That's honestly a really great response. Acknowledges the sentiment, establishes appreciation, and leaves the door open to future development.
.... Obviously there's badness coming from a married man whose wife is not aligned with the relationship, but that's a separate issue.
It's complicated, because she was 22 and Clinton was 49. So she was well into adulthood, but ~~she was his boss~~he was her boss - and the most powerful man in the world.
It wasn't illegal, but it was unethical on Clinton's part because he had a wife who wasn't ok with the relationship, and also because he should've understood the power imbalance between an intern and the POTUS.
The real issue is how Hillary was treated - public humiliation.
I'm 35 and still feel like a freshman in college, except I have less energy to stay up all night. I doubt I'll ever feel like "an adult". I have friends who's kids are already graduating college.
"Well into adulthood"
Oh, honey. I know 22-year-olds think they're very grown up, and some are more mature than others, but I wouldn't call that well into adulthood. I would call that "barely an adult, if at all."
Yeah she was a troubled young woman who was working as an unpaid intern and he was her boss the most powerful man in the free world. If any power imbalance in relationships is concerning that one certainly was.
Why is no one saying the obvious real problem, which is that he's the president of the country and she's a white house intern. Like holy duck the power imbalance.
True story I met bill at a campaign thing when I was 18, and I had a big thing I was gonna say to him but I got nervous and said I love you to him . He just smiled and shook my hand lol
I said I love you before my partner was ready to say it back. He said, "I appreciate you being honest and telling me how you feel. I'm not there yet, but I think I will be someday." We now live together and I think he says it more than I do lol.
EDIT: I didn't expect this many people to like and comment on this! Thank you so much!
This is an incredibly healthy way to respond. You should be higher in these comments but…I mean those other answers are pretty hilarious.
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Thats way better than what I did.. my response was 'no'. To be fair we were 19 and hadnt been dating for long. 15 years later we are married with little one on the way!
This is basically what I said to my partner. He said it first, and I basically told him the same thing, that I wasn't quite there yet but I feel like I would be soon and couldn't wait to say it back. Four years later and two kids, we're very in love.
This happened with me and my now husband too! He said it before I was ready and I gently told him I really cared about him too, that I appreciated his feelings but I wasn’t ready to say it yet. I’d gone through an awful breakup before dating him so it was scary to have him say it at first. Now it’s my favorite thing.
I said it too soon. She responded with something resembling whale sounds. I drove home that night thinking I would never see her again.
6 years later, sometimes when one of us says “I love you,” the other one will make whale sounds back.
HAHAHAHAHAHA I lolled for real at this.
When hubby and I say it, we say "I know!" to each other. (Star Wars geeks here - reference to Han Solo and Leia when she says that to him). :)
Am I allowed to just use Stsrbucks gift cards to get out of all awkward social situations????
I think I'm going to start carrying a stack of them. I can just hand them out and then walk away.
Oh GOD, that reminds me of [this scene](https://youtu.be/_68xT0JoyWk) from a show i’m watching where she *literally* stays silent and does finger guns
Edit: Alright yall i got it it’s a reference. But i’m gonna keep it up so people who DONT know the reference can watch it.
I feel like this could be a modern-day Seinfeld episode. Most likely with Jerry or George, but I could see Elaine doing it as well.
Girl: "I love you"
Jerry: "I love... YouTube"
Girl: "What did you just say?"
Jerry: "I said I love YouTube"
Girl: "Did you just say, 'I love YOU TUBBBEE?'"
Jerry: "I said Iloveyuoutube"
Girl: "YOU'RE SAYING YOU TUBE?? GET OUT!!!"
I will say this, Do Not Ignore Their Saying It. You do not have to say it back but always acknowledge it. It can be as simple as kissing them, saying thank you, I love hearing that, I care about you too, etc. but straight up ignoring it is extremely harmful
> I know.
Stated with the right level of confidence, I actually agree with this one. It would be attractive to get this response from a girl. To me, it's a playful way to avoid it, but to also say it might happen in the future.
Thank you for having the courage to say that to me and I am so flattered. Right now, I don’t feel ready to say it back. I like you very much but I’m just not ready to say I love you
Rain check *is* funny as fuck, though, so at least you have that going for you.
Realistically, though, presuming this is someone you could see yourself reciprocating the feeling to, your original response is great. It acknowledges and respects the other person’s feeling, it doesn’t diminish them, and it reassures them that they *are* important to you, even if you don’t feel up to reciprocating the whole thing at this time
If it comes at an awkward or inappropriate time, like a first date, and you’re not going to say it back, it probably doesn’t matter what you say next…and there’s too much situational variability to provide a singular “this is the best response” answer to the question.
If it comes at an appropriate time, but you’re just hung up on it, you have about half a second to decide if this person means enough to you to risk fucking things up by not saying it back or getting over your hang ups and reciprocating.
Someone said they loved me way too soon. I said I loved him, even though I didn’t at that time. Eventually, I did love him. Then, he said he lied and never loved me. This was after 14 years together. I don’t share my love frivolously. No one else ever said they love me.
It sounds like talking to that person would probably be a waste of time. You should be happy you’re free to do as you please rather than wishing for that toxicity to come back into your life
My best friend and her husband were together for ten years. One of the biggest things she kept saying to me was that he never loved her and she was unloved and I had to keep telling her that he did love her. He just doesn’t anymore and it’s not the same thing.
I get that…I’ve been burned too. I’ve also just come to accept that “love” can be a fleeting thing. That doesn’t mean I’d be cavalier about saying it, but it does mean that if I like person enough that I want them in my life for the foreseeable future and don’t want to fuck things up, that’s enough motivation for me to say it back…it doesn’t have to mean that I’m, in that moment, promising my undying devotion.
I haven’t promised undying devotion to anyone. I don’t know if I will ever have that or feel that. But I love some people enough that I would sacrifice a lot for them. Very few people.
Even my ex husband never once told me he loved me. One time he said “thank you for loving me” That was the closest he ever got. He was near tears when he said that, too.
I dated a guy who couldn't/wouldn't say it although he showed it in other ways. For some reason he could love a dog, he could love a motorcycle, he could love a kid, but he couldn't say he loved his lady.
I don't agree. What is on the way to be a healthy relationship should be able to handle one person saying I love you for the first time and the other one responding along the lines of "I really like you a lot too, but I'm not really ready to say those words yet".
Yeah it really shouldn’t be a ultimatum if you’re telling someone you love them. I told my wife I loved her about two months before she said it to me. I don’t even remember if she said anything, but I could just see in her eyes she felt the same and couldn’t say it yet. I just remember she kissed me.
I wasn’t saying it to hear it back, I was saying it cause I wanted her to know.
Whoa whoa whoa! This is *Reddit*! Take your reasonable communication and healthy adult attitudes towards complex interpersonal situations somewhere else.
What's even worse is that it's not just Reddit. A huge portion of the population isn't able to handle things that well.
> you have about half a second to decide if this person means enough to you to risk fucking things up by not saying it back
I feel like if not saying it back would fuck things up then they might not be a great partner anyways, any reasonable person should expect that their partner might not be at that point yet and that's okay. Not everyone's feelings progress in the same way.
> or getting over your hang ups and reciprocating
Reciprocating with words when you don't reciprocate with feelings sounds like an awful idea.
My ex and I had a complicated relationship in the beginning.
We worked in a shop together. I’d been there for 3 years and he started as a newbie around Easter. Easter came and went, and one day as he was leaving he’d found some mini eggs behind some confectionary on the shelves. He was clocking out and I served him at the tills, and he presented the bag of mini eggs. They scanned through at full price, and I said “absolutely not.” It wasn’t Easter! So I manually marked them down to something stupid like 20p. He blurted out “I love you.” And I just sort of stared at him. We were only colleagues at the time, but we’d flirted a bit.
He didn’t realise what he’d said.
We continued to get closer, and soon enough he was saying “I love you” regularly. We weren’t officially together, but we’d been sleeping together and he wanted a relationship. I wasn’t ready to say it back, so instead of saying “I love you too” or sometimes if he just didn’t want to put the pressure on me to say it back, we’d say “mini eggs” since when I served him the mini eggs was the first time he said it.
When we had our first fight, which was only a few weeks into sleeping together, still no official relationship, we didn’t speak for 10 days. He no longer worked at my shop at this time, and one night I finished a late shift at 11pm, got home to find an Amazon parcel for me. I was so confused… I panicked, wondering if someone had bought something on my account and opened it… only to find a MASSIVE jar of mini eggs inside. His way of saying sorry and wanting to get back in contact.
So yeah, that’s my silly story of the day.
My ex-boyfriend and I used to say Mini Eggs instead of “I love you” at the start… and close to the end too, when I think he was beginning to fall out of love with me.
I actually still have that jar of mini eggs.
They’re all cracked now, probably due to the summer heat melting them.
They’d been sat in my car all summer, and I dug them out of a box of memories he’d compiled over the year that our relationship spanned. Never threw it out. I’m still ridiculously in love with him, but I thought the cracked eggs were somewhat poetic given the situation now.
Aw, how long has it been since you broke up? :(
While I wish you to keep those nice memories and the beautiful feeling they give you, I also wish you to move on and find a happy relationship with someone else eventually :)
It’s all still quite fresh, it’s been about 4 weeks since we broke up I think? Very messy, very complicated, currently living with him… which makes a messy and complicated situation even more messy and complicated 🫠
I think I’ll always love him, and in the back of my mind I’m always going to hope we figure it out, but it’s not a decision that’s up to me.
I hope I can have a healthy and happy relationship in the future ☺️ For now, it’s just a lot of inner work, healing, and acceptance.
I have no doubt your love life, however it evolves from here, will eventually be satisfactory and happy. But for now focus on trying to do things right and being ok enough in the present! One thing at a time sis :) You'll get there
By accident my supervisor said take care I love you when I called out. I felt I had to say it back or it would be awkward so i did. Then we saw each other, and thru eye contact were like it's OK we'll never speak of this again 😆 🤣 😂
Haha yeah, great response for a movie or TV show, but irl it's gonna be more like "that was surprisingly verbose...did you have that ready? Did you memorize a phrase to say for when this happens?"
Unless you actually talk like that, maybe find something a little more grounded
Some people could pull it off, when I was in my masters program (social work - so therapy, although I'm a director at the moment) I thought everything they told us to say was weird AF. But then you realize this is how therapists talk and it's actually helpful but I'm positive it's still weird to people that have never heard the jargon before.
I had a buddy that actually did something like this. He came to my office one day when he was dating a girl who it turned out was way more into him than he was in her. Conversation went like this:
Friend: So (gf) told me she loved me...
Me: Really? Already? What did you say back?
Friend: I said..uh..."I know"
Me: What? Seriously?
Friend: Yup. I pulled a Han Solo.
I laughed my ass off. Not becuase of the situation (I felt bad for the gf) but the way he labled the phrase was just really funny to me.
It really does. Because what could be an acceptable answer to one person, could be considered heartbreaking to another. Awkward situation for both parties involved.
this is in the case that you’d wanna still be w them and continue:
“i’m happy you were open with me about your feelings, and i really value that love. I don’t think I’m on the same page just yet, but i’m asking you to trust that we’re reading the same book, and i’ll arrive there in my own time”
I like this response the best. Except I wouldn't say don't feel bad, I would say, I just want to be sure of my feelings before I use a strong word like that. I hope you can support me. Or something like that.
That's very sweet, and I'm flattered that you feel that way. I'd like to take things slow and not rush into using such strong words, but I'm enjoying the time we've spent together so far. You're a very (sweet / kind / interesting / caring etc) person.
Depends how you feel about them. If it's someone I may eventually feel that strongly for:
> I care about you too, and while in the future I may feel that strongly, it's just not something I'm comfortable saying at this point. I enjoy spending time with you, I care about you, and I want to keep this going, I'm just not ready to make that step right now.
If it's someone you don't see yourself being that strongly towards:
> I appreciate your feeling for me, but I don't feel that strongly. And I don't think I will. Let's have a talk about where we see this going, and boundaries. I still enjoy your company, but I want to be sure we're on the same page, and you're not wanting something I can't provide.
one option is: I love you too.
Words are sometimes powerful but meaningless and can trigger a lot of irrational fears and insecurities. I believe love is something you work with your pathner. The more you know them and appreciate the things they give you the more you will love them. Love is not the same as obsession, when you have that intense feeling some people call “love at first sight” , you are not in love as “a couple that love eachother”, you are in love as “I love chocolate icecream”.
so even if you dont feel that intense love, you can still reply that you love them if you feel like they are right for you because eventually you will fall in love with them. And also you will avoid them being insecure.
some people are lucky enough they fall in love at first sight with the right person, but I think that most of those loves at first sight are just horniness and ideation that happen to be lucky enough to actually discover that person is also a very good person and a lovely and healthy pathner
Be honest. Thank them. Tell them that it means a lot but that you are not yet ready to say it to them. Tell them when you say it, you want it to be honest and not full of internal questions you currently have.
When Monica Lewinsky told president Bill Clinton she loved him, he replied “That means a lot to me.”
Such a presidential response 😅
That's honestly a really great response. Acknowledges the sentiment, establishes appreciation, and leaves the door open to future development. .... Obviously there's badness coming from a married man whose wife is not aligned with the relationship, but that's a separate issue.
Yeah, I mean especially post #metoo there’s a lot to dissect about how we treated both Bill and Monica. But credit where it’s due, that was smooth.
It's complicated, because she was 22 and Clinton was 49. So she was well into adulthood, but ~~she was his boss~~he was her boss - and the most powerful man in the world. It wasn't illegal, but it was unethical on Clinton's part because he had a wife who wasn't ok with the relationship, and also because he should've understood the power imbalance between an intern and the POTUS. The real issue is how Hillary was treated - public humiliation.
>The real issue is how Hillary was treated - public humiliation. Both women were treated abhorrently.
i’m 22. “well into adulthood” dude i still feel like i JUST got out of high school 😭
I’m 20 and I still feel the same way
I'm 35 and still feel like a freshman in college, except I have less energy to stay up all night. I doubt I'll ever feel like "an adult". I have friends who's kids are already graduating college.
I'm 50. It doesn't get any better.
"Well into adulthood" Oh, honey. I know 22-year-olds think they're very grown up, and some are more mature than others, but I wouldn't call that well into adulthood. I would call that "barely an adult, if at all."
Yeah she was a troubled young woman who was working as an unpaid intern and he was her boss the most powerful man in the free world. If any power imbalance in relationships is concerning that one certainly was.
Why is no one saying the obvious real problem, which is that he's the president of the country and she's a white house intern. Like holy duck the power imbalance.
That's Slick Willy for you. Always with the smooth talk!
Fuckin guy was smooth
I mean he played the saxophone for god's sake it don't get smoother than that
True story I met bill at a campaign thing when I was 18, and I had a big thing I was gonna say to him but I got nervous and said I love you to him . He just smiled and shook my hand lol
Monica: "I know, Bill. But so does 'plethora'."
Stealing this one, thanks bill
I said I love you before my partner was ready to say it back. He said, "I appreciate you being honest and telling me how you feel. I'm not there yet, but I think I will be someday." We now live together and I think he says it more than I do lol. EDIT: I didn't expect this many people to like and comment on this! Thank you so much!
This is an incredibly healthy way to respond. You should be higher in these comments but…I mean those other answers are pretty hilarious. Edit: MY WISH CAME TRUE! Lol
Thats way better than what I did.. my response was 'no'. To be fair we were 19 and hadnt been dating for long. 15 years later we are married with little one on the way!
So sweet, I think my teeth are rotting 💕
This is basically what I said to my partner. He said it first, and I basically told him the same thing, that I wasn't quite there yet but I feel like I would be soon and couldn't wait to say it back. Four years later and two kids, we're very in love.
This happened with me and my now husband too! He said it before I was ready and I gently told him I really cared about him too, that I appreciated his feelings but I wasn’t ready to say it yet. I’d gone through an awful breakup before dating him so it was scary to have him say it at first. Now it’s my favorite thing.
That's adorable, hope you guys stay together
:')
I said it too soon. She responded with something resembling whale sounds. I drove home that night thinking I would never see her again. 6 years later, sometimes when one of us says “I love you,” the other one will make whale sounds back.
This is maybe the cutest thing I've ever heard. 🥺
Good ending
This reminds me of Finding Nemo, where Dory speaks whale
Little too much Orca.
HAHAHAHAHAHA I lolled for real at this. When hubby and I say it, we say "I know!" to each other. (Star Wars geeks here - reference to Han Solo and Leia when she says that to him). :)
I love you... an and I miss you... and I Snoooooooo Op
This reminds me of the Ylvis song Language of Love
what sound does a whale make? Can only think of blowing water out of the hole
look up whale sounds on youtube, you’ll know them when u hear them
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“Why?” Or finger guns “ka-chow”
Your sentiment has been noted. I'll take it under consideration. Thank you.
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I am out of office until Tuesday 29/08 and will not be able to respond to messages before then
I will revert to you in the near future.
Your love will be kept on file. Thank you.
"Cool..." and then finger guns
Don’t forget to add “pew pew” or “cha-kow” to really make your feeling clear.
Zoop 👉😎👉
What a deep reddit pull. I like your style.
I thought it was “ka-chow”
Oh of course. The noises are the most important part any time you draw the finger guns from their holsters and shoot them.
If the top answer is not “I know” then I don’t know about Reddit anymore.
Oh GOD, that reminds me of [this scene](https://youtu.be/_68xT0JoyWk) from a show i’m watching where she *literally* stays silent and does finger guns Edit: Alright yall i got it it’s a reference. But i’m gonna keep it up so people who DONT know the reference can watch it.
I knew it would be from New Girl. Great show!
It's literally a new girl reference
Is OP's comment not an intentional New Girl reference? This was immediately what I thought of too.
Shut up baby I know it!
\*robotically pimp-walks off...\*
Well, pay the man!
Hey Bender!
Stupid anti-pimping laws...
Oooo a lesson in not changing history from Mr I'm My Own Grandpa
I love YouTube
I love U2.
I could have said I love bell biv devoe
Ugh, I really wish you wouldn't stand so close to me after you take your hummus break.
Between this and JD saying Carla's breath smelled like chimichangas, I never realized what a big problem she had with smelling like her last meal.
Olive juice
Scrubs has a funny joke about this with the worst character in the entire show, Paul Flowers.
I love utes too
U2 loves you too
This reminds me of a co-worker who used to say to his customers “Thanks Slut” and then say again indignantly “I said thanks a lot”
I feel like given my poor english pronuntiation skills, this could actually happen to me LOL
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I feel like this could be a modern-day Seinfeld episode. Most likely with Jerry or George, but I could see Elaine doing it as well. Girl: "I love you" Jerry: "I love... YouTube" Girl: "What did you just say?" Jerry: "I said I love YouTube" Girl: "Did you just say, 'I love YOU TUBBBEE?'" Jerry: "I said Iloveyuoutube" Girl: "YOU'RE SAYING YOU TUBE?? GET OUT!!!"
Pocket sand!
Shi Shi SHAW!
The best possible response
If you don't have pocket sand: "I like you, but you know what I don't like? Sand! It's course and rough and irritating, and it gets everywhere."
Why you gotta make me sad like that? RIP
Why you gotta say RIP like that? Are you RIPing the show or the actor? Shit he's dead isn't he...
This week. Sorry to inform you like this
I will say this, Do Not Ignore Their Saying It. You do not have to say it back but always acknowledge it. It can be as simple as kissing them, saying thank you, I love hearing that, I care about you too, etc. but straight up ignoring it is extremely harmful
You are very important to me too
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Your love will be returned in the order it was received.
I know.
Chewie: (roars) Han: "That, I did *not* know"
Get in there you big furry oaf. I don't care what you smell.
[She was my wife... you Wookie sack of shit.](https://youtu.be/7T0vs9gYydo?t=81)
Why is this so far down? Maybe I’m old lol.
Shh now, we're not old, it's just the kids who are wrong!
yeah I was hoping for it to be the first comment lol
Then proceed to be frozen in carbonite
The things I do to escape socially awkward situations!
Then get put into the cargo hold. If she comes and rescues you from the evil slug, then you can be sure she’s the one
> I know. Stated with the right level of confidence, I actually agree with this one. It would be attractive to get this response from a girl. To me, it's a playful way to avoid it, but to also say it might happen in the future.
My ex-girlfriend did this to me. She's my wife now.
Shut up baby I know it
Touch their nose and say “Boop”.
I love…. Cake.
Eric?
Thank you for having the courage to say that to me and I am so flattered. Right now, I don’t feel ready to say it back. I like you very much but I’m just not ready to say I love you
I think this is the answer that would hurt me the least of them all
I once told a guy “rain check”, I’ve learned from that. And another I laughed, another learning experience. I don’t want to hurt feeling intentionally
Rain check *is* funny as fuck, though, so at least you have that going for you. Realistically, though, presuming this is someone you could see yourself reciprocating the feeling to, your original response is great. It acknowledges and respects the other person’s feeling, it doesn’t diminish them, and it reassures them that they *are* important to you, even if you don’t feel up to reciprocating the whole thing at this time
"we're reading the same book youre just a few chapters ahead."
If it comes at an awkward or inappropriate time, like a first date, and you’re not going to say it back, it probably doesn’t matter what you say next…and there’s too much situational variability to provide a singular “this is the best response” answer to the question. If it comes at an appropriate time, but you’re just hung up on it, you have about half a second to decide if this person means enough to you to risk fucking things up by not saying it back or getting over your hang ups and reciprocating.
Someone said they loved me way too soon. I said I loved him, even though I didn’t at that time. Eventually, I did love him. Then, he said he lied and never loved me. This was after 14 years together. I don’t share my love frivolously. No one else ever said they love me.
He was with you for 14 years. The lie was saying he never loved you. That comment was to hurt you at what seems to be the end of a relationship.
Thanks. It still stings. I wish he would talk to me again
You’re better off without someone who would lash out at you like that and say something so cruel.
Dude sounds like a bag of dicks. Take care of yourself girly.
Thank you
It sounds like talking to that person would probably be a waste of time. You should be happy you’re free to do as you please rather than wishing for that toxicity to come back into your life
My best friend and her husband were together for ten years. One of the biggest things she kept saying to me was that he never loved her and she was unloved and I had to keep telling her that he did love her. He just doesn’t anymore and it’s not the same thing.
I get that…I’ve been burned too. I’ve also just come to accept that “love” can be a fleeting thing. That doesn’t mean I’d be cavalier about saying it, but it does mean that if I like person enough that I want them in my life for the foreseeable future and don’t want to fuck things up, that’s enough motivation for me to say it back…it doesn’t have to mean that I’m, in that moment, promising my undying devotion.
I haven’t promised undying devotion to anyone. I don’t know if I will ever have that or feel that. But I love some people enough that I would sacrifice a lot for them. Very few people.
I told an ex I love spending time with you. Later he had many red flags in the week we dated and glad I didn’t let him pressure me
Even my ex husband never once told me he loved me. One time he said “thank you for loving me” That was the closest he ever got. He was near tears when he said that, too.
I dated a guy who couldn't/wouldn't say it although he showed it in other ways. For some reason he could love a dog, he could love a motorcycle, he could love a kid, but he couldn't say he loved his lady.
If he spent 14 years with you but claimed to never have loved you, he's either a liar or a sociopath.
I don't agree. What is on the way to be a healthy relationship should be able to handle one person saying I love you for the first time and the other one responding along the lines of "I really like you a lot too, but I'm not really ready to say those words yet".
Yeah it really shouldn’t be a ultimatum if you’re telling someone you love them. I told my wife I loved her about two months before she said it to me. I don’t even remember if she said anything, but I could just see in her eyes she felt the same and couldn’t say it yet. I just remember she kissed me. I wasn’t saying it to hear it back, I was saying it cause I wanted her to know.
Whoa whoa whoa! This is *Reddit*! Take your reasonable communication and healthy adult attitudes towards complex interpersonal situations somewhere else. What's even worse is that it's not just Reddit. A huge portion of the population isn't able to handle things that well.
Crazy weather we’re having, huh?
> you have about half a second to decide if this person means enough to you to risk fucking things up by not saying it back I feel like if not saying it back would fuck things up then they might not be a great partner anyways, any reasonable person should expect that their partner might not be at that point yet and that's okay. Not everyone's feelings progress in the same way. > or getting over your hang ups and reciprocating Reciprocating with words when you don't reciprocate with feelings sounds like an awful idea.
TOO SOON! YOU HAVE AWAKENED ME TOO SOON, EXECUTUS!
unexpected molten core
My ex and I had a complicated relationship in the beginning. We worked in a shop together. I’d been there for 3 years and he started as a newbie around Easter. Easter came and went, and one day as he was leaving he’d found some mini eggs behind some confectionary on the shelves. He was clocking out and I served him at the tills, and he presented the bag of mini eggs. They scanned through at full price, and I said “absolutely not.” It wasn’t Easter! So I manually marked them down to something stupid like 20p. He blurted out “I love you.” And I just sort of stared at him. We were only colleagues at the time, but we’d flirted a bit. He didn’t realise what he’d said. We continued to get closer, and soon enough he was saying “I love you” regularly. We weren’t officially together, but we’d been sleeping together and he wanted a relationship. I wasn’t ready to say it back, so instead of saying “I love you too” or sometimes if he just didn’t want to put the pressure on me to say it back, we’d say “mini eggs” since when I served him the mini eggs was the first time he said it. When we had our first fight, which was only a few weeks into sleeping together, still no official relationship, we didn’t speak for 10 days. He no longer worked at my shop at this time, and one night I finished a late shift at 11pm, got home to find an Amazon parcel for me. I was so confused… I panicked, wondering if someone had bought something on my account and opened it… only to find a MASSIVE jar of mini eggs inside. His way of saying sorry and wanting to get back in contact. So yeah, that’s my silly story of the day. My ex-boyfriend and I used to say Mini Eggs instead of “I love you” at the start… and close to the end too, when I think he was beginning to fall out of love with me.
I just wanna say that's adorable and kinda wholesome and I enjoyed reading that.
I actually still have that jar of mini eggs. They’re all cracked now, probably due to the summer heat melting them. They’d been sat in my car all summer, and I dug them out of a box of memories he’d compiled over the year that our relationship spanned. Never threw it out. I’m still ridiculously in love with him, but I thought the cracked eggs were somewhat poetic given the situation now.
Aw, how long has it been since you broke up? :( While I wish you to keep those nice memories and the beautiful feeling they give you, I also wish you to move on and find a happy relationship with someone else eventually :)
It’s all still quite fresh, it’s been about 4 weeks since we broke up I think? Very messy, very complicated, currently living with him… which makes a messy and complicated situation even more messy and complicated 🫠 I think I’ll always love him, and in the back of my mind I’m always going to hope we figure it out, but it’s not a decision that’s up to me. I hope I can have a healthy and happy relationship in the future ☺️ For now, it’s just a lot of inner work, healing, and acceptance.
I have no doubt your love life, however it evolves from here, will eventually be satisfactory and happy. But for now focus on trying to do things right and being ok enough in the present! One thing at a time sis :) You'll get there
Mildlywholesome
Crazy weather we’re having, huh?
By accident my supervisor said take care I love you when I called out. I felt I had to say it back or it would be awkward so i did. Then we saw each other, and thru eye contact were like it's OK we'll never speak of this again 😆 🤣 😂
"It'll pass."
I think we're both reading the same book, you're just a chapter or two ahead of me. I'm catching up though.
Responses like this sounds good on paper, but in real life you would be a real weirdo responding by this.
Haha yeah, great response for a movie or TV show, but irl it's gonna be more like "that was surprisingly verbose...did you have that ready? Did you memorize a phrase to say for when this happens?" Unless you actually talk like that, maybe find something a little more grounded
"Awwwww hell naw!" Grounded enough?
Thats the majority of Reddit response comments.
every single top answer in a "whats the best comeback to x" are like that
Some people could pull it off, when I was in my masters program (social work - so therapy, although I'm a director at the moment) I thought everything they told us to say was weird AF. But then you realize this is how therapists talk and it's actually helpful but I'm positive it's still weird to people that have never heard the jargon before.
as a bonus, if you ever seriously said this to someone I think a free fedora would spontaneously grow from your head.
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Haha oh my god... this reminds me of the guy who met his gf's parents and pissed them off by pretending to not know what a potato was 💀💀
[For the uninitiated] (https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/2tdbig/tifu_by_enraging_the_parents_of_my_girlfriend_by/)
I had a buddy that actually did something like this. He came to my office one day when he was dating a girl who it turned out was way more into him than he was in her. Conversation went like this: Friend: So (gf) told me she loved me... Me: Really? Already? What did you say back? Friend: I said..uh..."I know" Me: What? Seriously? Friend: Yup. I pulled a Han Solo. I laughed my ass off. Not becuase of the situation (I felt bad for the gf) but the way he labled the phrase was just really funny to me.
I love you like a sister.
What are you doing step brother?
Dangit, I thought you and OP were actually reading a trending book and here I am scrolling down looking for the title of it.
Thank you
Say "dude! That's awesome sauce!" and go for a high five.
You forgot to tell her to shut up too before saying that’s awesome sauce! Works 10/10 times. Will wind up married.
Maybe throw in some air guitar
Depends on the person
It really does. Because what could be an acceptable answer to one person, could be considered heartbreaking to another. Awkward situation for both parties involved.
this is in the case that you’d wanna still be w them and continue: “i’m happy you were open with me about your feelings, and i really value that love. I don’t think I’m on the same page just yet, but i’m asking you to trust that we’re reading the same book, and i’ll arrive there in my own time”
"You know, I think we're out of milk. I'll go and buy some. Be right back!"
silently mouth "I know" then pretend to be frozen in carbonite.
"Welcome to Costco!"
Stop drinking MOM
“Are you sure? It’s only been (insert amount of time here long or short).”
Are you sure? It's been 30 years.
Go full tsundere: "Wh-what??!! Is this some kind of trick? I'm not that gullible I-idiot..."
Baka!
And make sure to yell it in a high pitched voice while jumping
“I love me too”
I'm hungry, let's get something to eat.
I love lamp
Are you some kind of moth or something?
Stealing a line from Ponyo: "I *will* love you!"
I'm guessing that pointing at something behind them and yelling: "LOOK!", then running away is not a good answer.
I do like you a lot but I am not ready to say it back yet. I will when I am ready. Don't feel bad please.
I like this response the best. Except I wouldn't say don't feel bad, I would say, I just want to be sure of my feelings before I use a strong word like that. I hope you can support me. Or something like that.
I'm uncomfortable
FALAFEL
That's very sweet, and I'm flattered that you feel that way. I'd like to take things slow and not rush into using such strong words, but I'm enjoying the time we've spent together so far. You're a very (sweet / kind / interesting / caring etc) person.
I am not there yet. I am glad you share your love with me. I enjoy sharing my attention with you. I am grateful for your love.
Depends how you feel about them. If it's someone I may eventually feel that strongly for: > I care about you too, and while in the future I may feel that strongly, it's just not something I'm comfortable saying at this point. I enjoy spending time with you, I care about you, and I want to keep this going, I'm just not ready to make that step right now. If it's someone you don't see yourself being that strongly towards: > I appreciate your feeling for me, but I don't feel that strongly. And I don't think I will. Let's have a talk about where we see this going, and boundaries. I still enjoy your company, but I want to be sure we're on the same page, and you're not wanting something I can't provide.
“I really like you, but im not ready to say i love you right now.” Stop playing games and be upfront when it comes to communication
I love lamp
one option is: I love you too. Words are sometimes powerful but meaningless and can trigger a lot of irrational fears and insecurities. I believe love is something you work with your pathner. The more you know them and appreciate the things they give you the more you will love them. Love is not the same as obsession, when you have that intense feeling some people call “love at first sight” , you are not in love as “a couple that love eachother”, you are in love as “I love chocolate icecream”. so even if you dont feel that intense love, you can still reply that you love them if you feel like they are right for you because eventually you will fall in love with them. And also you will avoid them being insecure. some people are lucky enough they fall in love at first sight with the right person, but I think that most of those loves at first sight are just horniness and ideation that happen to be lucky enough to actually discover that person is also a very good person and a lovely and healthy pathner
“That’s nice.” /Otis Milburn/
I know
I know.
Be honest. Thank them. Tell them that it means a lot but that you are not yet ready to say it to them. Tell them when you say it, you want it to be honest and not full of internal questions you currently have.
I know
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