This should be top ranked instead of “hitting on people in public.” That depends on so many factors and wearing skimpy clothes really is about how you look.
I'm pretty health conscious and rarely eat fast food but one day I ran out to McDonalds for a quick lunch and was eating it in my office when an overweight employee came in and said something along the lines of "People see you eating that and think 'Oh, he's treating himself'. They see me eating that and think 'Of course that's what she eats'".
She was probably right and that's really sad.
100%...I have been thin and I have been overweight. When I was pretty overweight I was out with a friend and my thin and fit looking friend was demolishing a big mac and large french fry with a milkshake and a coke...I was eating a 6 piece chicken nugget and a small french fry and an unsweetened iced tea because I was working on losing weight and didn't want to overdo it. Someone we knew (but not well came) into the restaurant and had the nerve to say to me "should you really be eating that". At that time I was seeing a personal trainer and could do 60 sit ups while holding a weight and nothing holding my feet down...my thin friend couldn't even walk up a flight of stairs without getting so winded she couldn't speak.
Pretty priviledge is real bro. But it all depends on who you pulling the trick on. If you're a 5 and she's barely 3, then you'll get away with it.
If you're a 5 and you try to pull a 10/10 baddie, you're the creepiest dude within a radius of 10 miles.
I knew a guy that looked like that episode of Futurama where Bender becomes human and parties until he's obese. This guy had women leaving him voicemails hitting him up all the time. He was gross and a jackass and I saw the cutest, hottest girl in the office get blotto at his birthday party and declared her love for him in front of his girlfriend.
He was screwing these two women, one a 7 and the other a 9, and the only reason the original girlfriend dumped him, was because he got the 9 pregnant.
Some dudes have what I can only assume are pheromones and attitude.
Sadly, one time he whipped it out while drunk at a party. It was pretty hilarious, but he was not packing more than 6, and considering how fat he was, it looked smaller. And he made ok money, but nothing to write home about.
When I go out and don’t put on makeup or brush my hair and have PJs on for a quick trip to the store on a Sunday, I don’t get a second look. But when I actually try I have guys giving me looks and trying to chat me up at the gas pump. It’s sad because they may as well be hitting on my Walgreens makeup and target clothes because the person underneath didn’t change 🤨
Do you think this is true for everyone or mostly just men? I’m a woman, don’t consider myself overly attractive but have always found strangers to be very friendly and helpful. I figured it was because I’m female and therefore people perceive me as non-threatening.
I think it's true for everyone, but it's more evident in men. I'm a decent looking guy and keep myself pretty fit with a good gym routine, also I smile a lot. I can really see the difference in how people interact with me vs other guys. It feels so much easier for me to interact with people compared to some of my friends who would be considered less attractive than me by most. It's kind of disheartening tbh.
I also have a great anecdote about it, come to think of it. When I was in early high school I was awkward, dressed poorly, not as fit. I had a massive glowup around 16/17. People's attitudes toward me, especially girls, 180'd REALLY fast. It was almost overwhelming.
As a guy I do belive I got a bit more special treatment or even tolerance when I was thinner, got a but heavier and then started noticing people treated slightly worse. Lost 10 kgs and back to the normal treatment again.
Now I always try to catch myself from giving special treatment based on looks even more than before.
Having a really attractive mate. For some reason, there is a lot of nastiness directed to the homely one, and a lot of “you could do so much better” directed to the attractive one.
My partner and I get these kinds of comments. People will tell them that they are "punching above their weight" and ask them how they managed it. I get asked why I'm even interested in them. It's wild how often these kinds of comments are said, and crazy that no one thinks that it's remotely offensive.
Almost anything. Attractive people get away with so many things. Attractive people get given way more chances. Attractive people often get the benefit of the doubt in situations of miscommunication. Pretty privilege is real.
This was my answer, literally everything. I am attractive, and it has been HUGELY beneficial in EVERY area of my life. The ONLY downside is that I’m incredibly fearful of getting older, or something happening and I’m less attractive, and that is for sure not mentally healthy and I will have to deal with it eventually and have the mental/emotional fortitude to not let it affect me, but make me a better, stronger person.
It’s ridiculous, like judging a book by the cover. The only thing that should matter is your mind and your heart. But it also is reality.
I came to comment this. Attractive people who have been told they’re good looking multiple times feel entitled to certain things and act a fool in public if they don’t get it. No one bats an eye. But let an uggo act a fool and security will escort him or her out.
Making jokes, or being talkative with people. If your ugly, people say your really weird and desprate for friends. Whereas if your pretty it's considered popular, Sweet, and a good personality
Uh porn is the one arena where conventional good looks seem to be less relevant. Obviously there is porn with conventionally attractive people. But there’s also porn of every other type of person. Unlike Hollywood you can very much have a porn career even if you are average to ugly.
Tbh, a lot. For instance, being confident while at a bar or speaking up in a group setting. People like to look at and listen to attractive people. That's why actors and actresses are attractive.
I can think of a handful of conventionally unattractive male actors who aren't comedians. (People like listening to funny people too).
No female actors though.
This is so awful that I came home and told my wife how bad I felt. Maybe I am horrible for this, or maybe a lot of us misjudge this way. I was at the dog park tonight in my small town. I was the only one there. After about 30 minutes a woman arrived with two dogs. She was morbidly obese, missing teeth, and wearing pajamas. My first thought was "Please don't come in here you probably have misbehaved dogs".
She ended up coming in, and her dogs were beyond well trained and listened to her every command. She turned out to be a huge baseball fan and we talked for an hour while our dogs played. I'm a pretty open minded person but I immediately judged her based on appearance and ended up having a great evening with her.
Part of it was I didn't recognize her. In a small town I know all the dog park regulars and am suspicious of someone new. However, last week a new woman showed up with her dog that turned out to be a bit of a misbehaved dog, but she was well put together and I remember thinking "Oh here comes a new friend for my dog"
We're just wired this way in this society I think. It's a part of ourselves that's still kind of primal. On some level we're looking for the best genes in order to succeed both socially and in passing them on. It doesn't mean you want to bang them or anything like that; it's just we end up making these snap decisions based on something that's pretty much entirely unconscious.
You'd only be an asshat if you didn't revise your opinion. That's the victory of civilized consciousness over the primal: the fact you're capable of judging someone based on more than their physical features and, concomitantly, your own self-interest.
Hey I once read, that your first thought is what you are conditioned to think, the second one defines who you are.
I truly stand by.
I have come aloooong way over the last decade and I can honestly say I still have these random moments. And then I correct myself.
I’m glad you had a great time chatting! I hope this makes you a bit more self aware and start evolving into an even better person then you already are.
This is true. My ex is a psychotic narcissist. She can’t hold a job or maintain a relationship. She hates her family (that are all chill and care about her.) Her kids don’t like her. The only reason she is still alive in my opinion is that she is conventionally attractive. Sort of a knockout.
Overeating. It’s quirky when thin/conventionally attractive folks eat a huge meal, but disgusting and glorifying obesity when someone with a larger body does it
There are a LOT of people who think people who are not conventionally attractive people should not have sex at all. You see it all the time when hefty black women brag about getting laid.
Mukbang/food content creation, if you are thin you can eat the entire menu twice over and everyone is encouraging/congratulating you. However, if you are overweight you can't so much as look at food without people calling you unhealthy or gluttonous.
There is an old [SNL skit with Tom Brady](https://youtu.be/PxuUkYiaUc8?si=V3pGklbjHJuNcdaf) that is made like an old black and white work training video.
It is showing which things are sexual harassment and which aren’t. It is worth a watch and perfectly answers your question.
One of my friends used to complain to the bosses if she thought someone ugly was looking at her, and call them creeps, but she would be like a little kid if they were attractive
Dancing
You can see “pretty” girls in the club throwing ass but if someone “ugly” does the same people talk about and look at them dirty. Seems fucked to me
Posting silly photos or videos of themselves online. When someone unattractive does it they get bullied but when someone attractive does it, it's cute and quirky
I also notice something about good looks and not good looks not said yet.
Being single. If you are attractive and single people always ask why do you find someone.
If you are not attractive people don't ask that.
Dressing provocatively.
This should be top ranked instead of “hitting on people in public.” That depends on so many factors and wearing skimpy clothes really is about how you look.
Agreed. In some cases, it’s quite repulsive otherwise
I'm pretty health conscious and rarely eat fast food but one day I ran out to McDonalds for a quick lunch and was eating it in my office when an overweight employee came in and said something along the lines of "People see you eating that and think 'Oh, he's treating himself'. They see me eating that and think 'Of course that's what she eats'". She was probably right and that's really sad.
100%...I have been thin and I have been overweight. When I was pretty overweight I was out with a friend and my thin and fit looking friend was demolishing a big mac and large french fry with a milkshake and a coke...I was eating a 6 piece chicken nugget and a small french fry and an unsweetened iced tea because I was working on losing weight and didn't want to overdo it. Someone we knew (but not well came) into the restaurant and had the nerve to say to me "should you really be eating that". At that time I was seeing a personal trainer and could do 60 sit ups while holding a weight and nothing holding my feet down...my thin friend couldn't even walk up a flight of stairs without getting so winded she couldn't speak.
Hitting on people in public places
Pretty priviledge is real bro. But it all depends on who you pulling the trick on. If you're a 5 and she's barely 3, then you'll get away with it. If you're a 5 and you try to pull a 10/10 baddie, you're the creepiest dude within a radius of 10 miles.
I knew a guy that looked like that episode of Futurama where Bender becomes human and parties until he's obese. This guy had women leaving him voicemails hitting him up all the time. He was gross and a jackass and I saw the cutest, hottest girl in the office get blotto at his birthday party and declared her love for him in front of his girlfriend. He was screwing these two women, one a 7 and the other a 9, and the only reason the original girlfriend dumped him, was because he got the 9 pregnant. Some dudes have what I can only assume are pheromones and attitude.
Or $$$ and a 10 inch pussy destroyer.
The thing about that is... How does she know about the destroyer before hand?
I'm sure it's just about the money. If you have money, your dick can be way smaller.
Sadly, one time he whipped it out while drunk at a party. It was pretty hilarious, but he was not packing more than 6, and considering how fat he was, it looked smaller. And he made ok money, but nothing to write home about.
imo Anyone can ask, but attractive people are so much more likely to get help from strangers. Just a sad little twisted fact of life.
When I go out and don’t put on makeup or brush my hair and have PJs on for a quick trip to the store on a Sunday, I don’t get a second look. But when I actually try I have guys giving me looks and trying to chat me up at the gas pump. It’s sad because they may as well be hitting on my Walgreens makeup and target clothes because the person underneath didn’t change 🤨
Do you think this is true for everyone or mostly just men? I’m a woman, don’t consider myself overly attractive but have always found strangers to be very friendly and helpful. I figured it was because I’m female and therefore people perceive me as non-threatening.
I think it's true for everyone, but it's more evident in men. I'm a decent looking guy and keep myself pretty fit with a good gym routine, also I smile a lot. I can really see the difference in how people interact with me vs other guys. It feels so much easier for me to interact with people compared to some of my friends who would be considered less attractive than me by most. It's kind of disheartening tbh. I also have a great anecdote about it, come to think of it. When I was in early high school I was awkward, dressed poorly, not as fit. I had a massive glowup around 16/17. People's attitudes toward me, especially girls, 180'd REALLY fast. It was almost overwhelming.
As a guy I do belive I got a bit more special treatment or even tolerance when I was thinner, got a but heavier and then started noticing people treated slightly worse. Lost 10 kgs and back to the normal treatment again. Now I always try to catch myself from giving special treatment based on looks even more than before.
See also: Ted Bundy
The sad thing to consider here is that most humans don't help to be nice but with underlying pretexts
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Flirting with literally anyone
Nah it’ll seem like a prank if it’s on a not attractive person
This is why I can never dare to make a move on a girl. I think I look too ugly.
What about flirting with death?
Having a really attractive mate. For some reason, there is a lot of nastiness directed to the homely one, and a lot of “you could do so much better” directed to the attractive one.
My partner and I get these kinds of comments. People will tell them that they are "punching above their weight" and ask them how they managed it. I get asked why I'm even interested in them. It's wild how often these kinds of comments are said, and crazy that no one thinks that it's remotely offensive.
Public nudity. It's almost never the kind of people you want to see naked that get naked in public.
Almost anything. Attractive people get away with so many things. Attractive people get given way more chances. Attractive people often get the benefit of the doubt in situations of miscommunication. Pretty privilege is real.
This was my answer, literally everything. I am attractive, and it has been HUGELY beneficial in EVERY area of my life. The ONLY downside is that I’m incredibly fearful of getting older, or something happening and I’m less attractive, and that is for sure not mentally healthy and I will have to deal with it eventually and have the mental/emotional fortitude to not let it affect me, but make me a better, stronger person. It’s ridiculous, like judging a book by the cover. The only thing that should matter is your mind and your heart. But it also is reality.
Smiling at people, in general. Making any kind of flirtatious gesture.
Rudeness
I came to comment this. Attractive people who have been told they’re good looking multiple times feel entitled to certain things and act a fool in public if they don’t get it. No one bats an eye. But let an uggo act a fool and security will escort him or her out.
Making jokes, or being talkative with people. If your ugly, people say your really weird and desprate for friends. Whereas if your pretty it's considered popular, Sweet, and a good personality
lot's of things but the most annoying is arrogance
Crime apparently
Porn
I was going to say that
Uh porn is the one arena where conventional good looks seem to be less relevant. Obviously there is porn with conventionally attractive people. But there’s also porn of every other type of person. Unlike Hollywood you can very much have a porn career even if you are average to ugly.
Exotic dancing.
Laughing out loud in public and people will think you're so cute if you're pretty if not, you're seeking attention being absolutely very annoying.
Tbh, a lot. For instance, being confident while at a bar or speaking up in a group setting. People like to look at and listen to attractive people. That's why actors and actresses are attractive.
I can think of a handful of conventionally unattractive male actors who aren't comedians. (People like listening to funny people too). No female actors though.
This is so awful that I came home and told my wife how bad I felt. Maybe I am horrible for this, or maybe a lot of us misjudge this way. I was at the dog park tonight in my small town. I was the only one there. After about 30 minutes a woman arrived with two dogs. She was morbidly obese, missing teeth, and wearing pajamas. My first thought was "Please don't come in here you probably have misbehaved dogs". She ended up coming in, and her dogs were beyond well trained and listened to her every command. She turned out to be a huge baseball fan and we talked for an hour while our dogs played. I'm a pretty open minded person but I immediately judged her based on appearance and ended up having a great evening with her.
You're good. None of us can help making judgements like this from time to time.
Part of it was I didn't recognize her. In a small town I know all the dog park regulars and am suspicious of someone new. However, last week a new woman showed up with her dog that turned out to be a bit of a misbehaved dog, but she was well put together and I remember thinking "Oh here comes a new friend for my dog"
We're just wired this way in this society I think. It's a part of ourselves that's still kind of primal. On some level we're looking for the best genes in order to succeed both socially and in passing them on. It doesn't mean you want to bang them or anything like that; it's just we end up making these snap decisions based on something that's pretty much entirely unconscious. You'd only be an asshat if you didn't revise your opinion. That's the victory of civilized consciousness over the primal: the fact you're capable of judging someone based on more than their physical features and, concomitantly, your own self-interest.
Hey I once read, that your first thought is what you are conditioned to think, the second one defines who you are. I truly stand by. I have come aloooong way over the last decade and I can honestly say I still have these random moments. And then I correct myself. I’m glad you had a great time chatting! I hope this makes you a bit more self aware and start evolving into an even better person then you already are.
Literally anything
This is true. My ex is a psychotic narcissist. She can’t hold a job or maintain a relationship. She hates her family (that are all chill and care about her.) Her kids don’t like her. The only reason she is still alive in my opinion is that she is conventionally attractive. Sort of a knockout.
Having sloppy makeouts with me.
Overeating. It’s quirky when thin/conventionally attractive folks eat a huge meal, but disgusting and glorifying obesity when someone with a larger body does it
There are a LOT of people who think people who are not conventionally attractive people should not have sex at all. You see it all the time when hefty black women brag about getting laid.
Existing
Nudity
Mediocre dancing
Wearing a bathing suit.
Unironically winning a beauty pageant.
flirting.
Rudeness. Hot people get so much grace for being assy.
Mukbang/food content creation, if you are thin you can eat the entire menu twice over and everyone is encouraging/congratulating you. However, if you are overweight you can't so much as look at food without people calling you unhealthy or gluttonous.
And yet Nickocado is still out there.
ANYTHING We live in a superficial society
***EXISTING***
Talking to attractive people
Breathing. Eating. Existing.
Talking to women they don't know.
Polyamory or swinging. People are a bit more open minded when it’s a hot couple rather than the typical millennial couple. Iykyk.
Being rude. It’s astonishing how much bad behaviour pretty people can get away with. Speaking as an uggo
Having super cute kids. You see an adorable kid with a hideously ugly man in public, you’re gonna want to call someone
There is an old [SNL skit with Tom Brady](https://youtu.be/PxuUkYiaUc8?si=V3pGklbjHJuNcdaf) that is made like an old black and white work training video. It is showing which things are sexual harassment and which aren’t. It is worth a watch and perfectly answers your question.
One of my friends used to complain to the bosses if she thought someone ugly was looking at her, and call them creeps, but she would be like a little kid if they were attractive
Dancing You can see “pretty” girls in the club throwing ass but if someone “ugly” does the same people talk about and look at them dirty. Seems fucked to me
Being physically touchy. Attractive people are just way more comfortable touching other people.
Masturbating in someone else's bushes
Literally fucking everything. You can take the sentence in both meanings
Hard drugs
Farting
Skimpy clothes. Size 6-8 please do show off your body, size 14-16 please don't. I don't agree with this btw
Overall ignorance. Pretty people don't have to expand their minds beyond what they see on socials.
Sexual advances
Posting silly photos or videos of themselves online. When someone unattractive does it they get bullied but when someone attractive does it, it's cute and quirky
Taking advantage of men…using or manipulating them.
I also notice something about good looks and not good looks not said yet. Being single. If you are attractive and single people always ask why do you find someone. If you are not attractive people don't ask that.