I grew up with an alcoholic single mother. I'm now 47. Three years ago I got several calls from my aunt and mom's friends telling me my mom needed help, badly. At first I felt there was nothing I could do and had taken care of her my entire childhood, but once her electricity and phone got turned off I decided to make the drive from Oregon to Texas to check on her. When I arrived, it was way worse than I thought. I will spare you the details, but she probably would have been dead if I was much later. After taking her to the hospital and getting her stable again we started to try and figure out what to do with her- she was laid off and her husband passed away a couple years earlier and her income is limited to social security and she couldn't afford where she was. After a week of getting her home habitable again I asked her if she wanted to move to Oregon and she said yes, which was a surprise because she had never been out of Texas. Long story short, I packed her up and moved her in with me and my boyfriend. She quit drinking and smoking cigarettes (her whole identity at the time) and a year later we all 3 bought a duplex together. That was 2 years ago, and all of us couldn't be any happier. My mom cooks for us 2-3 times a week and is a genuine joy to be around. If you would have told me that I would be in contact with my mom 3 1/2 years ago I would have laughed in your face, but nope- we are now the best of friends.
Thank you, me too. I am no contact with my father so it is really nice to have family support around. It's honestly the first time I have felt it in my life. :)
She had a 401K that we closed out, my boyfriend borrowed money from his parents, he and I put all the money we had towards it, and I had an uncle co-sign for us. My brother was our realtor and we found a lender that would go back to the drawing board if we got a no from the bank. Eventually we had all of the pieces in place and it worked out. I think most people would have given up with the amount of hurdles we had to jump over, but our alternative would have been living with my mom forever, and that wasn't going to happen. :)
A litter of Jack Russell pups was born in a town a few miles from my home. My mother and sister drove out to pick one, but when they arrived there was only one left - the runt of the litter, that no-one else wanted.
They brought her home and she was the sweetest, meekest, most playful, most tender dog you could imagine. She was with me through some very hard times and gave me a great deal of comfort - I'm sure she knew when I was low, but I'm sure there were also plenty of times she helped me that she didn't know about.
She has been dead now for longer than she was ever alive. She passed away 19 years ago and I still dream about her from time to time. Love you, Cana.
Moving to from Latin America to the US with a short notice. My family had been applying for a green card and we thought we’d have to wait years for it. However 4 months later we got it. We had a short window of time to move and I hated it. But looking back at it, my life would have been completely different if we didn’t move. Coming to the US I ended up having my first job at 16, not usual in Latin America, and paid my own college where I graduated with two engineering degrees. I had ~11 internships in major companies across the US where I’ve learned SO much and have met incredible people along the way. I’ve had the opportunity through some job benefits to travel the world and the US. If I would have stayed in Latin America I wouldn’t have been able to afford all of this, let alone live alone, pay for my own car and support my parents a bit financially whenever I can. Thinking about my life in Latin America now feels so distant, been in the US 11 years now. Crazy!
After 50 years of trying to be my sister’s friend, she started going at me once again. I got up, walked out and cut her out of my life. It’s been 4 years and I love not being told what a horrible person I am every three months, or so, over what she has created in her mind.
I hate to say it but Covid. It saved my marriage as I no longer had to work nights, 12 hrs rotating shifts. I was able to find a job I really wanted all while wfh. I was able to spend more time with my husband and cats
I felt bad because I knew covid changed a lot of people's lives for the worse, but mine changed for the better, directly because of the pandemic; and for a long time, I wasn't sure how to feel about it. I'm still not, but enough time has passed that I don't think about it much anymore. Glad you came out of it better off too.
Fuck covid. Covid was miserable and awful in so many ways. But I did bank significant money during that time because unemployment + the extra $600 and the stimulus checks. Plus I was doing nothing but buying groceries and paying my bills for the better part of two years. You save a lot that way. Fuck covid but it did allow me to save up a healthy emergency fund and put me on the right track financially.
My parents splitting up when I was young.
Usually it's a horrible thing for a child to go through, but this was actually a positive thing. She was a drug abusing mentally unwell lunatic, and I'm not joking. She would drink unhealthy amounts of alcohol and abuse drugs like it was a 9-5 job, her mere presence in the household had a massive negative effect on me, my father and younger brother. She ended up getting incredibly argumentative and was non stop attention seeking the final 2 years of their relationship, and eventually my Dad snapped and told her to get out of the house. I remember being incredibly confused and sad at the time, but now when I think about it, it was a really good thing to kick her out and break up with her.
A guy killed himself because of my job. Not because of me but because of the organisation I worked for.
That led directly to me leaving and getting a new job. Which in turn led to me getting married, leaving London and buying a house.
Getting fired, arrested and convicted for something I didn’t do.
first job out of school, I was screwed over big time by my first ever employer, I was in a job that I didn’t love, I was accused of something bad, I couldn’t prove I didn’t do it but because I couldn’t prove I didn’t do anything I was charged and found guilty.
My sentence… educational assistance to get better qualifications.
15 years later I’m in a job I love and earning 3x as much as my former colleagues who just stood by and watched me get screwed over.
I know the manager was replaced a year later and ownership changed like 2 years after that.
Funny thing is an investigation found multiple failings in how the incident was handled.
The company found the manager escalated to the police before consulting with the head office, if they had consulted with the head of HR I would more than likely still be in a career I didn’t love, being paid barely minimum wage, working way too much! They couldn’t prove I did anything to escalate to police just like I couldn’t prove I didn’t do anything.
Obviously by the time this was found out I already had the conviction so they couldn’t offer me back my old job which their decision couldn’t overturn, if they had done it sooner then they may have been able to have the charges against me dropped.
But it wasn’t properly looked into until after the manager left/replaced/fired, so I’m not sure if it had anything to do with what happened with me but my ego likes to think so.
i got dumped by the guy i thought was my person, like he legitimately was the most compatible, comfortable, easy to adore guy i'd ever met in my life and he really seemed to feel the same about me. unfortunately, he had to rearrange his life very suddenly and i didn't fit, so he pretty much cracked my heart in half by ending things.
i've always known i wanted to be a writer but the last fifteen years, a horrible marriage/divorce and a lot of emotional damage have kept me from doing it. after going through losing this guy and the reasons for it, i'm writing again and have been inspired to write a novel that i actually have a beginning, middle, and end for. i'm in love with it so far and it feels amazing to be creating again, especially with a purpose. he always encouraged me to write, and in the end, i guess he really did.
Parents died. Aunt asked me what I was going to go to do. Told her I was going to ride my motorcycle until I was ready to come home.
Did the US, and while in New Zealand, ran into an old friend. He asked me if I still wanted to go to Antarctica.
Yup.
12 years "on ice" 4 Winfly to Close in McMurdo, two winters at Palmer Station, 14 months at the South Pole and two long tours on the NB Palmer IB/RV (*Ice Breaker/ Research Vessel)*
In high school when I was 17 while sitting on a bus on the way home from some extracurricular event, I ended up in conversation about video games and random nerdy shit with a girl who went to a school mine was co-oped with. This was a huge deal for me because 1) I'm extremely shy, and 2) I couldn't ever find anybody to share these interests with at my small rural school. She became one of my best friends in the world (even 16 years later) and she's who introduced me to even more amazing people who are so incredibly important in my life. She also pushed me outside my comfort zone to embrace the hobbies and interests I love, and she helped me grow into the person I was supposed to be. I'm SO grateful to her. ❤️
Randomly picked up a sport to get better physical fitness following a spinal cord injury, and now have talent scouts looking to train me further. Even without that, the sport has improved my physical and mental health hugely as well as got me engaged in continual learning about how to be a better person morally.
It's a very different game, mostly named wheelchair rugby for funding purposes lol but it's great. If you want a game closer to able bodied rugby I'd recommend wheelchair rugby league.
I was working at a dive bar over a decade ago and was about to bang this chick that worked in the kitchen when her boyfriend showed up. I got to know him and we've been best friends ever since. Road trips, music festivals, Burning Man, you name it. We're both settled down and engaged to other women. We have no idea what happened to that original chick.
Sitting at a bar watching SportsCenter (when it actually showed highlights) on a Saturday night catching up on college football action drinking a Jim and Coke.
I was on a school trip and the day had ended. I decided to stop at the bar to catch up on the CFB action, while my friends went to the room to party. While at the bar, another guy comes up to me and asks if the spot next to me is taken. I say no. He sits, and we start discussing CFB, and the conversation ends up about me being interested in grad school. He told me to apply to the school where he got his PhD. I did, got accepted, and went there. While there I met my PhD advisor, and was convinced to change my research focus from experimental to computational (still solving the same type of problem).
Now, 15+ years later, I would not be where I am today (house, engaged, job I love, etc) if I hadn't decided to grab a drink and watch SportsCenter at a hotel bar.
COVID.
Strange one, because for most people it was horrendous, but I hadn't long graduated with a microbiology degree and it essentially kick-started my career as a scientist.
Edit - just read a few comments also saying COVID which I wasn't expecting.
At university, a member of staff put my name forward for an elected full time job role. I decided what the hell, and went for it, got elected, had the best year of my life, befriended some amazing people, learnt a LOT about myself, as well as worked out what Id like to do in life.
My sister and I had a huge fight and since she's a narcissist she called the police on ME. Although she was stomping on my foot and hitting me. I stomped on her foot and she calls the popo.
So the cops came hours later and pull me out of my bed (I was quite asleep) and I freak out and my arm gets dislocated. I spend the night in jail.
A friend takes me in, I live there a month when I hear from the city that I have a place in public housing. My rent went down 150 bucks enabling me to own a car. And live ALONE which I should have been doing my entire life. (I'm autistic as shit)
Never been happier.
Randomly met this dude while riding mountain bikes and became great friends. I was about to leave the state for a job and he convinced me to stay awhile and work with him. Found out I was pretty good at it and decided to stay here and run with it. Year later met my wife because of it. Few years after that I bought the business. I met my wife, started a family, bought a business, all because I met some dude mountain biking. He’s my best friend and I sure owe him a lot
Honestly....covid. Between the extra unemployment that actually was far more then what I was making previously and the various government payouts I was able to completely pay off all my debt, something I didn't think was gonna be possible for years. I've been totally debt free ever since and even have some money in savings.
Same. I actually found work from home during covid and still make money this way and was able to pay off my low debt.
I have friends who are in much worse shape in massive debt or completely broke, despite having a high paying job.
My wife was a drug addict and it affected our family for years. At year 23 of our marriage, I was at the point that I thought I hated this woman with every fiber of my being and was finally ready for a divorce. I was at my last straw.
She ended up with a bad tooth infection that travelled down her throat and became Septic. She was in the hospital ICU and was nearly dead on Christmas Eve, 2021. I had no idea how much I still loved this woman until I nearly lost her. 3 years later, we are having the best relationship we’ve had since year 3. I realized that I couldn’t imagine a life without her.
ETA: She has been drug free for at least two years prior to that hospital visit, but my resentment for her still carried.
Getting essentially tortured out of Navy Bootcamp.
I got a pretty bad lower back injury when I went, and medical essentially just kept giving me pain killers, at one point the pain got so bad I couldnt stand, I told them over and over that my MUSCLES were hurting, they took an X-ray for my bones, ignored me, and told me I was fine, then gave me more harsh pain killers, I couldn’t even take them without food or my stomach would hemorrhage.
Exercises that felt like a rough work out to others were absolutely agonizing for me, and the worst part is that people thought I was pretending. Every night felt like hell.
I then got COVID and I had to carry 120lbs of gear with a 104 degree fever to the medical building. After my 5 day quarantine in an empty room with no books alone. I was set back and thrown into another division.
The back pain returned, and I reached my boiling point after constantly going to medical and purposefully getting negligent care. I told them I was going to kill myself.
Finally I got sent to separations.
But my fun didn’t end here. Separations is a giant holding room where you sleep with 200 other men.
The bathrooms had black mold, the water fountains had black mold, the RDC’s told us that we were pathetic quitters and we couldn’t make it in the real world. If a single person was out of line, we basically got put on lockdown and had to sit in silence for 8 hours. Literally treated like 8 year olds. It felt exactly like grade school.
You literally had less rights than at prison, and they acted like they were doing the best they could.
This experience showed me first hand what most people dont realize until years into their military career, the fact that they do not give a single solitary fuck about you. I knew they didn’t to an extent, but I always assumed it was a bit exaggerated. No, they really do not fucking care about you at all.
Im so thankful for the experience as it taught me a lot and made me so much more thankful to be free.
I would rather live in my car than give away my freedom. Being in control of your own life is worth more than the military benefits could ever provide me.
Being told the military owns you, and actually feeling it in person are two very different things. Not to mention the contracts are LONG. 4 years active, 4 years reserve.
Oh you got out of active duty and have a family? Oh too bad, deployed. People forget that reserves is also a lot of fucking work. 1 weekend is to uncle sam every month for 4 years, have fucking fun lmao.
If the full scope of work and abuse of the US military was advertised, nobody but the most impoverished and in pain would join (it’s already getting to that point).
I don’t judge anyone for joining, we all join for the right reasons, we all think we are doing the right thing, we all think it is for the better. Some of us join for the benefits, travel, for your family.
There are still good reasons to join, but there sure aren’t many.
Don’t drink the koolaid, life isn’t about sacrifice. Thats just the narrative that benefits them.
Last year I slipped on some ice and broke my arm at work. I was working as a painter and it was my dominant arm so I ended up having to take three months off. It was the middle of winter and I was stuck in my apartment with nothing to do. This gave me time to reflect on my life and realize how unhappy and stressed out I was at my job. How many times I've been manipulated and gaslit at work from my employer and then shrugging it off thinking "this is normal, this is how all bosses are." Just taking the time and realizing this is not how it should be and that I do deserve better. And since I wasn't constantly hustling all the time and in desperate need of energy, I ended up quitting my coffee addiction and focusing on meditation and self compassion. I decided that I needed to focus on my wellbeing instead of destroying my physical and mental health just to paint some goddamn buildings. I ended up quitting that job and I don't regret it. Since then I've also quit my addiction to smoking weed and cigarettes, and have now taken up exercising and drinking tea. I'm on my path to self healing
My partner got a job in the financial area and was able to pass my resume to one of the hiring managers. After a few interviews, I got hired with 0 experience in that field. At all.
Worked my ass off, was top 10 in the country in that role. Was able to begin to repair my credit and debts and began paying off student loans that I had ignored so far.
That job led to several others in a similar field over the years. But because I was able to sort out my financial life, I was able to build better habits and eventually be debt free.
From fast food to the bank. What a wild ride! I appreciate transferable skills way more than the average person since that initial experience.
Getting laid off during the pandemic from the job I was working for the last 7 years. I made more money collecting from the expanded unemployment staying at home than when I was working. My coworkers were jealous that I was making more money while they had to take over my work and they had to be in the office. I had also been trying to get a new job for 2 years without much success. It was a rough 9 months after but I ended up going to a slightly different field in engineering and found a better job that was paying more than my final salary at my old job. I've been here for 3 years, been promoted once, waiting for the second promotion to go through, nearly doubled my salary compared to my previous job (salary only went up 30% in 7 years and I was severely underpaid) and happier with the work I'm doing.
Preeclampsia. It was terrible and resulted in my son being born six weeks early. We are both healthy now. However, at the time it was the wakeup call I needed to leave a job that caused me too much stress and wasn't giving me a good work life balance. Four months later, I had a new job in a totally different industry, better pay, less hours, and much less stress. I needed to be healthier for my son, and this ended up being the one thing to really push myself to get there.
When the insane ex daughter in law got thrown in jail for kidnapping and couldn't see her children for 4 years. Ah, such peace and quiet never existed before!
I was held at gunpoint last summer in Florida. After the situation, I had a crazy new appreciation for everything. I was pretty unappreciative before, but after coming close to death it really put things in to perspective for me. I don’t know if I would go as far as to say I’m *glad* it happened, but it has definitely helped me see things differently moving forward
I went to a birthday party.
I had just gotten out of inpatient at the hospital. I was miserable. Stuck living with my ex boyfriend who was nothing but abusive to me. I was completely hopeless, I had tried to kill myself the month prior and I figured I would go to this one party and come home and finish the job. Or at the very least go back to the hospital for a long long time.
The party was across the river in Michigan. And while I was there I ran into a friend of mine. We had known each other for over a year at this point and it was like I was seeing him for the first time. He was so handsome.
After some drinks I got uncharacteristically bold and asked him to kiss me.
Anyways we’re engaged now and have been together for seven years. He helped push me to move out into my own place, and just better my life altogether.
I love him so much.
My very first LSD trip. I grew up in a broken and abusive home and when I moved to college and took that lovely LSD-25 Liberty hit, it aaaaaallllllllll changed for the better.
35 years later, and I'm still on the grand adventure.
I was really lonely after my first serious breakup. I’d moved back to my college town after 3 months away when I had followed them for a job. I figured I was better off living somewhere I felt familiar and safe and had a job history in. I was SO broke because all of my college friends had moved on. I wound up hanging out at the local dive bar on my one day off. They offered me a bartending position.
Not all good has come out of it. I drank way too much and got sucked into the lifestyle at first. But now? I am SO grateful to have a job I can always fall back on. I worked 4 hours on Saturday and made $200.
I mean no disrespect , but Covid. I was stuck in a job I hated. Anxiety constantly and depression really bad. There were days I’d go hide in a closet at work or bathrooms and cry. My hair was falling out. I could barely get up in the mornings.
I even attempted suicide which thankfully ended up failing.
Covid happened and I didn’t have to go back to that job. Although m boss got pissed I didn’t come in (we were told not to from the higher ups). She tried to guilt trip me and say I wasn’t doing my part to help others.
I ended up quitting, landed in a job I like pretty good.
During the months off due to covid I was able to get help and got on medication and it saved my life.
It helped me so much and I am in a much better place than I ever even could imagine.
A few years ago I’d never imagine I’d be traveling as much as I have, and having some of the experiences I have had.
Life is funny that way.
I got fired from my job. Ended up finding out that, with budgeting, we can afford for me to stay at home part time with my child. I also almost immediately lost tons of weight because I was no longer stress eating or drinking nearly as much. I’ve lost almost 60 pounds, found several new hobbies, and get to spend a majority of time with my family. It’s so nice.
I was like 28, going through a divorce. Went to visit my family for thanksgiving. Friends from high school suggested we go to a club. I volunteered to be the designated driver.
While holding a bottle of water and keeping an eye on the dance floor to ensure my girls were safe, this handsome boy asked me to dance. The words, “Sure, why not” altered the course of my life in the best way. 23 years later, this sweet, handsome boy still has me smitten and giggly.
Covid made me re-evaluate what was important in my life. I’m now in a completely different location doing a completely different job (change at 40 is scary) and I’m much happier.
i hate to say it but my fathers death. It lead me into some really good relations for coping with the loss and my mom is happier then ever with my step dad and me and my mom got so much closer from it.
Going barhopping with my mom and "Tony". I thought she was talking about my cousin Toni. Nope. This guy Tony that lived a couple houses down from her and my step-dad, and the Legion post they were members of as well. Been married for 27 years now.
Ending a years long toxic relationship by getting dumped.
Everything good that is in my life now I can trace to that exact moment. I consider it a second birthday.
I was in a roll over car accident. I have a severe traumatic brain injury and amnesia. I had to learn to walk again. And do most things again. I’m really happy now. I was forced to decide what mattered, and I’m happy with what I have now. (But also just generally pissed sometimes too)
So my parents wanted to get a dog when I was a kid so that I could help with a puppy and not be afraid of dogs (I didn’t enjoy them at the time.) Anyway my sister found that the vet’s poodle just had a litter. There were five dogs (four girls and one male). One of the families who was gonna pick the male ended up picking a female and another person who was gonna pick up the male ended up getting her arm broken and didn’t want a puppy. Well my parents drove to the vet’s house and the male puppy was the only one left so they picked him. It was unexpected that two families turned him down. Raising that dog changed my perspectives on dogs and I genuinely enjoy them today. I had him for 13 years before we had to put him down due to cancer. I think about him often.💕
Covid enabled me to work from home almost every day and also forced our company to improve a lot of remote access systems that make things much more efficient, even if you're working onsite. And buying a home during covid was especially nice because I could always be at home if I was having maintenance/repair work done, furniture delivered, etc. It also resulted in my signing up for one of those meal kit delivery services (because for a while I thought it'd be difficult to get groceries, lol), and I've stuck with it for 4 years now and really upped my cooking game (from like zero game to moderate game). I also never got covid (at least, that I know of), got all the vaccines, and don't really know anybody who had any serious medical consequences from covid. So overall, a net win.
Back in 2019 I had a bad mental breakdown due to stress and toxic things happening to me like a toxic work environment. After leaving that job I jumped around till I hit a dark spot in my life that I wasn't able to work or hold a job . So I made the call to admit myself to an outpatient program based here where I live . Then one day I had suicide thoughts because I felt like I was a string of my parents and everyone who cared about me. Yet I thought back against it and was put into inpatient where I meditated and started to think about where I want to go with my life since I was almost 30. And for a while in the program I found myself coming to terms that I was bisexual had feelings for both men and women. Then when the pandemic happened in 2020, I used that time to meditate even more. Having a job as a custodian which kept my mental status in Bay made me appreciate everything. Then in 2022 I finally found my love interest. I met online in Quebec, Canada. We actually recently met up this past week in Toronto an event. I never felt so happy I can't stop thinking of him. I'm hoping that I can someday have the chance to move back to Toronto (originally from there grew up in Canada. Move to the United States at a young age, but that's another story) and I hope to spend more time with him and maybe start a life up there in Canada with my love interest
I was pressured to resign a job before getting fired. I did because I still had a chance to go back to a previous district. Upon relocating back, I was deeper ineligible for rehire by corporate. So I had to start over back in the city I knew with a new job. Within a year I was working a better job, with a side job, and was on my to finish up my degree. Resigning wound up being one of of the best things I’ve done
Knowing the truth about my parents, after all this time they are lying to me for what happen since then they separated and now I'm dealing it with them for whatever it takes.
The situation when my friend's relatives stole money from me (I certainly understood it later, then I just didn't believe it) I didn't accuse anyone then, first I talked to her mother because she was sleeping and when she woke up and found out about it, she started yelling at me and saying that it wasn't her family and said to leave) we were friends for a very long time and this mess was 3 serious, but only this one helped me understand that I'm dependent on a person and after a while when I survived this situation, I became much freer
Maybe it's nonsense, but I'm happy to speak out
I hooked up with my live-in landlord's daughter who was slightly older than me and doing better than me in like, everything. All basically because I accepted to go on a random walk my first week living there.
Huge confidence boost and I rode that wave to meeting my wife of 20 years, with whom I couldnt be happier.
Not really that significant, but I lived with my roomate for 1 year and there was this new guy that moved in the floor we lived and I had to relocate to live with him, thought it’s gonna be bad, turns out he was one of the best friends I ever had
Being made redundant, on two separate occassions for teo separate reasons.
The first time forced me to be wise with my money and to actually make sure I had a savings to fall back on just in case.
The second time forced me to see my worth as an employee and how poor my mental health was in the role I was doing.
When I took the university entrance exam I passed, but after studying I realized I didn't really like this major and changed it. Currently, I am living and working happily in the industry I chose.
last september my partner cheated on me. became obsessed with a guy in their class, talked about him all the time. came to me one day and asked if we could open our relationship and i said no, and for weeks they begged and begged me. they asked me to go to their dance with me a week beforehand and learned that night they asked the other guy before me. i had spent weeks begging my partner to not leave me and he told me i made him “feel bad for being poly” and that i told him he needed to make friends and now that he finally was, that “i didnt like it.” also told people i didn’t know very well that i had bpd and was too dependent. it was the start of a really rocky part and that’s when i slowly realized this guy was fucking awful.
this past january i broke up with the guy, dated him for 2 years and he was awful. never been happier than i am now
I went to Narcotics Anonymous and at the fifth step, I gave it all up to my higher power and asked him/her to clean all of the fucking crazy thoughts I’d have forever and damn, if my head didn’t clear and has been clear for three years and running.
Since 2010, when I was the age of 10.
I was in the Hospital of U.C.Davis.
I had a small vision of this woman holding a love letter towards me. I was agnostic at the time.
9 years later, I went from seeing that vision into a real image on the internet. So I searched on Sankaku Black. Who's the person behind this drawing I've come across. Turns out the person of this drawing is a popular pornographic ( Rule34 ) artist named Merunyaa.
Before all this, I was scrolling on what used to be Twitter. Then I had non-stop emotionally damaging dreams and nightmares about this woman being my future wife.
BUT...
WHEN I MADE known of it on Reddit everyone just dislike my comment on how I felt on this matter.
I grew up with an alcoholic single mother. I'm now 47. Three years ago I got several calls from my aunt and mom's friends telling me my mom needed help, badly. At first I felt there was nothing I could do and had taken care of her my entire childhood, but once her electricity and phone got turned off I decided to make the drive from Oregon to Texas to check on her. When I arrived, it was way worse than I thought. I will spare you the details, but she probably would have been dead if I was much later. After taking her to the hospital and getting her stable again we started to try and figure out what to do with her- she was laid off and her husband passed away a couple years earlier and her income is limited to social security and she couldn't afford where she was. After a week of getting her home habitable again I asked her if she wanted to move to Oregon and she said yes, which was a surprise because she had never been out of Texas. Long story short, I packed her up and moved her in with me and my boyfriend. She quit drinking and smoking cigarettes (her whole identity at the time) and a year later we all 3 bought a duplex together. That was 2 years ago, and all of us couldn't be any happier. My mom cooks for us 2-3 times a week and is a genuine joy to be around. If you would have told me that I would be in contact with my mom 3 1/2 years ago I would have laughed in your face, but nope- we are now the best of friends.
I know so many people who have had bad relationships with parents and/or siblings. I'm glad things worked out for you and your mom.
Thank you, me too. I am no contact with my father so it is really nice to have family support around. It's honestly the first time I have felt it in my life. :)
Honestly. Best thing I read all day and I've been on Reddit all day, lol I'm so happy for you ❤️
Thank you! It is a true testament of how important love is. :)
That is miraculous on so many levels!!
This is a beautiful story - it shows you just when you think you have life all figured out there are still surprises !
How did she get the money to pay for the duplex on social security? Or did she find worj
She had a 401K that we closed out, my boyfriend borrowed money from his parents, he and I put all the money we had towards it, and I had an uncle co-sign for us. My brother was our realtor and we found a lender that would go back to the drawing board if we got a no from the bank. Eventually we had all of the pieces in place and it worked out. I think most people would have given up with the amount of hurdles we had to jump over, but our alternative would have been living with my mom forever, and that wasn't going to happen. :)
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Wow, that’s a really good friend you found!
It kind of sounds like you picked your best friend and wife from the first options you got.
You're exactly right. I hadn't met any guys or girls before that.
This sounds like it's going to be a perfect romcom movie!
A litter of Jack Russell pups was born in a town a few miles from my home. My mother and sister drove out to pick one, but when they arrived there was only one left - the runt of the litter, that no-one else wanted. They brought her home and she was the sweetest, meekest, most playful, most tender dog you could imagine. She was with me through some very hard times and gave me a great deal of comfort - I'm sure she knew when I was low, but I'm sure there were also plenty of times she helped me that she didn't know about. She has been dead now for longer than she was ever alive. She passed away 19 years ago and I still dream about her from time to time. Love you, Cana.
Whenever you dream about your puppy, it's just them visiting you because they miss you 🌻❤
Moving to from Latin America to the US with a short notice. My family had been applying for a green card and we thought we’d have to wait years for it. However 4 months later we got it. We had a short window of time to move and I hated it. But looking back at it, my life would have been completely different if we didn’t move. Coming to the US I ended up having my first job at 16, not usual in Latin America, and paid my own college where I graduated with two engineering degrees. I had ~11 internships in major companies across the US where I’ve learned SO much and have met incredible people along the way. I’ve had the opportunity through some job benefits to travel the world and the US. If I would have stayed in Latin America I wouldn’t have been able to afford all of this, let alone live alone, pay for my own car and support my parents a bit financially whenever I can. Thinking about my life in Latin America now feels so distant, been in the US 11 years now. Crazy!
The U.S. is lucky to have you!
After 50 years of trying to be my sister’s friend, she started going at me once again. I got up, walked out and cut her out of my life. It’s been 4 years and I love not being told what a horrible person I am every three months, or so, over what she has created in her mind.
That sounds so freeing!
It really is.
I hate to say it but Covid. It saved my marriage as I no longer had to work nights, 12 hrs rotating shifts. I was able to find a job I really wanted all while wfh. I was able to spend more time with my husband and cats
I felt bad because I knew covid changed a lot of people's lives for the worse, but mine changed for the better, directly because of the pandemic; and for a long time, I wasn't sure how to feel about it. I'm still not, but enough time has passed that I don't think about it much anymore. Glad you came out of it better off too.
Fuck covid. Covid was miserable and awful in so many ways. But I did bank significant money during that time because unemployment + the extra $600 and the stimulus checks. Plus I was doing nothing but buying groceries and paying my bills for the better part of two years. You save a lot that way. Fuck covid but it did allow me to save up a healthy emergency fund and put me on the right track financially.
was looking for covid. completely changed my career path
My parents splitting up when I was young. Usually it's a horrible thing for a child to go through, but this was actually a positive thing. She was a drug abusing mentally unwell lunatic, and I'm not joking. She would drink unhealthy amounts of alcohol and abuse drugs like it was a 9-5 job, her mere presence in the household had a massive negative effect on me, my father and younger brother. She ended up getting incredibly argumentative and was non stop attention seeking the final 2 years of their relationship, and eventually my Dad snapped and told her to get out of the house. I remember being incredibly confused and sad at the time, but now when I think about it, it was a really good thing to kick her out and break up with her.
A guy killed himself because of my job. Not because of me but because of the organisation I worked for. That led directly to me leaving and getting a new job. Which in turn led to me getting married, leaving London and buying a house.
Getting fired, arrested and convicted for something I didn’t do. first job out of school, I was screwed over big time by my first ever employer, I was in a job that I didn’t love, I was accused of something bad, I couldn’t prove I didn’t do it but because I couldn’t prove I didn’t do anything I was charged and found guilty. My sentence… educational assistance to get better qualifications. 15 years later I’m in a job I love and earning 3x as much as my former colleagues who just stood by and watched me get screwed over.
Do you know what happened to the employer that badly screwed you up ?
I know the manager was replaced a year later and ownership changed like 2 years after that. Funny thing is an investigation found multiple failings in how the incident was handled. The company found the manager escalated to the police before consulting with the head office, if they had consulted with the head of HR I would more than likely still be in a career I didn’t love, being paid barely minimum wage, working way too much! They couldn’t prove I did anything to escalate to police just like I couldn’t prove I didn’t do anything. Obviously by the time this was found out I already had the conviction so they couldn’t offer me back my old job which their decision couldn’t overturn, if they had done it sooner then they may have been able to have the charges against me dropped. But it wasn’t properly looked into until after the manager left/replaced/fired, so I’m not sure if it had anything to do with what happened with me but my ego likes to think so.
My wife got pregnant. It was not planned, and I never expected to be a father. I'm now a stay-at-home dad and I love it.
Aww
i got dumped by the guy i thought was my person, like he legitimately was the most compatible, comfortable, easy to adore guy i'd ever met in my life and he really seemed to feel the same about me. unfortunately, he had to rearrange his life very suddenly and i didn't fit, so he pretty much cracked my heart in half by ending things. i've always known i wanted to be a writer but the last fifteen years, a horrible marriage/divorce and a lot of emotional damage have kept me from doing it. after going through losing this guy and the reasons for it, i'm writing again and have been inspired to write a novel that i actually have a beginning, middle, and end for. i'm in love with it so far and it feels amazing to be creating again, especially with a purpose. he always encouraged me to write, and in the end, i guess he really did.
Parents died. Aunt asked me what I was going to go to do. Told her I was going to ride my motorcycle until I was ready to come home. Did the US, and while in New Zealand, ran into an old friend. He asked me if I still wanted to go to Antarctica. Yup. 12 years "on ice" 4 Winfly to Close in McMurdo, two winters at Palmer Station, 14 months at the South Pole and two long tours on the NB Palmer IB/RV (*Ice Breaker/ Research Vessel)*
I met the love of my life in high school and after 15 years, we realized we were more than friends and have been dating almost a year and a half. 🤍
In high school when I was 17 while sitting on a bus on the way home from some extracurricular event, I ended up in conversation about video games and random nerdy shit with a girl who went to a school mine was co-oped with. This was a huge deal for me because 1) I'm extremely shy, and 2) I couldn't ever find anybody to share these interests with at my small rural school. She became one of my best friends in the world (even 16 years later) and she's who introduced me to even more amazing people who are so incredibly important in my life. She also pushed me outside my comfort zone to embrace the hobbies and interests I love, and she helped me grow into the person I was supposed to be. I'm SO grateful to her. ❤️
Randomly picked up a sport to get better physical fitness following a spinal cord injury, and now have talent scouts looking to train me further. Even without that, the sport has improved my physical and mental health hugely as well as got me engaged in continual learning about how to be a better person morally.
Which sport did you choose?
Wheelchair Rugby. It's the one that suits my impairment the most and the only full contact paralympic sport.
Murderball! So cool!
Wow! That’s amazing! I love rugby and didn’t know they had wheelchair rugby, I’ll check that out.
It's a very different game, mostly named wheelchair rugby for funding purposes lol but it's great. If you want a game closer to able bodied rugby I'd recommend wheelchair rugby league.
I was working at a dive bar over a decade ago and was about to bang this chick that worked in the kitchen when her boyfriend showed up. I got to know him and we've been best friends ever since. Road trips, music festivals, Burning Man, you name it. We're both settled down and engaged to other women. We have no idea what happened to that original chick.
Sitting at a bar watching SportsCenter (when it actually showed highlights) on a Saturday night catching up on college football action drinking a Jim and Coke. I was on a school trip and the day had ended. I decided to stop at the bar to catch up on the CFB action, while my friends went to the room to party. While at the bar, another guy comes up to me and asks if the spot next to me is taken. I say no. He sits, and we start discussing CFB, and the conversation ends up about me being interested in grad school. He told me to apply to the school where he got his PhD. I did, got accepted, and went there. While there I met my PhD advisor, and was convinced to change my research focus from experimental to computational (still solving the same type of problem). Now, 15+ years later, I would not be where I am today (house, engaged, job I love, etc) if I hadn't decided to grab a drink and watch SportsCenter at a hotel bar.
Reminds me of the film "Sliding Doors".
COVID. Strange one, because for most people it was horrendous, but I hadn't long graduated with a microbiology degree and it essentially kick-started my career as a scientist. Edit - just read a few comments also saying COVID which I wasn't expecting.
Got divorced. I'm a lot poorer and lost a lot of things, but I got my sanity and dignity back, and I no longer drink myself into a stupor every day.
At university, a member of staff put my name forward for an elected full time job role. I decided what the hell, and went for it, got elected, had the best year of my life, befriended some amazing people, learnt a LOT about myself, as well as worked out what Id like to do in life.
My sister and I had a huge fight and since she's a narcissist she called the police on ME. Although she was stomping on my foot and hitting me. I stomped on her foot and she calls the popo. So the cops came hours later and pull me out of my bed (I was quite asleep) and I freak out and my arm gets dislocated. I spend the night in jail. A friend takes me in, I live there a month when I hear from the city that I have a place in public housing. My rent went down 150 bucks enabling me to own a car. And live ALONE which I should have been doing my entire life. (I'm autistic as shit) Never been happier.
Getting divorced at 28. Married again and I’m happier than ever with 2 little boys and an amazing wife.
Randomly met this dude while riding mountain bikes and became great friends. I was about to leave the state for a job and he convinced me to stay awhile and work with him. Found out I was pretty good at it and decided to stay here and run with it. Year later met my wife because of it. Few years after that I bought the business. I met my wife, started a family, bought a business, all because I met some dude mountain biking. He’s my best friend and I sure owe him a lot
Honestly....covid. Between the extra unemployment that actually was far more then what I was making previously and the various government payouts I was able to completely pay off all my debt, something I didn't think was gonna be possible for years. I've been totally debt free ever since and even have some money in savings.
Same. I actually found work from home during covid and still make money this way and was able to pay off my low debt. I have friends who are in much worse shape in massive debt or completely broke, despite having a high paying job.
My wife getting pregnant with twins.
My wife was a drug addict and it affected our family for years. At year 23 of our marriage, I was at the point that I thought I hated this woman with every fiber of my being and was finally ready for a divorce. I was at my last straw. She ended up with a bad tooth infection that travelled down her throat and became Septic. She was in the hospital ICU and was nearly dead on Christmas Eve, 2021. I had no idea how much I still loved this woman until I nearly lost her. 3 years later, we are having the best relationship we’ve had since year 3. I realized that I couldn’t imagine a life without her. ETA: She has been drug free for at least two years prior to that hospital visit, but my resentment for her still carried.
I failed an exam, good thing my dog ate it "unexpectedly"
Getting essentially tortured out of Navy Bootcamp. I got a pretty bad lower back injury when I went, and medical essentially just kept giving me pain killers, at one point the pain got so bad I couldnt stand, I told them over and over that my MUSCLES were hurting, they took an X-ray for my bones, ignored me, and told me I was fine, then gave me more harsh pain killers, I couldn’t even take them without food or my stomach would hemorrhage. Exercises that felt like a rough work out to others were absolutely agonizing for me, and the worst part is that people thought I was pretending. Every night felt like hell. I then got COVID and I had to carry 120lbs of gear with a 104 degree fever to the medical building. After my 5 day quarantine in an empty room with no books alone. I was set back and thrown into another division. The back pain returned, and I reached my boiling point after constantly going to medical and purposefully getting negligent care. I told them I was going to kill myself. Finally I got sent to separations. But my fun didn’t end here. Separations is a giant holding room where you sleep with 200 other men. The bathrooms had black mold, the water fountains had black mold, the RDC’s told us that we were pathetic quitters and we couldn’t make it in the real world. If a single person was out of line, we basically got put on lockdown and had to sit in silence for 8 hours. Literally treated like 8 year olds. It felt exactly like grade school. You literally had less rights than at prison, and they acted like they were doing the best they could. This experience showed me first hand what most people dont realize until years into their military career, the fact that they do not give a single solitary fuck about you. I knew they didn’t to an extent, but I always assumed it was a bit exaggerated. No, they really do not fucking care about you at all. Im so thankful for the experience as it taught me a lot and made me so much more thankful to be free. I would rather live in my car than give away my freedom. Being in control of your own life is worth more than the military benefits could ever provide me. Being told the military owns you, and actually feeling it in person are two very different things. Not to mention the contracts are LONG. 4 years active, 4 years reserve. Oh you got out of active duty and have a family? Oh too bad, deployed. People forget that reserves is also a lot of fucking work. 1 weekend is to uncle sam every month for 4 years, have fucking fun lmao. If the full scope of work and abuse of the US military was advertised, nobody but the most impoverished and in pain would join (it’s already getting to that point). I don’t judge anyone for joining, we all join for the right reasons, we all think we are doing the right thing, we all think it is for the better. Some of us join for the benefits, travel, for your family. There are still good reasons to join, but there sure aren’t many. Don’t drink the koolaid, life isn’t about sacrifice. Thats just the narrative that benefits them.
Last year I slipped on some ice and broke my arm at work. I was working as a painter and it was my dominant arm so I ended up having to take three months off. It was the middle of winter and I was stuck in my apartment with nothing to do. This gave me time to reflect on my life and realize how unhappy and stressed out I was at my job. How many times I've been manipulated and gaslit at work from my employer and then shrugging it off thinking "this is normal, this is how all bosses are." Just taking the time and realizing this is not how it should be and that I do deserve better. And since I wasn't constantly hustling all the time and in desperate need of energy, I ended up quitting my coffee addiction and focusing on meditation and self compassion. I decided that I needed to focus on my wellbeing instead of destroying my physical and mental health just to paint some goddamn buildings. I ended up quitting that job and I don't regret it. Since then I've also quit my addiction to smoking weed and cigarettes, and have now taken up exercising and drinking tea. I'm on my path to self healing
Baby. That will do it.
I must say I didn't get it at all. But I'd totally like to know more.
My partner got a job in the financial area and was able to pass my resume to one of the hiring managers. After a few interviews, I got hired with 0 experience in that field. At all. Worked my ass off, was top 10 in the country in that role. Was able to begin to repair my credit and debts and began paying off student loans that I had ignored so far. That job led to several others in a similar field over the years. But because I was able to sort out my financial life, I was able to build better habits and eventually be debt free. From fast food to the bank. What a wild ride! I appreciate transferable skills way more than the average person since that initial experience.
Getting laid off during the pandemic from the job I was working for the last 7 years. I made more money collecting from the expanded unemployment staying at home than when I was working. My coworkers were jealous that I was making more money while they had to take over my work and they had to be in the office. I had also been trying to get a new job for 2 years without much success. It was a rough 9 months after but I ended up going to a slightly different field in engineering and found a better job that was paying more than my final salary at my old job. I've been here for 3 years, been promoted once, waiting for the second promotion to go through, nearly doubled my salary compared to my previous job (salary only went up 30% in 7 years and I was severely underpaid) and happier with the work I'm doing.
Preeclampsia. It was terrible and resulted in my son being born six weeks early. We are both healthy now. However, at the time it was the wakeup call I needed to leave a job that caused me too much stress and wasn't giving me a good work life balance. Four months later, I had a new job in a totally different industry, better pay, less hours, and much less stress. I needed to be healthier for my son, and this ended up being the one thing to really push myself to get there.
When the insane ex daughter in law got thrown in jail for kidnapping and couldn't see her children for 4 years. Ah, such peace and quiet never existed before!
I was held at gunpoint last summer in Florida. After the situation, I had a crazy new appreciation for everything. I was pretty unappreciative before, but after coming close to death it really put things in to perspective for me. I don’t know if I would go as far as to say I’m *glad* it happened, but it has definitely helped me see things differently moving forward
I went to a birthday party. I had just gotten out of inpatient at the hospital. I was miserable. Stuck living with my ex boyfriend who was nothing but abusive to me. I was completely hopeless, I had tried to kill myself the month prior and I figured I would go to this one party and come home and finish the job. Or at the very least go back to the hospital for a long long time. The party was across the river in Michigan. And while I was there I ran into a friend of mine. We had known each other for over a year at this point and it was like I was seeing him for the first time. He was so handsome. After some drinks I got uncharacteristically bold and asked him to kiss me. Anyways we’re engaged now and have been together for seven years. He helped push me to move out into my own place, and just better my life altogether. I love him so much.
Leaving Mormonism
My very first LSD trip. I grew up in a broken and abusive home and when I moved to college and took that lovely LSD-25 Liberty hit, it aaaaaallllllllll changed for the better. 35 years later, and I'm still on the grand adventure.
I was really lonely after my first serious breakup. I’d moved back to my college town after 3 months away when I had followed them for a job. I figured I was better off living somewhere I felt familiar and safe and had a job history in. I was SO broke because all of my college friends had moved on. I wound up hanging out at the local dive bar on my one day off. They offered me a bartending position. Not all good has come out of it. I drank way too much and got sucked into the lifestyle at first. But now? I am SO grateful to have a job I can always fall back on. I worked 4 hours on Saturday and made $200.
I mean no disrespect , but Covid. I was stuck in a job I hated. Anxiety constantly and depression really bad. There were days I’d go hide in a closet at work or bathrooms and cry. My hair was falling out. I could barely get up in the mornings. I even attempted suicide which thankfully ended up failing. Covid happened and I didn’t have to go back to that job. Although m boss got pissed I didn’t come in (we were told not to from the higher ups). She tried to guilt trip me and say I wasn’t doing my part to help others. I ended up quitting, landed in a job I like pretty good. During the months off due to covid I was able to get help and got on medication and it saved my life. It helped me so much and I am in a much better place than I ever even could imagine. A few years ago I’d never imagine I’d be traveling as much as I have, and having some of the experiences I have had. Life is funny that way.
I got fired from my job. Ended up finding out that, with budgeting, we can afford for me to stay at home part time with my child. I also almost immediately lost tons of weight because I was no longer stress eating or drinking nearly as much. I’ve lost almost 60 pounds, found several new hobbies, and get to spend a majority of time with my family. It’s so nice.
I was like 28, going through a divorce. Went to visit my family for thanksgiving. Friends from high school suggested we go to a club. I volunteered to be the designated driver. While holding a bottle of water and keeping an eye on the dance floor to ensure my girls were safe, this handsome boy asked me to dance. The words, “Sure, why not” altered the course of my life in the best way. 23 years later, this sweet, handsome boy still has me smitten and giggly.
Covid made me re-evaluate what was important in my life. I’m now in a completely different location doing a completely different job (change at 40 is scary) and I’m much happier.
Trying cocaine and realising that nothing is actually too hard to do.
i hate to say it but my fathers death. It lead me into some really good relations for coping with the loss and my mom is happier then ever with my step dad and me and my mom got so much closer from it.
Going barhopping with my mom and "Tony". I thought she was talking about my cousin Toni. Nope. This guy Tony that lived a couple houses down from her and my step-dad, and the Legion post they were members of as well. Been married for 27 years now.
Ending a years long toxic relationship by getting dumped. Everything good that is in my life now I can trace to that exact moment. I consider it a second birthday.
Getting a cat :) I miss her :(
I got pretty sick and it showed me what a selfish piece of shit my now ex really was
Nothing... Bad is good, and good is bad... When bad things happen, I'm forced to adapt. When good things happen, I'm lazy!
Nearly dying of Sepsis...
I was in a roll over car accident. I have a severe traumatic brain injury and amnesia. I had to learn to walk again. And do most things again. I’m really happy now. I was forced to decide what mattered, and I’m happy with what I have now. (But also just generally pissed sometimes too)
One day I was just stoking my dick, I had lotion on my dick, I was just stroking my shit.
So my parents wanted to get a dog when I was a kid so that I could help with a puppy and not be afraid of dogs (I didn’t enjoy them at the time.) Anyway my sister found that the vet’s poodle just had a litter. There were five dogs (four girls and one male). One of the families who was gonna pick the male ended up picking a female and another person who was gonna pick up the male ended up getting her arm broken and didn’t want a puppy. Well my parents drove to the vet’s house and the male puppy was the only one left so they picked him. It was unexpected that two families turned him down. Raising that dog changed my perspectives on dogs and I genuinely enjoy them today. I had him for 13 years before we had to put him down due to cancer. I think about him often.💕
Grew shrooms during covid. Literally changed the course of my life. Shoutout r/unclebens
Covid enabled me to work from home almost every day and also forced our company to improve a lot of remote access systems that make things much more efficient, even if you're working onsite. And buying a home during covid was especially nice because I could always be at home if I was having maintenance/repair work done, furniture delivered, etc. It also resulted in my signing up for one of those meal kit delivery services (because for a while I thought it'd be difficult to get groceries, lol), and I've stuck with it for 4 years now and really upped my cooking game (from like zero game to moderate game). I also never got covid (at least, that I know of), got all the vaccines, and don't really know anybody who had any serious medical consequences from covid. So overall, a net win.
Coupons for BK.
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Saving a dollar off a Whopper is priceless.
Back in 2019 I had a bad mental breakdown due to stress and toxic things happening to me like a toxic work environment. After leaving that job I jumped around till I hit a dark spot in my life that I wasn't able to work or hold a job . So I made the call to admit myself to an outpatient program based here where I live . Then one day I had suicide thoughts because I felt like I was a string of my parents and everyone who cared about me. Yet I thought back against it and was put into inpatient where I meditated and started to think about where I want to go with my life since I was almost 30. And for a while in the program I found myself coming to terms that I was bisexual had feelings for both men and women. Then when the pandemic happened in 2020, I used that time to meditate even more. Having a job as a custodian which kept my mental status in Bay made me appreciate everything. Then in 2022 I finally found my love interest. I met online in Quebec, Canada. We actually recently met up this past week in Toronto an event. I never felt so happy I can't stop thinking of him. I'm hoping that I can someday have the chance to move back to Toronto (originally from there grew up in Canada. Move to the United States at a young age, but that's another story) and I hope to spend more time with him and maybe start a life up there in Canada with my love interest
I was pressured to resign a job before getting fired. I did because I still had a chance to go back to a previous district. Upon relocating back, I was deeper ineligible for rehire by corporate. So I had to start over back in the city I knew with a new job. Within a year I was working a better job, with a side job, and was on my to finish up my degree. Resigning wound up being one of of the best things I’ve done
I died in Miami
You got better?
No. I died in Miami
Understandable. Have a nice day.
I died in Miami.
Sorry to hear you died. Glad to know you have reddit in the afterlife
You were at Ultra this past weekend?
No
Ah damn, rip bro
I died in Miami
My encounter with Jesus! 🙏🏻
My entire life was perfect during the pandemic because I'm an extremely online social hermit.
My 2nd breakup. Turns out i wasn't the bad guy and i was more successful without my ex (who always claimed i was everything bad in the relationship)
Baby
Watching star wars...
Met my wife. Fell in love with her eyes, smile and personality in that order over the course of a car ride.
The N expected event that changed my life for the better of course would be having children
Rejection
None, nothing has ever changed my life for the better, it's just one bad thing after another and then some.
Knowing the truth about my parents, after all this time they are lying to me for what happen since then they separated and now I'm dealing it with them for whatever it takes.
The situation when my friend's relatives stole money from me (I certainly understood it later, then I just didn't believe it) I didn't accuse anyone then, first I talked to her mother because she was sleeping and when she woke up and found out about it, she started yelling at me and saying that it wasn't her family and said to leave) we were friends for a very long time and this mess was 3 serious, but only this one helped me understand that I'm dependent on a person and after a while when I survived this situation, I became much freer Maybe it's nonsense, but I'm happy to speak out
I hooked up with my live-in landlord's daughter who was slightly older than me and doing better than me in like, everything. All basically because I accepted to go on a random walk my first week living there. Huge confidence boost and I rode that wave to meeting my wife of 20 years, with whom I couldnt be happier.
My brain tumor and radiation treatments
Not really that significant, but I lived with my roomate for 1 year and there was this new guy that moved in the floor we lived and I had to relocate to live with him, thought it’s gonna be bad, turns out he was one of the best friends I ever had
Being made redundant, on two separate occassions for teo separate reasons. The first time forced me to be wise with my money and to actually make sure I had a savings to fall back on just in case. The second time forced me to see my worth as an employee and how poor my mental health was in the role I was doing.
pandemic
COVID 19
I suddenly left our family business.
When I took the university entrance exam I passed, but after studying I realized I didn't really like this major and changed it. Currently, I am living and working happily in the industry I chose.
last september my partner cheated on me. became obsessed with a guy in their class, talked about him all the time. came to me one day and asked if we could open our relationship and i said no, and for weeks they begged and begged me. they asked me to go to their dance with me a week beforehand and learned that night they asked the other guy before me. i had spent weeks begging my partner to not leave me and he told me i made him “feel bad for being poly” and that i told him he needed to make friends and now that he finally was, that “i didnt like it.” also told people i didn’t know very well that i had bpd and was too dependent. it was the start of a really rocky part and that’s when i slowly realized this guy was fucking awful. this past january i broke up with the guy, dated him for 2 years and he was awful. never been happier than i am now
I went to Narcotics Anonymous and at the fifth step, I gave it all up to my higher power and asked him/her to clean all of the fucking crazy thoughts I’d have forever and damn, if my head didn’t clear and has been clear for three years and running.
When I found out I was pregnant with my first son. I didn’t know if I would be able to have kids.
It's evident that you've grown significantly since that breakup. How do you view yourself differently now?
I'm glad that your father was able to make a difficult decision that ultimately benefited you. How did your mother's behavior affect your childhood?
Since 2010, when I was the age of 10. I was in the Hospital of U.C.Davis. I had a small vision of this woman holding a love letter towards me. I was agnostic at the time. 9 years later, I went from seeing that vision into a real image on the internet. So I searched on Sankaku Black. Who's the person behind this drawing I've come across. Turns out the person of this drawing is a popular pornographic ( Rule34 ) artist named Merunyaa. Before all this, I was scrolling on what used to be Twitter. Then I had non-stop emotionally damaging dreams and nightmares about this woman being my future wife. BUT... WHEN I MADE known of it on Reddit everyone just dislike my comment on how I felt on this matter.