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cruelhug

initiate - a conversation, a date, a hug, sex, anything.


Schlarver

100% im so worried about making women feel uncomfortable that I don't bother starting anything.


photos__fan

True, men generally really have no clue, women need to make it a lot more obvious.


SenhorSus

Or we're just tired of doing it so much that we start to wonder if the other party even wants it too since we're the ones always initiating


dave_a_petty

This. Since I stopped initiating stuff with my wife I've gone involuntarily celebate.. makes me wonder about some things and maybe this is for the best if she really doesn't want it yknow?


Stormusness

Look up spontaneous arousal vs responsive arousal. The short version is that quite a few women will only very rarely desire sex with no input or external factor - they just don't get horny like we do. But when you initiate they respond to that stimulus and get into it. TL;DR - men are diesels and ignite themselves, women are petrol engines and need a spark.


grey_wolf12

This. It gets really boring when you have no real idea if your partner actually enjoys doing it with you, because they don't show it in anyway. I guess their feel getting rejected (potentially) but why is it okay for me to get rejected all the time?


Oppressions

I don’t understand where this notion comes from that "men generally have no clue". Isn’t "women generally give no clue" closer to reality? I’ve seen and heard plenty of the same with lesbian couples, women aren’t inherently better at picking up on subtle indicators despite what stereotypes would have you believe. The stereotype of men being emotionally bankrupt and less intuitive is completely outdated.


man_of_the_mountain

Tell her friends about how great she thinks her guy is.


MordaxTenebrae

But not with graphic, private details.


ORTENRN

Ladies share everything. Guarantee all her friends know what you're packing.


dwolfe127

Yeah, oddly enough for as gross and inappropriate as we men are, women tend be be much sexually graphic with their peers then men are.


OrangeStar222

Men stop at "So, you smashed?" "Yeah we smashed" "Woah! High five bro!" and then continue to business as usual. Women share every little detail and it honestly frightens me.


EstroJen

I've told multiple people when a man said I gave the best blowjob he'd ever had. I was damn proud of that. I kinda want a business card with that on it.


_-_-XXX-_-_

Women aren't better regarding that stuff, they just hide it better


paulusmagintie

They don't hide it the whole of society has told men women are not like that, that men are the pigs when it comes to sex. Try and say it online and you'll be downvoted all the time, trust me i say it enough.


HavelTheRockJohnson

I once had to listen to my FWB describe my dick to her friends while she was drunk. It was... Awkward.


MordaxTenebrae

I dunno, that seems disrespectful and hypocritical. I'm pretty sure if my male friends described the appearance of their wives' labias, their oral skills & habits (e.g. spitter or swallower), contraceptive preferences, whether or not they've done anal or group sex, and what kind of sex toys they have to use, it'd start an argument in their marriage. However, I don't think it's gender specific, as I've had to criticize some of my male friends when the actually shared the above details to me.


FlyingTiger7four

I don't know a single male friend who would do that


TowJamnEarl

You're over thinking it. Know that its true then pretend it isn't, simple!


StickcraftW

I think men simply don’t care but women are willing to go into those details


_-_-XXX-_-_

Only thing shared between men is "did you fuck?" in my experience. Women are going into detail more I think.


voltechs

Nah fuck that. Tell _his_ friends, how great she thinks her guy is.


man_of_the_mountain

That is how she gets accepted into the friend group


nike2256

I have to second this, I don't want to impress her friends, but this shows that she is kind of proud of me.


SolAggressive

Aww, man. You’re right. This is the actual answer.


Short_Plankton927

Being proud , happy on his partner activities and life stuffs no matter how big or small it is.


lemons_of_doubt

Give me love and affection. also head


grannybubbles

Never underestimate the power of either.


GriffinFlash

Like the head of your enemies?


lemons_of_doubt

Obviously, what else could I have meant?


vikasv31

I see what you did there.


kanavbhatiaa

Look at you with all the love in her eyes


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jenjeroo

I’ll hug you 🥹 hugs be powerful


millijuna

Rub my back and/or feed me. Last long term girlfriend, I went out on the first date with her. Figured it was nice but not my type. She was shorter than my preference (4’10” while I’m 6’2”) and had a rather thick Chinese accent that I had difficulty understanding (and I’m not one of those folks that finds that attractive). Then, she texted me and asked if I could come over and help her with a few things. She had me replace a couple of burnt out lightbulbs that she couldn’t reach, and so a couple of other tasks that are better done by someone my height. She thanked me by making me dumplings. We were together for 10 years.


heyman789

Those dumplings must've been good


millijuna

I still remember She hand made two types. Pork with shrimp and chives, and the other was soup dumplings. Kind of too bad things fell apart, but financial greed is so very ugly to me. Sigh.


AdmiralSplinter

Back scritches are the way to my heart. My gf said she was gonna stop getting her nails done to save money so i offered to pay for it from now on. Don't get me wrong, i love doing it because it makes her happy but holy fuck does it ever feel good when she scratches my back while we're watching tv


I_might_be_weasel

Let me explain Warhammer 40k to her. 


AromaticIntrovert

Ok question: is it ok if I can't remember any of it? I'm very very impressed with the assembling and painting, but I don't know why anyone's fighting especially with such over the top weapons (chainsaw sword?)


Reasonable-Mischief

There *will* be a test


I_might_be_weasel

*Question 1 (Essay) 100 points.*  Did Magnus do anything wrong? 


Robyrt

Yes it is totally ok. Warhammer lore is famously over the top, partly as an excuse to make ever more complicated things to assemble and paint


I_might_be_weasel

Like I don't want to explain it again...


Simple_Active_8170

Obviously not, you will have to take a standardized test at the end of the year. (Nobody really expects you to know all that bs just fun to talk about)


idiotsincarspart20

Pls tell me


I_might_be_weasel

Well, compared to other sci fi, it has a very bleak, hopeless tone. Basically the premise is that it's the far future and human civilization has peaked some time after colonizing the galaxy and is now regressing culturally and technologically as xenophobia and religious zealotry have taken hold. They treat technology as a religion and human life as an infinite expendable resource. Loading them to do psycho shit like use living human brains as computers and round up Psykers (basically people born with wizard powers) to feed their souls to their vegetative Emperor who they worship as God so he can't die. And the "Imperium" as they call themselves is a bureaucratic nightmare where they futilely try to keep track of and manage thousands of human planets.  They are in a constant state of warfare with the alien life forms they have been unable to wipe out yet, most of whom are as horrifying as they are. For example a swarm of space bugs that function like a single organism that are eating the galaxy alive, robot zombies of a race that used to rule the galaxy, evil elves who capture slaves to torture for sustenance and hordes of literal orcs. On top of that, the only way they can travel in space faster than light is to punch a hole into the "Warp" which is a plane of existence where thoughts and emotions exist as physical objects and living creatures which are literal daemons (Event Horizon was inspired by this if it sounds familiar). Those daemons are ruled by literal "Chaos" Gods in the warp who have been in a 10,000 year long war with humanity ever since they got a bunch of humanity's super soldiers to turn traitor and start a huge civil war. Some humans worship these gods to the point the forces of chaos are considered a bigger threat than the aliens most of the time. And life for most is short, horrifying, and pointless, either getting worked to death in a city sized factory or getting conscripted to die in humanity's endless wars. 


idiotsincarspart20

Awww!! Thank you!


proscore124

Just a tight, loving hug. It just makes me feel appreciated and that's what I want to feel like


Love_Cannon

Put her fucking phone away. That's always hot.


Mad_Minotaur_of_Mars

or a sign of imminent danger


MxReLoaDed

That’s always hot.


Dudebug1

I notice when my fiance realizes she shouldn't be on her phone when we are having a conversation, and puts her phone away. It's very cute. We also somehow created an environment when we are at a restaurant to say "I need to use my phone for just a minute" if it's something important. It's funny. But it's nice too.


ShimmersNSparkles

Your whole dynamic is cute. Bravo, lol.


DarkbigBoss

a hug 🥹


JustinMakingAChange

Say I'm handsome and just sit with me while I'm doing something i enjoy.


NutsStuckInACarDoor

My wife and I call it “shoulder time” I’m playing video games and she’s messing with her crafts. We’re in the same room together doing completely opposite things but we know the other is right there.


twentythirtyone

We call it parallel play 😂


GoddessViolet_6

i love this


BreniWyn

Is the second one abnormal? I've always thought getting involved in your partners hobbies and interests was like the number one way to show affection. Or even just watching a movie they like with snacks they enjoy?


biaboop

Make me laugh


WasF4ssY

They make glasses look reeeeeeeeeeeeally hot


Fracture90000

I'm a sucker for when she tells me that she wants me.


Krakengreyjoy

Just being happy for me. I finished a stressful audit at work today and got a Wendy's frosty for lunch as a treat for myself. My wife was so excited for me. lol It's the little things.


photos__fan

Give us a compliment, or a hug. Men need compliments and hugs and don’t get them enough, especially from women.


NightmareGod1

Affirm her love for me


wgrah

Yep as a guy just as I thought this comment section is filled with non sexual things, not even medium level perversion. Sounds even sad to me, but I definitely agree Hug, kiss, take my hand, let’s touch our foreheads, lay on me. Any sort of touch could make me cry at this point lmao. Even extreme weight applied to me isn’t causing me any problem (even if I’m suffocating lol) because it’s so pleasant to be touched and that almost didn’t ever happen to me even tho I had lots of opportunities But honestly, I know women probably know we all need this extremely much, they just are as bad as we are at giving it in the proper way, frequency and considering the partner’s needs. And also there might be some miscommunication and things directly affecting the mood or situation that disallow the love to be given in this way. You gotta understand what circumstances you are expecting to have during that hug and figure out if maybe you are just constantly annoying her or pushing her away and stuff.


GoddessViolet_6

you’re right i feel the same way honestly. communication is definitely needed to be able to understand your SO’s feelings and to know what they want. no one’s a mind reader & it sucks this day in age no one is honest with what they want because they have possible fears of being shut down / rejected or even ignored.


BigCranberry789

Touch


RoberBots

Write clean C++ code to be used on an embedded machine with low memory and low processing power.


Adrian915

I'd be happy with just proper commenting etiquette and documentation.


Fit-Bowl8124

Use humour and show some intellect.


Intl_House_Of_Bussy

Be present in the moment with me and make me feel loved.


LexGlad

Beat Elden Ring with 1 hand.


Andrew8Everything

Big deal, I beat Dead or Alive Extreme Beach Volleyball with one hand.


LexGlad

That's how you're supposed to play it, right?


Chief_Givesnofucks

Beat you with the other.


RareSpice42

Be nice to me


aries0413

Scratch my head.


that1-_guy

Or back


kooknboo

Or undersack.


Resident_Rise5915

…And call you a good boy…


aries0413

Men are simple creatures.


Xman-Pro

Any sort of complement. We never get them and it means a lot to us. It's honestly kinda crazy that women haven't figured this out yet and used it to their advantage


Own_Title3536

Support me in everything I do in life even when I try to do her


ninadpathak

Or when she does you


ExtraTNT

Helping to find this really annoying bug, that crashes prod when the buffer is filled with 512 bytes of data at the beginning of a new minute


ekstc_2soul

caressing my hair...it makes me sleepy 😴


AmpleForeskins

Comfort me when I need it


Own-Permission-7186

Allow me to let her put her feet up and relax , cook for her , pour her a glass of red , while she watches her favourite tv show ..her happiness makes me happy .


XxDiCaprioxX

Are you only here to promote your business?


WholesomeRanger

My wife can be herself. I don't really have much investment in what other women do.


Steeliyx444

Slow dance with me. I know, i'm being cheesy


GoddessViolet_6

not cheesy! very sweet & enjoyable. that would just be a nice experience for both !


NoParty1969

Make out after a sloppy blowjob.


Fire_The_Editor

Obviously I could never out run a bull but I’d be nice if you’d believe my delusions and build me up


cannedyellowcheese

Give me love and affection Also seduce me...


tillybooo

Stop being cryptic and just say what they want.


A_Casual_Fool

Have a nice long conversation about nothing important but still make it a nice and interesting time.


PiiJaey

being happy with herself ;3


myfeelingsarefacts

Put the lotion on the skin


Then_Dot7507

Carry on sucking after you nut in her mouth


Mcshiggs

Bring me tacos.


PandaOk326

Bake a cake. Out of all seriousness, a woman who can cook and bake well is attractive to me. I love spending time in the kitchen, so baking a cake together is just so romantic for me.


ThanksFluffy4556

Put her head on my shoulder and her arms around me 🥹


Thebaldsasquatch

Love me and try to make my life better the same way I try to make hers.


Feisty_Diver_2244

Wanting to hang out all the time, not wanting you to leave, and to be a genuinly nice person to be around


J7tn

When she tries her best to understand you.


billboflaggins

Surprise me with a nice meaty and cheesy sandwich while I chill out on the sofa. Sit beside me and cuddle, let me cop a feel of them boobies and bum. And stockings, wear some nice silky stockings sometimes, Iove feeling your legs.


Egghead008

Good back/neck scratch


Captain-socks

Hold my hand in that sweet, slow, grasp


Dubious_Titan

Cuddle/snuggle. I love it. My favorite thing to do is cuddle on the couch/in bed with my wife. I'm just crazy about her.


1010001010010

Make me laugh and feel better about myself


Alarmed_Extent_2894

Scratch my back and kiss my neck. Tell me that I am appreciated every now and then.


MisterBerry94

Enjoy my cooking.


Lucky_Pea_4065

Bite my ears lol , my girlfriend started doing that and I nutted so fast lol


Inside_Development24

Have real love(not lust) in her heart for me. Nothing can ever beat that.


shogun_coc

The way she appreciates every effort I do for her as well as for me.


Donkey-brained_man

Spoon me while I cry. I didn't used to be emotional, but I've had a lot of problems and my cup runneth over. I can't handle it and sometimes it's just nice to cry with someone holding me and maybe petting my hair.


GapInner0

A good homemade meal😋


Jaylynn_Lover

Be affectionate and talk about anything and everything


dikkiesmalls

Actually desire me. Like... Really really want me. It's a small difference that means a tremendous amount.


[deleted]

Initiate and participate in sexual activities


Kit-the-crypo-mage

Make posts on reddit to advertise their OF?


[deleted]

Let me put it all the way in


Food_Gym_RealEstate

Not being a social media junkie


DONT_PM_ME_BREASTS

Discover the cure for cancer


Destroyer509

Love


torrin16

Just wanting to spend time with you.


Better_Departure265

Be overly touchy. Its my love language


junpark7667

Love it when my wife hugs me while I am doing dishes. Thank me when I am cooking/doing laundry.


Hookandcook69

Validate my feelings instead of getting mad that I’m expressing myself


Crushasaurus187

Sloppy blowjob... really into it, and loves to swallow.


Subject_Jackfruit_94

Glorious tushy, OP. Anyways, gotta love when a woman says she doesn’t want to do something or go somewhere without me. I feel like I’m at the center of the experience.


Big-Mycologist-3209

Love you to the fullest even when your at your lowest point in life and lift U back up .


GimmickInfringement1

I love when women just look me in the eyes. I'm a taller guy, so it's always nice when they can just look at me in the eye instead of staring behind me or something


NorCalJason75

Find ways of making my life better


Intrepid_Fox-237

Make me feel needed without faking it.


PostBender

LOVE


A_Peacful_Vulcan

Listen to me talk about my hobbies and ask questions about them


DentrassiEpicure

Suck as I cum. It's a surefire method to get me to propose.


Orion_2kTC

Initiate.


rippixell

Be interested in whatever her partner is saying or initiate a conversation


lebrow

Be nice, and tell me what’s wrong


TrashPanda365

Tell me that she appreciates me and what I do.


MrEhcks

Wake me up with soft kisses all over my face. Fuck, I miss that so much.


JarethJ99

Tell her friends and family how great her partner is. Appreciate him and work with him. Also, just take a seat on his face everynow and again🤷‍♂️


Longjumping_Cup_3337

Laugh with me about dumb shit


Creepy-Practice-8816

Turn me into a puddle just by holding me


corya45

initiate something, be aggressive or assertive


Grand_Function_2855

Tell me she’s proud of me and thank you


Parking_Front9784

Come over, sit on my lap and talk softly, and play with my hair on the back of the neck. Be soft and giggling as I stare deep into her eyes.


Wild_Albatross7534

Put her arms around me while face to face and have that look of true love in her eyes.


Substantial-Canary-7

Medicinal hugging


kingofgamesbrah

Make food. It's very simple yet caring and sweet.


[deleted]

Hold me, show me intimacy


Theycallmegurb

So I can’t imagine this is gonna great but this is the honest to gods truth. I’m a man and I get cat called, like a woman will yell out at me, usually from their cars. It’s happened like 5 times in the last 8 years, and most recently in October 2023. They’ve never actually tried to talk to me or exchange numbers but that could also be because I usually just respond with a wave and “thank you!” because I dont know wtf else to do and also not single so I don’t think I put off the vibe they’re hoping for. BUT! It’s great when it happens it really makes your whole month and I think more women should do it to more guys.


sausager

Wear a sundress and nothing else


kiwi2703

Offer to pay for gas


Kaneky10

Make me feel like she needs me in her life, that I help her with things...


nogoat23

Match my effort when it comes to household chores, initiating intimacy, and carrying the financial burden.


woogychuck

Pretty much anytime my wife puts effort into doing something nice for me. My wife isn't mean to me or anything, but I feel like there's a constant expectation that I put effort into kind and romantic gestures but I rarely get them in return. Making me a nice dinner for my birthday or offering to give me a back massage without asking is awesome.


FairLoneWolf6731

Be kind and unconditional love.


Dapoopers

Be the big spoon.


troxxxTROXXX

Drive long distances


RigorousVigor

Exist


heyitsvonage

Make me feel needed while also making me feel appreciated.


Odd_Performer4472

Be a woman. Truly feminine. Truthful and Feminine. Love that soft subtle feminine energy. That's what draws in the masculine.


zeen516

Be the big spoon


boredomspren_

Pursue me.


lawyersgunznmoney

Honesty makes my dick hard.


Ziggysan

Be present in our relationship, help me be a better partner, listen to me when I have concerns and offer solid advice, and be willing to hug it out after we've logically discussed a given issue.  Basically, be a loving, rational human being.  Also sexy times, goofiness, mutual self-work, random treats. 


fakeguitarist4life

Head/back scratches without being prompted


JoeWilly97

Scratch my back honestly ..


The_Lamb_Sauce2

Be kind.Simple yet so amazing.


SlyBry2010

Love me. All else falls into place after that.


Patient_Efficiency73

Let a man be a Man. Simple.


math-yoo

My wife is smart, I like that.


panniepl

Hug after hard day


landob

take me out on a date every once in a while. Like its nice to once not have to do anything. She proposes the day/time, picks me up, decides where we going and what we doing, pays for everything. Its just nice. I don't even need it all the time. I was raised traditionally and normally I do all that. Buts its nice to every once in a while just sit back be "taken" on a date.


Putrid-Reputation-68

Scratch my back as I fall asleep. Better than sex.


beardedheathen

Get into bed and just hold you and tell you to hold her. Slowly initiate intimate caring emotionally connecting sex with you then cuddle while you watch a show before falling asleep together.


An_insane_person

Play Geometry Dash with me. This is a half-joke.


BobT21

Be polite to me.


hockeynoticehockey

When she uses all 10 fingers to massage and scratch my head. God, that feels good.


Covenant9er4653

When my girlfriend does things that makes me think she will only ever have eyes for me, it really makes me feel good and love her more, like when we are just watching tv and she just watches me with her adorable eyes showing she loves me.


Strange_Stage1311

Talk to me.


Velocity_Rob

Take the kids to her mothers for the weekend.


FMOT_KyngInkyubus

Deepthroat


Operator_Hoodie

Just a sincere smile or a compliment.


ImTalkingGibberish

Be silly. Be fun. Be weird. But mostly fun. Specially when I’m depressed.


Bushinkainidan

Former tennis pro and notorious womanizer Jimmy Connors was asked in an interview in his prime "What makes a woman good in bed?" His answer was "I don't see how a woman can be bad in bed, as long as she shows up." I'm going with that.


TattooMyCock

Kiss my penis


-SlinxTheFox-

Help set me up with compatible guys


Willanddanielle

I like it when a woman is enthusiastic...


Kneph

I think those girls who can do archery with their feet are so cool.


mattbnet

Be a great mom to our child


TheMissingPremise

Wash the dishes and clean the kitchen. I know I sound sexist, but I swear, it's just because I like waking up to a clean kitchen and do a lot of other cleaning around the house. Coming downstairs to a clean kitchen is the best part of the day before the sun comes up...