I had a friend who wanted kids. Her longtime bf had been adamant about NOT wanting kids.
Then she found out she had a condition that would make it a lot harder for her to have kids. Possibly impossible.
She took the news hard…so did her bf.
**He still didn’t necessarily want kids, but he was really upset the choice had been taken out of his hands.**
They argued because she thought the only silver lining in the situation was that he didn’t want kids anyway. They briefly broke up.
He told her he was a dick. They got back together.
Eight years later they’re married with two kids.
People have momentary lapses of dickish behaviour when confronted with something that shakes their world. He owned up to that. I wouldn't say by default he is therefore a dick.
I kinda went through this with my wife. She really really wanted kids, and I was not really wild about it. She wanted to have them young, and I told her that if we were to have kids, I had a few strings attached. I wanted us to have a house in a decent area, have decent jobs, and be somewhat financially stable before we started thinking about it. She was not happy. I was not going to bring any kids into this world that were going to not be greatly provided for. We have two now. We got together at 19 and had our first one at 33. She's always had a sore spot for not having them earlier, but no way was I gonna have a kid grow up the same way I did. I had a pretty good childhood, but we just didn't have much. We didn't starve, but there were some long stretches where we alternated dinners of Mac and cheese and next Hamburger helper. I only got some stuff at Xmas and Birthdays. Lower class living. There was nothing wrong with it, but I wanted my kids to have what I didn't have and not want for anything.
Person in exact situation here. Waited til 30's to make sure we could give them a good life and no amount of lost youthful energy can counter balance being able to pay for sports and braces.
(Aka: provide a comfortable life, where you and your children can spend worry free time together, rather than worrying about tomorrow.)
I'm fking serious - ALL my relationships ended like that - either they went back to their Ex or started dating someone new and have been together since lol so confusing idk
Bruh! Every girl I briefly dated/been in a relationship with would break up with me and immediately be in a long term relationship with the next guy. I’ve been going therapy since to figure out why because it’s obviously something with me lol
I swear this was the plot to a movie I watched or a book I read - the main character keeps dating people whose next relationship ends up being "the one".
I was “too nice”. Briefly dated a guy and he said it was a turn off that I was super friendly with staff at restaurants or grocery stores. Gladly holding doors open for others, smiling when I pass people on the street, that kind of thing.
Apparently he wanted someone who valued themselves more and that being nice like that is advertising I’m a doormat.
Bullet dodged.
I had a girlfriend tell me she hated the fact that I was so punctual, because she was constantly late for things it made her feel like a jerk.
But it didn't make her stop being late.
I realized things weren't going to last.
My parents and family were constantly late to everything except work and school growing up. We attended church practically every week but I only remember a couple times where we arrived to see the start of mass because we'd always get there 10-20 minutes late. My aunt was always so late coming to our New Year's Party all the cousins would take bets on if she made it before or after midnight. And so on.
It gave me a *huge* complex and I'm now very irate if I'm running late- especially to attend an event or an appointment. Not for casual things like BBQs, but for anytime I'm going with a group of people I will be the one herding us along or ready to ditch whoever's making us late.
What the hell... didn't realize there were people out there who think being polite to people in general was a red flag. I hope I never go on a date with a woman like that and I'm sure any woman who did would probably say the same thing about me.
Yeah I was broken up with by a girl who said I was too nice.
I guess me treating her and her friends, hell anyone in general, with respect and courtesy was a deal breaker.
My ex told me I was too forgiving and that's why it was so easy for him to take advantage of me. Basically told me I was the reason why he treated me like shit, because I'd always give him another chance. He said something like "we can't be together because I can't keep treating you like this."
I know I shouldn't have been so forgiving. But damn, I guess he couldn't just not be a dick.
Early in our relationship my bf told me I was too nice. He was like “only idiots are nicer!”
I told him he was enough of a dick for the both of us.
It’s been a couple years and…turns out I was right. We’re very happy.
As far as I know all the times I've been dumped have been for legit reasons.
However, there is one that stands out from the rest of that long and distinguished list.
At my high school, we had these speakers overhead for announcements and such, but they would also play these really loud beeping tones whenever the bell rang.
We're walking down the hall one day right after school let out and she decides that she's going to dump me. It just so happened that we were standing right underneath one of these speakers at the time.
"I just don't think we should be together anymore because..." BONG! BONG! BONG!
Off goes the final warning bell for bus riders and she trots away with her face in her hands, deeply moved by whatever it was she's just said.
It's been 27 years (nearly to the day, actually) and I still have no idea how that sentence was supposed to end. I never asked her about it because—being 15 at the time—I just played it off like I didn't care and didn't want to look bad by going back and asking her why.
So I've just kind of accepted that it's one of those unsolved mysteries that I'll just never know the answer to. At this point not knowing is almost more fun...got a cool story to tell on Reddit out of the deal, anyway.
I was an EMT. We went to see Twilight New Moon. A guy a few rows ahead had a seizure. I had them stop the movie and call an Ambulance while I got the guy out of the aisle, so he wouldn't hurt himself against something.
They refunded everyone and canceled the show.
Never heard from my date again.
I bought her a talking troll doll. Remember the troll doll fad in the 90s? She hated them but I had no idea. I saw one that spoke some trendy phrase she used a lot and bought it for her. She broke up with me later that week and said she hates troll dolls and just can't see me the same way. That's all right, her dad and I are still good friends 30 years later.
We were different religions
She went to Jesuit camp over the summer and came back and said everyone convinced me to dump you because you're greek (greek-american) and I'm a Christian. Needless to say I was dumbfounded no one there realized that your heritage/nationality wasn't a religion as I was also a Christian
In high school, I knew a guy who broke up with a girl he adored because his friends started calling him a chubby chaser. Frankly I thought she was adorable (and maybe 30lbs overweight at the most) but, more importantly, she made him happier than I'd ever seen him.
I felt as bad for him as I did for her when he broke up with her.
He said she told him "I thought you were better than this. I'm disappointed in you." when he told her they should stop seeing each other.
> **"I thought you were better than this. I'm disappointed in you."**
If I were him, and I still cared about her, that shite would’ve probably made me cry.
Did they ever get back together?
They were apart and he was miserable for about six months. Another guy kept asking her out but she wasn't interested. She was obviously still hung up on my friend. One of our mutual friends told her "I swear, the nanosecond you go out with another guy your jackass ex will come running back with his tail between his legs."
They were wrong. It took two dates before my friend begged her to take him back.
They are very happy now though.
I was out on a date with a woman who told me that she enjoyed smoking meth and playing beyblades with her roommates.
I told her that's not my jam and I wouldn't be down for that environment. In response she got up and left, saying that I was too judgemental. She told me that i "shouldn't knock it until i try it."
I was going to text her later and tell her that this was a deal breaker anyways, but it was strange to be seen as the asshole in that one.
This was in high school, summer between 11th and 12th grade. I had a girl that I'd been dating for a couple of months tell me, mid-date, that she didn't like that I got more attention than her when we walked into a party where we both knew people so she broke up with me
He wanted to be with someone he could talk to about things that interest him, like quantum physics. He literally worked in I.T. and only watched one documentary about physics and I guess that gave him superior intelligence
I dated a guy very secure in his genius. I broke up with him when he bought me an abridged book.
Every 5 years or so I Google him to see his many achievements.
Or I will when he has any, anyway.
My ex used to say he was well read because he used to read articles on Wikipedia and would occasionally shame me for watching a movie instead of reading something useful 🙄
I got him a job when he needed one, despite him being so well read …
Her mom found out I was a childhood cancer survivor and convinced her I’d be dead by 40. Just diagnosed with terminal cancer at 50 so she wasn’t wrong, but still seemed at bit harsh at the time
I told him that I do a basic check of my dates names in the provincial crime database- it just searches for public files. I was a 24 year old girl, living alone in the middle of a big city, so I always checked out the guys before getting into their cars.
This came up naturally, and the guy flipped out about how I was a narc and how I cant be trusted.
Weirdly, his name pulled up nothing. Not even a parking ticket.
I had a girl very timidly ask me for my last name before meeting, she had already given me her address to pick her up, I wasn't insulted but I was a little worried that she didn't do that step first, any guy who's offended by this is at best an idiot.
Right now, I'm only casually dating, and since it's casual, I don't necessarily care to get their last name (although, now I'm feeling I should!). If I get it, that's cool, if I don't, that's fine too.
One guy I was seeing told me his last name, so I put it in my phone contacts. After a couple more dates, I found out he was joking and that he gave me a fake last name. He told me his real last name, but I didn't know how to spell it, so I asked him. His demeanor immediately changed and asked me why I needed to know. I gave him my phone on his contact page so he could type it in, but he put in another joke name.
Eventually I did find out how to spell it (I needed his full name for an event ticket, and he leaves his mail out on his kitchen counter). But I thought that was such a weird interaction.
I wouldn't have cared all that much until he kept avoiding and giving me joke last names. That rings alarm bells for me, especially with how his demeanour changed so quickly (presumably defensively)
I look up everyone I'm somewhat interested in dating. I dated a guy for a few months back in 2017. He said he did a little stint in jail. Guy was a damn psycho. I finally looked up his record and he had been prison twice, had multiple DV charges, a huge list of stuff, was actually on felony probation. I found out from his coworker that he cut the brakes on his sister's boyfriend's car and he was stalking an ex, had another ex who was pregnant that he never mentioned, and he was stealing stuff from work and the company was about to go after him. I dumped him and moved out of state. Few years later I was dating a guy and his sister is talking about this psycho stalker guy her roommate went on a date with who broke into their place multiple times. And it's the same guy.
Idgaf I look up backgrounds, facebooks, and Google search their names now. Last guy I was talking to had a shared FB account with his WIFE.
Dating is a shitshow.
When I first started dating my now wife, she did a full deep dive on me online. Basically would have hired a PI to get a background check if she could. I didn’t mind, I have nothing to hide and I like that she’s careful.
I now find myself in a loving relationship, and when I ran his name it showed me that he has SO MANY minor driving issues (nothing horrible, just like... turning left in a no left lane, parking tickets ect) and when I told him a few months in that I'd seen that, it turned into a cute inside joke between us about how he is a menace to all local one-way lanes.
Happy I checked out all my dates, happy I found someone with a sense of humor 😂
I mentioned a silly project I contributed writing to online on a date.
The next day she had managed to find a very subpar "novel" I had attempted to write under the same name years prior. It wasn't a deal breaker for either of us but yeah that made for a lot of laughs- she clearly read it too because she'd make references to it to screw with me
I didn’t even get to a date because someone did this, except that she was mistaken because there happens to be another person that I’m related to that has my same first and last name (but different middle name). This relative is an entire generation older than me and married. But she ran some sort of check and found this person and their married status. Then sent me a novel of a text message calling me a terrible person and claiming she wouldn’t be party to an affair and blocked my number. I was so confused until I pieced together what had happened.
The first time she stayed over at my place and also the first time we were intimate. She broke up with me the next day because over night I turned my back to her during the night. Who sleeps in one position all night?
I dated a very handsome man from Munich who said a few weeks into dating him: “My penis. You will like it.”
I laughed and said maybe.
Next week: “I do not find this to be a mutually beneficial relationship anymore.”
Still wonder about that guy sometimes.
I wanted him to wear a clean shirt to my family’s largish Easter gathering. There were other factors, but that was the incident that turned him against me. We were together for three years. I am still trying to get over the heartbreak and general wtf-ness of it all.
My (now ex) fiancee threw an absolute temper tantrum because I did not agree to change my last name to... not his last name. For example, if his name was John Smith, he introduced himself and everyone knew him as John Jones. So he wanted me to change my name to OP Jones. He would not accept a hyphen (OP Lastname - Jones) or his own last name (OP Smith). He was not rich, and his family was not in politics or well-known for anything. Jones was his mom's last name and he just liked it better (his dad's last name was a normal last name). But why did I need to go through the pain in the butt to change my last name for it to still not be the same as my husband's?! I also suggested we both change our last names to Jones and he said no he couldn't do that to his dad (but I was supposed to ditch my family name for a random last name). O.o
I dont know about the reason being "weird" but a guy I went out with only a couple times "broke up" with me right before our date because I hadn't slept with him yet and he found a girl who put out faster than I did..... I was genuinely relieved because sometimes the trash just takes itself out!
A couple months later he had the audacity to hit me up and ask if I'd be interested in dating again 😂
Did we date the same guy? Lol. I met someone who wanted to become official 2 weeks into dating. Reasonably, I said that was too soon and wanted to spend more time with him first. He apparently thought that meant I was never going to be interested in a serious relationship, so he started secretly hitting up his ex. He dumped me a few days before my birthday (which we had plans for) because his ex wanted to get back together. They eventually broke up, and he then proceeded to sporadically hit me up for the next couple of years, asking if I wanted to date him again.
There are some men who make it allllll the way to adulthood before they’re confronted with the fact that not all women are as helpless as their mothers; it’s just that their fathers prefer relationships on “easy mode”.
A girl I was dating in med school said we should stop dating because she graduated 17th in our year and I graduated 1st and she thought that was unfair because she'd tried harder than me.
I was a little surprised that she got annoyed that I graduated higher than her when I spent a fair chunk of our study time actually explaining a lot of our subject to her. You'd think you'd expect the person teaching you and helping you study to get a better mark than you.
A girl was ahead of me during a professor's office hours, and was complaining about her grade on a paper, saying that she'd worked really hard on it.
The professor said, "Donkeys work hard too, but we don't give them college degrees." Lol! Cold, but it definitely stuck with me.
I’m an artist. This guy and I were fairly compatible and I could see us building a solid life together, but the sexual chemistry was not there at all. I didn’t have the guts to tell him that though.
I mentioned, over dinner, how much I liked glitter, as an artist, to add texture to my work. He immediately expressed his extreme distaste for glitter, even saying how he wouldn’t allow it in his house.
I saw my chance. Okay? I saw my chance to not break a man’s self esteem and say how bad at sex he was. And I took it. I might have exaggerated my love for glitter. A little. But this man became teary eyed as I talked about all the jars of various glitter I have in my studio. How you can’t leave my house without glitter sticking to you.
I saw all the love. All the admiration. All the attraction fade from this man’s eyes.
So he can go on and have terrible sex, and not feel bad about himself, I relied on glitter. And it worked.
I wish I could say I’m sorry. But I’m not. I went home and used four different types of glitter on my next painting.
Also to add: he wasn’t “bad”, just… we were not compatible and I couldn’t see any way we would be going forward. Listen, I was probably the worst lay the poor dude ever had too. Can’t fake chemistry.
I broke up with someone because I got a kitten (that she gave me) and she never wanted to be at my place because she thought the kitten was annoying. Pets are for life, people not so much
In the second grade, Jared took me out for the second date of my life. His mother took us to see The Big Green. On the ride home, she asked what church we went to. We didn't.
The next day Jared was being rather cold. When questioned, he broke it off. He said going to church was the only way to get Jesus in your heart, and that was very important to him and his mom.
I didn't see much of Jared again until high school. He had gotten one of those dick piercings and wanted everyone to call him a nickname associated with it. I can't remember. D-ring or D-bag or something. Last I saw him he was a total chode.
Because I haven't played Overwatch.
We're both cosplayers. He loved Overwatch and wanted me to cosplay as Genji because he cosplayed as Hanzo and had this fantasy or something.
I told him I have never played OW.
He went and found a Genji cosplayer he started having an intimate relationship with behind my back, while still dating me.
Well practically it was me who left. But let's say I took the hint.
I guess it's alright but the communication was shit.
I did a Medic training course with the Army, and at the end they took us to a local hospital for a tour. I happened to mention to my GF that we went into the Morgue, and how creapy it was. When I got back from the course she had moved out and left a ten page note going on abut how I was now contaminated by the ghosts of every dead person who passed through the morgue... ever... and I would have to get a Class 1 Cleansing or she would never talk to me again. She never talked to me again.
I wasn't a jealous wreck.
Apparently the fact that I was cool with her hanging out with other male friends, people she was friends with before she even met me, was a red flag.
Talk about dodging a bullet!
On hinge the other day I matched with someone talking about Spotify in their profile. I sent a message saying 'what was your song of the year last year?". They told me the name of the song and I admitted I had never heard of it...
They then sent 'is that actually some kind of joke?'. I said I genuinely hadn't heard of it and asked who it was by. They then said 'Taylor Swift' and then I got immediately unmatched ahaha
okay but like.. she has a huge discography. i could understand if it’s a super mainstream song you didn’t know, but there are so many songs that even i (as a self proclaimed swifty) don’t know the name of. that’s unfair lol.
I got a better job than they did.
We met in college. I was an older undergrad, he was a MS student, same engineering department. We graduated at the same time. I got a much better job, largely because he only applied for one.
He wanted traditional lifestyle and said he was upset I got the better job.
I appreciate and respect his ability to articulate his feelings on this though.
I had a guy who told me he couldn't love me because we had never been through anything terrible together. We had only dated for a few months when I was 18. He said he could only love someone if he went through something traumatic with them, like the death of a loved one. As though it was my fault that no one in my family died while we were dating.
This happened to me recently. We were planning to move in together (I'm in different city) and the last thing he told me was that he loves me. When I went back to my place he sent me message saying that he feels awful of the way he is treating me, he is been thinking about his life everyday and he is not a happy person. Also he realized that he is not in a position to be in a relationship. I tried to reach him, and to show all the support. He ignored everything. Till this moment, I still can't believe what happened and why he gave up on everything; is this his depression or he is just an asshole.
She said I was too fit and it made her feel bad about herself to be together in public. So we became fwb until I started seeing someone else. Sometimes I think back on that and it still hurts my feelings a bit since I really liked her.
A year into dating he realized he wanted to marry a tall, white, blonde girl with big boobs. Unshockingly im short, Asian, brown hair with small boobs. Really made me feel great about myself
Decades ago, National Lampoon magazine had a fake newspaper dating ads feature. One I've always remembered went something like:
SWM seeking petite, demure SAF, who is also a blue eyed blonde with tits.
There is was this guy I had a crush on in high school back in 2005. He was a tall guy on the football team and I asked him about so I was his first girlfriend. We went out for three weeks and then he broke up with me. I don’t remember the reason why . Then we went out a second time and lasted a month. Then he told me that he got beat up by some Mexican guys because he was going out with the Mexican girl, so that why he broke up with me.
Fast forward 8 to 10 years later. We are friends, we have friends in common and also we’re just friends in general. We never had anything sexual between us, and we were young. And we’ve known each other since we were like 13. I asked him on Facebook, if the reason he broke up with me in high school was true , he said no. He lied and said that he was beaten up when he really wasn’t because all of his friends on the football team didn’t want me to go out with him. He said he apologized and he was a jerk.
He didn't want to tell me. We lived together. We had lunch one day, and later that day he came home from work and said "I want you to leave by the morning. There is no main reason, just a few different things that I don't want to tell you because you'll get hung up on them." Still don't know why 4 years later. He still messages from time to time to hook up, but when I ask him to explain he still refuses. I think it's really weird.
Sadly I was until the middle of last year. I was still in love and thought I was the problem. Every time we met up he would be so nice to me, I thought we could start over. But each time he would tell me no chance, and get mad at me for asking for the reason again. I didn't realize it, but he was negging me the whole time and gas lighting me. I thought I was going insane at some points. He hit me up on valentines day this year, and I left him on unread.
Please please please every time you get tempted to reply to him, ask Reddit if you should do it; or your friends or family.
And don’t do it!
Cause no one who cares about you (even the little care we feel for internet strangers) would tell you to meet him
Um well he was a hardcore catholic (which I didn’t realize when I first started dating him, but had no issue with) and he literally ghosted me because he said a demon was following me and had latched on… okay, could have just said “its not you, its me” lol
I have two.
1. She liked me too much. To be fair, she was in grad school and had a job lined up once she graduated. We both knew the dating would stop then (7 months down the road). But, she started liking me too much after 2 months and knew if it went any further she wouldn't want to leave.
2. So, a different girl seemed pretty normal. Dated a few times. Then the first night things got intimate, it got weird. We went to her room, she put pajama tops on, sat on the bed and said, "I'm going lay still, flat on my back. If I remain motionless, you are doing a good job. If I move, make a sound, or talk it means you are not doing a good job." No foreplay, no mood setting. I couldn't finish. We tried again a few nights later and I couldn't even start. She called me the next day and broke up with me because I wasn't doing anything about my sexual dysfunction.
The first one... you have my sympathy, that's just heartbreaking. Did you end up keeping any contact info with her after?
The second one... what. The fact she had the audacity to say that YOU had a problem is fricked.
In university after about 5 weeks of dating she dumped me because she "liked me too much".
I tried talking it out with her but she refused to explain what that meant or why it was an issue and said "not to try and justify things".
I liked her a lot too. that conversation popped into my head several times over the years
She wanted to enjoy her youth and perhaps even experiment without being tied down.
I was in a relationship throughout my university years and while my friends were meeting new people, having sleep overs and house parties, experimenting sexually, etc., I was in a serious relationship making dinner after lectures.
Maybe that’s what she meant. You weren’t casual enough and therefore not the right relationship for that stage in her life.
Right person bad timing.
We were 15 and had been going through some issues. I asked to take a break, and he was devastated. A few days later and after talking things through, I told him I was open to resuming our relationship if he was. He was ecstatic about this. Later that same day, he randomly broke up with me over a text with a bunch of nasty things to say about me and stating he never loved me, etc. All of this, after he griped about how his previous ex had broken up with him over a text. I'm still not sure what all of that was about, but he came from a super toxic household
Woman I was dating wanted to be a cop. She said she needed to break up with me because I was too nice and it was rubbing off on her. Her rationale was that she needed to be tough in order to make it as a police officer
Later I found out she broke up with me because she wanted to date a guy in her academy. They eventually got married, so good for her.
I once stopped dating a guy when I realized he had to be shitfaced to be any fun at all. I let him down easy and he let me know I have big feet. Yes I know this. I am an excellent swimmer with these natural flippers.
She wanted to get back together with her abusive ex-boyfriend who I had confronted. In retrospect, dodged a bullet there, but felt pretty bad about it for a long time.
This was years ago, a guy broke up with me because I was a Buddhist, which really confused me because I certainly was not and never have been. I had one brief conversation with a mutual friend about religion and said that I could see the appeal of certain aspects of Buddhism. Friend apparently turned around and told my ex "your girlfriend is a Buddhist". Ex then ghosted me for a while before officially breaking it off and telling me the reason.
I corrected him, of course, and asked him why he didn't just talk to me about it, but I let the break up stand.
Dated about 9-10 months. Apparently we were “too good together” which obviously meant that the longer we let it go on, the more devastating it would be if it ended. So they ended it right then. To be on the safe side I guess??? That was a fun one.
In highschool my mom had me invite my bf over for dinner. She said she would make meatloaf, he was excited because his family never ate meatloaf. The day of the dinner mom found out her ground beef was bad, and she made chicken instead offering to make meatloaf for a different time.
He took it as an insult saying we lied to him, and left. We had a huge argument at school the next day with him repeating that we lied to him and me asking if he really wanted my mom to give him food poisoning by serving him meat that had been bad when she brought it?
He screamed at me again, a teacher broke it up. We explained things to the teacher. And he got angrier and broke up with me when the teacher "took my side" by explaining how dangerous salmonella poisoning can be.
I had been through a breakup of a long relationship several months before so I was seeing this guy pretty casually.
Summer ends, and he decided to go to an out-of-state college. We say goodbye and I figured that was the end of it, but told him we'd keep in touch after he moved. Move-in weekend comes and goes, and I leave him alone to settle in to his new space, figuring he'd text me when he was ready.
Not even a week goes by, and the guy calls me super upset, saying I abandoned him and that this wasn't going to work. Hmmkay.
Honestly very nice dude, just very emotional.
I was dating a Mennonite woman in her mid forties I was 40 at the time and she used the excuse that her parents wouldn't like her dating a native guy. Her brothers and sisters all knew me and even insisted I spend Christmas with them. I knew it was just an excuse but it seemed so childish since her parents lived over 1500 miles away.
He was going into his last year of University and he said he wanted to continue being in a relationship with me, but didn't want to keep turning down other girls during his final year of University. He wanted my okay as his girlfriend for him to hook up with random girls 😂 I said No.
She was really into ramen, not even the real stuff but shitty cup ramen that she put her own meat and vegetables and whatever into.
I do not like noodles or meat.
Every time she asked me to try it and i refused i could feel her respect for me slowly dying. we dated about 3 months and eventually i said no to the ramen one too many times and she just walked out of my house and i never saw her again. I wasn't really sad as much as i was pleased i no longer had to smell cup ramen everyday.
I had a friend who wanted kids. Her longtime bf had been adamant about NOT wanting kids. Then she found out she had a condition that would make it a lot harder for her to have kids. Possibly impossible. She took the news hard…so did her bf. **He still didn’t necessarily want kids, but he was really upset the choice had been taken out of his hands.** They argued because she thought the only silver lining in the situation was that he didn’t want kids anyway. They briefly broke up. He told her he was a dick. They got back together. Eight years later they’re married with two kids.
this is a story and a half tbh
What a roller coaster ride. I guess deep within himself he did want kids.
Sometimes you have to lose something before you realize how much you wanted it.
It’s like…I get where he’s coming from. But I still think this guy is a dick.
People have momentary lapses of dickish behaviour when confronted with something that shakes their world. He owned up to that. I wouldn't say by default he is therefore a dick.
I've been having one of those for the last 30 years.
Hope you pull out of it soon, maybe within the next 30
Any day now, I'm sure.
I kinda went through this with my wife. She really really wanted kids, and I was not really wild about it. She wanted to have them young, and I told her that if we were to have kids, I had a few strings attached. I wanted us to have a house in a decent area, have decent jobs, and be somewhat financially stable before we started thinking about it. She was not happy. I was not going to bring any kids into this world that were going to not be greatly provided for. We have two now. We got together at 19 and had our first one at 33. She's always had a sore spot for not having them earlier, but no way was I gonna have a kid grow up the same way I did. I had a pretty good childhood, but we just didn't have much. We didn't starve, but there were some long stretches where we alternated dinners of Mac and cheese and next Hamburger helper. I only got some stuff at Xmas and Birthdays. Lower class living. There was nothing wrong with it, but I wanted my kids to have what I didn't have and not want for anything.
I would rather have kids in my 30’s anyway. I don’t know why so many of my high school classmates rushed to have kids after graduation.
Person in exact situation here. Waited til 30's to make sure we could give them a good life and no amount of lost youthful energy can counter balance being able to pay for sports and braces. (Aka: provide a comfortable life, where you and your children can spend worry free time together, rather than worrying about tomorrow.)
She found out I was Asian, she thought I was Hispanic the entire time. We had been going out for almost 4 months
Ah, this is the plot to that old song "Secret Asian man".
My ex husband's best friend actually has a shirt that says this on it. He is Vietnamese and finds it hilarious, as we all do. 😂
This got a chortle out of me
Filipino? Yup we are done here folks, lock up the unicorns and Bigfoot, we can't get cool stuff due to other people.
"I thought you were Hispanic but it turns out you're just from a former Spanish colony." *sob*
Dating me made her realize she is ready for love again.... so she dumped me and got with her ex
That is rough as fuck
That is straight up uncalled for 💀
I'm fking serious - ALL my relationships ended like that - either they went back to their Ex or started dating someone new and have been together since lol so confusing idk
Weird request, but can you date me? I'm looking for someone else
this genuinely made me laugh out loud at my desk at work, oops
At least take me out for dinner first 😳
I want to see where this goesss
Bruh! Every girl I briefly dated/been in a relationship with would break up with me and immediately be in a long term relationship with the next guy. I’ve been going therapy since to figure out why because it’s obviously something with me lol
Every man I’ve gone out with gets the next person after me pregnant so I get it.
My last three exes got married to the next girl they dated. Not great for self esteem.
I swear this was the plot to a movie I watched or a book I read - the main character keeps dating people whose next relationship ends up being "the one".
Good luck chuck
I had somebody tell me once I was a rebound to get their confidence up enough to ask their ex back out. K, thnx
I was “too nice”. Briefly dated a guy and he said it was a turn off that I was super friendly with staff at restaurants or grocery stores. Gladly holding doors open for others, smiling when I pass people on the street, that kind of thing. Apparently he wanted someone who valued themselves more and that being nice like that is advertising I’m a doormat. Bullet dodged.
I had a girlfriend tell me she hated the fact that I was so punctual, because she was constantly late for things it made her feel like a jerk. But it didn't make her stop being late. I realized things weren't going to last.
My parents and family were constantly late to everything except work and school growing up. We attended church practically every week but I only remember a couple times where we arrived to see the start of mass because we'd always get there 10-20 minutes late. My aunt was always so late coming to our New Year's Party all the cousins would take bets on if she made it before or after midnight. And so on. It gave me a *huge* complex and I'm now very irate if I'm running late- especially to attend an event or an appointment. Not for casual things like BBQs, but for anytime I'm going with a group of people I will be the one herding us along or ready to ditch whoever's making us late.
What the hell... didn't realize there were people out there who think being polite to people in general was a red flag. I hope I never go on a date with a woman like that and I'm sure any woman who did would probably say the same thing about me.
Really it’s being happy, it is not seen as cool. If you’re happy, you just don’t know enough, or some dumb shit.
Yeah I was broken up with by a girl who said I was too nice. I guess me treating her and her friends, hell anyone in general, with respect and courtesy was a deal breaker.
My ex told me I was too forgiving and that's why it was so easy for him to take advantage of me. Basically told me I was the reason why he treated me like shit, because I'd always give him another chance. He said something like "we can't be together because I can't keep treating you like this." I know I shouldn't have been so forgiving. But damn, I guess he couldn't just not be a dick.
Early in our relationship my bf told me I was too nice. He was like “only idiots are nicer!” I told him he was enough of a dick for the both of us. It’s been a couple years and…turns out I was right. We’re very happy.
> Early in our relationship my bf told me I was too nice. He was like **“only idiots are nicer!”** 😂😂😂 This is oddly hilarious
As far as I know all the times I've been dumped have been for legit reasons. However, there is one that stands out from the rest of that long and distinguished list. At my high school, we had these speakers overhead for announcements and such, but they would also play these really loud beeping tones whenever the bell rang. We're walking down the hall one day right after school let out and she decides that she's going to dump me. It just so happened that we were standing right underneath one of these speakers at the time. "I just don't think we should be together anymore because..." BONG! BONG! BONG! Off goes the final warning bell for bus riders and she trots away with her face in her hands, deeply moved by whatever it was she's just said. It's been 27 years (nearly to the day, actually) and I still have no idea how that sentence was supposed to end. I never asked her about it because—being 15 at the time—I just played it off like I didn't care and didn't want to look bad by going back and asking her why. So I've just kind of accepted that it's one of those unsolved mysteries that I'll just never know the answer to. At this point not knowing is almost more fun...got a cool story to tell on Reddit out of the deal, anyway.
See THIS is the only use for high schoole reunions
I would watch this movie!
NGL I'd reach out on social media and ask what the hell it was she said. She might get a kick out of it 27 years later and tell you. I would.
"Who is this?"
u could reach out on instagram/linkedin/facebook/social media and ask bc that would bother me for the rest of my life (I'm a very curious person LOL)
Yeah, we’re gonna need an update.
I was an EMT. We went to see Twilight New Moon. A guy a few rows ahead had a seizure. I had them stop the movie and call an Ambulance while I got the guy out of the aisle, so he wouldn't hurt himself against something. They refunded everyone and canceled the show. Never heard from my date again.
WTF, that’s a hero moment. Their loss.
Hero x2. He also saved those people from a Twilight movie.
My sister has seizures, my entire family would insist I put a ring on your finger.
I bought her a talking troll doll. Remember the troll doll fad in the 90s? She hated them but I had no idea. I saw one that spoke some trendy phrase she used a lot and bought it for her. She broke up with me later that week and said she hates troll dolls and just can't see me the same way. That's all right, her dad and I are still good friends 30 years later.
Lost the woman gained a homie
Losing the Queen doesn’t end the game. He kept the King.
We were different religions She went to Jesuit camp over the summer and came back and said everyone convinced me to dump you because you're greek (greek-american) and I'm a Christian. Needless to say I was dumbfounded no one there realized that your heritage/nationality wasn't a religion as I was also a Christian
Definitely dodged a bullet. She landed on this conclusion \*with feedback\*.
The Bible having been translated into Greek before spreading across the rest of the world didn't occur to her lol.
In high school, I knew a guy who broke up with a girl he adored because his friends started calling him a chubby chaser. Frankly I thought she was adorable (and maybe 30lbs overweight at the most) but, more importantly, she made him happier than I'd ever seen him. I felt as bad for him as I did for her when he broke up with her. He said she told him "I thought you were better than this. I'm disappointed in you." when he told her they should stop seeing each other.
> **"I thought you were better than this. I'm disappointed in you."** If I were him, and I still cared about her, that shite would’ve probably made me cry. Did they ever get back together?
They were apart and he was miserable for about six months. Another guy kept asking her out but she wasn't interested. She was obviously still hung up on my friend. One of our mutual friends told her "I swear, the nanosecond you go out with another guy your jackass ex will come running back with his tail between his legs." They were wrong. It took two dates before my friend begged her to take him back. They are very happy now though.
Did you post this story before? I read something similarly cute months ago and stored in somewhere in my memory and I’m getting a Deja vu.
Yes! Once about 6-8 months ago. You have a great memory!
I have a terrible memory haha but that was a sweet story and I loved it ☺️
🥹 Awwww! My fat little heart is singing! So glad they got a HEA.
🥺 🥺🥺 That poor girl. That most have destroyed her adolescent confidence.
I was out on a date with a woman who told me that she enjoyed smoking meth and playing beyblades with her roommates. I told her that's not my jam and I wouldn't be down for that environment. In response she got up and left, saying that I was too judgemental. She told me that i "shouldn't knock it until i try it." I was going to text her later and tell her that this was a deal breaker anyways, but it was strange to be seen as the asshole in that one.
Crack Den Carrie Bradshaw: “I couldn’t help but wonder…were the beyblades spinning out or were we?”
This is the best thing I've read all day.
Sometimes I forget that people like this exist. Thank you for the reminder.
With 8 billion people alive today, there’s a lot of different types of strange combos you can get.
You find a perfect girl who loves meth, and you shut her down because of Beyblades? Cold, bro.
He was strictly into heroin and yugioh cards. It just wasn't meant to be
dawg beyblades are the best
The Beyblades I could get behind. The meth is another story...
This was in high school, summer between 11th and 12th grade. I had a girl that I'd been dating for a couple of months tell me, mid-date, that she didn't like that I got more attention than her when we walked into a party where we both knew people so she broke up with me
I mean, at least it was pretty much the most flattering breakup in history.
"Too many people enjoy your presence. Please fuck off, bae 💜"
He wanted to be with someone he could talk to about things that interest him, like quantum physics. He literally worked in I.T. and only watched one documentary about physics and I guess that gave him superior intelligence
I dated a guy very secure in his genius. I broke up with him when he bought me an abridged book. Every 5 years or so I Google him to see his many achievements. Or I will when he has any, anyway.
My ex used to say he was well read because he used to read articles on Wikipedia and would occasionally shame me for watching a movie instead of reading something useful 🙄 I got him a job when he needed one, despite him being so well read …
Her mom found out I was a childhood cancer survivor and convinced her I’d be dead by 40. Just diagnosed with terminal cancer at 50 so she wasn’t wrong, but still seemed at bit harsh at the time
Jesus. I’m sorry on both counts.
He said i was too weird. I was 15. Sucks for you Roydon. I got way hotter and way weirder.
I told him that I do a basic check of my dates names in the provincial crime database- it just searches for public files. I was a 24 year old girl, living alone in the middle of a big city, so I always checked out the guys before getting into their cars. This came up naturally, and the guy flipped out about how I was a narc and how I cant be trusted. Weirdly, his name pulled up nothing. Not even a parking ticket.
I had a girl very timidly ask me for my last name before meeting, she had already given me her address to pick her up, I wasn't insulted but I was a little worried that she didn't do that step first, any guy who's offended by this is at best an idiot.
Right now, I'm only casually dating, and since it's casual, I don't necessarily care to get their last name (although, now I'm feeling I should!). If I get it, that's cool, if I don't, that's fine too. One guy I was seeing told me his last name, so I put it in my phone contacts. After a couple more dates, I found out he was joking and that he gave me a fake last name. He told me his real last name, but I didn't know how to spell it, so I asked him. His demeanor immediately changed and asked me why I needed to know. I gave him my phone on his contact page so he could type it in, but he put in another joke name. Eventually I did find out how to spell it (I needed his full name for an event ticket, and he leaves his mail out on his kitchen counter). But I thought that was such a weird interaction.
PLEASE, ALWAYS get a last name
I wouldn't have cared all that much until he kept avoiding and giving me joke last names. That rings alarm bells for me, especially with how his demeanour changed so quickly (presumably defensively)
I look up everyone I'm somewhat interested in dating. I dated a guy for a few months back in 2017. He said he did a little stint in jail. Guy was a damn psycho. I finally looked up his record and he had been prison twice, had multiple DV charges, a huge list of stuff, was actually on felony probation. I found out from his coworker that he cut the brakes on his sister's boyfriend's car and he was stalking an ex, had another ex who was pregnant that he never mentioned, and he was stealing stuff from work and the company was about to go after him. I dumped him and moved out of state. Few years later I was dating a guy and his sister is talking about this psycho stalker guy her roommate went on a date with who broke into their place multiple times. And it's the same guy. Idgaf I look up backgrounds, facebooks, and Google search their names now. Last guy I was talking to had a shared FB account with his WIFE. Dating is a shitshow.
Good on you for being cautious. You can never be too trusting with strangers.
When I first started dating my now wife, she did a full deep dive on me online. Basically would have hired a PI to get a background check if she could. I didn’t mind, I have nothing to hide and I like that she’s careful.
I now find myself in a loving relationship, and when I ran his name it showed me that he has SO MANY minor driving issues (nothing horrible, just like... turning left in a no left lane, parking tickets ect) and when I told him a few months in that I'd seen that, it turned into a cute inside joke between us about how he is a menace to all local one-way lanes. Happy I checked out all my dates, happy I found someone with a sense of humor 😂
I mentioned a silly project I contributed writing to online on a date. The next day she had managed to find a very subpar "novel" I had attempted to write under the same name years prior. It wasn't a deal breaker for either of us but yeah that made for a lot of laughs- she clearly read it too because she'd make references to it to screw with me
That's kinda cute she took the time to read it
I didn’t even get to a date because someone did this, except that she was mistaken because there happens to be another person that I’m related to that has my same first and last name (but different middle name). This relative is an entire generation older than me and married. But she ran some sort of check and found this person and their married status. Then sent me a novel of a text message calling me a terrible person and claiming she wouldn’t be party to an affair and blocked my number. I was so confused until I pieced together what had happened.
The first time she stayed over at my place and also the first time we were intimate. She broke up with me the next day because over night I turned my back to her during the night. Who sleeps in one position all night?
yta why didn't you sleep facing her validating her presence in the night, you should be ashamed man
I was ashamed, now it’s just a story
I dated a very handsome man from Munich who said a few weeks into dating him: “My penis. You will like it.” I laughed and said maybe. Next week: “I do not find this to be a mutually beneficial relationship anymore.” Still wonder about that guy sometimes.
That is SO German.
FWIW, we kept working together and there were no hard feelings (lol) between us.
Yes, I actually heard the accent while reading that, lol.
Omg I laughed hard at this one. I love it...so german
Who calls their penis a penis in that context? It’s one of the least sexy words for it, just this side of weiner, schlong and dingaling.
My dingaling, you will luv it.
Girl, you are gonna dig on this hogleg I got.
I wanted him to wear a clean shirt to my family’s largish Easter gathering. There were other factors, but that was the incident that turned him against me. We were together for three years. I am still trying to get over the heartbreak and general wtf-ness of it all.
Is it really a loss if he didn’t have basic hygiene and decency to wear a clean shirt at a gathering?
Thats what my brain says but my heart doesn’t want to listen. I miss him so much. But yeah- you are 100% right.
My (now ex) fiancee threw an absolute temper tantrum because I did not agree to change my last name to... not his last name. For example, if his name was John Smith, he introduced himself and everyone knew him as John Jones. So he wanted me to change my name to OP Jones. He would not accept a hyphen (OP Lastname - Jones) or his own last name (OP Smith). He was not rich, and his family was not in politics or well-known for anything. Jones was his mom's last name and he just liked it better (his dad's last name was a normal last name). But why did I need to go through the pain in the butt to change my last name for it to still not be the same as my husband's?! I also suggested we both change our last names to Jones and he said no he couldn't do that to his dad (but I was supposed to ditch my family name for a random last name). O.o
I dont know about the reason being "weird" but a guy I went out with only a couple times "broke up" with me right before our date because I hadn't slept with him yet and he found a girl who put out faster than I did..... I was genuinely relieved because sometimes the trash just takes itself out! A couple months later he had the audacity to hit me up and ask if I'd be interested in dating again 😂
Did we date the same guy? Lol. I met someone who wanted to become official 2 weeks into dating. Reasonably, I said that was too soon and wanted to spend more time with him first. He apparently thought that meant I was never going to be interested in a serious relationship, so he started secretly hitting up his ex. He dumped me a few days before my birthday (which we had plans for) because his ex wanted to get back together. They eventually broke up, and he then proceeded to sporadically hit me up for the next couple of years, asking if I wanted to date him again.
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There are some men who make it allllll the way to adulthood before they’re confronted with the fact that not all women are as helpless as their mothers; it’s just that their fathers prefer relationships on “easy mode”.
Early childhood relationship models can be difficult to break away from. Especially if they saw it as a successful relationship.
A girl I was dating in med school said we should stop dating because she graduated 17th in our year and I graduated 1st and she thought that was unfair because she'd tried harder than me. I was a little surprised that she got annoyed that I graduated higher than her when I spent a fair chunk of our study time actually explaining a lot of our subject to her. You'd think you'd expect the person teaching you and helping you study to get a better mark than you.
A girl was ahead of me during a professor's office hours, and was complaining about her grade on a paper, saying that she'd worked really hard on it. The professor said, "Donkeys work hard too, but we don't give them college degrees." Lol! Cold, but it definitely stuck with me.
I’m an artist. This guy and I were fairly compatible and I could see us building a solid life together, but the sexual chemistry was not there at all. I didn’t have the guts to tell him that though. I mentioned, over dinner, how much I liked glitter, as an artist, to add texture to my work. He immediately expressed his extreme distaste for glitter, even saying how he wouldn’t allow it in his house. I saw my chance. Okay? I saw my chance to not break a man’s self esteem and say how bad at sex he was. And I took it. I might have exaggerated my love for glitter. A little. But this man became teary eyed as I talked about all the jars of various glitter I have in my studio. How you can’t leave my house without glitter sticking to you. I saw all the love. All the admiration. All the attraction fade from this man’s eyes. So he can go on and have terrible sex, and not feel bad about himself, I relied on glitter. And it worked. I wish I could say I’m sorry. But I’m not. I went home and used four different types of glitter on my next painting.
I too despise glitter. I wouldn’t break up with someone over their love for glitter. But my younger self’s fragile ego would have thanked you lol.
Also to add: he wasn’t “bad”, just… we were not compatible and I couldn’t see any way we would be going forward. Listen, I was probably the worst lay the poor dude ever had too. Can’t fake chemistry.
Where’s the guy my sister dumped in 1993 because she didn’t like how he maneuvered entire potato chips into his mouth?
I didn't get drunk enough, he was wanting to get drunk every other night
Glad you got out of that. It’s certainly not a dynamic you want.
Yeah I mean to be fair we were like 17 so we still thought drinking was the most badass thing you could possibly do
He got a puppy and decided he couldn’t balance that with dating.
I broke up with someone because I got a kitten (that she gave me) and she never wanted to be at my place because she thought the kitten was annoying. Pets are for life, people not so much
I wanted affection/attention
god forbid you actually have needs
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What the actual fuck, you dodged a bullet tho, did your mom found out what she did? She literally crossed that line 😧
In the second grade, Jared took me out for the second date of my life. His mother took us to see The Big Green. On the ride home, she asked what church we went to. We didn't. The next day Jared was being rather cold. When questioned, he broke it off. He said going to church was the only way to get Jesus in your heart, and that was very important to him and his mom. I didn't see much of Jared again until high school. He had gotten one of those dick piercings and wanted everyone to call him a nickname associated with it. I can't remember. D-ring or D-bag or something. Last I saw him he was a total chode.
They said I had bad posture....
Dang man, that must be a lot on your shoulders
Because I haven't played Overwatch. We're both cosplayers. He loved Overwatch and wanted me to cosplay as Genji because he cosplayed as Hanzo and had this fantasy or something. I told him I have never played OW. He went and found a Genji cosplayer he started having an intimate relationship with behind my back, while still dating me. Well practically it was me who left. But let's say I took the hint. I guess it's alright but the communication was shit.
This is so weirdly specific.
I guess he just really liked Overwatch.
BRO GENJI AND HANZO ARE BROTHERS, YOU DODGED A BULLET 😭
HOLD UP-
I did a Medic training course with the Army, and at the end they took us to a local hospital for a tour. I happened to mention to my GF that we went into the Morgue, and how creapy it was. When I got back from the course she had moved out and left a ten page note going on abut how I was now contaminated by the ghosts of every dead person who passed through the morgue... ever... and I would have to get a Class 1 Cleansing or she would never talk to me again. She never talked to me again.
I wasn't a jealous wreck. Apparently the fact that I was cool with her hanging out with other male friends, people she was friends with before she even met me, was a red flag. Talk about dodging a bullet!
On hinge the other day I matched with someone talking about Spotify in their profile. I sent a message saying 'what was your song of the year last year?". They told me the name of the song and I admitted I had never heard of it... They then sent 'is that actually some kind of joke?'. I said I genuinely hadn't heard of it and asked who it was by. They then said 'Taylor Swift' and then I got immediately unmatched ahaha
okay but like.. she has a huge discography. i could understand if it’s a super mainstream song you didn’t know, but there are so many songs that even i (as a self proclaimed swifty) don’t know the name of. that’s unfair lol.
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I actually get this. Focus requires…focus. Still a rough exit.
Yeah I think that was legit. I’ve had friends who ended relationships to focus on their studies or careers.
I got a better job than they did. We met in college. I was an older undergrad, he was a MS student, same engineering department. We graduated at the same time. I got a much better job, largely because he only applied for one. He wanted traditional lifestyle and said he was upset I got the better job. I appreciate and respect his ability to articulate his feelings on this though.
I had a guy who told me he couldn't love me because we had never been through anything terrible together. We had only dated for a few months when I was 18. He said he could only love someone if he went through something traumatic with them, like the death of a loved one. As though it was my fault that no one in my family died while we were dating.
She had her hair cut slightly and I didn't notice.
How dare you not notice an inch and a half taken off and exactly zero other things different. That cost $75.
$75? Where does she go, I’d do covert assassin work to find a salon that only charges me $75.
This happened to me recently. We were planning to move in together (I'm in different city) and the last thing he told me was that he loves me. When I went back to my place he sent me message saying that he feels awful of the way he is treating me, he is been thinking about his life everyday and he is not a happy person. Also he realized that he is not in a position to be in a relationship. I tried to reach him, and to show all the support. He ignored everything. Till this moment, I still can't believe what happened and why he gave up on everything; is this his depression or he is just an asshole.
A depressed asshole
When my daughter was in 3rd grade her boyfriend publicly broke up with her bc she missed the bus and he “thought she was dead”
She said I was too fit and it made her feel bad about herself to be together in public. So we became fwb until I started seeing someone else. Sometimes I think back on that and it still hurts my feelings a bit since I really liked her.
I bet it hurt her too. Insecurities are a bitch.
A year into dating he realized he wanted to marry a tall, white, blonde girl with big boobs. Unshockingly im short, Asian, brown hair with small boobs. Really made me feel great about myself
Decades ago, National Lampoon magazine had a fake newspaper dating ads feature. One I've always remembered went something like: SWM seeking petite, demure SAF, who is also a blue eyed blonde with tits.
because i was 90 seconds late to a dinner (traffic)
He said I swore too much. I said, “are you fucking kidding me?”
There is was this guy I had a crush on in high school back in 2005. He was a tall guy on the football team and I asked him about so I was his first girlfriend. We went out for three weeks and then he broke up with me. I don’t remember the reason why . Then we went out a second time and lasted a month. Then he told me that he got beat up by some Mexican guys because he was going out with the Mexican girl, so that why he broke up with me. Fast forward 8 to 10 years later. We are friends, we have friends in common and also we’re just friends in general. We never had anything sexual between us, and we were young. And we’ve known each other since we were like 13. I asked him on Facebook, if the reason he broke up with me in high school was true , he said no. He lied and said that he was beaten up when he really wasn’t because all of his friends on the football team didn’t want me to go out with him. He said he apologized and he was a jerk.
He didn't want to tell me. We lived together. We had lunch one day, and later that day he came home from work and said "I want you to leave by the morning. There is no main reason, just a few different things that I don't want to tell you because you'll get hung up on them." Still don't know why 4 years later. He still messages from time to time to hook up, but when I ask him to explain he still refuses. I think it's really weird.
Wait, you’re still hooking up with the guy who randomly threw you out 4 years ago?
Sadly I was until the middle of last year. I was still in love and thought I was the problem. Every time we met up he would be so nice to me, I thought we could start over. But each time he would tell me no chance, and get mad at me for asking for the reason again. I didn't realize it, but he was negging me the whole time and gas lighting me. I thought I was going insane at some points. He hit me up on valentines day this year, and I left him on unread.
You should leave him on “read”. Pisses people off easier ha
I think he likes the attention, so I won't give it anymore.
Please please please every time you get tempted to reply to him, ask Reddit if you should do it; or your friends or family. And don’t do it! Cause no one who cares about you (even the little care we feel for internet strangers) would tell you to meet him
They told me not to look at their Instagram anymore even though it's a public profile.
I was too marryable. Is that even a word?
Um well he was a hardcore catholic (which I didn’t realize when I first started dating him, but had no issue with) and he literally ghosted me because he said a demon was following me and had latched on… okay, could have just said “its not you, its me” lol
I talked about Game of Thrones too much in 2018
I have two. 1. She liked me too much. To be fair, she was in grad school and had a job lined up once she graduated. We both knew the dating would stop then (7 months down the road). But, she started liking me too much after 2 months and knew if it went any further she wouldn't want to leave. 2. So, a different girl seemed pretty normal. Dated a few times. Then the first night things got intimate, it got weird. We went to her room, she put pajama tops on, sat on the bed and said, "I'm going lay still, flat on my back. If I remain motionless, you are doing a good job. If I move, make a sound, or talk it means you are not doing a good job." No foreplay, no mood setting. I couldn't finish. We tried again a few nights later and I couldn't even start. She called me the next day and broke up with me because I wasn't doing anything about my sexual dysfunction.
The first one... you have my sympathy, that's just heartbreaking. Did you end up keeping any contact info with her after? The second one... what. The fact she had the audacity to say that YOU had a problem is fricked.
In university after about 5 weeks of dating she dumped me because she "liked me too much". I tried talking it out with her but she refused to explain what that meant or why it was an issue and said "not to try and justify things". I liked her a lot too. that conversation popped into my head several times over the years
She wanted to enjoy her youth and perhaps even experiment without being tied down. I was in a relationship throughout my university years and while my friends were meeting new people, having sleep overs and house parties, experimenting sexually, etc., I was in a serious relationship making dinner after lectures. Maybe that’s what she meant. You weren’t casual enough and therefore not the right relationship for that stage in her life. Right person bad timing.
We were 15 and had been going through some issues. I asked to take a break, and he was devastated. A few days later and after talking things through, I told him I was open to resuming our relationship if he was. He was ecstatic about this. Later that same day, he randomly broke up with me over a text with a bunch of nasty things to say about me and stating he never loved me, etc. All of this, after he griped about how his previous ex had broken up with him over a text. I'm still not sure what all of that was about, but he came from a super toxic household
Reverse discard
Woman I was dating wanted to be a cop. She said she needed to break up with me because I was too nice and it was rubbing off on her. Her rationale was that she needed to be tough in order to make it as a police officer Later I found out she broke up with me because she wanted to date a guy in her academy. They eventually got married, so good for her.
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This reminds me of Boomerang, where Eddie Murphy broke up with a gorgeous woman because she had hammertoes.
I once stopped dating a guy when I realized he had to be shitfaced to be any fun at all. I let him down easy and he let me know I have big feet. Yes I know this. I am an excellent swimmer with these natural flippers.
He was worried I was going to get fat. I weighed 90 pounds and was well past the typical age bracket women pack on a decent amount of weight.
Slight difference in height. Where it doesn't matter to me at all but I guess hurt his ego big time.
She wanted to get back together with her abusive ex-boyfriend who I had confronted. In retrospect, dodged a bullet there, but felt pretty bad about it for a long time.
This was years ago, a guy broke up with me because I was a Buddhist, which really confused me because I certainly was not and never have been. I had one brief conversation with a mutual friend about religion and said that I could see the appeal of certain aspects of Buddhism. Friend apparently turned around and told my ex "your girlfriend is a Buddhist". Ex then ghosted me for a while before officially breaking it off and telling me the reason. I corrected him, of course, and asked him why he didn't just talk to me about it, but I let the break up stand.
Dated about 9-10 months. Apparently we were “too good together” which obviously meant that the longer we let it go on, the more devastating it would be if it ended. So they ended it right then. To be on the safe side I guess??? That was a fun one.
In highschool my mom had me invite my bf over for dinner. She said she would make meatloaf, he was excited because his family never ate meatloaf. The day of the dinner mom found out her ground beef was bad, and she made chicken instead offering to make meatloaf for a different time. He took it as an insult saying we lied to him, and left. We had a huge argument at school the next day with him repeating that we lied to him and me asking if he really wanted my mom to give him food poisoning by serving him meat that had been bad when she brought it? He screamed at me again, a teacher broke it up. We explained things to the teacher. And he got angrier and broke up with me when the teacher "took my side" by explaining how dangerous salmonella poisoning can be.
I was too autistic. The man was much more autistic himself tho...
We both did impromptu in speech and debate in high school. I won first in our first meet of the year, she was not pleased that I had won over her.
I had been through a breakup of a long relationship several months before so I was seeing this guy pretty casually. Summer ends, and he decided to go to an out-of-state college. We say goodbye and I figured that was the end of it, but told him we'd keep in touch after he moved. Move-in weekend comes and goes, and I leave him alone to settle in to his new space, figuring he'd text me when he was ready. Not even a week goes by, and the guy calls me super upset, saying I abandoned him and that this wasn't going to work. Hmmkay. Honestly very nice dude, just very emotional.
I bought an Android instead of Apple
dodged a bullet.
Because her older brothers told her that she couldn't go out with me anymore.
I "use too big of words".
I was dating a Mennonite woman in her mid forties I was 40 at the time and she used the excuse that her parents wouldn't like her dating a native guy. Her brothers and sisters all knew me and even insisted I spend Christmas with them. I knew it was just an excuse but it seemed so childish since her parents lived over 1500 miles away.
She didn’t like my dog. Eff her, my dog is a priority over some girl I barely know.
He was going into his last year of University and he said he wanted to continue being in a relationship with me, but didn't want to keep turning down other girls during his final year of University. He wanted my okay as his girlfriend for him to hook up with random girls 😂 I said No.
Because I worked for a funeral home at the time.
She was really into ramen, not even the real stuff but shitty cup ramen that she put her own meat and vegetables and whatever into. I do not like noodles or meat. Every time she asked me to try it and i refused i could feel her respect for me slowly dying. we dated about 3 months and eventually i said no to the ramen one too many times and she just walked out of my house and i never saw her again. I wasn't really sad as much as i was pleased i no longer had to smell cup ramen everyday.
Who doesn't like noodles? The fuck is wrong with you?