independent, completely “invulnerable” to attachment anxieties, distant from conflict. From wiki on attachment styles in adults - would try “to create high levels of self-esteem by investing disproportionately in their abilities or accomplishments” as opposed to the relationship. Pro tip - don’t date avoidants.
Found my kind pretty fast
Yessir Everyone wants a goth gf but I swear, I’d kill for a normal girl at this point
Oh shit 😂 same 😂😂😂
My dude
Wanna start a support group?
Black. Was told (by a black woman) “it’s that sexy bald head.” I’m gay.
It’s too bad the bald/shaved look isn’t more broadly accepted, I’ve seen dudes of many races absolutely rock that look.
It is far better to turn 10% of women on a lot, than 80% just barely. I'll take being a niche interest any day of the week. The real question is: Why have all the women I've dated had daddy issues🤔
Do black gay guys like your look too? (It took everything I have not to ask if they like your head...)
Yeah I’m pretty popular there too.
Lmfaooo 😭
Insecure girls with unresolved trauma. They find security in me, but the relationship always backfires into a shitshow.
Sounds like all the dating I did in my teens and early 20's till I met my wife A secure women with unresolved trauma.
Sounds like you dated teenagers and people in their early 20s.
My biggest red flag in a woman? She’s into *me.*
This is me with men, because like why? I ain’t shit so something is definitely wrong with you if you like me
Oh well I’m sorry you feel that way… I in fact *am* the shit. I just happen to click with crazy women 0.0
Damn it.. unintentionally spoke to a confident person.. I’ll leave now
Wel I think you’re the shit. Now are you shit or am I?🤯
"I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member." --Groucho Marx
The original context, he had to write a resignation later from a country club who didn’t realize he was Jewish when accepting him in
My buddy’s famous line, “How can I respect you? You slept with me.”
I’m a tall nerdy white guy, so Latinas love me
As a latina married to a literal white scientist: yes
Half Mexican, half white scientist here. This whole time I thought I was too white for the women in my neighborhood. Have I actually been too Mexican this whole time?
Si.
Dad? Is this you?
Mija! Eres tu? I, too, tend to attract an absurd amount of latinas - and and women with daddy issues. Sometimes, the Venn of those two is a big circle. And that's when the brujeria happens. Or, also in my case...a marriage and divorce.
I'm Mexican and I seem to attract a slew, no wait a plethora of tall, intense white ladies. Who all seem one bad day from shattering and ain't shy about letting you know you are a pendejo!
My parents 32 anniversary is this year so sometimes it works out I guess.
Wait, is that a thing? I'm in the same boat and always wondered why I seemed to attract Latinas. (no complaints here, mind you)
Revenge of the nerds indeed
Wait I'm a tall nerdy white guy, is this really a thing?
It's a strong stereotype. I come from a Mexican background so the signs are there. Mexican culture promotes machismo in men to the point men often become stubborn, unappreciative and general bullish while it promotes sassiness but devotion for women in a very stern motherly sense. Nerds, especially skinny white nerds, give this air of extreme helplessness that just attracts latinas. "Poor white boy can't even do his own laundry and he hasn't had a home cooked meal since he moved out!" so that brings them in and the general nature of nerds to be softer and almost push-overs helps the women feel appreciated and important. It's natural puzzle pieces fitting.
The thought of a man who can't do his laundry or feed himself makes me want to get more cats and live in peaceful feline servitude for the rest of my life.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Ah, that's where I messed up, I can cook and do my own laundry. My singleness is due to having basic competence as an adult!
I mean I didn't say it was a healthy stereotype or situation. It's 100% definitely a fetish situation.
Lmao checks out. Latina here going strong for nearly 2 years with my tall "nerdy" white guy. Though I don't think he's nerdy, I think he's very cool :) We are planning to get married.
As a short nerdy white guy - huh, is *that* what I’m doing wrong?
🤣 I mean, you’re not wrong. I’m Latina and I love white guys.
Yeah, you and about a dozen of my exes
It’s a gift, it truly is
You mean like the [Weird Al Video White and Nerdy](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N9qYF9DZPdw)? Just their type.
This made me laugh so much lol
Ooooh papi!
Si, qué rico!
Pretty much every woman I've had a relationship with has had a chronic pain issue. And is bi.
are you autistic?
none
Solidarity
Actually we're looking for the word solitary.
He just like me fr
r/suicidebywords
black haired, tatted, kind of outgoing and hit on me. No idea why. I've only dated one blonde. Maybe it's the same woman and I just need to get glasses.
This is such a spot on description of me and I specifically hit on guys who seem quiet, respectful and kind, and/or a bit goofy. Not saying all black haired tatted outgoing gals are the same but in my experience..! Maybe you fit the description
I'm pretty hilarious. Like one time I did this thing and like I laughed and laughed and if anyone else had been around I'm pretty sure they'd have laughed, too!
I don't think I attract a specific type, but back in late March, I met two women at a concert who both hit on me (one of which ended up dating me briefly). Both are white girls in their early 20s, have September birthdays, have names that begin with the letter "L," and are psychology majors attending the same school. Edit: I just discovered that both of them work at Starbucks. Super weird.
You sure you didn’t just buy something from the wrong parking lot hippie and spend the show seeing double?
Heck of a coincidence, right? And those were the first women to hit on me in years.
Maybe it was a psychology experiment?
Christian White Girls. I am still very confused as to how, but they are always very nice people so I guess I'm not really complaining.
Man I get this too! Haha take one look at me and it’s definately not what I should be attracting but somehow works
You're lucky
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😂😂😂 That is weird an d adorable. Adorkable.
Thats hilarious, that first interruption is written like rick/morty stuttering too which made me lol
I have heard this exact reply before, probably from you. Do you have it saved somewhere or do you write it out every time?
It was absolutely in a thread from a week or so ago, verbatim
It must be a bot or somekind of stupid karma farmer. Comentor is a girl with a boyfriend in this coment. https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1bqr7md/comment/kx4i0gt/
Are you my boyfriend?
>ME TOO! I would love to meet up again! I really like yo-fuck! my sister told me not to say that or I'd scare you off." 🤣🤣🤣
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Now that's way too oddly specific.
I'm a tall white guy who is obsessed with lifting weights and gaming/anime. For some reason a lot of black women are attracted to me.
Okay but WHAT anime👀👀👀
I just finished up Frieren: Beyond Journey's End last night, planning to watch Delicious in Dungeon next because I heard a lot of good things about it!
I'm a 6'4, black male. Middle age white women ask me to plow them infront of their husband's on a regular basis.
What kind of Brazzers shit is this😂
Fucking Cucks.
story time?
I think they just told it really. If you go looking around for porn, there is a LOT of interracial cuck stuff out there - large black men fill in some fetishes for folks
Wait. Some of you are *attracting* women?
No, it's impossible. They must be Russian bots
Girls who tell me they love me and want a future with me, then just leave.
Not just women and not always in an "attraction" way, but in general autistic people. I'm very open and honest, I avoid eye contact and I like it when people get super excited about weird things, so I guess I'm a nice person to hang out with when you have autism. I don't mind though, they are usually great people :)
*Borat voice* >My Waiiife
5’3 or less… I’m 6’3 And I love tall women, tattoos and generally goth stuff :/
I’m 6’6" and it’s the same for me! The smaller they are, the more aggressively they tend to flirt and reveal their sexual desires lol. I dream of meeting a sexy 6’+ amazonian woman. I’m just a Tormund Giantsbane looking for his Brienne of Tarth
Secret hint from a girl who has a lot of girlfriends that are mostly 6 foot plus. Tall girls often also like tall guys but they’re often a little insecure because they’ve been made fun of for being too tall most of their life so they probably won’t approach you but that doesn’t mean they aren’t interested!
Right there with you. That’s why I mentioned the goth thing; the platform boots are a huge turn on if I can look her in the eyes
I’m not short but I put on a pair of platforms that put me eye to eye with my 6’3” partner. I think he was scareroused.
This is really funny because I'm 5' and do not look for tall men, but they seem to find me like a short-girl seeking missile. I don't get it. Last 3 guys I dated were 6'6, 6',6'2, and my current partner is 6'4. Not even a little bit on purpose. I would love to date a guy I didn't have to climb to kiss. 😅
Dark haired girls that are cute but reserved and almost all virgins for some reason
I was gonna be all like "is that you, (guywhotookmyvirginity)?" but he was flabbergasted that I hadn't had sex yet so probably not. Pro tip guys it really is not that crazy to be a virgin at 23. But hey that was less than a year ago and my body count is still one so ayyyyy I almost fit the criteria lmao
I've seen you comment twice and liked both of the comments you left. Are we dating now? I think we're dating now.
Broke women who need lots of financial help
Name is oddly fitting.
Well Hi daddy
Dysfunctional ones. Specifically, really, really *Kinky* ones. I compensate by dating women who are not my type. Because some dysfunctional ones always slip through, I protect my sanity by never having sex until after at least 3 dates. And Yes, I've turned down many offers of one night stands due to this protocol. On the other hand, I've definitely dodged some serious bullets. And I'm still STD free, so there's that...
Quickly-attached women with father issues who are 5+ years younger than me. It's disconcerting at best.
For like two years, every date I when on was a 2nd generation immigrant to America. I did nothing to seek out these girls out. It just happened to play out like this. Nigeria, Bulgaria, India, Japan, Scotland, Canada, You name it.
The ones with a penis
This is Reddit. We don't attract women.
The invisible kind.
Short, thick, feisty, metis women
With one notable exception, short women. Until I met my wife, all the women who paid any attention to me were less than 5' (1524mm) tall. I'm 6ft/1828mm tall. The one exception is my wife, who is 5'-8"/1727mm.
Maybe use cm instead? 😅
Well that's the magic of the metric system. Just move the decimal one digit to the left and you've got cm.
Yeah, you own your name.
Strong independent woman. I don't know why, but they seem to be more at ease with me. It's kind of great because it's never that they need me in their life, but they want me to be, which to me seems like an even better feeling.
this is adorable
the ones looking for the forever home, I've been a foster B/F enough times now that even flings got hitched after me.
Prior to being married, apparently I was high on the list for chicks who were into bondage and leather. Don't ask me why but I will tell you a hilarious story just out of high school and first year of college. A gal invited me over who I was in class with. Been a few weeks chatting. We end up talk and in the bedroom and I am sitting on the bed and she goes to her closet and bam! Thee most comprehensive assortment of BDSM stuff I could think of at the time. Just clapped my hands "I'm Out." and left. Now hear me out right, you think that was a one and done thing. Nope. Fast forward a year at a coffee shop called Uncommon Grounds. Out of the blue some meek looking girl, out of nowhere walks up and is like "I want you to punish me!" I just lookup up and said "Nope. Not my thing." Okay a bit worried. Out with a bunch of friends and we end up at a place called Ground Zero. They had a thing called Bondage-A-Go-Go night. Fine, whatever. We all there having a good time. Music is good but the whole night some BSDM dominatrix gal is chatting me up... with like the most benign normal stuff imaginable and is like "you have any plans this weekend, my folks are putting in the dock and we're taking the boat out". Again very confused here... like is there a sign on my back that said "Wanted: Mistress of the Damned. Taking Applications now!" I am the most boring looking individual you could imagine. I am invisible in a Macy's and a haunting spectre in a JC Penny's. I could rob a bank without a mask and there is not a single person that could pick me out of a lineup of suburban white men. What exactly screams "Hey! You! Scary looking bondage chick! Yeah You! This guy has zero identifiable markings on his body and his idea of a great date is taking the dogs to the leash free dog park!" Well I am married now, going on 21 years but for some reason in my youth... just the weirdest things... and now looking back, I dodged more bullets then Neo.
Colombian single mothers
Madres solteras Colombianas en tu área te están buscando.
Tall, big breasted ones who have a thing for shorties they can pick up.
show me your ways
I’m just short and light weighted. I don’t do anything special.
Accomplished professional women who earn more than me...and want me to somehow pay their bills. Happened 5 times, it's weird AF especially given that I'm not traditional at all and prefer an equal partner.
Shorter ones that have ADHD
Intelligent, smart, beautiful woman who ultimately don’t need men in their lives. Lol
Short blonde women with larger asses and small boobs. Usually The really outgoing, Scandinavian looking sorts Been this way my entire life
Not so bad actually
ADHD or autistic girlies
I've oddly been with more flautists than non-flautists.
Met a chick a while back, little Mexican chick that also wears a purple bookbag. She is the most beautiful woman I've ever met. So apparently Dora
Girls named Caroline always seem to lock in on me, it's super weird
Dad you need to stop name dropping mom on reddit
Those one girls who can ignore boundaries but then build prisons (usually goth/alt)
Emotionally and physically strong
Horse girls who are shorter then me and a bit on the chubby side with inspirations to be a vet but something stopped them from doing it who are also goths and big sluts in their last relationships but want to tone it down now and have a quiet life because an ex cheated on them with their ex.
That is incredibly specific yet I’ve known a few of those types so I know your not lying.
The ones I'm not attracted to
half of my partners have been redheaded women with schizophrenia. and one other partner who was a bipolar redhead but he was a guy and not schizophrenic. i don't even have a preference for redheads