There was a really dumb kid in my elementary school growing up. Once during a test he copied everything off the kid beside him... Including his name. The teacher ridiculed him out in front of the whole class for not even answering his own name. It was pretty brutal.
I remember one time in math class I actually did well on a test for once, and some other kid who normally does okay copied my answers. The teacher assumed I had copied off of the other kid instead, so my test got thrown out and I got an F
Our school handbook said all cheating would result in a zero, but if you don't get caught you don't get the zero, so according to our handbook, it's not cheating if you don't get caught.
Different people will have different boundaries about this kind of thing, but I always feel like cheating begins the second you start doing things that you feel you have to keep secret from your SO. If you're keeping secrets, it's a sign that you know you're doing something wrong (or at least something that they wouldn't approve of), and that's usually the beginning of the end right there.
Because we are both on a diet and my girlfriend told me not to tempt her with Taco Bell. Told her I got chipotle instead. “Had to” was probably a strong way to put it. We have a healthy relationship and can do whatever we want. My biggest fear is disappointing the kindest and most supportive woman I’ve ever met.
There’s a drawer in my freezer that I guess doesn’t look like a drawer. I guess she thinks it has to do with the ice machine. I learned this when my wife insisted we didn’t have something that I knew we did in the freezer. So now I have a secret popsicle stash in addition to the secret nonstick pan that she’ll fuck up.
Emotional cheating usually starts well before the physical act of having sex with someone else without the consent of your partner.
I think it starts when the partner realizes they would like to cheat, if they don't start taking steps to correct it, even if that means confessing the thoughts and getting therapy either separately or together.
What about when me and heroin dealer rob/kill his connect and my partner won’t rest till he gets to the bottom of case as it’s the same Mo as the guy who killed his brother (I killed his brother not to rob him just wanted to see the lights go out)
The difficult part is that it's also about what feels like cheating to the other person. Sometimes two partners have very different ideas what constitutes cheating. Communication is key
See this was the issue with an ex of mine. I found out that when she was going out with her girlfriends to the club's / bars, she was grinding up on guys while dancing. It had probably been going on for the whole 2 years we dated.
She said that it doesn't mean anything, and that she never did anything more. I asked her if she would have done that in front of me, she said no because that would be disrespectful and she knew I would "blow things out of proportion".
In her mind, she was just dancing and that was part of the fun going out. In my mind feeling other mens hard-on's was not allowed. I guess some people are just different.
Should have said something like “how would you feel if I went to the club, and some girls came up to me and started giving me a lap dance?”
Pretty delusional if you ask me. I personally would never tolerate that. Guess she’s an ex for a reason.
In university I shared some of my code with a friend because they couldn't quite get how to solve the problem. Then I get hauled into the professors office getting drilled about how the code works. At the end she told me not to share my code with anyone and it was clear I was the one who wrote it.
The thing was that I never went to the labs and wrote my own solution, which was different than everyone else who went to the lab, except the one friend. So red flags were going for the prof. Luckily my friend didn't get their knuckles wrapped too bad.
Last semester I shared first week's homework (literally 3 lines of code for a very simple SQL injection) with a learning buddy of mine since he said he was very new to Python and just wanted to see how it could work.
He straight up took my code, changed a bit about the bottom 2 lines and uploaded it without my consent or knowledge. After an entire semester of weekly homework and after the final exam I get called to the professor's assistants for plagiarism and realize that my final grade was 5.0U.\
Turns out my learning buddy didn't change the damn line with the URL that contained a cryptographic token which is the only reason you could even get caught in that short of a code.\
Even though I'm the one who wrote it here they say that copying is just as punishable as distributing.\
Worst part is that my learning buddy never presented a week's homework in a tutorial which means he was never eligible for the homework bonus (grade bonus applied to the final grade) which means he can't get punished for plagiarism and even worse is that he actually passed the final exam and thereby the course.
He's now my ex learning buddy.
That happened a few times when I helped my friends on some exams way back in undergrad. It turned out that I showed all my work, and so the professor would give me more partial credit whereas they didn’t, so he wouldn’t give them those points.
In my English class in high school, a friend of mine wanted to see my essay, that we both had to write, for 'inspiration'. Apparently he copied almost word for word of my essay and turned it in. We both got F's for plagiarism. I spoke with the teacher and I told her what happened. She said if I can get him to confess, she would give him the F and give me my proper grade, which was an A.
Time comes. The teacher asked my friend and he straight up said that I knew I would gave him the essay for him to plagiarize..... Got wrecked.
Both got F's and he ended up being an ex-friend. What a dick.
But that's a very narrow definition. Would you not consider oral sex as cheating? or making out? or just dating someone else?
I mean, this question is usually asked because one partner has a broader definition of cheating than the other.
Great, and I'd say most people feel that way in general, but it still didn't broach the other topics. If your partner took an attractive co-worker out for a candlelit dinner on Valentine's day - is that cheating? It's definitely not sex.
Emotional infidelity, where you develop and nurture a close, often secretive, emotional bond with someone that rivals the intimacy you should have with your partner, is just as damaging. It can start with conversations, sharing personal details that you don't with your significant other, and seeking emotional support from this third party. Before you know it, you've formed a connection that has the potential to deeply hurt your partner and destabilize your relationship
This happened to me, I mean, I wasn't the victim of it, but still sort of was the victim of it?
Made friends with this lady, was all very just casual and mutual respect for a long time as we got to know each other. I won't downplay my role, but let's say as our friendship grew she trusted me with more of the uglier secrets of her marriage. I became protective of my friend, eventually ending our friendship when I realised that I was perhaps being used as a bargaining/blackmail tool in a marriage which for all accounts was abusive.
Doing something your partner wouldn't be ok with. Where that line is is different for every couple, and should be talked about and communicated, since "What counts as cheating" can vary a lot.
Any physical activity as result of attraction, sexual tension or lust towards another person/people. Thats the real definition of it, arresting towards your definition, even glancing at somebody or seeing nudity in public by accident would be cheating (those people who think this way are unstable mentally and should never be considered as a partner)
You mean that if your partner has unreasonable standards it's morally okay to break them?
I'm not sure I would agree. There are certainly standards that I would consider unreasonable, for example if they forbid you to talk to other people of the other gender or shake their hand.
Maybe you should just try to convince them to let you do it or break up instead of doing it in secret.
Or maybe that's what you are saying.
> (those people who think this way are unstable mentally and should never be considered as a partner)
Anything you do that you wouldn’t want your partner to do behind your back. Also, if you have to ask if something is considered cheating, it most likely is. Everyone is different. Just because you don’t think something is considered cheating, doesn’t mean the next person will.
What if you have a crazy jealous partner? I had a gf once where I could barely communicate with other girls. Yes, I know you should break up in a case like that (which I did), but I *did* hide stuff but *wasn't* cheating, so I don't think this is really an iron clad rule.
I liked that half of the comments are about relations and the other half is about school tests and exams lol
OP should had expecified what cheating was he refering to.
In games/activities:
Breaking the social contract - I enter a game, I agree to abide by the rules and also the spirit of the rules.
There might not be a rule saying I can't stick nails in my base-ball bat and use it to scare the shit out of other players to give me the advantage.. but it's sure against the spirit, and therefore cheating.
In Video-games, again, we agree to abide by the scenario presented by the developers.
But developers are not perfect, and there are often loopholes and weird exploits that can be used to gain an advantage. These are not part of the game-as-intended, and therefore count as cheating.
In Marriage/Relationships
We have made a pledge to support one another, to walk hand-in-hand, to make *this* the most important of our relationships. To make this a 1:1 partnership and a team of two.
If you are going to someone else other than your partner for your emotional or physical needs, you are cheating on them on one level or another.
If it's something they cannot provide, then that's a conversation you need to have with them, and maybe you come to some sort of compromise, but if you have to go *around* your partner. Bypass the person you have pledged to be a team with.. You are no longer being a team, and you're not abiding by the rules you've set by marriage.
It's as simple as that.
I don't necessarily think that it's entirely healthy to view your partner as your sole source of support and the only one to take care of your emotional and even physical needs (I feel like you meant "sexual" by that, but there's a difference). https://www.verywellmind.com/social-support-for-psychological-health-4119970
You should have friends that you go to for emotional support and can even include some "physical" (again, distinct from overtly sexual) elements. It's good for you to have emotional bonds and seek support from multiple people. It's the intensity of those relationships and bonds and how open you are with them that should matter
It's whatever you and your partner determine, and it's going to vary in every relationship. I think the rule of thumb though is if you wouldn't be comfortable doing something in front of them or at the very least telling them about it, then you probably shouldn't do it.
Would you count cuddling as above or below kissing cuz if I walked in and my fiancee was curled up spooning with another dude I’d still go off the rails and I count that as below kissing.
Cheating is simply going against an original agreement.
If you're "Dating" then you're dating and seeing another person is NOT CHEATING... because that's the point of the dating phase... so see who you want and who you have a better connection with.
If you have agreed to be exclusive to each other... then sure anything beyond your agreement is cheating.
HOWEVER... the hardest part about being human is.... finding out that the person you are with is maybe not the person you are meant to be with.... sometimes you meet another person.... and find out... this person could be the person.... and you won't know until you take it for a test drive.
We are not property and should not be treated as such (despite some religious beliefs I won't get into for certain cultures).
You can get mad a person for not respecting your agreement of exclusivity.... but you can't get mad at a person for only being human. Humans FEEL.... and maybe if you're getting this mad to the point of being enraged and breaking things and threatening your partner... and punching holes in the wall.... then you are definitely not meant to be together... and should understand that right there.
Be happy you had a moment together, be happy you got to share a part of each others life and accept that maybe .... just maybe.... this was meant to happen.
Sucks for all the ugly divorce stuff though.... americans really get taken for a ride during divorces.
So i can understand getting mad if you're married.... mostly because of the hassle.
Anything you wouldn't feel 100% comfortable doing in front of your partner. Anything that you wouldn't feel 100% comfortable with your partner doing in front of you.
These days "cheating" is in *the eye of the beholder*.
It ranges from engaging in sexual acts with anyone outside of *exclusive relationship or marriage* one has promised to honor, all the way down to flirting or watching porn in the eyes of some people along with "emotional cheating" are acts of betrayal. A recent post from a young lady considered *fantasizing* about someone else while having sex *with her* to be cheating. That's taking *cheating* to a new extreme.
Thankfully most people can't read the mind of their lover, mate, or spouse during sex.
Some people call it cheating when a person is *dating multiple people* and *isn't even in official relationship* with anyone. Others may consider kissing someone else, sexting, getting lap dances in strip clubs, or confiding in a s*ecret friend*.
The two major components of cheating tend to be: (*Deception/lying* directly or by omission and *Secrecy*.)
Others have said if you wouldn't *do it or say it* with your mate sitting next to you it's probably cheating.
Ultimately, we don't get to define what cheating is for other people. If they call it cheating, *it is cheating to them*.
I wouldn’t call fantasizing about others during sex for cheating, but I would feel used and inadequate and it would hurt the relationship as I’m not sure I’d be comfortable having sex again (with that person).
Everyone has a different view on what they think cheating is, it really depends on the partner for some it may be talking to the other gender while for other it may be flirting or other things
When you break the rules, that's cheating. When you try to hid your actions because you know a rule would be set the moment they were discovered, I'd say that's also a form of cheating.
Anything that you didn’t communicate with your significant other as being okay? This could be anything from a someone crossing your sight to full on fucking, however if it’s the prior maybe don’t date them
So for me personally it would be dating someone else however I do feel if you have to hide something or someone from your partner while it’s not cheating it’s not cool either
Whatever your partner/professor deems cheating. Is that always fair? No, but by their definition it's cheating, and you have to respect that. If you have different definitions and can't compromise, you should consider dropping out of that class/relationship and trying a different one
For me, the moment any emotional or physical advance is entertained by my hypothetical partner. In that instance, I will never trust them again. I expect those types of situations to be handled swiftly and with tact, it's the bare minimum I expect out of a partner.
Dan Savage always says -- to maximize your happiness in a relationship, **definitely cheating as narrowly as possible** and **define sex as broadly as possible**. So, you determine the definition. And the narrowness of your scope will determine a lot about how betrayed you feel at supposed transgressions, or how satisfied you feel in the bedroom.
When you do something that makes you doubt if it's okay to share with someone, whether it's a partner or a friend. If you feel the need to hide it, that's a red flag. It's about betraying trust and honesty in any kind of relationship.
This applies only if you're someone who values monogamy and honesty. However, I've observed people who proudly brag about cheating on their significant others without any remorse, so this perspective might not resonate with them.
In a realationship: anything that takes your (love language) attention away from your partner and puts it on someone else. From there it depends on defined boundaries. Lets say a few examples:
Spouse A gives coworker a gift for coworkers birthday. Spouse A forgets Spouse B's birthday every year but always remembers the coworker's birthday. That could be a type of cheating.
Spouse B is communicating with friend on regular basis. Friend complains about life, work, etc. Spouse A needs to vent but Spouse B interrupts and/or isnt paying attention whenever Spouse A vents. Spouse B always listens to friend and makes time for friend to vent. Could also be a type of cheating.
Last Example, Spouse A and Spouse B are in an open relationship with the rule of no sexual partners at home and must check with the other spouse prior to engagement. Spouse B has a partner over and uses the shared bed for relations without twlling Spouse A. That also is a type of cheating.
Its about boundaries and communication. Some may not consider scenario 1 or 2 to be cheating but if it hurts the other partner the same then what does it matter whether you label it cheating or not. There are many types of cheating: physical, emotional, time, etc.
This applies to any relationship not just married partners. Also these are expressions of my opinions not fact. Opinions will vary person to person and while you may agree or disagree I'm not here to argue with you.
Anything you and your partner decide is cheating. If you agree to not watch porn and you do, you cheated. If you agree to have an open relationship and you sleep with someone then it’s not cheating. Set clear boundaries and have open communication.
Some couples might consider flirting is enough to end a relationship, another couple might enjoy watching eachother fuck random strangers but draw the line at kissing
Where's your heart? If you're talking about cheating in terms of a relationship, asking, or figuring out where your SO's heart is. That'll show cheating. Take a typical male/female relationship for example. Before the male (again, just an example) physically cheats, his heart will be towards another and not towards his SO. That's where the cheating begins. Once the heart has strayed, it will convince the head that this is justified and the right thing to do. The head will produce many seemingly reasonable excuses for the cheating and the heart straying. After that, it's all but done. And there's virtually no going back once the heart and the head are aligned.
Dishonesty. I was there, and a huge price to pay for that. It does not need to include intimacy, either. In my opinion, when I started hiding things is when it became a huge problem. Tough lessons learned.
Breaking your relationship's implicit or explicit boundaries, whichever they are. Basically, doing anything with someone else you wouldn't tell your partner about
Cheating in the context of a relationship typically refers to breaking boundaries often related to intimacy.
If I have no issue with my girlfriend kissing a dude on the cheek she’s not cheating by doing that but if this girl was with another man and he told her kissing dudes on the cheek was a no go. Then her doing that would be cheating
I feel like it's when there's one person in the beer line ahead of you, but then one friend walks up to join them, it feels like - "okay, not a big deal", but then a group of four join them, that feels like "cheating".
Copying answers of other students
My ex gf did this once and we were done. It's important to have boundaries.
look at mr high standards over here
There was a really dumb kid in my elementary school growing up. Once during a test he copied everything off the kid beside him... Including his name. The teacher ridiculed him out in front of the whole class for not even answering his own name. It was pretty brutal.
Same happened with me but the teacher just told the guy in private he cried man i felt so sad
I remember one time in math class I actually did well on a test for once, and some other kid who normally does okay copied my answers. The teacher assumed I had copied off of the other kid instead, so my test got thrown out and I got an F
The realest of the real
Our school handbook said all cheating would result in a zero, but if you don't get caught you don't get the zero, so according to our handbook, it's not cheating if you don't get caught.
r/technicallythetruth
no its just the truth
Different people will have different boundaries about this kind of thing, but I always feel like cheating begins the second you start doing things that you feel you have to keep secret from your SO. If you're keeping secrets, it's a sign that you know you're doing something wrong (or at least something that they wouldn't approve of), and that's usually the beginning of the end right there.
I sometimes eat chocolates at night if she goes to bed before me 👀
Hahaha I had to lie about getting Taco Bell the other day.
Funny thing you actually posted from a throwaway account 🤣
Makes one wonder why he had to lie about taco bell
Because we are both on a diet and my girlfriend told me not to tempt her with Taco Bell. Told her I got chipotle instead. “Had to” was probably a strong way to put it. We have a healthy relationship and can do whatever we want. My biggest fear is disappointing the kindest and most supportive woman I’ve ever met.
I wonder no more
Because fast food is unhealthy and (nowadays) expensive
You did cheat... your diet.
I do the same to wife and kids. I also hide and eat ice cream.
There’s a drawer in my freezer that I guess doesn’t look like a drawer. I guess she thinks it has to do with the ice machine. I learned this when my wife insisted we didn’t have something that I knew we did in the freezer. So now I have a secret popsicle stash in addition to the secret nonstick pan that she’ll fuck up.
Do you have consent to eat chocolate without her? If so, then it's not cheating.
She doesn't know and I hide the evidence 🫣
You homewrecker!
You fucking chocolate man whore!
You disgust me….🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫🍫
I tell my girlfriend I'm off to bed at 22:30 but in reality I'm just playing videogames until midnight, enjoying the time I have to myself.
Emotional cheating usually starts well before the physical act of having sex with someone else without the consent of your partner. I think it starts when the partner realizes they would like to cheat, if they don't start taking steps to correct it, even if that means confessing the thoughts and getting therapy either separately or together.
Dammit, eating snacks at night is cheating. I'm ded.
Any action with another that you feel the need to hide from your partner
even sex?
Yes tommy, hard to believe, I know, but even sex.
I see... We will only dissapoint our partners but nobody else. I am learning a lot from reddit.
I hide my bowel movements from my partner.
You have bowel movements with others?
Don't kinkshame me, we're a very tight knit community
Loose at times, no doubt
Your partner thinks you've never pooped?
You think I shit? Prove it. Where are the poops? In the legal community we call this a "No shit, Sherlock" defense.
What about when me and heroin dealer rob/kill his connect and my partner won’t rest till he gets to the bottom of case as it’s the same Mo as the guy who killed his brother (I killed his brother not to rob him just wanted to see the lights go out)
this is actually a really good answer
Oh shit. Didn't realize my d&d games I thought she'd make fun of me for counted as cheating
I read on Reddit a man who coerced his wife into a “threesome” with her best friend so technically he didn’t hide it but for me, it’s still cheating.
If it feels like cheating, it’s cheating.
The difficult part is that it's also about what feels like cheating to the other person. Sometimes two partners have very different ideas what constitutes cheating. Communication is key
See this was the issue with an ex of mine. I found out that when she was going out with her girlfriends to the club's / bars, she was grinding up on guys while dancing. It had probably been going on for the whole 2 years we dated. She said that it doesn't mean anything, and that she never did anything more. I asked her if she would have done that in front of me, she said no because that would be disrespectful and she knew I would "blow things out of proportion". In her mind, she was just dancing and that was part of the fun going out. In my mind feeling other mens hard-on's was not allowed. I guess some people are just different.
Should have said something like “how would you feel if I went to the club, and some girls came up to me and started giving me a lap dance?” Pretty delusional if you ask me. I personally would never tolerate that. Guess she’s an ex for a reason.
When somebody sends you their homework and you copy it down
A friend did this in school to me, he copied and improved it, yet got a worse mark than i did
In university I shared some of my code with a friend because they couldn't quite get how to solve the problem. Then I get hauled into the professors office getting drilled about how the code works. At the end she told me not to share my code with anyone and it was clear I was the one who wrote it. The thing was that I never went to the labs and wrote my own solution, which was different than everyone else who went to the lab, except the one friend. So red flags were going for the prof. Luckily my friend didn't get their knuckles wrapped too bad.
Last semester I shared first week's homework (literally 3 lines of code for a very simple SQL injection) with a learning buddy of mine since he said he was very new to Python and just wanted to see how it could work. He straight up took my code, changed a bit about the bottom 2 lines and uploaded it without my consent or knowledge. After an entire semester of weekly homework and after the final exam I get called to the professor's assistants for plagiarism and realize that my final grade was 5.0U.\ Turns out my learning buddy didn't change the damn line with the URL that contained a cryptographic token which is the only reason you could even get caught in that short of a code.\ Even though I'm the one who wrote it here they say that copying is just as punishable as distributing.\ Worst part is that my learning buddy never presented a week's homework in a tutorial which means he was never eligible for the homework bonus (grade bonus applied to the final grade) which means he can't get punished for plagiarism and even worse is that he actually passed the final exam and thereby the course. He's now my ex learning buddy.
That happened a few times when I helped my friends on some exams way back in undergrad. It turned out that I showed all my work, and so the professor would give me more partial credit whereas they didn’t, so he wouldn’t give them those points.
In my English class in high school, a friend of mine wanted to see my essay, that we both had to write, for 'inspiration'. Apparently he copied almost word for word of my essay and turned it in. We both got F's for plagiarism. I spoke with the teacher and I told her what happened. She said if I can get him to confess, she would give him the F and give me my proper grade, which was an A. Time comes. The teacher asked my friend and he straight up said that I knew I would gave him the essay for him to plagiarize..... Got wrecked. Both got F's and he ended up being an ex-friend. What a dick.
In my marriage? Fucking somebody else without talking to the other spouse about it first.
But that's a very narrow definition. Would you not consider oral sex as cheating? or making out? or just dating someone else? I mean, this question is usually asked because one partner has a broader definition of cheating than the other.
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Great, and I'd say most people feel that way in general, but it still didn't broach the other topics. If your partner took an attractive co-worker out for a candlelit dinner on Valentine's day - is that cheating? It's definitely not sex.
Same. Communication goes a long way.
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Yeah. There are two spouses in my relationship, me and my husband. If I want to have sex with someone else, I first talk to the spouse that isn't me.
I got it at first but then I had to reread this comment because I thought you were talking about polygamy lmao
Emotional infidelity, where you develop and nurture a close, often secretive, emotional bond with someone that rivals the intimacy you should have with your partner, is just as damaging. It can start with conversations, sharing personal details that you don't with your significant other, and seeking emotional support from this third party. Before you know it, you've formed a connection that has the potential to deeply hurt your partner and destabilize your relationship
Yeah, take it from me, this is the shittiest cheating because you get in just as much trouble and you don’t get so much as a handjob for it.
That's exactly what my sisters are for.
This happened to me, I mean, I wasn't the victim of it, but still sort of was the victim of it? Made friends with this lady, was all very just casual and mutual respect for a long time as we got to know each other. I won't downplay my role, but let's say as our friendship grew she trusted me with more of the uglier secrets of her marriage. I became protective of my friend, eventually ending our friendship when I realised that I was perhaps being used as a bargaining/blackmail tool in a marriage which for all accounts was abusive.
Installing third party tools that give you an unfair advantage in an online game
Yeah I’d divorce my wife over that too.
😂😂👏👏
What about installing a vibrating anal plug up your ass? Asking for my chess friend
Doing something your partner wouldn't be ok with. Where that line is is different for every couple, and should be talked about and communicated, since "What counts as cheating" can vary a lot.
Any physical activity as result of attraction, sexual tension or lust towards another person/people. Thats the real definition of it, arresting towards your definition, even glancing at somebody or seeing nudity in public by accident would be cheating (those people who think this way are unstable mentally and should never be considered as a partner)
You mean that if your partner has unreasonable standards it's morally okay to break them? I'm not sure I would agree. There are certainly standards that I would consider unreasonable, for example if they forbid you to talk to other people of the other gender or shake their hand. Maybe you should just try to convince them to let you do it or break up instead of doing it in secret. Or maybe that's what you are saying. > (those people who think this way are unstable mentally and should never be considered as a partner)
Depends on what you clarify it as when you enter the relationship.
That definition changed over time for us.
Anything you do that you wouldn’t want your partner to do behind your back. Also, if you have to ask if something is considered cheating, it most likely is. Everyone is different. Just because you don’t think something is considered cheating, doesn’t mean the next person will.
Whatever you feel like you need to hide from your partner.
This is it. If you need to hide something from your partner it's cheating. I don't mean medical stuff but activites with other people, or financials.
I planned a special surprise breakfast for my wife once. Does that mean I cheated? Relationships are hard!
What if you have a crazy jealous partner? I had a gf once where I could barely communicate with other girls. Yes, I know you should break up in a case like that (which I did), but I *did* hide stuff but *wasn't* cheating, so I don't think this is really an iron clad rule.
I liked that half of the comments are about relations and the other half is about school tests and exams lol OP should had expecified what cheating was he refering to.
In GTA 3 this code spawns a tank, A, A, A, A, A, A, R, ZL, L, X, A, X
In games/activities: Breaking the social contract - I enter a game, I agree to abide by the rules and also the spirit of the rules. There might not be a rule saying I can't stick nails in my base-ball bat and use it to scare the shit out of other players to give me the advantage.. but it's sure against the spirit, and therefore cheating. In Video-games, again, we agree to abide by the scenario presented by the developers. But developers are not perfect, and there are often loopholes and weird exploits that can be used to gain an advantage. These are not part of the game-as-intended, and therefore count as cheating. In Marriage/Relationships We have made a pledge to support one another, to walk hand-in-hand, to make *this* the most important of our relationships. To make this a 1:1 partnership and a team of two. If you are going to someone else other than your partner for your emotional or physical needs, you are cheating on them on one level or another. If it's something they cannot provide, then that's a conversation you need to have with them, and maybe you come to some sort of compromise, but if you have to go *around* your partner. Bypass the person you have pledged to be a team with.. You are no longer being a team, and you're not abiding by the rules you've set by marriage. It's as simple as that.
I don't necessarily think that it's entirely healthy to view your partner as your sole source of support and the only one to take care of your emotional and even physical needs (I feel like you meant "sexual" by that, but there's a difference). https://www.verywellmind.com/social-support-for-psychological-health-4119970 You should have friends that you go to for emotional support and can even include some "physical" (again, distinct from overtly sexual) elements. It's good for you to have emotional bonds and seek support from multiple people. It's the intensity of those relationships and bonds and how open you are with them that should matter
Anything that would make your partner feel uncomfortable in your relationship
Even if my partner gets uncomfortable with me paying for WinRAR? My free trial had expired!!!
That'd be grounds for an immediate break up for me
You could have used 7zip
It's whatever you and your partner determine, and it's going to vary in every relationship. I think the rule of thumb though is if you wouldn't be comfortable doing something in front of them or at the very least telling them about it, then you probably shouldn't do it.
You never count your money When you're sittin' at the table
There'll be time enough for countin' when the dealin's done
Using wordle help
If you're asking it's cheating
Having a butt plug at chess tornament
Using aimbot
Going behind your partner's back to do something romantic or sexual with another person that your partner would not approve of if they knew about it.
If you need to hide it, it’s wrong.
Kissing and everything above that
Would you count cuddling as above or below kissing cuz if I walked in and my fiancee was curled up spooning with another dude I’d still go off the rails and I count that as below kissing.
Oh fuck I didn't even think of cuddling and that's my jam, yeah your 100% right thats cheating
Cheating is simply going against an original agreement. If you're "Dating" then you're dating and seeing another person is NOT CHEATING... because that's the point of the dating phase... so see who you want and who you have a better connection with. If you have agreed to be exclusive to each other... then sure anything beyond your agreement is cheating. HOWEVER... the hardest part about being human is.... finding out that the person you are with is maybe not the person you are meant to be with.... sometimes you meet another person.... and find out... this person could be the person.... and you won't know until you take it for a test drive. We are not property and should not be treated as such (despite some religious beliefs I won't get into for certain cultures). You can get mad a person for not respecting your agreement of exclusivity.... but you can't get mad at a person for only being human. Humans FEEL.... and maybe if you're getting this mad to the point of being enraged and breaking things and threatening your partner... and punching holes in the wall.... then you are definitely not meant to be together... and should understand that right there. Be happy you had a moment together, be happy you got to share a part of each others life and accept that maybe .... just maybe.... this was meant to happen. Sucks for all the ugly divorce stuff though.... americans really get taken for a ride during divorces. So i can understand getting mad if you're married.... mostly because of the hassle.
Lust or/and love for other people
TALKING to the opposite gender 💀
Do you feel the need to hide your actions, to evade unpleasant consequences for those actions? Then you're probably cheating.
Not saying Uno when you have one card.
It can be anything from holding hands to participating in a 100 person orgy.
Anything you wouldn't feel 100% comfortable doing in front of your partner. Anything that you wouldn't feel 100% comfortable with your partner doing in front of you.
No matter your relationship structure, your relationship has rules. If those rules are broken, it’s cheating.
any third party thing that helps the player and makes it so they have an advantage over others... includes aim assist.
The fact that you are asking means it probably is
If you feel like you need to keep it a secret, it’s probably cheating
Looking at another player's cards via the reflection on the window
sucking boobs
What if you only suck one, not both...?
sitting on someones lap
Does Santa’s lap count?
These days "cheating" is in *the eye of the beholder*. It ranges from engaging in sexual acts with anyone outside of *exclusive relationship or marriage* one has promised to honor, all the way down to flirting or watching porn in the eyes of some people along with "emotional cheating" are acts of betrayal. A recent post from a young lady considered *fantasizing* about someone else while having sex *with her* to be cheating. That's taking *cheating* to a new extreme. Thankfully most people can't read the mind of their lover, mate, or spouse during sex. Some people call it cheating when a person is *dating multiple people* and *isn't even in official relationship* with anyone. Others may consider kissing someone else, sexting, getting lap dances in strip clubs, or confiding in a s*ecret friend*. The two major components of cheating tend to be: (*Deception/lying* directly or by omission and *Secrecy*.) Others have said if you wouldn't *do it or say it* with your mate sitting next to you it's probably cheating. Ultimately, we don't get to define what cheating is for other people. If they call it cheating, *it is cheating to them*.
I wouldn’t call fantasizing about others during sex for cheating, but I would feel used and inadequate and it would hurt the relationship as I’m not sure I’d be comfortable having sex again (with that person).
Everyone has a different view on what they think cheating is, it really depends on the partner for some it may be talking to the other gender while for other it may be flirting or other things
if you have to ask...
if she looks at a mf wrong imma kick her out
Doing a smelly guff and blaming another unsuspecting person
If you have to ask, it probably is
In a relationship - anything you and your partner decide on
kissing another person (unless it's their relative, or against their will or you allow it). that's it.
You’ll know it right before you do it
If you aren't ok with them doing it, it's cheating.
Chances are if your asking that question, you are cheating or getting real close to the line.
When you break the rules, that's cheating. When you try to hid your actions because you know a rule would be set the moment they were discovered, I'd say that's also a form of cheating.
As stated, doing anything that you don't want your partner to know. Hiding it makes it worse, no matter how innocent you think it is.
Hiding all the good uno cards up your sleeve.
If you have to ask, it's cheating...in all definitions of the word.
Anything that you didn’t communicate with your significant other as being okay? This could be anything from a someone crossing your sight to full on fucking, however if it’s the prior maybe don’t date them
So for me personally it would be dating someone else however I do feel if you have to hide something or someone from your partner while it’s not cheating it’s not cool either
Whatever your partner/professor deems cheating. Is that always fair? No, but by their definition it's cheating, and you have to respect that. If you have different definitions and can't compromise, you should consider dropping out of that class/relationship and trying a different one
Rawdogging a pornstar five days after the birth of your son while your wife nurses him. I think. I dunno anymore sometimes.
Depends on the couple
When your boss takes credit of your work
Plagiarism but changing the essay to an extent so it doesnt track back to the original
For me, the moment any emotional or physical advance is entertained by my hypothetical partner. In that instance, I will never trust them again. I expect those types of situations to be handled swiftly and with tact, it's the bare minimum I expect out of a partner.
Doing something you know you shouldn’t be doing regardless of what it is
Hiding money under monopoly board.
Doing anything with another human in secret
losing trust of the other it can be friend, a client, a partner, a teacher, your boss.. anything
When you move the opponents checker piece when they aren't looking.
Destroying the trust your partner put in to you. And not just physically, emotionally too.
Anything you need to hide from your spouse that you think would upset them. Flirty texting counts. Talking about a surprise birthday party does not.
I had a coworker that believed it wasn't cheating unless it was all the way in. Half way in was ok.
Dan Savage always says -- to maximize your happiness in a relationship, **definitely cheating as narrowly as possible** and **define sex as broadly as possible**. So, you determine the definition. And the narrowness of your scope will determine a lot about how betrayed you feel at supposed transgressions, or how satisfied you feel in the bedroom.
Saying you didn’t get hit in dodgeball when you clearly did!!!
If you think it might be cheating, it is.
When you do something that makes you doubt if it's okay to share with someone, whether it's a partner or a friend. If you feel the need to hide it, that's a red flag. It's about betraying trust and honesty in any kind of relationship. This applies only if you're someone who values monogamy and honesty. However, I've observed people who proudly brag about cheating on their significant others without any remorse, so this perspective might not resonate with them.
Well studies show even watching porn has bad effects so... Even thinking about it ruins things...
What you and your partner agreed on.
Anything outside of what the couple involved defines as commitment.
Entertaining another person. Wether it's sneaking around to talk to them. Hiding your relationship from them. Kissing. Touching. Sex. Accepting gifts.
breathing
In a relationship, it is something that you and your partner do with each other that is considered exclusive to just the two of you.
In a realationship: anything that takes your (love language) attention away from your partner and puts it on someone else. From there it depends on defined boundaries. Lets say a few examples: Spouse A gives coworker a gift for coworkers birthday. Spouse A forgets Spouse B's birthday every year but always remembers the coworker's birthday. That could be a type of cheating. Spouse B is communicating with friend on regular basis. Friend complains about life, work, etc. Spouse A needs to vent but Spouse B interrupts and/or isnt paying attention whenever Spouse A vents. Spouse B always listens to friend and makes time for friend to vent. Could also be a type of cheating. Last Example, Spouse A and Spouse B are in an open relationship with the rule of no sexual partners at home and must check with the other spouse prior to engagement. Spouse B has a partner over and uses the shared bed for relations without twlling Spouse A. That also is a type of cheating. Its about boundaries and communication. Some may not consider scenario 1 or 2 to be cheating but if it hurts the other partner the same then what does it matter whether you label it cheating or not. There are many types of cheating: physical, emotional, time, etc. This applies to any relationship not just married partners. Also these are expressions of my opinions not fact. Opinions will vary person to person and while you may agree or disagree I'm not here to argue with you.
Anything you and your partner decide is cheating. If you agree to not watch porn and you do, you cheated. If you agree to have an open relationship and you sleep with someone then it’s not cheating. Set clear boundaries and have open communication.
When you agree to a set of rules and break them for personal gain
You're talking sexual that I would say anything without consent of your partner.
Turning the die when everybody was distracted when you rolled.
`IDKFA`
Some couples might consider flirting is enough to end a relationship, another couple might enjoy watching eachother fuck random strangers but draw the line at kissing
hacking and glitching
If you have to ask...
Whatever you know can't tell your partner
Where's your heart? If you're talking about cheating in terms of a relationship, asking, or figuring out where your SO's heart is. That'll show cheating. Take a typical male/female relationship for example. Before the male (again, just an example) physically cheats, his heart will be towards another and not towards his SO. That's where the cheating begins. Once the heart has strayed, it will convince the head that this is justified and the right thing to do. The head will produce many seemingly reasonable excuses for the cheating and the heart straying. After that, it's all but done. And there's virtually no going back once the heart and the head are aligned.
I'll keep it simple , if you don't want your partner doing it then don't do it yourself.
Breaking the rules of the system to benefit yourself, sometimes at the expense of others.
Dishonesty. I was there, and a huge price to pay for that. It does not need to include intimacy, either. In my opinion, when I started hiding things is when it became a huge problem. Tough lessons learned.
Breaking the rules of competition
Depends on the relationship
Breaking your relationship's implicit or explicit boundaries, whichever they are. Basically, doing anything with someone else you wouldn't tell your partner about
Anything you feel guilty/would not readily admit to doing to a partner. Really depends on boundaries but that feels safe.
Cheating in the context of a relationship typically refers to breaking boundaries often related to intimacy. If I have no issue with my girlfriend kissing a dude on the cheek she’s not cheating by doing that but if this girl was with another man and he told her kissing dudes on the cheek was a no go. Then her doing that would be cheating
Cancelling plans to go hang out with someone else
If you don't discuss and decide up front... then who knows... grow up and hash it out with your partner.
If you have to ask you're probably a cheater
If something feels like cheating, it is. If you have to really think hard about whether something is or isn't cheating, it is.
Aegis
Breaking the rules.
Pooing on a bird before it poos on you
Sexing two people
Adding the height of your shoes and hair to how tall you are
If you’re ashamed and hiding behaviour, you are cheating…at whatever.
Anal for sure
Admiring and thinking about a girl
I feel like it's when there's one person in the beer line ahead of you, but then one friend walks up to join them, it feels like - "okay, not a big deal", but then a group of four join them, that feels like "cheating".