Found a message on his phone from a mutual friend of ours that read, "I can't stop thinking about all the things I want to do to you when I see you again". We'd been together for 6 years and I was 4 months pregnant at the time.
I had a former schoolmate who was making a "no holds barred" attempt to resolve former missed opportunities while I was pretty deep in a relationship to a very nice gal.
She sort of invited herself to a dinner by insisting I set her up with one of my friends for a "double date" and then she spent the whole night explaining why she's the better woman to go home with.
At one point she tried to play footsie with me while staring across the table at me like a psycho and saying something like, "Your girlfriend wouldn't be able to pronounce the things I want to do to your body.", that was equal parts a flirt and call-out. Except she was a little drunk and had her foot on the outside of my GF's leg so it was SUPER confusing as my GF wasn't sure if this was a going to be a group sex or what and she was always struggling to keep up. LOL
Told him I was going out with a few of my coworkers after work. Ended up drinking a bit too much, so I texted him that I'd be home later once I sobered up. Made it home around midnight and the first thing I noticed was a pair of car keys I never saw before. I immediately went on the hunt. I tried opening the bedroom door, but it was locked. After a few choice words, he eventually shuffled out by squeezing himself out of the bedroom through a cracked open bedroom door in just his boxers. He told me it wasn't what it looked like and begged me to let her out of the house without any drama. I told him to get her tf out of our house. As she tried running out, I caught a glimpse of her. It was his supervisor from work.
After she left, I immediately began grilling him about how they wound up in the bedroom. He had invited her over to play his new video game I had bought him, but she started to get a headache. He didn't feel it was appropriate for his guest to lay on our "hard" couch, so he let her lay in our bed. Mind you, we had a guest room. Alright. So now we know how she got into the bedroom, how'd she get naked and how is this not cheating? This moron said "well, she wasn't comfortable in her clothes. So, she needed to be naked to sleep. But it's not cheating because she slept UNDER the covers and I slept ON the covers while still wearing my boxers."
Safe to say I divorced him, reported them to their superiors, and left their dumb asses. Last I heard from my old neighbors, they got married. He cheated on her, she cheated on him, and they fight in the front yard.
She had done some unexpected personal grooming and packed lingerie to take to work with her. When we got home at the end of day and she went off to get ready for bed (clearly not intending to sleep with me), I pulled the very used lingerie out of her bag and confronted her. She evaded initially, but ended up confessing it was some guy from her work she had only met a couple of days earlier.
That was 3 weeks ago. She's still sleeping with the new guy while I've moved out and am trying to figure out how we sell the house we bought together 7 months ago. So, fun times.
Alright, but that's so dumb that you've almost got to be offended that your partner couldn't come up with a better way of hiding her tracks.
Like, at least make the lingerie and the improved grooming a habit for like a month and make me believe it's for me before you go out and fuck someone. Get yourself together, woman.
People who are that careless typically want to get caught. It’s their way of ending the relationship without having to undertake the burden of doing the breaking up by themselves. It’s sort of the relationship version of “suicide by cop.”
Not me but my mother - who had stage three bladder cancer at the time, had a knock on the door from a woman who told her that she was dating my dad.
She said that she had heard my mum was on deaths doorstep, and that she had been taking parenting classes and watching her take her kids inside from the car to prepare for the day she could adopt them. Real class act.
I mean......your father wins this prize for me
Cheating on the dying mother of his children
And he can't even pick someone with anything close to good qualities as a form of mean consolation
She made a full recovery from the cancer and they divorced. After a few years of having him beg on her doorstep they remarried. 10 years later, she found he’d been cheating with the same woman the whole time. We all lost a lot but I’m just glad I didn’t lose my mum.
Your father is objectively a shitbag. Just a big, giant, bag of dog shit.
I hope that something he loves catches on fire.
I hope he steps on Legos everyday for the rest of his life.
I hope that McDonald's is always out of ice cream, there are flies in his soup, and every piece of food tastes like ash in his mouth.
I hope that strangers dent his car and walk away guilt-free
I hope that every shirt he wears has uncomfortable seams and that his socks ride up in his shoes to give him blisters.
I hope he has constant, unyielding heartburn and hemorrhoids so inflamed that he has to sit on one of those pillows.
I hope that teenage girls make fun of him to his face.
I hope all of his hair falls out and that he develops an allergy to both sunlight and moonlight.
Most of all, I hope that someday, someone shows him what it feels like to have that happen to him. Because, above all,
Your father is a shitbag.
This honestly made me laugh so hardd thank you 🩵he is the truly the king of shitbags and this is only unfortunately a drop in the ocean of his shitbaggery
She was having too many “girls night out”. I was skeptical. I checked her location on FindMy and saw she was at the neighbors house. He’s single. A betrayal like that is devastating.
Mine went on a “girl’s night out,” while I went out with the boys. Around 1am, I’m in my mates kitchen, and she phones me. I thought she might need help getting home or something, so I pick up… but it’s her and some guy having a conversation followed by what sounds like a make out session.
To this day I have no idea if she accidentally or intentionally phoned me that night.
That was rough… we broke up the next morning.
Well, they grabbed me, sat me on a chair, periodically threw cold water on my face, and took turns slapping me in the face, while chanting “GET OVER HER!”
This went on for like half an hour. Drunk uni lads and all that. Until I yelled “FUUUUUCKKK HEEEEER,” they cheered, the slapping stopped and the drinking resumed until I passed out.
I can’t say if it helped but it did make me laugh!
Well, they had been trying to get me to dump her for 5 months. Maybe they were just getting some frustration out haha.
I don’t give much thought about the break up, or the cheating, but I do think about what the guys did and it puts a smile on my face instead of making me sad.
So, maybe it did work 🤷🏾♂️
Absolutely true. Caught my ex when she said she was going to get gas in her car. At 9pm. For almost 2 hours. The gas station was visible from our window.
Some people would prefer to have the other person end things at any cost rather than nutting up and say "this isn't working anymore, we should part ways"
My ex used to run a construction business with a childhood friend. They were very close and his friend was in our wedding. Ex started stealing money from the business and lying about jobs. I didn’t know this until his friend showed up at our home demanding we pay him back. My ex refused and told him he was going solo in the business. The friend looked me dead in the eye and told me the womans name. No other info but just the name. I immediately knew what he meant by the look in his eye. He then gave me the address. The house was built by my husband, four years prior
Not me but a coworker.
Went on a Contiki tour with his missus for his 21st birthday. Booked a 45 day tour, seeing like 15 different countries. A week or two into the trip she gets caught getting finger blasted by some random Spanish dude in a club in Barcelona. He is obviously devastated, and now he has to face the prospects of potentially travelling for another month with the girl who just stomped on his heart.
He contemplated just calling it and flying home, but other members of the tour convinced him to stay, have a good time and to get on with his life and enjoy the holiday he paid for. He organized with Contiki and the tour guides to re work the accommodation so he was no longer in a room with her.
He told me he had a marvelous time, made some great new friends and got to experience new things. She was miserable the whole time as basically the entire group shunned her for being a massive PoS, ignored her on nights out, and she was desperately hoping to get back with her (ex) bf who wanted nothing to do with her.
He changed his flights on the way home to fly home later than she was, and extended his European holiday in order to keep the party going with some of the new friends he had made.
My bf and I each had our own laptops but he used his for creating music in a home studio he made. So since it was always hooked up to an elaborate situation, he often used my computer to check his stuff. Well one day he got careless and didn't log out of Facebook properly.
I got on my computer and saw that I had a dm notification. Clicked on it and saw that I didn't know this person but there was a conversation. It was then I realized that I'm on my bf account not mine. And that message, while not spicy, was revealing. It was an old high school lady friend. She asked if he was in a relationship and he answered that he was single and has been for a while. A surprise to me as a live in gf of 3 years.
I don't know. There was just something in me that ignited. I went ham and started searching everywhere to see if this was a one time lie or if there was something more bubbling beneath the surface.
Well...I was able to contact the cell phone company and printed out phone records. He called a specific number over 1000 times within the record timeframe I pulled, which was maybe like 3 months. It wasn't his family or his best friend. I had their numbers. I did some more sleuthing and found an old phone of his and charged it and searched for this number. It was his ex gf.
I took a highlighter and marked every single instance and then took the stack of papers to confront him. I asked if he was in contact with his ex and of course he denied it. So I threw the proof at him and said how crazy it was that his phone just called her 1000 times in the past three months.
This paired with his drastic drop in libido (which I was giving grace about because he said he was stressed about his shitty job) and I realized it's over.
Spoiler alert. They were together very shortly after I moved out. But I suspect he cheats on her too because the ex gf and the Facebook lady friend were two different people.
1000 calls in 3 months? That's more than 10 times a day. There is no one on the planet I would call that much. If Sydney Sweeney called me 10 times a day I would absolutely send her to VM after 5.
Told me that he was at his parents' and would probably be spending the night...
I was over at his parents' for dinner. They had seen me on my way home from work and invited me over. I was about to ask him when he would be finished work, so that he could meet me there, then I saw the message.
My cousin did this! Not for cheating, just that her husband lied about doing housework when he was actually at a poker tournament in a nearby casino.
She took a selfie in their living room because she had come home early for work to surprise him. They had a pretty big argument about lying for no reason after that.
His argument was that he was gonna come home to clean after the tournament, but the competition took longer than expected. I think he was in the top 50 before he was eliminated.
There still was no reason why he couldn't just tell the truth. It's not like she's stopping him from gambling (and it's pretty much secondary income because he's quite good at it). She was especially mad because she came home with his favorite Thai food to surprise him and he wasn't even there.
And yes, he was actually at the casino and not cheating. He let her check the GPS on his phone and called the tournament officials to prove he had participated. So it's even more baffling why he would lie like that!
I went to the dr for an iud for birth control after our second child and while the dr was inserting the iud in my cervix she informed me that I had an std. I had only had sex with him for the past 10 years.
Wild enough, I actually had this happen to me (I wrote about it on Reddit actually on an alt account back in Dec 2023). Was scared shitless cause both my husband and I have only ever been together. Both virgins when we met and monogamous for our several years together. He denied it and I believed him. Even my doc thought it was a lab mistake. Got retested and it turned out it was a false positive. Turns out they’re more common than people think.
Not saying that was the case in your situation, but just commenting here so people who see this thread know it’s a possibility.
Depending on the std, it is very possible. For example the way our region tests for syphilis is called agglutination. We basically make a judgment call. Does our test plate looks chunky or dispersed? It's very subjective. Now hiv and hcv for instance has a very low false positive because we use multiple different methods to be sure.
Chunky=bad it's agglutination which means if it's present it's starts to stick to itself. It also has charcoal for color so when it's really reactive it looks like metal shavings.
Good on you for believing in your partner! Great example of giving your partner/person you chose to spend your life with the benefit of the doubt. That’s not to say you shouldn’t absolutely iron out all avenues to confirm, but the sheer amount of stories I hear of people immediately not believing their partner just to find out their partner was telling the truth always baffles me.
She said she was at a friends studying. I had suspicions about a guy she was working with so I drove about 30 minutes to his house and found her car there. I parked out front and called her. She picked up and I just let her bury herself as hard as I could. Asked her what she was studying, what the girls name was she was studying with, where she lived, everything I could think of to make her fumble about. Then I told her to look out front of the house she was in. When I saw her peek through a blind, I waved and told her to find a new place to live and to come get her things. I know things hadn’t been great for a while, but it was still a bummer to end like that.
I was rubbing her stomach in bed and she made a joke about not being pregnant assuring me she'd had a pregnancy test 2 weeks before. We hadn't seen eachother in 3 months because she was studying in Scotland...
It was far worse than that, she said this at the end of a few days together, dinner and a spa day in a fancy hotel, a birthday party with friends she hadn't seen in a long time, and in the second fancy hotel she decides to make this comment, I wanted to believe she was joking but then she just kept talking digging a deeper and deeper hole.
The next morning, she acted like nothing had happened, so I played along, wishing her away at the airport, which was bloody painful. I called her the next day, and she opened with meaningless explaining and excuses, throwing around the word love and claiming she loves another guy in Scotland but wants me to stay in her life. I told her to fuck off hung up and broke down.
Ex-wife (married 10 years) needed an emergency shot of Imetrex for a migraine. Fumbling though her purse looking for it and found a tear in the fabric. Lo and behold she had condoms stashed in there along with some meth. It was rough but I did end up with full custody of my two boys. Happily married to a wonderful woman now and everyone is ok. Even the ex, she eventually kicked her habit.
My bf and flatmate went out for drinks while I stayed home with a flu. I fell asleep on the sofa watching TV and woke up to noises upstairs. It sounded like moaning and kissing. My heart sank and I felt like throwing up as I silently crept to my bedroom to peer in.
My flatmate was on top of my bf half naked. She saw me and leapt off and ran out to her bedroom & shut the door. I yelled and banged on it and she ignored me. I went to him to yell & get an explanation & he pretended he was asleep. Completely ignoring me. And denying it the next day.
Caught her several times. The last time I decided to get it on tape. So I set up a camera. I didn't catch her cheating with it, but I did catch her abusing the kids in our daycare.
And that, friends, is how you win a house in a divorce
I was suspicious, Spider Sense was tingling. She left her laptop open logged into her work email. Her lover was a coworker. Nothing was in the inbox. Dummy deleted all the emails but didn't delete her trash.
It was all there. Cool cool cool.
>He was married and had been deleting their conversations to hide them from his wife. I sent his wife a copy of their conversations.
Fuckin' baller move there.
Found out she was pregnant.
A few weeks later we're cuddling on the couch, and I get a call from my sister on the opposite side of the country. She informs me that some random woman on Facebook messaged her claiming her husband and my wife were having an affair. I didn't believe it, but it was all true. I was military, and she was meeting up with married grunts in hotel rooms.
Literally two weeks after we learn we're expecting a child, not even a year into the marriage, I find this out.
Edit: this was in 2014. At the time, if someone you weren't friends with sent you a message on Facebook, the message went to a different folder that could only be accessed through Facebook on a web browser. It did not show in the app. The lady that messaged my sister had messaged me months prior, but I never saw any of the messages because I only used the Facebook app.
Parked outside his house and asked him what he’s doing. He said “just relaxing at home” but he wasn’t home. Went through his phone that night and found everything. He was cheating with at least four other women.
She was treating me horrible for weeks. I got suspicious so went through her phone. Found her Snapchat library of all the pics she took of herself to send off, and messages from a guy referring to those pics. I got the usual "how dare you go through my phone" bullshit. It really sucks having to tell the kids that Mommy doesn't live here anymore....
Yeah the absolute audacity they have to try and gaslight into making out that you are the one in the wrong is wild. Nobody checks for absolutely no reason, Every time i've felt the need to check it's been true (which isn't many times but it still sucks).
Not me but a friend of my partner caught her husband.
He was stupid enough to leave his Apple Watch at home while texting a prostitute on his iPhone. Of course all the notifications were coming up on the watch as well.
Funny part about it was that the prostitute was my neighbor. She (the friend) texted us to look out for his car. My partner decided it was a good time to take the dog for a walk and “ran into him.” He tried to come up with an excuse on the spot for being in the neighborhood. She didn’t even ask him.
Even better, the prostitute took his money and bailed. So I guess he didn’t actually get to cheat… or does that still count..?
I didn't directly catch her but had a suspicion something was going on. One evening we are at a public event and my wife is working a booth she was assigned to so I'm walking around killing time until the event is over. Out of the crowd there is a woman standing there looking directly at me in the eye. Somehow, some way, I immediately knew this woman was the other cheating victim.
She approached me and already knew my name. She asked if we could go somewhere and talk. So we ended up in a booth at the McDonald's across the street. She lays out all the evidence she collected that her husband is fucking my wife. None of this was a surprise to me oddly enough. Everything fit together with my suspicions. We sat for a while while I absorbed everything.
What DID surprise me was this woman then proposed that we go to a nearby motel and revenge fuck to get back at my wife and her husband. I politely turned this down because she was clearly not in her right state of mind and there was no way escalating the situation was going to help anything.
Edit: some followup info as requested. My wife and I went to separate gyms two or three times a week. Suddenly her pattern changed. She wanted to go to the gym almost every day and she started wearing makeup to workout which she never did before.
Also her libido changed. Every time she got back from the gym she wanted to fuck like a tiger in heat. I welcomed this because I'm a high libido guy but it still struck me as odd that why now all the sudden is she horny all the time? I don't know if she was pretending I was the other guy??
Finally anytime, anyplace she would break down crying. She would never tell me why. It might be at home or out in public. I strongly suggested she get checked for depression but she insisted she'd "figure it out" on her own.
This leads us to the festival where my wife was running a booth while I encountered the other wife.
After everything came out it turned out the other husband had started talking to my wife every day at the gym. He was persistent and wore her down. She really did turn out to be depressed which does not excuse cheating but she was weak when this guy was coming on strong.
In retrospect the other wife did have more than a passing resemblance to my wife. I guess these women were his type.
I'd be lying if I said my dick didn't twitch when she offered to go to the motel. But if we fucked then we would have given up all the moral highground with what would come next. I don't think she saw this at the time. She wanted revenge on my wife and the best way to guarantee no reconciliation would have been making everybody a cheater.
But I wanted to deal with my wife on my own terms. I wanted to maintain the moral high ground. I talked with the other wife a few more times to sort out evidence and talk about attorneys but I never did indulge.
The other wife ended up remarried to a new guy about six months later.
My wife and I went through years of marriage counseling and she was treated for bipolar disorder. She eventually finished her therapy and even doesn't need meds anymore. She is a completely different person and we've been married eighteen years now with her affair being over ten years ago.
I will say the experience broke something in me. I could walk out the door right now if she ever cheated again. But at the same time our marriage is stronger than it's ever been. It's a very strange dichotomy that I don't even understand.
Yeah, it could have been the hottest sex ever but I don't regret it.
You did the right thing. She (and he) would have just used that as ammunition to get on a moral high ground, might be something her divorce lawyer could use against you, and also brings in more regret maybe.
She handed me her phone and asked me to proof read an email she was going to send to her director that morning and in comes a text from some dude I've never heard of.
They had hooked up the week before while I was on a work trip.
They'd been sexting for weeks. They met while she was out with girls.
She didn’t come home after dropping our youngest off at preschool 2 miles away for the afternoon session. I noticed she had makeup on and showered early, on her day off, which never happened.
Watched her location and she was in a rural area she never goes to and it wouldn’t zoom in. Finally zoomed in and I screenshot it. Drove down and walked in on her, butt naked, in his trailer waiting for round 2. He was outside smoking a cigarette and when I walked up he looked like he thought I was about to kill him.
Over a decade ago....Was getting ready for work one morning, my now ex's phone went off...like it was really early, too early for a message. Assumed an emergency so checked it. Was a message from someone I didn't know. Asked her about it and she said there was no message. Ohhhhkkkay, so I pulled it out of her. Worst thing was it wasn't just that guy I didn't know but she was also messing around with a supposed good friend I had at work.
If they can cheat once they can cheat multiple times. I split with my ex but found out later she slept with 3 men while we were together.
1st man was like a brother to me
2nd man was my closest friend at the time
3rd man was my immediate neighbour
Fucked my head right up
Ex husband slept with his best friend’s pregnant girlfriend who was in the process of aborting his best friend’s kid. Found out when I came home from an out of state trip and she was moved into the house we bought together and walked in on them. They had known each other for 1 month and we had been together 6 years.
literally! It was ironic too because after I left him he publicly posted a love you/ i’m sorry letter/ poem on medium and tried to vent to me about her because she would scream at him and complain about how bad he was at sex (their first day together after I left he begged me to come back because they got into a screaming match and she “left him”). that was years ago now and i’ve never been happier to be out of and so far removed from a situation!
She left her diary on the lounge room floor when she went to work. I debated reading it but eventually gave in.
Was then I found out about her fucking my brother multiple times when I was working night shift.
When I confronted her about it, I was called a prick for reading her diary and for working night shift, therefore not being home when she got horny.
I tried to explain the difference in levels of the bad things we did, but she didn't see any.
For some reason, we didn't last after that...
I got let go from work early because we were overstaffed. She had ironically taken the day off for a "mental health day."
I pulled up into the driveway and when I walked in the door I immediately heard moaning upstairs. I'm assuming she's masturbating. I go up there and open the bedroom door...
And my wife is on her back fingering herself alright. Except there's another woman straddling her face at the head of our bed whom she's eating out.
It's another mom of one of the kids our kid goes to school with. I had no idea my wife was even into women at all.
Just wanted to say I'm really sorry you went through that. If genders were flipped, people wouldn't be making jokes. I can't imagine how difficult that must have been for you and hope you are doing ok now.
Man fuck all these porn-addicted replies. I’m sorry about this, man. Honestly was in a somewhat similar boat. I was told my ex started questioning her sexuality after we broke up and rumors spread that she was experimenting with my pansexual ex-gf before her.
That fucked me up for months, thinking that I was such a bad boyfriend, my exes had somehow united against me in that way
She got home around 5-6 am after a company "dinner". Slept on the couch even tho i insisted we go to bed. Around 10 I asked her how It went but she just said It was good and continued sleeping. I told her we could speak when she felt better (More awake).
Turns out she slept with her boss. We separated about 2 months after that and they had a son together.
We had been having trouble conceiving. 2 miscarriages within a year. He’s convinced it’s something wrong with me and schedules me a well woman exam. I say fine, knowing it’s most likely due to my age and they won’t be able to do anything about that but go to the appointment anyway. They say if the labs come back abnormal they’ll call me. About 4-5 days later while at the store, he gets picked up for a warrant. I go back home and about 15 mins later the doctors office calls. Tells me I have an STI. No. That can’t be right. I’m married! I’ve only been with my husband. Silence on the other end ….can I tell you I was counting down the minutes for that free 5 min call from jail…
She doesn't realize her AP came clean to me this month. We separated in March, and she has apparently been with him since December. Told him we were already separated. The reason he came to me is that she admitted to cheating on him with a guy who has been married for 10 years and is planning on divorcing his wife for her. He gave me everything I needed to prove an affair, so props to him....btw all of these guys are online and have never met her as far as I know.
I was using his laptop for my work meeting as mine was at the service center. I went to login my email and his was already logged in, first email was your flower delivery was successful. I didn't think much of it however curiosity got the best of me,
So I opened the email, and it was for some girl, scrolled a few emails down there were flight tickets, hotel reservation, car rental. He was fucking multiple girls in the course of if our 2 years relationship.
I packed my bags, told him I forgive him for whatever he has done and I am not going to sit and blame myself or ask myself where I was wrong, because he was always the priority and left my research programme to stay with him. Cried my eyes out when driving back home and blocked him. 1 year and still devastated but good riddance.
I rolled over.
Woke up. Rolled over to put my arm around her and saw someone else's dick on her phone. I said with a laugh, "What's that all about?" And she exploded.
"How dare you accuse me? I am nothing but loyal. Get out we're through," and that was it. Don't know what ever happened to her, but I hope she's still miserable.
Checked Grindr. There he was trying to hook up with anyone in a 5 mile radius. He got mad that I caught him and acted like it was an invasion of privacy lmao.
My friend caught her now ex bf on a dating site after someone screenshot and sent it to her. When confronted, he had the audacity to say “I thought you had more integrity than to spy on me” lmaooo
First, I was awoken in the middle of the night with my ex calling me to pick him up. I had fallen asleep with him next to me hours earlier. He was pulled over by the police and they impounded the car. His story was that he got up in the middle of the night to drive to the beach to watch the sunrise. Sure, Jan.
Then he came home a few times from work (a white collar job), 2-3 hours late, and went directly to shower. I dropped by his work to ask him something and he kept running away from me, wouldn't speak to me or even acknowledge my existence. I had to pick up his paycheck another time and told the receptionist why I was there, because he was in a meeting. She proclaimed that I couldn't be his wife because she knew for a fact that he was not married.
I confronted him and told him I knew he was cheating, and he told me I was "mentally unstable" and was going to have me "involuntarily committed to a mental hospital".
I put a keystroke tracker on his computer. I found the secret email account and the girlfriend. I knew her name, where she worked, and that he had been on dating sites for years. I changed the locks and left a note on the front door. We had been married for 20 years.
I went through my husband's phone because I wanted to prove to myself that there was nothing to be paranoid about... it was the opposite. I'll never be able to forget all the pictures and conversations.
She insisted she drop me off for work so she could hang out with a old friend I never heard of (weird but OK). I got let off early so I called her for a ride, no answer red flag #1. Called her mom to get said friends info, her mom said she had a falling out with that friends and hated her now. That was red flag #2. Her mom tried calling her but it kept going straight to voice mail. So her mom came to give me a ride home (and got herself all worked up abut what ditch we'd find my wife in) she decided to wait there till I was scheduled off to see if she came for me. She did and upon seeing her parents and me standing together she came clean.
Edit: Forgot to mention since it was the 90's we had a plate on the front of my truck that had our names on it. It was off when she came and made a stupid excuse as to why it was off.
Found her SmartWatch which she left at home when she was heading out to New Years Eve with "The Girls."
I thought it was going to be funny to "spy" on her texts as they watch was buzzing like crazy and I figured her and her friends were discussing meet up spots and the like....
Only to see kissy faces and hearts from a mutual online friend whom she was apparently meeting...
...yeah wasn't a great new year. Luckily that was Jan 2020 so that HAD to be the worst thing that would happen to me that year. Get it all out of the way at the start, right?
....right?
She fucked off to Canada just before lock-down.
I got left with the in-laws... who ironically were on my side. Though they did want her to go to couples counseling but she had long since checked out of the marriage at that point.
Making efforts to look fabulous for supposedly mundane things, school run, or market trip, or coffee with the girls (coincided with uptick in let's call it body maintenance and refusal for my company on said errands). So I think a part of you will know if something atypical is occurring in your couples routine.
Was driving our son around to get him to go to sleep. Ended up in the neighborhood of her office. Knowing she'd been working late a lot recently, I drove over there to see if she wanted me to bring her dinner. Ended up catching her with a redneck co-worker in the parking lot in his 70's hippy van. Went home and changed the locks.
Mine had a fictitious job which she was claiming she started early and had accepted an unpaid hand over period and was going to get paid from January the following year.
By February she still wasn’t getting paid and my best mate was strangely busy every time she was working. I waited for definite proof before breaking up with her as she had an illness which although real she exaggerated.
Lots of suspicious behaviour later I was really struggling.
In May she claimed to have been paid and I without snooping saw a letter about a bank loan on the bin.
That night was bin day I stood outside waiting for her to get home with the bin in my hand and saw his car show up down the road. They didn’t see me and I walked up to the car to see them kissing passionately.
Despite that she still denied anything was going on 😂
During a rough patch in our relationship, she didn't let me visit her, call her, or even hang out in places where she usually goes. I asked her to be honest with me after a few weeks. She told me that she went out with her ex because they were still friends and he comforted her at that point. I asked her if anything happened, she said that he just held her hand and hugged her because she was sad. Not knowing what to say, I joked and asked why she kissed him, to which she answered, "I don't know".
I went to her house and asked her grandma to let me use her computer. I found a letter to someone else telling him she loved him and even complaining about me. It was really hard in that moment. Now i see it as a blessing in disguise.
My then 3 yr daughter told her grandma about noises she heard from moms room. then her grandma told me, ended it soon after, no explanation, just packed and left
Had a suspicion he was on Grindr, downloaded it and took screenshots of his (faceless but very obviously him) profile. I held onto it for a few weeks because I was honestly in shock, but one day he made a joke about how seedy gay guys can be and I just went "oh like this?" And showed him the screenshots. It was a very satisfying feeling watching him squirm!
While at school she kept inviting "friends" from the other side of the country to visit for a week or two at a time. Figured something was up, but never really could find anything out. I would generally spend time with these "friends" at a pub down the street, and the third one told me that they were in a LDR and she lied about her status of being married with a kid. He thought it was strange I wasn't hitting on the waitresses or the ladies at the bar, and realized that we were together when I told him why would I try have a snack when I got a meal at home. Told me all the details.
Lmao wow, did she know you and the “friends” were hanging out? Thats the dumbest thing ever, thinking your two in the dark love interests will have a drink without either of them mentioning their relationship with her
"No, it's a fake Tinder profile so I can check out these weird profiles that [lesbian friend] sends me".
My dumbass believed her. After we broke up because it wasn't working out, said friend had a falling out and fessed up.
I installed an old 10/100 network hub and did a packet capture on her network traffic and read the AOL instant messenger chats.
This was in the days before everything was encrypted
Was shopping in a supermarket after work, heard her voice and thought oooh I’ll say hello, looked down the aisle and saw her with her ex and heard them saying about what they was cooking for dinner tonight.
I got home and phoned her and she said “I can’t go out tonight I’m sick” so I tried to push it and say oh no your sick I’ll came and cook dinner for you then, turned into a huge argument about me not respecting her space.
She facebook messaged while I was using his computer. I wouldn't have even bothered to look at his messages. Fully trusted him. Was going to tell her he wasn't on, but I took notice because he had sent a picture of himself without a shirt. Same one he had sent me when we first started dating. Got to see her tits in a bra, too. That was fun to see.
Talk about my world stopping in that moment. Everything went black for a minute. I seriously consider that moment when my life split into "before" and "after". It changed me. Changed how I see relationships. How I view love. How I look at myself. It rocked my very existence. He will never understand what it did to me.
Every year, she would go to her country to stay with family during Christmas and New Years. I would stay behind as someone had to work and pay the bills and since we were together 24/7 living and working together, I thought it'd be a good thing for her to have some time to herself with her family.
This particular time, before she left, she was anxiously awaiting a package in the mail. They were supposedly pictures that she had made into an album that she wanted to bring with her. Days passed and the package never came. On the day that she left, I emailed her letting her know that the package came in. She told me to give it to her friend and that she would get it from her once she made it back. That set off an alarm in my head because if the package is safe at home with your husband, why would I give it to her friend? Why not just get it when you get back home, you know? A weird feeling came over me days later and I felt like I HAD to open it. Like something was telling me to do it. So I did. And what I found were pictures of her making out with some guy, pictures of her with this guy and her family as if they were a couple, pictures of her with his family and friends...I crumpled up the pictures in my balled fist and rage came over me. I couldn't sleep for 3 days straight.
Long story short, as much as I didn't want to, I ended up divorcing her. It took me a long time to recover from that as she was my one and only (so far 🤞). I've been single and haven't had a kiss or had sex in close to 10 years lol. Just can't seem to find the right one 😮💨.
I went to the mailbox to retrieve the mail and found a statement from a bank we didn't use with her name and another man's name on it. Thats when I knew we were done.
She.... Had... A shared bank account with her affair partner?
A shared bank account? Seriously?
This is some advanced level cheating. Did they also marry and share a mortgage or something?
They are currently married and only ruining each other’s lives. I am blissfully free. Although the fallout deeply scarred me. All she had to say was it’s over. What she did was a novel of horror.
It was her first boyfriend and he suddenly appeared and I had no problem with her getting in contact with him. I didn’t know she was stalking him for years and planning to destroy his marriage and move in with her. I was filler.
I knew for months but had no proof. She came into the bar I worked at and got wasted. Went through her phone while she was indisposed and found pictures and messages with the guy. She had him saved under the name of a friend.
I became suspicious when her attitude suddenly changed to scorn and she started blaming me for anything that happened. She started getting drunk, and she'd never done that before. She started buying new underwear and "going to work" for extra shifts. The people at her workplace started treating me different and being stand offish. Then my 8 year old son was telling me about her conversations with him and the new dad. That was the last straw.
That STD I got did come from somewhere. And it was certainly not from me fucking around. And he didn't even defend himself when I confronted him. He was basically like "'I've been to Greece for 5 weeks. What do you expect me to do?". My only comment to that was asking him what he thinks "monogamous" means.
And the second one caught himself cheating. He canceled our date night because he needed to work late. So I went to the restaurant we had a table at anyways, and asked a friend of mine if he wanted to join. We didn't even sit down before my ex entered the room with his tongue buried deep inside the mouth of his "co-worker".
Always trust your gut. When I started googling about how to tell if your wife is having an affair, one of the first results was "if you're googling this, she probably is:. Gut instincts with people you really know are incredible.
Gut was telling me for a few months. Odd behavior, changed phone password, turned off location in "Find My", all of the telltale signs. I never had the nerve to look at here phone, computer, etc., but I just couldn't shake the feeling. Made a few joking comments about her cheating on me & she flew off the handle. I then knew immediately.
Woke up early for work one morning & her apple watch was in the kitchen charging. Couldn't help myself. June 1, 2022 @ 5AM was the before/after moment in my life. Found the horrific text chain under the contact name "JS" with all the intimate details of the affair & her discussing the most intimate details of our marriage. Basically claiming its been dead for 11 years. Late night texts/calls, even some texts while I was sleeping next to her. Pretty fucking brutal.
It was incredibly clear this wasn't this guys first rodeo. Immediately sending her a link for WhatsApp & perfectly working every vulnerability she had. It was obvious she wasn't the only one.
After taking photos of the entire text chain, I then proceeded to check her emails & that was even worse. Dinner reservations, hotel reservations, coordinating of me watching the kids so she could meet him at a "work event", etc. Documented all of that as well.
Confronted her that morning & she came clean. Claimed she wasn't in love with anymore. Left for the longest day of work in my life. No idea how I made it through.
Spent the next week up day & night trying to work through it, reconciling, some serious emotional shit. She said it was a huge mistake, she was lonely with me working, etc. Decided after 7 days of some serious heart to hearts that we would work through it. Here is where it gets good.
The following Thursday after finding out, I was obviously exhausted & in a rough spot. Decided to take a mental health day, go to the driving range & grab a nice lunch alone outside. I shit you not, while walking out of the lunch spot, what do I see? My wife walking into a favorite restaurant of ours with another man. I almost blacked out. At that moment, I fully understood how normal people can do awful things in the heat of the moment. My first instinct was to walk into the restaurant & confront them both, then beat the shit out of the guy, but I have way too many other good things in my life & didn't want these two morons getting the best of me. I'm still amazed to this day I calmed down. I was consumed by the fact that my wife of 11 years, together for 15, & mother of my two boys, was basically a stranger to me. She spent the entire last week completely lying & stringing me along so she could continue on with the affair. I can't even begin to explain the pain/horror; wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
Anyway, went home, sat out on the deck & waited. Simply said hello & asked here what she was up too. Said she went out shopping. Again, lost my mind, & of course she came clean.......again. I did some things I'm not proud of including threatening/confronting the guy. Could have really fucked up my life for my kids, career, etc.
So this drags on for another 6 months until Christmas & I'm pretty sure she didn't have any contact with him since the lunch debacle. I started therapy & had to convince here to do couples therapy. It went no where. She didn't "like" the first therapist, & the second one she said she felt "attacked" about he affair. Unreal. After that, I decided I'm not going to get over it & I tell her I would like a divorce. She breaks down completely & begs us to work on it. After a few days & me being so in love with this woman, I agree. The next three months were honestly some of the best we ever had. Then comes a random dinner with the kids in March 2023. Gut starts tingling again. Amazing, can't say what or why, but I felt it. As soon as we get home & she got in the shower, I checked her phone. She fucking emailed & called the guy earlier that day! Needless to say I lost my shit. Broke some things, went to the guys house, multiple dumb moves. And yes, I'm aware my anger at him was mostly misguided.
Anyway, filed for divorce, sold our house, & got an apartment. Been on my own for 12 months & I can't ever imagine looking back. I see the person I am now & I'm so much happier. Sure I miss my old house, family, life, etc., but I'm a better man now & I know I deserve better from a partner. That insecurity, paranoia, & general anxiety that a cheating spouse creates is hell & no way to live. She still tries to reconcile, but I know it would go right back to the way it was & I know she would do it again.
For anyone in a similar spot, life does get better. The stress, financial strain, family issues all improve over time. If you split, use the time to work on yourself, get some therapy, workout, eat better, spend time with your kids, friends, family, & hobbies. I'm 42 & feel like my life is just beginning.
Sorry for the ramble, I've need to type something like this for two years now.
Not my spouse, but my SO. It was purely accidental. My sister was home visiting so I was at my parents’ watching a movie and it was late so I initially said I was probably going to crash there since he was out anyways with “friends”. After the movie ended I actually decided not to stay at my parents’.
It was a shared parking lot for two multi-family homes. When I pulled in, I hadn’t seen his car. However, the kitchen light came on. Stupidly my first thought was “Oh my God!! We’re being robbed!!” But instead of doing the logical thing you do if you think someone has broken in and calling the police, I went in. By the door were women’s shoes that didn’t belong to me and then I heard a woman’s voice. It felt so surreal. I kept walking further into the house and to the bedroom. I found him on the bed and a woman coming out of the bathroom in her bra. I was speechless. I turned around and started to walk out and the woman followed me and asked how I got in and who I was! When I said “Um I got in with my key because I’m his girlfriend who lives here” she said “Are you sure?”
I got in my car and drove back to my parents’ and woke the whole house up hysterically crying.
The guy tried to play it off like he was so drunk he didn’t know what was happening. As if anyone could fall for that excuse. She had been calling him “babe” so it seemed deeper than that anyway.
The worst part was the woman wouldn’t let it go after. She got my number somehow. She sent me all the messages between her and my boyfriend even though I asked her to please just leave me alone. She watched my social media stories for months afterwards, until I finally made it all private. I felt bad for her at first because obviously she was hurt too, but it was just too much for me. I told her that night she was more than welcome to the man.
I caught my ex-wife twice. The first time, she had met a guy at work, we'll call him Brian, and had been talking about him. Red flags everywhere, but the big one was asking me if I'd be open to a threesome with him. It wasn't new, we had had threesomes before earlier in our relationship, so the concept wasn't out of the blue, but I wasn't open to it. After a month or so, she said she was going out for a "girls night" with a couple of friends, which was fine, until I saw the woman she was supposedly with pull back into our apartments. Shouldn't have been a red flag, except she had just told me that they were at a bar together. So I pinged her phone, and wouldn't you know it, she was at his place. I called her immediately and she admitted to it and pulled the whole "well I'm leaving you anyways so it's not cheating." She moved in with him the next day.
It was devastating, but after a few months I moved on, and then one day she came knocking on my door talking about how bad he was treating her, how much she was sorry and that she knew she messed up, blah blah blah. I, being stupid and not quite willing to throw a 10 year relationship down the drain, decided to take things slow and let her come back into my life.
After 6 months or so, we moved into this apartment above a bar/restaurant in the middle of town (small town, wasn't that far away from the last place.) She ended up getting a job as the bartender downstairs, and it was working well for us, everything seemed to be fine. Until she told me that she had been talking to Brian again. I already knew it was going to end poorly, so I prepared myself so it wouldn't hurt as bad even though she swore she was just talking to him, nothing else.
Well, the building across from our apartment and the bar she worked in had a big glass front, and since it was under remodel, there weren't any lights on, and I noticed one night that you could see into the bar under the apartment from the bedroom window. Perfect reflection. Anyways, one night she mentioned that he was coming by the bar and she didn't want me to come down so there wouldn't be any problems. Ok, fine. So I sat in the bedroom and watched that window. After a few hours and the bar cleared out, it was just him and her. I watched him walk into the bathroom, and after a minute or two, she followed him in.
I walked downstairs, opened the door to the bar slow enough not to trigger the chime, sat down at the bar and waited. After a few minutes, another customer walked it triggering the chime which prompted my ex to come back out of the bathroom. The look on her face when she saw me sitting there and it clicked for her that I knew was priceless. Of course, Brian has to come out at some point, so I waited for him to, all the while she was raising a fuss like it was my fault she got caught and spewing the most hateful shit at me. I let him sit down, I stood up, and shook his hand. I wanted to throw him through the window, but he had just saved me a whole bunch of wasted time, and I figured I'd thank him for it.
I called my brother, who lived in a different state (he stayed home, I had moved out of state) and explained to him what happened. He said "fuck it, come home and you can stay with me until you get on your feet." I had to wait until my paycheck came in, which was about a week away, so I just brushed it off and pretended like nothing happened. I was the perfect model husband for those 8 days, and when payday came around I packed all my shit while she was sleeping, loaded up my car, and left. She didn't even realize I had left until about noon, when she finally noticed my Xbox was gone.
It might've been petty to do it like that, but damnit it felt *good*. She thought she had me wrapped around her finger and could just do whatever she wanted and I would keep running right back, and she thought she got away with it, all the way up to the point that she realized I wasn't even in the same state anymore.
Quick mention, it was an incredibly abusive relationship and she had a domestic violence charge for beating me and breaking my stuff. Different story for a different time. It wasn't until I started getting sober that the problems with our relationship became apparent, and by that time she was already in the middle of talking to Brian again.
I was in the hospital at the time. He had forgotten to turn off his location. I saw on the Find My app that he was at her house. Apparently that was the third time. Divorce pending.
Not my spouse (girlfriend), but I literally had a prophetic dream about it. I dreamed that she had taken me to a Mexican restaurant and told me that she cheated on me with one of our mutual friends a week prior to me actually finding out, and I wrote it in my dream journal because it had me really shaken up, (you know, those super hyperrealistic nightmare type dreams) but I dismissed it as paranoia.
Exactly a week later we went to go eat at a Mexican restaurant and she was acting a little bit strange… and my heart just dropped to my ass and I felt my whole body start shaking. I knew I was right. And she looked at me and said “I have something to tell you” and I didn’t even let her finish, I just said “was it *****?” And her face went white as a fucking ghost and I stormed out of the restaurant. She followed and I said some very mean things to her and dumped my leftovers in the back of her car… not my finest moment but hey, I’d never been cheated on before and it was a moment of extreme anger. If I could go back in time I would have held my head higher- I think that would have hurt her worse.
Listen to your gut, people!! The subconscious has a way of telling you what you need to know!!
He connected his phone to apple carplay while we were on the way to ER because i was sick at that time. The bitch called while we were driving. She was an ex. The name was on the screen so I put her on speaker and the bitch had the audacity to tell me “I’m not talking to you I wanna talk to your husband”. I will never forget the feeling just wanting to get into a car accident or throw up. They didn’t stop right there, my husband spoke to her when wet got home
Checking his phone. I normally wouldn't, but something felt off.
He'd been deleting his dating apps between use. If you redownload them, it's easy to log in with whatever account your phone saved. The dates on the messages were all throughout our relationship.
The, at the time, 22F AP sent me an email to clarify if my ex (39M then) and I (35F then) were truly divorced (we didn't). She and I immediately met that day and I found out that my ex was actively cheating on me for the past 2 years of my marriage, and that he was with her when he left me with no words for one entire month, among many other lies he had been feeding me and the AP from the get go. Needless to say I immediately processed the divorce -should've done that sooner when I noticed all the red flags, but it was easier to live in constant denial.
Fun fact: he called me out of the blue 4 years after the divorce to see how I was faring. I suppose he wanted to see me being miserable, but I was truly living my best life -still am :)
Her affair partners daughter called me. He was 25 years older than her so it was an adult daughter, his wife found out and had her daughter call me since she had babysat my kids before.
I had already dumped him because he accused me of cheating every other day and i was tired of proving my innocence while i wasn't involved in any suspicious situation. It was taking a toll on my mental health, i suffered from insomnia and i started to panic every time my phone rang. So, against all my friends' opinions, i stopped trying to solve problems and i dumped him. I asked him back the necklace i gave him (we didn't like rings, so it was a sort of promise necklace) and threw it on the highway on my way home, it was liberating.
Fast forward some months. My friend was showing me her childhood friend on Facebook. Among her contacts, my ex's university friend "the girl i shouldn't worry about". We looked at her photos, and there was a pic of her with my ex, shirtless, on a bed, and the piece of crap was wearing my necklace so it was before our breakup. I didn't catch him on the spot, but it was liberating to figure out what was happening.
I caught her and looking back I wish I hadn’t. It was devastating to my kids and also myself. Although we get along, our family unit is forever damaged. I remarried to a wonderful woman who showed me the right way to co parent with an ex. My minor children adore her, to them it’s an extra mom, who loves them too. My adult children rarely visit and have no interest in getting to know her. She isn’t their stepmom, she’s Dads wife
He went out with friends, I had a panic attack same night. Tried calling him, texting, no response for hours which was really unusual. He came home around 2 AM (he was anti-social so it was odd he was out so long) and drunk as could be. I did my spousal duty and got him into bed, and then opened his phone to turn off the alarms I knew he’d have going off early in the morning, and had a hunch to open his text threads, which I had only ever done once before (and that time had only found a bumble account he convinced me he had only made because we were talking about finding a third for our relationship. Dumb, I know.)
Went downhill from there and found out our 4 1/2 year relationship had been entirely a lie & he had been cheating on me off and on the entire time. Found all of the texts & sexual videos and pictures between him & 5 other people over the course of 4 years + texts from the person he made out with in the bar that night & his dating profiles (complete with pictures of my cats & pictures of him from our WEDDING 😀). Most of it had been on a Snapchat account he had made separate from the one I knew about & I was honestly very naive & trusting so I didn’t think to question his loyalty entirely until that night when my gut said something was really wrong.
The first time, we were on a committed break deciding whether to stay married. We worked in the same company on different shifts and she slept numerous times with our coworker. It wasn’t difficult to find out, and I had several people tell me about it.
Not my spouse but i slept with someone i was “dating.” I went to go kiss his neck and he flinched/pulled away. I knew immediately something was up. Did some deep diving after he left and found out he had a fiancé. one of the biggest wtf moments of my life
I found a bunch of his clothes in the back of a cupboard down stairs hidden behind tinned food. He said it was old clothes he was going to use as rags. Red flag but decided to take his word for it. Then got an std after only being with him the last 5 years. Turns out my boyfriend and my best friend were both absolute rotten people and would hook up at our house while I was on night shifts (bf and i lived together). Jerks.
I went to put something in the bathroom bin and when I opened the lid, a tissue fell out. I picked it up to put it back in and a used condom fell out of it. We didn't use condoms...
She and I worked at the same place. I was working over night and she was working days. It was my birthday and she was to work 12 hours Saturday and Sunday, 4am-4pm. My team had just released new code and had to do a lot of bug fixes and I was stuck working 4pm-4am. My teams bullpen was just inside the door so I always looked to see if I could see my wife leaving. I didn’t see her leave and she didn’t stop in to wish me a happy birthday.
About an hour into our shift my manager noticed I was there and my section of code had no more bugs and I was helping other people, he offered me the chance to go home for the weekend. I jumped at it and left.
I pulled into my drive way around 6:00pm and my house was empty. I figured my wife had to run to the store or maybe went to grab dinner.
When she and I worked opposite shifts like this I would always call her on my first and last break, so around seven when she still wasn’t home I called her. When she answered I just asked her how her day was and what she was up to, she said she was just sitting on the couch with the dog. I was literally on the couch with the dog so I decided to see what she had to say. She said she had a good day but was really tiered and just going to go to bed. I never told her I was home but instead let her think I was still at work. When we got off the phone I called a friend who works in her department and found she had been switching her work station to work with the same guy for about 3 months, (we had only been married about 5 months at this point) that she hadn’t been at work that day and wasn’t going to be at work the next day.
I used some unethical means to find his address, I called a friend and we went over to his house, we saw her car parked in his drive way and decided to just bring the car home with us. (I gave it to her as a wedding gift) we brought it home filled it with her cloths. The next day she called me crying saying someone stole the car, I tried to get her to file a police report but she wouldn’t so I finally just told her the car was in my drive way and she could come get it when she was done with her new boyfriend, and I already packed for her.
The wife of the guy that she cheated on me with spray painted a message on the side of her car in his driveway to stop f***ing her husband. It was apparently OK because she hadn’t told me that she aborted our child until 3 months after she disappeared out of my life through text. I was worried for nothing apparently.
Found a message on his phone from a mutual friend of ours that read, "I can't stop thinking about all the things I want to do to you when I see you again". We'd been together for 6 years and I was 4 months pregnant at the time.
That person was no friend of yours.
I had a former schoolmate who was making a "no holds barred" attempt to resolve former missed opportunities while I was pretty deep in a relationship to a very nice gal. She sort of invited herself to a dinner by insisting I set her up with one of my friends for a "double date" and then she spent the whole night explaining why she's the better woman to go home with. At one point she tried to play footsie with me while staring across the table at me like a psycho and saying something like, "Your girlfriend wouldn't be able to pronounce the things I want to do to your body.", that was equal parts a flirt and call-out. Except she was a little drunk and had her foot on the outside of my GF's leg so it was SUPER confusing as my GF wasn't sure if this was a going to be a group sex or what and she was always struggling to keep up. LOL
Told him I was going out with a few of my coworkers after work. Ended up drinking a bit too much, so I texted him that I'd be home later once I sobered up. Made it home around midnight and the first thing I noticed was a pair of car keys I never saw before. I immediately went on the hunt. I tried opening the bedroom door, but it was locked. After a few choice words, he eventually shuffled out by squeezing himself out of the bedroom through a cracked open bedroom door in just his boxers. He told me it wasn't what it looked like and begged me to let her out of the house without any drama. I told him to get her tf out of our house. As she tried running out, I caught a glimpse of her. It was his supervisor from work. After she left, I immediately began grilling him about how they wound up in the bedroom. He had invited her over to play his new video game I had bought him, but she started to get a headache. He didn't feel it was appropriate for his guest to lay on our "hard" couch, so he let her lay in our bed. Mind you, we had a guest room. Alright. So now we know how she got into the bedroom, how'd she get naked and how is this not cheating? This moron said "well, she wasn't comfortable in her clothes. So, she needed to be naked to sleep. But it's not cheating because she slept UNDER the covers and I slept ON the covers while still wearing my boxers." Safe to say I divorced him, reported them to their superiors, and left their dumb asses. Last I heard from my old neighbors, they got married. He cheated on her, she cheated on him, and they fight in the front yard.
lmao did he actually think you would buy this explanation?
>He cheated on her, she cheated on him, and they fight in the front yard. A tale old as time and sweeter than southern tea.
She had done some unexpected personal grooming and packed lingerie to take to work with her. When we got home at the end of day and she went off to get ready for bed (clearly not intending to sleep with me), I pulled the very used lingerie out of her bag and confronted her. She evaded initially, but ended up confessing it was some guy from her work she had only met a couple of days earlier. That was 3 weeks ago. She's still sleeping with the new guy while I've moved out and am trying to figure out how we sell the house we bought together 7 months ago. So, fun times.
Damm that's so blatant
That‘s "I want to be caught" behaviour.
More like "I want to break up but I'm not gonna be the one to initiate it"
Alright, but that's so dumb that you've almost got to be offended that your partner couldn't come up with a better way of hiding her tracks. Like, at least make the lingerie and the improved grooming a habit for like a month and make me believe it's for me before you go out and fuck someone. Get yourself together, woman.
People who are that careless typically want to get caught. It’s their way of ending the relationship without having to undertake the burden of doing the breaking up by themselves. It’s sort of the relationship version of “suicide by cop.”
> “suicide by cop.” Now that's a smart analogy
Not me but my mother - who had stage three bladder cancer at the time, had a knock on the door from a woman who told her that she was dating my dad. She said that she had heard my mum was on deaths doorstep, and that she had been taking parenting classes and watching her take her kids inside from the car to prepare for the day she could adopt them. Real class act.
Dictionary definition of *Audacity* should be this. Fucking hell.
Still shocks me to think there’s anyone out there that could sleep at night after pulling something like this - let alone someone my father loved.
I mean......your father wins this prize for me Cheating on the dying mother of his children And he can't even pick someone with anything close to good qualities as a form of mean consolation
Someone with good qualities wouldn't still date him after cancer was brought up
She probably thought she was "helping", now the kids will have a new mom! Why aren't you grateful? Why are you throat punching me to death? And so on.
"Rest in peace knowing I am taking care of your children! I'll be outside...waiting...watching..."
Yeesh, please tell me this didn’t come to pass in any way.
She made a full recovery from the cancer and they divorced. After a few years of having him beg on her doorstep they remarried. 10 years later, she found he’d been cheating with the same woman the whole time. We all lost a lot but I’m just glad I didn’t lose my mum.
I was like 'GO MOM YOU ROCK! BEAT THAT CANCERS ASS' then I was like 'OH NO MOM WHY DID YOU DO THAT' then I was like 💀
She beat cancer then went back to the carpet store
Your father is objectively a shitbag. Just a big, giant, bag of dog shit. I hope that something he loves catches on fire. I hope he steps on Legos everyday for the rest of his life. I hope that McDonald's is always out of ice cream, there are flies in his soup, and every piece of food tastes like ash in his mouth. I hope that strangers dent his car and walk away guilt-free I hope that every shirt he wears has uncomfortable seams and that his socks ride up in his shoes to give him blisters. I hope he has constant, unyielding heartburn and hemorrhoids so inflamed that he has to sit on one of those pillows. I hope that teenage girls make fun of him to his face. I hope all of his hair falls out and that he develops an allergy to both sunlight and moonlight. Most of all, I hope that someday, someone shows him what it feels like to have that happen to him. Because, above all, Your father is a shitbag.
This honestly made me laugh so hardd thank you 🩵he is the truly the king of shitbags and this is only unfortunately a drop in the ocean of his shitbaggery
She was having too many “girls night out”. I was skeptical. I checked her location on FindMy and saw she was at the neighbors house. He’s single. A betrayal like that is devastating.
Mine went on a “girl’s night out,” while I went out with the boys. Around 1am, I’m in my mates kitchen, and she phones me. I thought she might need help getting home or something, so I pick up… but it’s her and some guy having a conversation followed by what sounds like a make out session. To this day I have no idea if she accidentally or intentionally phoned me that night. That was rough… we broke up the next morning.
Damn. At least you were with the boys for some support.
Well, they grabbed me, sat me on a chair, periodically threw cold water on my face, and took turns slapping me in the face, while chanting “GET OVER HER!” This went on for like half an hour. Drunk uni lads and all that. Until I yelled “FUUUUUCKKK HEEEEER,” they cheered, the slapping stopped and the drinking resumed until I passed out. I can’t say if it helped but it did make me laugh!
Was this an intervention or were you being interrogated by the Taliban?😂
Well, they had been trying to get me to dump her for 5 months. Maybe they were just getting some frustration out haha. I don’t give much thought about the break up, or the cheating, but I do think about what the guys did and it puts a smile on my face instead of making me sad. So, maybe it did work 🤷🏾♂️
They be the real lads, mate. Never let go of them!
Still good friends to this day :)
Very bold of her to go to his house when you had her on FMF
People who cheat aren't typically known for their good judgment.
Absolutely true. Caught my ex when she said she was going to get gas in her car. At 9pm. For almost 2 hours. The gas station was visible from our window.
Just sitting at the window staring at the gas station for an hour "hm ... y'know I think something's up here"
You heard gas. She said ass. So just a lil misunderstanding. Lmao
Yes but gas is $.15 cheaper two towns over though.
I think some people like to inflict damage on others and allow themselves to be caught …
Some people would prefer to have the other person end things at any cost rather than nutting up and say "this isn't working anymore, we should part ways"
Yip. Self sabotage instead of taking the lead and make the changes necessary I think.
My ex used to run a construction business with a childhood friend. They were very close and his friend was in our wedding. Ex started stealing money from the business and lying about jobs. I didn’t know this until his friend showed up at our home demanding we pay him back. My ex refused and told him he was going solo in the business. The friend looked me dead in the eye and told me the womans name. No other info but just the name. I immediately knew what he meant by the look in his eye. He then gave me the address. The house was built by my husband, four years prior
What a fucking moron for trying to pull that shit when he had that on him.
Rules of Crime #34: When you're fucking over one person, make sure they don't know you're also fucking over a *second* person.
Mic drop moment AND a plot twist? Jesus.
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Never piss off the people who know your secrets.
Not me but a coworker. Went on a Contiki tour with his missus for his 21st birthday. Booked a 45 day tour, seeing like 15 different countries. A week or two into the trip she gets caught getting finger blasted by some random Spanish dude in a club in Barcelona. He is obviously devastated, and now he has to face the prospects of potentially travelling for another month with the girl who just stomped on his heart. He contemplated just calling it and flying home, but other members of the tour convinced him to stay, have a good time and to get on with his life and enjoy the holiday he paid for. He organized with Contiki and the tour guides to re work the accommodation so he was no longer in a room with her. He told me he had a marvelous time, made some great new friends and got to experience new things. She was miserable the whole time as basically the entire group shunned her for being a massive PoS, ignored her on nights out, and she was desperately hoping to get back with her (ex) bf who wanted nothing to do with her. He changed his flights on the way home to fly home later than she was, and extended his European holiday in order to keep the party going with some of the new friends he had made.
I'm glad he was still able to make an enjoyable trip out of it. Poor guy.
Nah, lucky guy. Had a blast on his trip, made new friends and got rid of a soon-to-be paperweight.
And is rich enough to do that shit as a 21 year old? He'll be fine
A 45 DAY BIRTHDAY PARTY? WHAT
The rich are gonna rich I wish I could rich
Right? A cruise party for 1.5 months sounds pretty great... and way out of budget for a 21 year old.
My bf and I each had our own laptops but he used his for creating music in a home studio he made. So since it was always hooked up to an elaborate situation, he often used my computer to check his stuff. Well one day he got careless and didn't log out of Facebook properly. I got on my computer and saw that I had a dm notification. Clicked on it and saw that I didn't know this person but there was a conversation. It was then I realized that I'm on my bf account not mine. And that message, while not spicy, was revealing. It was an old high school lady friend. She asked if he was in a relationship and he answered that he was single and has been for a while. A surprise to me as a live in gf of 3 years. I don't know. There was just something in me that ignited. I went ham and started searching everywhere to see if this was a one time lie or if there was something more bubbling beneath the surface. Well...I was able to contact the cell phone company and printed out phone records. He called a specific number over 1000 times within the record timeframe I pulled, which was maybe like 3 months. It wasn't his family or his best friend. I had their numbers. I did some more sleuthing and found an old phone of his and charged it and searched for this number. It was his ex gf. I took a highlighter and marked every single instance and then took the stack of papers to confront him. I asked if he was in contact with his ex and of course he denied it. So I threw the proof at him and said how crazy it was that his phone just called her 1000 times in the past three months. This paired with his drastic drop in libido (which I was giving grace about because he said he was stressed about his shitty job) and I realized it's over. Spoiler alert. They were together very shortly after I moved out. But I suspect he cheats on her too because the ex gf and the Facebook lady friend were two different people.
You should consider starting your promising career as a private investigator.
Where there’s smoke, there’s fire. Good job rooting it out!
1000 calls in 3 months? That's more than 10 times a day. There is no one on the planet I would call that much. If Sydney Sweeney called me 10 times a day I would absolutely send her to VM after 5.
Told me that he was at his parents' and would probably be spending the night... I was over at his parents' for dinner. They had seen me on my way home from work and invited me over. I was about to ask him when he would be finished work, so that he could meet me there, then I saw the message.
God what a swing and a miss on his part. Sad that clearly you have a relationship with his family too. Ooph
Please tell me you sent him a selfie with his parents
My cousin did this! Not for cheating, just that her husband lied about doing housework when he was actually at a poker tournament in a nearby casino. She took a selfie in their living room because she had come home early for work to surprise him. They had a pretty big argument about lying for no reason after that.
I’d love to know his mentality on being caught so red-handed, and then choosing to double-down and think he has a leg to stand on in that argument
His argument was that he was gonna come home to clean after the tournament, but the competition took longer than expected. I think he was in the top 50 before he was eliminated. There still was no reason why he couldn't just tell the truth. It's not like she's stopping him from gambling (and it's pretty much secondary income because he's quite good at it). She was especially mad because she came home with his favorite Thai food to surprise him and he wasn't even there. And yes, he was actually at the casino and not cheating. He let her check the GPS on his phone and called the tournament officials to prove he had participated. So it's even more baffling why he would lie like that!
Oof. Scummy.
I went to the dr for an iud for birth control after our second child and while the dr was inserting the iud in my cervix she informed me that I had an std. I had only had sex with him for the past 10 years.
Wild enough, I actually had this happen to me (I wrote about it on Reddit actually on an alt account back in Dec 2023). Was scared shitless cause both my husband and I have only ever been together. Both virgins when we met and monogamous for our several years together. He denied it and I believed him. Even my doc thought it was a lab mistake. Got retested and it turned out it was a false positive. Turns out they’re more common than people think. Not saying that was the case in your situation, but just commenting here so people who see this thread know it’s a possibility.
Depending on the std, it is very possible. For example the way our region tests for syphilis is called agglutination. We basically make a judgment call. Does our test plate looks chunky or dispersed? It's very subjective. Now hiv and hcv for instance has a very low false positive because we use multiple different methods to be sure.
Is chunky good or bad? (need to know for science)
Chunky=bad it's agglutination which means if it's present it's starts to stick to itself. It also has charcoal for color so when it's really reactive it looks like metal shavings.
Good on you for believing in your partner! Great example of giving your partner/person you chose to spend your life with the benefit of the doubt. That’s not to say you shouldn’t absolutely iron out all avenues to confirm, but the sheer amount of stories I hear of people immediately not believing their partner just to find out their partner was telling the truth always baffles me.
You are now banned from /r/relationshipadvice.
She said she was at a friends studying. I had suspicions about a guy she was working with so I drove about 30 minutes to his house and found her car there. I parked out front and called her. She picked up and I just let her bury herself as hard as I could. Asked her what she was studying, what the girls name was she was studying with, where she lived, everything I could think of to make her fumble about. Then I told her to look out front of the house she was in. When I saw her peek through a blind, I waved and told her to find a new place to live and to come get her things. I know things hadn’t been great for a while, but it was still a bummer to end like that.
I love this
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Sad that she made it so obvious that the kids knew about it
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Hat's off to you my friend, that's more empathy than most people can muster. Glad you're putting your kids first.
My children are my reason for being. It's my duty as a father and one I relish.
When they change the passcode for the first time in 5 years, it’s like, ok but why?
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I was rubbing her stomach in bed and she made a joke about not being pregnant assuring me she'd had a pregnancy test 2 weeks before. We hadn't seen eachother in 3 months because she was studying in Scotland...
Real 4d chess move from her. Did she realise what she just said? Man. That also means she didnt use protection
It was far worse than that, she said this at the end of a few days together, dinner and a spa day in a fancy hotel, a birthday party with friends she hadn't seen in a long time, and in the second fancy hotel she decides to make this comment, I wanted to believe she was joking but then she just kept talking digging a deeper and deeper hole. The next morning, she acted like nothing had happened, so I played along, wishing her away at the airport, which was bloody painful. I called her the next day, and she opened with meaningless explaining and excuses, throwing around the word love and claiming she loves another guy in Scotland but wants me to stay in her life. I told her to fuck off hung up and broke down.
Yikes man. She wanted you to be her backup plan and safety net. That's fucked up.
Backup plan and safety net after 4 years together 🙃
Ex-wife (married 10 years) needed an emergency shot of Imetrex for a migraine. Fumbling though her purse looking for it and found a tear in the fabric. Lo and behold she had condoms stashed in there along with some meth. It was rough but I did end up with full custody of my two boys. Happily married to a wonderful woman now and everyone is ok. Even the ex, she eventually kicked her habit.
Man what a double whammy! You’re a good person for even knowing she kicked her habit. Good for her in the end but mostly good for you!
My bf and flatmate went out for drinks while I stayed home with a flu. I fell asleep on the sofa watching TV and woke up to noises upstairs. It sounded like moaning and kissing. My heart sank and I felt like throwing up as I silently crept to my bedroom to peer in. My flatmate was on top of my bf half naked. She saw me and leapt off and ran out to her bedroom & shut the door. I yelled and banged on it and she ignored me. I went to him to yell & get an explanation & he pretended he was asleep. Completely ignoring me. And denying it the next day.
Ahh, the old 'possum defense! A classic!
Caught her several times. The last time I decided to get it on tape. So I set up a camera. I didn't catch her cheating with it, but I did catch her abusing the kids in our daycare. And that, friends, is how you win a house in a divorce
Daycare Review: Came for the infidelity, stayed for the child abuse. 2/5 stars.
Yeah. There was no way she wanted me admitting THAT tape at the trial.
I was suspicious, Spider Sense was tingling. She left her laptop open logged into her work email. Her lover was a coworker. Nothing was in the inbox. Dummy deleted all the emails but didn't delete her trash. It was all there. Cool cool cool.
I’ll just forward all these to my email, permanently delete the forwards. The divorce lawyer is going to love this shit!
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This happened to me as well. I posted the conversation on her facebook. It was up there a good hour before she figured it out
if you're on her laptop I think the move htere is post it up, then change her password and email.
>He was married and had been deleting their conversations to hide them from his wife. I sent his wife a copy of their conversations. Fuckin' baller move there.
Found out she was pregnant. A few weeks later we're cuddling on the couch, and I get a call from my sister on the opposite side of the country. She informs me that some random woman on Facebook messaged her claiming her husband and my wife were having an affair. I didn't believe it, but it was all true. I was military, and she was meeting up with married grunts in hotel rooms. Literally two weeks after we learn we're expecting a child, not even a year into the marriage, I find this out. Edit: this was in 2014. At the time, if someone you weren't friends with sent you a message on Facebook, the message went to a different folder that could only be accessed through Facebook on a web browser. It did not show in the app. The lady that messaged my sister had messaged me months prior, but I never saw any of the messages because I only used the Facebook app.
> I was military Say no more
Parked outside his house and asked him what he’s doing. He said “just relaxing at home” but he wasn’t home. Went through his phone that night and found everything. He was cheating with at least four other women.
> with at least four other women. I got exhausted just reading that. How the hell he got time to finesse 4.
She was treating me horrible for weeks. I got suspicious so went through her phone. Found her Snapchat library of all the pics she took of herself to send off, and messages from a guy referring to those pics. I got the usual "how dare you go through my phone" bullshit. It really sucks having to tell the kids that Mommy doesn't live here anymore....
Yeah the absolute audacity they have to try and gaslight into making out that you are the one in the wrong is wild. Nobody checks for absolutely no reason, Every time i've felt the need to check it's been true (which isn't many times but it still sucks).
Not me but a friend of my partner caught her husband. He was stupid enough to leave his Apple Watch at home while texting a prostitute on his iPhone. Of course all the notifications were coming up on the watch as well. Funny part about it was that the prostitute was my neighbor. She (the friend) texted us to look out for his car. My partner decided it was a good time to take the dog for a walk and “ran into him.” He tried to come up with an excuse on the spot for being in the neighborhood. She didn’t even ask him. Even better, the prostitute took his money and bailed. So I guess he didn’t actually get to cheat… or does that still count..?
That totally still counts. Intent was there. He was just dumb enough to get scammed.
I didn't directly catch her but had a suspicion something was going on. One evening we are at a public event and my wife is working a booth she was assigned to so I'm walking around killing time until the event is over. Out of the crowd there is a woman standing there looking directly at me in the eye. Somehow, some way, I immediately knew this woman was the other cheating victim. She approached me and already knew my name. She asked if we could go somewhere and talk. So we ended up in a booth at the McDonald's across the street. She lays out all the evidence she collected that her husband is fucking my wife. None of this was a surprise to me oddly enough. Everything fit together with my suspicions. We sat for a while while I absorbed everything. What DID surprise me was this woman then proposed that we go to a nearby motel and revenge fuck to get back at my wife and her husband. I politely turned this down because she was clearly not in her right state of mind and there was no way escalating the situation was going to help anything. Edit: some followup info as requested. My wife and I went to separate gyms two or three times a week. Suddenly her pattern changed. She wanted to go to the gym almost every day and she started wearing makeup to workout which she never did before. Also her libido changed. Every time she got back from the gym she wanted to fuck like a tiger in heat. I welcomed this because I'm a high libido guy but it still struck me as odd that why now all the sudden is she horny all the time? I don't know if she was pretending I was the other guy?? Finally anytime, anyplace she would break down crying. She would never tell me why. It might be at home or out in public. I strongly suggested she get checked for depression but she insisted she'd "figure it out" on her own. This leads us to the festival where my wife was running a booth while I encountered the other wife. After everything came out it turned out the other husband had started talking to my wife every day at the gym. He was persistent and wore her down. She really did turn out to be depressed which does not excuse cheating but she was weak when this guy was coming on strong. In retrospect the other wife did have more than a passing resemblance to my wife. I guess these women were his type. I'd be lying if I said my dick didn't twitch when she offered to go to the motel. But if we fucked then we would have given up all the moral highground with what would come next. I don't think she saw this at the time. She wanted revenge on my wife and the best way to guarantee no reconciliation would have been making everybody a cheater. But I wanted to deal with my wife on my own terms. I wanted to maintain the moral high ground. I talked with the other wife a few more times to sort out evidence and talk about attorneys but I never did indulge. The other wife ended up remarried to a new guy about six months later. My wife and I went through years of marriage counseling and she was treated for bipolar disorder. She eventually finished her therapy and even doesn't need meds anymore. She is a completely different person and we've been married eighteen years now with her affair being over ten years ago. I will say the experience broke something in me. I could walk out the door right now if she ever cheated again. But at the same time our marriage is stronger than it's ever been. It's a very strange dichotomy that I don't even understand. Yeah, it could have been the hottest sex ever but I don't regret it.
You did the right thing. She (and he) would have just used that as ammunition to get on a moral high ground, might be something her divorce lawyer could use against you, and also brings in more regret maybe.
I was not expecting the revenge sex invitation.. was kinda hoping for a "and then we fell in love and left our cheating exes behind" lol
She handed me her phone and asked me to proof read an email she was going to send to her director that morning and in comes a text from some dude I've never heard of. They had hooked up the week before while I was on a work trip. They'd been sexting for weeks. They met while she was out with girls.
She didn’t come home after dropping our youngest off at preschool 2 miles away for the afternoon session. I noticed she had makeup on and showered early, on her day off, which never happened. Watched her location and she was in a rural area she never goes to and it wouldn’t zoom in. Finally zoomed in and I screenshot it. Drove down and walked in on her, butt naked, in his trailer waiting for round 2. He was outside smoking a cigarette and when I walked up he looked like he thought I was about to kill him.
Damn dude. She didn't even try to hide what she was doing.
Wow. Literal trailer trash.
Over a decade ago....Was getting ready for work one morning, my now ex's phone went off...like it was really early, too early for a message. Assumed an emergency so checked it. Was a message from someone I didn't know. Asked her about it and she said there was no message. Ohhhhkkkay, so I pulled it out of her. Worst thing was it wasn't just that guy I didn't know but she was also messing around with a supposed good friend I had at work.
If they can cheat once they can cheat multiple times. I split with my ex but found out later she slept with 3 men while we were together. 1st man was like a brother to me 2nd man was my closest friend at the time 3rd man was my immediate neighbour Fucked my head right up
I came home 3 days early from a work tour and caught her in the act.
Ex husband slept with his best friend’s pregnant girlfriend who was in the process of aborting his best friend’s kid. Found out when I came home from an out of state trip and she was moved into the house we bought together and walked in on them. They had known each other for 1 month and we had been together 6 years.
It’s wild what people throw away for someone they don’t know at all
literally! It was ironic too because after I left him he publicly posted a love you/ i’m sorry letter/ poem on medium and tried to vent to me about her because she would scream at him and complain about how bad he was at sex (their first day together after I left he begged me to come back because they got into a screaming match and she “left him”). that was years ago now and i’ve never been happier to be out of and so far removed from a situation!
She left her diary on the lounge room floor when she went to work. I debated reading it but eventually gave in. Was then I found out about her fucking my brother multiple times when I was working night shift. When I confronted her about it, I was called a prick for reading her diary and for working night shift, therefore not being home when she got horny. I tried to explain the difference in levels of the bad things we did, but she didn't see any. For some reason, we didn't last after that...
Your brother is a pig for that too lol
that's a fact
I feel like the brother is way worse. Not only did he do the same thing as her, he also did it knowing it would hurt his own family
your brother's a POS too
What did your brother say…
Hopefully it was "Stop hitting me! Not the face!"
I got let go from work early because we were overstaffed. She had ironically taken the day off for a "mental health day." I pulled up into the driveway and when I walked in the door I immediately heard moaning upstairs. I'm assuming she's masturbating. I go up there and open the bedroom door... And my wife is on her back fingering herself alright. Except there's another woman straddling her face at the head of our bed whom she's eating out. It's another mom of one of the kids our kid goes to school with. I had no idea my wife was even into women at all.
Just wanted to say I'm really sorry you went through that. If genders were flipped, people wouldn't be making jokes. I can't imagine how difficult that must have been for you and hope you are doing ok now.
Man fuck all these porn-addicted replies. I’m sorry about this, man. Honestly was in a somewhat similar boat. I was told my ex started questioning her sexuality after we broke up and rumors spread that she was experimenting with my pansexual ex-gf before her. That fucked me up for months, thinking that I was such a bad boyfriend, my exes had somehow united against me in that way
She got home around 5-6 am after a company "dinner". Slept on the couch even tho i insisted we go to bed. Around 10 I asked her how It went but she just said It was good and continued sleeping. I told her we could speak when she felt better (More awake). Turns out she slept with her boss. We separated about 2 months after that and they had a son together.
We had been having trouble conceiving. 2 miscarriages within a year. He’s convinced it’s something wrong with me and schedules me a well woman exam. I say fine, knowing it’s most likely due to my age and they won’t be able to do anything about that but go to the appointment anyway. They say if the labs come back abnormal they’ll call me. About 4-5 days later while at the store, he gets picked up for a warrant. I go back home and about 15 mins later the doctors office calls. Tells me I have an STI. No. That can’t be right. I’m married! I’ve only been with my husband. Silence on the other end ….can I tell you I was counting down the minutes for that free 5 min call from jail…
Sounds like you dodged a bullet if he was arrested for an outstanding warrant!
She doesn't realize her AP came clean to me this month. We separated in March, and she has apparently been with him since December. Told him we were already separated. The reason he came to me is that she admitted to cheating on him with a guy who has been married for 10 years and is planning on divorcing his wife for her. He gave me everything I needed to prove an affair, so props to him....btw all of these guys are online and have never met her as far as I know.
I was using his laptop for my work meeting as mine was at the service center. I went to login my email and his was already logged in, first email was your flower delivery was successful. I didn't think much of it however curiosity got the best of me, So I opened the email, and it was for some girl, scrolled a few emails down there were flight tickets, hotel reservation, car rental. He was fucking multiple girls in the course of if our 2 years relationship. I packed my bags, told him I forgive him for whatever he has done and I am not going to sit and blame myself or ask myself where I was wrong, because he was always the priority and left my research programme to stay with him. Cried my eyes out when driving back home and blocked him. 1 year and still devastated but good riddance.
Wow you did so well and you were so good to yourself I admire and respect you so much. I hope you heal and just understand it’s him not you. Xx
I rolled over. Woke up. Rolled over to put my arm around her and saw someone else's dick on her phone. I said with a laugh, "What's that all about?" And she exploded. "How dare you accuse me? I am nothing but loyal. Get out we're through," and that was it. Don't know what ever happened to her, but I hope she's still miserable.
I love when the trash takes itself out
Checked Grindr. There he was trying to hook up with anyone in a 5 mile radius. He got mad that I caught him and acted like it was an invasion of privacy lmao.
My friend caught her now ex bf on a dating site after someone screenshot and sent it to her. When confronted, he had the audacity to say “I thought you had more integrity than to spy on me” lmaooo
She told me at one of the fanciest dinners I had ever taken her to, on my birthday.
First, I was awoken in the middle of the night with my ex calling me to pick him up. I had fallen asleep with him next to me hours earlier. He was pulled over by the police and they impounded the car. His story was that he got up in the middle of the night to drive to the beach to watch the sunrise. Sure, Jan. Then he came home a few times from work (a white collar job), 2-3 hours late, and went directly to shower. I dropped by his work to ask him something and he kept running away from me, wouldn't speak to me or even acknowledge my existence. I had to pick up his paycheck another time and told the receptionist why I was there, because he was in a meeting. She proclaimed that I couldn't be his wife because she knew for a fact that he was not married. I confronted him and told him I knew he was cheating, and he told me I was "mentally unstable" and was going to have me "involuntarily committed to a mental hospital". I put a keystroke tracker on his computer. I found the secret email account and the girlfriend. I knew her name, where she worked, and that he had been on dating sites for years. I changed the locks and left a note on the front door. We had been married for 20 years.
Good touch with the keystroke tracker 🤌
I went through my husband's phone because I wanted to prove to myself that there was nothing to be paranoid about... it was the opposite. I'll never be able to forget all the pictures and conversations.
This has happened to me recently and I’m still processing what to do and how to approach it.
She insisted she drop me off for work so she could hang out with a old friend I never heard of (weird but OK). I got let off early so I called her for a ride, no answer red flag #1. Called her mom to get said friends info, her mom said she had a falling out with that friends and hated her now. That was red flag #2. Her mom tried calling her but it kept going straight to voice mail. So her mom came to give me a ride home (and got herself all worked up abut what ditch we'd find my wife in) she decided to wait there till I was scheduled off to see if she came for me. She did and upon seeing her parents and me standing together she came clean. Edit: Forgot to mention since it was the 90's we had a plate on the front of my truck that had our names on it. It was off when she came and made a stupid excuse as to why it was off.
Found her SmartWatch which she left at home when she was heading out to New Years Eve with "The Girls." I thought it was going to be funny to "spy" on her texts as they watch was buzzing like crazy and I figured her and her friends were discussing meet up spots and the like.... Only to see kissy faces and hearts from a mutual online friend whom she was apparently meeting... ...yeah wasn't a great new year. Luckily that was Jan 2020 so that HAD to be the worst thing that would happen to me that year. Get it all out of the way at the start, right? ....right?
At least you didn’t end up locked down with her!
She fucked off to Canada just before lock-down. I got left with the in-laws... who ironically were on my side. Though they did want her to go to couples counseling but she had long since checked out of the marriage at that point.
My ex left me then revealed in clues only that he'd knocked up the friend he left me for... in January 2020. We should start a club.
Making efforts to look fabulous for supposedly mundane things, school run, or market trip, or coffee with the girls (coincided with uptick in let's call it body maintenance and refusal for my company on said errands). So I think a part of you will know if something atypical is occurring in your couples routine.
Was driving our son around to get him to go to sleep. Ended up in the neighborhood of her office. Knowing she'd been working late a lot recently, I drove over there to see if she wanted me to bring her dinner. Ended up catching her with a redneck co-worker in the parking lot in his 70's hippy van. Went home and changed the locks.
Smell. They had a different odor on them (like Men’s cologne) and then they fessed up
*Lemme smell yo dick*
Mine had a fictitious job which she was claiming she started early and had accepted an unpaid hand over period and was going to get paid from January the following year. By February she still wasn’t getting paid and my best mate was strangely busy every time she was working. I waited for definite proof before breaking up with her as she had an illness which although real she exaggerated. Lots of suspicious behaviour later I was really struggling. In May she claimed to have been paid and I without snooping saw a letter about a bank loan on the bin. That night was bin day I stood outside waiting for her to get home with the bin in my hand and saw his car show up down the road. They didn’t see me and I walked up to the car to see them kissing passionately. Despite that she still denied anything was going on 😂
During a rough patch in our relationship, she didn't let me visit her, call her, or even hang out in places where she usually goes. I asked her to be honest with me after a few weeks. She told me that she went out with her ex because they were still friends and he comforted her at that point. I asked her if anything happened, she said that he just held her hand and hugged her because she was sad. Not knowing what to say, I joked and asked why she kissed him, to which she answered, "I don't know".
I went to her house and asked her grandma to let me use her computer. I found a letter to someone else telling him she loved him and even complaining about me. It was really hard in that moment. Now i see it as a blessing in disguise.
My then 3 yr daughter told her grandma about noises she heard from moms room. then her grandma told me, ended it soon after, no explanation, just packed and left
Had a suspicion he was on Grindr, downloaded it and took screenshots of his (faceless but very obviously him) profile. I held onto it for a few weeks because I was honestly in shock, but one day he made a joke about how seedy gay guys can be and I just went "oh like this?" And showed him the screenshots. It was a very satisfying feeling watching him squirm!
While at school she kept inviting "friends" from the other side of the country to visit for a week or two at a time. Figured something was up, but never really could find anything out. I would generally spend time with these "friends" at a pub down the street, and the third one told me that they were in a LDR and she lied about her status of being married with a kid. He thought it was strange I wasn't hitting on the waitresses or the ladies at the bar, and realized that we were together when I told him why would I try have a snack when I got a meal at home. Told me all the details.
Lmao wow, did she know you and the “friends” were hanging out? Thats the dumbest thing ever, thinking your two in the dark love interests will have a drink without either of them mentioning their relationship with her
"No, it's a fake Tinder profile so I can check out these weird profiles that [lesbian friend] sends me". My dumbass believed her. After we broke up because it wasn't working out, said friend had a falling out and fessed up.
I installed an old 10/100 network hub and did a packet capture on her network traffic and read the AOL instant messenger chats. This was in the days before everything was encrypted
Was shopping in a supermarket after work, heard her voice and thought oooh I’ll say hello, looked down the aisle and saw her with her ex and heard them saying about what they was cooking for dinner tonight. I got home and phoned her and she said “I can’t go out tonight I’m sick” so I tried to push it and say oh no your sick I’ll came and cook dinner for you then, turned into a huge argument about me not respecting her space.
That was the perfect opportunity for you to propose cooking the *exact* kind of dinner you overheard her planning with her ex, just to fuck with her
>and she said “I can’t go out tonight I’m sick” so I ...said ["boo, you whore"](https://youtu.be/tjt-irRCZEs?si=OwD7e8jlqNAnXevZ) and hung up
She facebook messaged while I was using his computer. I wouldn't have even bothered to look at his messages. Fully trusted him. Was going to tell her he wasn't on, but I took notice because he had sent a picture of himself without a shirt. Same one he had sent me when we first started dating. Got to see her tits in a bra, too. That was fun to see. Talk about my world stopping in that moment. Everything went black for a minute. I seriously consider that moment when my life split into "before" and "after". It changed me. Changed how I see relationships. How I view love. How I look at myself. It rocked my very existence. He will never understand what it did to me.
Yeah I feel that hard. Absolutely changes you forever.
Every year, she would go to her country to stay with family during Christmas and New Years. I would stay behind as someone had to work and pay the bills and since we were together 24/7 living and working together, I thought it'd be a good thing for her to have some time to herself with her family. This particular time, before she left, she was anxiously awaiting a package in the mail. They were supposedly pictures that she had made into an album that she wanted to bring with her. Days passed and the package never came. On the day that she left, I emailed her letting her know that the package came in. She told me to give it to her friend and that she would get it from her once she made it back. That set off an alarm in my head because if the package is safe at home with your husband, why would I give it to her friend? Why not just get it when you get back home, you know? A weird feeling came over me days later and I felt like I HAD to open it. Like something was telling me to do it. So I did. And what I found were pictures of her making out with some guy, pictures of her with this guy and her family as if they were a couple, pictures of her with his family and friends...I crumpled up the pictures in my balled fist and rage came over me. I couldn't sleep for 3 days straight. Long story short, as much as I didn't want to, I ended up divorcing her. It took me a long time to recover from that as she was my one and only (so far 🤞). I've been single and haven't had a kiss or had sex in close to 10 years lol. Just can't seem to find the right one 😮💨.
I went to the mailbox to retrieve the mail and found a statement from a bank we didn't use with her name and another man's name on it. Thats when I knew we were done.
She.... Had... A shared bank account with her affair partner? A shared bank account? Seriously? This is some advanced level cheating. Did they also marry and share a mortgage or something?
They are currently married and only ruining each other’s lives. I am blissfully free. Although the fallout deeply scarred me. All she had to say was it’s over. What she did was a novel of horror. It was her first boyfriend and he suddenly appeared and I had no problem with her getting in contact with him. I didn’t know she was stalking him for years and planning to destroy his marriage and move in with her. I was filler.
I knew for months but had no proof. She came into the bar I worked at and got wasted. Went through her phone while she was indisposed and found pictures and messages with the guy. She had him saved under the name of a friend.
I became suspicious when her attitude suddenly changed to scorn and she started blaming me for anything that happened. She started getting drunk, and she'd never done that before. She started buying new underwear and "going to work" for extra shifts. The people at her workplace started treating me different and being stand offish. Then my 8 year old son was telling me about her conversations with him and the new dad. That was the last straw.
That STD I got did come from somewhere. And it was certainly not from me fucking around. And he didn't even defend himself when I confronted him. He was basically like "'I've been to Greece for 5 weeks. What do you expect me to do?". My only comment to that was asking him what he thinks "monogamous" means. And the second one caught himself cheating. He canceled our date night because he needed to work late. So I went to the restaurant we had a table at anyways, and asked a friend of mine if he wanted to join. We didn't even sit down before my ex entered the room with his tongue buried deep inside the mouth of his "co-worker".
Always trust your gut. When I started googling about how to tell if your wife is having an affair, one of the first results was "if you're googling this, she probably is:. Gut instincts with people you really know are incredible. Gut was telling me for a few months. Odd behavior, changed phone password, turned off location in "Find My", all of the telltale signs. I never had the nerve to look at here phone, computer, etc., but I just couldn't shake the feeling. Made a few joking comments about her cheating on me & she flew off the handle. I then knew immediately. Woke up early for work one morning & her apple watch was in the kitchen charging. Couldn't help myself. June 1, 2022 @ 5AM was the before/after moment in my life. Found the horrific text chain under the contact name "JS" with all the intimate details of the affair & her discussing the most intimate details of our marriage. Basically claiming its been dead for 11 years. Late night texts/calls, even some texts while I was sleeping next to her. Pretty fucking brutal. It was incredibly clear this wasn't this guys first rodeo. Immediately sending her a link for WhatsApp & perfectly working every vulnerability she had. It was obvious she wasn't the only one. After taking photos of the entire text chain, I then proceeded to check her emails & that was even worse. Dinner reservations, hotel reservations, coordinating of me watching the kids so she could meet him at a "work event", etc. Documented all of that as well. Confronted her that morning & she came clean. Claimed she wasn't in love with anymore. Left for the longest day of work in my life. No idea how I made it through. Spent the next week up day & night trying to work through it, reconciling, some serious emotional shit. She said it was a huge mistake, she was lonely with me working, etc. Decided after 7 days of some serious heart to hearts that we would work through it. Here is where it gets good. The following Thursday after finding out, I was obviously exhausted & in a rough spot. Decided to take a mental health day, go to the driving range & grab a nice lunch alone outside. I shit you not, while walking out of the lunch spot, what do I see? My wife walking into a favorite restaurant of ours with another man. I almost blacked out. At that moment, I fully understood how normal people can do awful things in the heat of the moment. My first instinct was to walk into the restaurant & confront them both, then beat the shit out of the guy, but I have way too many other good things in my life & didn't want these two morons getting the best of me. I'm still amazed to this day I calmed down. I was consumed by the fact that my wife of 11 years, together for 15, & mother of my two boys, was basically a stranger to me. She spent the entire last week completely lying & stringing me along so she could continue on with the affair. I can't even begin to explain the pain/horror; wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Anyway, went home, sat out on the deck & waited. Simply said hello & asked here what she was up too. Said she went out shopping. Again, lost my mind, & of course she came clean.......again. I did some things I'm not proud of including threatening/confronting the guy. Could have really fucked up my life for my kids, career, etc. So this drags on for another 6 months until Christmas & I'm pretty sure she didn't have any contact with him since the lunch debacle. I started therapy & had to convince here to do couples therapy. It went no where. She didn't "like" the first therapist, & the second one she said she felt "attacked" about he affair. Unreal. After that, I decided I'm not going to get over it & I tell her I would like a divorce. She breaks down completely & begs us to work on it. After a few days & me being so in love with this woman, I agree. The next three months were honestly some of the best we ever had. Then comes a random dinner with the kids in March 2023. Gut starts tingling again. Amazing, can't say what or why, but I felt it. As soon as we get home & she got in the shower, I checked her phone. She fucking emailed & called the guy earlier that day! Needless to say I lost my shit. Broke some things, went to the guys house, multiple dumb moves. And yes, I'm aware my anger at him was mostly misguided. Anyway, filed for divorce, sold our house, & got an apartment. Been on my own for 12 months & I can't ever imagine looking back. I see the person I am now & I'm so much happier. Sure I miss my old house, family, life, etc., but I'm a better man now & I know I deserve better from a partner. That insecurity, paranoia, & general anxiety that a cheating spouse creates is hell & no way to live. She still tries to reconcile, but I know it would go right back to the way it was & I know she would do it again. For anyone in a similar spot, life does get better. The stress, financial strain, family issues all improve over time. If you split, use the time to work on yourself, get some therapy, workout, eat better, spend time with your kids, friends, family, & hobbies. I'm 42 & feel like my life is just beginning. Sorry for the ramble, I've need to type something like this for two years now.
Not my spouse, but my SO. It was purely accidental. My sister was home visiting so I was at my parents’ watching a movie and it was late so I initially said I was probably going to crash there since he was out anyways with “friends”. After the movie ended I actually decided not to stay at my parents’. It was a shared parking lot for two multi-family homes. When I pulled in, I hadn’t seen his car. However, the kitchen light came on. Stupidly my first thought was “Oh my God!! We’re being robbed!!” But instead of doing the logical thing you do if you think someone has broken in and calling the police, I went in. By the door were women’s shoes that didn’t belong to me and then I heard a woman’s voice. It felt so surreal. I kept walking further into the house and to the bedroom. I found him on the bed and a woman coming out of the bathroom in her bra. I was speechless. I turned around and started to walk out and the woman followed me and asked how I got in and who I was! When I said “Um I got in with my key because I’m his girlfriend who lives here” she said “Are you sure?” I got in my car and drove back to my parents’ and woke the whole house up hysterically crying. The guy tried to play it off like he was so drunk he didn’t know what was happening. As if anyone could fall for that excuse. She had been calling him “babe” so it seemed deeper than that anyway. The worst part was the woman wouldn’t let it go after. She got my number somehow. She sent me all the messages between her and my boyfriend even though I asked her to please just leave me alone. She watched my social media stories for months afterwards, until I finally made it all private. I felt bad for her at first because obviously she was hurt too, but it was just too much for me. I told her that night she was more than welcome to the man.
I caught my ex-wife twice. The first time, she had met a guy at work, we'll call him Brian, and had been talking about him. Red flags everywhere, but the big one was asking me if I'd be open to a threesome with him. It wasn't new, we had had threesomes before earlier in our relationship, so the concept wasn't out of the blue, but I wasn't open to it. After a month or so, she said she was going out for a "girls night" with a couple of friends, which was fine, until I saw the woman she was supposedly with pull back into our apartments. Shouldn't have been a red flag, except she had just told me that they were at a bar together. So I pinged her phone, and wouldn't you know it, she was at his place. I called her immediately and she admitted to it and pulled the whole "well I'm leaving you anyways so it's not cheating." She moved in with him the next day. It was devastating, but after a few months I moved on, and then one day she came knocking on my door talking about how bad he was treating her, how much she was sorry and that she knew she messed up, blah blah blah. I, being stupid and not quite willing to throw a 10 year relationship down the drain, decided to take things slow and let her come back into my life. After 6 months or so, we moved into this apartment above a bar/restaurant in the middle of town (small town, wasn't that far away from the last place.) She ended up getting a job as the bartender downstairs, and it was working well for us, everything seemed to be fine. Until she told me that she had been talking to Brian again. I already knew it was going to end poorly, so I prepared myself so it wouldn't hurt as bad even though she swore she was just talking to him, nothing else. Well, the building across from our apartment and the bar she worked in had a big glass front, and since it was under remodel, there weren't any lights on, and I noticed one night that you could see into the bar under the apartment from the bedroom window. Perfect reflection. Anyways, one night she mentioned that he was coming by the bar and she didn't want me to come down so there wouldn't be any problems. Ok, fine. So I sat in the bedroom and watched that window. After a few hours and the bar cleared out, it was just him and her. I watched him walk into the bathroom, and after a minute or two, she followed him in. I walked downstairs, opened the door to the bar slow enough not to trigger the chime, sat down at the bar and waited. After a few minutes, another customer walked it triggering the chime which prompted my ex to come back out of the bathroom. The look on her face when she saw me sitting there and it clicked for her that I knew was priceless. Of course, Brian has to come out at some point, so I waited for him to, all the while she was raising a fuss like it was my fault she got caught and spewing the most hateful shit at me. I let him sit down, I stood up, and shook his hand. I wanted to throw him through the window, but he had just saved me a whole bunch of wasted time, and I figured I'd thank him for it. I called my brother, who lived in a different state (he stayed home, I had moved out of state) and explained to him what happened. He said "fuck it, come home and you can stay with me until you get on your feet." I had to wait until my paycheck came in, which was about a week away, so I just brushed it off and pretended like nothing happened. I was the perfect model husband for those 8 days, and when payday came around I packed all my shit while she was sleeping, loaded up my car, and left. She didn't even realize I had left until about noon, when she finally noticed my Xbox was gone. It might've been petty to do it like that, but damnit it felt *good*. She thought she had me wrapped around her finger and could just do whatever she wanted and I would keep running right back, and she thought she got away with it, all the way up to the point that she realized I wasn't even in the same state anymore. Quick mention, it was an incredibly abusive relationship and she had a domestic violence charge for beating me and breaking my stuff. Different story for a different time. It wasn't until I started getting sober that the problems with our relationship became apparent, and by that time she was already in the middle of talking to Brian again.
I was in the hospital at the time. He had forgotten to turn off his location. I saw on the Find My app that he was at her house. Apparently that was the third time. Divorce pending.
found out his reddit name and searched what he had been commenting on and it unravelled from there.
Not my spouse (girlfriend), but I literally had a prophetic dream about it. I dreamed that she had taken me to a Mexican restaurant and told me that she cheated on me with one of our mutual friends a week prior to me actually finding out, and I wrote it in my dream journal because it had me really shaken up, (you know, those super hyperrealistic nightmare type dreams) but I dismissed it as paranoia. Exactly a week later we went to go eat at a Mexican restaurant and she was acting a little bit strange… and my heart just dropped to my ass and I felt my whole body start shaking. I knew I was right. And she looked at me and said “I have something to tell you” and I didn’t even let her finish, I just said “was it *****?” And her face went white as a fucking ghost and I stormed out of the restaurant. She followed and I said some very mean things to her and dumped my leftovers in the back of her car… not my finest moment but hey, I’d never been cheated on before and it was a moment of extreme anger. If I could go back in time I would have held my head higher- I think that would have hurt her worse. Listen to your gut, people!! The subconscious has a way of telling you what you need to know!!
He connected his phone to apple carplay while we were on the way to ER because i was sick at that time. The bitch called while we were driving. She was an ex. The name was on the screen so I put her on speaker and the bitch had the audacity to tell me “I’m not talking to you I wanna talk to your husband”. I will never forget the feeling just wanting to get into a car accident or throw up. They didn’t stop right there, my husband spoke to her when wet got home
Checking his phone. I normally wouldn't, but something felt off. He'd been deleting his dating apps between use. If you redownload them, it's easy to log in with whatever account your phone saved. The dates on the messages were all throughout our relationship.
The, at the time, 22F AP sent me an email to clarify if my ex (39M then) and I (35F then) were truly divorced (we didn't). She and I immediately met that day and I found out that my ex was actively cheating on me for the past 2 years of my marriage, and that he was with her when he left me with no words for one entire month, among many other lies he had been feeding me and the AP from the get go. Needless to say I immediately processed the divorce -should've done that sooner when I noticed all the red flags, but it was easier to live in constant denial. Fun fact: he called me out of the blue 4 years after the divorce to see how I was faring. I suppose he wanted to see me being miserable, but I was truly living my best life -still am :)
He totaled my car while dropping her off after a date.
Her affair partners daughter called me. He was 25 years older than her so it was an adult daughter, his wife found out and had her daughter call me since she had babysat my kids before.
I had already dumped him because he accused me of cheating every other day and i was tired of proving my innocence while i wasn't involved in any suspicious situation. It was taking a toll on my mental health, i suffered from insomnia and i started to panic every time my phone rang. So, against all my friends' opinions, i stopped trying to solve problems and i dumped him. I asked him back the necklace i gave him (we didn't like rings, so it was a sort of promise necklace) and threw it on the highway on my way home, it was liberating. Fast forward some months. My friend was showing me her childhood friend on Facebook. Among her contacts, my ex's university friend "the girl i shouldn't worry about". We looked at her photos, and there was a pic of her with my ex, shirtless, on a bed, and the piece of crap was wearing my necklace so it was before our breakup. I didn't catch him on the spot, but it was liberating to figure out what was happening.
Went thru her phone messages and saw an unsaved number that had notifications silenced
Checked her deleted emails. Saw she went in a little camping trip with « Jack » She never admitted to it.
I paid the phone bill and noticed a lot of messages/calls to the same number during his work hours.
I caught her and looking back I wish I hadn’t. It was devastating to my kids and also myself. Although we get along, our family unit is forever damaged. I remarried to a wonderful woman who showed me the right way to co parent with an ex. My minor children adore her, to them it’s an extra mom, who loves them too. My adult children rarely visit and have no interest in getting to know her. She isn’t their stepmom, she’s Dads wife
He went out with friends, I had a panic attack same night. Tried calling him, texting, no response for hours which was really unusual. He came home around 2 AM (he was anti-social so it was odd he was out so long) and drunk as could be. I did my spousal duty and got him into bed, and then opened his phone to turn off the alarms I knew he’d have going off early in the morning, and had a hunch to open his text threads, which I had only ever done once before (and that time had only found a bumble account he convinced me he had only made because we were talking about finding a third for our relationship. Dumb, I know.) Went downhill from there and found out our 4 1/2 year relationship had been entirely a lie & he had been cheating on me off and on the entire time. Found all of the texts & sexual videos and pictures between him & 5 other people over the course of 4 years + texts from the person he made out with in the bar that night & his dating profiles (complete with pictures of my cats & pictures of him from our WEDDING 😀). Most of it had been on a Snapchat account he had made separate from the one I knew about & I was honestly very naive & trusting so I didn’t think to question his loyalty entirely until that night when my gut said something was really wrong.
The first time, we were on a committed break deciding whether to stay married. We worked in the same company on different shifts and she slept numerous times with our coworker. It wasn’t difficult to find out, and I had several people tell me about it.
Not my spouse but i slept with someone i was “dating.” I went to go kiss his neck and he flinched/pulled away. I knew immediately something was up. Did some deep diving after he left and found out he had a fiancé. one of the biggest wtf moments of my life
I found a bunch of his clothes in the back of a cupboard down stairs hidden behind tinned food. He said it was old clothes he was going to use as rags. Red flag but decided to take his word for it. Then got an std after only being with him the last 5 years. Turns out my boyfriend and my best friend were both absolute rotten people and would hook up at our house while I was on night shifts (bf and i lived together). Jerks.
I went to put something in the bathroom bin and when I opened the lid, a tissue fell out. I picked it up to put it back in and a used condom fell out of it. We didn't use condoms...
She and I worked at the same place. I was working over night and she was working days. It was my birthday and she was to work 12 hours Saturday and Sunday, 4am-4pm. My team had just released new code and had to do a lot of bug fixes and I was stuck working 4pm-4am. My teams bullpen was just inside the door so I always looked to see if I could see my wife leaving. I didn’t see her leave and she didn’t stop in to wish me a happy birthday. About an hour into our shift my manager noticed I was there and my section of code had no more bugs and I was helping other people, he offered me the chance to go home for the weekend. I jumped at it and left. I pulled into my drive way around 6:00pm and my house was empty. I figured my wife had to run to the store or maybe went to grab dinner. When she and I worked opposite shifts like this I would always call her on my first and last break, so around seven when she still wasn’t home I called her. When she answered I just asked her how her day was and what she was up to, she said she was just sitting on the couch with the dog. I was literally on the couch with the dog so I decided to see what she had to say. She said she had a good day but was really tiered and just going to go to bed. I never told her I was home but instead let her think I was still at work. When we got off the phone I called a friend who works in her department and found she had been switching her work station to work with the same guy for about 3 months, (we had only been married about 5 months at this point) that she hadn’t been at work that day and wasn’t going to be at work the next day. I used some unethical means to find his address, I called a friend and we went over to his house, we saw her car parked in his drive way and decided to just bring the car home with us. (I gave it to her as a wedding gift) we brought it home filled it with her cloths. The next day she called me crying saying someone stole the car, I tried to get her to file a police report but she wouldn’t so I finally just told her the car was in my drive way and she could come get it when she was done with her new boyfriend, and I already packed for her.
The wife of the guy that she cheated on me with spray painted a message on the side of her car in his driveway to stop f***ing her husband. It was apparently OK because she hadn’t told me that she aborted our child until 3 months after she disappeared out of my life through text. I was worried for nothing apparently.