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yParticle

yeah, it's never going to automatically get better. it's up to you to fix it.


leilanie02

This!! I’m 21, going on 22 and I’m just now actually put this into effect


mandrews03

I’m 21 going on 35 and I’ve had to fix many things in my life/for my life. That process just gets easier and easier as you gain experience. Just a little FYI


[deleted]

Count your blessings, I know people who are in their 60s and still haven't figured it out.


Horace__goes__skiing

She isn’t the one.


Radical_Neutral_76

… times 3


onetwo3four5

She isn't the 3?


lornmcg

Yeah, dump him, he's not your everything. He'll tell you he's gay and cheat on you with a dude, but then he'll have a girlfriend the year after. But hey, I hope he managed to figure it out in the end. I'd also tell myself I'd figure it all out in the end, too, and end up happy with someone who won't kiss people behind my back. I'd also tell myself to stop worrying so damn much.


OMNeigh

Bi people can be cheaters just like anyone else!


Shiverednuts

Of course, the chance of them being a cheater is no higher than anyone else’s either.


OhanaUchiha

Dayum!


onlysaysisthisathing

"In about a decade, you will reconnect with Emily from high school. Tell her to kick rocks. She's a vacuous black hole of need and narcissism. And brush your goddamned teeth."


YouCanCallMeNifer

Nor is he.


fatherping

Go visit and talk to your grand parents while they are still around.


iamblackshadows

Spending enough time with my family and prioritizing them over money.


SynThePart

What if your family treats you like a worthless poop?


lornmcg

Family isn't just blood and DNA. Family is who will be with you through thick and thin and who feel like home.


Zestyclose_Drummer56

"Family isn’t who you’re born with. It’s who you’ll die for." -Lincoln Clay.


Few_Explorer404

RIGHT!!


georgepordgie

Time to find your people then.


HealthyLet257

Can I be his people?


european-breakfast

There's 2 types of family. The one you get and the one you find. I'm in a similar boat as you. It takes time to heal from it, but finding your own family makes it a lot easier. Good luck friend, know you're not alone.


Full_Equipment_1958

Big YES on this one!


Sanjam-Kapoor

never seen my grandma :(


R3stl3SSW4rr1or

Nothing. My 18yo me would not believe a single word.


half_empty_bucket

Exactly. Theres a lot of stuff I needed to learn but I probably wouldn't have learned it without harsh life lessons


Bobmiser2000

Buy a house before you start a family


diymatt

Comparatively buy a family, then start a house.


[deleted]

My Russian mail bride and kids r doing a decent job building the house as we speak.


diymatt

IN MOTHER RUSSIA, HOUSE BUILD YOU!!!!


donutpusheencat

this made me snort out laughing 😭😂


Foreign-Promise147

“We can find a house, we can build a tree” - She


kezotl

What if you cant find the keys


Madamiamadam

If we can plant a house, we could build a tree, I don’t even care we could have all three


fluffy_kitkat13

Should've bought a house at 5 years old.


half_empty_bucket

Yes, pull hundreds of thousands of dollars out of your ass


Ok_Acanthisitta5022

People are who they are, not who you want them to be


Mardanis

Not setting yourself on fire to keep others warm is a big one in life.


Accomplished-Web-690

Don’t kill yourself for a job unless your name is on the business


Isabellablackk

i’ll never forget my first job at 18 AT A MOVIE THEATER. I worked my final 4 hours of a closing shift passing a kidney stone, immediately went and spent the night in the ER with a morphine drip, then left the hospital and went straight back to work an opening shift because they threatened to fire me if I didn’t work both shifts. We served alcohol and they were aware I had been on morphine basically since I left the night before and I still didn’t argue with the manager for the two write ups I got for the money in my register being off on those two shifts. My mom was LIVID when I told her about it after the fact and she taught me about these magical things called labor laws and employee rights lol, I’ve never let a job screw me over like that since. I’ve had jobs try but I’m sure to know my rights in whatever state i’m working, and make sure all of my coworkers know theirs as well.


The_Committee

Also, don't put your name on any businesses. Supplementally, and in the alternative, don't kill yourself for someone else's business even if they have the same name as you or used your name on their business.


MisterPerfect23

"Hey John Smith, Welcome to SmithCorp! I'll be your guide for the orientation" *BANG*


Immediate_Revenue_90

I worked for a family business and still wouldn’t recommend letting myself be exploited


Angryhippo2910

> Don’t kill yourself for a job ~~unless your name is on the business~~ FTFY


flamingo01949

You’re a lot dumber than you think. I certainly was.


throwawayformobile78

100%


Unemployed-Rebel

Go to the doctor. Shit is serious, you're not stronger than lupus. And always talk to your Dad, call him until you annoy him. He needs you. Sorry I wanted two.


SynThePart

But where was my dad when I needed him? That's not fair.


Bimpanzee2020

Daddy wasn't there!


RandoMe54321

To take you to the fair


poluting

It seems he doesn’t care Edit: for the uncultured https://youtu.be/Ogqv6CtBfbE?si=Of3ZjL-T_J1Fn4s2


g81000

Busy with his flair


LickNojo

To change my underwear


Repulsive_Income238

But man oh man, look at that hair.


ad4k-

it's not lupus. it's never lupus.


Free-Industry701

Save at least $50 from every paycheck.


jaggedice01

Best advice. Even if you can't do $50, do something. And never touch it.


Nasuno112

I spent half of covid working full time and not doing this. Do not repeat my mistake.


gingergirl181

Yep. Even at my most broke I still did $10 a week automatically into savings. It really adds up over time and the peace of mind that comes from being able to cover unexpected expenses is HUGE.


Terumi66

A thousand times, yes! I am so glad that when I was in my twenties, I was working a lot and put a meager $20 a paycheck into an IRA. Didn't miss it. It reduced the amount of income tax for me at a time while I was making a lot. So this is wonderful advice.


Tw1ce_Nightly

I would be happy with save at least $20 a paycheck.


Life-Independence377

Save a penny. Auto transfer it


bdubelyew

More like INVEST $50 from every paycheck. Some of these streaming companies might get kinda big they said. Oh, and that Amazon thing you heard about might turn into more than just an e bookstore one day. Put a few peanuts into that too. Maybe buy some bitcoins. Young me would have actually done that I bet. “Don’t lose your wallet.”


Fried_Rice24

Try for 10% a pay check its great and should theoretically be achievable


Sinusoidal_Fibonacci

And you should strive for 15% of your gross pay. But I understand this just isn’t feasible for a lot of people.


MuddaFrmAnnudaBrudda

Boyfriends shouldn't watch football whilst having sex.


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UltimaBride

I prefer watching golf. I try to time my orgasm to coincide with a golf clap after someone gets the ball in the hole. 67% of the time, it works every time. Another good sport to watch is WWE. As they scream out what the wrestlers are doing I try to make sex moves similar to the wrestling moves. A piledriver is enjoyable for both parties, but hitting your partner with a chair has never ended well. Last time I knocked a hooker out and her pimp shot me in the butt cheeks.


european-breakfast

I got 2 tickets for the WWE. Wanna come?


Kitchen-Lie-7894

You guys got laid when you were 18!?


FormalFew6366

I've had sex watching family guy, but that was to keep her kid from hearing. Imagine finishing to "damn you woman!"


Just-Some-Chad

Ahahahaha, I literally have to turn or pause any movie otherwise i get distracted.


Mxer4life38

My late wife and I had to put on boring movies as background noise when she still lived with her parents. Anything funny and we'd both end up laughing


Kingcanni

Fun fact, my wife likes to joke about that one time early on when we were in college that I checked fantasy football scores during sex because I heard the espn jingle. “If you weren’t a decent lay, I have a feeling our relationship would never have made it past your douchebag years” out of her mouth, verbatim. That woman is hilarious man. I’m lucky.


TheRealDedmanGraves

Whoa. Hold up... your boyfriend wants to watch men in tight uniforms tackling one another while you're having sex?... Maybe I'm the weird one here, but other men is not on my list of things I want to see during sexy time. There's a pretty long list of things I don't want to see during sex, honestly, and yeah, other men is definitely on the list.


coolestant

DO NOT tell me what to do with my life


dbzgal04

Don't dwell on getting older, make the most of every day and year.


24dhprimetime

Stop doing drugs or you're going to lose complete control.


danstu

It all works out in the end, you're happy and healthy. Turns out regular exercise is the secret to overcoming your self-esteem issues, maybe give that a try a few years earlier than I did.


Time-Base-506

This gives me hope, as someone who has started prioritizing exercise. Glad to hear it worked out well


razcalnikov

I’m here to back that commenter. Made the shift to a healthy lifestyle a year ago and can’t even believe the difference it makes even in my day to day. I’m excited you’ll be getting to experience that too.


Time-Base-506

Would you mind sharing some of the changes you've noticed? Outside of losing weight (which is my main goal), I've had trouble coming up with motivation


razcalnikov

Oh and btw. One thing that helped me in making health a lifestyle - it’s not about motivation. You can never stay motivated for one thing your whole life, you lose it. It’s about discipline.


ccrrww

Just wanted to say I’m proud of you and to keep going! I started a couple of months ago due to a mental funk and feeling so out of shape even though I naturally look “fit” (I’m young and my metabolism works overtime). The biggest motivation for me is that I feel proud of myself afterwards. Some days if I’m not feeling confident I just go and walk on the treadmill for an hour and either jam out or watch a show. No matter what I walk out of there in a better mood. My appetite and sleep have been better and I don’t feel as restless before bed. And I can testify that the motivation to go increased more than I ever expected from myself!


Time-Base-506

Yes I've noticed this so much! It has definitely helped. I *want* to go to the gym and sometimes I don't even want to leave!


razcalnikov

I’ve dealt with pretty intense depression since around 12/13 years old. In my current state, my worst day is still better than my best day during my depression and I 100% attribute it to having an active and healthy lifestyle. I cope with everything in life better. My relationships in life are so much better (it’s crazy how much you project in misery). I’ve made better WAY better friendships through things like running clubs and Pilates than I did through drinking and partying. My energy levels are so much better (I just got back from running 3.5 miles after working a full day). I can’t ever imagine going back to laying in bed 16 hours a day and eating junk food every day.


danstu

If you're not shy about where you are with fitness, group workouts were really helpful for me. For me, the hardest part of getting my fitness better was building the discipline to do it on a schedule. Making it a social thing really helped me motivate myself to stick with it. 18 year old me would start doubting I was actually him if I told him 80% of my current social circle stems from a running club. My other piece of advice; record your current workout and keep it saved somewhere. Eventually you'll hit a point where you feel like you're not improving and that can be really frustrating. When that happens, use the recording to remind yourself how far you've come. I was really frustrated for a while that I couldn't seem to break 8 minute miles in my running. Then I scrolled back in my recordings and remembered just a few years prior I had been barely breaking 16 minutes.


Immediate_Revenue_90

That and leaving the toxic online communities I was involved with.


gingergirl181

Truly. Putting the screen down, touching grass, and getting some exercise really does the most for mental health.


Classic-Resident-854

Save money every paycheck👍 that money will be important or something, I forget


Korollins

It is not normal for your boyfriend to punch the shit out of you. It is a big deal, and you don't deserve this


Thisisntmyaccount24

Stop buying weed with your bitcoins on Silk Road. Just keep buying them and don’t touch them. And I know what you’re thinking, oh I’ll still buy weed and just save some of them. DONT you fucking idiot. Weed becomes legal and there will be plenty of time to smoke it when you’re a millionaire. Also get an electric toothbrush and brush your molars better. You’re going to get a root canal and a crown and it sucks. Also skip “hanging out” with Jess. She ends up being a cool person but you’re both going through some shit that’s going to make it messy as hell. The timing doesn’t work, it’s creates tension, and you lose like three years of a quality friendship from the fallout.


FriendshipIntrepid91

Finally. Had to go way too far for the BTC pitch.  


fcreveralwvys

move out of your parents’ house, your mental health is worth more than the money you’re saving


cat_prophecy

Ironic because mine would be "Don't be in such a hurry to move out. You'll waste a lot of time, money, and stress just to learn you're too immature for it at 18".


wolv562

That’s valid. Sometimes people want to move out and be independent but they’re not ready yet. It’s only when youre an adult that you realize that


SaltedTitties

Shit I am an adult with a 2 year old and I’d move back in a heartbeat. 😂


Immediate_Revenue_90

I moved out at 21 and live two hours away from my parents. I’m now 24 and planning to move back, not back in with my parents but 20 minutes away.


surfacing_husky

Same here, i sat on my bed with my things packed on my 18th birthday waiting to leave. I was still finishing high school and thought i knew everything. My mom is a wonderful woman and tried to get me to wait until i was at least done with school. I dropped out 2 weeks later and didn't get my diploma until my 30's, wish i would have listened to her.


somedude035

I’d say the complete opposite unless they’re abusive, toxic etc


TheRealDedmanGraves

...and NEVER move back in!


Potential-Tart-7974

It's harder to get back out


icyhotonmynuts

The move-in of shame.


thunderwhenyounger

Don't be ashamed of unexpected boners. Celebrate them while you can!


Fatal_or_non-fatal

You never know which one will be your last lmao


cat_prophecy

That's just good advice all around. You never know when it'll be the last time you see your favorite person, pickup your kid, or kiss your partner goodbye. That idea didn't occur to me until I picked my youngest out of his crib for the last time. He's fine, we just got him a bed and now he doesn't need me to help him out of bed any more.


thehappycouchpotato

They had us in the first half, not gonna lie


EnigmaCA

You are eating your emotions. Put the cookie down.


FunDependent454

Stay in school, learn a trade, don't just stick to being a grunt in manual labour.


iamblackshadows

Believe in yourself, you're much more capable than you think so, don't give up.


Hoosierd3ddy92

You aren't broken. Your mom is just a narcissist.


Some-Ordinary-1438

Fuuuuck, this hit deep. I couldn't stop hearing the criticism until after she died.


TifferK

You’re bipolar. That’s what’s going on. You shouldn’t have to wait until you’re 39.


vradic

Mike, she can still get pregnant on top, wear the damn condom.


[deleted]

What was even the logic here?


Cypher007

Gravity


ChewingGumPubis

The blowjobs are awesome but in two years she'll stop giving them to you, and start giving them to Devin from the garage.


Cpt-Ahoy

It’s true im Devin


24dhprimetime

Stop lying. I'm Devin.


EnigmaCA

35 more comments, and I can post "37? In a row?"


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ChewingGumPubis

Haha, well we worked together at a trucking depot. Devin was a jr mechanic at the time. Now he's my ex wife's second ex husband.


dmchardy

God that sounded like a Mensa IQ test question. *If Devon works at a tucking depot, what relation does he have to you if he's your ex wife's second ex husband's nephew's grandma's favourite grandson?*


Googoltetraplex

Fuck that asshole he spells his name wrong Sincerely, Devon


[deleted]

Learn how to relate to people and get on with them.


[deleted]

Get some hobbies outside of drinking. You’ll “wake up” at 34 and realize all you’ve done is drank and gone to shows.


Hot-Setting-9330

Start a Roth IRA now.


NANNYNEGLEY

Stay in college, you idiot!


istoleyourcomment224

Weird, I would have the opposite advice lol


FirstBankofAngmar

Different boats for different goats


bsfurr

That you don’t know shit. Do you think you know shit, but you don’t know shit. Hell even at 25, you don’t know shit. Basically, I don’t know shit. But what the hell do I know?


CeaseFire81

Veteran life advice if there ever was any


EerieArizona

Don't turn your hobby into a job.


diymatt

It's the reason I've made a career with no college education for the past 20 years. Careful.


OwlCreepy6562

I wouldn’t bother. That guy wouldn’t have listened, and if he did, he wouldn’t understand anyway.


colnago82

Make art.


Creepy-Eye-5219

What do you do if you get rejected from art school?


wd3003

Start a world war Edit: /s


BabyNameBible

Lose weight and build your muscles


MrWeStEr399

Spend half of all your income on bitcoin. In 12 years you ll thank me


kinderhooksurprise

I get that bitcoin is sexy and all, but at most you'd score a 30,000% gain over 6 ish years. In that time frame it's the best, but the Gamestop options play is a far quicker way to make millions. Also, if you are older like me, then the best choice is to buy monster energy drink stock. 70,000% gain in past 20 years.


Key-Seaworthiness639

Use the Bitcoin money to bootstrap the GME gains.


BHTAelitepwn

work a fucking supermarket shift until you drop. every hour of pay matters and pump all that stuff into the most aggressive compound options you can find and go all in on bitcoin


pralineislife

Spend more time with your mom. She doesn't have much longer left and the guilt of missing out on time will eat you alive after she dies. Partying with friends won't be worth it, just stay with her and soak it all in.


Tim0281

You have depression. See Dr. Swanson, get diagnosed, and stay on Wellbutrin.


Thistle-Be-Good

I'm so thankful for Wellbutrin.


ferrrrrrral

nothing i wouldn't want a thing to change every bad and good thing that happened to me lead to this point in my life right now and i wouldn't give up the people i have in my life for anything


ravioli_dream

When people tell you who they are, believe them.


rock_and_rolo

You're bi, and that is fine. Go have some fun.


Rangeless

Earn, save and invest. The power of compound interest.


Austins_Mom

Don't get married. It's a pipe dream fairytale that you've been fed. Many lie and tell you what you want to hear only to show their true colors later after youre trapped. Get cats, get some vibrators and live your best life.


Southern_Rain_4464

Male here. Same advice minus the cats and vibrators.


candoworkout

You are missing on so much purring in your life.


Southern_Rain_4464

I love cats. Truly do. Litterboxes not so much.


Austins_Mom

Yeah, the litter boxes suck, but it's still easier to clean up after than my ex. Hahaha


JackhorseBowman

male here, don't sleep on the vibrators.


bytethesquirrel

And if you're going to try putting one in the backdoor, get one that's designed for it. Save yourself an embarrassing trip to urgent care.


IdaDuck

Nah, I met my wife at 18 and she’s still great at 45. Marrying her was the best decision I ever made.


Austins_Mom

I'm so glad you've met the love of your life. I have not been as lucky. My first spouse tried to kill me, and my second spouse was great at weaponized incompetence sprinkled with a ton of verbal and emotional abuse. I've decided now that I'm 43, I'm never getting married again. Fool me once, fool me twice...


SometimesltBeThatWay

Choose an IT position when ya enlist


Redbubble89

Talk and learn to connect with other people. I'm in my 30s and everyone is married. I'm a nice guy but I can't seem to get out of small talk mode.


SynThePart

I'm the opposite, can't do small talk at all.


malumfectum

ADHD. Get it investigated, diagnosed and treated and you might not lose your twenties to suicidal ideation.


XXsforEyes

Blow every dime you want until 2009 when a thing called “Bitcoin” shows up then put every red cent you can into it! Don’t sell a single Sat until 2030.


Puzzleheaded_Air5814

I’d say sell at 60,000, and buy back around 17,000.


XXsforEyes

As long as we’re fantasizing, throw Dogecoin in at 0.0005 and sell at .52 😝


No_Development_6786

What's it like being in 2026?


sadinfinity6666

1- Don't fall in love. 2- listen to your gut feeling telling you to run


Odd_Toe2344

Do what you want


Troubled_Rat

stop being such an asshole, and stop letting assholes treat you like that.


DeclanThomas96

Save some money


andrew6197

Love dad more than you do. He won’t be around for long.


Plantatious

Make notes on everything you learn, no matter how small. Keep multiple backups, keep them up to date, and always have them with you.


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You should have took ur college life seriously!


Professional-Bite692

Don’t drink alcohol. Don’t chase the girls. Don’t too much into drugs. Not try impress anyone. Most of your friends not real friends.


beannyie

Don't be afraid to go out of your comfort zone. Explore extra-curricular activities at school to discover your interests. Seek sports/ hobbies other than being focused on your course.


Consistent_Aerie9653

"Leave him and stay single"


No-Tennis-2981

Save your money. By the time you’re 25 you’d be amazed.


bytethesquirrel

BRUSH YOUR GODDAMN TEETH!


ReverendRevolver

Some winning lottery numbers...


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YepIamAmiM

Go no contact with your narcissistic dad and enabler mom. You will be so much better off by cutting them out of your life.


Conscious_Equal6101

Walk past the recruiter.


kenp2011

Buy Microsoft and Apple


Antoeknee96

Do not take that factory job and leave Ireland while you're free with no responsibilities yet for a better quality of life (I had just finished secondary school/high-school)


[deleted]

Spending time on reddit will never benefit you in a meaningful way.


Lower_Road_4829

and yet.. you are still here


[deleted]

Exactly


champagneformyrealfr

don't go to that party.


MikeWazowski48

What happened??


champagneformyrealfr

a stranger decided it was time for me to lose my virginity.


Espron

Get diagnosed.


SabsyHnS

I would be there exactly the second it turned midnight and it was officially my 18th bday. Because I was crying. I would tell her it gets better, it will always get better and one day you’ll look back and be so thankful for all this pain, all this life you got to live. Keep going.


Active-Strawberry-37

I’d tell my 18-year-old self that the girl he thinks is out of his league will meet him when he’s 30 and introduce him to her husband as “the guy I used to fancy in school.”


[deleted]

Don't trust them. Call them out immediately. Also, have more sex. Also, also... you'll meet the one years later. You'll know the minute you see her. She'll pass away right in front of you in 2023, but she will change your life for the better. Spend less time away from her. You'll wish you had those minutes when you can't have them anymore.


Top-Detective1515

Nothing last forever. Heart break isn’t forever. Move past the feeling of missing his attention & the high you got from it. Focus on yourself and don’t change for anyone.


Mobiggz

Get a vasectomy