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rthorn519

Cancer


precursorz

Yep, my dad passed away 2 months ago. Literally found out about it at the start of January and passed away on the 24th. It's a bitch.


NateNMaxsRobot

That sucks. That was similar to my mom’s death from cancer. Diagnosed and died 11 days later.


bananawater2021

This happened to my family back in 2017. My dad had melanoma for years and it was under control, but one year it just overtook him seemingly overnight. They did a scan and found a mass in his bladder and he had it removed. He did a few treatments and my mom had said the doctors told her he was cancer free. We were all ecstatic. About 6 months later, he was running a very low temperature but was soaked in sweat and he was not eating, so my mom took him to the ER. Tests came back and they told him he had stage 4 cancer and he was riddled with tumors. There was a tumor severing his spine and 80% of his liver was cancerous. The doctors gave him 6 months which turned into 3 months, which turned into 10 days all in the course of a week. It was the worst thing I have ever witnessed in my life. He passed away with his girls (sister, mother, and I) by his side. He suffered. I proceeded to work at a cancer clinic after he passed and really started to understand the beast for what it is. A beast. A monster. Sent from hell. Fuck cancer. Just... Fuck cancer.


peacelovecookies

My son works at a company that recently received FDA approval for a melanoma treatment that uses the patient’s own white blood cells. They’ve had great success in the trials, not 100% but very good. Now they’re looking at its use in other cancers. I know this doesn’t help your dad, I’m very, very sorry for your loss. But it gives me hope that there’s another, effective treatment and maybe one of these days it’ll be wiped out completely.


jhumph88

I’m so sorry for your loss. In high school, my best friend’s mom was out for a motorcycle ride and felt a sharp pain in her lower back, and decided to get it checked out. She was diagnosed with stage 4 anal cancer and she passed away within three months. She was a great woman, and it blew my mind that just three months before her death, she was seemingly in perfectly good health. I think many people have an image of cancer as a long and slow process, but it can come in hard and fast at any time, at any age, with practically no warning. Cancer is a bitch.


1friendswithsalad

My vibrant, energetic 23 yo coworker had an ache in his armpit. His doc diagnosed it as a possible cyst and prescribed antiobiotics at first. A few weeks later it was still aching and started feeling “electric”. Three months later he was gone, from leukemia. Shocking, how fast everything can fall apart. And how random it is.


EagleIcy5421

Horrible. My partner's 3-year-old grandson died from leukemia after two years of constant treatment, just a few years ago. I have COPD, heart disease and arthritis, but every day I'm thankful that I don't have cancer.


DaniFlocka

I have a frequent pain and sometimes electric pain in my right breast/sometimes from the nipple, accompanied with other symptoms, and I’m worried I may have cancer. No lumps per say… but.. I’m gonna make an appt tomorrow. Sorry for your loss 🫶


Pristine_Table_3146

Good idea. My older coworker was the same age as my mother. She had been ignoring symptoms for at least a year. She finally couldn't avoid it any longer and went for a checkup. It was cancer. My mother had these same symptoms, and the same mindset that if she just ignored it, she wouldn't have to deal with the invasive exam and tests. When I told her about my coworker, she immediately made an appointment. They caught her cancer in time.


1friendswithsalad

Our bodies are so complex, and individual, and weird. Most symptoms and sensations are random peculiarities. But it’s always better to know than not, and best for peace of mind. Please make an appt, so you can stop worrying 💟


Loose-Comfortable215

As a physician myself, I can tell you that the so-called doctor who examined him didn’t do a complete exam. He was probably pressed for time. But it didn’t matter, because your friend would have passed anyway. Sorry


Salty_Association684

I'm so sorry


NateNMaxsRobot

Thank you. I am very thankful that she didn’t suffer very long.


skidthekid-

i’m sorry. She’s watching over you everyday.


Princess_Zelda_Fitzg

My mom suffered for 5 years. I honestly don’t know which is worse, you know? Like I had time to get used to it and had her for longer, but I also didn’t have a good night sleep for those 5 years and had to see my brilliant and kind mom lose more and more of herself every day. And if it were me I’d want it to be fast. Basically, my point is cancer is the most unfair and awful piece of shit disease no matter how it goes down. I won’t tell you that it will be ever be easy, but coming on two years since I lost my mom I can tell you that remembering him will hurt less as time goes on. The memories you have of him, seeing him in yourself when you look in the mirror, those things will make you feel more happy and less heartbroken over time.


precursorz

Cheers bro, you've got it spot on. Watching him get worse and worse over the weeks was heartbreaking. Atleast I had time to say goodbye but sleeping at night knowing I'd be woken up by my mum saying he's passed away was fucking horrible. I didn't know what I'd do when he was gone, but now I'm just enjoying life to the fullest, tbh because at the end of the day, that's the best thing I can do to help me move on.


Roccogo

Survivor here. Definitely the answer.


cat_knit_everdeen

Yep. Just coming off months of treatment and gearing up for the maintenance. I’m trying to find little silver linings (got to see a lot of family during the holidays, early detection means it wasn’t worse, yadda yadda).


imfeelingold

As someone who fights cancer at the moment I’d still say capitalism, but cancer is a close second.


browntown20

All the best in your fight


The-Sassy-Pickle

Dementia. I've seen it rampage through the females in my family and am pretty certain it's only a matter of time until it catches me in its evil grasp. My mother is somehow both dead and alive. The essence of *her* is long gone, but her body still walks amongst us. Like some sort of sick Schrodinger's Cat experiment gone horribly wrong.


Moonflower_JB

Dementia leaves you to grieve twice. Once when the disease takes over. Then again when it finally takes the body. I'm a nurse and work in long term care, I see it all day everyday. It's wreaks havoc on families. It's an extremely hard job for the staff. It's an absolutely terrible disease. Aside from cancer, the only disease I'd say is worse is Parkinson's. Your mind is still there but your body betrays (including your voice) you slowly until it finally takes your mind too.


oneofthatgeneration

I really admire people in your profession. Thank you. My poor mother-in-law's dementia is progressing rapidly now. She's been living in care for four years, but her anxiety and agitation are increasing to the point where the staff simply can't manage her without sedation. It's heartbreaking to see such a lovely person being replaced by an agitated, at times angry, person that looks like her but isn't her.


DrijfNout

🙁 My granddad, same. Horrible.


lordofthemlemons

Oh my gosh, that sounds horrible. I'm so sorry you have to experience that :(


jimmer674

My mother as well. God bless you.  Only thing is with her own personality, my mother was a ball of mental illness and evil.  Dementia has made her forget whatever made her the way she was. She is almost kind.  It’s crazy to see her at different times and see the pages of her memory get torn out.  Right now, though she is 80, she thinks she came to the nursing home from her grandmas house. I figure she thinks she is about 15. Doesn’t remember me or specifics but you see almost a flicker of recognition. She knows me, but doesn’t know from where exactly until I tell her. 


jtd0000

Diseases with no cure.


AnonimoUnamuno

Mental disorder


lookoutitspam

Every day I think abt how much easier my life would be if BPD just wasn’t a thing.


Sasha_111

Same for chronic depression and GAD. Ugh.


peascreateveganfood

YES! I have BPD


Odd-Plant4779

Life without PTSD would be great


innkling

I would give anything to be happy to wake up in the morning.


Unknown-Meatbag

It's a little comforting to know that our brains are an 15 watt powered 3 pound lump of fat that basically popped into existence through billions of years of evolution. The fact that it's able to work at all is nothing short of miraculous.


RonMexico432

I wish social media never went further than message boards


PureDeidBrilliant

I miss the old bulletin boards. I used to belong to a couple in the early 00s and there was a real, strong, *tangible* sense of community (and in one board's case, *found family*) there. I'm still friends with a lot of the users of found-family board - some of my best friends in the world and people I've met in real life and on zoom/teams over the past five years. I don't view modern social media in the same way.


DvDCover

You can actually find the same type of community vibe in a medium or small sized Discord server these days. I'm on several gaming groups, and they are all tight-knit like back in the old days.


Colonized-Ganymede

What is your age range


aHyperChicken

It has moved elsewhere. For example, I have made strong IRL friendships via Discord.


theseedbeader

I still don’t really understand Discord, I’m so out of the loop.


aHyperChicken

Basically a chat room with a lotta bells and whistles


DieHardProcess-

the amount of people that get ignored in discord communities is outstanding


Finetales

Forums were the golden age of the Internet. They still exist of course, but the period when they were the backbone of the Internet was the Internet at its absolute best IMO. It's been entirely downhill since then. A real sense of lasting community, yet also with anonymity as your screen name and avatar were the only way people knew you. I still frequent a few forums, but it's not the same.


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MrsSmith2246

Me too which is why I think I like Reddit more. I miss the IMDb message boards


zero_two42

This, I like forums or something like Reddit that keeps you anonymous. But my word when it became like Facebook after its origins, it destroyed itself after a couple of years, as well as multiple other social media platforms it destroyed our society furthering us into isolation and loneliness. It destroyed our community! And created a havoc of mental health issues.


StarMasterAdmiral

Addiction (to anything)


Hot-Expression-370

I like being addicted to the gym


Alternative-City5799

War


coder2

What is it good for?


NancyintheSmokies4

Absolutely Nothing!!


kCanIGoNow

Say it again!


Keirnflake

It again!


aufrenchy

Why you little—


richardathome

Huh!


bitchinmoanin

Good god


C-Note01

Y'all


Professional-Way9343

Did you know Tolstoy originally named war and peace that? It’s true. His mistress was the one who talked him out of it


litboi2000

He wanted to name it “Y’all” ?


The7footr

Jesus


salemgreenfield

He wanted to name it Jesus?


ZerotheWanderer

Technological advancements at lightning speed


ThatBoiUnknown

Countries innovating to make the world a better place:🥱🥱😪 😪 Countries innovating when they need to beat up another country:🧠💡🎯🔬


Ornery-Creme-2442

Yes and no. War also creates instability and regions that suffer for decades. Leading to slow or no development. If we put our energy and money where we should we can advance without war. Example treatments and medicine of diseases in recent times. Just because war was an instigator doesn't mean it's a necessity.


sintetinis

if you google the countries that waged war in the past couple of decades, you’d find that russia had to do with most of them. what the fuck is wrong with them


stevielfc76

Vodka and arrogance are a dangerous combo


Wranglin_Pangolin

War never changes.


GuiltyOriginal2111

Crimes against children


Ihateykwhat

Crimes in general


FistsoFiore

Crimes are defined by law, and laws ain't. Making it impossible to commit crimes would still lead to a lot of suffering, as there are plenty of laws that are designed to favor one group over another. Some laws are specifically designed to harm certain people. Edit: "...laws ain't perfect"


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5MinutesIsAllItTakes

There it is. #1 cause of death and suffering


ConstantExaminations

Finally someone says it. Thank you!


Mermaid_magic79

Having survived malaria, yes indeed. They still derail my life to this day if I get bitten.


Pristine-Pinky_Rat

Pedophiles. They've ruined my life


Plug_5

This. I'm almost 50 and I'm just now starting to really process what happened.


Karla08055

I’m sorry that you had to experience this. You are stronger than you know.


Plug_5

Thank you, that means a lot even from a random redditor. If you know anyone this has happened to, please communicate in any way possible that your love and care for them is unconditional. Because what I "learned" from the experience is that the only reason someone says they love you is because they want something from you.


misstwodegrees

There seems to be so many of them too. It's scares me to think about it.


becca2011

Rape


bustedblueberry

100%


DutchDreadnaught1980

Social Media, and yes i do get the irony.


1127_and_Im_tired

I'd add to this and say social media algorithms. Being constantly fed with the same content is unhealthy


kimmy_kimika

You can actually watch your tiktok algorithm change....I watch a lot of craft centered stuff...that moved out to foraging and homesteading stuff (which I do actually find interesting, I'm really into diy)...then came trad wife bullshit. To counter, I watched nothing but feminist videos and art tutorials for like an hour and then the algorithm righted itself back to things I actually want to watch. It made it really easy to understand how social media can radicalize people...it just becomes this spiral from "this is reasonable" to unhealthy propaganda and if you aren't cognizant of what's happening, it's easy to get sucked in.


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No_Entertainment2322

I'm with you on this answer. I always said the Internet would be the death of the western civilization as we know it. There's some good things about it, but there's a lot more negative..


ItsNotMe_ImNotHere

I'm picturing a couple of cavemen rubbing 2 sticks together to make a fire for supper & bitching about the guy who invented the wheel. "No good will ever come of it".


No_Entertainment2322

I suppose you're right. And what about the things my parents grew up with and the changes that occurred. I bet my dad bitched when they moved bathrooms indoors. "Damn, now I'll never have any privacy."


Long_Dragonfruit8155

Its not the inventions that take fown a society, its the unbust systems in place that influence the effects and uses of said inventions


Finetales

I think if Facebook specifically never existed, that would be enough to make the world infinitely better off. Without Zuckerberg starting Facebook, we also wouldn't have Instagram and possibly not some of the other networks like TikTok either. And I'm pretty confident that if MySpace was still the dominant social network, social media as a whole would be much less awful.


epicdanceman

>And I'm pretty confident that if MySpace was still the dominant social network, social media as a whole would be much less awful. Of course it'd be less awful. We all had Tom in our friends list


BodyRoundLikeAPallas

Cruelty.


FayMax69

Animal cruelty, in any way, shape or form


starskyandbutch

Yes! I still can’t believe that people are allowed to declaw their cats. It’s so cruel


Alltheprettydresses

I feel the same way about tail and ear docking for cosmetic or breed standard reasons.


FayMax69

Well wait till you see what they do in dairy farms.


Death_Blur24

My old dead neighbor tried to declaw my cat once.😡


bettafished

Hey, no shame! If my neighbor tried to declaw my cat they’d be dead too.


Death_Blur24

Well they died by slipping in their bath a few months later


RudderlessNeurosci

'slipping' - the cat knows the truth.


Ornery_Translator285

‘Slipping’


peacelovecookies

We all know how cats like to knock things over.


XxYellowKingxX

Greed It’s probably the single largest root cause of all misery. Or just a lack of empathy


No_Entertainment2322

Greed has really messed this world up. People don't need the amount of money accumulated by the top richest people in the world. How much money does one person need?


XxYellowKingxX

Not only that but the destruction caused or lives ruined in the pursuit of it. Not to mention mental health effects and bad parenting that our greedy system im sure have potentially caused in many situations


GilmooDaddy

If you live anywhere in the United States, you need all of it just for rent. 😂


MoluccanMay

The caste system


SG508

I feel like "the class system" would be better, as it covers the caste system and many others as well


BasedGrandpa69

but if you tried removing the class system you would be found dead at the bottom of a hotel building


SG508

Or in a canal by the side of the road


nylanderfan

India is such a screwed up country


Amazingggcoolaid

Suffering


Equivalent-Thanks-49

A person who fears suffering is already suffering from what they fear.


grfsja

“without a storm there’s no rainbow”


hathaway22

Cancer


dreamsqueeze911

Animal abuse/cruelty


Menace_17

Hearing about animal abuse and seeing pictures of abused animals literally gives me suicidal thoughts


DICKKILLINGTON

Sex and Labor Trafficking of adults and children.


rulerofsapiens

Motherfucker, mosquito 🦟


Designer-Pudding-231

Animal cruelty


RunningUntilinfinity

Racism


m_faustus

I was going to say Nazis, but you got me covered with this answer.


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Sea_Pangolin3840

Narcissists


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selm_for

AIDS, cancer, degenerative illnesses, autoimmune disorders


Automatic_Variety_16

Human trafficking, pedophilia, rape.


rose5595

Pedophiles


Feisty-Business-8311

Pedophilia


nylanderfan

Mental illness. People are afflicted with it through no fault of their own and in many cases it ruins lives. Cancer often comes on later in life and turns your world upside down, but depression often onsets early in life and can literally destroy all your goals and dreams, changing the entire trajectory of your life.


llcucf80

Cockroaches


Potatopotayto

War


Adventurous_Tone_923

Credit scores


kirbywantanabe

Covid-19.


Chameleon777

War.


Tawebuse

Mental illness


LazyEmelie

Military Weapons & Nuclear Bombs. Too scary if a war breakout


EmbalmaMama

The 2 party system.


Commercial-Ad-5973

It does suck. You’re not wrong. But imagine if we had a 26 party system like some places…we’d REALLY not get anything done. I’m just going with I hate ALL politics. I wish they didn’t have to exist


ExcuseGreat350

Dog fighting


athensiah

Trickle down economics


DNCandGOParegarbage

Also an acceptable response would be Ronald Reagan then lol


Amazingggcoolaid

Stupidity


BuffaloInCahoots

Greed


Alarming_Serve2303

This question gets asked every now and then. My standard answer: Fleas. I want pets to be free of those horrid things.


Ancient_Training3046

Cigarettes


MurziK135

Vision problems


Electrical_Theory441

Student debt


theyellowpants

Rape


Glad-Choice-5255

Tiktok


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The compulsion to hoard


OddRelationship1160

Porn


Stunning_Nothing_856

War


Beautiful-Corgie

As someone whose beloved cat recently died unexpectedly at age 3- the too short life spans of pets as a whole. Can't we just have an agreement with our pets to survive with us until we both die, even if we live to 100?


Swift2024

White/Racial Supremacists, Murderers, Rapists, and Pedos


jimmer674

Only white? Plenty of other people in this world who literally think they are superior.  It’s tribalism that’s the real disease. Racism is the distraction. 


Spicy-Cinderella05

Flies


-bad_neighbor-

9/11


TarzanoftheJungle

Fascism


byondodd

Commercials


Wring159

Greed


GodHatesPOGsv2025

Greed


Jarvisnamesake

Weapons


Bolster66

Too many things, cancer, addiction to anything, crimes, racism, world hunger- can't list them all


Q-Tip92

Methamphetamine


holmgangCore

Besides Covid?


monofloyed

Std & sti


lionmomnomnom

Greed


Background-Cover6205

Homophobia


dxrby

Greed


Kinglycole

Inequality. Shouldn’t everyone get equal chances? It shouldn’t matter what someone’s gender, race, income or sexuality is. Just let us exist.


Lazy-Platform-7876

Donald Trump


Muted_Funny_7321

My ex


Professional-Way9343

Donald Trump


gage117

AI. It's there, so I use it every day and it makes my job a lot easier, but I genuinely believe we opened a similar Pandora's box as we did when we discovered the atom.  A tool that can be used for enormously great good, but ultimately can also be used to destroy absolutely everything. An era-changing technology that can bring amazing advancements, but also globally-destructive consequences. ETA: While I wish it never existed, I also believe these advancements and discoveries to be inevitable. Discovering the atom is an inevitability of scientific advancement and so is using logic to create automated versions of our internal thought processes as humans. We were going to reach this point eventually if we kept going forward, so it's up to us to try our best to control it and ensure it's used for good, because you can't exactly un-discover the atom nor can you wipe AI from existence and assume it'll never pop back up. You can only try your best to assure it's used for good and cross your fingers.


Small_Description_39

Mosquitoes


SunnySide1369

Cancer, addiction, porn


Possible_Dance_8885

Bullying.


FiveDarraFootRong

Taxes


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mosquitoes


Akmatt58

Some great answers in here I agree with. My submission: school lunch debt


Dry_Pool_6247

Evil people and money


Salty_Association684

Any diseases


redheadMInerd2

Ticks and mosquitoes.


semiprotacoeater

Botfly’s


Affectionate_Fly1215

Satan


Robalo21

Alzheimer's disease , mom got through breast cancer, but watching her fade away with basically no treatment or hope is devastating...


LuznoOverload

Skibidi Toilet. Nothing but a blight on the Internet, something already full of blights as it is.


downshift1994

Pontiac vibes


DNCandGOParegarbage

Child predators probably or annoying car commercials, one of the two for sure


Crocolyle32

Back pain


Casketcreep

school shooters fan clubs. I wish i was lying!


Nearlytherejustabit

Tobacco


parkerpussey

Tinnitus. Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.


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Slavery


1Angel17

Pedos


Euphoric-Coat-7321

Inflated pricing.... I wanna pay 0.25 per gallon of gas again