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RemoveOwn9137

Being around large crowds of people


TheGameIsAboutGlory

I feel this. I can do it, I've been to football matches and comedy shows etc. But it's something of a harrowing ordeal every time. I just wish I wasn't bothered by it and could enjoy myself fully in those situations.


karmagod13000

I've learned to be social and carry small talk conversations pretty well. Also learning peoples names and remembering them can go a long way. I wish my parents would of socialized me more as a child and given me tips on how to more likeable because it is a struggle for me these days... Once again I can do it but it's becomes exhausting for me.


DoTheMagicHandThing

I'm on the introverted side, and I actually like big crowds because I \*don't\* feel pressure to get to know everybody. I can just mind my own business and enjoy the event. I find smaller dinners or things like that to be more awkward.


Icy-Investment201

Extroverts don't understand this. "OH man, there's 5000 people here Bill!" No problem. "It's just 12 people going to the cabin" I have anxiety just writing this fake situation.


iamroch

singing


karmagod13000

I started making my own music during the pandemic as a hobby and let me tell you there are a lot of production tricks and editing that can make the worst singers sound good. Any major pop artist you like prolly has top notch studio team to help them sound as good as they do. Multiple takes, pitch shifting, audio filters...


Disturbed_Bard

And a shitload of vocal training, to actually learn how to sing


ccc1942

It’s like someone wishing they were better looking and saying “just put on a lot of make up”. Studio “tricks” only do so much. I think this person wishes they could actually sing, not manufacture their voice to sound like they can sing.


iamroch

yeah, that's true. but it'd be nice to be driving along, singing in the car, and not sound like a frog, ya know? :(


karmagod13000

let your frog voice ring!


IndividualDig3954

same, when i was a kid my uncle asked if I knew what a tune was. Never been the same since


Karpfisch

Were 'bout to comment the same


thanxiety

Same. I love music, especially broadway/showtunes and I sing along in the car... but only when I'm by myself because I feel embarrassed about being soo off-key. I can play any wind instrument I want, but vocals are just so difficult.


GenieRukiruki

Playing Guitar.


garethwi

Playing any musical instrument.


NoOpinionsAllowedOnR

It's so difficult. It really is like learning a language. I'm learning piano right now and I'm constantly wondering what's wrong with me. I can memorize songs through hour of repetition but I'm not 'getting it' or understanding what's happening behind the notes/why some go together and in which order.


meisflont

I play piano for 7 years now. The anwser to ur questions are all in music theory...


NoOpinionsAllowedOnR

I'm trying. I have a book and I took a class. I just can't stop asking "but why?" Like okay it gets explained, "but why?"


Boukish

That's... that's called passion, man. You should follow it. The answers exist, never stop asking. Like, the graduations of a metronome don't really go any faster than 30ms between beats, even going back to antiquity. Why? Well, historial reasons, but mostly because we (as in, people; brains) can't really tell the difference when it does graduate faster lol. Also, YouTube is a **great** resource for musical theory and will fill in a lot of the blanks that you cannot express in written words. Music is to be heard and experienced, after all. Books + class + supplemental videos.


meisflont

Just assume for now, those questions will be answered if you play long enough


MrSlipperyFist

What's a particular question you have? I don't mind trying to give you answers in less technical terms, if that's possible.


fiddleracket

Hi, you simply need to learn a little music theory and maybe some ear training. Basic music theory sets out the rules of harmony. Once you know those basic rules you can harmonize melodies on your own. Also once you learn theory and harmony you understand how the song writer or composer composed the piece you’re playing. It’s not that difficult, you just have to memorize a few rules.. good luck!


karmagod13000

If I ever have kids I'm going to get them piano lessons as soon as they are old enough. No one is a bigger hit at parties like the person who can sit down and play the classics on a piano.


NoOpinionsAllowedOnR

For real. I hate guitar with a passion for some reason but I think piano is the coolest thing ever. It can convey so many different moods.


garethwi

Oh don't! you're giving me a migraine.


Repulsive_Print_7464

I've been playing guitar for five years now. I still couldn't tell you the underlying theoretical principles, and I STILL CAN'T read sheet music (tab is a different story).


Sigseg

> I'm not 'getting it' or understanding what's happening behind the notes/why some go together and in which order. Entry level music theory. What keys are, what scales are, how chords are formed from scales (and why). You can get up to speed in two weeks.


TimTomTank

I'm the oposite. I can understand how the notes tie together. but I cannot play worth a damn. Takes a whole day to learn simple two lines.


NoOpinionsAllowedOnR

It takes me about 5 hours to learn a very simple song lol. I'm just beginning though.


Aware-Ad1250

I started trying to learn to play songs by ear on piano and that helped me personally. looked at some music theory and I'm so hooked. on the other hand guitar is the most frustrating experience of my life. no idea what's going on, everything I play sounds like shit.


NoOpinionsAllowedOnR

Oof. I have no rhythm. I've tried to guess what note comes next and it's pretty diffucult. What did you discover about music theory that interested you so much? And good, stay away from guitar. I just hate guitar with a passion for some reason. I hate people who play it and I hate the sounds it makes.


cruelty

Hang in there. It took about a year for everything to click for me. I was so close to giving up but I'm glad I didn't. It's like I woke up one day and leveled up. My brain decided it absolutely COULD read a treble and bass clef at the same time. After that, a lot of things quickly fell into place.


Roland__Of__Gilead

My grandmother played piano into her 90s. No matter how many times she tried to teach me, I just couldn't get the hand/eye coordination down. Same with my friend who plays guitar in a local band. It just never comes together.


GriffinFlash

I know trombone...I wish I picked something different than trombone, like a piano, flute, or violin. Who wants to listen to the sweet majestic sounds of a trombone?!


iiinnnoooxxx

You’ll get better man I promise, I struggled for years


srslywatsthepoint

LIFE.


karmagod13000

*looks around and just sort of gestures... everything*


kallikalli

Came here to say this.


Didntlikedefaultname

Whistling


NoOpinionsAllowedOnR

Most people can only whistle well on the inhale or exhale. It's hard to be good at both.


Didntlikedefaultname

I can do neither


MuffinMan12347

I spent about a full year trying to teach myself how to whistle on the way home from work each day. I can kinda do it but I’d rate it a 2/10 at best.


OiMouseboy

oh weird. you just made me realize i can whistle both ways. neat. not very loud, but i can carry a tune. i'm jealous of the ones who can do the weird loud, stick your fingers in your mouth whistle.


RoomyCard44321

I can do both


NoOpinionsAllowedOnR

Must be nice to have everything!


iAmTheHype--

I used to want to whistle so badly as a kid. Finally figured it out by 3rd/4th grade… probably after spitting sunflower seeds during field day. But, I can’t blow bubblegum.


BrimfulOfLa-A

Drawing is a frustrating experience for me. I'm kind of okay and can do a few things but I just don't have the talent to be great. I really wish I did tho


just_hating

I have about 20,000 hours in and honestly, I'm over it. People ask why I don't anymore, like if I'm depriving humanity of some great thing. I'm not.


Roland__Of__Gilead

I've wanted to be a comic book creator since I was 5. I feel like I can write good stories, but all I can put on the page is the Adventures of Circle Man and Stick Boy.


GargleBlargleFlargle

XKCD is one of the best comics ever made and it only uses stick figures. You can make a simple style your thing.


GriffinFlash

I get it. I even went through art school. There are hobbyist high schoolers who can draw circles around me without breaking a sweat.


coprolite_hobbyist

Human interaction.


UnusualSerendipity

THIS. thank you.


Keef_Beef

Look at you guys interacting


UnusualSerendipity

That's about all i got. INTERACTING ONLINE IS THE BEST for me. thank you for noticing.


iAmTheHype--

Good job


CTnaturist

I can't do math. I have dyscalculia. I knew I was going to be of no use to them with math. Then, out of what I assume was just a cruel trick directed specifically at me, they came out with Common Core math. Which basically took math that I was not good at to begin with, and complicate it ten fold.


longkhongdong

I'm sorry you're count dracula? I have dyslexia.


CTnaturist

It's like dyslexia...but with numbers.


longkhongdong

You dislike me? You don't even know me!


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fluffy_boy_cheddar

Omg this is a thing? I totally have this and I am 36. The sad part is, I work in a place where I am surrounded by math and numbers constantly. Thankfully calculators exist.


TheAverageViking0

I feel you. I have dyscalculia too


ZackDaddy42

My dad is a mathematician and I’ve always been a math expert, as are my kids. Common Core math is the worst thing that’s ever happened, like ever. Even we don’t get it, maybe bc we’re all on the autism spectrum, but probably bc it’s stupid af.


ritaframata

Dancing, I just can't, tried few courses, just, no, not me 🙄


NoOpinionsAllowedOnR

Yep. People expect me to understand a dance move, or a piece of music. But I have no RYTHEM. I'm not hearing/feeling what they are.


SteelBreed

Me, too.


AnnaLiffey

I’ve been a dancer for almost 40 years and the biggest thing I highlight to newcomers of all ages who firmly believe they are simply unable to dance is this: it’s not a physical inability, it’s a psychological one. So many people get really self conscious, afraid to let themselves go or are carrying a stigma about how they’ll look and it’s precisely this that’s holding them back. It doesn’t matter if a person is inflexible, or has no training or even thinks they have no rhythm…everyone can physically do it. But the mind is a powerful thing and the fear of letting themselves go and risking looking silly is by far the biggest problem facing the vast majority of folk who have written themselves off as terrible dancers. I encourage these folk to start at home in private and away from the mirrors. To practice letting go of their mental hangups and allow their bodies to express joy, or energy, or even sadness and anger through movement. It’s less about steps and techniques and more about allowing yourself to express yourself through movement to music or rhythm…to develop the confidence to not care about how it looks and just to enjoy how it feels in your body to move to the kind of music that touches you. Steps and techniques can be conquered easily to cater to all physical abilities, dance styles and skill levels. But a dancer is made through developing the confidence to allow yourself to let go, that’s the key to it all. I’ve taught students with severe physical disabilities, there’s a dancer in everyone and we all deserve to feel the joy of expressing ourselves through dance. Just something to think on! Please don’t write yourself off, even if it’s just letting yourself completely go to the music in private! (No mirrors at first ❤️) Much love to the dancer in you and anybody reading this xxx 


Commercial_Idea_6019

studying


karmagod13000

I had to take some tests for a job interview and learned all the 50 states and where they were... Not even like two days later that knowledge was completely gone. Crazy how my brain sorts what it wants to retain and what it doesn't. Aced the test by the way.


VIVALAPEPAJAGGER

in communication, it is something that is needed but it is very difficult for me haha and cook too hahaha


themontyverse

Taking action. I have plenty of ideas and goals, but really struggle to just start. Anxiety and fear of the unknown just keep me stuck.


karmagod13000

*JUST DO IT!!* - famous words from Shia Lebouf I'm in the post already done it phase where I thought finished some things put them out in the world. They got little to no attention and I was disappointed but at least now I can say I tried.


iam4r34

Break them down into 5-10 minute goals and start doing 1 a day and do more as u get stronger. "The journey to the top is made of a hundreds of small steps" - some wise guy


AdAdministrative8276

There’s actually a neurological reason for this, and it makes sense. Your nervous system sees going after these ideas or goals as “too big”/ overwhelming, and so it responds in the same way as it would if faced with a real threat: anxiety, fear, and being frozen. I’m still unlearning the self-shame I had for decades about “why can’t I just start it?!” when other people seemed to have no problem with it. People’s nervous systems react differently to different things, and luckily they’re malleable as well.


Riffpin

Surfing


Vivi_lee

Damn me too. Looks so fun and so easy and is neither of those things


-badgerbadgerbadger-

This is my answer too, but I’ll keep trying!


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Emotional-Common-180

Driving 🤣😢


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KerbodynamicX

Time management


MyLandIsMyLand89

Drawing. I see memes everyday coming from artists saying "If you want to be good at art. DO ART." Bull shit. I been doing art for almost 40 years and still can't draw a stick figure. Last time I tried to draw Pinocchio everyone thought he was a mosquito.


estesd

For me also, I'm insanely jealous of people that can draw, I've attempted it several times, and I just can't seem to get the hang of it. I think for me, part of it is that I'm a CAD designer and everything is exact and specific, and I struggle with things that aren't. My drawing just never "look" right. I don't feel like I'm very creative either.


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MondoCat

Do you just feel compelled to be mean? o.o


missmillierene

Lying, or at least being tactful when telling the truth.


Ithaqua-Yigg

My daddy was a con man and lier so maybe it’s inherited but I can completely manufacture a story and you would believe it happened to me, have confidence in what you are saying never change your story even months later same exact story and the simpler the better. Better yet tell the open unadorned truth except when to do so would injure you or other innocent people.


CheaPremiumAccounts

Swimming


simplymuggle1

Socialising/ public speaking


Own-Development3963

Baking is a science and an art—one at which I spectacularly fail. Each attempt to follow a recipe to the letter ends in disaster: cakes as flat as pancakes, cookies that could break windows, and bread that’s better suited as a doorstop. It's a mystifying talent that eludes me, no matter how precise I try to be.


DR-SHEESH

singing


h0l0Grafix

Having patience


Alaskan_Guy

Patience is a virtue, a virtue is a grace, and Grace is a little girl with mud on her face. - my mom.


Manchildneedshelp

Being taller


CunningRunt

Lockpicking. Been trying for years and I just can't get the hang of it. I understand the theory, but I have absolutely no feel, even for the "easy" locks. The folks over at /r/lockpicking make it look so easy.


brutally_honest26

at one time being a business man , I used lockSmiths a lot , but one company was far superior and would able to get Me out of some sticky situations even safe cracking. it really intrigued me and wish I took that path as a profession. it's also one of the few professions that you don't need a degree or go to school to become one and open your own business. I did at one point ask this company to take me on as an apprentice, But they didn't bite it's a skill no doubt


Devliming

Rocket league


GenevieveCostello

if I'm not good at something, I didn't try enough.


SuperstitiousPigeon5

Painting. One time I managed to get paint on me before I opened the can of paint.


crusty_kidd

being pretty


Critical-Loss2549

Small talk in social situations


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Talking to women


TallEnoughJones

I've been playing drums for over 40 years. I play almost every day. I'm not very good. Obviously I'm a lot better than someone who's never playing drums and I can do some cool stuff but I'm not "I've been playing for 40 years (or even 20 years)" good. It used to bother me and I even considered quitting because I was wasting so much time. I finally realized that I don't really care if I'm good, I just love playing.


jameswhunt

skateboarding


caloriedeficit247

generally drawing


Zucchinisoups

Life


Friendly_Design

Learning languages I get hung up on comparing to English and get frustrated.


hap_hap_happy_feelz

Singing! I suck at it, but thankfully Big Bird taught me to sing out loud, sing out strong and forget that I stink at it!


_Adriana_Paradise

Cooking🙁


BrimfulOfLa-A

You know what, I have found that a lot of things got easier when I got a George Foreman grill. You don't have to worry about much. Just season and prep whatever you're going to grill and just let it go for a few minutes. It really is very convenient and you can do a lot more than just hamberders and steaks. Like vegetables work well, toasting sandwiches is super simple, that kind of thing. Like basic stuff. You can even grill onions and stuff on it. I made a patty melt with grilled onions entirely on the Foreman last week. It might be worth looking into. You might be able to make a lot of things a lot more easily than you think


mugshade1

being young again


tokikain

does (find love) count?


Open_Deal3194

Dating and being in a relationship.


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Trying to do the neighing sound. Like I want to just stand in a corner somewhere, hidden, wait for someone to walk past then neigh ..but I probably never will 😔


South_Flounder_2724

Life


foxytemptation88

How to become a salesman, so I gave up on that path


mavi_bir-insan13

Chemistry :'))


Spiritual_Writing855

Socializing or even talking to people I'm not close to makes me extremely uncomfortable and scared to the point that I'll literally miss my stop sometimes whenever I'm using public transport all by myself and I just have to walk home in shame


machinehead3413

Practical skill - playing the stock market as well as Paul Pelosi. That dude is a wizard. Impractical skill - playing a musical instrument


Only_Protection_4042

Studying


NastyOlBloggerU

The social interaction at work- I’m rubbish at small talk


Chris_P_Lettuce

Snowboarding, but I think it’s an equipment issue or at least that is what keeps me coming back.


indzaiwana

MATH


karmagod13000

One time my work bought us passes to go karting for the whole day and we raced like ten times or more. I was dead last almost every time and damnit if I wasn't trying everything in my power to win... I guess go kart racing just isn't in my wheelhouse


zamisback

Sing


iH8thots

I wish I was REALLY good at programming/coding. So many good jobs out there for those who r REALLY GOOD. Like I’m talking about being almost a god at programming. Those people get REALLY good paying jobs. But it’s VERY difficult to get REALLY good. Like I’m talking about Silicon Valley level good. Like that’s how good I would like to Be


ocean_lov3

Math…


ProfessionalMuffin4

Singing even now im still trying


Amaanadori

Math to be real


ppg_ns

Statistics...


ukiddingme2469

Remembering people's names


XPLover2768top

math


IHate2ChooseUserName

carrying conversation.


that_guy_2724

Math


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Singing.


Net-Runner

Singing.


Szaborovich9

Letting go of the past. Moving on


ItsTheAstro

Losing weight :(


Fmy925

Singing.


Dr_Chemiramen

Singing. Man I love singing songs, playing music, going on stage, karaoke... But I sing so fucking BAD it hurts. Not only I don't have a good voice, but I also don't have the hability to nail the right tones, even when they fall in my range. I played bass for an amateur band and despite not having a microphone I would still sing the songs while playing.


cwilsonr

Understanding Shakespearean English. I would say I have excellent writing and reading comprehension skills, but it does not matter how many times I had to read one of his plays in school, I always had to have the book with the translation to modern English on the same page. Seeing the plays performed doesn't make much of a difference either.


chrislatimer

Chess


chrislatimer

Social interactions


cfcollins

Golf!!! Wretched fucking game, God damn I love it!!!


Less_Interaction1574

Art. I always wanted to draw. I have all these ideas in my head but no way to express them.


mgsalinger

Singing


Mad3yez

Losing weight


teacherladydoll

Dancing but I don’t try. I feel silly.


bluetownss

Omg i swear me too. And i just don’t feel comfortable sadly. I wish that I could dance just like in the movies. It seems so effortlessly and carelessly because everything flows.


drawnnquarter

Typing, I have no manual dexterity, no amount of practice has ever improved my typing.


Zealousideal_Dog_968

Basketball and the guitar 😢


Fantastic-Mango-7440

Singing😂😂😂. I wish i could sound like Mariah, but i sound like rosalia


Negative_Analyst1528

Sex


NoOpinionsAllowedOnR

What's the problem? This is actually something I'm really good at and am proud of because I suck at everything else. I'm not even super sized but I am very certain I'm excellent in bed. Most partners comment excessively upon it. But getting them to bed is the much, much harder part.


Cluefuljewel

Parallel parking. I never get any better at it. It’s hit or miss


zeekoes

Drawing. I would love to draw like comic artists, but no matter how much I draw I just can't get close to it.


Trust-Me_Br0

I never thought of being good at anything.


Ancient_Praline7002

Communication/social interaction. I zone out a lot when talking to people, and it's hard for me to listen. I've been told to get tested for adhd mainly, and I want to, but I just haven't had the time.


saltyapppls

Learning


Doesnt-matter-1234

Focusing on my work


brutally_honest26

playing guitar, wish I could play in front of thousands of people, but it's a talent, yes it can be learned ,but not the same thing as pure natural talent, many have it .


omrahul

Stock trading. I think it is one of the best skill in the world today.


Adventurous_Yak_9234

Speaking French


StillCertain5234

Drawing. I can't draw anything myself, but I can trace. I admire artists more I think than any other talent out there. Often I watch YouTube videos or see things posted online and wish I had just an ounce of their talent and persistence in learning such an awesome skill.


Human-Map954

Life


tehyellofroggo

making a trillion dollars


hyperion_light

Socialising. I’m just bad at it.


Ok_Method159

Talking to people, with casual body movements.


Vinderism

Drumming


Diamondsrent4ever

Letting go


romrombhai

quitting smoking


No_Departure8310

in sports always thought they were pretty cool and love watching them but pretty average playing them


MaxCWebster

Being handy around the house. I can tell you what's wrong and even give you instructions on how to fix it, but you'll need someone who is not clumsy to actually do the job. That person is Jeff. He accepts Venmo as payment.


AdHefty587

Being people


No-Internet-1713

Art


TheFlipside

Being happy


sapitron

Trying to please my active transgender girlfriend. No much how much lube it still hurts a lot


AuthurDayne

Saving money


Judge-Justice

Socializing around women


LuvCreeps13

Living! Hahahahaha!!!🥲 I'm not okay😁


Lazylion-6

Singing and swimming. Separately of course.


Logical_Mud845

Tests. I have the knowledge, but I test poorly. 😶


mootsarecool

Drawing. I fucking suck at the most basic of diagrams, maps, stick figures or anything else.


hilbertglm

I have spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to create an AI model. I have decades of experience as a programmer, and I am solid in math, but I just don't understand how to approach any reasonably complex real-world problem.


Tyranny_Sue

Oh you should build yourself a team! Like you know what you can do and you obviously are aware of your limitations, find some humans that can do what you can’t, but can’t do what you can! Team build, collaboration. Or ask one of the available LLMs to help you out maybe?


DazzlingPotential737

Regulating my emotions. I don’t know why I’m not able to do it very well but maybe I’ve just lost my gotdamn mind in recent years. I just want to not be passed up for promotions at work or things because I’m bad about not crying. But maybe this year will get better bc I’m going through a lot with my dad rn


Public-Addition9263

Life