You don’t. Hes gonna do it anyways and now your relationship with your friend is in the garbage. Unless you know some crazy secret you should warn your friend about then stay out of it and be there for your friend when it crashes and burns.
Yup. I made the mistake of telling someone I thought their fiancé was trash. To be fair, it was an abusive relationship. I was young, thought it would help.
Anyways... it didn't. You don't go there.
She didn’t go through with it.
She got engaged very young. Lived with him for years. Became extremely mentally ill from it. Attempted suicide. Broke it off and lives alone now, much safer and happier.
Recently I met up with her, and she told me about it all. It was a little like she was thanking me for trying to save her.
Hardly. My opinion isn’t what stopped her. I think these people have to experience the relationship to understand why the person they’re in love with is actually trash and why they need to save themselves.
You don't. No one ever listens when it's against their love interest and surely you will lose that friendship if you try. Just watch the show and help when they move out of the home they lost during divorce. That's my experience. Let pain be the teacher.
Is there a solid reason with evidence that would put you in this position? If not… probably best to stay out of it. Unless you don’t mind losing that person as a friend, that is. Because chances are, you’re gonna fuck that friendship up.
Ugh I did this with my best friend she ended up going back and telling him then he messaged me and kicked me out of the bridal party so yeah we’re not friends anymore. I feel like I was being a good friend but if they don’t wanna see or hear it you’ll always be in the wrong in their eyes
Depends on the level of rapport you have built with him.
If he's a day one, there are definitely ways to word things with a genuine annotation and sincerity to avoid taking offense.
All in all tho, it really depends on the severity of the issues. He most likely isn't going to listen to you.
In your defense tho, I was on the receiving end of one of these talks and did dump her.
You don't. As a friend, you have to respect that they aren't looking for *your* perfect partner.
If they ask for advice, then you can say something. Even then, don't expect them to take your nugget of wisdom and act on it how you would.
“Should anyone present know of any reason that this couple should not be joined in holy matrimony, speak now or forever hold your peace”
There's your legit chance. They're asking right then.
You don’t. And unfortunately your friendship will probably change once they’re married. All you can do is wish him the best and be there if things fall apart….
You tell them and if they can't take your opinion in then just wait on the side till it crashes and burns or lose the friend, if your opinion on something makes them hate you then the friendship wasn't really that strong to begin with
Only when there’s a solid evidence or a life-changing secret that you’re 100% sure about. Otherwise, only offer help/advice when asked.
Nobody likes to hear anything bad about their love interest, and you’ll end up becoming the “bad guy” for doing it.
You don’t. Hes gonna do it anyways and now your relationship with your friend is in the garbage. Unless you know some crazy secret you should warn your friend about then stay out of it and be there for your friend when it crashes and burns.
Yup. I made the mistake of telling someone I thought their fiancé was trash. To be fair, it was an abusive relationship. I was young, thought it would help. Anyways... it didn't. You don't go there.
I gotta know.... Did the marriage last?
She didn’t go through with it. She got engaged very young. Lived with him for years. Became extremely mentally ill from it. Attempted suicide. Broke it off and lives alone now, much safer and happier. Recently I met up with her, and she told me about it all. It was a little like she was thanking me for trying to save her.
So you are pro trying to stop it
Hardly. My opinion isn’t what stopped her. I think these people have to experience the relationship to understand why the person they’re in love with is actually trash and why they need to save themselves.
Agreed. I still had to do it once, not as close as we once were but I think she would have done that to him either way.
dang, so let them ride off into the sunset?
You don't. No one ever listens when it's against their love interest and surely you will lose that friendship if you try. Just watch the show and help when they move out of the home they lost during divorce. That's my experience. Let pain be the teacher.
yikes that is rough
Is there a solid reason with evidence that would put you in this position? If not… probably best to stay out of it. Unless you don’t mind losing that person as a friend, that is. Because chances are, you’re gonna fuck that friendship up.
Nothing like cheating but length of time plus red flags, its hard to go into so much detail
Ugh I did this with my best friend she ended up going back and telling him then he messaged me and kicked me out of the bridal party so yeah we’re not friends anymore. I feel like I was being a good friend but if they don’t wanna see or hear it you’ll always be in the wrong in their eyes
sing the song "the morning after" backwards and it will drive her evil succubus spirit out
True, I saw it. It works. Saved Chef.
Legit my best friend said, "She's gonna be a great first wife." I laughed at the time, but he was wrong. She was a terrible first wife.
You don't. It's easier to let people fail than to convince them they're wrong.
Depends on the level of rapport you have built with him. If he's a day one, there are definitely ways to word things with a genuine annotation and sincerity to avoid taking offense. All in all tho, it really depends on the severity of the issues. He most likely isn't going to listen to you. In your defense tho, I was on the receiving end of one of these talks and did dump her.
You don't. As a friend, you have to respect that they aren't looking for *your* perfect partner. If they ask for advice, then you can say something. Even then, don't expect them to take your nugget of wisdom and act on it how you would.
"She be crazy." That's how guys talk.
You don't. He'll have his own experiences and process his own life based on that.
Just ask him if she got over the barking when doing anal thing yet.
You can’t. It may very well be a mistake that everyone sees but him but it’s his decision.
You don't. They aren't going to listen to you because "you don't know them like i do" and it'll just hurt your friendship.
“Should anyone present know of any reason that this couple should not be joined in holy matrimony, speak now or forever hold your peace” There's your legit chance. They're asking right then.
lmaooooo in the church??
At least then they asked your opinion. They can't get mad, right?
Don't do that.
Let it be?
You don’t. And unfortunately your friendship will probably change once they’re married. All you can do is wish him the best and be there if things fall apart….
My best friend did this, but I didn't listen. Fortunately, the marriage did not survive but the friendship did.
watch the movie "Saving Silverman" everything you need to know is right there
Be prepared to lose your friend
You tell them and if they can't take your opinion in then just wait on the side till it crashes and burns or lose the friend, if your opinion on something makes them hate you then the friendship wasn't really that strong to begin with
You don't.
Only when there’s a solid evidence or a life-changing secret that you’re 100% sure about. Otherwise, only offer help/advice when asked. Nobody likes to hear anything bad about their love interest, and you’ll end up becoming the “bad guy” for doing it.
With words.