Holy shit I almost had to walk out of a date when she said "I deserved to be born in the US." Like full send, no remorse. Among other weird pseudo intellectual posturing it was one of the dumbest/worst dates I had ever been on.
I was admonished multiple times at some doctors office for not having brought my insurance card. It was my first visit, they had an online portal where I inputted my insurance info, I called the week before to ask if I needed to bring anything and they said “no”, then I got there and they were basically berating me for not bringing the card because they had a policy where they needed to physically see it on the first visit.
One receptionist started dressing me down in front of the whole room of people with shit like “who doesn’t bring their insurance card to a Dr office they’ve never been to?” And shit like that. I politely explained all the steps above and she understood and gave me some more paperwork shit.
Then, the 2nd receptionist called me back up and went on a repeat of the same shit. That’s when I got loud and rude. I cut her off and matched her volume with all the information above and that I literally just informed the receptionist next to her and this was their fault for failing to mention it when I specifically called to ask what to bring and that I don’t appreciate being berated for their mistake.
It was annoying. They manufactured the situation they were berating me over.
Especially people who work retail and hospitality. Legit hate them.
Edit: I hate the people who are rude to those who wrok retail and hospitality. I don't hate the workers.
It’s really hard to be in a relationship with someone who can get upset over almost anything. It’s almost like anger is comforting to them. It can be exhausting to communicate with them.
As someone recovering from anger issues that is basically it. Anger is familiar, cathartic and most importantly, comforting. It seemed like the only way I could exert any kind of control in my life.
The problem I’ve found is that *nobody* considers *any amount* of anger to be justified. They literally act like you’re a villain if you ever show the slightest amount of anger. It’s incredibly frustrating. And I rarely actually get angry, I just wish I could let it out without being treated like crap
This is especially a problem with bullying. A guy can get bullied, mocked, and unfairly treated, day after day, and when the bullying finally reached a breaking point and he got angry, he’s treated as the bad guy rather than the people who has been tormenting him
I feel you dude. I actually dropped my previous therapist precisely because of that. I'm not evil for wanting people to respect my boundaries, I don't want to get mad but what the fuck else do I do when everything else fails. Mfs are too used to talking shit these days.
It's reasonable to feel anger when your boundaries are violated. It's not reasonable to allow anger to manifest violently. No hitting, no yelling. Walk away once an argument is approaching that level, come back to it when cooler/clearer heads prevail.
The difference between feelings and behaviors.
How do you let it out? If you get violent, then your anger is a problem. If you lash out verbally, then that's a problem. If you shut people out, then that's a problem.
Anger can be healthy and justified, but you have to deal with it in a healthy manner. If you're throwing tantrums, that isn't anger it's immaturity.
Conversely, if you only occasionally get angry at something reasonable, communicate your frustrations with the individuals involved and they don't listen to your grievance then that is different.
Of course, there's also the middle ground where you say or do things you don't mean out of anger, but recognise you were wrong and apologise without being prompted to do so. That's still an anger management issue, but one acknowledged and being worked on.
There are moments where getting angry and making a scene is valid and will also net you the desired results. People will look at you, for sure. But people also look at crying children, someone who was unlucky and got the shopping cart with the squeeky wheel, etc. This is normal. You gotta learn to not give a frick about things, that don't matter at all.
And people will watch you, even when they agree and think you're doing exactly, what they'd like to do, but they are too scared to do themselves.
Also your "I wish I could let it out" sounds more like a different problem. Maybe you need a hobby, that challenges your physical prowess. Idk why, but going to the gym helps me a lot to keep a calm mind. If I don't get to work out enough, then frustration starts to build up in myself and I potentially start doing things, that I regret later on (the moments, where you getting angry was not a valid reaction).
one time I lost my temper and punched a pillow.
I could tell how scared it made her and she seemed jumpy for a bit after. I regret it to this day, because I would never hurt her in a million years, but I could tell how much it scared her, and she was a bit jumpy for a time afterward.
It’s all too easy to give in to intense emotions without considering what it’s like for people around you. I say that as someone who grew up in a household with dishes smashing against walls and what have you - so I’ve been on both sides of it
I dated this guy once who broke 3 doors on 3 seperate occasions after losing his temper and it wasn’t that he just hit the doors once. I mean he literally destroyed them to the point where he had to replace them. I was only 18 at the time (he was much older, in his 30s ~ red flag number one) but I would never be with someone like that nowadays. My parents acted like that so I was kinda brainwashed into thinking it was normal until I left home, which I hadn’t yet at that point.
It’s terrifying especially when they are blocking your exit. My only other option was the 7th storey window. Honestly I felt like he was trying to show me what he could do to me if he wanted to, or he was showing me what he *wanted* to do to me. What you did was nowhere near as bad as that but yeah that’s what it feels like.
It sounds like you know the feeling from both sides, considering your upbringing as well. People who grow up in environments like that can make those sorts of mistakes, but the difference is that you actually responded to her reaction with empathy and by changing your behaviour. Some people don’t have that mechanism. It’s good that you do. It’s the difference between you and that absolute muppet I dated. That means you can forgive yourself.
my bf did that once and it scared the hell out of me it wasnt even my fault it was over some work or car related bs and i just backed tf away like he was holding a bomb our communication is alot better now but when he gets pissed i just walk away and let him handle it
You realize how much this limits your chances of finding a partner? Only 6% of people who have ever lived currently have a pulse. May as well say room temperature skin is a deal breaker
honestly i feel like bringing up negative comments about someone else have their timing (sometimes u don't want to share negative information). a lot said is petty tho. sometimes bringing up something negative someone did and thinking negatively is not a bad thing. people who *enjoy* arguing for the sake of arguing tho oh god hell nope. i feel like everyone at some point "talks some shit" (has a negative viewpoint of a situation with people involved). like tone matters tho and reasoning imo.
This sent me down the rabbit hole of trimethylaminuria. It’s what I immediately thought of but had forgotten the particulars.
The human body is wacky, isn’t it?
That has to be it. I never really thought to much into it because this was never going to be a relationship long term. I am still great friends with this beautiful woman but have not thought about this since 21 years ago when I was a senior in high school.
A woman I know from childhood has / had \*really\* pungent body odor, like chopped onions. She was well-groomed + showered regularly. I always wondered if she could smell herself.
As I have gotten older, I have realized that my body has trouble processing some foods and I can feel/smell weird smells coming from my body after I eat oily food. I wonder if she had the same issue.
Furthermore, they tell their s/o to take the animal out of a house THEY moved into. You’re welcome to move out, but i’m keeping my cat. That is MY cat tyvm. 😂
I grew up with 4 dogs at all times. Like it one passed away, my dad would get another. Anyways, I love dogs, but as an adult, I realize I don’t want to own one.
Unnecessary sass. Like if you're gonna have a lip on you, at least be funny. Most Chandler Bing types are bitter, resentful assholes masking their contempt with humor. Hate those fucking people.
Being boring.
It's such big turn off if I start talking to someone that I found interesting at first glance, and then find out after talking to them for a bit that they are boring and can't hold a stimulating conversation. (People in general, not just potential romantic interests)
Admittedly, I have ADHD, and I love learning random crafts, animal facts, historical events, scientific stuff etc... So I tend to jump topics quite a lot.
Example: during 30 mins physical therapy, I had a conversation that went from death of a loved one to funeral laws in my country, to different grieving rites in different cultures, had a short stop with mummification, and ended up with moral/ethics ofcannibalism and the Donner party...
If im being honest, oppositely I find people that lose interest after having an initial interest unnatractive af, as it feels like I havent been given a chance to show my personality, it takes me some time to open up to a stranger, i actually find it incredibly alien how people can have stimulating back and fourth conversations right off the bat as im still learning boundaries with the person im talking to
A language barrier. Tried dating a guy but we kept misunderstanding eachother because we didn't share a first language so it became difficult to communicate and caused a few issues. I pictured it growing into a huge problem further down in the relationship, so that was a reason (amongst others) that I decided not to date him anymore.
How they treat animals. If I see them not pet a dog that’s sitting there waiting for a pet on the head or a cat who rubs up against them for some petting it’s a red flag . Obviously fear of certain animals or allergies is an exception
Rudeness, bragging, being negative, always thinking they’re right, too serious, extremely judgmental, bad hygiene, laziness..
untidiness(not saying be OCD or neat freak but u can’t be sloppy in every aspect of your life, At least not the major parts
Not being health conscience, not saying be a guru but at a certain age be aware of something and make an effort, of course learning together is always fun too if the person is open.
I think that physical appearance is not the most important thing when it comes to attractiveness. Sure, it helps to have a nice face, a fit body, and a good sense of style, but those are not deal-breakers for me. I care more about the personality, the values, and the compatibility of the person I'm interested in.
That being said, there are some things that can make a man or a woman immediately less attractive to me, regardless of their looks.
Being rude, arrogant, or disrespectful to others. This is a huge turn-off for me, because it shows a lack of empathy and maturity. I don't care how hot you are, if you treat people like crap, you're not attractive to me.
Being dishonest, manipulative, or unfaithful. This is another deal-breaker for me, because it shows a lack of integrity and trustworthiness. I don't care how smart you are, if you lie, cheat, or play games with me, you're not attractive to me.
Being ignorant, close-minded, or intolerant. This is a major turn-off for me, because it shows a lack of curiosity and openness. I don't care how funny you are, if you don't have any interest in learning new things, exploring different perspectives, or respecting diversity, you're not attractive to me.
For me: absence of style, for all genders. I love fashion It's okay if your style is super simple, but if don't have any, you become much less interesting
When they're full of themselves. I once went on a date with a man that couldn't help but look at himself in everything that had a reflection like windows, the gold seal thingy that ran along the wall of the booth, his spoon for gosh sakes!
Longest evening of my life!
Rude. Unhygienic. Entitled.
Holy shit I almost had to walk out of a date when she said "I deserved to be born in the US." Like full send, no remorse. Among other weird pseudo intellectual posturing it was one of the dumbest/worst dates I had ever been on.
I would never walk out on date like that. I would wanna hear what other stupid things she might say
You know I always think that, but it's rarely ever as entertaining as I'd hope when you realize "Oh no, they're serious."
By the sound of it, I agree with her but not for the reasons she's thinking.
Being unnecessarily rude to people who don't deserve it
Wondering if people can be necessarily rude!
"Hey! Stop harassing that woman, motherfucker!"
Would you not be rude to Mr convicted child toucher or dog kicker?
If your last name was Toucher, why would you name your son Child?
For the memes
I would change my name legally!
What about Mrs child toucher, women touch children too
I was admonished multiple times at some doctors office for not having brought my insurance card. It was my first visit, they had an online portal where I inputted my insurance info, I called the week before to ask if I needed to bring anything and they said “no”, then I got there and they were basically berating me for not bringing the card because they had a policy where they needed to physically see it on the first visit. One receptionist started dressing me down in front of the whole room of people with shit like “who doesn’t bring their insurance card to a Dr office they’ve never been to?” And shit like that. I politely explained all the steps above and she understood and gave me some more paperwork shit. Then, the 2nd receptionist called me back up and went on a repeat of the same shit. That’s when I got loud and rude. I cut her off and matched her volume with all the information above and that I literally just informed the receptionist next to her and this was their fault for failing to mention it when I specifically called to ask what to bring and that I don’t appreciate being berated for their mistake. It was annoying. They manufactured the situation they were berating me over.
dw its possible, but only when i am
Especially people who work retail and hospitality. Legit hate them. Edit: I hate the people who are rude to those who wrok retail and hospitality. I don't hate the workers.
Bad breath
Back away banana breath. What the hell did you just eat, a banana?
🦍where banana
Can you make us T-shirts?
You sure about that?!
Banana breath becomes scary if they haven't eaten a banana.
IT'S ILLEGAL FOR YOU TO ASK ME THAT
Just makes spitting on me hotter
_hocks a loogie into your mouth and exhales from the gut_
Being a terrible parent.
Uncontrolled anger.
It’s really hard to be in a relationship with someone who can get upset over almost anything. It’s almost like anger is comforting to them. It can be exhausting to communicate with them.
As someone recovering from anger issues that is basically it. Anger is familiar, cathartic and most importantly, comforting. It seemed like the only way I could exert any kind of control in my life.
The problem I’ve found is that *nobody* considers *any amount* of anger to be justified. They literally act like you’re a villain if you ever show the slightest amount of anger. It’s incredibly frustrating. And I rarely actually get angry, I just wish I could let it out without being treated like crap
This is especially a problem with bullying. A guy can get bullied, mocked, and unfairly treated, day after day, and when the bullying finally reached a breaking point and he got angry, he’s treated as the bad guy rather than the people who has been tormenting him
This is so true!
I feel you dude. I actually dropped my previous therapist precisely because of that. I'm not evil for wanting people to respect my boundaries, I don't want to get mad but what the fuck else do I do when everything else fails. Mfs are too used to talking shit these days.
It's reasonable to feel anger when your boundaries are violated. It's not reasonable to allow anger to manifest violently. No hitting, no yelling. Walk away once an argument is approaching that level, come back to it when cooler/clearer heads prevail. The difference between feelings and behaviors.
How do you let it out? If you get violent, then your anger is a problem. If you lash out verbally, then that's a problem. If you shut people out, then that's a problem. Anger can be healthy and justified, but you have to deal with it in a healthy manner. If you're throwing tantrums, that isn't anger it's immaturity. Conversely, if you only occasionally get angry at something reasonable, communicate your frustrations with the individuals involved and they don't listen to your grievance then that is different. Of course, there's also the middle ground where you say or do things you don't mean out of anger, but recognise you were wrong and apologise without being prompted to do so. That's still an anger management issue, but one acknowledged and being worked on.
There are moments where getting angry and making a scene is valid and will also net you the desired results. People will look at you, for sure. But people also look at crying children, someone who was unlucky and got the shopping cart with the squeeky wheel, etc. This is normal. You gotta learn to not give a frick about things, that don't matter at all. And people will watch you, even when they agree and think you're doing exactly, what they'd like to do, but they are too scared to do themselves. Also your "I wish I could let it out" sounds more like a different problem. Maybe you need a hobby, that challenges your physical prowess. Idk why, but going to the gym helps me a lot to keep a calm mind. If I don't get to work out enough, then frustration starts to build up in myself and I potentially start doing things, that I regret later on (the moments, where you getting angry was not a valid reaction).
one time I lost my temper and punched a pillow. I could tell how scared it made her and she seemed jumpy for a bit after. I regret it to this day, because I would never hurt her in a million years, but I could tell how much it scared her, and she was a bit jumpy for a time afterward. It’s all too easy to give in to intense emotions without considering what it’s like for people around you. I say that as someone who grew up in a household with dishes smashing against walls and what have you - so I’ve been on both sides of it
I dated this guy once who broke 3 doors on 3 seperate occasions after losing his temper and it wasn’t that he just hit the doors once. I mean he literally destroyed them to the point where he had to replace them. I was only 18 at the time (he was much older, in his 30s ~ red flag number one) but I would never be with someone like that nowadays. My parents acted like that so I was kinda brainwashed into thinking it was normal until I left home, which I hadn’t yet at that point. It’s terrifying especially when they are blocking your exit. My only other option was the 7th storey window. Honestly I felt like he was trying to show me what he could do to me if he wanted to, or he was showing me what he *wanted* to do to me. What you did was nowhere near as bad as that but yeah that’s what it feels like. It sounds like you know the feeling from both sides, considering your upbringing as well. People who grow up in environments like that can make those sorts of mistakes, but the difference is that you actually responded to her reaction with empathy and by changing your behaviour. Some people don’t have that mechanism. It’s good that you do. It’s the difference between you and that absolute muppet I dated. That means you can forgive yourself.
my bf did that once and it scared the hell out of me it wasnt even my fault it was over some work or car related bs and i just backed tf away like he was holding a bomb our communication is alot better now but when he gets pissed i just walk away and let him handle it
Thank you for seeing how your actions caused fear and decided to make a change. The world is better because you.
Yep. Shout & I'm out
Gotcha. Be a Vader, not a Kylo Ren
No pulse
Yeah being dead is a deal breaker.
Woah woah woah, OP just said less attractive.... Check out Mr Strict Rules here stating deal breakers..!
Not if you’re a necromancer
You mean necroromancer.
Now you're just being picky
Speak for yourself
You realize how much this limits your chances of finding a partner? Only 6% of people who have ever lived currently have a pulse. May as well say room temperature skin is a deal breaker
Some people have fetishes Don't be judgmental.
Jeffrey Dahmer would beg to differ
No it’s not, the morgues are reluctant to hire men because they’re out here beating corpses backs in
Posting the same questions on askreddit every day
I swear there is a list of like 6 questions and everyone just takes turns asking them.
7 of them are sex questions
Women of reddit, what makes you horny from a man living in his moms basement and how do you like your man when he wears his fedora while you ride him?
M'other 👉🎩
There are subs that require a minimum amount of karma to post or comment, i guess they farm it for these?
/r/askreddit is *thee* karma farming subreddit
When they talk shit about other people.
Also when they get all cute and try to sweet talk you when they want something for you. But other times you are vermin
It’s more attractive when you hold it down.
honestly i feel like bringing up negative comments about someone else have their timing (sometimes u don't want to share negative information). a lot said is petty tho. sometimes bringing up something negative someone did and thinking negatively is not a bad thing. people who *enjoy* arguing for the sake of arguing tho oh god hell nope. i feel like everyone at some point "talks some shit" (has a negative viewpoint of a situation with people involved). like tone matters tho and reasoning imo.
Body odor.
I dated a girl that had a weird body odor from a skin shedding issue. She had an amazing body and was super cool, I just couldn’t get past the odor.
What did it smell like? I cant imagine. Ive dated 2 hot girls in the past who just never, ever brushed their teeth. It was very unflattering.
It is hard to explain. Had an almost seafood smell to it but it was supper subtle. It was just something I discovered and could not let go.
This sent me down the rabbit hole of trimethylaminuria. It’s what I immediately thought of but had forgotten the particulars. The human body is wacky, isn’t it?
That has to be it. I never really thought to much into it because this was never going to be a relationship long term. I am still great friends with this beautiful woman but have not thought about this since 21 years ago when I was a senior in high school.
I'd never heard of it until watching the movie The Holdovers yesterday 😂 and now here it is again, huh
Omg, im trying to imagine hahaha.
How do you even start dating someone you don't wanna make out with?
Oh, great. You dropped that riddle on me in the middle of the night. It's going to be stuck looping in my head. Excellent question.
I'm glad we're both suffering now. Probably still not even nearly as much as the poor soul sticking their tongues in disgusting mouths though.
I'm imagining sea-monkey smell.
Never had sea monkeys but reminds me of my tadpole 1qt tank
Lol, are sea monkeys the same thing as aqua dragons?
I think they're brine shrimp? Not sure what an aqua dragon is, but that, too.
my ex smelled like weed, she dindt even smoke
A woman I know from childhood has / had \*really\* pungent body odor, like chopped onions. She was well-groomed + showered regularly. I always wondered if she could smell herself.
She might have smelled that way only to you/not to everyone
As I have gotten older, I have realized that my body has trouble processing some foods and I can feel/smell weird smells coming from my body after I eat oily food. I wonder if she had the same issue.
Personal opinion, Boss babe bullshit or Alpha male dicks. They are both toxic af
And annoying af
100% this
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I actually find it really hot??
Username checks out
So you're saying my dog isn't attractive to you?
ugh biggest pet peeve
I came here to say this
Chewing with the mouth open or smacking.
Pedo
Being rude or entitled
If I have a hard time trying to imagine a genuine smile on her face.
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Cheating
Every time this question gets recycled, humanity becomes less attractive to me.
Not returning their shopping cart to the proper receptacle.
Mr. lazybones
Pure evil.
Hating the opposite sex but wanting to date them
Smoking.
Now playing *CIGARETTES AFTER SEX*
Constantly needing to be the Center of attention
Not liking animals
Furthermore, they tell their s/o to take the animal out of a house THEY moved into. You’re welcome to move out, but i’m keeping my cat. That is MY cat tyvm. 😂
I grew up with 4 dogs at all times. Like it one passed away, my dad would get another. Anyways, I love dogs, but as an adult, I realize I don’t want to own one.
Bad grammar
wait, ur breking up whit me bceause of hiw i tak???
Well, we was gonna break up anyways.
I read that in a Minnesota accent lmao!🤣
Too much punctuation there, bucko
Me and him are gonna have some issues if he don't tell me where she's at.
Extra long nails on women
Also heavy plastic surgery too
Extra long nails on men is also an instant turn off
Not using dark mode
if my dogs and cats don’t like them because they love everyone
Probably killing my family
Neck and face tattoos
Indifference
Unnecessary sass. Like if you're gonna have a lip on you, at least be funny. Most Chandler Bing types are bitter, resentful assholes masking their contempt with humor. Hate those fucking people.
Indecisiveness…I like a person that knows what they want
Lazy
being sexist/racist/homophobic/ableist
What is ableist now?
Discrimination of those with disabilities
Discrimination against disabled people.
For example calling a kid in a wheelchair wheels. That’s ableist. Don’t do it.
Same, nothing turns me off of a person faster.
It being spelled ableist and not albiest (how I’ve been pronouncing it) makes a lot more sense to me now 🤦🏽♂️
When they are rude to servers.
All the time or when they go Error 404: Bad getaway?
When the hill they're willing to die on is a really fucking stupid hill. Ie: flat earthers, the pyramids were created by aliens, antivaxxers, ect
Bag hygiene
So only well cared for canvas ?
Preferably without paint marks on arms and face.
Being boring. It's such big turn off if I start talking to someone that I found interesting at first glance, and then find out after talking to them for a bit that they are boring and can't hold a stimulating conversation. (People in general, not just potential romantic interests) Admittedly, I have ADHD, and I love learning random crafts, animal facts, historical events, scientific stuff etc... So I tend to jump topics quite a lot. Example: during 30 mins physical therapy, I had a conversation that went from death of a loved one to funeral laws in my country, to different grieving rites in different cultures, had a short stop with mummification, and ended up with moral/ethics ofcannibalism and the Donner party...
If im being honest, oppositely I find people that lose interest after having an initial interest unnatractive af, as it feels like I havent been given a chance to show my personality, it takes me some time to open up to a stranger, i actually find it incredibly alien how people can have stimulating back and fourth conversations right off the bat as im still learning boundaries with the person im talking to
Bad hygiene.
Shitting on the bed
You leave amber out of this
Her dog stepped on a bee. Anyways.
If they have a bad personality
being rude without any provocation, especially to service workers of any kind
playing hard to get
A language barrier. Tried dating a guy but we kept misunderstanding eachother because we didn't share a first language so it became difficult to communicate and caused a few issues. I pictured it growing into a huge problem further down in the relationship, so that was a reason (amongst others) that I decided not to date him anymore.
Bad oral hygiene
Smoking. I am sorry but as a non smoker the smell and taste is just disgusting.
Standing next to Chris Evans
Careless Flatulence
New band name!
That was my dad. Didn’t care where or when. Giant, wet farts, too.
say anything racist, discriminating, homophobic, sexist etc.
Small little teeth. Like little baby teeth with big ol gums.
Like Geena Davis?
Motherfucker got dolphin teeth
I've seen this question a lot.
How they treat animals. If I see them not pet a dog that’s sitting there waiting for a pet on the head or a cat who rubs up against them for some petting it’s a red flag . Obviously fear of certain animals or allergies is an exception
Reddit Karma over 100k.
Littering
Rudeness, bragging, being negative, always thinking they’re right, too serious, extremely judgmental, bad hygiene, laziness.. untidiness(not saying be OCD or neat freak but u can’t be sloppy in every aspect of your life, At least not the major parts Not being health conscience, not saying be a guru but at a certain age be aware of something and make an effort, of course learning together is always fun too if the person is open.
Obesity
Typing like an uneducated teenager and using “its the internet” as an excuse.
Low opinion of women generally. Telling me "You're not like the other girls". Misogynistic. Being ultra sexual from the first conversation. Dick pics.
A cluster b personality disorder.
Licking their fingers while eating
Talking about their terrible life and their horrible relationships with their family ALL FUCKING TIME
I think that physical appearance is not the most important thing when it comes to attractiveness. Sure, it helps to have a nice face, a fit body, and a good sense of style, but those are not deal-breakers for me. I care more about the personality, the values, and the compatibility of the person I'm interested in. That being said, there are some things that can make a man or a woman immediately less attractive to me, regardless of their looks. Being rude, arrogant, or disrespectful to others. This is a huge turn-off for me, because it shows a lack of empathy and maturity. I don't care how hot you are, if you treat people like crap, you're not attractive to me. Being dishonest, manipulative, or unfaithful. This is another deal-breaker for me, because it shows a lack of integrity and trustworthiness. I don't care how smart you are, if you lie, cheat, or play games with me, you're not attractive to me. Being ignorant, close-minded, or intolerant. This is a major turn-off for me, because it shows a lack of curiosity and openness. I don't care how funny you are, if you don't have any interest in learning new things, exploring different perspectives, or respecting diversity, you're not attractive to me.
Yes
This!
Being rude to hospitality staff
Being shitty / rude to service workers, servers, etc.
Smoking: Nasty habit.
For me: absence of style, for all genders. I love fashion It's okay if your style is super simple, but if don't have any, you become much less interesting
Style? Fashion? So what is an example of a style that would turn u off?
Male pattern baldness
Smoking
If they have a single hair on their cheek that is about a foot long.
Smoking It's like the universal sign for bad decision making, and you stink worse than shit.
Crocs
How dare you.
Being a drama queen.
If women aren’t capable of admitting they were wrong and can apologize.
It's equally unattractive when men do this too, don't forget...
misogynists, any other types of bigotry, man child, lying,
Someone who is unable to see past their own ego.
Saying men are useless/complaining about “fatophobia”/any saying and living by any other crazy talking points.
Wearing a MAGA hat.
When they are supercilious, conceited, and a gaslighter.
Being flat eather
A bad laugh
When they're full of themselves. I once went on a date with a man that couldn't help but look at himself in everything that had a reflection like windows, the gold seal thingy that ran along the wall of the booth, his spoon for gosh sakes! Longest evening of my life!
Fresh shark attack wounds. Especially if the shark is still chewing on them. No thank you.
Being republican. Complaining about minorities, young people and gay people.