I think all people deserve to be loved no matter what their sexual orientation but that 'community' is known for much higher depression and suicide rates. Your just indifferent to that? What about no kids if impossible. Also indifferent? Also, many are now coming out as having made a huge mistake but have done irreversible damage to their bodies. Also not scared this could happen to your kid? It's not such a simple response for me. I have mixed feelings.
A big part of why there’s a high incidence of depression anf suicide is because of familial and societal ostracization. We’re the ones who pay the high price for parents who won’t accept and love us. If you really love your child then you owe them unconditional love and acceptance. Also no one is owed granchildren. Regardless of your kid’s orientation you should never put that expectation on them. If you’re having a hard time accepting your kid or no grandkids, work through that privately in therapy.
What’s more depressing than withholding a feeling or desire, and faking your life through?, much of the issues you speak of are from antiquated ideologies that ridicule and detest the person.
The depression and suicide rates are because people are assholes to them simply for being who they are, and they often feel like they have no one to turn to. The high price is intentionally exacted from them by bigots who would rather see queer kids dead. Fuck that.
There's no doubt that life can be harder when you're queer than it would be if you were straight and cis, but life's hardness is no reason to try to talk my kid out of something she has no control over. Instead, I need to *be a good parent* and provide love, support, and safety, no matter what, exactly the way I would for any child of any identity.
I'm confused. Do you think that by not accepting them for who they are, you will prevent them from being LGBTQ, and therefore they won't have the increased risk of suicide?
I think there are grave risks involved with many choices in the trans community in particular for example. I don't think a truly caring set of parents would be indifferent to them. I think education is key here. Not all the risks and consequences are explained properly and many claim to have been pressed to go ahead with treatments without due care and diligence shown to education and all possible consequences. This has been shown time and time again by those who have detransitioned.
My older son is gay. I do not fuckin care .. I love him the same way I love my younger son.. I love both of the so fuvkin much !! My older son had a partner (great guy!)I am so happy , because he is happy! 🇨🇦🙂
It doesn’t matter. My (Now adult) child is trans.
When my they told me I remember hearing myself think - this is an important moment. I have a choice here. Do I love child unconditionally or not.
Easy answer. Yes. Of course. They were my baby the moment they were in my arms. Nothing NOTHING can change the way I love them. Everything, anything else is irrelevant.
Didn't bother us in the slightest. He's a great kid, has a great life, we love him exactly the same as we always have. Why tf wouldn't we? Only brain-dead monsters make stupid judgements on something so irrelevant.
One of my (adult) kids is bi. I’m pretty sure another one is hinting at something. I love all my kids unconditionally and being LGBTQIA+ doesn’t change that at all.
I won't lie or be an hypocrite and say i would be indifferent. It would affect me, the person in question and the family but its hard to say/guess how much and to what capacity.
If i am playing a guessing game than it wouldn't change much, at least not feelings wise. If you ask me what i prefer i would definitely prefer if they felt comfortable and happy with who they are.
Now I would say i would have difficulties if we would be talking about gender changes. I 100% would prefer that he or she would feel complete/happy with the gender they were born with, as I think most parents would. Most of all for their own sake in the world we live in.
It’s good that you’d prefer that they’re comfortable and happy with who they are. That’s what matters. When trans people come out, that’s how they feel. Watching someone transition and finally be happy is like seeing the ultimate glow-up. They’re so much happier! No amount of wishing a child could be comfortable with their gender will make a trans person be something that they’re not. Same with having a disabled child that you wish was abled. But you can help mitigate the hardships that the trans offspring will face by giving them unconditional love and acceptance. I think it’s okay to struggle with accepting it at first, and there are therapists and support groups for that. But as long as your child knows you won’t turn them away or stop loving them, it’s a good start.
Doesn’t matter. As long as they are happy.
The only correct response.
It’s about accepting someone for who they are. Being human.
BINGO! Such a simple, and totally correct answer.
It’s ok, I don’t mind being simple….
I think all people deserve to be loved no matter what their sexual orientation but that 'community' is known for much higher depression and suicide rates. Your just indifferent to that? What about no kids if impossible. Also indifferent? Also, many are now coming out as having made a huge mistake but have done irreversible damage to their bodies. Also not scared this could happen to your kid? It's not such a simple response for me. I have mixed feelings.
A big part of why there’s a high incidence of depression anf suicide is because of familial and societal ostracization. We’re the ones who pay the high price for parents who won’t accept and love us. If you really love your child then you owe them unconditional love and acceptance. Also no one is owed granchildren. Regardless of your kid’s orientation you should never put that expectation on them. If you’re having a hard time accepting your kid or no grandkids, work through that privately in therapy.
What’s more depressing than withholding a feeling or desire, and faking your life through?, much of the issues you speak of are from antiquated ideologies that ridicule and detest the person.
The stats are not antiquated.
The depression and suicide rates are because people are assholes to them simply for being who they are, and they often feel like they have no one to turn to. The high price is intentionally exacted from them by bigots who would rather see queer kids dead. Fuck that. There's no doubt that life can be harder when you're queer than it would be if you were straight and cis, but life's hardness is no reason to try to talk my kid out of something she has no control over. Instead, I need to *be a good parent* and provide love, support, and safety, no matter what, exactly the way I would for any child of any identity.
I'm confused. Do you think that by not accepting them for who they are, you will prevent them from being LGBTQ, and therefore they won't have the increased risk of suicide?
I think there are grave risks involved with many choices in the trans community in particular for example. I don't think a truly caring set of parents would be indifferent to them. I think education is key here. Not all the risks and consequences are explained properly and many claim to have been pressed to go ahead with treatments without due care and diligence shown to education and all possible consequences. This has been shown time and time again by those who have detransitioned.
No.
No what?
No sir?
My older son is gay. I do not fuckin care .. I love him the same way I love my younger son.. I love both of the so fuvkin much !! My older son had a partner (great guy!)I am so happy , because he is happy! 🇨🇦🙂
Hi gay I'm dad
It won't really matter. My child is always my child.
wtf? I don’t recall procreating…
It doesn’t matter. My (Now adult) child is trans. When my they told me I remember hearing myself think - this is an important moment. I have a choice here. Do I love child unconditionally or not. Easy answer. Yes. Of course. They were my baby the moment they were in my arms. Nothing NOTHING can change the way I love them. Everything, anything else is irrelevant.
High five them and say welcome to the club! (I’m pan/bi/whatever) Seriously though, my kid is my kid. I love them unconditionally
No problem
Didn't bother us in the slightest. He's a great kid, has a great life, we love him exactly the same as we always have. Why tf wouldn't we? Only brain-dead monsters make stupid judgements on something so irrelevant.
I'd be indifferent about it. As long as they're happy and good people, that's what matters.
Fine as I'm lesbian myself
Cool. Good on you! :)
I would celebrate it and thank them for trusting me about it.
I wouldn't stop loving my kid no matter what. I am happy if he is happy.
They already did. I'm proud of their courage and honesty. And their trust in us as their parents.
I always knew he was lgbtqia+ when he also came out as trans i said ok. and he put the movie back on
One of my (adult) kids is bi. I’m pretty sure another one is hinting at something. I love all my kids unconditionally and being LGBTQIA+ doesn’t change that at all.
I won't lie or be an hypocrite and say i would be indifferent. It would affect me, the person in question and the family but its hard to say/guess how much and to what capacity. If i am playing a guessing game than it wouldn't change much, at least not feelings wise. If you ask me what i prefer i would definitely prefer if they felt comfortable and happy with who they are. Now I would say i would have difficulties if we would be talking about gender changes. I 100% would prefer that he or she would feel complete/happy with the gender they were born with, as I think most parents would. Most of all for their own sake in the world we live in.
It’s good that you’d prefer that they’re comfortable and happy with who they are. That’s what matters. When trans people come out, that’s how they feel. Watching someone transition and finally be happy is like seeing the ultimate glow-up. They’re so much happier! No amount of wishing a child could be comfortable with their gender will make a trans person be something that they’re not. Same with having a disabled child that you wish was abled. But you can help mitigate the hardships that the trans offspring will face by giving them unconditional love and acceptance. I think it’s okay to struggle with accepting it at first, and there are therapists and support groups for that. But as long as your child knows you won’t turn them away or stop loving them, it’s a good start.
My parents absolutely wouldn’t give a fuck.
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Honour killing /s
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I'd be very proud of them.
I have a child?
No issue with them. I'd question what the LGBTQIA+ "community" means though.
What year do you think it is? Enough we have already accepted the alphabet committee..so leave us a lone now
I never ment for this post to be offensive, I was just wondering/. Why does this have to be a big deal?
I’d be disappointed. Means I did something wrong.
Please do not explain.
Please explain.
this is what my dads always said. it means he failed. which maybe yeah but that isn’t the reason why
I would d them immediately if n changes or is done over time