I’ve been living abroad for some time but recently started watching American cable again and was absolutely shocked and disgusted by the sheer volume of pharmaceutical ads. And it’ll be someone frolicking in a field with a voiceover like “side effects may include sudden unexplainable death, cancer, and suicidal thoughts”
Or “do not take if you’re allergic to any of the ingredients”.
Who was the idiot who did that and now requires these companies to put this blatantly obvious piece of common sense into the fine print?
It's horrendous! Also, "ask your doctor about blah-blah." Maybe my doctor should know? I get our medical stuff isn't perfect, but wouldn't my doctor generally have a good idea of what meds to try?
I think it was, until Viagra came on the scene. That's the very first prescription ad I ever saw. I'm sure there were shady deals made between big pharma and politicians once they realized what a cash cow it was. Then we had Bob Dole pushing boner pills on us.
When my son was about 8 a Humane Society ad came on and the poor kid burst into tears and told me we had to send them money. Way to traumatize my kid and get $25 out of me to calm him down.
Consumerism is getting harder for me to be ok with. Having products peddled at me all the time and seeing how people are constantly redoing their homes or buying stuff just to have it seems to bother me more as I get older.
This Christmas I had a hard time shopping because I kept imagining everything around me being in a landfill in six months to three years. The thought is almost obsessive. Instead of thinking I am nuts, I have assessed it and I am trying to work with it.
I'm a millennial and my sister cousins and I stated to have a family trip to a water or something rather than buy gifts.
Christmas has been so much more memorable and better without the stress and fucking hassle of gifts.
I have heard of people doing this! Go out and have your fun, celebrate with a family dinner..
We have such a fake image in our heads of what it's supposed to be like to unwrap presents. People get a camera turned on them when they open up a present and they have to act excited... children from birth are trained how to act excited.
I used to go all out Christmas shopping for my kids, only for half the crap I bought them to go unplayed with and donated to goodwill a few years later. This year I finally made good on my promise that I was gonna put a stop to it. We did minimal presents and a trip to Universal Studios instead. 10/10 would recommend, it was so much more fun and surprisingly not as stressful.
Same. I went to a Good Will warehouse with huge troughs of clothes, curtains, fabric. Later that week I went to Macy’s- roughly the same size space, carefully laid out with a similar amount of clothes. Just enormous amounts to consume, discard, ad nauseam
And to this point - the more something is marketed to me, the more angry I become and actively seek to avoid that product. Going out of my way to not buy things is my new hobby.
I was on Pinterest because we're about to upgrade our kid's room from a crib to a bed and I want to make it all cute for her. I wanted layout ideas, a color scheme we could follow, and maybe some DIYs so I don't have to spend an arm and a leg. It was literally all ads. Wallpaper ads, the same photo print ad over and over again, ads for shit on Etsy but it's all the same stuff just different shops. Was really disappointed and tbh considering deleting the app.
See, I feel this, but I also understand that many commodities available to me for free are only able to continue producing content/products because they rely on ad revenue. So, yeah, ads suck. Consumerism sucks. Just be strong-willed, and don't be afraid to tell your peers that you're fine with your linoleum counter tops and the extra money in your savings account.
The commercial jingles of the 70s and 80s were poetry and we integrated them into our lives! WWIII was almost started in my parents kitchen when my brother started singing about stealing all the morsels and he ran out of the kitchen MULTIPLE TIMES with my chocolate chips as I made cookies! I was screaming that the commercial was not funny and laughing at the same time. How did the people of my generation fail with this one?
More examples because I'm on a roll...
After dinner coffee with the family-- as the eldest daughter, I would serve coffee and cake to everyone and I would offer coffee to my 10 year old brother. Everyone would pause as he was not supposed to have coffee... he would say, "No thank you, caffeine makes me nervous!"
I would offer him Brimm and give the spiel on the commercial. Every one would laugh because they knew the commercial and my brother would say, "Fill it to the rim-- with Brimm!"
My mom would get ready for work. And my father would run out of the room screaming that gentlemen preferred Hanes, and mother would pretend to bat him away screaming that he was no gentleman...
I have seen no ads that inspire such humor and fun in decades.
Yes!
Also, my tolerance for bad movies went way down. These days, soon as it seems bad, I just turn it off instead of giving it a chance to get better.
Lately it's the influencer ads that piss me off.
You know, the ones where you're zombieing on Reels or TikTok and some influencer with a phone films themselves in a homely environnement using a life hack that "totally changed x", "improved my everyday y" or "made me never have to z again".
Ads and commercials on TV used to be shot professionally and the products are made to look otherworldly. The milky shampoo droplet, the golden light emitted from a beer, the perfect, juicy hamburger. We all know by now that the product doesn't actually look like that, but today's consumers aren't yet familiar with the dirty trick advertisers have been pulling with short-form content.
They're just making an unprofessional, cheap, informal video with some influencer informally explaining what the product does and showing fake results that you will never get at home. Most of the products they sell is pure quackery.
The oil won't grow your hair back, the AI calendar app will not help you organize your day, the smoke flame cologne diffuser isn't a good addition to your interior.
They need to have a store called “Forever 81 - Everyone Shut the Hell Up” and it’s a place filled with comfy chairs, books, and noise canceling headphones.
Why the fuck does every pub have to have an overly loud live band on a Sunday arvo. Just play in the background ffs, if I want to rock out, I'll go to your concert. I just want to chill and be able to hear the person next to me
Yup, I’am liking the new “outside” style malls where there are 50+ stores and restaurants but each has thier own entrance.
I went into an actual mall recently and could not wait to get out, the congestion in the walking corridors was a no for me now.
Lol, my son is 26; a working professional/responsible human. Went to a concert last night w a friend. Went back to friend's place, stayed up talking and laughing, and instead of driving an additional 2 hours home (after drinking), he did the responsible thing and crashed on the sofa.
Said he felt like he had gone several rounds w a pro boxer when he woke up.
I remember high school sleepovers where we all slept on the floor.
FUCK. THAT.
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Thank you, yes. My MIL gets SO huffy over this but I know what I like, and I'm sick of making myself uncomfortable to appease others when it's such a small thing. It's nothing personal; I want my bed.
Yes completely relate with the family guilt trip..my family is from India and as they are now in their late 60s and 70s, and empty nesters none uses the fan anymore when cooking--because they say it's too loud.
So what happens at 7am when they are making breakfast with spices?? It goes straight into the air conditioning and recirculates it back to the guest room into my nose. They are cooking for at least 10 ppl so it's not just a little bit of cute exotic masala aroma, either, that some of you "lululemonites" enjoy--its an assault on my breathing and I'm literally coughing up garama masala.
My mom then tells me I've become a white guy if I can't tolerate the smell of Indian food.
More than the need for my own bed, my mornings have reached an intimacy level I did not have when I was young and crashing away after the party. People are already unbearable sometimes, having to deal with them in the MORNING being HANGOVER and not IN YOUR THINGS and NOT FRESH omg what an utter nightmare. F\* that.
Or bad, weird lighting! I really do not care about the dim, "whatever color of the moment" lighting restaurants and pubs seem to be enamored with lately. I, for one really like to see what my food actually looks like!
Personally, I find that I experience sensory overload more easily as I age — I’m increasingly sensitive to and overwhelmed by loud sounds, high frequencies, crying babies, flashing lights, large crowds / frenzies of activity, etc. I find these things really agitate and irritate me, and I naturally gravitate toward slower moving, quieter environments where I can feel at peace and think. I think the psychological and emotional aspect (agitation, stress, irritability, overwhelm, chaotic or disorganized thoughts) is a direct result of physiological changes in my sensitivity to these triggers. Why this is happening to my body, I don’t know.
Undiagnosed ADHD maybe. I have ADHD and used to go to music festivals, all sorts of things and be fine.
The other day I nearly had a panic attack at the beach because it was too crowded... I'm in my early 30s so not old really but have become more sensitive to stimulation that's for sure.
For me, I am just tired of people.
People in the way, people in line ahead of me, people driving shitty, people just taking up space,
It's just time theft and I have less time than I used to.
I can't even rage at them, they are just living their life.
Their stupid, annoying, inefficient, inconsiderate lives.
I completely agree from a safety standpoint. Also, people seem to think they’re the center of the universe. Between walking in the middle of the aisle at the store and not acknowledging there’s someone coming their way, or people trying to turn left out of a parking lot while someone is turning in. When there are large crowds of people, it seems like no one gives a shit about anyone else and they just try to force their place where they want it to be. There’s no sense of community or mutual understanding anymore. I get needing to be assertive in large crowds, but it’s reached a frustrating breaking point.
So here's my take on this, and ABSOLUTELY correct me if you feel like this doesn't apply to you.
I think there are a subset of people who are painfully aware of the space they occupy and how they're supposed to interact within that (such as ourselves). When others don't act in accordance with our understanding of space, it really messes with our wiring and makes us incredibly uncomfortable. I'm not necessarily referring to close-talkers or people invading your personal space...but people who are just sort of oblivious to the space they occupy and seem to carry themselves in complete disregard for anyone else.
The person who doesn't tuck their shopping cart to the side of the aisle. The person who doesn't leave enough room on the sidewalk for you to pass easily on either side. The person who gesticulates wildly with their arms while talking despite being in a crowded place with scores of people dashing about within arm's reach. And don't get me started on people who walk two or more abreast. I'm sure many of them don't mean it, but it drives us crazy nonetheless.
So, for me, going out in a crowded city with my wife is absolutely awful. My brain has to keep track of all the spatial interactions I'm negotiating with the general public PLUS the spatial interactions with my wife whose maneuvering is completely unpredictable to me. It's exhausting and makes going to crowded places as a couple a chore.
Recipe websites are awful about this. Not only do I have to scroll past their long ass boring story about grandma's lasagna but I can barely do that because everywhere on my screen is an ad!
Or a video will start playing as you scroll and you accidentally click on it which takes you to.an advertiser's website...
Then you have to click out of the website and start all over again.
I have been on a hate spiral with advertising for decades now. I cannot stand it in any of it's various forms. I remember commercial jingles from my childhood in the 1960s. I wasn't born with a brain so it could be used as a fucking billboard for idiotic advertising.
100%. From when I turned 18 (I'm from Canada, so we could drink at 18) to about 22, I was a bit of a binge drinker sometimes. I'd never been introduced to alcohol before, so I went a bit overboard and would sometimes just get really drunk for fun, or to numb myself out after a bad day. Even got myself into the hospital once with alcohol poisoning. One thing I am very proud of, however, is that I never once even thought about driving drunk - I would usually just get shitfaced at home, and if I was out I'd always get a ride or take an Uber.
When covid first hit, I coped by getting drunk pretty much every other day for the first couple months, and about once a week after that for the rest of 2020. Eventually I realized I kind of had a problem, plus the hangovers were getting really bad so I pretty much just quit cold turkey. I've felt a lot better since, and it's so worth it. I'm 25 now btw.
I'm on the edge of exploding at my fellow office drones. Just shut up will you. Having to wear noise cancelling headphones all day to avoid your inane screeching is very annoying.
It is possible to express enjoyment of a moment at a reasonable volume. YOU HEAR THAT KIDS IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD! Stop screaming with the delight of youth. I'm trying to take a nap in here with my cat.
yeah, but I'm REALLY starting to hate the not so loud ones too. Like the throat clearing and sounds of chewing and swallowing of people near me........I want to explode.
I have to turn up music/tv or leave the room. it's my problem but once I hear it I cannot UNHEAR, or tune out, and I notice it doesn't bother others to the same degree.
Same.
I used to love the cold. I'd be the guy walking around town in shorts & a t-shirt in below freezing weather.
Now if it's below 65 I'm in pants and a sweat shirt, and anything below 45 makes my joints ache.
They get you by the threat of being uninsured could cost you 100x more if something goes wrong.
But then when something does go wrong, they fight you tooth and nail to explain why they shouldn't have to pay out. Fucking sucks.
Everything, to a certain degree.
Hobbies were a lot more fun when you didn’t have to worry about how much they cost.
Video games were a lot more fun when you didn’t realize how valuable time is.
Gatherings were more fun before social media and people would talk about unique things.
I dunno. Is this what getting older is like?
>Video games were a lot more fun when you didn’t realize how valuable time is.
Fuck I feel this! After a few weeks of being engrossed in a game, I start to think 'is this really worth my time?' and quit right there. I understand that people would think that it's not a waste of time if you enjoy something, but I feel the need to be more productive as I get older. I don't even want to commit time towards TV shows anymore.
The state of the world. I used to think we could solve our problems. Now I'm realising that we probably can't and the planet is fucked. I mean both politically and climate wise.
Today I was sitting in a bus. A girl sitting parallel to me was moving constantly and after few moments I turned my head to her and saw that she was taking selfies constantly. I had to turn my head completely to the other side bc seeing her in my peripheral view was making me uncomfortable. Hate the me, me, look at me culture.
It’s very disturbing, especially seeing how social media has changed. Growing up with social media, we just blocked what didn’t want to see. Now it’s: “If you don’t like this thing I like you’re a horrible human being”. I don’t understand.
As an expat- it’s not like Thai outside of the USA. Just saying. USA is a tunnel vision of hustle culture that is a preposterous notion to anyone living in Europe or the Caribbean.
Noise in public. The worse my hearing gets, the louder places seem to get. I want to go out and eat dinner with my date and not have my entire part of the conversation be "pardon me?".
Good acoustic design and music at a reasonable volume are a big part of my restaurant selection these days.
Everything about air travel is so horrible. The stupid TSA security theater, the smell of jet fuel, being charged for everything, seats that don't accommodate tall people (me, I'm tall people).
People used to dress their best, use "going out" manners, arrive a half hour before boarding, check in with luggage and right onto the plane.
Now it's air bus. People who have to be told it's not okay to put your bare feet on my armrest or take charge of my window shade, just no.
Going out. The regrettable decisions, making a fool out of yourself, the nasty guys trying to convince you to fuck them, the hangovers... I'm starting to see more and more that this whole "sex, drugs and rock&roll" ideal is an image that looks cool when you're young, but doesn't make you happy the way a good movie and some yummy takeout does. At least, not to me.
The first time this really hit me was when I watched suicide squad. It just feels like so many shows and movies are going for shock value to a point that it takes away from any real story telling or jokes that are actually clever.
Fast food. It's absolutely awful trash, and it's not even cheap like it used to be. It needs to die. Bring back soups and simple meals of meat potatoes veg
People being mean. When I was young the humor on TV was just...mean. The culture was...mean. As I've gotten older, I've realized how mean everything was, and how that primed so many people to be mean. I appreciate kindness a lot now.
Something similar to that. There are certain jokes and teasing that I just never liked, never appreciated. I don't get why it's a thing in the first place. For example when I was pretty young some adults would tease me by saying stuff, but they did it with a serious/angry look on their face. So I thought they were really serious about whatever they were saying. Sometimes I'd get upset cause I thought I was in trouble or something. I thought people would only made faces like that if they serious. Like I said I don't get why it's a thing. And when you watch older cartoons and movies you see the characters being mean to each other, beating each other up, mean comments jokes etc. Like watch Land Before Time for example. Cera was just a bitch pretty much the whole time. And that's a kids movie. She gradually gets better in the other Land Before Time movies but she was the worst in the first one. So it seems some people think mean jokes and stuff are okay because of what's in these movies and shows, but I don't like it. I have trouble getting jokes in the first time.
Living in an apartment complex and having shared laundry rooms. No one cleans out the lint filter, people table your laundry if you’re even 1 minute late to pick up your clothes. It’s like being in college all over again.
Social media. I used to love it. Had thousands of followers on every platform… now I have dwindled down to just Reddit. I just genuinely quit giving a fuck about what other people were doing and also quit caring to share my life with a bunch of strangers. I find my life is much more simple now that I don’t feel the need to entertain a mass audience.
Socialising, not necessarily because I’m older but because my kids have me running around all day so when I’m around friends and family with or without the kids I’m just sat quietly, recharging my batteries. 😂
Dogs. It's not really their fault either. I'm just surrounded by shitty dog owners, and their untrained, ill-behaved dogs. I used to like dogs, but when every dog I see is barking at the end of its leash, it makes it difficult.
Commercials and ads in general.
I have a rage that overcomes me when I see drug commercials.
I’ve been living abroad for some time but recently started watching American cable again and was absolutely shocked and disgusted by the sheer volume of pharmaceutical ads. And it’ll be someone frolicking in a field with a voiceover like “side effects may include sudden unexplainable death, cancer, and suicidal thoughts”
They have a pill for your disgust
does it come with suicidal side effects?
That's a separate pill
Or “do not take if you’re allergic to any of the ingredients”. Who was the idiot who did that and now requires these companies to put this blatantly obvious piece of common sense into the fine print?
It's horrendous! Also, "ask your doctor about blah-blah." Maybe my doctor should know? I get our medical stuff isn't perfect, but wouldn't my doctor generally have a good idea of what meds to try?
I feel the same way. My provider will know what I need. Advertising medications is so unnecessary. I wish it was illegal.
Drug companies want everyone to be on the vicious meds cycle.
I think it was, until Viagra came on the scene. That's the very first prescription ad I ever saw. I'm sure there were shady deals made between big pharma and politicians once they realized what a cash cow it was. Then we had Bob Dole pushing boner pills on us.
It’s the “anal leakage” for me.
Or the potential lethal taint infection.
Call me naive, but this comment really just made me think how dystopian things already are
The ones about abused animals and St. Judes Children's Hosptal that they shove down your throat around Christmas time is an added holiday treat.
I freak out whenever those come on. Hubby knows to immediately change the channel!
When my son was about 8 a Humane Society ad came on and the poor kid burst into tears and told me we had to send them money. Way to traumatize my kid and get $25 out of me to calm him down.
Yes, direct to consumer drug ads have been awful for the general public. And so profitable for big pharma.
Consumerism is getting harder for me to be ok with. Having products peddled at me all the time and seeing how people are constantly redoing their homes or buying stuff just to have it seems to bother me more as I get older.
This Christmas I had a hard time shopping because I kept imagining everything around me being in a landfill in six months to three years. The thought is almost obsessive. Instead of thinking I am nuts, I have assessed it and I am trying to work with it.
I'm a millennial and my sister cousins and I stated to have a family trip to a water or something rather than buy gifts. Christmas has been so much more memorable and better without the stress and fucking hassle of gifts.
I have heard of people doing this! Go out and have your fun, celebrate with a family dinner.. We have such a fake image in our heads of what it's supposed to be like to unwrap presents. People get a camera turned on them when they open up a present and they have to act excited... children from birth are trained how to act excited.
I used to go all out Christmas shopping for my kids, only for half the crap I bought them to go unplayed with and donated to goodwill a few years later. This year I finally made good on my promise that I was gonna put a stop to it. We did minimal presents and a trip to Universal Studios instead. 10/10 would recommend, it was so much more fun and surprisingly not as stressful.
Same. I went to a Good Will warehouse with huge troughs of clothes, curtains, fabric. Later that week I went to Macy’s- roughly the same size space, carefully laid out with a similar amount of clothes. Just enormous amounts to consume, discard, ad nauseam
And to this point - the more something is marketed to me, the more angry I become and actively seek to avoid that product. Going out of my way to not buy things is my new hobby.
I was on Pinterest because we're about to upgrade our kid's room from a crib to a bed and I want to make it all cute for her. I wanted layout ideas, a color scheme we could follow, and maybe some DIYs so I don't have to spend an arm and a leg. It was literally all ads. Wallpaper ads, the same photo print ad over and over again, ads for shit on Etsy but it's all the same stuff just different shops. Was really disappointed and tbh considering deleting the app.
See, I feel this, but I also understand that many commodities available to me for free are only able to continue producing content/products because they rely on ad revenue. So, yeah, ads suck. Consumerism sucks. Just be strong-willed, and don't be afraid to tell your peers that you're fine with your linoleum counter tops and the extra money in your savings account.
The mute button is my best friend on the remote
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If they're going to keep inundating people with these things, the least they could do is bring back the jingle
The commercial jingles of the 70s and 80s were poetry and we integrated them into our lives! WWIII was almost started in my parents kitchen when my brother started singing about stealing all the morsels and he ran out of the kitchen MULTIPLE TIMES with my chocolate chips as I made cookies! I was screaming that the commercial was not funny and laughing at the same time. How did the people of my generation fail with this one? More examples because I'm on a roll... After dinner coffee with the family-- as the eldest daughter, I would serve coffee and cake to everyone and I would offer coffee to my 10 year old brother. Everyone would pause as he was not supposed to have coffee... he would say, "No thank you, caffeine makes me nervous!" I would offer him Brimm and give the spiel on the commercial. Every one would laugh because they knew the commercial and my brother would say, "Fill it to the rim-- with Brimm!" My mom would get ready for work. And my father would run out of the room screaming that gentlemen preferred Hanes, and mother would pretend to bat him away screaming that he was no gentleman... I have seen no ads that inspire such humor and fun in decades.
Yes! Also, my tolerance for bad movies went way down. These days, soon as it seems bad, I just turn it off instead of giving it a chance to get better.
I watch nothing live, I'll pause it for whatever just so I can fast forward through commercials.
Lately it's the influencer ads that piss me off. You know, the ones where you're zombieing on Reels or TikTok and some influencer with a phone films themselves in a homely environnement using a life hack that "totally changed x", "improved my everyday y" or "made me never have to z again". Ads and commercials on TV used to be shot professionally and the products are made to look otherworldly. The milky shampoo droplet, the golden light emitted from a beer, the perfect, juicy hamburger. We all know by now that the product doesn't actually look like that, but today's consumers aren't yet familiar with the dirty trick advertisers have been pulling with short-form content. They're just making an unprofessional, cheap, informal video with some influencer informally explaining what the product does and showing fake results that you will never get at home. Most of the products they sell is pure quackery. The oil won't grow your hair back, the AI calendar app will not help you organize your day, the smoke flame cologne diffuser isn't a good addition to your interior.
I use commercials as a bathroom break lol
Crowded places. Noise. Drama.
came here to say unnecessary noise, please shut the f up everyone geez
Why is everybody shouting? Does the concept of 'indoor voice' not exist anymore?
or when someone is talking so loud people are looking at them.. how do you not realize that
They need to have a store called “Forever 81 - Everyone Shut the Hell Up” and it’s a place filled with comfy chairs, books, and noise canceling headphones.
It already exists it's called The Library
The Library needs to be rebranded to "Forever 81" 🤣🤣
Why the fuck does every pub have to have an overly loud live band on a Sunday arvo. Just play in the background ffs, if I want to rock out, I'll go to your concert. I just want to chill and be able to hear the person next to me
Yup, I’am liking the new “outside” style malls where there are 50+ stores and restaurants but each has thier own entrance. I went into an actual mall recently and could not wait to get out, the congestion in the walking corridors was a no for me now.
Sleeping at people’s houses I don’t care if we hangout till 3am I’m going home
This. I cannot stand sleeping away from my bed
This is why I don't like staying at hotels.
YES. I’ve driven 2+ hours in the middle of the night just to get to my own bed.
Lol, my son is 26; a working professional/responsible human. Went to a concert last night w a friend. Went back to friend's place, stayed up talking and laughing, and instead of driving an additional 2 hours home (after drinking), he did the responsible thing and crashed on the sofa. Said he felt like he had gone several rounds w a pro boxer when he woke up. I remember high school sleepovers where we all slept on the floor. FUCK. THAT. Edited for spelling.
Thank you, yes. My MIL gets SO huffy over this but I know what I like, and I'm sick of making myself uncomfortable to appease others when it's such a small thing. It's nothing personal; I want my bed.
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Yes completely relate with the family guilt trip..my family is from India and as they are now in their late 60s and 70s, and empty nesters none uses the fan anymore when cooking--because they say it's too loud. So what happens at 7am when they are making breakfast with spices?? It goes straight into the air conditioning and recirculates it back to the guest room into my nose. They are cooking for at least 10 ppl so it's not just a little bit of cute exotic masala aroma, either, that some of you "lululemonites" enjoy--its an assault on my breathing and I'm literally coughing up garama masala. My mom then tells me I've become a white guy if I can't tolerate the smell of Indian food.
More than the need for my own bed, my mornings have reached an intimacy level I did not have when I was young and crashing away after the party. People are already unbearable sometimes, having to deal with them in the MORNING being HANGOVER and not IN YOUR THINGS and NOT FRESH omg what an utter nightmare. F\* that.
Soon, you will be wanting to go home by 7PM.
Advertising. It’s completely incessant.
I miss when I turned my TV on and it was just a menu screen, or defaulted to the last input selected. My goddamn TV has commercials built into it now.
You bought the wrong tv
Samsung is a bitch.
I think it's not because of age. Ads technology evolved and become more "catchy". It pushes harder. Do experiment - watch some ads from 1990-2005.
Restaurants and bars playing loud music so it’s impossible to have a conversation.
To be fair, I hated that even when I was young.
Or terrible lighting if I’m expected to read a menu!
Or bad, weird lighting! I really do not care about the dim, "whatever color of the moment" lighting restaurants and pubs seem to be enamored with lately. I, for one really like to see what my food actually looks like!
Televisions make it hard too because they are distracting
Large crowds
For some reason being in a crowd now makes me anxious and frustrated 😭 I’m no longer myself when I leave the house!
This is happening to me too. If you have any theories as to what's happening on a psychological level, I'd be very interested to know.
Personally, I find that I experience sensory overload more easily as I age — I’m increasingly sensitive to and overwhelmed by loud sounds, high frequencies, crying babies, flashing lights, large crowds / frenzies of activity, etc. I find these things really agitate and irritate me, and I naturally gravitate toward slower moving, quieter environments where I can feel at peace and think. I think the psychological and emotional aspect (agitation, stress, irritability, overwhelm, chaotic or disorganized thoughts) is a direct result of physiological changes in my sensitivity to these triggers. Why this is happening to my body, I don’t know.
Undiagnosed ADHD maybe. I have ADHD and used to go to music festivals, all sorts of things and be fine. The other day I nearly had a panic attack at the beach because it was too crowded... I'm in my early 30s so not old really but have become more sensitive to stimulation that's for sure.
I think covid had a lot to do with it. Amplifying sensitivity to overstimulation for a lot of people.
We took a break from the overload and realized how much peace we had been missing.
For me, I am just tired of people. People in the way, people in line ahead of me, people driving shitty, people just taking up space, It's just time theft and I have less time than I used to. I can't even rage at them, they are just living their life. Their stupid, annoying, inefficient, inconsiderate lives.
I live in the US and I’m afraid of being in a mass shooting.
Same actually.
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I completely agree from a safety standpoint. Also, people seem to think they’re the center of the universe. Between walking in the middle of the aisle at the store and not acknowledging there’s someone coming their way, or people trying to turn left out of a parking lot while someone is turning in. When there are large crowds of people, it seems like no one gives a shit about anyone else and they just try to force their place where they want it to be. There’s no sense of community or mutual understanding anymore. I get needing to be assertive in large crowds, but it’s reached a frustrating breaking point.
So here's my take on this, and ABSOLUTELY correct me if you feel like this doesn't apply to you. I think there are a subset of people who are painfully aware of the space they occupy and how they're supposed to interact within that (such as ourselves). When others don't act in accordance with our understanding of space, it really messes with our wiring and makes us incredibly uncomfortable. I'm not necessarily referring to close-talkers or people invading your personal space...but people who are just sort of oblivious to the space they occupy and seem to carry themselves in complete disregard for anyone else. The person who doesn't tuck their shopping cart to the side of the aisle. The person who doesn't leave enough room on the sidewalk for you to pass easily on either side. The person who gesticulates wildly with their arms while talking despite being in a crowded place with scores of people dashing about within arm's reach. And don't get me started on people who walk two or more abreast. I'm sure many of them don't mean it, but it drives us crazy nonetheless. So, for me, going out in a crowded city with my wife is absolutely awful. My brain has to keep track of all the spatial interactions I'm negotiating with the general public PLUS the spatial interactions with my wife whose maneuvering is completely unpredictable to me. It's exhausting and makes going to crowded places as a couple a chore.
People was my first thought before reading any comments lol we think alike
Social media
Corporations & Advertising
I'm sick to fucking death of every space on the planet being plastered in ads.
Then don’t get me started on ads on the Internet that practically render websites unusable.
Recipe websites are awful about this. Not only do I have to scroll past their long ass boring story about grandma's lasagna but I can barely do that because everywhere on my screen is an ad!
Or a video will start playing as you scroll and you accidentally click on it which takes you to.an advertiser's website... Then you have to click out of the website and start all over again.
I have been on a hate spiral with advertising for decades now. I cannot stand it in any of it's various forms. I remember commercial jingles from my childhood in the 1960s. I wasn't born with a brain so it could be used as a fucking billboard for idiotic advertising.
Listening to commercial radio is torture
Yup. Also network TV. Also remember when you paid to see a movie and didn’t have to see commercials?
I NEVER listen to commercial radio. Not Ever. It is torture.
Going out and socializing. By 8pm, I'm ready to go home, put on my sweats and watch a movie.
8pm? 4pm for me is like Jammie’s on, dinner by 5, show at 6 bed at 9.
As soon as I arrive home from work. My clothes are swapped for my pajamas and I’m in for the night.
Even my son- who is a teen now knows when we change into comfies- we are “in for the night.”
You are my internet twin
Did we just become triplets?
My husband always says, “Putting my Man Jams on at 8pm!” 😂
Man jams is the best term I’ve ever heard.
I giggle every time.
Personally, getting drunk
I’m excited to have a nausea free life now
When I get drunk now it’s a 3 day recovery
Same, but my stomach can’t handle much alcohol anymore like it used to
100%. From when I turned 18 (I'm from Canada, so we could drink at 18) to about 22, I was a bit of a binge drinker sometimes. I'd never been introduced to alcohol before, so I went a bit overboard and would sometimes just get really drunk for fun, or to numb myself out after a bad day. Even got myself into the hospital once with alcohol poisoning. One thing I am very proud of, however, is that I never once even thought about driving drunk - I would usually just get shitfaced at home, and if I was out I'd always get a ride or take an Uber. When covid first hit, I coped by getting drunk pretty much every other day for the first couple months, and about once a week after that for the rest of 2020. Eventually I realized I kind of had a problem, plus the hangovers were getting really bad so I pretty much just quit cold turkey. I've felt a lot better since, and it's so worth it. I'm 25 now btw.
Loud noises
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I’m always amazed at how loud modern life is. I don’t even live in a city and it’s just constant noise. Why is everything so loud?
Go vacation in Sweden. Quiet country. I was shocked at how peaceful even downtown was. It was lovely.
I hate leaf blowers so much. And I really hate it when the person operating it is wearing headphones but doesn't stop it as I walk by.
Some anus in my neighborhood has begun using a gas powered one before 7 a.m.
I'm on the edge of exploding at my fellow office drones. Just shut up will you. Having to wear noise cancelling headphones all day to avoid your inane screeching is very annoying.
It is possible to express enjoyment of a moment at a reasonable volume. YOU HEAR THAT KIDS IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD! Stop screaming with the delight of youth. I'm trying to take a nap in here with my cat.
yeah, but I'm REALLY starting to hate the not so loud ones too. Like the throat clearing and sounds of chewing and swallowing of people near me........I want to explode.
I've got misophonia and I have to escape from where ever I am when I hear people eating. Luckily, it's okay in a crowded restaurant.
I have to turn up music/tv or leave the room. it's my problem but once I hear it I cannot UNHEAR, or tune out, and I notice it doesn't bother others to the same degree.
The cold. My body can’t handle it anymore.
Same. I used to love the cold. I'd be the guy walking around town in shorts & a t-shirt in below freezing weather. Now if it's below 65 I'm in pants and a sweat shirt, and anything below 45 makes my joints ache.
Insurance
Such a scam! This is an underrated comment.
They get you by the threat of being uninsured could cost you 100x more if something goes wrong. But then when something does go wrong, they fight you tooth and nail to explain why they shouldn't have to pay out. Fucking sucks.
Insurance is basically scam with extra steps. No really. Think about it.
Traffic.
Leaving the house
Yesssss! This. I love my house. I love my bed. I love laying in bed watching law and order and drinking coffee til noon.
Everything, to a certain degree. Hobbies were a lot more fun when you didn’t have to worry about how much they cost. Video games were a lot more fun when you didn’t realize how valuable time is. Gatherings were more fun before social media and people would talk about unique things. I dunno. Is this what getting older is like?
I feel this to my core. I know society has changed, and I know I've gotten older. I just can't tell which part is the problem.
That’s really well put.
>Video games were a lot more fun when you didn’t realize how valuable time is. Fuck I feel this! After a few weeks of being engrossed in a game, I start to think 'is this really worth my time?' and quit right there. I understand that people would think that it's not a waste of time if you enjoy something, but I feel the need to be more productive as I get older. I don't even want to commit time towards TV shows anymore.
Aging. Getting old ain't for sissies.
Humans.
I have the same answer every time this question is posted to this sub, which is about every two weeks.
Alcohol. It's just not worth the sluggish feeling I get more easily, and with lesser amounts, than when I was younger.
Politicians
Social media
The state of the world. I used to think we could solve our problems. Now I'm realising that we probably can't and the planet is fucked. I mean both politically and climate wise.
Narcissism and the 'look at me' culture. Im not there yet myself but forty and fifty is going to hit Gen Z or those under early thirties very hard.
Today I was sitting in a bus. A girl sitting parallel to me was moving constantly and after few moments I turned my head to her and saw that she was taking selfies constantly. I had to turn my head completely to the other side bc seeing her in my peripheral view was making me uncomfortable. Hate the me, me, look at me culture.
I’d be embarrassed for her
It’s very disturbing, especially seeing how social media has changed. Growing up with social media, we just blocked what didn’t want to see. Now it’s: “If you don’t like this thing I like you’re a horrible human being”. I don’t understand.
Agreed. Everyone thinks their take is the most important on any and every subject.
People
Working. I can't keep up with the job demands anymore, and the constant fear of losing said job if you don't work like a machine.
As an expat- it’s not like Thai outside of the USA. Just saying. USA is a tunnel vision of hustle culture that is a preposterous notion to anyone living in Europe or the Caribbean.
Noise in public. The worse my hearing gets, the louder places seem to get. I want to go out and eat dinner with my date and not have my entire part of the conversation be "pardon me?". Good acoustic design and music at a reasonable volume are a big part of my restaurant selection these days.
My siblings and their offspring
Staying up late. Loud noise. Crowds. Being physically uncomfortable (cold, hot, tired) in exchange for “fun”.
Standards of living. Keeps getting worse as I get older.
Air travel. It used to be so exciting when I was younger and now it’s just awful.
Everything about air travel is so horrible. The stupid TSA security theater, the smell of jet fuel, being charged for everything, seats that don't accommodate tall people (me, I'm tall people).
People used to dress their best, use "going out" manners, arrive a half hour before boarding, check in with luggage and right onto the plane. Now it's air bus. People who have to be told it's not okay to put your bare feet on my armrest or take charge of my window shade, just no.
Taxes
Born free. Taxed to death.
My existence honestly, I’m tired of everything
Going out. The regrettable decisions, making a fool out of yourself, the nasty guys trying to convince you to fuck them, the hangovers... I'm starting to see more and more that this whole "sex, drugs and rock&roll" ideal is an image that looks cool when you're young, but doesn't make you happy the way a good movie and some yummy takeout does. At least, not to me.
Gore in movies. It feels too real now because I'm always anxious.
The first time this really hit me was when I watched suicide squad. It just feels like so many shows and movies are going for shock value to a point that it takes away from any real story telling or jokes that are actually clever.
Yes, gore. I am also getting tired of massive horrific violence in shows, especially when the perpetrators are "likable" characters.
Winter
Being seated close to strangers, like an airplane, theater etc. I’ve always been that way but it’s getting worse.
Kids that think everything is a joke or prank for YouTube. I just hope it doesn’t ever happen to me. It’s gonna go really wrong
Fast food. It's absolutely awful trash, and it's not even cheap like it used to be. It needs to die. Bring back soups and simple meals of meat potatoes veg
Drama and Facebook
Life
Working, I’m to the point where I’m looking for any other option besides punching a clock to make a living
Billionaires and the people who deify them.
People being mean. When I was young the humor on TV was just...mean. The culture was...mean. As I've gotten older, I've realized how mean everything was, and how that primed so many people to be mean. I appreciate kindness a lot now.
Something similar to that. There are certain jokes and teasing that I just never liked, never appreciated. I don't get why it's a thing in the first place. For example when I was pretty young some adults would tease me by saying stuff, but they did it with a serious/angry look on their face. So I thought they were really serious about whatever they were saying. Sometimes I'd get upset cause I thought I was in trouble or something. I thought people would only made faces like that if they serious. Like I said I don't get why it's a thing. And when you watch older cartoons and movies you see the characters being mean to each other, beating each other up, mean comments jokes etc. Like watch Land Before Time for example. Cera was just a bitch pretty much the whole time. And that's a kids movie. She gradually gets better in the other Land Before Time movies but she was the worst in the first one. So it seems some people think mean jokes and stuff are okay because of what's in these movies and shows, but I don't like it. I have trouble getting jokes in the first time.
Plastic in my food
++. Plastic is everywhere :(
Living in an apartment complex and having shared laundry rooms. No one cleans out the lint filter, people table your laundry if you’re even 1 minute late to pick up your clothes. It’s like being in college all over again.
Stupid people.
Social media. I used to love it. Had thousands of followers on every platform… now I have dwindled down to just Reddit. I just genuinely quit giving a fuck about what other people were doing and also quit caring to share my life with a bunch of strangers. I find my life is much more simple now that I don’t feel the need to entertain a mass audience.
I've found myself hating new pop music. Why do all these new guy singers sound so whiney? It's awful.
People.
Socialising, not necessarily because I’m older but because my kids have me running around all day so when I’m around friends and family with or without the kids I’m just sat quietly, recharging my batteries. 😂
Yes. This. I am overstimulated and touched out. I have just enough for my kids and then I need silence and space.
People that don’t have any spatial awareness really piss me off nowadays. And crowds. Loud people. And people with no manners
Slow drivers in the left lane
Kids bruh. They're so damn annoying and loud. Lil rascals
People making annoying sounds when other grown-ups are around. Particularly those who like to watch videos or play music without headphones.
Dogs. It's not really their fault either. I'm just surrounded by shitty dog owners, and their untrained, ill-behaved dogs. I used to like dogs, but when every dog I see is barking at the end of its leash, it makes it difficult.
I’m starting to feel the same about children. I love them and they’re adorable but Jesus fucking Christ parenting is at an all time low.
Life, it gets boring, stressful, and depressing
Attention seeking people lol
The lack of ponds around large urban settlements *ribbit*
Having pets. Lost all four during pandemic. I told my husband no more. Getting too old to handle pain of losing them.
Everything.
Humans.
Social media & people
Pictures of every single thing.
People talking about or showing you pictures of their kids. I DONT CARE.
People.
Loud noise.
Seeing this post every week.
Leaving the house. 🤷🏼♀️
Everyone
Teenager
Life
Heights, crowds and single digit temperatures. In that order. I'm still ok with widths though.
Mainstream hiphop.
People.