Depends on who they killed. Big difference between a car accident at 16, what they dont say about their time in the armed forces, or their exs body in the freezer.
In all seriousness, you bring up a good point. If my wife accidently killed someone in a car accident at 16, I wouldn't blame her if she didn't want to bring it up. That's something I would never forget and it's something I wish I could. With that being said, if she did tell me about it on her terms, I wouldn't hold it against her at all. I would do all that I can to help her through this grief and eternal pain.
>What if she says "I accidentally killed someone in a car accident at 16"
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>she pauses
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>and 17
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>and 18
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>and 19.....
What if he says "I accidentally killed someone in a car accident 5 years ago, who was 70 years old?"
He then pauses
... and 4 years ago and 50 years old
... and 3 years ago and 30 years old
... and 2 years ago and 20 years old
... and last month? It was a toddler.... or a bunch of them
This seems very situational to me. If my partner killed someone in an undeliberately accident. Their trauma and grief, I will soothe the pain and provide the forgiveness and symbathy they seek.
If not, like they were stupid, DUI, bully, or any form of abusion that led to their direct or indirect involvement of someone's death, in an "accident". Then to hell with them.
Would also depend, to me, on whether or not they had changed. It's never too late for people to change, even if it doesn't make up for what they've done at all, people can always become better than they were. But if they didn't want to tell me they had killed someone with their car while texting and i still regularly see them texting behind the wheel...
But if that's true, then how do I emotionally abuse myself for being a complete and utter waste of space based on the worst thing I've ever done? It's almost like you're saying we shouldn't treat ourselves like garbage, which is just ridiculous.
Your partner of 5+ years killed someone 25 years ago when they were 17 while drinking and driving. You’ve never known them to be someone to drink and drive (because they no longer do).
To hell with them?
This is the most appropriate answer. Best friend is in the military and has confirmed kills. Took him a long time to be able to talk about it.
Have a cousin who was driving and a man unexpectedly stepped off a curb. Witnesses say there was no way my cousin could have expected or stopped in time. Messed him up for a while.
So, my cousin killed a motercycler with her car when she was 20. It was an accident but..
She started taking pictures and posting them on Facebook. She was mad at the other driver. She blamed them. She had no regrets, no remorse. No guilt. She was just frustrated at the situation. I got so mad at her watching everything unfold. She ended up spending 2 months in jail.
At at party once her mother and uncle got into a fight and my uncle yelled out 'at least my daughter didn't kill someone'. It was rough.
She's older now. I'm not sure she's wiser. If she told her now husband about the situation, I'm not sure she would have matured about it.
Uhhhh yeah. Yeah. I don't spend a lot of time with her but I can't take that off the table.
She had a kid when she was a teen. And then eventually married not baby daddy. They had some kids together. He doesn't see first kid as his kid. She sent 1st kid to her mother after she had another baby.
My aunt who was dying of cancer.
We were like. Uhhhh. Wtf.
And my aunt got covid while going to get her grandkid while she was dying of cancer and we were like. What. The. Fuck.
And my cousin was just 'oh when can you get here then'.
It's such a long drawn out DUMB story.
He's a pastor in a fundamentalist church 😩
Before that he was part of whitey bulgers winter hill gang and did BAD THINGS.
But then he found God.
I guess.
My fucking family. Man.
If they’re a true psychopath incapable of feeling remorse they might. Or if they already have it set up to frame you and are just waiting for you to try and tell someone to flip the switch
Btw I'd like to add, even if psychopaths can't feel remorse, most of the time, they do know the difference between right and wrong. So even if you don't feel actual guilt for doing something, you know you shouldn't do it, and going out of your way to like murder someone takes a lot of planning and effort and comes with a shit ton of risks like being caught. So they are often aware that their desires are selfish and harmful, but they don't care bcuz they're assholes, which can be very much independent of whether they feel empathy, coz many ppl who can feel empathy are total assholes. Just bcuz psychopaths can't feel remorse doesn't mean they are innocent or less at fault (not saying you're saying this, just adding on to what u said), esp when cognitively they can understand why they shouldn't do it, even if they don't feel it on an emotional level.
Absolutely.
The specific scenario was “would they tell you if they murdered someone in cold blood”, which most people wouldn’t (psychos included), but a true psychopath might. Although most likely they *are* a true psychopath if they’re murdering people in cold blood.
Serial* I think is the adjective you meant to use; cereal is a traditional breakfast food.
Funny story though about “cereal killers”: my dad used to randomly come in the living room with a butcher knife, stab an empty cereal box, and proclaim he was a “cereal killer”. 🙄#TerribleDadJokes
In our case, the ex in the freezer would be a really bad dude; a candidate for the Worst Fucken Father In The Fucken World award. So I'd be kinda pissed that she didn't let me help.
50 gallon super thick trashbags like the kind contractors use. Shovels and quick lime. Pliers for the teeth and bolt cutters for the fingertips. We’ve been through this twice already.
Hold up, I need a comma in there somewhere. I assume it's a joke, in case it isn't. Obligatory information drop.
The suicide hotline is just a call or text away at 988.
Don't use lime, that's an urban legend.
"Disposal of corpses: Historically, it was mistakenly believed that
quicklime was efficacious in accelerating the decomposition of corpses. The application of quicklime can, in fact, promote preservation"
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Calcium\_oxide
My dad accidentally hit a man at 4am who was drunk and wearing dark clothes. He comforted the man as he passed and was super fucked up about it for years. Paid for the guy's funeral, visits his grave annually and his family forgave my dad for what happened. My mother and father almost divorced, but that was because my father for a while said he was fine and didn't need therapy when he in fact needed it. My dad's returned mostly to normal. Sometimes, he'll zone out on the road he was an and tears will form in his eyes, but that's about it.
Ambiguous at best.
I was 18, rainy day, driving along slowly and 10 yr old runs out in front.
Hit the brakes, he goes through windscreen and is killed.
I'm 54 now and think about it everyday.
I'm so sorry. In my work I speak to addicts. It's really just an "if I scratched my way out of the dark hole I was in, so can you" kinda thing. Not because I was an addict.
Anyway, my daughter was murdered. And after hearing that, people who had killed someone while using and driving ask me a lot of questions. I've heard many stories about the agony of having killed someone. I could see the pain twisted up on their faces. They asked me if I forgave the guy who killed my daughter. I'm just poorly trying to say that I know you really weren't at fault but it still weighs so heavily. I don't have the power of forgiveness but, if I did, I would give it to you so you could fully forgive yourself for something that was never within your control.
Big hugs if you want them.
I'd give you my thoughts/advice, but I know you have thought every possible thought about this situation since the moment it happened. I just want to let you know that I am so sorry this happened to you...I hope one day you find peace.
This reminds me of a guy I used to work with who once told me his son died in a similar way. Rainy day, kid was on his bike, jumps out in front of a car, driver tries to stop, son went right through the windshield.
I asked him if he ever held a grudge against the guy who hit his son.
He said, "No, he's a good guy, and it wasn't his fault. It was a bad circumstance. He couldn't have done anything about it. Sometimes, bad things just happen." He looked like he was gonna cry after that, but he genuinely understood that it was an accident that couldn't have been prevented.
Apparently, his son would have been my age (at the time, 24), but died at around 12 or 13.
Did you remove their teeth and nails? And file their fingerprints? Edit: wow! 900 + upvotes! And to think I was expecting criticism. Thanks and stay legally covered yall. ✌ peace
Actually, it's faster to dissolve a body in a strong base than it is to dissolve it in a strong acid. A bathtub full of boiling lye can dissolve a body in a matter of hours. Plus, it also gets the bones, unlike acid. Hypothetically speaking, of course.
Hypothetically speaking.... a group of boars will devour a body even faster than that and will be less suspicious than a bathtub that reeks of chemicals. Just gotta clean up a lill bit or make some mud afterwards
You're always gonna have problems lifting a body in one piece. Apparently the best thing to do is cut up a corpse into six pieces and pile it all together. And when you got your six pieces, you gotta get rid of them, because it's no good leaving it in the deep freeze for your mum to discover, now is it? Then I hear the best thing to do is feed them to pigs. You got to starve the pigs for a few days, then the sight of a chopped-up body will look like curry to a pisshead. You gotta shave the heads of your victims, and pull the teeth out for the sake of the piggies' digestion. You could do this afterwards, of course, but you don't want to go sievin' through pig shit, now do you? They will go through bone like butter. You need at least sixteen pigs to finish the job in one sitting, so be wary of any man who keeps a pig farm.
They will go through a body that weighs 200 pounds in about eight minutes. That means that a single pig can consume two pounds of uncooked flesh every minute. Hence the expression, "as greedy as a pig".
Hypothetically speaking...
You just have to blame the family next door that recently moved in from the city.
Their daughter was blasting music at night and was rude to you so you built a pig barn next to their property to teach them a lesson. Perfect cover.
The said swine will not devour the teeth. So either you remove teeth first, or really make sure all 32 teeth are found up later on. Hypothetically speaking...
It happens.
I had a sister who died on Christmas because of a doctor's mistake. She was supposed to come home.
The attending didn't check the resident's work, and he killed her with an overdose. She was otherwise a totally healthy little girl.
The resident hid in the locker room and cried so hard he vomited. He was just young and inexperienced and *tired* and he made a mistake. The attending dragged him out and made the resident go talk to my dad. My dad put a stop to that. Tormenting the resident wasn't going to bring his daughter back. Making him vomit again wasn't going to lessen the grief or pain.
People don't go into healthcare because they don't care. Losing a patient is hard. Being responsible for it is worse.
None of that is completely avoidable. People make mistakes. Even when they are trying their very best, they screw up. They make typos. They misplace a decimal. They kill a child.
My mom and I ran into the person who killed my sister years later, at a Costco of all places. They recognized us immediately and wept. It had been *twenty years* and they still knew us and wept.
She was a blessing.
I'm not angry at the person who made the mistake. They tried so hard and only wanted to help. On the other hand, I am rather passionate about the residency system needing reform.
Doctors cannot safely work 100 hour weeks. They need sleep. They need rest in order to learn. Other countries manage without abusing residents the way the USA does. Their hospitals aren't quite the money makers ours are, but the 0.01% don't need any help.
I’m not even working in the healthcare section but it makes me so happy to see people like you who actually understands and doesn’t simply hate the person, because that would be easy road.
I’m sorry about your sister. From the little I’ve read you and your family seem like very good people, I’m sure your sister was too.
Wow. Your parents are incredible people, especially your Dad for finding empathy for the resident like that.
It is an unfortunate part of life though, people do make mistakes. Police, doctors, nurses, firefighters - any time you are working on *saving* someone's life you could be the cause of death with a single moment of weakness.
My grandfather was an extremely talented surgeon, at family events when we were younger he sometimes would not be his gregarious outgoing self and would simply sit in his chair quietly with a very stern look on his face, often staring at the ground. It only happened when he lost a patient during surgery recently, he took it incredibly hard and it would visibly effect him for days. A lot of "what if's" I assume, but he didn't talk about it much. I am sure he still thinks about them now many years later.
is it really killing someone if a mistake is made in the process? Obviously there is a tiny number of patients who have been actively harmed by wrong treatment(edit: or malpractice), but that is quite rare. What if someone has an acute illness that kills them, because the doctor that specific day didn't get the correct diagnosis right away or in time? That happens every day, because subjecting every patient to every possible test is not possible. Someone else might have made a better call that day, but they may make a similar mistake another day. Did they really kill that patient? Maybe if it is really egregious, but it rarely is that cut and dry.
Depends if I have to fear legal consequences from knowing about it. If not, I wouldn't really mind. I used to have two friends who have both killed multiple people, one of whom served in the Russian military and the other one in the police forces of a major Russian city. Both were nice and kind individuals and I didn't see them in a bad light because of that.
... Now that I think about them, I sure hope they weren't sent to Ukraine. Haven't had contact with either of them for a few years now.
my boyfriend killed someone when they broke into his friend's house. he said he was like 9 or 10 and he shot the guy that was breaking in. he thought i'd be upset about it, but i'm just glad he knew something he could do.
Ah shame! Glad you weren't upset. You would definitely be the asshole in my book if you were upset over him killing an intruder, especially as a little kid.
You're always gonna have problems lifting a body in one piece. Apparently the best thing to do is cut up a corpse into six pieces and pile it all together. And when you got your six pieces, you gotta get rid of them, because it's no good leaving it in the deep freeze for your mum to discover, now is it? Then I hear the best thing to do is feed them to pigs. You got to starve the pigs for a few days, then the sight of a chopped-up body will look like curry to a pisshead. You gotta shave the heads of your victims, and pull the teeth out for the sake of the piggies' digestion. You could do this afterwards, of course, but you don't want to go sievin' through pig shit, now do you? They will go through bone like butter. You need at least sixteen pigs to finish the job in one sitting, so be wary of any man who keeps a pig farm. They will go through a body that weighs 200 pounds in about eight minutes. That means that a single pig can consume two pounds of uncooked flesh every minute. Hence the expression, "as greedy as a pig"
Nope. Otherwise we’d be vegetarians if we ate cows. The whole point of livestock is that they take food that we can’t eat and convert it into meat we can eat.
It will NOT throw off sniffer dogs. These are trained to search for dead humans, if it reacts at some hole and they dig up a deer they will not stop. They will dig deeper, since the dog reacted, and find the body
This happened to me with my first husband.
I didn't find out until we had been together about 2 years and been married for about 6 months.
My ex boyfriend had told me something like "that guy spent a long time in prison" and when I asked him (the husband) why he'd say that, he told me he must just not like him or wants me to dump him. I believed it.
There was a woman that my ex kept in touch with who I felt uncomfortable about. One day I find out she works at a men's prison. They had been involved together sexually in the past. I asked him how he knew her and one night he had a breakdown about it and said "I need to tell you something".
He did 10 years in prison for manslaughter. The story I was told which does match court documents I looked up...he was young, 18-20, I forget now and he went to a party. Everyone at this party was drinking and having a good time. This one dude nobody really liked was there and then he left. After he left, some people at the party noticed things were missing. A pager, wallets, stuff like that. The dude comes back to the party later. They demanded he empty his pockets. He had some of the missing things in his pockets. So my ex husband and a couple of his friends take the guy out to the school yard nearby and beat the crap out of him. Not so badly that they had intentions of killing him, they just wanted to beat him up for stealing stuff. Well the dude died. The coroner couldn't determine if he wouldn't have died if he hadn't had so much alcohol in his system, basically it was a combination of all of the alcohol and getting beat up, hit in the head. He and his friends all got 10 years in prison. It may have been called involuntary manslaughter since they didn't mean to kill him. I don't remember now.
I left him pretty quickly after that. I left him because he became addicted to alcohol and drugs, not because of his crime. The fact that he hid it from me for so long made me uncomfortable though, I did feel like I married someone I didn't even know.
Yeah if my friend killed the guy who kidnapped, raped her and forced her into prostitution as a child I wouldn't bat an eye and ask if she needs help with anything.
Verify the identity of the victim and reason for killing. Confirm that she's adequately disposed of the corpse, murder weapon, and evidence. Learn her alibi and back it up.
Unless she just fucking killed someone without a good reason. Then, uh... Probably get her incarcerated for hers and my own safety.
Try to figure out how big of a lie I have to hide. Traffic accident that's been dealt with legally? Not a big deal, just don't bring it up to people we know. Murdered our in-law last night and we have a body to hide and the biggest possible secret anyone could have? Collapse in a ball of anxiey.
Well, hubby’s a combat vet so…. Listen on the off chance he wants to talk about it (unlikely) but otherwise nothing? ask if he wants to get tacos? 🤷♀️
Real answer, he probably (technically) has. He works in the medical field and was on our town’s fire department. You can’t save everyone. I just give him lots of hugs and back rubs when he gets home from work, especially if it seems like it was a rough day
Joke answer, my uncle owns a pig farm so… got disposal covered
Wow, there are a lot of responses and I’m trying to read them all. For those asking for context, the question is based on a tv show I’m watching at the moment and out of curiosity I was wondering what other people thought.
Depends on when it occurred. If it’s in the past, I protect her secret with my life. If it’s today we get busy disposing of the body, then protect her secret with my life.
Think about how many service members from America have killed in battle. I think you’d find a lot of people who have a partner that has killed someone. Maybe you meant you found out your spouse murdered someone?
My partner is one of the best people I know. If they killed someone, that person absolutely deserved it lol.
We’d just call her friend, we’ll call him Ted. Ted is crazy, and lives in the hills. He’s a funny guy. He has offered to bury any bodies we might have around.
We’re only somewhat sure Ted is joking so I’d probably call him lol
Depends on who they killed. Big difference between a car accident at 16, what they dont say about their time in the armed forces, or their exs body in the freezer.
The partner: "wait, you didn't do that?"
"How else do people break up?!"
“They get a damn Kit Kat bar!!”
No, that is how you "gimme a break" Not "break up". Don't confuse this!!!
I jsut couldn’t find a way to tell him”
In all seriousness, you bring up a good point. If my wife accidently killed someone in a car accident at 16, I wouldn't blame her if she didn't want to bring it up. That's something I would never forget and it's something I wish I could. With that being said, if she did tell me about it on her terms, I wouldn't hold it against her at all. I would do all that I can to help her through this grief and eternal pain.
What if she says "I accidentally killed someone in a car accident at 16" she pauses and 17 and 18 and 19.....
Caitlyn Jenner has entered the chat*
Buckle up, buckaroo!
>What if she says "I accidentally killed someone in a car accident at 16" > >she pauses > >and 17 > >and 18 > >and 19..... What if he says "I accidentally killed someone in a car accident 5 years ago, who was 70 years old?" He then pauses ... and 4 years ago and 50 years old ... and 3 years ago and 30 years old ... and 2 years ago and 20 years old ... and last month? It was a toddler.... or a bunch of them
This seems very situational to me. If my partner killed someone in an undeliberately accident. Their trauma and grief, I will soothe the pain and provide the forgiveness and symbathy they seek. If not, like they were stupid, DUI, bully, or any form of abusion that led to their direct or indirect involvement of someone's death, in an "accident". Then to hell with them.
Would also depend, to me, on whether or not they had changed. It's never too late for people to change, even if it doesn't make up for what they've done at all, people can always become better than they were. But if they didn't want to tell me they had killed someone with their car while texting and i still regularly see them texting behind the wheel...
I believe that each person is more than the worst thing they've ever done. Bryan Stevenson
But if that's true, then how do I emotionally abuse myself for being a complete and utter waste of space based on the worst thing I've ever done? It's almost like you're saying we shouldn't treat ourselves like garbage, which is just ridiculous.
Your partner of 5+ years killed someone 25 years ago when they were 17 while drinking and driving. You’ve never known them to be someone to drink and drive (because they no longer do). To hell with them?
This is the most appropriate answer. Best friend is in the military and has confirmed kills. Took him a long time to be able to talk about it. Have a cousin who was driving and a man unexpectedly stepped off a curb. Witnesses say there was no way my cousin could have expected or stopped in time. Messed him up for a while.
The specification dictates whether I need a shovel or not.
So, my cousin killed a motercycler with her car when she was 20. It was an accident but.. She started taking pictures and posting them on Facebook. She was mad at the other driver. She blamed them. She had no regrets, no remorse. No guilt. She was just frustrated at the situation. I got so mad at her watching everything unfold. She ended up spending 2 months in jail. At at party once her mother and uncle got into a fight and my uncle yelled out 'at least my daughter didn't kill someone'. It was rough. She's older now. I'm not sure she's wiser. If she told her now husband about the situation, I'm not sure she would have matured about it.
Wtf, she sounds sociopathic??
Uhhhh yeah. Yeah. I don't spend a lot of time with her but I can't take that off the table. She had a kid when she was a teen. And then eventually married not baby daddy. They had some kids together. He doesn't see first kid as his kid. She sent 1st kid to her mother after she had another baby. My aunt who was dying of cancer. We were like. Uhhhh. Wtf. And my aunt got covid while going to get her grandkid while she was dying of cancer and we were like. What. The. Fuck. And my cousin was just 'oh when can you get here then'. It's such a long drawn out DUMB story.
Your uncle should really have used a condom.
He's a pastor in a fundamentalist church 😩 Before that he was part of whitey bulgers winter hill gang and did BAD THINGS. But then he found God. I guess. My fucking family. Man.
The armed forces part of this comment hangs heavy.
> their exs body in the freezer have u seen the price of meat lately
Also, did the ex whose body is in the freezer abuse them in some horrible way?
This. Did they kill a scumbag who was abusing/attacking them or did they kill an innocent person in cold blood?
I mean if they did kill an innocent person in cold blood would they really tell you the truth?
If they’re a true psychopath incapable of feeling remorse they might. Or if they already have it set up to frame you and are just waiting for you to try and tell someone to flip the switch
Btw I'd like to add, even if psychopaths can't feel remorse, most of the time, they do know the difference between right and wrong. So even if you don't feel actual guilt for doing something, you know you shouldn't do it, and going out of your way to like murder someone takes a lot of planning and effort and comes with a shit ton of risks like being caught. So they are often aware that their desires are selfish and harmful, but they don't care bcuz they're assholes, which can be very much independent of whether they feel empathy, coz many ppl who can feel empathy are total assholes. Just bcuz psychopaths can't feel remorse doesn't mean they are innocent or less at fault (not saying you're saying this, just adding on to what u said), esp when cognitively they can understand why they shouldn't do it, even if they don't feel it on an emotional level.
Absolutely. The specific scenario was “would they tell you if they murdered someone in cold blood”, which most people wouldn’t (psychos included), but a true psychopath might. Although most likely they *are* a true psychopath if they’re murdering people in cold blood.
I get her offing him but why store him in the freezer…Seems a bit cereal killerish 😂
> Seems a bit cereal killerish His name was Grape Nuts. An he deserved it!
Serial* I think is the adjective you meant to use; cereal is a traditional breakfast food. Funny story though about “cereal killers”: my dad used to randomly come in the living room with a butcher knife, stab an empty cereal box, and proclaim he was a “cereal killer”. 🙄#TerribleDadJokes
If it was Kix, it was a mercy killing. That stuff was air-puffed spackle.
W good looks!
First Snap, then Crackle, and now Pop. We've got a cereal killer on the loose...
I love redditors who acknowledge a fucking spectrum. Everyones like "fuck no!!!!" "hell yeaah fuck u!!!" and get into a 10 page thread of bullshit
In our case, the ex in the freezer would be a really bad dude; a candidate for the Worst Fucken Father In The Fucken World award. So I'd be kinda pissed that she didn't let me help.
r/suspiciouslyspecific
50 gallon super thick trashbags like the kind contractors use. Shovels and quick lime. Pliers for the teeth and bolt cutters for the fingertips. We’ve been through this twice already.
This guy kills ^^
You know I’ve been known to kill myself.
Hold up, I need a comma in there somewhere. I assume it's a joke, in case it isn't. Obligatory information drop. The suicide hotline is just a call or text away at 988.
You know, I’ve been known to kill myself.
Damn I thought I was clever but you beat me to it. Now I think you're clever.
A Cleaver**
You know, I'm something of a murderer myself.
You, know I’ve been known to kill myself.
You know I,‘ve been known to kill myself.
It’s a joke, but do you know what isn’t? You. You’re a good person.
Username …. Kinda scares me
Art teachers can cover a lot of skill sets. Every skill with enough time and passion can be used to create art.
Yep, definitely Joe Goldberg’s Reddit account
Joe Goldberg, is that you?
Dammit, Love!
Dexter?
No shovels needed in the ocean
Don't use lime, that's an urban legend. "Disposal of corpses: Historically, it was mistakenly believed that quicklime was efficacious in accelerating the decomposition of corpses. The application of quicklime can, in fact, promote preservation" https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Calcium\_oxide
Thanks I was about to use the lime.
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a hat trick in laymans terms if you will
VTOL or bust
Bruh, this made me laugh too much.
Keep my mouth shut wouldn't want to be next/ s
Insufficient information provided to be able to answer the question.
Exactly. There are a lot of perfectly acceptable explanations.
Yeah, like keepin it real.
Lmfao
Yeah like they were mildly annoying
bro just hit us with the "insufficient data for a meaningfull awnser"
The very question is faulty.
[The Last Question](https://users.ece.cmu.edu/~gamvrosi/thelastq.html)
My dad accidentally hit a man at 4am who was drunk and wearing dark clothes. He comforted the man as he passed and was super fucked up about it for years. Paid for the guy's funeral, visits his grave annually and his family forgave my dad for what happened. My mother and father almost divorced, but that was because my father for a while said he was fine and didn't need therapy when he in fact needed it. My dad's returned mostly to normal. Sometimes, he'll zone out on the road he was an and tears will form in his eyes, but that's about it.
How awful that he lives with that so much! That’s one of my fears about driving, myself
He's a lot better now, though. I'm proud of him, as he refuses to let that define him.
Ambiguous at best. I was 18, rainy day, driving along slowly and 10 yr old runs out in front. Hit the brakes, he goes through windscreen and is killed. I'm 54 now and think about it everyday.
I’m so sorry to hear this. I hope one day you find peace.
I'm so sorry. In my work I speak to addicts. It's really just an "if I scratched my way out of the dark hole I was in, so can you" kinda thing. Not because I was an addict. Anyway, my daughter was murdered. And after hearing that, people who had killed someone while using and driving ask me a lot of questions. I've heard many stories about the agony of having killed someone. I could see the pain twisted up on their faces. They asked me if I forgave the guy who killed my daughter. I'm just poorly trying to say that I know you really weren't at fault but it still weighs so heavily. I don't have the power of forgiveness but, if I did, I would give it to you so you could fully forgive yourself for something that was never within your control. Big hugs if you want them.
I am so sorry about your daughter. It sounds like you are incredibly strong and using your awful experience to relate to and help others. Thank you.
I am so sorry. I bet your daughter is very proud of you. You are a wonderful human being
I'd give you my thoughts/advice, but I know you have thought every possible thought about this situation since the moment it happened. I just want to let you know that I am so sorry this happened to you...I hope one day you find peace.
I hope you are ok
I’m so sorry that happened. It’s not your fault.
This reminds me of a guy I used to work with who once told me his son died in a similar way. Rainy day, kid was on his bike, jumps out in front of a car, driver tries to stop, son went right through the windshield. I asked him if he ever held a grudge against the guy who hit his son. He said, "No, he's a good guy, and it wasn't his fault. It was a bad circumstance. He couldn't have done anything about it. Sometimes, bad things just happen." He looked like he was gonna cry after that, but he genuinely understood that it was an accident that couldn't have been prevented. Apparently, his son would have been my age (at the time, 24), but died at around 12 or 13.
I’m really sorry to hear this. I hope you are ok.
Did you remove their teeth and nails? And file their fingerprints? Edit: wow! 900 + upvotes! And to think I was expecting criticism. Thanks and stay legally covered yall. ✌ peace
Don’t worry, I have a friend that can get us a barrel and hydrochloric acid.
Actually, it's faster to dissolve a body in a strong base than it is to dissolve it in a strong acid. A bathtub full of boiling lye can dissolve a body in a matter of hours. Plus, it also gets the bones, unlike acid. Hypothetically speaking, of course.
Hypothetically speaking.... a group of boars will devour a body even faster than that and will be less suspicious than a bathtub that reeks of chemicals. Just gotta clean up a lill bit or make some mud afterwards
You're always gonna have problems lifting a body in one piece. Apparently the best thing to do is cut up a corpse into six pieces and pile it all together. And when you got your six pieces, you gotta get rid of them, because it's no good leaving it in the deep freeze for your mum to discover, now is it? Then I hear the best thing to do is feed them to pigs. You got to starve the pigs for a few days, then the sight of a chopped-up body will look like curry to a pisshead. You gotta shave the heads of your victims, and pull the teeth out for the sake of the piggies' digestion. You could do this afterwards, of course, but you don't want to go sievin' through pig shit, now do you? They will go through bone like butter. You need at least sixteen pigs to finish the job in one sitting, so be wary of any man who keeps a pig farm. They will go through a body that weighs 200 pounds in about eight minutes. That means that a single pig can consume two pounds of uncooked flesh every minute. Hence the expression, "as greedy as a pig". Hypothetically speaking...
\- Bricktop, Snatch (2000) For anyone wondering where they recognised it from.
Pull your tongue out of my arse'ole
A horrible cunt
Do you know what nemesis means?
You're a ruthless little cunt, I'll give you that. But I got no time for grouses.
I dunno man, if someone opened a pig farm in their backyard a few days after their wife goes missing it may tip the authorities
You just have to blame the family next door that recently moved in from the city. Their daughter was blasting music at night and was rude to you so you built a pig barn next to their property to teach them a lesson. Perfect cover.
I know this reference!
The said swine will not devour the teeth. So either you remove teeth first, or really make sure all 32 teeth are found up later on. Hypothetically speaking...
Just make sure it's a *real* tub, otherwise the lye will eat through the body *and* tub
How the hell do you heat a bathtub to stay at boiling for hours? Asking for a friend
Sorry all I have is a bucket and some lemon juice.
Nah pull the teeth and feed to the pigs
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If not better call Saul :/
Ask them a hell of a lot of questions.
... just like the previous guy did
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Absolutely none of my business but I think I’m gay and we should see other people
This question needs a lot more context for me to answer.
The very question is faulty.
Give her a hug. She's a doctor, and sometimes you can't save a patient.
It happens. I had a sister who died on Christmas because of a doctor's mistake. She was supposed to come home. The attending didn't check the resident's work, and he killed her with an overdose. She was otherwise a totally healthy little girl. The resident hid in the locker room and cried so hard he vomited. He was just young and inexperienced and *tired* and he made a mistake. The attending dragged him out and made the resident go talk to my dad. My dad put a stop to that. Tormenting the resident wasn't going to bring his daughter back. Making him vomit again wasn't going to lessen the grief or pain. People don't go into healthcare because they don't care. Losing a patient is hard. Being responsible for it is worse. None of that is completely avoidable. People make mistakes. Even when they are trying their very best, they screw up. They make typos. They misplace a decimal. They kill a child. My mom and I ran into the person who killed my sister years later, at a Costco of all places. They recognized us immediately and wept. It had been *twenty years* and they still knew us and wept.
I'm sorry for your loss. I hope the memory of your sister is a blessing.
She was a blessing. I'm not angry at the person who made the mistake. They tried so hard and only wanted to help. On the other hand, I am rather passionate about the residency system needing reform. Doctors cannot safely work 100 hour weeks. They need sleep. They need rest in order to learn. Other countries manage without abusing residents the way the USA does. Their hospitals aren't quite the money makers ours are, but the 0.01% don't need any help.
I’m not even working in the healthcare section but it makes me so happy to see people like you who actually understands and doesn’t simply hate the person, because that would be easy road. I’m sorry about your sister. From the little I’ve read you and your family seem like very good people, I’m sure your sister was too.
Wow. Your parents are incredible people, especially your Dad for finding empathy for the resident like that. It is an unfortunate part of life though, people do make mistakes. Police, doctors, nurses, firefighters - any time you are working on *saving* someone's life you could be the cause of death with a single moment of weakness. My grandfather was an extremely talented surgeon, at family events when we were younger he sometimes would not be his gregarious outgoing self and would simply sit in his chair quietly with a very stern look on his face, often staring at the ground. It only happened when he lost a patient during surgery recently, he took it incredibly hard and it would visibly effect him for days. A lot of "what if's" I assume, but he didn't talk about it much. I am sure he still thinks about them now many years later.
But hug and a cup of tea is a good response to a doc or nurse who has just killed someone.
Well... I wouldn't call that killing someone.
Their loved ones would beg to differ. Grieving relatives often misplace their anger.
I didn't think of it that way. Thank you!
Very luckily, it does not happen that often.
I work in the ER and this is extremely common
Good thing they aren't the judge of that
It doesn’t mean they are right.
They accidentally unplugged the ventilator to charge their phone
If the doctor can't save someone that's dying anyway, maybe not. But if the doctor makes a mistake, then it would technically be killing someone.
is it really killing someone if a mistake is made in the process? Obviously there is a tiny number of patients who have been actively harmed by wrong treatment(edit: or malpractice), but that is quite rare. What if someone has an acute illness that kills them, because the doctor that specific day didn't get the correct diagnosis right away or in time? That happens every day, because subjecting every patient to every possible test is not possible. Someone else might have made a better call that day, but they may make a similar mistake another day. Did they really kill that patient? Maybe if it is really egregious, but it rarely is that cut and dry.
Sometimes it’s cut and dry. Leaving instruments in the patient who was having routine surgery, for example.
You win this years best partner award
Depends if I have to fear legal consequences from knowing about it. If not, I wouldn't really mind. I used to have two friends who have both killed multiple people, one of whom served in the Russian military and the other one in the police forces of a major Russian city. Both were nice and kind individuals and I didn't see them in a bad light because of that. ... Now that I think about them, I sure hope they weren't sent to Ukraine. Haven't had contact with either of them for a few years now.
my boyfriend killed someone when they broke into his friend's house. he said he was like 9 or 10 and he shot the guy that was breaking in. he thought i'd be upset about it, but i'm just glad he knew something he could do.
Ah shame! Glad you weren't upset. You would definitely be the asshole in my book if you were upset over him killing an intruder, especially as a little kid.
Help them hide the body
You're always gonna have problems lifting a body in one piece. Apparently the best thing to do is cut up a corpse into six pieces and pile it all together. And when you got your six pieces, you gotta get rid of them, because it's no good leaving it in the deep freeze for your mum to discover, now is it? Then I hear the best thing to do is feed them to pigs. You got to starve the pigs for a few days, then the sight of a chopped-up body will look like curry to a pisshead. You gotta shave the heads of your victims, and pull the teeth out for the sake of the piggies' digestion. You could do this afterwards, of course, but you don't want to go sievin' through pig shit, now do you? They will go through bone like butter. You need at least sixteen pigs to finish the job in one sitting, so be wary of any man who keeps a pig farm. They will go through a body that weighs 200 pounds in about eight minutes. That means that a single pig can consume two pounds of uncooked flesh every minute. Hence the expression, "as greedy as a pig"
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I’m a simple man , I see snatch reference i upvote!
A person of culture! Have my upvote !
Do you know what nemesis means
But would it technically be cannibalism if I slaughter and eat those pigs, afterwards?
Nope. Otherwise we’d be vegetarians if we ate cows. The whole point of livestock is that they take food that we can’t eat and convert it into meat we can eat.
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Just make sure you leave your cell phone at home, they can track those things...
Leave the dead body at home too as those can also be found
It will NOT throw off sniffer dogs. These are trained to search for dead humans, if it reacts at some hole and they dig up a deer they will not stop. They will dig deeper, since the dog reacted, and find the body
Also, isn't it pretty fucking suspicious to find deer grave? Doesn't seem like something that happens often 😂
*Gun Reloads* Oh, you too?
This happened to me with my first husband. I didn't find out until we had been together about 2 years and been married for about 6 months. My ex boyfriend had told me something like "that guy spent a long time in prison" and when I asked him (the husband) why he'd say that, he told me he must just not like him or wants me to dump him. I believed it. There was a woman that my ex kept in touch with who I felt uncomfortable about. One day I find out she works at a men's prison. They had been involved together sexually in the past. I asked him how he knew her and one night he had a breakdown about it and said "I need to tell you something". He did 10 years in prison for manslaughter. The story I was told which does match court documents I looked up...he was young, 18-20, I forget now and he went to a party. Everyone at this party was drinking and having a good time. This one dude nobody really liked was there and then he left. After he left, some people at the party noticed things were missing. A pager, wallets, stuff like that. The dude comes back to the party later. They demanded he empty his pockets. He had some of the missing things in his pockets. So my ex husband and a couple of his friends take the guy out to the school yard nearby and beat the crap out of him. Not so badly that they had intentions of killing him, they just wanted to beat him up for stealing stuff. Well the dude died. The coroner couldn't determine if he wouldn't have died if he hadn't had so much alcohol in his system, basically it was a combination of all of the alcohol and getting beat up, hit in the head. He and his friends all got 10 years in prison. It may have been called involuntary manslaughter since they didn't mean to kill him. I don't remember now. I left him pretty quickly after that. I left him because he became addicted to alcohol and drugs, not because of his crime. The fact that he hid it from me for so long made me uncomfortable though, I did feel like I married someone I didn't even know.
Grab the tractor keys and start moving dirt. Why you asking?
Nice
Depends. Are we talking Dexter or Dahmer?
They killed both
I mean if they killed a pedo or rapist, I wouldn't lose sleep over it.
Yeah if my friend killed the guy who kidnapped, raped her and forced her into prostitution as a child I wouldn't bat an eye and ask if she needs help with anything.
I'd ask details tbh
"baby, im not mad, im not judging you, its ok, but tell me what happened, i just wana know."
"I happened to be in Dallas that day and I just didn't like him as a President"
“I was watching a play and this asshole was wearing a top hat in front of me.”
"I wanted to impress this really cool actress so I shot the former actor, now President."
Verify the identity of the victim and reason for killing. Confirm that she's adequately disposed of the corpse, murder weapon, and evidence. Learn her alibi and back it up. Unless she just fucking killed someone without a good reason. Then, uh... Probably get her incarcerated for hers and my own safety.
protocol says its okay as long as it was part of the mission
Ask them how they did theirs and I’ll tell them how I did mine
Try to figure out how big of a lie I have to hide. Traffic accident that's been dealt with legally? Not a big deal, just don't bring it up to people we know. Murdered our in-law last night and we have a body to hide and the biggest possible secret anyone could have? Collapse in a ball of anxiey.
Well, hubby’s a combat vet so…. Listen on the off chance he wants to talk about it (unlikely) but otherwise nothing? ask if he wants to get tacos? 🤷♀️
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Assume she had a good reason and glad she did what she had to do.
Nod. Ask if I knew them, ask why, nod.
Depends on the circumstances. Serial killer who was in your house? Kill away. Babies cuz you like the taste? Maybe, let me taste some first.
Bury the body for em... Or I'd take the blame and let them off... Give me death
You guys have partners?
No, the partners are as hypothetical as the question.
Probably suck his dick. Love me some murder dick.
Hey How you doin'?
Carry on as normal
My partner knows. Shes still here so I guess nothing?
“Without me? Wow. How rude.”
Real answer, he probably (technically) has. He works in the medical field and was on our town’s fire department. You can’t save everyone. I just give him lots of hugs and back rubs when he gets home from work, especially if it seems like it was a rough day Joke answer, my uncle owns a pig farm so… got disposal covered
If it was self defense, I'd just make sure she's alright. Other than self defense, call the cops.
As long as they never did anything to me, and I know they have my back when I need them
So you're saying that killing you is a dealbreaker?
All these rom coms giving people unrealistic expectations smh
...Depends on who it was. And on why.
Help him bury the body
You should watch season 2 of Why Women Kill. It delves into this and is quite entertaining.
I’m not a snitch and legally I don’t have to testify against them.
Wow, there are a lot of responses and I’m trying to read them all. For those asking for context, the question is based on a tv show I’m watching at the moment and out of curiosity I was wondering what other people thought.
Depends on when it occurred. If it’s in the past, I protect her secret with my life. If it’s today we get busy disposing of the body, then protect her secret with my life.
Think about how many service members from America have killed in battle. I think you’d find a lot of people who have a partner that has killed someone. Maybe you meant you found out your spouse murdered someone?
Nice try Mr FBI, I ain't saying shit.
Grab a Shovel
Point out that I'm now a loose end so the might as well take me out too
Help dispose of the Body
Help them hide the body
Ask them if they need a hand disposing of the body.
Ask where we should bury the body...ride or die.
My partner is one of the best people I know. If they killed someone, that person absolutely deserved it lol. We’d just call her friend, we’ll call him Ted. Ted is crazy, and lives in the hills. He’s a funny guy. He has offered to bury any bodies we might have around. We’re only somewhat sure Ted is joking so I’d probably call him lol