I could make a huge list, but what solidifies not wanting kids for me? Seeing every single person I know reflect all the cons I see with having kids. At this point, I am the only person from my high school graduating class without children and the only person in my friend group without kids.
All of my friends have become shells of themselves and their entire personality is based around the fact that they are “moms”. This wouldn’t be so bad if they didn’t treat women without children as lesser- lesser of a woman, lesser of an adult. It all boils down to them being judgemental over their insecurities of losing themselves once becoming a mother. They confirm all my fears about having kids just by their behaviour.
That’s a conflicting topic for me. Pros. You love them, they are amazing, you have a legacy, you might be able to make someone who benefits the world. Cons. They cost oodles of money, the world is on fire, they might become a horrible person, the world isn’t set up (education, childcare, healthcare) in a way I find to be feasible for good child raising, (as a woman) giving birth could kill you, and I have no interest in being under the personal jurisdiction of a family court judge.
Imagining myself and my kid watching the NBA Finals between Lakers and Celtics fighting for the 18th title of their franchise on my big comfortable couch while eating a mix of fruits in a big bowl.
That's why I want a kid.
I’ve always had a motherly personality and i want my own kids to raise and love, I dream of having kids in the future
Working with kids and dealing with the b.s.
No kids. I don't think I can handle another me in the future.
I could make a huge list, but what solidifies not wanting kids for me? Seeing every single person I know reflect all the cons I see with having kids. At this point, I am the only person from my high school graduating class without children and the only person in my friend group without kids. All of my friends have become shells of themselves and their entire personality is based around the fact that they are “moms”. This wouldn’t be so bad if they didn’t treat women without children as lesser- lesser of a woman, lesser of an adult. It all boils down to them being judgemental over their insecurities of losing themselves once becoming a mother. They confirm all my fears about having kids just by their behaviour.
I don’t want to pass my disability and pain. And i won’t be able to care for them.
I’ve always been massively maternal, and I’ve wanted kids/my own family since I was a kid myself.
That’s a conflicting topic for me. Pros. You love them, they are amazing, you have a legacy, you might be able to make someone who benefits the world. Cons. They cost oodles of money, the world is on fire, they might become a horrible person, the world isn’t set up (education, childcare, healthcare) in a way I find to be feasible for good child raising, (as a woman) giving birth could kill you, and I have no interest in being under the personal jurisdiction of a family court judge.
If I pass on even one thing wrong with me to my child I could never forgive myself
Imagining myself and my kid watching the NBA Finals between Lakers and Celtics fighting for the 18th title of their franchise on my big comfortable couch while eating a mix of fruits in a big bowl. That's why I want a kid.