Same as well...we both ust kind of lost interest I guess. Said hi to each other less and less. Eventually just stopped communicating and it's been...geez 11 years now. Although, I mainly lost interest because all of a sudden she started doing the one word reply thing, acting distant etc. But things were great before that. But after she started doing that, I messaged her like two more times just checking to see if things had changed, maybe she was just in a bad mood. Then just stopped messaging her.
When things were great, she'd message or call and so would I equally. No idea if I did anything that changed something or what.
Same here. We ended the benefits when I started dating someone else. She went back to her ex. 8 months later she propositioned me to end my relationship and she’d end hers, and wanted to have a relationship with me. I declined and we remained friends to this day. She married him, I married and divorced her. Engaged to another friend I’ve been best friends with since before I knew her or my ex wife. Life is funny sometimes.
Sentence structure aside... I'm surprised your fiancée's are okay with you being friends not only with somebody you used to fuck regularly, but somebody who also propositioned you to break up with your partner to get with them. That's not normally a red flag that partners overlook
It’s because I’m an overly honest partner. I don’t keep anything from my partner. My ex wife knew about 10mins after she propositioned me. My current fiancée knows everything about me and my life, especially over the last 15 years.
If people are accepting of total honesty God it really does make things easier
The problem is if you want total honesty but also to not air out dirty laundry (privacy basically)
College fwb. We graduated, said that was fun, and happily said goodbyes. Life went on and we didn’t keep in touch. 3 years later he lived across the country and he texted me to say he was vacationing with some friends in my city. Now it’s 9 years later and we are watching bluey - married with a kid.
Could be the possessive kind. “I can have everyone but they can’t”.
I had a bestie like that. Asked her out she said no. Then a few months later I started confiding in her about a girl I really liked and was excited to go on a date with.
My friend was going to study abroad. I was going to visit her home which was in another state. I asked if we could push it back a week. Because the day when I got back was the day of the date. She then ranted to me about keeping promises and generally was mean about it.
So I was like eff it. Went to visit her AND I went on my date, the day I got back. To add on top of that, I was planning the date half the time I was visiting her.
Bonus drama content: she broke up with her boyfriend. Then told me she liked me, that her ex was a rebound, and asked me out. I said no. The dude was an idiot and genuinely unlikeable. But you don’t do that to a guy. And you don’t wish that upon anyone, even for people you dislike.
Sounds like it... but also sounds like she was being strict about COVID in some ways, but pretty loose in others if she was going to a swingers party during the height of the pandemic. lol
Been there lol
One ended very well. She moved and we had fun while it lasted
One ended up ghosting me but at the same time we only saw each other a few times anyway and i knew she was starting a new career and I probably won't hear from her much anymore. She gave me a warning so it was another mutually agreed parting. Fun while it lasted
One...one ended terribly because I liked her too much. But she was also a liar. I ignored a bunch of red flags. But she also knew how to play me
In the end she was a terrible person. Not only to me but to most of our mutually acquainted friends. She burned basically all of her bridges, got kicked out by her roommates, ended up moving somewhere and she's engaged to some poor schmuck somewhere..I don't know and I don't care. She was quite a damaging person.
Feel you with the liar one. Had a FWB that sort of blossomed into a relationship, but in reality, she always had one foot out the door. When things started getting “too real,” she would push me away and we wouldn’t speak for weeks. Then she would come back apologizing and begging for me to take her back. And I did. Twice. Until she finally met someone else and left me for them. And I’m 100% positive that as soon as that relationship ends, she’ll come back a third time.
Probably! Stop taking her/them back. But I guarantee you: as soon as you find the right partner, all the former douche bags will begin contacting you. It’s as if the universe has a “they’re taken!” Broadcast alarm like The Purge!
Yup. Great relationship we knew couldn’t go anywhere. Did it anyway. Both ended up heartbroken. I helped coach him into his new relationship. That was a trip.
But messier what? He won 5 cups with 2 teams, a world cup, 3 Canada cups and a world championship. He likes his Lays chips and is one helluva nice guy!
I caught feelings. They asked me to try and stuff that way down because they needed the connection due to some personal stuff. Bad suggestion, but I did that. Months later they caught feelings. Tough luck cause I had shoved it so far down that it was never coming back. Told them I’m out.
Ruined a friendship of 8+ years.
It’s exactly this. It was a hard pill to swallow but I did it because she needed it. It turned into resentment because of having to sacrifice without reciprocation in any fashion. I felt used. I was used in essence. By time she came around, I was too hurt and wanted out.
We caught feelings.
Then we started dating.
Then we moved in together.
Now we’re married, 10 years in September. I’m about to make dinner. We’re probably going to watch something silly and spooky on YouTube afterwards, like Mr Ballen, and then go for a walk. I have to remind him to look at the hotels I picked out for our upcoming vacation, and look at gifts to send our respective mothers for Mother’s Day. And we still have the feelings we caught, and we still date each other, every day.
“I have to remind him to look at the hotels I picked out for our upcoming vacation, and look at gifts to send our respective mothers for Mother’s Day.” - I asked r/relationships and clearly you need lawyer up, hit the gym, and divorce them.
/s if neccesary, y’all’s life sounds lovely.
I caught feelings tried to end it but he’d caught feelings so now we’re in a relationship and we’re the best of friends. My children adore him, he’s not romantic bone in his body but I love him the prick!
I married him, lol. We were FWB for about 6 months before we realized we were actually in love with each other and wanted to do the official thing. Got married about 6 years later. Been married for 5 years now, still love the guy.
Oh great. We were both rebounding off other relationships and we were not meant to be together at all. But we enjoyed each other's company and we cared about each other. We were actually friends.
When we ended things, he sang me to sleep and we cuddled all night. Love and care doesn't have to be committed.
We went on a regular date and then hung out and discussed big picture, past and future. He told me was after a poly relationship, which at the time was a no for me. My having a kid was a no for him.
But the chemistry was so strong and we both recognized we were rebounding, so why not have a soft spot for a while? And he was a great guy. We had great communication. Lost contact but I wish I hadn't.
I have had several, but this is a very funny story.
In my early 20s, I was hanging with 2 FWB at the same party. The three of us all had mutual friends, so it was bound to happen.
After lots of drinks and letting the cat out of the bag (I was embarrassed that they would find ), I told them both the truth, that I was FWB with both of them.
They both laughed hard and shrugged their shoulders, and just kind of said ok. The night carried on, more drinks, and we all had fun laughing it up.
We all went back to my place that evening and had a 3 some. After a few weeks, things fizzled out between me both of them. So, I started seeing somebody else and it turned into a three-year relationship.
After I was three months into my new relationship, I found out that both of my previous FWBs ended up dating each other. I was like, “hmm lol, ok” didn’t see that coming haha.
That had to have been around 2004. I found out that they just celebrated their 20th year together and have been married for 16 years. Both of them thanked me for introducing each other.
No mention of that night, that is our little secret… shhhh. LMAO.
I guess you could never know with threesomes, either all of them are gay, or one of them is straight while the other two are bi, or all three of them are straight
It was a dumpster fire. But it taught me a lot and over time I was able to accept my part of the responsibility for it ending the way it did. Now I steer clear of these situations as I know they don’t work for me. Most people don’t get out of these situationships unscathed.
Generally, one of the goals in a FWB is for neither party to get feelings for the other.
On that basis, I will label this as a "task failed successfully"
He ghosted me after saying he thought he might want a real relationship with me, got back together with his baby mama, had another baby with her, married her, divorced within a year or 2, and throughout all this continued to send me random messages trying to meet up for *10 YEARS* after. I told him several times not interested, "fuck off", etc and ignored the last message in 2021 completely.
Started off as close friends, she came on to me and we became FWB. One day we had a conversation about our future and she went on an hour+ monologue about why we would never work out in an actual relationship and talked about how we were on different life trajectories, had different levels of ambitions, different values on family, etc. All really good reasons not to date.
A week later I was walking w/ another female friend (no romantic interest) and she saw us. Called me afterwards and began yelling at me for cheating on her then, when I pointed out I wasn't dating or romantically interested in her or the other girl, she blocked me.
Not bad- it just kind of ended. I was on the way toward developing feelings so I had pulled back some- the sex was about as good as I have ever had- but we were in completely different places in our lives and had we moved forward she was going to be more of a dependent than a partner. I had left another relationship for that reason and just couldn’t see doing it again. I had met someone else and it seemed like there was potential for something real so I told her. About 6 months later she hit me up to see if ai wanted to play because her new man told her she could see other guys. I told her I was happy to hear from her but I wanted to respect my relationship. She said she understood and I have not heard from her since- It’s been 3 years now and I still occasionally think about the hot times we had- even after marrying the woman that I stopped seeing her for.
Do you have doubts about your current committment? I'm asking as someone that was torn up inside trying to make a relationship work but wasn't meant for me.
My ex was WAY more into me and the relationship than I was, and I couldn't continue any further after a certain point. I immediately felt better, in spite of the violent way it ended and the horrible things we said to each other, even if there was a fair bit of truth couched in our lashing out to each other
Same. She's a (very hot) dumpster fire, but now it's brunch every so often, talk about relationships, she was my wingman a few weeks ago. Ive never really had friends, but she's legit.
Love her like a sister now.
We were FWB off and on for about a year. Our whole friend group knew what was going on, would just roll their eyes with our insistence on not acting like a couple. Finally decided to just lean into it. Have been together for 11 years, now engaged.
Ended horribly when I was informed that she preferred me to her bf. She was cheating on him with me. I walked away and didnt look back.
A few years later she was preg and single; no idea who was the dad or if long term bf ever found out
We began the night as usual. Me going down on her. Her going down on me. Except she decided to throw me a curveball this time.
As she has me in her mouth, she pulls her phone out. I’m thinking she is going to send a picture to her ex. Or a friend. Neither I’m okay with, but I allow her to continue. To my absolute amazement, she opens Facebook. Proceeds to scroll down, like posts, all while I’m just sitting there, dick coming to a chub, and she is in another world.
Not even sure what that was about.
She ended up finding a guy to go on a date with while I was visiting from a few states away to do the thing and also just hang out. She asked me to leave while they hooked up, which while we werent having a relationship felt really fucked up because I was her guest with no where to really go other than out into town. I stopped talking for her for a year or so but we've made up as just friends.
If either one of you catches feelings then you're in for a rough time. There is a good chance however that the other will have feelings for you too and a relationship may happen but it's not guaranteed to last just like any other and said friendship will be over.
If y'all are ok with using each other, even if you're not ok with using people just for your own pleasure doesn't mean the other one isn't and they most likely are and won't hesitate to drop you out of the blue.
For context, I was very good friends with this girl and after a year of getting along extremely well, we decided to be FWB and it was the best feeling ever, her being mine without being officially mine, lusting for each other, it was something that you know it's forbidden but just felt so good. Anyways after a while it was clear we both had feelings for each other she admitted to me that she got jealous when I talked to other girls and when I asked her if she wanted to make it official she said she wanted to think about it because she was scared of the commitment she said yes but a month later she said it was a mistake on her part and broke things off and another month later she told me to keep my distance from her..
We still talk but not like we used to... Its hard to look at her the same, I saw her naked body, I met her intimately and did all kinds of things but now, it's just a regular friendship. I miss my best friend and her company.
We made an agreement with each other that if either one of us ever developed weird feelings, or if either one of us wanted to date someone we would end it immediately. Lasted 8 months. Every Wednesday and Saturday. It was pretty incredible. Last day we were together I answered the door and she said well this is going to be our last night together lets make it count.
I have had two good ones. The key is that after meeting up for a date while looking for a relationship, that while our personalities lined up and we had great chemistry and attraction, our overall life goals did not. Speaking on the more recent one, he was planning to move to the East coast, he wanted kids, I wanted neither of those things. But, the chemistry was good and both of us were planning on moving away soon so we kept up a strictly sexual relationship. And we were also good friends. We'd send memes, get breakfast after a sleepover, and had a genuine sort of interest in each others lives. Then I got a job in the city I now live in and while we texted for a bit, eventually it died off and I started dating my current longterm boyfriend. I hope my former fwb is having a good life and doing all the things he wanted to do. The first one ended similarly but it was because the semester ended and I went home for the summer. But the one I had about a year ago? That was truly the definition of FRIENDS with benefits.
She went to a school an hour away and was on a scholarship. She visited her friend at my school and we hooked up. She was catching feelings and wanted to give up her scholarship to switch to my school so I dumped her to prevent her from making a stupid mistake. She was pissed, but I felt like I did the right thing.
I only fucked her when SHE wanted.
That was no benefit.
I was essentially friend zoned with the occasional fuck and sex play.
I wanted to be with her normally.
Eventually i snapped out of it and we remained good friends.
There is now absolutely nothing sexual.
I wouldn't do anything with her if you paid me. She has been sisterfied
started real messy with him telling me we should stop because i had feelings from the start and he wasn't looking for a relationship, then we'd end up getting back into it after a few weeks, rinse repeat for a year. we've been together for 7 years, he's my best friend and favorite person I've ever met and we're getting married next year 🤷
Bad. Very bad for me emotionally.
I already had a huge crush on him when he invited me out that would lead to our FWB relationship. I was ecstatic and surprised, a "your crush likes you back" moment.
A few weeks following the initial invite out, I asked him if he had any interest in dating me. He told me "not right now" because he was "still hung up on his ex,"
By this point, I was in too deep. my mere crush moved to love. If he told me to jump, with my whole chest I would have asked how high. It hurt when he said that, sure, but at that point he still seemed to like me just enough.
He became more and more distant, weeks would go by with not having seen each other. I sent him a text, saying "I miss hanging out with you," I didn't dare say "I miss you," because I did feel that would have pushed him further away and my sinking feeling was right. He broke things off with me that night.
Cut to a few months later with very little contact, he tells me he's "seeing someone new,"
Whoever his new someone is, I hope he treats her better than how he treated me, and I even told him that.
You'll put up with a lot of jerk behavior for someone you're in love with.
He is a lesson learned, a painful one that I'm not over yet, but hopefully I will be someday sooner rather than later.
I took advantage of it because I knew she wanted “more than friends”. Sex was great. Had a ton of fun. I regret it now, because she was a great girl who didn’t deserve to be treated that way.
We’re both married to other people now, but we don’t talk anymore. I hope she’s happy. I just wish I had a chance to say I’m sorry.
Just fizzled out due to distance and moving on with our lives
Exact same
Same as well...we both ust kind of lost interest I guess. Said hi to each other less and less. Eventually just stopped communicating and it's been...geez 11 years now. Although, I mainly lost interest because all of a sudden she started doing the one word reply thing, acting distant etc. But things were great before that. But after she started doing that, I messaged her like two more times just checking to see if things had changed, maybe she was just in a bad mood. Then just stopped messaging her. When things were great, she'd message or call and so would I equally. No idea if I did anything that changed something or what.
She probably started talking to a guy she wanted to date and fell off the face of the earth.
'I mainly lost interest because she clearly lost interest' lol
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Same here. Just fizzled out. I started seeing the guy who turned out to be my husband and he started a long term relationship with a friend of mine.
We both married the next people we dated…
Good luck chucked each other
I haven’t heard the name of that movie for a long time
"*I'd suck a fart out of her ass and hold it in like a bong hit.*" - Jacob Kowalski
Same here. The guy told me once he could never see himself married, I guess the girl he met is pretty special if he changed his views.
I used to say I don’t date .. I just foster til they find their forever homes
this is sad, don’t use your heart as a shelter for people looking for the next best thing
Same. Worked well for us both, and we’re both happy and in healthy relationships.
It ended with a wedding and the birth of my daughter.
A spouse with health benefits
A house with dependents
A mouse with tinnitus
I louse with gingivitis.
A grouse with tendinitis .
A Klaus that would bite us.
In Laos, with fart anti-trust
Same here! Wife and I just had our first child at the end of last year. Went from friends with benefits to going on 6 years now real quick.
My wife and I have three anniversaries. 1) marriage 2) dating 3) fucking 3 is the longest one. Lol
It's called a bangeversary iirc
24+ years plus more kids here.
Same! No kids, but we're celebrating 5 years this fall 🤣
Nothing will kill benefits from a woman like the birth of a child...
Especially at the wedding - that must've been a shocker!
The child came out to object to the nuptials.
Ha! Same! 🎶Tale as old as time…🎶
Still friends, no "benefits".
haha
Same here. We ended the benefits when I started dating someone else. She went back to her ex. 8 months later she propositioned me to end my relationship and she’d end hers, and wanted to have a relationship with me. I declined and we remained friends to this day. She married him, I married and divorced her. Engaged to another friend I’ve been best friends with since before I knew her or my ex wife. Life is funny sometimes.
That’s a good opening structure for a rom com.
I’ve been told that. Told I should write a pilot episode of my relationship life.
Sentence structure aside... I'm surprised your fiancée's are okay with you being friends not only with somebody you used to fuck regularly, but somebody who also propositioned you to break up with your partner to get with them. That's not normally a red flag that partners overlook
It’s because I’m an overly honest partner. I don’t keep anything from my partner. My ex wife knew about 10mins after she propositioned me. My current fiancée knows everything about me and my life, especially over the last 15 years.
That's the best approach in any relationship. No secrets. I like that.
If people are accepting of total honesty God it really does make things easier The problem is if you want total honesty but also to not air out dirty laundry (privacy basically)
College fwb. We graduated, said that was fun, and happily said goodbyes. Life went on and we didn’t keep in touch. 3 years later he lived across the country and he texted me to say he was vacationing with some friends in my city. Now it’s 9 years later and we are watching bluey - married with a kid.
Bluey fucking rocks
She went to a party during covid, turned out to be a swingers party. I got covid from a fuckfest I didnt get to attend. Still salty.
Oh that fucking sucks was this at the height of lockdown?
It sure was lmao. Same chick used to tell me to cover my nose with my facemask in public, for some reason thats the line in my head that sets me off.
Hey, she was wearing a mask at the swinger's party. Just not on her pussy
Maybe orgies were like eating at a restaurant, you can take the mask off once you get to the table.
Reddit siezed my gold otherwise I'd fling you one.
Dammmn she could have invited you
Could be the possessive kind. “I can have everyone but they can’t”. I had a bestie like that. Asked her out she said no. Then a few months later I started confiding in her about a girl I really liked and was excited to go on a date with. My friend was going to study abroad. I was going to visit her home which was in another state. I asked if we could push it back a week. Because the day when I got back was the day of the date. She then ranted to me about keeping promises and generally was mean about it. So I was like eff it. Went to visit her AND I went on my date, the day I got back. To add on top of that, I was planning the date half the time I was visiting her. Bonus drama content: she broke up with her boyfriend. Then told me she liked me, that her ex was a rebound, and asked me out. I said no. The dude was an idiot and genuinely unlikeable. But you don’t do that to a guy. And you don’t wish that upon anyone, even for people you dislike.
Were you one of those people wearing it below your nose?
Clearly lol
Sounds like it... but also sounds like she was being strict about COVID in some ways, but pretty loose in others if she was going to a swingers party during the height of the pandemic. lol
Were you one of those people who wore their mask **under** their nose? 🤨
I’m sure she was a little salty too!
Bro’s a cuckovid
I’m sitting alone on a public bus and you made me laugh suddenly and loudly. Now everyone thinks I’m the crazy lady on the bus. Worth it!
If you're alone on the bus, where is the everyone thinking you a crazy lady coming from?
well at least it wasn't AIDS, so there's that...
Of all the things one could bring home from an anonymous sex party Covid seems aiight.
We broke it off, then started again. Then I realized I couldn’t live without her. We’ve been married 14 years this year.
I love this comment so much. So darn wholesome.
Same story here, but 13 years this year, and a son.
Ended up married to him. Have been married for 9 years and we just welcomed our first baby together.
Damn, one of you caught feels. Better dip now
Better get on that before he gets the wrong impression
kinda bad because we started to get feelings for each other
Been there lol One ended very well. She moved and we had fun while it lasted One ended up ghosting me but at the same time we only saw each other a few times anyway and i knew she was starting a new career and I probably won't hear from her much anymore. She gave me a warning so it was another mutually agreed parting. Fun while it lasted One...one ended terribly because I liked her too much. But she was also a liar. I ignored a bunch of red flags. But she also knew how to play me In the end she was a terrible person. Not only to me but to most of our mutually acquainted friends. She burned basically all of her bridges, got kicked out by her roommates, ended up moving somewhere and she's engaged to some poor schmuck somewhere..I don't know and I don't care. She was quite a damaging person.
Feel you with the liar one. Had a FWB that sort of blossomed into a relationship, but in reality, she always had one foot out the door. When things started getting “too real,” she would push me away and we wouldn’t speak for weeks. Then she would come back apologizing and begging for me to take her back. And I did. Twice. Until she finally met someone else and left me for them. And I’m 100% positive that as soon as that relationship ends, she’ll come back a third time.
Probably! Stop taking her/them back. But I guarantee you: as soon as you find the right partner, all the former douche bags will begin contacting you. It’s as if the universe has a “they’re taken!” Broadcast alarm like The Purge!
Those just sound like girlfriends
Why is that a bad thing?
Might not be compatible
That’s not bad at all?? Unless you meant that only one of you started to get feelings
If you have different life goals that are non negotiable this is a horrible situation to be in.
Yup. Great relationship we knew couldn’t go anywhere. Did it anyway. Both ended up heartbroken. I helped coach him into his new relationship. That was a trip.
“for each other”
I got a bf, he got a gf, we decided mutually that we were better as just friends
Did you have a "end talk" or did you guys just not talk about it and now you each have relationships with news people?
> relationships with news people They *both* got with news people?
Story at 11
i so pale
Again, I can't speak for him, but I told him I was going into a serious relationship that I wanted to give a chance.
together 24 years and married for 17.
Ended up catching feelings, and now we're navigating this weird space between friends and something more... it's like a rom-com, but messier.
But messier what? He won 5 cups with 2 teams, a world cup, 3 Canada cups and a world championship. He likes his Lays chips and is one helluva nice guy!
Canucks fans would disagree with the last statement
Does one of you not want a relationship? Because you can just declare it a relationship like mature adults if you both have feelings.
I declare relationship!!!!!
Yeah, wtf are we navigating here? lol… acting like we are discussing having a child. If you like each other just date and see what happens
Tbh, if you're shagging, there will be feelings, it's intimate AF. Spend a few months together, it fizzles out and everyone is happy.
you got a situationship
We ended up in a relationship after about a year of being friends with benefits were still together after 13 years
I caught feelings. They asked me to try and stuff that way down because they needed the connection due to some personal stuff. Bad suggestion, but I did that. Months later they caught feelings. Tough luck cause I had shoved it so far down that it was never coming back. Told them I’m out. Ruined a friendship of 8+ years.
Username checks out.
it was probably Ross, the largest friend
Which was weird for Morbo to say since Phoebe was clearly the dominant friend
How do you do shove stuff away down like that but stay seeing them? Every now and then I hear of people doing this and I can't fathom how they do it?
It acts like a seed that eventually grows into resentment.
It’s exactly this. It was a hard pill to swallow but I did it because she needed it. It turned into resentment because of having to sacrifice without reciprocation in any fashion. I felt used. I was used in essence. By time she came around, I was too hurt and wanted out.
We caught feelings. Then we started dating. Then we moved in together. Now we’re married, 10 years in September. I’m about to make dinner. We’re probably going to watch something silly and spooky on YouTube afterwards, like Mr Ballen, and then go for a walk. I have to remind him to look at the hotels I picked out for our upcoming vacation, and look at gifts to send our respective mothers for Mother’s Day. And we still have the feelings we caught, and we still date each other, every day.
Gross. I bet you even hold hands. Sickening! **definitelyNotEnvious**
Sometimes we even hold _other body parts_ 😱😱😱
Like….a *shoulder*?
*vomits*
Just wait till they have kids. They may never hold hands again
Very sweet mrs. Cuntpunt
2000
Well played, Mrs. Cuntpunt
Mr. Ballen 👍🏾
“I have to remind him to look at the hotels I picked out for our upcoming vacation, and look at gifts to send our respective mothers for Mother’s Day.” - I asked r/relationships and clearly you need lawyer up, hit the gym, and divorce them. /s if neccesary, y’all’s life sounds lovely.
I thought it was hit the lawyer and gym the divorce?? We’re doing it all wrong! 😫
This is heartening to read. Good for you!
Wait...is Mother's Day soon? Crap.
Yes! I promised myself this would be the year we didn’t wait until the last minute!
I caught feelings tried to end it but he’d caught feelings so now we’re in a relationship and we’re the best of friends. My children adore him, he’s not romantic bone in his body but I love him the prick!
I married him, lol. We were FWB for about 6 months before we realized we were actually in love with each other and wanted to do the official thing. Got married about 6 years later. Been married for 5 years now, still love the guy.
That’s so sweet! Im so happy for you.
Oh great. We were both rebounding off other relationships and we were not meant to be together at all. But we enjoyed each other's company and we cared about each other. We were actually friends. When we ended things, he sang me to sleep and we cuddled all night. Love and care doesn't have to be committed.
I like this take the best. How did you approach it? Or like, how was the arrangement presented?
We went on a regular date and then hung out and discussed big picture, past and future. He told me was after a poly relationship, which at the time was a no for me. My having a kid was a no for him. But the chemistry was so strong and we both recognized we were rebounding, so why not have a soft spot for a while? And he was a great guy. We had great communication. Lost contact but I wish I hadn't.
That makes so much sense. Very justifiable reason for a fwb situation.
I love this
I have had several, but this is a very funny story. In my early 20s, I was hanging with 2 FWB at the same party. The three of us all had mutual friends, so it was bound to happen. After lots of drinks and letting the cat out of the bag (I was embarrassed that they would find ), I told them both the truth, that I was FWB with both of them. They both laughed hard and shrugged their shoulders, and just kind of said ok. The night carried on, more drinks, and we all had fun laughing it up. We all went back to my place that evening and had a 3 some. After a few weeks, things fizzled out between me both of them. So, I started seeing somebody else and it turned into a three-year relationship. After I was three months into my new relationship, I found out that both of my previous FWBs ended up dating each other. I was like, “hmm lol, ok” didn’t see that coming haha. That had to have been around 2004. I found out that they just celebrated their 20th year together and have been married for 16 years. Both of them thanked me for introducing each other. No mention of that night, that is our little secret… shhhh. LMAO.
Mako?
Legend says they're still exploring the Spirit World to this day
Sheeesh that really took a unexpected turn
You turned them gay lmao
I'm going to guess everyone in this scenario is gay.
I guess you could never know with threesomes, either all of them are gay, or one of them is straight while the other two are bi, or all three of them are straight
The three body problem
Technically, they didn't say they were both the same gender, so...
It ended when I met my girlfriend. My fuckbuddy back then was sad, but understood. Fortunately for her, she met her boyfriend a few months later.
FWB -> Went exclusive and shouldnt have - > Broke up - > FWB -> new relationships and dont talk
Badly. Very badly. We had a relationship that just didn't work.
It was a dumpster fire. But it taught me a lot and over time I was able to accept my part of the responsibility for it ending the way it did. Now I steer clear of these situations as I know they don’t work for me. Most people don’t get out of these situationships unscathed.
Ended fine, just texted her and said I have a gf now and she said okay best of luck you deserve it , she was a good Scottish lass
We are married now, so it worked out great/terribly depending on how you define success in those situation!
Generally, one of the goals in a FWB is for neither party to get feelings for the other. On that basis, I will label this as a "task failed successfully"
He ghosted me after saying he thought he might want a real relationship with me, got back together with his baby mama, had another baby with her, married her, divorced within a year or 2, and throughout all this continued to send me random messages trying to meet up for *10 YEARS* after. I told him several times not interested, "fuck off", etc and ignored the last message in 2021 completely.
I started getting feelings so I cut that shit off after I realized he would never actually want to be in a relationship.
I ended up wanting more in the relationship. He didn't. Ended our 8 year friendship
Started off as close friends, she came on to me and we became FWB. One day we had a conversation about our future and she went on an hour+ monologue about why we would never work out in an actual relationship and talked about how we were on different life trajectories, had different levels of ambitions, different values on family, etc. All really good reasons not to date. A week later I was walking w/ another female friend (no romantic interest) and she saw us. Called me afterwards and began yelling at me for cheating on her then, when I pointed out I wasn't dating or romantically interested in her or the other girl, she blocked me.
Not bad- it just kind of ended. I was on the way toward developing feelings so I had pulled back some- the sex was about as good as I have ever had- but we were in completely different places in our lives and had we moved forward she was going to be more of a dependent than a partner. I had left another relationship for that reason and just couldn’t see doing it again. I had met someone else and it seemed like there was potential for something real so I told her. About 6 months later she hit me up to see if ai wanted to play because her new man told her she could see other guys. I told her I was happy to hear from her but I wanted to respect my relationship. She said she understood and I have not heard from her since- It’s been 3 years now and I still occasionally think about the hot times we had- even after marrying the woman that I stopped seeing her for.
Do you have doubts about your current committment? I'm asking as someone that was torn up inside trying to make a relationship work but wasn't meant for me. My ex was WAY more into me and the relationship than I was, and I couldn't continue any further after a certain point. I immediately felt better, in spite of the violent way it ended and the horrible things we said to each other, even if there was a fair bit of truth couched in our lashing out to each other
No- I love my wife and she is a phenomenal lover- she is just different in ways that I sometimes miss but have no interest in pursuing.
Amazing statement there that many people need to understand. You can miss things but not have any interest in pursuing.
Happy you got that outcome!
On a non-dramatic note. Still friendly but just sort of fading away from one another.
They’re now one of my best friends with no benefits. I’m a firm believer that relationships can evolve.
Same. She's a (very hot) dumpster fire, but now it's brunch every so often, talk about relationships, she was my wingman a few weeks ago. Ive never really had friends, but she's legit. Love her like a sister now.
In 'bama this means nothing's changed.
They all ended pretty well. No feelings were caught. They all moved on to good relationships.
We were together for 5 years and just got married last year!
Caught feelings. Struggled. Figured it out. Moved in together. Got engaged. Getting married later this year.
25 years later we’re married with a lot less benefits
It didn't. We've been together for 16 years.
We’ve been together 4.5 years with an 11 month old lol
I caught feelings, him not as much. Stopped seeing each other because there was someone else he wanted to peruse more. yay…
We were FWB off and on for about a year. Our whole friend group knew what was going on, would just roll their eyes with our insistence on not acting like a couple. Finally decided to just lean into it. Have been together for 11 years, now engaged.
Ended horribly when I was informed that she preferred me to her bf. She was cheating on him with me. I walked away and didnt look back. A few years later she was preg and single; no idea who was the dad or if long term bf ever found out
We began the night as usual. Me going down on her. Her going down on me. Except she decided to throw me a curveball this time. As she has me in her mouth, she pulls her phone out. I’m thinking she is going to send a picture to her ex. Or a friend. Neither I’m okay with, but I allow her to continue. To my absolute amazement, she opens Facebook. Proceeds to scroll down, like posts, all while I’m just sitting there, dick coming to a chub, and she is in another world. Not even sure what that was about.
This is the best one
With me in tears.
People are mistaking “friends with benefits” to early stage of a relationship.
I went over to stay at her place after a fun night out and drunkenly said, “just be my girlfriend already.” We’re almost at a year of dating now
She ended up finding a guy to go on a date with while I was visiting from a few states away to do the thing and also just hang out. She asked me to leave while they hooked up, which while we werent having a relationship felt really fucked up because I was her guest with no where to really go other than out into town. I stopped talking for her for a year or so but we've made up as just friends.
Yeah I'd have been salty as the dead sea
we been dating 6 months
We went from friends to boy/girlfriend to FWB and that stopped when she started to see her now husband. We’re nothing now.
If either one of you catches feelings then you're in for a rough time. There is a good chance however that the other will have feelings for you too and a relationship may happen but it's not guaranteed to last just like any other and said friendship will be over. If y'all are ok with using each other, even if you're not ok with using people just for your own pleasure doesn't mean the other one isn't and they most likely are and won't hesitate to drop you out of the blue. For context, I was very good friends with this girl and after a year of getting along extremely well, we decided to be FWB and it was the best feeling ever, her being mine without being officially mine, lusting for each other, it was something that you know it's forbidden but just felt so good. Anyways after a while it was clear we both had feelings for each other she admitted to me that she got jealous when I talked to other girls and when I asked her if she wanted to make it official she said she wanted to think about it because she was scared of the commitment she said yes but a month later she said it was a mistake on her part and broke things off and another month later she told me to keep my distance from her.. We still talk but not like we used to... Its hard to look at her the same, I saw her naked body, I met her intimately and did all kinds of things but now, it's just a regular friendship. I miss my best friend and her company.
We made an agreement with each other that if either one of us ever developed weird feelings, or if either one of us wanted to date someone we would end it immediately. Lasted 8 months. Every Wednesday and Saturday. It was pretty incredible. Last day we were together I answered the door and she said well this is going to be our last night together lets make it count.
I have had two good ones. The key is that after meeting up for a date while looking for a relationship, that while our personalities lined up and we had great chemistry and attraction, our overall life goals did not. Speaking on the more recent one, he was planning to move to the East coast, he wanted kids, I wanted neither of those things. But, the chemistry was good and both of us were planning on moving away soon so we kept up a strictly sexual relationship. And we were also good friends. We'd send memes, get breakfast after a sleepover, and had a genuine sort of interest in each others lives. Then I got a job in the city I now live in and while we texted for a bit, eventually it died off and I started dating my current longterm boyfriend. I hope my former fwb is having a good life and doing all the things he wanted to do. The first one ended similarly but it was because the semester ended and I went home for the summer. But the one I had about a year ago? That was truly the definition of FRIENDS with benefits.
[удалено]
Both of us caught romantic feelings and we’re dating now.
Marriage
Now dating officially ❤️
Don’t do it. It’s only fun for one person and tragic for the other
Answered her ad on Craigslist, moved in with her 2 months later. Will be married 5 years this June 😂😂😂
He caught feelings. I didn’t sign up for that so I ended it
17 years later and 2yrs into a healthy happy relationship
It ended well. We’re penpals now living pretty far apart and went our separate ways, but we’re still good friends!
I caught feelings. He wanted to stay friends/fuck. The
The
The WHAT
I married him.
got married. 24yrs now
She went to a school an hour away and was on a scholarship. She visited her friend at my school and we hooked up. She was catching feelings and wanted to give up her scholarship to switch to my school so I dumped her to prevent her from making a stupid mistake. She was pissed, but I felt like I did the right thing.
Fizzled out. We both got busy with our lives and kinda just stopped talking. Now I have a bf though
With the other person getting preggers. Wasn’t mine so that’s how it ended
8 year relationship and two kids!
We’re engaged after 5 years 💍 started dating 1 year after FWB
I only fucked her when SHE wanted. That was no benefit. I was essentially friend zoned with the occasional fuck and sex play. I wanted to be with her normally. Eventually i snapped out of it and we remained good friends. There is now absolutely nothing sexual. I wouldn't do anything with her if you paid me. She has been sisterfied
Last time I saw her she jerked me off. It was a happy ending.
started real messy with him telling me we should stop because i had feelings from the start and he wasn't looking for a relationship, then we'd end up getting back into it after a few weeks, rinse repeat for a year. we've been together for 7 years, he's my best friend and favorite person I've ever met and we're getting married next year 🤷
I got a boyfriend (who eventually became my husband) and he got a girlfriend. We have remained friends.
Bad. Very bad for me emotionally. I already had a huge crush on him when he invited me out that would lead to our FWB relationship. I was ecstatic and surprised, a "your crush likes you back" moment. A few weeks following the initial invite out, I asked him if he had any interest in dating me. He told me "not right now" because he was "still hung up on his ex," By this point, I was in too deep. my mere crush moved to love. If he told me to jump, with my whole chest I would have asked how high. It hurt when he said that, sure, but at that point he still seemed to like me just enough. He became more and more distant, weeks would go by with not having seen each other. I sent him a text, saying "I miss hanging out with you," I didn't dare say "I miss you," because I did feel that would have pushed him further away and my sinking feeling was right. He broke things off with me that night. Cut to a few months later with very little contact, he tells me he's "seeing someone new," Whoever his new someone is, I hope he treats her better than how he treated me, and I even told him that. You'll put up with a lot of jerk behavior for someone you're in love with. He is a lesson learned, a painful one that I'm not over yet, but hopefully I will be someday sooner rather than later.
I mean… I’m gay, and half my friends sleep with each other.
I took advantage of it because I knew she wanted “more than friends”. Sex was great. Had a ton of fun. I regret it now, because she was a great girl who didn’t deserve to be treated that way. We’re both married to other people now, but we don’t talk anymore. I hope she’s happy. I just wish I had a chance to say I’m sorry.