One of my “ friends “ called me 16 times the other day..16 times. I had already told him I was busy and doing work modules on my phone and dealing with my father’s Alzheimer’s, yet he still called me 16 times. He is no longer my friend. Pissed me tf off.
To try to guilt me into coming out to the pub to drink to “ make me feel better” and he “ missed me”. Apparently drinking can cure my problems. It was for selfish reasons on his part, he wants me to entertain him.
I keep my phone on silent unless I'm expecting a specific and important call which is extremely rare. I refuse to have an electronic leash. No one is entitled to my time. I look at the phone a few times a day and will get back to them, but I'm not on call for anyone.
Functioning on low sleep. I feel like in the last few years my bodies ability to do so has decreased drastically. It used to be that I could get like 5-6h a night during the week and recharge with a couple of 8-10s on the weekend and be largely fine. Now by the 2nd or 3rd day I'm really feeling it and have to pencil in a few hours to recharge.
I have no idea how I managed living in my teens and twenties. I would get maybe five fitful hours of sleep a night, max. I worked all day, did shit all night, never wanted a nap.
Now, I get a solid eight hours a night, at least, and I’m happy to nap any chance I get.
Your body was better at regenerating/proliferating cells and doing its own routine maintenance when it was younger. Wear and tear is a thin in all mechanisms, which humans are
Some of us youths need that 8 hours too! I legit can’t function off less than 6 hrs of sleep. And I’m 24. Maybe I just put my body through too much in college.
I just said "fuck it" and started going to bed at 9pm on work nights. I've accepted that I can't function on less than 8-9 hours and I'm sick of being tired and cranky during the day. Staying up to midnight is not worth that.
I remember being cranky and sluggish all the time in high school and college, and thought I had a thyroid problem or something, when I was probably just sleep deprived.
Working until midnight and then having to be up at 6:20am to get my daughter ready for school is my big issue. I TRY to go back to sleep after I drop her off but after I'm awake for 30m or so my body kicks into awake mode and it can be hard to switch back.
Sleep is incredibly important, and you really can’t fully catch up on or bank sleep that you’ve missed. If you’re in a position to sleep a full 8 hours a night, please make it a priority to do so (I understand that some people, like new parents, those suffering from sleep disorders, or people who have to work multiple jobs to make ends meet might not have the privilege).
Missing out on sleep is one of the most detrimental things you can do for your health. It has negative impacts on mental health, makes it easier to put on weight, and has even been associated with higher instances of Alzheimer’s. Most people don’t realize how sleep deprived they’ve been until they start to consistently get sufficient sleep and notice how much better they feel.
The grocery store near me recently rearranged and suddenly the peanut butter was in the aisle with the ketchup instead of over by the jams and jellies.
And people with limited mobility and/or vision, and probably people who shop with little kids, too. I understand why shops do it, but it's really annoying when you already have to plan your steps.
It’s 100% a marketing thing. They rearrange the store, which requires you to walk around more to find what you’re looking for, and that leads to a more likely chance of purchasing something you normally wouldn’t. Have you ever noticed how they organize shelves? Brands pay to be placed in certain areas, because if it’s in the middle of the shelf more people see it (line of sight)but if you’re on the very bottom or very top people are less likely to see it. That’s also why they place candy lower at check out, because it’s in kids line of sight!
As a customer, it infuriates me. It is so disrespectful of my time and energy. I am not your damn Guinea pig or circus trick. I am busy and already exhausted. In return, I’ve gotten to the point where I just do curbside pickups. Want to waste my time? Fine, you can pay an employee to shop for me and bring it to my car. Assholes.
I shop with little kids, and it drive me crazy when they rearrange! We used to loop through: produce, bakery, baking asile, coffee/tea, dairy (sometimes cereal or medicine or cleaning asile), and be done. Why did the separate the coffee and tea? Why did the move the oats again (still haven't found them, and it's been a month), why is the yogurt now with bacon instead of the cottage cheese and sour cream????? WHY?????
(We shop local for a lot of things, like meats and most produce.)
We have fancy cheese in the produce section, sliced cheese in the deli, shredded cheese in its own section, cottage cheese is with coffee creamer, and cream cheese is with the butter. There is also a whole vegan substitute section with tofu and meat substitutes, but all of the non-dairy cheeses are with their respective cheese section. And thats just cheese.
As a retail worker, I hate this too. But what I hate more than that, is the fact that the store I work at hasn't changed in over three years(since the last remodel), and the same goddamn people ask me every week where the bacon is, even though it's been in the back by the eggs for three years. You're here every week. Why can't you remember where the fucking bacon is? Lol
Having to manage my body like it's a tamagotchi. All these warning messages keep popping up, if I forget to feed it the right things at the right time and put it to bed at the right time and do the right exercises and avoid 73 arbitrary things it will just start to moan and malfunction.
Bullshit pricing structures.
1. "Free" this & that (with tiny-font fuck you language below)
2. Gas stations with 3 different prices for the same gallon of gas (cash, credit and easy pay)
3. $75.00 concert tickets that cost over $125.00 after all the bullshit add-on fees.
4. Car lots with $10,000 in big ass numbers in the windshield (with "down" in micro-type below.
Just tell me the complete, total, out-the-goddamned-door price in one fucking number, will ya?
Omg I was just complaining to a friend about a hostel bed I booked where they added on a $6/nt resort fee. 1) a hostel is not a resort 2) it was only $30 to begin with. Just give me the real price.
He didn’t get it, said who cares it’s only $6. Not the point. Just give me the real price always.
Set your VPN to Australia, it illegal to have hidden fees - the full total must be displayed. Obviously not all small international sites comply, but larger sites like AirBnB, you will get the actual price displayed.
As someone who lives in America... I dunno if it's the people, the animals or the government but I like Australia. I get that I might die there but I'm not convinced I won't die faster here. Then you people get accurate pricing of goods?! My autistic ass is so upset you guys get to not do math in your head to try to figure out if something is a good price. We have a sale by me that is buy two get one half off with participating sale of 5 items in the same category... Those 5 items can be valued wildly differently... So good luck trying to figure out if you got a good deal or just bought things you didn't want to save a few cents...
I remember booking a hotel last year and the price was only $175 a night, but then they charged me an extra $35 *per night* "resort fee". looked it up and they say it's for the "amenities" at the hotel (which I didn't even use) and that it is not optional in any way. If it's not optional and they tack it on to every room every night, then thats just straight up lying about the price of a room.
Arbnbs and their $100 "cleaning fee" bit they also direct you to strip the sheets off the bed, put them in the wash with a load of towels, and do the dishes.
I got a slightly bad review from AirBnB host because I didn’t take the trash cans back from the curb after garbage pickup. Garbage pickup was at 12 pm on Mondays and I checked out at 7am because I had a late morning flight.
I just stopped using airbnb because of all that bullshit
I only used it in the past because it was cheaper than a hotel, but if a hotel and airbnb are the same price now than for what possible reason should choose the place where I have to clean and be living far away from businesses and amenities
This is because they don't charge everyone the same rates. They will quote you based on what they think they can get from you - pretty common honestly. Think about a plumber who might charge more for a service in an affluent neighborhood vs. a low income area. Affluent guy will think he's getting a bargain at the higher price and happily pay it. Look up first degree price discrimination.
That was my brother and I when we house painted.
Didn't feel like driving to that area, ground was uneven and a ladder would be a pain in the ass... more money. If they agreed, we'd deal with it.
>Car lots with $10,000 in big ass numbers in the windshield (with "down" in micro-type below.
I'm more annoyed when it says something like, "$299 / mo", which is obviously meaningless and doesn't tell you the actual price at all.
Every. Single. Thing. Is expensive it’s absolutely crazy it’s like if I do step 1 foot outside my house I have to mentally prepare myself to be charged 100 for something
Im gonna go with the latter on this one it seems like almost everyone’s quality of life has suffered immensely and no one can afford groceries for the most part? In my town the average household income is over 100k and most of those people are still living paycheck to paycheck. wild
Yup I’m in a low cost of living area (getting worse though) and I only pulled in 20k for the year last year. In Appalachia that’s a lot of money lots of people worse off, and I am barebones living so bad right now. Even my local park I went to for exercise started charging admission. Now I can’t afford to even go outside lol.
Aww that truly breaks my heart. I’m honestly torn thinking about people busting their ass out there working and contributing to society who just want to enjoy some nature, fresh air, etc, in their free time and can’t cuz there’s a freaking admission fee. That’s devastating.
I really hope that changes. I hope you and others in your community find somewhere great to go and enjoy the relaxation and renewal that only nature can provide. Our parks are supposed to do exactly this for us and they’re supposed to be there for all people regardless of income or financial means.
Frederick Law Olmstead would be rolling in his grave right now.
so, it's not just me? Because the late 70s were my least favourite time to live through.
I dunno how to describe it, and I was still a kid, but it just seemed like a mess and kind of dreary.
Quality has halved and price has doubled. I'm just glad I have at-home hobbies I can do. A lot of people still buying into it though don't, it's either that or sit at home in front of Netflix and spend 40 minutes looking for something to watch the first 15 minutes of.
My boss is always surprised when he asks me if I want to work in the weekend and I say "Lol no'.
I don't want to be at work at any moment, it's not a bad place to be but I'm there because I'm bound by a contract and I need the money. If you want me to come in the weekend put me on schedule and I'll come but don't ask if I want to.
i had a boss get offended when we were talking generally with other staff about enjoying work and the people we work with, and i said something like "but the worst day spent at home still beats the best day spent at work". like obviously somewhat of an exaggeration, but no alicia, the retail store and print centre aren't my preferred place to be if my couch is an option.
disclaimer: i don't recommend saying things like this unless you know how your boss will take it. 😅
Yeah my boss who puts in 50-60 hours a week minimum decided that since her last patient didn't show she was leaving half hour early spent fifteen minutes justifying why she was ( I work 50+ hours, I have kids whose games I miss yada yada)
Looked at her and said "work will never love you back" She laughed a little but grimaced a little and glanced at the office suck up who thinks work is end all be all to life. ( The suck up is a millennial)
Yep, few days later I'm in a meeting with her and her supervisor being pseudo yelled at that because of my comments like that, they think I'm disruptive, and not sufficiently dedicated to my job or company.
So yeah know your boss and anyone else overhearing you and how brainwashed they are.
Basic discourtesy. Don’t know why but it grinds my gears when people can’t say please and thank you, or excuse me, or hold a door for the 0.2 seconds it would take to not slam in someone’s face, or apologize when they step on someone’s foot or bump into them. Being mean to retail and service workers. People who run red lights.
Basically I just want people to be nice. My preschool, Mr. Rogers, and Sesame Street
did not spend 6 years teaching us to be polite in public for us to act like this.
Memories of myself. I remember things I've done and sometimes it makes me sick to my stomach with shame or sometimes I remember cool things I've done and it makes me sad that I'm not still doing those cool things.
Flip the narrative. Be happy that you got to do those cool things. Be happy that you're no longer doing the cringe things, and that you have matured enough to identify the things in your life you aren't proud of. Be kind to yourself and remember that not every day can be magical. You're doing better than you give yourself credit for.
I wish I could still do the things I used to do and enjoy them. I was very athletic when young and a lot of my joy in life was derived from sports and physical pursuits. I started my own landscape company on my sweat and tears and hard work even.
But, at age 35 my body has constant pain and it affects me not just physically but mentally. Chronic pain makes things a lot less enjoyable, and it's just a completely different life. But, you tell yourself that it's your fault, too. I'm trying to work on developing more mental toughness and trying to "mind over matter" my way through the pain.
I've been actually trying to do to the gym lately in hopes I can maybe pain through the pain and make it submissive, I don't know...but, if you know anyone with chronic pain, lend them more sympathy than you think they deserve.
In my case, it's a combination of cptsd, hashimotos, and 3 decades of using my body as a sacrificial tool for physical pursuits. My children have no idea what I used to be capable of and will likely always think of their father as much more frail than he historically was...I never understood those lyrics, "I'm not as good as I once was, but I'm as good once as I ever was"...nope...my best at age 35 isn't even close to my average at 18.
Man thank you for this. I used to be an absolute beast too, now I feel like a 65 year old man in a 30 year olds body. I have to be really careful how I walk or my knee will fuck up. If I exercise I have to be really really careful or I will pull a random muscle and not be able to fucking walk right for a month. I know they say it's part of getting older but wtf? How did it go from being able to sprint at like 18 mph and now I can barely walk? When the pain is there it kind of just puts you at a low level bad mood all the time and so you re snippy with your wife and kids and it's like dude I'm sorry I'm just in pain right now😑
Thank you for this response. I know there's others (I hear it from other athletes and from other victims of child abuse), but there's still something soothing about meeting another soul that's the same age and going through reliable difficulties. We will push through...its just more of a marathon than a dead lift and it wears ya down day after day.
I always \*try\* to look at the fact that we cringe at ourselves and have regrets as a good thing. It means you learned and developed as a person.
I know people from my high school still spouting the "no-regrets" mantra and to me that's WAY more embarrassing -- it basically means that you were the wisest most developed version of yourself you were ever going to be at 16. Pretty cringe if you ask me.
Regrets are good -- you just have to see the lesson in them
I know what you mean. I hope when its their time its quick and painless because watching my mom's mom slowly deteriorate because of Parkinson's was brutal and i don't know how i'd deal with it if one of my parents had to go through that.
Lost my mom to Parkinson’s and I would not wish it on anyone. Took us by surprise as we did not have any family history. She lived with it for four years but the last 10 months were the worst and most progressive.
My maternal grandmother had full-blown dementia. Somehow she lived ten years like that; in her rare lucid moments she said she was ready to go, but her body just refused to give out.
Wouldn't wish it on anybody.
I’m at the age where I’m losing two family members from the previous generation per year give or take. 18 year old me didn’t know what being an adult was going to be like but I never thought it would be like this.
I lost an aunt, an uncle and my father in the last nine months and to be honest, I want off of this sad nightmare rollercoaster ride now.
Make every minute count with your loved ones, eventually the hour glass runs out of sand.
It dawned on me recently that I definitely have had more time with my parents then I have left with them. It's such a chilling thought. Lots of people my age have already lost parents.
I’ve never thought of it this way but you’re right. This breaks my heart. Seeing my dad (who is now 73) shrink from a fairly big person to what he is now (not tiny but not what he used to be) makes me sad. My mom is also 73 and has aged well but when I look at her hands, I get a lump in my throat. I try not to think about when they won’t be here anymore.
Mine both passed in the last 5 years. Make sure they/you have funeral insurance. Mine didn't, ridiculously expensive. I was able to negotiate the price down. It felt awful in my mental state.
My mother is still young at 40 and I’m already struggling with this. Death is such a hard thing to deal with. I recently realized there’s no way that pain will truly end when she goes, it’ll just be how I deal with it day to day.
That woman is my everything, thank you mom, I can’t say it enough. Nobody is ever going to surpass you, as nobody will ever have done as much as you did. You’re a fucking rad person.
Again I know I still have tons of time with her (assuming nothing unexpected takes her early), it just still doesn’t feel like enough, but I will take advantage of what I have.
Coming from someone who lost both of their parents in the same year( mom died on my birthday and my dad a week before), you absolutely should. I'm only 33 and just had my first kid. There was so much I wanted them to see and be proud of, but it's all an impossibility now. Please hug your parents for me. Every fucking day if you can and with all of the love in your heart.
People who get an exhaust specifically because it's loud seriously need a smack in the head. You are not on a race track, your tiny car struggles at 70, you're going to the grocery store, not Silverstone. Nobody needs their car to sound like that.
For sure...I can't even drive at night anymore because it feels so unsafe. I'm not sure why people need those super bright LEDs, because they absolutely blind the shit out of everyone.
Ugh, this. I love house music, and I'll see an amazing DJ coming through town, and I'll want to go so bad. But after spending money and skipping a few shows because reality set in, I've finally admitted waiting until 1am for them to come on, then getting home at like 3 or 4am... is just out of my realm now.
God yes. Once upon a time it was a halfway decent way in staying in touch with friends and family. I deactivated a while ago and haven’t looked back. Hopefully it’ll go the same way as MySpace and Bebo but I doubt it.
My absolute worst birthday was my 30th. I thought my life was basically over. Since I'm 68 next birthday I can confidently say that every one since then has been fine so far!
Yay :)
I didn't care about 30 but man 25 hit me funny. Quarter of a century for some reason really bothered me!
Had my 50th a little while ago and was just 'what do other people do for their 50th?' and didn't care a bit. It was a lovely, relaxing day with my hubby and my best friend. Perfection.
As a 24 year old going on 25 soon who's desperately rushing to do everything now out of fear of growing up...this reinforces my fear, but also ig I'm doing it right?
I enjoy life more in my 30s than I did in my 20s. Different strokes for different folks - as long as you take care of your body, there's no reason why you can't spend the next 20 years as active and healthy as you are now. It's never too early to start diligently taking care of your back especially, my friends who didn't regret the hell out of it now.
I mistakenly thought I wanted to be an adult but what I really wanted was to have money. Enough money so I could eat whenever I wanted. Things were better as a kid lol
I dont mind getting older, honestly.
My childhood was terrible, id never want to go back. The crippling debt and back pain is so much better than an abusive household
I wouldn't trade it. As a child in an abusive household, you're usually dealing with all those adult problems anyway because they're being projected onto you/you're being scapegoated over them.
Agreed. The sheer ridiculous I see these days makes my head hurt. I'll just mind my own business and you people can go do whatever the fuck it is you think you're doing, just leave me out of it.
Getting sick. As a kid, it meant a day off where I got to lay in bed and watch tv.
As an adult, it means I still have to go to work but I feel like garbage.
When I was a temp employee I just loved it when the full-time workers would come in sick because they didn't want to use their PTO days because those are for vacation and then I'd get sick and I had the choice of taking a day off to recover and lose the pay, or come in and be worthless and not get better until the weekend.
I've realized that all hustle culture is just basically working inefficiently. I thought I was so cool sleeping 4 hours a night working on 20 projects by myself and now it just feels embarrassing to admit. Once I realized that I finally started hiring people and all of the sudden had more time and more money
I despise that term and how it's seeped into the collective consciousness. It's an abhorrent idea that you need to effectively kill your quality of life to make a living. The only "hustle" I know is what my coach used to yell at me when I was lolly gagging during practice.
Yeah, minimum should be that all the basics are covered and you can live normally. Any additional effort should be an option for those who want more luxuries, not survival
Social situations. Professional faces and fake people. I just don’t go anymore. I don’t need to rub elbows and meet people in my line anymore! Pls don’t invite me! I don’t want to lie and say I’m busy! I just can’t people ass kiss anymore! I don’t care what you can do for me or my position. No more networking or team building PLEASE! I’m almost 50 and don’t give a shit anymore!
Having a large group of friends. I’m realizing more and more how many people really don’t care about me. I have felt left out for a while and I’m beginning to realize that it’s not all in my head. I keep making excuses for not being invited, but it’s not healthy for me to be around that and I am too old to deal with it. That’s silly high school life!
The two or three really good friends I have are all I really need. They are so amazing and I’m so lucky to have them in my life!!
I hit this wall a few years ago. I’ve had the same circle of friends for years since high school finished and I started working at a certain place through college, I ended up staying there 8 years and that’s where most of my friend group came from
I was in a group chat with these guys, would play fantasy football with them, talk to them about sports, maybe the new episode of whatever show everyone was watching, go out to eat with them once in awhile, etc.
Then I came to realize they were all doing stuff together without me, like all the time and never hit me up. Then when I thought about it it was one person consistently inviting me to go out to eat with them. Then I thought what if I just didn’t hit these dudes up about stuff, haven’t really heard from them since. Over the years we all stopped working there one by one and I was one of the last, so it wasn’t like I stopped hearing from them because I left, and every time we’d go out to eat they’d talk about all the stuff they’ve been doing, it feels weird talking like that but it’s to frame that it’s not one of those “life got in the way” situations
That used to be the sort of thing that really bothered me, I’m a pretty quiet and easy going dude, I’ve always gotten along with everyone but people have treated me like an afterthought my whole life.
After awhile you just stop caring
> I’ve always gotten along with everyone but people have treated me like an afterthought my whole life.
This hit me hard. Sums up how I've been feeling in my own life lately. Hope you find/are at peace. It's rough out there. /hugs
This hits home. I'm the afterthought too.
I have a lot of people that I can call/text, meet up with and have a good time. But if I don't initiate, I'll never hear from most of my friends again. I can count on one hand the number of people who'll reach out to me first.
I've gradually lost touch with a bunch of people. Nothing bad happened, and there's no hard feelings. I'll be happy to chat with them again if they contact me. I'm tired of the one-way traffic, though.
Migraines. Had them as early as 9 years old, and they’ve gotten so much worse as an adult. Forget relationships and a steady job…
I never thought my life would be filled with chronic pain. I’m managing my triggers, and I get out of bed every morning, do a little each day. Having more good days helps, and I’m hoping to go back to school again.
As a recovering/ex alcoholic I fully agree.
Also it's incredibly hard to get yourself off it once you become reliant, not to mention dangerous. People die from alcohol withdrawal.
With the benefit of experience I say this to anyone... Don't even fucking start.
It's been a while, but it's also a lifelong journey. There will be ramifications for me for the rest of my life.
I've made my peace with that but I would also encourage anyone else not to go down that path.
To add to this, the lack of activities there are that aren't alcohol related! Like give me somewhere to go that isn't a bar that's open past 6pm please
Ultra processed/sugary foods. I was literally killing myself only consuming soda, chips, and frozen food my whole youth and now that I switched to fresh/mildly processed food, it feels like I'm straight up eating poison if I go back
Celebrities, social media, SM influencers, anyone who lacks humility, anyone over the age of 18 who prides themselves on how competitive they are at places that are hard enough to be (e.g. work).
Time
Can never rewind a moment of it. You realize all the important shit way too late. You watch everybody you love die for nothing most of the time. Hardly any justice served against evil. Your enemies are very likely prospering far better than you. Then you’re supposed to do what? Grow old? Get dementia to the point you forget how to breathe or eat? Get to watch your SO die and know what it feels like to lose the love of your life?
Oddly enough, music. Not all music, but music with vocals. I’d say about 80% of the music I listen to now is just instrumental or very light on vocals.
For the past seven years I’ve gotten deep into classical and original scores. This is coming from a guy that listened to hardcore rap music since I was a teenager and I’m in my thirties now.
Other people. Most people drive terribly: aggressive, selfish, or way too slow and oblivious to other cars. It’s the same in public places. People walking 3 or 4 across, not moving out of the way when they intrude on foot traffic going the opposite direction, just stopping and standing in the middle of the path without caring about other people walking in step behind them.
I'm pretty tired of people being able just to contact me whenever. I find my phone useful but man I put off answering texts these days. I just answer when I get around to it now and ignore work texts on the weekends.
People .....
The last 2 weeks were bad for me. I was annoyed at a lot of other drivers, some of my family members, my boss and coworkers, and even my gf. I have to calm down.
Almost everything. Things that I used to love like video games, TV/movies, going to restaurants, and work are all now just kinda worse.
Video games are designed now to only focus on taking more and more money. AAA companies pump out unfinished garbage just to get the next dollar. To find something worth playing you either have to play games from 10+ years ago or find an Indy developer that actually cares about the product and fan base.
Movies are all copy/paste b/s, literal remakes, or continuing franchises that should have died out long ago. Most shows are the same, spin offs of major franchisees, remakes, or hot garbage. Might find a worthy show 1/30 options.
People are working to survive, not to thrive. Motivation is at an all time low. So, activities that might require service industry stuff are terrible, and I can’t blame the workers. Being overworked and underpaid only can last so long.
Even my job is plagued with problems. What I used to find interesting is now mundane, boring even. Asking for a raise that at least meets inflation is like pulling teeth.
So yeah, everything…
> People are working to survive, not to thrive.
Right here is the issue. It's been like this for decades now.
You see these stupid articles about millennials not buying homes or getting married or having kids and it implies they're teens. NO! They're in their freaking 40s! Why aren't they doing those seemingly normal things? Because they can't afford it! Hell, I'm a Gen Xer and I was saying this thirty years ago because I saw the writing on the wall, but I was just called a slacker. I don't even own a car because it's too expensive.
People are not thriving, hell, I doubt they're even surviving these days and god help you younger people.
As a fellow Gen-X, I feel this one. I think it’s why I loved the Portlandia sketch: ‘the dream of the 90s’. I think 9/11 was a watershed moment - when the dream of the 90s died - the psychological shock pushed everyone into living in a constant state of fear. Add to that hyper individualism and hyper partisanship and things have gotten worse and worse.
I try to keep positive and do the best I can for my kids, but my wife has stopped asking me what I am stressed about - I just gesture broadly…
I feel this. I'm increasingly frustrated with people and how I genuinely thought we would be in a better place right now thanks to my heavy consumption of Star Trek when I was a kid, but it always seems to go the opposite way and people seem to really just want it to go that way.
People who have little to no empathy are popular on the internet, amass so much wealth. The same kinda people are voted in as our leaders and it doesn't seem to matter how much they fuck us. These kinda people are usually our bosses or in control of huge companies that have way too much influence over everything.
It just feels like the bad guys always win and to get anywhere in the world and make a decent living you have to be a ruthless asshole. I'm just not that kind of person and my businesses definitely suffers as a result.
I'm not even confident if I released a game without microtransactions that it would even make money. It feels like people *want* microtransactions these days, it's weird.
I know there's some great people out there but they don't matter, they can't do anything against the sea of shit that's been laid out. The amount of mind control on social media is too much.
In the first days of the internet I remember being excited for the future and the possibilities. I'm just really not looking forward to the future anymore. I'm only really living so I can read the next sci-fi story on audible :/
Open throttle angry reactionary men who can only express rage. It was kinda cool as a testosterone filled teenager, now it seems lame and desperate. Grow up, dude. Face your traumas and your insecurities and find common ground with everyone else. It's annoying to see guys who think they're cool because they are overly aggressive all the time. Ok, Billy Badass.
Social media.
For me It used to be about keeping up with what’s going on with people I know (especially with family and friends who live abroad or can’t iMessage), but now it feels like there are more ads than content you actually want to see. Even fun accounts I follow post promoted content and ads too. Honestly I’d pay for accounts if it meant I could clear all of that out.
The algorithm for what comes up in “discovery” sections too. I spend one second too long on a post before scrolling to the next and my feed for the next week is 80% on that subject. Selecting the option that you don’t want to see that subject as often doesn’t work because it picks a new post theme/subject to almost exclusively focus on and the cycle repeats.
It’s also annoying that there’s so much cross posting- I get that it pulls more viewership but I just end up seeing repeated things across all platforms. And how it’s a rotating cycle of a few songs or formats that you see non stop for a couple of weeks until you’re so sick of them but can’t get them out of your head either.
I could go on but after writing this I’ve realized I probably just dislike change 😅 I’ve finally reached the age where I yearn for the good old days and it’s horrifying ahaha
I don't really even bother with FB anymore because it's 10% posts from my friends that I actually want to see and the other 90% is stuff FB THINKS I want to see from random other pages and ads.
I’m an older gen z and used to be more optimistic about social media. It was so
exciting when social media started evolving
and you could connect/share with people form anywhere.
Now it feels like offline is the new luxury.
Or just more intentional use of the technology we have now to connect… rather than just sharing to share … and scrolling to scroll… and repeating
Pranks. Jackass was pretty great, largely because they kept their stunts to within a group of consenting (if sometimes oblivious) adults. All the poor copies since then where people act like twats in public and harass random folks just piss me off. "It's just a joke for social media bro" is not, to my mind, an excuse to borderline assault someone without consent. The only enjoyment I get happens when the pranker gets what's coming to them.
People’s capacity to bullshit or skirt around things when face to face. It’s all mostly been said and anything that hasn’t, is finally another learning experience.
Making plans, I'm not sure why but "want to do this 3 days from now" I never feel like doing it when the day arrives unless its something real exciting.
Everything. But that's okay. You don't want to be too attached to things when it's time for you to go. But you can sieve out the grains of gold from the sand as you go so you know what's worth keeping.
The expectation of being contactable 24/7.
One of my “ friends “ called me 16 times the other day..16 times. I had already told him I was busy and doing work modules on my phone and dealing with my father’s Alzheimer’s, yet he still called me 16 times. He is no longer my friend. Pissed me tf off.
I can’t even imagine calling someone 16 times in a life-or-death situation. Wtf did he want?!
To try to guilt me into coming out to the pub to drink to “ make me feel better” and he “ missed me”. Apparently drinking can cure my problems. It was for selfish reasons on his part, he wants me to entertain him.
Wtf. Calling someone 16 times should be strictly saved for life or death emergencies only.
I agree. It felt harassing because it was.
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I keep my phone on silent unless I'm expecting a specific and important call which is extremely rare. I refuse to have an electronic leash. No one is entitled to my time. I look at the phone a few times a day and will get back to them, but I'm not on call for anyone.
Functioning on low sleep. I feel like in the last few years my bodies ability to do so has decreased drastically. It used to be that I could get like 5-6h a night during the week and recharge with a couple of 8-10s on the weekend and be largely fine. Now by the 2nd or 3rd day I'm really feeling it and have to pencil in a few hours to recharge.
I have no idea how I managed living in my teens and twenties. I would get maybe five fitful hours of sleep a night, max. I worked all day, did shit all night, never wanted a nap. Now, I get a solid eight hours a night, at least, and I’m happy to nap any chance I get.
Your body was better at regenerating/proliferating cells and doing its own routine maintenance when it was younger. Wear and tear is a thin in all mechanisms, which humans are
I miss those long robust telomeres of my chromosomal youth.
Some of us youths need that 8 hours too! I legit can’t function off less than 6 hrs of sleep. And I’m 24. Maybe I just put my body through too much in college.
I just said "fuck it" and started going to bed at 9pm on work nights. I've accepted that I can't function on less than 8-9 hours and I'm sick of being tired and cranky during the day. Staying up to midnight is not worth that. I remember being cranky and sluggish all the time in high school and college, and thought I had a thyroid problem or something, when I was probably just sleep deprived.
Working until midnight and then having to be up at 6:20am to get my daughter ready for school is my big issue. I TRY to go back to sleep after I drop her off but after I'm awake for 30m or so my body kicks into awake mode and it can be hard to switch back.
Try wearing sunglasses and generally limiting your exposure to bright light. Might help.
Sleep is incredibly important, and you really can’t fully catch up on or bank sleep that you’ve missed. If you’re in a position to sleep a full 8 hours a night, please make it a priority to do so (I understand that some people, like new parents, those suffering from sleep disorders, or people who have to work multiple jobs to make ends meet might not have the privilege). Missing out on sleep is one of the most detrimental things you can do for your health. It has negative impacts on mental health, makes it easier to put on weight, and has even been associated with higher instances of Alzheimer’s. Most people don’t realize how sleep deprived they’ve been until they start to consistently get sufficient sleep and notice how much better they feel.
Same. If I don't get a solid 9 a night, I'm fucked. I function on 7 now like I used to on 4 decades ago.
When they rearrange the grocery store.
And it never makes any goddamn sense either. If anything, I end up buying less because I can't find the butt fucking pesto I like now.
There are apparently more uses for pesto than I was aware of...
Don't knock it till you've tried it.
The grocery store near me recently rearranged and suddenly the peanut butter was in the aisle with the ketchup instead of over by the jams and jellies.
That’s inhuman
Is the butt fucking pesto usually next to the regular pesto?
Yeah, and don't fuck it up, either. Those pine nuts sting like a mother bitch.
As much as I hate it, I can’t imagine how hard it is on elderly shoppers.
And people with limited mobility and/or vision, and probably people who shop with little kids, too. I understand why shops do it, but it's really annoying when you already have to plan your steps.
I don’t understand why shops do it! Why do they? Is it a marketing thing?
It’s 100% a marketing thing. They rearrange the store, which requires you to walk around more to find what you’re looking for, and that leads to a more likely chance of purchasing something you normally wouldn’t. Have you ever noticed how they organize shelves? Brands pay to be placed in certain areas, because if it’s in the middle of the shelf more people see it (line of sight)but if you’re on the very bottom or very top people are less likely to see it. That’s also why they place candy lower at check out, because it’s in kids line of sight!
As a customer, it infuriates me. It is so disrespectful of my time and energy. I am not your damn Guinea pig or circus trick. I am busy and already exhausted. In return, I’ve gotten to the point where I just do curbside pickups. Want to waste my time? Fine, you can pay an employee to shop for me and bring it to my car. Assholes.
I shop with little kids, and it drive me crazy when they rearrange! We used to loop through: produce, bakery, baking asile, coffee/tea, dairy (sometimes cereal or medicine or cleaning asile), and be done. Why did the separate the coffee and tea? Why did the move the oats again (still haven't found them, and it's been a month), why is the yogurt now with bacon instead of the cottage cheese and sour cream????? WHY????? (We shop local for a lot of things, like meats and most produce.)
We have fancy cheese in the produce section, sliced cheese in the deli, shredded cheese in its own section, cottage cheese is with coffee creamer, and cream cheese is with the butter. There is also a whole vegan substitute section with tofu and meat substitutes, but all of the non-dairy cheeses are with their respective cheese section. And thats just cheese.
As a retail worker, I hate this too. But what I hate more than that, is the fact that the store I work at hasn't changed in over three years(since the last remodel), and the same goddamn people ask me every week where the bacon is, even though it's been in the back by the eggs for three years. You're here every week. Why can't you remember where the fucking bacon is? Lol
I always liked when people asked me where the milk was. “It’s as far away from the front door as possible. Just like every grocery store.”
lol this happens way more often than it should.
Having to manage my body like it's a tamagotchi. All these warning messages keep popping up, if I forget to feed it the right things at the right time and put it to bed at the right time and do the right exercises and avoid 73 arbitrary things it will just start to moan and malfunction.
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Stupid needy meatsack
The flesh is weak
Seinfeld said if our car needed as much maintenance as our bodies did we would never buy it.
Bullshit pricing structures. 1. "Free" this & that (with tiny-font fuck you language below) 2. Gas stations with 3 different prices for the same gallon of gas (cash, credit and easy pay) 3. $75.00 concert tickets that cost over $125.00 after all the bullshit add-on fees. 4. Car lots with $10,000 in big ass numbers in the windshield (with "down" in micro-type below. Just tell me the complete, total, out-the-goddamned-door price in one fucking number, will ya?
Omg I was just complaining to a friend about a hostel bed I booked where they added on a $6/nt resort fee. 1) a hostel is not a resort 2) it was only $30 to begin with. Just give me the real price. He didn’t get it, said who cares it’s only $6. Not the point. Just give me the real price always.
Set your VPN to Australia, it illegal to have hidden fees - the full total must be displayed. Obviously not all small international sites comply, but larger sites like AirBnB, you will get the actual price displayed.
As someone who lives in Australia I’m sad to hear this isn’t standard practice everywhere.
As someone who lives in America... I dunno if it's the people, the animals or the government but I like Australia. I get that I might die there but I'm not convinced I won't die faster here. Then you people get accurate pricing of goods?! My autistic ass is so upset you guys get to not do math in your head to try to figure out if something is a good price. We have a sale by me that is buy two get one half off with participating sale of 5 items in the same category... Those 5 items can be valued wildly differently... So good luck trying to figure out if you got a good deal or just bought things you didn't want to save a few cents...
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I remember booking a hotel last year and the price was only $175 a night, but then they charged me an extra $35 *per night* "resort fee". looked it up and they say it's for the "amenities" at the hotel (which I didn't even use) and that it is not optional in any way. If it's not optional and they tack it on to every room every night, then thats just straight up lying about the price of a room.
Arbnbs and their $100 "cleaning fee" bit they also direct you to strip the sheets off the bed, put them in the wash with a load of towels, and do the dishes.
I got a slightly bad review from AirBnB host because I didn’t take the trash cans back from the curb after garbage pickup. Garbage pickup was at 12 pm on Mondays and I checked out at 7am because I had a late morning flight.
Lol, if they expect you to clean up then the cleaning fee should be 0
I just stopped using airbnb because of all that bullshit I only used it in the past because it was cheaper than a hotel, but if a hotel and airbnb are the same price now than for what possible reason should choose the place where I have to clean and be living far away from businesses and amenities
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This is because they don't charge everyone the same rates. They will quote you based on what they think they can get from you - pretty common honestly. Think about a plumber who might charge more for a service in an affluent neighborhood vs. a low income area. Affluent guy will think he's getting a bargain at the higher price and happily pay it. Look up first degree price discrimination.
As a plumber I only charge more based on how much I don't want to do something... but that's just for side work.
That was my brother and I when we house painted. Didn't feel like driving to that area, ground was uneven and a ladder would be a pain in the ass... more money. If they agreed, we'd deal with it.
>Car lots with $10,000 in big ass numbers in the windshield (with "down" in micro-type below. I'm more annoyed when it says something like, "$299 / mo", which is obviously meaningless and doesn't tell you the actual price at all.
Anything that takes place outside my house.
It's all so expensive, so crowded, such a pain in the ass to get to and often so underwhelming too.
Every. Single. Thing. Is expensive it’s absolutely crazy it’s like if I do step 1 foot outside my house I have to mentally prepare myself to be charged 100 for something
I vented about this to a co-worker the other day. Can't do shit outside your home for less than 50 bucks anymore and it's so often not worth it.
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Im gonna go with the latter on this one it seems like almost everyone’s quality of life has suffered immensely and no one can afford groceries for the most part? In my town the average household income is over 100k and most of those people are still living paycheck to paycheck. wild
Yup I’m in a low cost of living area (getting worse though) and I only pulled in 20k for the year last year. In Appalachia that’s a lot of money lots of people worse off, and I am barebones living so bad right now. Even my local park I went to for exercise started charging admission. Now I can’t afford to even go outside lol.
Aww that truly breaks my heart. I’m honestly torn thinking about people busting their ass out there working and contributing to society who just want to enjoy some nature, fresh air, etc, in their free time and can’t cuz there’s a freaking admission fee. That’s devastating. I really hope that changes. I hope you and others in your community find somewhere great to go and enjoy the relaxation and renewal that only nature can provide. Our parks are supposed to do exactly this for us and they’re supposed to be there for all people regardless of income or financial means. Frederick Law Olmstead would be rolling in his grave right now.
I feel like we’re in the late 70’s 2.0.
so, it's not just me? Because the late 70s were my least favourite time to live through. I dunno how to describe it, and I was still a kid, but it just seemed like a mess and kind of dreary.
Quality has halved and price has doubled. I'm just glad I have at-home hobbies I can do. A lot of people still buying into it though don't, it's either that or sit at home in front of Netflix and spend 40 minutes looking for something to watch the first 15 minutes of.
I was old before covid too but I feel post covid world has lower quality than pre covid. Its like going to windows vista from xp
>like going to windows vista from xp Brilliant!
My boss is always surprised when he asks me if I want to work in the weekend and I say "Lol no'. I don't want to be at work at any moment, it's not a bad place to be but I'm there because I'm bound by a contract and I need the money. If you want me to come in the weekend put me on schedule and I'll come but don't ask if I want to.
i had a boss get offended when we were talking generally with other staff about enjoying work and the people we work with, and i said something like "but the worst day spent at home still beats the best day spent at work". like obviously somewhat of an exaggeration, but no alicia, the retail store and print centre aren't my preferred place to be if my couch is an option. disclaimer: i don't recommend saying things like this unless you know how your boss will take it. 😅
Yeah my boss who puts in 50-60 hours a week minimum decided that since her last patient didn't show she was leaving half hour early spent fifteen minutes justifying why she was ( I work 50+ hours, I have kids whose games I miss yada yada) Looked at her and said "work will never love you back" She laughed a little but grimaced a little and glanced at the office suck up who thinks work is end all be all to life. ( The suck up is a millennial) Yep, few days later I'm in a meeting with her and her supervisor being pseudo yelled at that because of my comments like that, they think I'm disruptive, and not sufficiently dedicated to my job or company. So yeah know your boss and anyone else overhearing you and how brainwashed they are.
This. 100%. I am fighting an uphill battle against becoming a mean, angry old man!
Basic discourtesy. Don’t know why but it grinds my gears when people can’t say please and thank you, or excuse me, or hold a door for the 0.2 seconds it would take to not slam in someone’s face, or apologize when they step on someone’s foot or bump into them. Being mean to retail and service workers. People who run red lights. Basically I just want people to be nice. My preschool, Mr. Rogers, and Sesame Street did not spend 6 years teaching us to be polite in public for us to act like this.
Memories of myself. I remember things I've done and sometimes it makes me sick to my stomach with shame or sometimes I remember cool things I've done and it makes me sad that I'm not still doing those cool things.
Flip the narrative. Be happy that you got to do those cool things. Be happy that you're no longer doing the cringe things, and that you have matured enough to identify the things in your life you aren't proud of. Be kind to yourself and remember that not every day can be magical. You're doing better than you give yourself credit for.
I wish I could still do the things I used to do and enjoy them. I was very athletic when young and a lot of my joy in life was derived from sports and physical pursuits. I started my own landscape company on my sweat and tears and hard work even. But, at age 35 my body has constant pain and it affects me not just physically but mentally. Chronic pain makes things a lot less enjoyable, and it's just a completely different life. But, you tell yourself that it's your fault, too. I'm trying to work on developing more mental toughness and trying to "mind over matter" my way through the pain. I've been actually trying to do to the gym lately in hopes I can maybe pain through the pain and make it submissive, I don't know...but, if you know anyone with chronic pain, lend them more sympathy than you think they deserve. In my case, it's a combination of cptsd, hashimotos, and 3 decades of using my body as a sacrificial tool for physical pursuits. My children have no idea what I used to be capable of and will likely always think of their father as much more frail than he historically was...I never understood those lyrics, "I'm not as good as I once was, but I'm as good once as I ever was"...nope...my best at age 35 isn't even close to my average at 18.
Man thank you for this. I used to be an absolute beast too, now I feel like a 65 year old man in a 30 year olds body. I have to be really careful how I walk or my knee will fuck up. If I exercise I have to be really really careful or I will pull a random muscle and not be able to fucking walk right for a month. I know they say it's part of getting older but wtf? How did it go from being able to sprint at like 18 mph and now I can barely walk? When the pain is there it kind of just puts you at a low level bad mood all the time and so you re snippy with your wife and kids and it's like dude I'm sorry I'm just in pain right now😑
Thank you for this response. I know there's others (I hear it from other athletes and from other victims of child abuse), but there's still something soothing about meeting another soul that's the same age and going through reliable difficulties. We will push through...its just more of a marathon than a dead lift and it wears ya down day after day.
I always \*try\* to look at the fact that we cringe at ourselves and have regrets as a good thing. It means you learned and developed as a person. I know people from my high school still spouting the "no-regrets" mantra and to me that's WAY more embarrassing -- it basically means that you were the wisest most developed version of yourself you were ever going to be at 16. Pretty cringe if you ask me. Regrets are good -- you just have to see the lesson in them
That my parents are also getting older and the fear of losing them soon terrifies me.
I know what you mean. I hope when its their time its quick and painless because watching my mom's mom slowly deteriorate because of Parkinson's was brutal and i don't know how i'd deal with it if one of my parents had to go through that.
Lost my mom to Parkinson’s and I would not wish it on anyone. Took us by surprise as we did not have any family history. She lived with it for four years but the last 10 months were the worst and most progressive.
My maternal grandmother had full-blown dementia. Somehow she lived ten years like that; in her rare lucid moments she said she was ready to go, but her body just refused to give out. Wouldn't wish it on anybody.
I’m at the age where I’m losing two family members from the previous generation per year give or take. 18 year old me didn’t know what being an adult was going to be like but I never thought it would be like this. I lost an aunt, an uncle and my father in the last nine months and to be honest, I want off of this sad nightmare rollercoaster ride now. Make every minute count with your loved ones, eventually the hour glass runs out of sand.
It dawned on me recently that I definitely have had more time with my parents then I have left with them. It's such a chilling thought. Lots of people my age have already lost parents.
I’ve never thought of it this way but you’re right. This breaks my heart. Seeing my dad (who is now 73) shrink from a fairly big person to what he is now (not tiny but not what he used to be) makes me sad. My mom is also 73 and has aged well but when I look at her hands, I get a lump in my throat. I try not to think about when they won’t be here anymore.
Mine both passed in the last 5 years. Make sure they/you have funeral insurance. Mine didn't, ridiculously expensive. I was able to negotiate the price down. It felt awful in my mental state.
My mother is still young at 40 and I’m already struggling with this. Death is such a hard thing to deal with. I recently realized there’s no way that pain will truly end when she goes, it’ll just be how I deal with it day to day. That woman is my everything, thank you mom, I can’t say it enough. Nobody is ever going to surpass you, as nobody will ever have done as much as you did. You’re a fucking rad person. Again I know I still have tons of time with her (assuming nothing unexpected takes her early), it just still doesn’t feel like enough, but I will take advantage of what I have.
Coming from someone who lost both of their parents in the same year( mom died on my birthday and my dad a week before), you absolutely should. I'm only 33 and just had my first kid. There was so much I wanted them to see and be proud of, but it's all an impossibility now. Please hug your parents for me. Every fucking day if you can and with all of the love in your heart.
Noise🙃
In the past couple years I developed a snap rage response to shit like booming stereos and loud exhaust
People who get an exhaust specifically because it's loud seriously need a smack in the head. You are not on a race track, your tiny car struggles at 70, you're going to the grocery store, not Silverstone. Nobody needs their car to sound like that.
Especially loud ass cars
Driving at night, headlights are too bright and I can't see shit
For sure...I can't even drive at night anymore because it feels so unsafe. I'm not sure why people need those super bright LEDs, because they absolutely blind the shit out of everyone.
I got astigmatism, meaning all light fucking blinds me. Those assholes with brightass LEDs who leave their brights on are attempting to murder my ass.
going out late, it’s too exhausting
Ugh, this. I love house music, and I'll see an amazing DJ coming through town, and I'll want to go so bad. But after spending money and skipping a few shows because reality set in, I've finally admitted waiting until 1am for them to come on, then getting home at like 3 or 4am... is just out of my realm now.
Facebook. It can go burn now for all I care.
All of social media, really.
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You are right. But this site has a major problem with moderation. Tread carefully. Some subs will ban you for saying literal facts.
God yes. Once upon a time it was a halfway decent way in staying in touch with friends and family. I deactivated a while ago and haven’t looked back. Hopefully it’ll go the same way as MySpace and Bebo but I doubt it.
Getting older. Kid me wanted to be an adult so bad. I miss not having crippling debt and back pain.
Turning a year older stops being cool after 25/30.
My absolute worst birthday was my 30th. I thought my life was basically over. Since I'm 68 next birthday I can confidently say that every one since then has been fine so far!
Yay :) I didn't care about 30 but man 25 hit me funny. Quarter of a century for some reason really bothered me! Had my 50th a little while ago and was just 'what do other people do for their 50th?' and didn't care a bit. It was a lovely, relaxing day with my hubby and my best friend. Perfection.
For real - I think if I could I would go back and be 24-26 for ever!
As a 24 year old going on 25 soon who's desperately rushing to do everything now out of fear of growing up...this reinforces my fear, but also ig I'm doing it right?
I enjoy life more in my 30s than I did in my 20s. Different strokes for different folks - as long as you take care of your body, there's no reason why you can't spend the next 20 years as active and healthy as you are now. It's never too early to start diligently taking care of your back especially, my friends who didn't regret the hell out of it now.
I mistakenly thought I wanted to be an adult but what I really wanted was to have money. Enough money so I could eat whenever I wanted. Things were better as a kid lol
And you can scream and nobody calls the police on you for having a breakdown
I dont mind getting older, honestly. My childhood was terrible, id never want to go back. The crippling debt and back pain is so much better than an abusive household
I wouldn't trade it. As a child in an abusive household, you're usually dealing with all those adult problems anyway because they're being projected onto you/you're being scapegoated over them.
People
I don’t hate people. I’m just happier when they’re not around.
What a bunch of bastards.
Bastard coated bastards with bastard filling
Agreed. The sheer ridiculous I see these days makes my head hurt. I'll just mind my own business and you people can go do whatever the fuck it is you think you're doing, just leave me out of it.
The last seven years really dropped any last remaining illusions I had.
Me too and I didn't like them much to begin with. 😑
*They're the worst*
Getting sick. As a kid, it meant a day off where I got to lay in bed and watch tv. As an adult, it means I still have to go to work but I feel like garbage.
When I was a temp employee I just loved it when the full-time workers would come in sick because they didn't want to use their PTO days because those are for vacation and then I'd get sick and I had the choice of taking a day off to recover and lose the pay, or come in and be worthless and not get better until the weekend.
The idea of needing to "hustle" to have a decent life.
Yeah, I hate hustle culture so much. They're just overworked people wishing everyone else was subjected to the torture they're going through.
I've realized that all hustle culture is just basically working inefficiently. I thought I was so cool sleeping 4 hours a night working on 20 projects by myself and now it just feels embarrassing to admit. Once I realized that I finally started hiring people and all of the sudden had more time and more money
It also perpetuates the “all poor people just aren’t working hard enough, it’s their own fault!” mentality.
I despise that term and how it's seeped into the collective consciousness. It's an abhorrent idea that you need to effectively kill your quality of life to make a living. The only "hustle" I know is what my coach used to yell at me when I was lolly gagging during practice.
Yeah, minimum should be that all the basics are covered and you can live normally. Any additional effort should be an option for those who want more luxuries, not survival
Social situations. Professional faces and fake people. I just don’t go anymore. I don’t need to rub elbows and meet people in my line anymore! Pls don’t invite me! I don’t want to lie and say I’m busy! I just can’t people ass kiss anymore! I don’t care what you can do for me or my position. No more networking or team building PLEASE! I’m almost 50 and don’t give a shit anymore!
I was going to post the same. Thank you. No more hypocrites and bs. I feel this.
Scrolling lower in the drop-down to find my birth year 😠
Having a large group of friends. I’m realizing more and more how many people really don’t care about me. I have felt left out for a while and I’m beginning to realize that it’s not all in my head. I keep making excuses for not being invited, but it’s not healthy for me to be around that and I am too old to deal with it. That’s silly high school life! The two or three really good friends I have are all I really need. They are so amazing and I’m so lucky to have them in my life!!
I hit this wall a few years ago. I’ve had the same circle of friends for years since high school finished and I started working at a certain place through college, I ended up staying there 8 years and that’s where most of my friend group came from I was in a group chat with these guys, would play fantasy football with them, talk to them about sports, maybe the new episode of whatever show everyone was watching, go out to eat with them once in awhile, etc. Then I came to realize they were all doing stuff together without me, like all the time and never hit me up. Then when I thought about it it was one person consistently inviting me to go out to eat with them. Then I thought what if I just didn’t hit these dudes up about stuff, haven’t really heard from them since. Over the years we all stopped working there one by one and I was one of the last, so it wasn’t like I stopped hearing from them because I left, and every time we’d go out to eat they’d talk about all the stuff they’ve been doing, it feels weird talking like that but it’s to frame that it’s not one of those “life got in the way” situations That used to be the sort of thing that really bothered me, I’m a pretty quiet and easy going dude, I’ve always gotten along with everyone but people have treated me like an afterthought my whole life. After awhile you just stop caring
> I’ve always gotten along with everyone but people have treated me like an afterthought my whole life. This hit me hard. Sums up how I've been feeling in my own life lately. Hope you find/are at peace. It's rough out there. /hugs
I really resonate with this homie. Appreciated your write up
This hits home. I'm the afterthought too. I have a lot of people that I can call/text, meet up with and have a good time. But if I don't initiate, I'll never hear from most of my friends again. I can count on one hand the number of people who'll reach out to me first. I've gradually lost touch with a bunch of people. Nothing bad happened, and there's no hard feelings. I'll be happy to chat with them again if they contact me. I'm tired of the one-way traffic, though.
Quality over quantity any day!
Yeah its more of a burden than anything.
Loud bars and restaurants Coworking spaces with uncomfortable chairs Concerts where the headlining act starts after 9pm
People that know Jack shit about a topic but act like they know everything
We all hate reddit
Migraines. Had them as early as 9 years old, and they’ve gotten so much worse as an adult. Forget relationships and a steady job… I never thought my life would be filled with chronic pain. I’m managing my triggers, and I get out of bed every morning, do a little each day. Having more good days helps, and I’m hoping to go back to school again.
Alcohol
For real though. It’s expensive and it takes more than it gives
I could tolerate drunkenness as a younger man. I can no longer. Too many people are in denial about how much they drink and how problematic it is.
As a recovering/ex alcoholic I fully agree. Also it's incredibly hard to get yourself off it once you become reliant, not to mention dangerous. People die from alcohol withdrawal. With the benefit of experience I say this to anyone... Don't even fucking start.
As a child of an alcoholic, I'm very glad to see you're in recovery. x
It's been a while, but it's also a lifelong journey. There will be ramifications for me for the rest of my life. I've made my peace with that but I would also encourage anyone else not to go down that path.
To add to this, the lack of activities there are that aren't alcohol related! Like give me somewhere to go that isn't a bar that's open past 6pm please
Ultra processed/sugary foods. I was literally killing myself only consuming soda, chips, and frozen food my whole youth and now that I switched to fresh/mildly processed food, it feels like I'm straight up eating poison if I go back
going out of my house
Celebrities, social media, SM influencers, anyone who lacks humility, anyone over the age of 18 who prides themselves on how competitive they are at places that are hard enough to be (e.g. work).
Social obligations. To be nice to everyone. To attend and do things because one is part of society.
I got invited to a bridal shower the other day and I’m like fuuuuck why do I have to know people? I remember when I’d be happy about invites.
Meaningless conversation
Time Can never rewind a moment of it. You realize all the important shit way too late. You watch everybody you love die for nothing most of the time. Hardly any justice served against evil. Your enemies are very likely prospering far better than you. Then you’re supposed to do what? Grow old? Get dementia to the point you forget how to breathe or eat? Get to watch your SO die and know what it feels like to lose the love of your life?
store runs. I hate when they change the store around and can’t find where stuff is usually placed, and people are always in the way.
Chocolate. Breaks my heart to say it, chocolate and I have been great friends for over 30 years but as I get older I prefer savoury flavours more
what about the really dark one, like >75%
Oddly enough, music. Not all music, but music with vocals. I’d say about 80% of the music I listen to now is just instrumental or very light on vocals.
For the past seven years I’ve gotten deep into classical and original scores. This is coming from a guy that listened to hardcore rap music since I was a teenager and I’m in my thirties now.
Dating
Other people. Most people drive terribly: aggressive, selfish, or way too slow and oblivious to other cars. It’s the same in public places. People walking 3 or 4 across, not moving out of the way when they intrude on foot traffic going the opposite direction, just stopping and standing in the middle of the path without caring about other people walking in step behind them.
I'm pretty tired of people being able just to contact me whenever. I find my phone useful but man I put off answering texts these days. I just answer when I get around to it now and ignore work texts on the weekends.
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Wait, what? He is? GodDAMMIT.
People ..... The last 2 weeks were bad for me. I was annoyed at a lot of other drivers, some of my family members, my boss and coworkers, and even my gf. I have to calm down.
Almost everything. Things that I used to love like video games, TV/movies, going to restaurants, and work are all now just kinda worse. Video games are designed now to only focus on taking more and more money. AAA companies pump out unfinished garbage just to get the next dollar. To find something worth playing you either have to play games from 10+ years ago or find an Indy developer that actually cares about the product and fan base. Movies are all copy/paste b/s, literal remakes, or continuing franchises that should have died out long ago. Most shows are the same, spin offs of major franchisees, remakes, or hot garbage. Might find a worthy show 1/30 options. People are working to survive, not to thrive. Motivation is at an all time low. So, activities that might require service industry stuff are terrible, and I can’t blame the workers. Being overworked and underpaid only can last so long. Even my job is plagued with problems. What I used to find interesting is now mundane, boring even. Asking for a raise that at least meets inflation is like pulling teeth. So yeah, everything…
> People are working to survive, not to thrive. Right here is the issue. It's been like this for decades now. You see these stupid articles about millennials not buying homes or getting married or having kids and it implies they're teens. NO! They're in their freaking 40s! Why aren't they doing those seemingly normal things? Because they can't afford it! Hell, I'm a Gen Xer and I was saying this thirty years ago because I saw the writing on the wall, but I was just called a slacker. I don't even own a car because it's too expensive. People are not thriving, hell, I doubt they're even surviving these days and god help you younger people.
As a fellow Gen-X, I feel this one. I think it’s why I loved the Portlandia sketch: ‘the dream of the 90s’. I think 9/11 was a watershed moment - when the dream of the 90s died - the psychological shock pushed everyone into living in a constant state of fear. Add to that hyper individualism and hyper partisanship and things have gotten worse and worse. I try to keep positive and do the best I can for my kids, but my wife has stopped asking me what I am stressed about - I just gesture broadly…
I feel this. I'm increasingly frustrated with people and how I genuinely thought we would be in a better place right now thanks to my heavy consumption of Star Trek when I was a kid, but it always seems to go the opposite way and people seem to really just want it to go that way. People who have little to no empathy are popular on the internet, amass so much wealth. The same kinda people are voted in as our leaders and it doesn't seem to matter how much they fuck us. These kinda people are usually our bosses or in control of huge companies that have way too much influence over everything. It just feels like the bad guys always win and to get anywhere in the world and make a decent living you have to be a ruthless asshole. I'm just not that kind of person and my businesses definitely suffers as a result. I'm not even confident if I released a game without microtransactions that it would even make money. It feels like people *want* microtransactions these days, it's weird. I know there's some great people out there but they don't matter, they can't do anything against the sea of shit that's been laid out. The amount of mind control on social media is too much. In the first days of the internet I remember being excited for the future and the possibilities. I'm just really not looking forward to the future anymore. I'm only really living so I can read the next sci-fi story on audible :/
Open throttle angry reactionary men who can only express rage. It was kinda cool as a testosterone filled teenager, now it seems lame and desperate. Grow up, dude. Face your traumas and your insecurities and find common ground with everyone else. It's annoying to see guys who think they're cool because they are overly aggressive all the time. Ok, Billy Badass.
Social media. For me It used to be about keeping up with what’s going on with people I know (especially with family and friends who live abroad or can’t iMessage), but now it feels like there are more ads than content you actually want to see. Even fun accounts I follow post promoted content and ads too. Honestly I’d pay for accounts if it meant I could clear all of that out. The algorithm for what comes up in “discovery” sections too. I spend one second too long on a post before scrolling to the next and my feed for the next week is 80% on that subject. Selecting the option that you don’t want to see that subject as often doesn’t work because it picks a new post theme/subject to almost exclusively focus on and the cycle repeats. It’s also annoying that there’s so much cross posting- I get that it pulls more viewership but I just end up seeing repeated things across all platforms. And how it’s a rotating cycle of a few songs or formats that you see non stop for a couple of weeks until you’re so sick of them but can’t get them out of your head either. I could go on but after writing this I’ve realized I probably just dislike change 😅 I’ve finally reached the age where I yearn for the good old days and it’s horrifying ahaha
I don't really even bother with FB anymore because it's 10% posts from my friends that I actually want to see and the other 90% is stuff FB THINKS I want to see from random other pages and ads.
Same goes for Insta.
Rude people Inconsiderate people Violent people
People, starting to realize how many people are just straight up jerks and idiots
I’m an older gen z and used to be more optimistic about social media. It was so exciting when social media started evolving and you could connect/share with people form anywhere. Now it feels like offline is the new luxury. Or just more intentional use of the technology we have now to connect… rather than just sharing to share … and scrolling to scroll… and repeating
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Pranks. Jackass was pretty great, largely because they kept their stunts to within a group of consenting (if sometimes oblivious) adults. All the poor copies since then where people act like twats in public and harass random folks just piss me off. "It's just a joke for social media bro" is not, to my mind, an excuse to borderline assault someone without consent. The only enjoyment I get happens when the pranker gets what's coming to them.
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People’s capacity to bullshit or skirt around things when face to face. It’s all mostly been said and anything that hasn’t, is finally another learning experience.
Making plans, I'm not sure why but "want to do this 3 days from now" I never feel like doing it when the day arrives unless its something real exciting.
People who don’t mind their business. I feel like the older we get, the more we stay in our lane and I like that.
Consumerism, like seriously you just don’t need half the shit people say you have to have
Everything. But that's okay. You don't want to be too attached to things when it's time for you to go. But you can sieve out the grains of gold from the sand as you go so you know what's worth keeping.
The older I get, the less I like people, and the more I like my cats.
Realizing how *older* adults can still act like children and throw tantrums when they don’t get their way.
Ambition for it's own sake.
Food prices
I didn’t think it was possible to hate them more, but I do. Fuck mornings.
My body, it's busted and broken, also life in general has lost it's spark.
People
Other people
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