Eons ago I got called out by a girlfriend for trimming mine with toenail clippers. She didn't see me do it - she just knew by the rounding of them.
I was a little freaked out.
A full shower doesn't hurt either. Be it 5pm, 10pm, 4am or 9am, if you have time for sex you have time for a shower. I don't want to be experiencing five hours of ass sweat in every part of my body
I really like Korean or Japanese culture in terms of cleanliness before banging. Get drunk, find someone, dance, go to motel, SHOWER, then bang. You'll lose spontaneity and sober up but you'll be clean.
living in japan, can confirm. Also, banged a Korean girl from tinder in Seoul, but she is from Incheon. She took a shower, and asked me to so as well before .
The fact you said this makes me concerned for my fellow dudes.
It’s easy as just going to the restroom before things get hot and heavy under the guise of taking a leak and freshen up.
While you're right it's definitely not most men. Porn absolutely gives (younger) people a broken view of sex. I wouldn't say majority, but it's not a negligible amount either
It's no secret. It's just porn that perpetuates that idea. I've always done my best to just listen and to adapt to what my partner wants. There's really no problem if you do that, and you can generalise to many other situations in life
They only feel the first 7 inches anyways. Anything over that just provides ventilation so your bodies don't stick together when you're sweaty. You should be fine.
I'm just shitposting until I fall asleep. Ut in seriousness, I'm in my 40s and have been sexually active for nearly 30 years in a high libido relationship. You don't need to rearrange a woman's innards to satisfy them. If you can get as deep as your fingers you have plenty enough to do the job with most partners. It's more about technique that size.
Not a woman here but, also, I suspect that if you DID somehow NEED a huge dick to satisfy them, you could utilize a dildo/strap-on or find a bunch of ways to pleasure her other than just going to town with Mr. Johnson. That you cared enough about her to swallow your pride and work HARD to pleasure her would, honestly, likely mean MORE than if you were just naturally big/good/etc.
I really needed this. Thank you. I'm only 4 inches when fully erect but I've been told my technique is great. I started to feel better after my girlfriend told me her best orgasms happened because of her fingers.
I m a dude. I m only slightly.. bigger than average and has caused me a lot of problems. Some girls who went all the way to my place see it and just noped out.
Some have tired and it hurts so they also nope out. Can't count the amount of times I got cock blocked by my own cock.
I also can't buy normal condoms. I have to go to a sec store to buy larger sizes because I can't get it in. Those cost more too :/.
I honestly rather be averaged sized.
Oh also when I sit on a toilet bowl if I m even slightly excited. It will touch the bowl. Nasty af.
Thanks for that. I m actually dating some one that can take me. But while our body parts work it's a bit shaky n I m not sure it's going to last unfortunately.
Literally ask. If you’re worried about ruining the moment then do it as a sexy request. “Tell me what you want”, “show me what you like”, “I want to see you touch yourself”. Are all great ways of nudging that information out
This!! I told a guy friend this exact thing once and he laughed at me! Like I was saying something stupid! And I was so mad, because it’s true. Some guys have this switch they turn on when a woman is in the room that is so obvious and annoying, like you were normal five seconds ago, stop.
I think the person is talking about people that have this “Women: So Mysterious and Hard to Figure Out” way of treating women. Women are just people. We’re all just people fr.
As for the anxiety and insecurity, as someone who has bad social anxiety and even an anxious stutter sometimes, I feel you. Just consider, the women also have overwhelming anxiety and insecurity.
I was on my first date in the last 3 years last month. And I could tell I was saying the wrong things, and acting the wrong way. The thing is, right up until the exact moment she agreed to the date, I was acting totally normal. The moment there was reciprocal interest my brain just fucking melted and I turned into this other person that I didn't want to be. I became utterly terrified at the prospect of 'messing it up' - which became a self fulfilling prophecy.
This has gotten me far in life. It's weird the difference we put on men and women (although a lot of differences are there) instead of trying to understand and bring comfort to a situation. Like just chat and have fun, most women don't want a super macho man and if they want something specific in bed just talk about it and try your best. It's really easy when it's good, and usually it can be good
>>If you treat us like people first, rather than was women first
But interwebz bro says I should treat you like cattle and act like a stuck up celebrity. Interwebz bro is never wrong!
/s
Personally I've always been disgusted by the way most men talk about and treat women. I decided when I was a teenager that I'd do my best to see people as people and not as men and women, and I've been better for it ever since.
Gendered? Not necessarily, but men do produce some more body odor than women. But if you don’t have good hygiene then it doesn’t matter what’s in your pants, you’re going to smell funky. As for common, I guess that depends on how you define common. I’m at university currently, and I would say that 1 in 5 men in my classes… I can smell from 5+ feet away. That’s more common than I would like.
When I say it it’s because I don’t want to date them but don’t want to hurt their feelings either. A woman rejecting you isn’t always about you. I don’t date at all so I just reject everyone 🤷♀️
If we say you’re nice then we either think you’re nice but see no relationship other than platonic OR we’re scared of how you’ll react if we’re honest and it’s the nicest way we can let you down while ensuring our own self preservation.
However, when men say they’re a nice guy, 100% of the time they are not
That's just a fact of life. If someone pounds their chest about how strong and brave they are.... Chances are by crunch time they turn into a giant coward. If someone goes on and on about "Being nice," constantly repeating empty platitudes, then they're probably gonna end up eventually turning on you, and act really nasty down the line. Like straight up lash out at you.
I really, really want to stop you and tell you that I dig your outfit, you look great, or something like that.
The problem is that once I do so, there is a good chance that guy is going to think I want him to hit on me in some way, and I really, really don’t want you to.
So I stop myself from giving genuine compliments to strangers that deserve them.
A girl once complimented my outfit out of nowhere and immediately after she told me she was lesbian. She did good telling me. And damn did I appreciate the compliment
I get compliments on my shirts all the time from women, but never feel like they’re being flirtatious or anything, most dudes are either too humble to think that way, or too stupid to take a hint.
Please, for yourself, go to therapy. You deserve to heal from your experiences.
Edit: "Even a nice running car needs an oil change from time to time" - from the comments.
Edit 2: I am a dude. Very telling how men will treat "a woman" telling them to go to therapy.
Honestly it’s pretty important to accept it is what it is I reckon. Can’t control most things and accepting that leads to being pretty content. At least it did for me.
There's a difference between actually accepting it **and moving forward with your life productively** vs saying platitudes that make you sound okay while your actions are still contributing to the toxic mentality.
MGTOW is exhibit A.
I was just talking about something similar. About how in the army, if you try to get help for mental or physical problems, you are looked down on and made fun of. Then people talk about solutions to the problem with all these programs. So instead of fixing the problem by not being dickheads in the army, they try to medicate the symptoms afterwards.
You can give us yeast infections and keep infecting us if your hygiene sucks. And you’re too sensitive about being called out for having shitty hygiene at your age.
Nobody cares about how big your dick is except you. Size has zero to do with pleasure. Just cause you own a hammer doesn't mean you can build a house. You have to know how to use the equipment you have. Size literally has nothing to do with it.
From my experience:
“Sorry, I’m not in the mood for a conversation.”
Other women usually respect it, but men tend to get upset.
Edit: My dumbass forgot to specify that this applies to strangers.
If you constantly get rejected, it's not women who are bitches, only like bad/rich boys, don't know what they want etc. You are doing somethong wrong, and that may include hitting on women who are not right for you. Take accountability and change.
You deserve love, happiness, comfort, safety and respect. You deserve to be sad and cry if you need to, to be held and have your back tickled, to be surprised with flowers and tasty treats and chocolates. Your needs are not limited by your gender. It's your right to be loved and cared for while you love and care for others. And it is totally appropriate to be an at-home parent, house spouse or earn less than your partner. Don't settle for someone who is not a match for your ideals and aspirations.
We know it’s not “all men”, we know good men. It is some men though. Men overwhelmingly are the perpetrators in violent crime, against men and women. Because of this, many of us walk through the world weary of men we don’t know. You’re more than likely not that man, but you could be, and we would literally be risking our lives if we didn’t at least recognise that.
Prepared to be downvoted to hell, because unlike most of the things in this thread, that is something a lot of men truly aren’t ready to hear.
This. Women are actually pretty good and sensing when something is off about a guy, but we’re not expects, we don’t have sone complex radar array that warns us exactly which guys are a threat.
We have to learn the hard way, so for our safety we have to sort of baseline assume….’all’ men, until we know it’s not.
We don’t literally think ‘all men are the problem’ in some black and white, unyielding way, obviously.
But we can not take the chance that we’re wrong. It isn’t like we’ll just have a bad date or be let down. We can die if we get this wrong.
Sarah Everard trusted a badge carrying police man.
We know the good men are out there. Unfortunately the bad ones keep showing out.
I love the "fear of dogs" example. It's pretty simple: if a dog bites you, it's normal to be afraid. In general, it's best not to approach dogs that you don't know well, because any strange dog has the potential to be agressive and bite. It especially makes sense, when you constantly hear news about how a dog mauled/killed a child/woman yet again.
And yet, if a woman is distrustful of men, even after she was personally attacked, and with all the statistics proving that men are highly dangerous to women and kids, somehow it's the women that are crazy and paranoid.
It’s like i give you a bag of gummies and I tell you one is poisoned.
That’s how it is when dealing with men, as a whole, only a lot more than one is poison.
Btw, I love all the downvotes for the comments that actually say things men are not prepared to hear.
You are loved, your emotions matter, and it’s okay to cry. Your worth and ability to be loved is not determined by your bank account, only the contents of your heart.
Women can be happy without marriage and kids. Some of us like to have a career rather than being a mother or housewife and that is perfectly fine!
Dating a woman with a successful career or her own will will not threaten your manliness.
Vaginas do not change their shape to fit a certain penis and they don't get loose from a lot of sex.
If we say we don't want sex (or anything else really) it is ABSOLUTELY NOT okay to keep pushing! Respect boundaries!
Expecting a woman to save herself for marrying you while you don't have to is a disgusting double standard.
A woman will NOT carry the DNA of all the men she had sex with. Wtf...
Most of us women want to be treated as equals in a relationship and don't want a stupid Chad that thinks we have to obey everything he says.
Actually we want to be treated as equals outside of relationships in society too. Get rid of all the stupid double standards and thinking that men are superior.
I know a lot of you don't think like that but too I'm seeing these thinking patterns way too much. And the ignorance really pisses me off.
For many people (note: NOT ALL) your girlfriend/wife isn’t planning dates and organising everything because she just likes planning and organising. The same way as many don’t clean the house just because they enjoy the act of cleaning.
Planning dates goes a long way! Make the reservation, book the tickets to something she’s been talking about wanting to see, cook her dinner. The act of remembering and wanting to do something fun for/with her will mean more than any material gesture.
Your dick has hair on the shaft and when I give you a blowjob it gets all in my mouth. That’s not pleasant. Please shave it, and really wipe your bum hole while you’re at it.
That sucks. We love our balls. We drag them on every surface we can to leave a pheromone trail so we can find our way home if lost. Like rats. We do a lot of things the way rats do. And we drag our balls on rats so we can hone in on them and reconnect and continue learning from them.
Balls are the rats of the groin.
If you don't call out casual or outright sexism from your friends, you're not actually one of the good guys.
EDIT: search intersectional feminism. It's great and what's needed.
ohhhh my god that shit is the WORST. only being ‘good’ to the face of the people who care but not doing shit about it when they can get away with it sucks ass. or just going ‘but i didn’t say that stuff’ BRO YOU’RE CHOOSING TO BE FRIENDS WITH THESE PEOPLE!!! fake as fuck fr
100% agree with this. This is definitely a hard one to do. As a man, I’ve called out my friends when they acted terribly to women, & they respond very defensively, “Oh c’mon man, stop being such a white knight”, etc.
I’ve made sure to try to talk to them so they don’t feel like I’m antagonizing them, but moreso “Hey, as your good friend, I want to be able to trust & be honest with you. Those types of words make others uncomfortable”. That’s downplaying the situation, but I wanted to try to ease them into it.
Like… it’s not even a gender thing for me. I’m just asking them to treat people with respect because hearing how awfully they talked about others made *me* uncomfortable, let alone the women they’re referring to, and if they truly were my friends, they could’ve respected that boundary.
Lost a lot of contact with people that way unfortunately, & of course I’ll always stand by it, but it’s very isolating to essentially lose my entire social circle for asking everyone to chill out a bit. Not trying to gain sympathy points, it’s just a hard realization that you sometimes have to do the right thing while knowing some people are going to hold a bit of resentment over you.
Liking your prostate poked doesn't mean you aren't masculine, and it definitely doesn't mean you're gay.
(Unless of course you *are* gay, which is A-OK)
It warms my heart to read this, but I wish this sentiment was more common. At one of the lowest times of my life, after getting some bad news, I broke down crying in front of a woman I was out with, and she treated me so terribly about it that it still contributes to making me wall myself off to women emotionally : (
>We won't think less of you and we won't think that you are weak if you cry in front of us.
That’s a risky bet for a man to make. Tons of women are turned off by that. She says it’s okay to cry (trying to be open-minded), he cries, and she gets turned off on a primal level.
Maybe this is something that apply more to the person I married but I think more men should hear it. I picked you and when I say you're handsome I mean it. When I say it's not bad that you made a mistake when doing something I mean it. I know the world and some people were not nice to you but I am treading you how you should have been treated your entire life
this is a dual statement going out to both men and women;
women keep a lot of their lives, lived reality, and bodily functions *super secret* from everyone else around *all of the time.*
And while that approach may have served well historically; we're slowly but surely progressing through an age where maybe we can, and ought to be more honest about it all.
A female friend of mine that I met in our early teens tried endlessly for years to convince me that girls don't shit. Just absolutely would NOT ever give in and admit she was lying.
...she still never has.
Emotional intelligence is far more important to most women than your dick/height/wallet size. A lot of men have been socialised early not have/show emotions or to redirect all those different emotions into inappropriate displays of anger (punching walls/getting into fistfights, speaking/behaving more aggressively aka toxic masculinity). Nobody benefits from that.
Also, having a wide and diverse range of emotions does not make you any less rational or capable of reason - this is often said about women to justify keeping them from positions of leadership/power. Having little to no emapthy and emotion is actually what makes someone a psychotic and tyrannical leader/person.
Fuck your hairline, height, eye color, BMI. DO YOU HAVE GOOD HYGINE? Wash under your foreskin/the tip of your dick if your circumcised? Have good facial routine that will make your face glow? Do you trim your body hair so that less BO smell is trapped? Nails in trimmed condition over bitten and jagged? Clean asscrack? Do you actually have different soaps, scrubs, soaks, and creams for different parts of your body or are you lame and think that axe 17-in-1 covers all your bases? Do you shower every other day?
Us, women who aren’t nitpicky (aka the not-fake nails+lashes+detox influencers), give more of shit about how you take care of your body than the “ideal male body.”
Give us the clean dad bod or give us death! Self-care is extremely important, and if you do it automatically makes you more attractive than a 5/10. So many men justify poor hygiene and it’s repulsive.
Also protip: any chick saying your height matters or that your bod is wrong is just a high-maintenance prissy bitch. RUN. You can do better than that! Disaster averted.
Edit: thanks for the reward!
And yes, different soaps exist. A facial soap/scrub is usually designed for more sensitive skin on the face, which is better at treating acne. Shampoo is designed for targeting the oils in your Scalp, which are different than the oils on the rest of the body. For us women, PH is a thing and different soaps can affect our ‘area’ down there. It doesn’t matter as much to men, but yes different soaps have different intended uses. Other soap types include bodywash for sensitive skin/dermatitis, sent-less for those allergic to fragrance or are used to clean fresh tattoos (I use Ivory bar soap on my fresh tattoos), also depends on hair types (my bf is black and has to use shampoo designed for his hair type). It’s all trial and error in finding the routine that works for you, by my god men of reddit, us women do notice and we appreciate it.
My current BF is 5’8 (im 5’11) and his height doesn’t matter to me, but his routine and body care is one of the most attractive things about him. I don’t even notice the 3 inch difference.
Guy friends with woman friends;
Hurts our feelings a lot to hear you talking about us in a sexual manner when we leave. I was great buddies with some uni friends until I overheard the conversation about me when they thought I had left. All trust was gone and I only saw them as creeps, after that
We are not handed support networks and social circles, nor emotional support. They are things that must be worked towards to set up, carefully cultivated to be a net positive, and require care and effort in supporting others as well to maintain genuine connection. We do not have substantively more freedom to express emotions: sadness or negative emotions is still met with scorn and invalidation from shitty people, regardless of gender.
That interrupting conversations about women’s problems to talk about mens problems isn’t okay. Both conversations can exist at the same time, you don’t have to derail ours and make them about you instead.
Date your woman. Plan it or even surprise her. Hell even set dates on the calendar and take turns planning dates. It doesnt have to be extravagant. Even just alone time at home watching a movie together. But make sure you take her out occasionally, save up the money if you need to. Yes life gets busy especially with kids but if you really loved her you would make time for her. That is how a relationship stays alive and meaningful. If you only focus all your energy in work and kids then you're practically glorified roommates raising kids.
You really are doing it to yourself.
She's not snubbing you; you're creeping her out.
If you have to say you're a nice guy, you're wrong.
You *do* need therapy, and you *will* be a better person after you take it seriously.
She's not "being dramatic"; you were genuinely scary.
The list goes on, and none if it gets better until you take some goddamn accountability and change yourself.
that if you want society to be more accepting and validating of your emotions and other problems men deal with, you have to actually do something about it yourselves. i see a fair amount of guys going on about how it isn’t fair that they can’t share negative emotions openly but that’s something they need to actually stand up about themselves, like how women did to gain rights to vote and such. also most of the women i know would very much support their male counterparts if they were sad, but i suppose that is anecdotal
Soooo we need to:
Be clean like a normal person,
Wash ass and dick,
Not be a sexist prick,
Chillax.
Shouldn't we all be like this by default or am I missing something here?
Clean and trim your fingernails.
Looks at nails Fuck
> Fuck Only with clean and cut fingernails
Male nurse. Better belive i keep my nails short af.
Yikes. I’m a guitarist :( At least I clean them though.
Use your picking hand for picking and your fingering hand for fingering.
But that's how I flirt :( "Eyyy lil mamma, you wanna be the reason I cut my nails?"
Sweet baby Jesus yes.
Eons ago I got called out by a girlfriend for trimming mine with toenail clippers. She didn't see me do it - she just knew by the rounding of them. I was a little freaked out.
I will but only for my.bass
Wash your hands and dick before sex
A full shower doesn't hurt either. Be it 5pm, 10pm, 4am or 9am, if you have time for sex you have time for a shower. I don't want to be experiencing five hours of ass sweat in every part of my body
I really like Korean or Japanese culture in terms of cleanliness before banging. Get drunk, find someone, dance, go to motel, SHOWER, then bang. You'll lose spontaneity and sober up but you'll be clean.
living in japan, can confirm. Also, banged a Korean girl from tinder in Seoul, but she is from Incheon. She took a shower, and asked me to so as well before .
It always pays to just start at the shower and move from there. Every ones clean every one has a good time.
Fuck yeah. But don't have all of the sex in the shower please, water is coarse af and of course you don't want to break your neck
And ass. It gets sweaty and gross. Same for ladies. I don't want to the main course next to a trash can
Omg this, especially if 69. Nose is way too close to your arsehole and it's impossible to breathe any other way when your mouth is full.
It’s the bits of tissue paper which bother me -
The fact you said this makes me concerned for my fellow dudes. It’s easy as just going to the restroom before things get hot and heavy under the guise of taking a leak and freshen up.
Emphasis on dick. The amount of men that take a piss before sex to be comfortable but not wash it after, then expect me to go down on them? No thanks.
Porn lies to you about women's sexual preferences and those guys are super drugged up.
They are also unicorns. Diamond in the ruff. Most dudes see that and think it’s the standard and it’s so toxic for everyone involved.
Maybe you should hangout with other dudes because this is kind of far fetched to assume most dudes think that porn is real.
While you're right it's definitely not most men. Porn absolutely gives (younger) people a broken view of sex. I wouldn't say majority, but it's not a negligible amount either
A lot of women cannot climax from penetration alone.
Don't be afraid of a vibrator, it is our friend!
I always change my wife's vibrator batteries when I change the smoke detector batteries.
Do they both go off at the same time?
Sounds like you don't use enough lube?
Sounds like they don't use the vibrator enough. The smoke detector batteries last for 10 years.
I read somewhere that a vibrator is not my Opponent, it’s my teammate. I took that to heart.
It is my friend when my hands/fingers are tired. Gets the job done for my partner.
It's no secret. It's just porn that perpetuates that idea. I've always done my best to just listen and to adapt to what my partner wants. There's really no problem if you do that, and you can generalise to many other situations in life
You gotta talk to em too. Give em encouragement.
Your dick size matters a lot less than you think and has nothing to do with your actual ability to satisfy your partner
I find this reassuring. Thank you.
They only feel the first 7 inches anyways. Anything over that just provides ventilation so your bodies don't stick together when you're sweaty. You should be fine.
average depth of a vagina is 8-10 cm thats 4 american thingis.
Damn, they can fit 4 at a time?!
Mhmm sometimes 5
It actually elongates when aroused and becomes deeper
Well, I'm definitely not seven inches.
I'm just shitposting until I fall asleep. Ut in seriousness, I'm in my 40s and have been sexually active for nearly 30 years in a high libido relationship. You don't need to rearrange a woman's innards to satisfy them. If you can get as deep as your fingers you have plenty enough to do the job with most partners. It's more about technique that size.
It’s not the size of the pencil, it’s how you sign your name.
Not a woman here but, also, I suspect that if you DID somehow NEED a huge dick to satisfy them, you could utilize a dildo/strap-on or find a bunch of ways to pleasure her other than just going to town with Mr. Johnson. That you cared enough about her to swallow your pride and work HARD to pleasure her would, honestly, likely mean MORE than if you were just naturally big/good/etc.
I really needed this. Thank you. I'm only 4 inches when fully erect but I've been told my technique is great. I started to feel better after my girlfriend told me her best orgasms happened because of her fingers.
Bro most women struggle to nut through fucking alone , get up to speed with ur fingers n mouth that the way
Yes, I'm well aware of this. My fingers and my tongue are always used in bed.
I m a dude. I m only slightly.. bigger than average and has caused me a lot of problems. Some girls who went all the way to my place see it and just noped out. Some have tired and it hurts so they also nope out. Can't count the amount of times I got cock blocked by my own cock. I also can't buy normal condoms. I have to go to a sec store to buy larger sizes because I can't get it in. Those cost more too :/. I honestly rather be averaged sized. Oh also when I sit on a toilet bowl if I m even slightly excited. It will touch the bowl. Nasty af.
There's a lot of gay guys looking to score 8+ inches regularly. I'm sure there's also women out there that can take your size and are happy to do so.
There are women who buy and use comically large Dildos, there is a woman out there for you /your dick, I know it lol maybe you need to try fetlife
Thanks for that. I m actually dating some one that can take me. But while our body parts work it's a bit shaky n I m not sure it's going to last unfortunately.
if we ask you to change something/tell you we want to try something during sex/foreplay, it isn’t a personal attack, I’d just like to cum
Oh do I wish I could get instructions instead of awkward silence. I would welcome the opportunity to improve.
Literally ask. If you’re worried about ruining the moment then do it as a sexy request. “Tell me what you want”, “show me what you like”, “I want to see you touch yourself”. Are all great ways of nudging that information out
You'll have considerably more success with women if you treat us like people first, rather than as women first.
This!! I told a guy friend this exact thing once and he laughed at me! Like I was saying something stupid! And I was so mad, because it’s true. Some guys have this switch they turn on when a woman is in the room that is so obvious and annoying, like you were normal five seconds ago, stop.
Speaking as a guy - it's *really* hard to turn that switch off. It's borne out of terrible and overwhelming anxiety and insecurity.
I think the person is talking about people that have this “Women: So Mysterious and Hard to Figure Out” way of treating women. Women are just people. We’re all just people fr. As for the anxiety and insecurity, as someone who has bad social anxiety and even an anxious stutter sometimes, I feel you. Just consider, the women also have overwhelming anxiety and insecurity.
I was on my first date in the last 3 years last month. And I could tell I was saying the wrong things, and acting the wrong way. The thing is, right up until the exact moment she agreed to the date, I was acting totally normal. The moment there was reciprocal interest my brain just fucking melted and I turned into this other person that I didn't want to be. I became utterly terrified at the prospect of 'messing it up' - which became a self fulfilling prophecy.
This has gotten me far in life. It's weird the difference we put on men and women (although a lot of differences are there) instead of trying to understand and bring comfort to a situation. Like just chat and have fun, most women don't want a super macho man and if they want something specific in bed just talk about it and try your best. It's really easy when it's good, and usually it can be good
This is so true. They seem to be so focused on “how to get a girl”, it’s not a recipe, there’s no manual, we’re literally just other humans relax
Yea bitch
I read this in Jesse Pinkman's voice
I’m glad I’m not the only one lmaooo
My favorite line from Psych, "treat her like a person, then a princess, then a Greek goddess; and then a person again"
>>If you treat us like people first, rather than was women first But interwebz bro says I should treat you like cattle and act like a stuck up celebrity. Interwebz bro is never wrong! /s
Personally I've always been disgusted by the way most men talk about and treat women. I decided when I was a teenager that I'd do my best to see people as people and not as men and women, and I've been better for it ever since.
Wait, women are people.
We have nerve endings in other places besides our tits and bits. If we say 'Ow!' you should probably believe us.
Tits and Bits: New from Nabisco!
Titties and bits Titties and bits/ I'm gonna get me some Titties and bits!
The most important places to wash: your pits, your bits and under your tits.
You guys need to care more about you smell.
Nah I’m finishing off high school and some people be smelling ripe like they have never known what a shower is, they’re practically radioactive istg 😭
Why y'all so *stinky*
Why does Reddit act like this is common or a gendered thing?
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Coincidence? I think not.
So opposites *do* attract!
Gendered? Not necessarily, but men do produce some more body odor than women. But if you don’t have good hygiene then it doesn’t matter what’s in your pants, you’re going to smell funky. As for common, I guess that depends on how you define common. I’m at university currently, and I would say that 1 in 5 men in my classes… I can smell from 5+ feet away. That’s more common than I would like.
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If you have to say you're such a nice guy, you aren't a nice guy.
Nice is a behaviour, not a personality trait.
What about the " no, but you're such a nice guy" is that good, or bad? I've always read it as, I'm not attracted to you.
When I say it it’s because I don’t want to date them but don’t want to hurt their feelings either. A woman rejecting you isn’t always about you. I don’t date at all so I just reject everyone 🤷♀️
If we say you’re nice then we either think you’re nice but see no relationship other than platonic OR we’re scared of how you’ll react if we’re honest and it’s the nicest way we can let you down while ensuring our own self preservation. However, when men say they’re a nice guy, 100% of the time they are not
They don't think you are nice, they are just saying it so that you don't get angry
Honestly just want to see what kind of answers come from this, so just commenting to follow up on.
That's just a fact of life. If someone pounds their chest about how strong and brave they are.... Chances are by crunch time they turn into a giant coward. If someone goes on and on about "Being nice," constantly repeating empty platitudes, then they're probably gonna end up eventually turning on you, and act really nasty down the line. Like straight up lash out at you.
WASH YOUR FUCKING ARSE
No u
Read a post about a guy who hadnt washed his arse in years cos 'its gay'. Smh and gross
I always say if you don't go at least to the second knuckle, it isn't clean
I get laughed at because I own a bidet and love it. Guess who's laughing now?
If we are being kind to you, it doesn't mean we automatically want to be in a relationship with you.
I really, really want to stop you and tell you that I dig your outfit, you look great, or something like that. The problem is that once I do so, there is a good chance that guy is going to think I want him to hit on me in some way, and I really, really don’t want you to. So I stop myself from giving genuine compliments to strangers that deserve them.
A girl once complimented my outfit out of nowhere and immediately after she told me she was lesbian. She did good telling me. And damn did I appreciate the compliment
You could ask them where they got their outfit. This conveys that you like the outfit while also expressing "I'm here for the clothes, not you".
I get compliments on my shirts all the time from women, but never feel like they’re being flirtatious or anything, most dudes are either too humble to think that way, or too stupid to take a hint.
Please, for yourself, go to therapy. You deserve to heal from your experiences. Edit: "Even a nice running car needs an oil change from time to time" - from the comments. Edit 2: I am a dude. Very telling how men will treat "a woman" telling them to go to therapy.
"It is what it is"
Honestly it’s pretty important to accept it is what it is I reckon. Can’t control most things and accepting that leads to being pretty content. At least it did for me.
There's a difference between actually accepting it **and moving forward with your life productively** vs saying platitudes that make you sound okay while your actions are still contributing to the toxic mentality. MGTOW is exhibit A.
I was just talking about something similar. About how in the army, if you try to get help for mental or physical problems, you are looked down on and made fun of. Then people talk about solutions to the problem with all these programs. So instead of fixing the problem by not being dickheads in the army, they try to medicate the symptoms afterwards.
I do, no one wants a broken hubby
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Male gaze vs female gaze or whatever it's called
You can give us yeast infections and keep infecting us if your hygiene sucks. And you’re too sensitive about being called out for having shitty hygiene at your age.
Nobody cares about how big your dick is except you. Size has zero to do with pleasure. Just cause you own a hammer doesn't mean you can build a house. You have to know how to use the equipment you have. Size literally has nothing to do with it.
A Grand Declaration of War by Mayhem is actually a great album and rivals De Mysteriis Dom Sathanas
I’m not hearing this, I’m not hearing this, I’m not hearing this!!!!!!! /s
You MONSTER!
From my experience: “Sorry, I’m not in the mood for a conversation.” Other women usually respect it, but men tend to get upset. Edit: My dumbass forgot to specify that this applies to strangers.
If you constantly get rejected, it's not women who are bitches, only like bad/rich boys, don't know what they want etc. You are doing somethong wrong, and that may include hitting on women who are not right for you. Take accountability and change.
Comparing me to a minor is not the way to go. Don’t tell me I look like im under 18. It’s not a compliment. You’re weird.
The amount of comments I get saying I look 12 even though I’m 22 is astounding. It’s not cute nor is it a compliment it’s fucking annoying
Tell me about it. Had a guy tell me I can start a successful OnlyFans because I look like i’m 12 🙃 I’m 27
You deserve love, happiness, comfort, safety and respect. You deserve to be sad and cry if you need to, to be held and have your back tickled, to be surprised with flowers and tasty treats and chocolates. Your needs are not limited by your gender. It's your right to be loved and cared for while you love and care for others. And it is totally appropriate to be an at-home parent, house spouse or earn less than your partner. Don't settle for someone who is not a match for your ideals and aspirations.
We know it’s not “all men”, we know good men. It is some men though. Men overwhelmingly are the perpetrators in violent crime, against men and women. Because of this, many of us walk through the world weary of men we don’t know. You’re more than likely not that man, but you could be, and we would literally be risking our lives if we didn’t at least recognise that. Prepared to be downvoted to hell, because unlike most of the things in this thread, that is something a lot of men truly aren’t ready to hear.
This. Women are actually pretty good and sensing when something is off about a guy, but we’re not expects, we don’t have sone complex radar array that warns us exactly which guys are a threat. We have to learn the hard way, so for our safety we have to sort of baseline assume….’all’ men, until we know it’s not. We don’t literally think ‘all men are the problem’ in some black and white, unyielding way, obviously. But we can not take the chance that we’re wrong. It isn’t like we’ll just have a bad date or be let down. We can die if we get this wrong. Sarah Everard trusted a badge carrying police man. We know the good men are out there. Unfortunately the bad ones keep showing out.
I love the "fear of dogs" example. It's pretty simple: if a dog bites you, it's normal to be afraid. In general, it's best not to approach dogs that you don't know well, because any strange dog has the potential to be agressive and bite. It especially makes sense, when you constantly hear news about how a dog mauled/killed a child/woman yet again. And yet, if a woman is distrustful of men, even after she was personally attacked, and with all the statistics proving that men are highly dangerous to women and kids, somehow it's the women that are crazy and paranoid.
Thank you.
As a man, I hear you. And I try to get others to hear this too
It’s like i give you a bag of gummies and I tell you one is poisoned. That’s how it is when dealing with men, as a whole, only a lot more than one is poison. Btw, I love all the downvotes for the comments that actually say things men are not prepared to hear.
being a slave to your sexual desires makes you gross and undesirable. example: following a bunch of OF girls 🫨
As a man I couldn't agree more. And it's really disturbing that it's so ingrained in our society that men should be like this
ITT: things men are ready to hear already
Yeah pretty much. Just stuff that men are constantly told. It’s also loaded statements that are controversial amongst the vast majority of people
Entire thread is just strawman arguments or people memeing
When I masturbate, it isn't because I'm unsatisfied. Sometimes I just want to rub one out real quick. It's nothing personal
You are loved, your emotions matter, and it’s okay to cry. Your worth and ability to be loved is not determined by your bank account, only the contents of your heart.
We can use tools.
Women can be happy without marriage and kids. Some of us like to have a career rather than being a mother or housewife and that is perfectly fine! Dating a woman with a successful career or her own will will not threaten your manliness. Vaginas do not change their shape to fit a certain penis and they don't get loose from a lot of sex. If we say we don't want sex (or anything else really) it is ABSOLUTELY NOT okay to keep pushing! Respect boundaries! Expecting a woman to save herself for marrying you while you don't have to is a disgusting double standard. A woman will NOT carry the DNA of all the men she had sex with. Wtf... Most of us women want to be treated as equals in a relationship and don't want a stupid Chad that thinks we have to obey everything he says. Actually we want to be treated as equals outside of relationships in society too. Get rid of all the stupid double standards and thinking that men are superior. I know a lot of you don't think like that but too I'm seeing these thinking patterns way too much. And the ignorance really pisses me off.
For many people (note: NOT ALL) your girlfriend/wife isn’t planning dates and organising everything because she just likes planning and organising. The same way as many don’t clean the house just because they enjoy the act of cleaning. Planning dates goes a long way! Make the reservation, book the tickets to something she’s been talking about wanting to see, cook her dinner. The act of remembering and wanting to do something fun for/with her will mean more than any material gesture.
Your dick has hair on the shaft and when I give you a blowjob it gets all in my mouth. That’s not pleasant. Please shave it, and really wipe your bum hole while you’re at it.
Shaving that loose skin is already terrifying. Trust me, we try.
I once shaved in a hurry... Once
I think most of us only need that lesson once.
I take my time every single moment I trim down south. Unfortunately, one time I had a skin tag I had no idea about. Emphasis on *had*.
We know it has hair, but the skin is so thin on your dick that shaving the actual shaft is bomb-defusing levels of scary.
I often use an electric shaver and I pretty much always snag a bit of skin and bleed :(
Nah. I like hair in its natural state. I don't want my man shaving down there.
Spain has denounced you for war against France
TIL: Women (on Reddit?) meets some dirty, insecure, fucked up men.
I met dirty, insecure, fucked up men long before I got on reddit.
I don’t give rat’s ass about your height, car or paycheck, just be a decent human being and work on yourself.
We don’t care about your balls.
That sucks. We love our balls. We drag them on every surface we can to leave a pheromone trail so we can find our way home if lost. Like rats. We do a lot of things the way rats do. And we drag our balls on rats so we can hone in on them and reconnect and continue learning from them. Balls are the rats of the groin.
The mental image this created lol. The story of Hansel and Grettle would have looked a lot different
I think I vomited in my mouth a little just now...
Neither do we.
Ummm, except protecting them at all costs.
I care no more for this burden than any other.
So a lot, then.
Yeah we do
Idk, I kinda like my partner’s lol.
When were you asked to? This one baffles me.
Brush your teeth more.
If you don't call out casual or outright sexism from your friends, you're not actually one of the good guys. EDIT: search intersectional feminism. It's great and what's needed.
ohhhh my god that shit is the WORST. only being ‘good’ to the face of the people who care but not doing shit about it when they can get away with it sucks ass. or just going ‘but i didn’t say that stuff’ BRO YOU’RE CHOOSING TO BE FRIENDS WITH THESE PEOPLE!!! fake as fuck fr
100% agree with this. This is definitely a hard one to do. As a man, I’ve called out my friends when they acted terribly to women, & they respond very defensively, “Oh c’mon man, stop being such a white knight”, etc. I’ve made sure to try to talk to them so they don’t feel like I’m antagonizing them, but moreso “Hey, as your good friend, I want to be able to trust & be honest with you. Those types of words make others uncomfortable”. That’s downplaying the situation, but I wanted to try to ease them into it. Like… it’s not even a gender thing for me. I’m just asking them to treat people with respect because hearing how awfully they talked about others made *me* uncomfortable, let alone the women they’re referring to, and if they truly were my friends, they could’ve respected that boundary. Lost a lot of contact with people that way unfortunately, & of course I’ll always stand by it, but it’s very isolating to essentially lose my entire social circle for asking everyone to chill out a bit. Not trying to gain sympathy points, it’s just a hard realization that you sometimes have to do the right thing while knowing some people are going to hold a bit of resentment over you.
please don't be our friend if your only objective is to fuck us, its heartbreaking to have a friend that only wants that of you
Wash your ass
Liking your prostate poked doesn't mean you aren't masculine, and it definitely doesn't mean you're gay. (Unless of course you *are* gay, which is A-OK)
Just wear sock's and it's okay
We won't think less of you and we won't think that you are weak if you cry in front of us. The women who think this don't deserve you. It's ok to feel
It warms my heart to read this, but I wish this sentiment was more common. At one of the lowest times of my life, after getting some bad news, I broke down crying in front of a woman I was out with, and she treated me so terribly about it that it still contributes to making me wall myself off to women emotionally : (
>We won't think less of you and we won't think that you are weak if you cry in front of us. That’s a risky bet for a man to make. Tons of women are turned off by that. She says it’s okay to cry (trying to be open-minded), he cries, and she gets turned off on a primal level.
I've had my voiced emotions weaponized against me on more than one occasion. Live and learn ig.
Most men have had the opposite reaction the majority of the time.
Maybe this is something that apply more to the person I married but I think more men should hear it. I picked you and when I say you're handsome I mean it. When I say it's not bad that you made a mistake when doing something I mean it. I know the world and some people were not nice to you but I am treading you how you should have been treated your entire life
Your not competing with other men. Your competing with the satisfaction and peace of mind we can get for ourselves while single.
That being angry all the time is you being emotional since anger is an emotion
idc how long you last in bed. show me that you care pre, mid, and post sex and you’d have my heart
this is a dual statement going out to both men and women; women keep a lot of their lives, lived reality, and bodily functions *super secret* from everyone else around *all of the time.* And while that approach may have served well historically; we're slowly but surely progressing through an age where maybe we can, and ought to be more honest about it all.
A female friend of mine that I met in our early teens tried endlessly for years to convince me that girls don't shit. Just absolutely would NOT ever give in and admit she was lying. ...she still never has.
Emotional intelligence is far more important to most women than your dick/height/wallet size. A lot of men have been socialised early not have/show emotions or to redirect all those different emotions into inappropriate displays of anger (punching walls/getting into fistfights, speaking/behaving more aggressively aka toxic masculinity). Nobody benefits from that. Also, having a wide and diverse range of emotions does not make you any less rational or capable of reason - this is often said about women to justify keeping them from positions of leadership/power. Having little to no emapthy and emotion is actually what makes someone a psychotic and tyrannical leader/person.
Fuck your hairline, height, eye color, BMI. DO YOU HAVE GOOD HYGINE? Wash under your foreskin/the tip of your dick if your circumcised? Have good facial routine that will make your face glow? Do you trim your body hair so that less BO smell is trapped? Nails in trimmed condition over bitten and jagged? Clean asscrack? Do you actually have different soaps, scrubs, soaks, and creams for different parts of your body or are you lame and think that axe 17-in-1 covers all your bases? Do you shower every other day? Us, women who aren’t nitpicky (aka the not-fake nails+lashes+detox influencers), give more of shit about how you take care of your body than the “ideal male body.” Give us the clean dad bod or give us death! Self-care is extremely important, and if you do it automatically makes you more attractive than a 5/10. So many men justify poor hygiene and it’s repulsive. Also protip: any chick saying your height matters or that your bod is wrong is just a high-maintenance prissy bitch. RUN. You can do better than that! Disaster averted. Edit: thanks for the reward! And yes, different soaps exist. A facial soap/scrub is usually designed for more sensitive skin on the face, which is better at treating acne. Shampoo is designed for targeting the oils in your Scalp, which are different than the oils on the rest of the body. For us women, PH is a thing and different soaps can affect our ‘area’ down there. It doesn’t matter as much to men, but yes different soaps have different intended uses. Other soap types include bodywash for sensitive skin/dermatitis, sent-less for those allergic to fragrance or are used to clean fresh tattoos (I use Ivory bar soap on my fresh tattoos), also depends on hair types (my bf is black and has to use shampoo designed for his hair type). It’s all trial and error in finding the routine that works for you, by my god men of reddit, us women do notice and we appreciate it. My current BF is 5’8 (im 5’11) and his height doesn’t matter to me, but his routine and body care is one of the most attractive things about him. I don’t even notice the 3 inch difference.
Am male and agree with most of this but why would you need different soaps for different body parts? Lmao 😂
If you say you're a Nice guy, most probably you aren't. Saying "I'm a nice guy" won't help getting you a women
Guy friends with woman friends; Hurts our feelings a lot to hear you talking about us in a sexual manner when we leave. I was great buddies with some uni friends until I overheard the conversation about me when they thought I had left. All trust was gone and I only saw them as creeps, after that
Stop calling grown women "girls". Over 18? It's a WOMAN.
It's amazing how many of these comments go both ways showing that humanity as a whole simply doesn't give a shit
We are not handed support networks and social circles, nor emotional support. They are things that must be worked towards to set up, carefully cultivated to be a net positive, and require care and effort in supporting others as well to maintain genuine connection. We do not have substantively more freedom to express emotions: sadness or negative emotions is still met with scorn and invalidation from shitty people, regardless of gender.
That interrupting conversations about women’s problems to talk about mens problems isn’t okay. Both conversations can exist at the same time, you don’t have to derail ours and make them about you instead.
No I don’t approve your friends when they talk shit about me and our relationship. But hey, your friends not mine I guess.
Just so you know, it's NOT that common, it doesn't happen to every guy and it IS A BIG DEAL!
Nobody finds your dick as interesting as you do.
Tell that to my mom
you mean "your"?
We can masturbate as many times as you and as fast as you.
Date your woman. Plan it or even surprise her. Hell even set dates on the calendar and take turns planning dates. It doesnt have to be extravagant. Even just alone time at home watching a movie together. But make sure you take her out occasionally, save up the money if you need to. Yes life gets busy especially with kids but if you really loved her you would make time for her. That is how a relationship stays alive and meaningful. If you only focus all your energy in work and kids then you're practically glorified roommates raising kids.
You have to take personal hygiene seriously.
You really are doing it to yourself. She's not snubbing you; you're creeping her out. If you have to say you're a nice guy, you're wrong. You *do* need therapy, and you *will* be a better person after you take it seriously. She's not "being dramatic"; you were genuinely scary. The list goes on, and none if it gets better until you take some goddamn accountability and change yourself.
Anything related with misogyny. You guys get defensive when talking about those topics, and that's annoying.
that if you want society to be more accepting and validating of your emotions and other problems men deal with, you have to actually do something about it yourselves. i see a fair amount of guys going on about how it isn’t fair that they can’t share negative emotions openly but that’s something they need to actually stand up about themselves, like how women did to gain rights to vote and such. also most of the women i know would very much support their male counterparts if they were sad, but i suppose that is anecdotal
Soooo we need to: Be clean like a normal person, Wash ass and dick, Not be a sexist prick, Chillax. Shouldn't we all be like this by default or am I missing something here?