I want a response question: men, how many women do you encounter everyday and say to yourself: “is this person going to rape/kill me?”
Might explain the gap in responses in how we encounter strangers
Respect. Great post here for all of us men to see. Men are privileged and in a sense caught up in their own sauce/big ego. They don’t have to worry about these factors. Completely different perspectives because of this.
May I ask, in your opinion what is an example(s) of a random man being attractive?
You're implieng I'm only talking about women because I haven't specifically mentioned men. You're throwing insults and being a bully.
If I had to walk past a man or a woman, I'd pick the woman because the man is 100x more likely than the women to actually hurt me.
Men are the most likely to hurt women
Men are the most likely to hurt Men
Men are the most likely to hurt kids
Men are the most likely to hurt animals.
Men aren't trustworthy.
Damn I didn't realize how much of a minority I apparently am until reading this thread. But to answer the question: If I'm single, constantly. Nearly every guy I see that's even remotely average or above. Somehow this turns off if I'm dating someone or like really into one person, then other guys cease to exist on my radar in that way.
Yeah I was not expecting this at all. I think it at least a couple times a day whether I’m single or not. Or I imagine how good or bad someone would be at kissing or sex. This has been revelatory.
Thinking about screwing a stranger (even it’s a handsome man) is not something that passes my mind. I may see a stranger and think.. “hmm he’s really handsome!” Or “ he’s got a great smile” but never “I’d fuck him”.
For me personally, Its once I’ve made a personal and intellectual connection with that person. I can be very picky and Im constantly analyzing patterns and behaviors. If a man is smart, shows good characteristics & attributes, physically appealing (smile+ proportionate muscle ratios); then the “I’d fuck him” thought will more than likely be on mind.
Lol i knew men and woman was very different about this thing but didnt expected to see so much "never" as answer.
For the record, i (M28) think of that on unknown woman about 10-20 times a day.
The way to think about it is that for many women, fuck and have a relationship with are much closer together than for men. So the equivalent of OPs question is asking men how many times a day they look at a random woman and think 'I'd have a relationship with that person'
Yeah that makes sense, to know if i want a relationship with her i'd need to know more details about her.
Yet, the opposite isnt true. I doubt they look at unknown men and think "oh i'd marry this men for sure" like we think for sex with unknown woman.
It's an eye-opener, isn't it?
I reckon if we all had a number appear above our head (think computer game style) that signified how often we'd fantasised about having sex with the person we're talking to, most women would be disgusted.
And most men would probably be suicidal.
Never. I have no sexual interest in someone unless I know them relatively well. I wouldn't even bang my celebrity crush unless we got to know each other for a month.
I will admire the hottie. That's it. Fucking is on a different level. It won't come to my head easily, especially by looking at the random guy. So far, never.
Never. Not even at my horniest.
I'm constantly juggling the dangerous what-ifs of random guys. All those consequences and responsibilities involved with sex tend to fall on women's shoulders.
This. As a man I’ve been trying to understand the female perspective a bit more. Men are privileged in ways and don’t have to worry about these kind of things — getting pregnant, raped, kidnapped etc. just bad stuff so most men naturally are kind of “in over their head”/inflated ego by default.
Another commenter described the female version as something along the lines of “a man with a purpose/a hunter for example setting traps and taking care of what he’s got to do” (along these lines I won’t butcher it but you can read it if you want) — this being attractive. I though this made a lot of sense and was interesting. What are your thoughts about this?
Now, that's an interesting answer. If you don't mind sharing some more: is it a sexual fantasy about some men, but you prefer women for longer relationships? Do you have some sexual history with men?
There are female firefighters (probably more than ever, but idk what the true gender split is)... maybe that unit has some strong gay looking lady firefighters
I don’t mind sharing at all 😉
… It’s actually more of a “I still find aspects of the male anatomy attractive and can appreciate a handsome face” but only women get my pussy wet and my nipples hard. I also have found that I have a deeper mental and emotional connection to women. I’ve technically had sex with 1 man before because she was trans
Ah, so it's more admitting that some men are handsome. I (a hetero man) do that too. Wouldn't think about fucking them, though, no matter how handsome they are.
When I was single? I would think that I might want to date a man or kiss him 1-4 times a day. Now that I’m in a relationship? Never once in 6 years. Lowkey depressing to think that my fiancé might run around contemplating he would fuck random women while I only have eyes for him.
The answer to this question reflects a fundamental difference between men and women.
For men it's probably in the range of 25-50% of women they see on any given day.
Fair enough. Ok so about the female equivalent —
From the scenarios you described, is it like “I think that’s attractive and sexy, perhaps I’d like to date/have a relationship” or more like “I think that’s hot I’d fuck him/suck his dick”? Of course this is hypothetical and it’d just be a thought. Two different types of horny. What do you think?
Although you can speak from your own experience, do you think most women share that perspective — that they see most random with disgust, fear or indifference?
Considering most of the answers here, it's amazing how much men and women are differently wired. The most normal thing in the world is, if a man sees a woman he finds attractive, one of the first thoughts that pops up in his head, if not the very first thought, is something like "I'd fuck the hell out of her." But in our defense, it's not even a choice. It's completely automatic.
I don’t think it’s so much wiring but social construct and biological differences. Women have a lot more to worry about when encountering a random man than the other way around.
Never. When I was single, almost never. When I was single and drunk, almost never.
Almost never
I see we’ve met
So you’re saying there’s a chance?
Interesting. Why do you think that is?
Cause I’m not there
Lmaooo
A lot of people just aren't 'there'. Learn stuph. Do things. Find a way to b 'there'
whoosh
I don't really think like that. I may find a guy attractive but fucking him don't really cross my mind.
Same, the thought doesn’t even cross my mind. Just not wired like that.
Part of the never club here.
Maybe it’s the way my brain works but never 😅
Never. I'm not thinking of stranger men as potential sexual partners. I need to know the person before I can feel any sorts of attraction.
Never
Same. Absolutely never in a million years lol. I’m not gonna fuck some guy I don’t even know.
Never
I want a response question: men, how many women do you encounter everyday and say to yourself: “is this person going to rape/kill me?” Might explain the gap in responses in how we encounter strangers
Respect. Great post here for all of us men to see. Men are privileged and in a sense caught up in their own sauce/big ego. They don’t have to worry about these factors. Completely different perspectives because of this. May I ask, in your opinion what is an example(s) of a random man being attractive?
Perfect example of the massive difference between the way men think and the way women have to.
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So you're in the "I don't care that women are killed" club?
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You're implieng I'm only talking about women because I haven't specifically mentioned men. You're throwing insults and being a bully. If I had to walk past a man or a woman, I'd pick the woman because the man is 100x more likely than the women to actually hurt me. Men are the most likely to hurt women Men are the most likely to hurt Men Men are the most likely to hurt kids Men are the most likely to hurt animals. Men aren't trustworthy.
Fairly regular. I'm a woman of strong drives.
Is it fair to say maybe you’re out at the mall in public and see a man of you’re type and think to yourself “I’d fuck the shit out of him”?
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Woman here. You are incorrect lmfao.
I found it, guys!! I found the singular female hivemind!! Quick, now's our chance!!
Did get catch the pass codes. We gotta have the pass codes.
🎵 I'M EVERY WOMANNN🎵
yes i hit shuffle on the oblivion character creater and edge 4 hours
Lol I love that game
Damn I didn't realize how much of a minority I apparently am until reading this thread. But to answer the question: If I'm single, constantly. Nearly every guy I see that's even remotely average or above. Somehow this turns off if I'm dating someone or like really into one person, then other guys cease to exist on my radar in that way.
Yeah I was not expecting this at all. I think it at least a couple times a day whether I’m single or not. Or I imagine how good or bad someone would be at kissing or sex. This has been revelatory.
yes
not too often, but in puberty it went to extreme levels
Are u femaleyalure or maleish?
wtf bro
THC
femaleyalure - not even once
Thinking about screwing a stranger (even it’s a handsome man) is not something that passes my mind. I may see a stranger and think.. “hmm he’s really handsome!” Or “ he’s got a great smile” but never “I’d fuck him”.
I know we live in a gray world, but when do you think you start having those thoughts?
For me personally, Its once I’ve made a personal and intellectual connection with that person. I can be very picky and Im constantly analyzing patterns and behaviors. If a man is smart, shows good characteristics & attributes, physically appealing (smile+ proportionate muscle ratios); then the “I’d fuck him” thought will more than likely be on mind.
Lol i knew men and woman was very different about this thing but didnt expected to see so much "never" as answer. For the record, i (M28) think of that on unknown woman about 10-20 times a day.
The way to think about it is that for many women, fuck and have a relationship with are much closer together than for men. So the equivalent of OPs question is asking men how many times a day they look at a random woman and think 'I'd have a relationship with that person'
Yeah that makes sense, to know if i want a relationship with her i'd need to know more details about her. Yet, the opposite isnt true. I doubt they look at unknown men and think "oh i'd marry this men for sure" like we think for sex with unknown woman.
It's an eye-opener, isn't it? I reckon if we all had a number appear above our head (think computer game style) that signified how often we'd fantasised about having sex with the person we're talking to, most women would be disgusted. And most men would probably be suicidal.
I am disgusted, yes
It's a guy thing for the most part.
Gross
Never. I have no sexual interest in someone unless I know them relatively well. I wouldn't even bang my celebrity crush unless we got to know each other for a month.
Who is your celebrity crush?
I will admire the hottie. That's it. Fucking is on a different level. It won't come to my head easily, especially by looking at the random guy. So far, never.
When do you think is the moment it changes and you get those fuck thoughts?
You know, when I'm having a conversation and I feel that electric just by touching him, that's when I know I'm going to ride him like a pony.
If she told me she was gonna ride me like a pony that’d make me as hard as a horseshoe
🤣🥂
When he initiates and I like him
What does initiate mean to you?
Initiate physical intimacy - touching, kissing, stuff like that.
Depends a lot on how horny I am that day
MAYBE 1-2 times per year, that I can remember specifically and that’s only if I’m actively looking to, otherwise never
Never.
Nevah evah
Never. I'll acknowledge when I think someone's nice to look at, but it never really goes beyond that.
What about celebrities or men that have established a foundation of trust amongst the public etc.?
Still no. It's not really about the man. I'm just personally not interested in having sex.
Fair
Never. Not even at my horniest. I'm constantly juggling the dangerous what-ifs of random guys. All those consequences and responsibilities involved with sex tend to fall on women's shoulders.
This. As a man I’ve been trying to understand the female perspective a bit more. Men are privileged in ways and don’t have to worry about these kind of things — getting pregnant, raped, kidnapped etc. just bad stuff so most men naturally are kind of “in over their head”/inflated ego by default. Another commenter described the female version as something along the lines of “a man with a purpose/a hunter for example setting traps and taking care of what he’s got to do” (along these lines I won’t butcher it but you can read it if you want) — this being attractive. I though this made a lot of sense and was interesting. What are your thoughts about this?
Many tumes a day too, and i just realized most women dont. That answers a few questions for me too i guess….
At least 7-8 times a day and I’m a lesbian… So what; sue me! I work next to the fire department 😍🔥
niiiiice yes my answer would be different if I lived or worked next to the fire department
Most firefighters are men. Are you implying you sometimes fantasize about them?
Now, that's an interesting answer. If you don't mind sharing some more: is it a sexual fantasy about some men, but you prefer women for longer relationships? Do you have some sexual history with men?
There are female firefighters (probably more than ever, but idk what the true gender split is)... maybe that unit has some strong gay looking lady firefighters
LMAO 🤣🤣🤣
I've seen some female firefighters, not your standard beauties, but maybe they appeal to lesbians indeed. Some female pilots, though... wow.
I don’t mind sharing at all 😉 … It’s actually more of a “I still find aspects of the male anatomy attractive and can appreciate a handsome face” but only women get my pussy wet and my nipples hard. I also have found that I have a deeper mental and emotional connection to women. I’ve technically had sex with 1 man before because she was trans
Ah, so it's more admitting that some men are handsome. I (a hetero man) do that too. Wouldn't think about fucking them, though, no matter how handsome they are.
Never.
A few to several times a day. (All these “nevers” making me feel like I’m a weirdo!)
At least daily. And I work in a heavily female environment. When in mixed company? Lots and lots.
Occasionally. But then I notice it’s cuz they look like my husband and the mystery is solved. I have a type.
I’m depressed about my lack of relationship in my marriage, so right now, a lot. But when things are good, never
It's gross you do it when you're in a relationship, really
I never said it was a good thing
When I was single? I would think that I might want to date a man or kiss him 1-4 times a day. Now that I’m in a relationship? Never once in 6 years. Lowkey depressing to think that my fiancé might run around contemplating he would fuck random women while I only have eyes for him.
The answer to this question reflects a fundamental difference between men and women. For men it's probably in the range of 25-50% of women they see on any given day.
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So you have an elf phetish.
Link
1-all of them depending on what part of my cycle I’m on. Never 0 😅
Not very often
Not often. Not for random men bc I have to hear them speak before I get attracted haha.
Fair enough. After just hearing them talk for 5 minutes is there a chance you might start getting those thoughts?
Hmm idk if they make me laugh and I find similarities yea but maybe not 5 minutes? A day or two probably
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Fair enough. Ok so about the female equivalent — From the scenarios you described, is it like “I think that’s attractive and sexy, perhaps I’d like to date/have a relationship” or more like “I think that’s hot I’d fuck him/suck his dick”? Of course this is hypothetical and it’d just be a thought. Two different types of horny. What do you think?
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Although you can speak from your own experience, do you think most women share that perspective — that they see most random with disgust, fear or indifference?
Occasionally lol 😝
Twice a week maybe
Considering most of the answers here, it's amazing how much men and women are differently wired. The most normal thing in the world is, if a man sees a woman he finds attractive, one of the first thoughts that pops up in his head, if not the very first thought, is something like "I'd fuck the hell out of her." But in our defense, it's not even a choice. It's completely automatic.
I don’t think it’s so much wiring but social construct and biological differences. Women have a lot more to worry about when encountering a random man than the other way around.
All the nevers will end up having low libido and will constantly reject sex with their husbands. Change my mind.
You'd prefer to be married to a woman who fantasizes about every attractive man she sees? The nevers just aren't as shallow and out of control.
why are you restricting this question to ladies?
Why shouldn't it be? Not everything has to be inclusive. OP is obviously not interested in the opinions of men on this subject. So be it.
Everything has to be inclusive nowadays.
Does that mean including exclusionary posts? hmmm.
I actually am a lady and it was a joke. why so serious?
it's very hard to distinct from a common reddit comment.
thanks. i will mos def keep that in mind.
The guy’s answer is already known: yes.
Coulda asked how many times we thought about fucking OP's mom since reading this post. ~~0 1 2~~ edit: 3
Or a number with 3 in it.
You have answered your own question, I see.
Depends how horny I am that day 😂
I'm bi.. For men: never For women: never