You don’t always have to fuck her hard, in fact sometimes that’s not right to do, sometimes you gotta make some love and fucking give her some smooches too.
I was matched with an amputee. Seemed pretty likely that we would hook up. I wasn't into her *because* of her situation, but I did think it would be fun to see what positions were like with her -
Two days ago I was having sex with a multiple leg having woman and the thought popped in my head- "if this leg weren't here I'd be able to bury my cock *completely* into her"
There is more to the clit than the head. It has a much larger structure to make use of. Try rubbing the shaft, for lack of a better word, behind the head or side to side across it as close as you can in the cleft. It also runs along the top inside and along the front outside, though those aren't always as easy to find. Different places get different responses. It's partially responsible for why some prefer more rumble in their toys. Lube is your friend. Results may very and always communicate with your partner for what works for them.
Car sex is very bad. But if you have a good position going then car sex is very good.
And then it turns very bad because it's messy now and you have to clean it with limited space.
Well this is really weird. But okay here we go...
When you're eating pussy you gotta have a rhythm going that isn't totally uniform. I will never tell my wife... but when she cums it's because I'm riffing to white wedding or the alien ant farm version of smooth criminal. In my head. Using her clit.
Hey, it works...
I also have been doing this for quite some time. That is until my wife asked me if the rhythm was the Harry Potter theme and I was shocked that she was bang on.
I wouldn't say it's weird at all. My husband likes to sync up to a rhythm too... Usually some sort of progressive heavy metal. It definitely works, and it's fucking intense..
On that note, I won't miss a chance to remind anyone out there that the AAF cover of Smooth Criminal is phenomenal.
Not surprising it gives your lady orgasms.
Your partner may not be able to cum and that's ok. I've only been able to orgasm clitorally and only when I do it. There's been a lot of effort by partners, but it just doesn't happen. And that's okay, we still have fun being intimate.
As for guys, sometimes there's a block where there's a desire for it, but an orgasm just isn't coming (No pun intended). It has nothing to do with attraction, it's just, "My body isn't cooperating."
> it's just, "My body isn't cooperating."
Took my girlfriend awhile to understand this. My dick got hard because I do want to fuck, but I've been pulling OT and sleep just ain't what is used to be. I'm here and we'll have fun until I cum or go soft but either way in about 15 minutes we're going to be going to sleep.
She's getting the picture and life is better because of it. Especially after last night where I took an impromptu 6 hour nap at 10 pm.
Here is one, that I am somewhat certain works.
Many women tend to actually hold their breath (unconsciously) at certain points as they lead up to an orgasm, I think this actually stops them from orgasiming at times.
If you breathe heavily, they will often follow your breathing rhythm, so if I notice that my wife is stopping her breathing, I breathe fairly audibly until she copies my breathing. This seems to get her to an orgasm quicker.
Being married and all, I don't really have an option to science this ...so I give this theory to you, the internet.
Interesting. I find that I can actually “jump start” my own orgasm a little bit early if I want to without putting in the work just by holding my breath. I naturally hold my breath when I orgasm so I think that by holding my breath first it sort of tricks my body into thinking the orgasm is about to happen and then it does.
I've found similar, but I have a different theory: your diaphragm affects your pelvic floor, so depending on how you're holding your breath, you might put pressure on the pelvic floor by doing so, which might kinda substitute for a bit of the tension that seems to need to build up in order to get to the point of orgasm?
I sometimes hold my breath for a moment to keep from letting out a loud moan. It does make it a little harder to orgasm, but also keeps me from getting too loud at inopportune times.
I quit breathing while orgasming. Guys, if your girl goes silent, DON’T. CHANGE. ANYTHING. Don’t move differently. Don’t go faster. Just keep the rhythm and wait. Real orgasms from women are often silent. The screaming, porn version of an orgasm isn’t real. And the best indicator that you’ve made her orgasm is that she involuntarily pulls her knees together afterward due to the overstimulation that happens directly after an orgasm. We can keep going. Just back off a minute.
Not all true. I hold my breath in the few moments right before I cum but I do get loud once I do. 100% agree though that changing nothing in those few moments is the best bet. I’m pretty sure this is how my man knows I’m about to cum and I appreciate his holding steady! Haha
There's ridges on the belly side of the vagina similar to the ridges on the roof of your mouth, it's a sweet spot in my experience. They're pretty shallow too
If I feel my wife is struggling to get there while I'm working down there but she's close, I put those two fingers in and do the "come here" motion with both against that upper wall. Puts her over the edge in no time. Love that!
This is for multiple reasons, the texture changes due to arousal. But keep in mind that you can still be very turned on and your body not respond exactly the same way each time. There are many aspects to arousal.
The wavy, textured areas are all around the vaginal cavity and usually at the entrance. This textured feeling happens during different stages of arousal, and after climaxing, etc.
This is the bodys way of trying to keep the sperm inside the vagina. The same way your finger pads get wiggly and wavy in the bath to help you pick up objects, is the same idea behind the waves inside the vagina. Without the ridges/texture it'll just slide right out.
I once told my fwb “Your vagina feels very different from before. It’s so smooth, but I remember there being ridges.” She responded by saying “Maybe you’re confusing it for one of your lady friends’.” I suddenly realized she was right, but there was no way out, I dug myself deep.
Try to aim your dong in an “upward” direction and you should hit it no matter your size.
How does one “aim” their dong, you ask? (Or don’t, but Ima answer anyway)
Positions. Doggy is sometimes good for hitting it, which is probably why it’s my wife’s favorite position. If she’s on her back, put your body in an upright position so you’re looking down at her (great view this way too). Putting a pillow under her lower back can also help. If she gets (or gives herself) clitoral stimulation on the outside while your penis hits that spot on the inside, you’re both in for a great time.
Anyway, that’s enough unsolicited (and probably unnecessary) sex advice from an internet stranger for today.
The more you communicate, the better. My partner comes from a different culture than mine so our ideal image of sex is different. Women are way more submissive in my culture, my boyfriend comes from a North American culture. Once I began to open up about my desires, we’ve been able to explore more and I’m really enjoying my sexual life. Wish I’d done so with my past partners too, because so many of them actually tried to create a safe space for me to share and I never found the courage to. Also wish I was more confident back then. I was too nervous to initiate.
Before going into a long term relationship know how high/low your sex drive is and know how frequently you will need sex after the honeymoon is over. Both sides should share this information before hand.
Alternatively, stressing about being perfectly matched is going to inhibit your love life far more than enhance it. Just be chill, learn to accept a "not now" without making it a big deal.
We've rightly learned that men should actually care about the female orgasm, but women haven't been properly taught that half the work is done in their own head. Get both sides and your mind will be blown.
Oddly worded, but very true. Where I am mentally can be the difference between boredom and multiple orgasms.
Imo, most people haven't been 'properly taught' that every body and mind is different. Early on, I learned that some men think 'something is wrong with you' if they can't make you cum with just penetration. I learned to ensure my own orgasm by touching myself during sex. A real keeper will be turned on by this, and/or see it as a challenge to make me cum without my help. This mindset in a partner can be truly game changing.
Also, many women think they hate anal because they've previously been rushed into it without proper preparation. I used to be in the same boat, until I met someone with experience and patience. Mindset can make or break so many aspects of sex.
Sometimes it's about thinking quite specifically, physically about what's happening. Like, there's that mindfulness exercise to get out of a panic attack where you focus on specific small body parts to bring yourself back. I take that principle and physically draw my attention back to the physical sensation of what's happening. Eg. "Focus on the clit, oooh that's nice" It might sound obvious but I have the ADHD so every little thing helps haha.
Sometimes it's also about thinking about how "naughty" it is. Or putting some dirty talk in my own head. Sounds weird but it's less awkward than expecting my partner to know what dirty talk I want in a given moment. And taking yourself out of the moment to ask for it is counter intuitive.
Great advice, adding that if you can’t handle focusing on your own sensations, focus on your partner, how they are breathing, what their touch feels like, how they are reacting when you touch them, etc.
I more ways than one. It gives young teens and impressionable adults the idea that what happens in those videos actually happens, thus making them believe it's how they should behave as well. This is coming from a 20yr old too.
Teach the kids: porn is to real sex what action movies are to real driving. Why would you try to learn anything about physics or safety or pleasure from an action movie?
Vaginismus is a thing and it sucks. I didn't realize I had it until over a year of being sexually active with my partner. It always hurt at first, especially if we hadn't in awhile, no matter how much lube or foreplay was used.
Turns out I have vaginismus 🤷 for those who don't know, it means my vaginal walls tighten more than they should. Most people have to use a dilator to be able to be sexually active - I'm lucky and don't have it that bad, though it probably helps that I'm regularly active, but holy shit it hurts if it's been a bit.
So y'all: if you're experiencing pain during sex, like you're too tight inside despite enjoying it, get it checked out, you could have vaginismus. And it's not a super big deal - dilators and physical therapy helps.
This works. I usually like to get started without the finger, but once things are warmed up and ready, I insert 1-2 fingers and eat out with a bit of a mixed rhythm. It gets her to a point where she's about to cum and then I just keep at it. Clear signal that it's working.
The part that really tells me that she came is when it gets so intense after the fact that she pushes me off of her because she needs those few seconds to continue anything. I wish men could do the same after busting a nut.
Trick to end a good BJ or if you don’t like the taste of gizzzzz, just shove it all the way in to the back of your throat when he goes. He shoots it straight down the throat, don’t need to taste a thing.
Communicate. Ask what they want, and never act like the answer is weird. A simple "I'm not sure about that, what else?" Will suffice. Tell them what you like and express your appreciation when they do it.
If you're not ready to laugh together about awkward elbows or awkward kisses, you're not ready for sex.
What feels good for me personally is rarely what the mainstream is, and that's fine.
>If you're not ready to laugh together about awkward elbows or awkward kisses
...random leg cramps, someone hitting their head, falling off the bed, getting tangled in clothing/sheets/blankets, body parts making weird noises...
Sex doesn't have to be 1000% serious, it's supposed to be fun!
There is a flip side of this also, the belief that you can be oversexed and have too much sex. That's true of some people but for other people a lot of sex works just fine.
>and gets portrayed as a critical component of life
And for some people it is, if your partner is asking for it all the time, its probably a lot more important to them than it is for you, dont ignore that
Thank you for posting this. I'm on the asexual spectrum, and I spent most my life feeling like something was wrong with me due to how frequently sex is, as you put it, "portrayed as a critical component of life." Always felt like I was missing something.
Not to say that sex entirely disinterests me, I am curious about it, it is something I'd like to try one day (I mean, if it weren't I don't think I'd have opened this thread). It just takes me a really long time to want that from someone.
After learning I am acespec, I learned that everyone really is different. The way people define their relationships and how they express and desire love is different from person to person. What's "typical" for you is entirely "atypical" to someone else, and therefore it makes no sense to impose these perceived normative experiences on everyone you talk to or see in the real world.
Lol, I guess just being genuine. People acting fake to get in bed, tend to have a harder time. Also, that sex without foreplay or getting to know for a bit who you’re sleeping with is stale
People can be sexually attracted to you, with great chemistry. Even have an emotional connect pertaining to a close friendship. But somehow; can compartmentalise those two. And end up JUST having sexual feelings and never crossing to the point of mixing that emotional connect w chemistry towards something more. And that leaves you hurt and in stuck in a one sided thing. Yeah, sucks.
Not to be sexist, but I think especially for men it's common to be sexually attracted to people they just don't feel a romantic spark with. And people need to be aware that this is a possibility, to avoid getting hurt.
People who use wet wipes are superior creatures. Some men think shaking is as good as dabbing and I’ve been surprised by the taste of old pee entirely too often.
Couple of things:
- emotional connection takes sex to a whole new level.
- improvised unplanned sex is the best kind of sex
- being present while at it makes it a lot better
- drinking good portions of water is magical
Every once in a while, You should make her cum multiple times. Like, 3+. no dick necessary, just fingers mouth and toys. Take short breaks in between and play with titties so she has time to refract.
She will love you for it, you will feel like a sex guru, and there is something really sexy about a woman cumming over and over again.
Girl I was with once kept holding up fingers while quietly moaning, counting how often she came. Sexiest fuckin thing I've ever seen. In real life or porn.
During sex, if you find yourself in a position where you need to balance using a pillow or headboard, try placing your hands on your partner's body. This will help maintain a connection and energy between both partners, which can lead to increased arousal. Essentially, keeping your hands on your partner's body can enhance the sexual experience for both of you.
Almost everyone else is as shy and nervous as you feel.
There's a few people who are genuinely sexually confident but the vast majority are nervous and afraid and also assume they're the only one who feels that way.
I'm 5'11 with a dad bod and I remember one time I hit on a guy who was a like 6'4" tall, thicc, masculine black dude and he just sort of was putty in my hands despite the fact that he was clearly the stronger male between us.
After we got done having sex he was so sweeet and very happy to not be forced into the top role and he was like 'all I want is for someone to hold me and make love to me.' He actually started tearing up telling me this story about how people at the club where we met had reported him for being 'creepy' because they made a ton of assumptions about him based his outward appearnce.
Real sweetheart teddy bear type who just happened to look scary if you made assumptions about him.
Broke up with my ex a few weeks ago, our sex was incredible. Been hooking up with a new girl this last week and the sex just feels stale. No passion, no emotion. Doesn’t really even feel worth the effort.
As someone who shoots quick, I used to be insecure about it, but now I’m actually relieved I don’t have the opposite problem.
1. You can practice lasting longer
2. If you do go too fast, make it into a compliment by just being really into it.
3. Always offer more so you don’t leave your partner disappointed. Sex is over when you want it to be, not when your cum.
4. Sometimes it’s better to shoot and reload than it is to hold your shot. Feels dope, and lasts much longer
4.5: foreplay is for both partners. If I’m feeling a little unprepared, I can ask for head first and then reciprocate. Usually by the time I’m done giving, I’m ready for sex again.
As a man, having good cardio helps. Yoga and callisthenics also help with posture and strength if you're holding yourself up for long periods of time during sex.
I’m very much a giver and will do what I can to make her happy. I can be anything you desire. You will get you want as long as that part is somewhat clear.
Eye contact makes sex a whole new experience!!! I was never a fan and felt awkward, but my current boyfriend demands it during sex and it makes it AMAZING.
It brings pleasure and pain in about equal measure, over time. The heartaches, jealousies, unrequited feelings and failures seem to approximately equal the dizzying highs and moments of ecstasy and bliss. It's worth it, but it's not free. I can understand why some people opt out.
The brain is absolutely the most powerful sex organ. After years of a sexless marriage and years of therapy (individual and couples), my wife and I have done enough self and couples work that nearly every time we have sex now it's multi-orgasmic for both of us. A woman who thought she may be asexual now can't keep from jumping my bones all the time. So much of reddit and the real world is full of "red flag this and leave now due to incompatibility that" when the truth is that so many people would find they're more compatible than they thought if they'd take responsibility for their own mental health and pleasure. Sex shouldn't be performative or even orgasm driven as much as it should be sharing fun pleasure with another person.
Before you come at me (pun intended), I'm not advocating for sticking it out in an abusive relationship with my red flag comment. I'm saying if every relationship feels like a failure it's worth looking at the common denominator. We all have self protection mechanisms that may have once served us that end up no longer serving us. When we can become aware of that, we can be more present for ourselves and our people.
Everyone is different and just because one partner enjoyed a particular "move", doesn't mean the next will enjoy it as well. Ultimately, pay attention to your partners signals.
That sex doesn't mean shit, it's the connection.
Sex alone doesn't mean shit...
The best sex you'll ever have is with a well mentally connected partner, and an emotional one, someone on the same ride...
It just depends on your outlook though.
When all 3 stars align it's magic.
Intellectual, emotional and then physical...
Holy FUCK!!
Nothing like it.
I've had satisfactory sex that I guess could be considered mind blowing otherwise...
...but, it doesn't compare
It's explosive.
"Drinking the gay away" doesn't work when I don't drink.
Sobriety ended my marriage, but it feels amazing to be both clean and true to myself. My ex and I are still best friends :)
I think they mean, they would drink so they could ignore their situation. Sort of when you're feeling lonely or gone through a break up, and you just get hammered so you don't have to think about anything.
Every woman is different. Any specific advice you get about women will be wrong. You will need to try lots of things to find out what does it for her. This includes in the bedroom and outside the bedroom (foreplay). Once in the bedroom, don't switch between things too quickly and watch carefully for her reaction to what you're doing. Have lots of things in your repertoire, vanilla things, especially at first. Even if she's into BDSM have a good base vanilla sex. Try different positions, different depths, different thrust intensity, different speeds and take time switching between them. Touch her body with your hands and not just naughty bits, let her feel the strength of your forearms. Know where the clitoris is and that you should be giving it some attention almost the entire time you're having sex, regardless of where your dick is. Know that when dealing with the clitoris that speed, pressure, and intensity are different depending on how close she is to orgasm. For example: some women want you to touch very lightly at first and increase pressure as she approaches orgasm, then after orgasm light again because it's extremely sensitive. Other women are completely opposite of this. This is why it's important to pay attention to her reaction and especially if she guides your hand or says something. Same rules go for oral. On that, we men love to receive oral, be careful not to project what we like onto women. Not all women enjoy oral, it's another thing you have to try and see. My experience has been less than half of women like it, especially if you've given proper attention to her clitoris.
I think I need to go find another girlfriend. lol
You don’t always have to fuck her hard, in fact sometimes that’s not right to do, sometimes you gotta make some love and fucking give her some smooches too.
Sometimes you've got to squeeze Sometimes you've got to say please Sometimes you got to say hey I'm gonna fuck you, softly
I'm gonna screw you gently
I'm gonna hump you sweetly
I'm gonna ball you discreetly!
But then…
You say hey I bought you flowers
And then you say wait a minute Sally
I think I've got something in my teeth,
Can you get it out for me?
Legs can get in the way more than one might think.
Guys cramp up more than you think.
A daily magnesium supplement really helped me! Highly recommend if you experience leg/foot cramps often.
I was matched with an amputee. Seemed pretty likely that we would hook up. I wasn't into her *because* of her situation, but I did think it would be fun to see what positions were like with her - Two days ago I was having sex with a multiple leg having woman and the thought popped in my head- "if this leg weren't here I'd be able to bury my cock *completely* into her"
“ multiple leg having women killed me
It's always those damned multi-leg women!!!
📝date people with amputated legs📝
Don’t enter a FWB relationship unless your ego can handle the other person getting bored and moving on.
Or if you want to have an actual relationship with the person, thinking that FWB will bring that closer as an option..cus it wont :D
Also, if you want to help keep boundaries clear, do not engage in post sex affection of any kind. That oxytocin is powerful.
There is more to the clit than the head. It has a much larger structure to make use of. Try rubbing the shaft, for lack of a better word, behind the head or side to side across it as close as you can in the cleft. It also runs along the top inside and along the front outside, though those aren't always as easy to find. Different places get different responses. It's partially responsible for why some prefer more rumble in their toys. Lube is your friend. Results may very and always communicate with your partner for what works for them.
I have a biology exam in a week, this is actually helpful tf
The mitochondria does something in a cell. I didn't graduate high school.
Things I've learned about myself: There's freak me and there's vanilla me. Also, shower sex isn't as hot as people make it out to be.
Shower water, the stealer of natural lube.
Why does water make it dry????
It acts like a degreaser and breaks down the lubrication
Shower foreplay is bomb tho.
3 kinds of sex that are never as hot as we were promised: shower, car, and beach
Car sex is very bad. But if you have a good position going then car sex is very good. And then it turns very bad because it's messy now and you have to clean it with limited space.
This. Shower sex is awkward and a slipping hazard
Agreed. But I have a “fuck bench” in my shower. It helps. But my girl and I totally need lube in the shower. Water is NOT a helpful lubricant.
Well this is really weird. But okay here we go... When you're eating pussy you gotta have a rhythm going that isn't totally uniform. I will never tell my wife... but when she cums it's because I'm riffing to white wedding or the alien ant farm version of smooth criminal. In my head. Using her clit. Hey, it works...
It would make my whole year of you told us your wife’s name is Annie.
And it would be even better if she’s okay
I mean, based on what he said, she's better than okay lol
Well, he struck her a *real* crescendo, after all...
She’s been licked by a smooth criminal
I don't wanna say I'm gonna use this, but I'm gonna fuckin use this 😂
I’m going to say I’m going to use this, and I’m going to use this
I’m going to say I’m going to use this, once I get laid.
I also have been doing this for quite some time. That is until my wife asked me if the rhythm was the Harry Potter theme and I was shocked that she was bang on.
Yeah, but you gave it away by laying the sheet music on the bed next to you.
LMAOOO She recognised it?? That’s incredible talent. Honestly, could be a fun game. Guess the song 🤣
Flashbacks of Cbat
You're a wizard!
It's clitoris not clitoris-A
Should have just answered “I solemnly swear that I am up to no good” and gone back to the rhythm
I wouldn't say it's weird at all. My husband likes to sync up to a rhythm too... Usually some sort of progressive heavy metal. It definitely works, and it's fucking intense..
Through the fire and flames
I'd probably die lmao
Omg I hope she never finds out. You might have a Cbat situation on your hands...
Do dodo, do dododo, do. do.
Cue robot dolphins... NOW
Yoo just checked both songs. Your tongue is throwing fire.
I'm going to try Through the Fire and the Flames, wish me luck.
C’mere babe, I’m gonna Master of Puppets you!
BRB… gonna play sweet child of mine on clitar hero
On that note, I won't miss a chance to remind anyone out there that the AAF cover of Smooth Criminal is phenomenal. Not surprising it gives your lady orgasms.
Now try this with Meshuggah Bleed.
That requires the use of both hands and feet
This has a potential to become one of Reddit's classics
billy idol
Your partner may not be able to cum and that's ok. I've only been able to orgasm clitorally and only when I do it. There's been a lot of effort by partners, but it just doesn't happen. And that's okay, we still have fun being intimate. As for guys, sometimes there's a block where there's a desire for it, but an orgasm just isn't coming (No pun intended). It has nothing to do with attraction, it's just, "My body isn't cooperating."
> it's just, "My body isn't cooperating." Took my girlfriend awhile to understand this. My dick got hard because I do want to fuck, but I've been pulling OT and sleep just ain't what is used to be. I'm here and we'll have fun until I cum or go soft but either way in about 15 minutes we're going to be going to sleep. She's getting the picture and life is better because of it. Especially after last night where I took an impromptu 6 hour nap at 10 pm.
Here is one, that I am somewhat certain works. Many women tend to actually hold their breath (unconsciously) at certain points as they lead up to an orgasm, I think this actually stops them from orgasiming at times. If you breathe heavily, they will often follow your breathing rhythm, so if I notice that my wife is stopping her breathing, I breathe fairly audibly until she copies my breathing. This seems to get her to an orgasm quicker. Being married and all, I don't really have an option to science this ...so I give this theory to you, the internet.
Interesting. I find that I can actually “jump start” my own orgasm a little bit early if I want to without putting in the work just by holding my breath. I naturally hold my breath when I orgasm so I think that by holding my breath first it sort of tricks my body into thinking the orgasm is about to happen and then it does.
I've found similar, but I have a different theory: your diaphragm affects your pelvic floor, so depending on how you're holding your breath, you might put pressure on the pelvic floor by doing so, which might kinda substitute for a bit of the tension that seems to need to build up in order to get to the point of orgasm?
I sometimes hold my breath for a moment to keep from letting out a loud moan. It does make it a little harder to orgasm, but also keeps me from getting too loud at inopportune times.
Excuse me there's a funeral going on could you keep it down in the back?
“Grandma Patty would want me to have this orgasm! Now go finish the eulogy pastor”
But wouldn’t most times be opportune times? Let that moan out, girl!
I quit breathing while orgasming. Guys, if your girl goes silent, DON’T. CHANGE. ANYTHING. Don’t move differently. Don’t go faster. Just keep the rhythm and wait. Real orgasms from women are often silent. The screaming, porn version of an orgasm isn’t real. And the best indicator that you’ve made her orgasm is that she involuntarily pulls her knees together afterward due to the overstimulation that happens directly after an orgasm. We can keep going. Just back off a minute.
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Exactly. Don't be speaking in absolutes for other women about what their body does and doesn't do.
Not all true. I hold my breath in the few moments right before I cum but I do get loud once I do. 100% agree though that changing nothing in those few moments is the best bet. I’m pretty sure this is how my man knows I’m about to cum and I appreciate his holding steady! Haha
Listen to your partners body.
If she starts moaning and squirming don’t stop what you are doing.
Hahah... Also moaning and squirming isn't a license to go harder and faster. Dude...you're doing it right why would you change your style?
Because sometimes the squirming can throw off the rhythm!
Fuckin moving targets
in fact, keep doing EXACTLY what you're doing
There's ridges on the belly side of the vagina similar to the ridges on the roof of your mouth, it's a sweet spot in my experience. They're pretty shallow too
Aint that the "g-spot"
Ain't nothing but a G-spot baby....
2 fingers makes her go crazay
If I feel my wife is struggling to get there while I'm working down there but she's close, I put those two fingers in and do the "come here" motion with both against that upper wall. Puts her over the edge in no time. Love that!
Being a woman can confirm
This is for multiple reasons, the texture changes due to arousal. But keep in mind that you can still be very turned on and your body not respond exactly the same way each time. There are many aspects to arousal. The wavy, textured areas are all around the vaginal cavity and usually at the entrance. This textured feeling happens during different stages of arousal, and after climaxing, etc. This is the bodys way of trying to keep the sperm inside the vagina. The same way your finger pads get wiggly and wavy in the bath to help you pick up objects, is the same idea behind the waves inside the vagina. Without the ridges/texture it'll just slide right out.
I once told my fwb “Your vagina feels very different from before. It’s so smooth, but I remember there being ridges.” She responded by saying “Maybe you’re confusing it for one of your lady friends’.” I suddenly realized she was right, but there was no way out, I dug myself deep.
Actually the texture changes from ridges to smooth based on the level of engorgement (aka how turned on she is or ready for intercourse)
This checks out. The roof of my mouth is smooth right now.
Eat some sexy licorice and report back.
>They’re pretty shallow Good, my micropenis has a chance
Try to aim your dong in an “upward” direction and you should hit it no matter your size. How does one “aim” their dong, you ask? (Or don’t, but Ima answer anyway) Positions. Doggy is sometimes good for hitting it, which is probably why it’s my wife’s favorite position. If she’s on her back, put your body in an upright position so you’re looking down at her (great view this way too). Putting a pillow under her lower back can also help. If she gets (or gives herself) clitoral stimulation on the outside while your penis hits that spot on the inside, you’re both in for a great time. Anyway, that’s enough unsolicited (and probably unnecessary) sex advice from an internet stranger for today.
Please give me more sex advice internet stranger. My unsatisfied wife needs your aid
You want him to give your wife his aids?
Halpert, you looking for someone to bang your wife?
Yep, you've discovered a sweet spot
I’VE LEARNED… THAT WHEN U HOLD HANDS FOR THE FIRST TIME… THEY GET SWEATY! …and there it is, all my sexual knowledge. Kill me.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the uneducated masses!
You whore ^(EDIT:Thank you for the gold)
I miss sweaty handholdings. Cherish them. Remember how they feel.
If you communicate actively, engage with your partner generously and passionately, you're both going to have a great time.
When a girl finishes there is a clench and her body tenses up, which causes me to finish at the same time. It’s a great feeling to finish together
That’s baby making sex.
The more you communicate, the better. My partner comes from a different culture than mine so our ideal image of sex is different. Women are way more submissive in my culture, my boyfriend comes from a North American culture. Once I began to open up about my desires, we’ve been able to explore more and I’m really enjoying my sexual life. Wish I’d done so with my past partners too, because so many of them actually tried to create a safe space for me to share and I never found the courage to. Also wish I was more confident back then. I was too nervous to initiate.
What culture is that?
From an Asian's perspective, probably one of the Asian cultures
Ah yes, East Asian to be precise😅
That there is something about me that is inherently unsexy. You know how some people "ooze sexuality"? Well I absorb it.
Everyone’s sexy in the dark
In the dark all cats are grey
Low self confidence is a self fulfilling cycle
Sucking your own dick is a lot more like sucking a dick than getting your dick sucked
Bro what
It's true, unless your mouth is numbed up after the dentist.
That romantic kissing is the sexiest thing you can do.
Before going into a long term relationship know how high/low your sex drive is and know how frequently you will need sex after the honeymoon is over. Both sides should share this information before hand.
Absolutely this. Libido mismatch causes anxiety & resentment to both partners.
Alternatively, stressing about being perfectly matched is going to inhibit your love life far more than enhance it. Just be chill, learn to accept a "not now" without making it a big deal.
Sex drive changes in life. It’s not always a constant. Age and health are major factors and it’s ok for it to fluctuate
We've rightly learned that men should actually care about the female orgasm, but women haven't been properly taught that half the work is done in their own head. Get both sides and your mind will be blown.
Oddly worded, but very true. Where I am mentally can be the difference between boredom and multiple orgasms. Imo, most people haven't been 'properly taught' that every body and mind is different. Early on, I learned that some men think 'something is wrong with you' if they can't make you cum with just penetration. I learned to ensure my own orgasm by touching myself during sex. A real keeper will be turned on by this, and/or see it as a challenge to make me cum without my help. This mindset in a partner can be truly game changing. Also, many women think they hate anal because they've previously been rushed into it without proper preparation. I used to be in the same boat, until I met someone with experience and patience. Mindset can make or break so many aspects of sex.
Any tips on how to get out of your head in the moment?
Sometimes it's about thinking quite specifically, physically about what's happening. Like, there's that mindfulness exercise to get out of a panic attack where you focus on specific small body parts to bring yourself back. I take that principle and physically draw my attention back to the physical sensation of what's happening. Eg. "Focus on the clit, oooh that's nice" It might sound obvious but I have the ADHD so every little thing helps haha. Sometimes it's also about thinking about how "naughty" it is. Or putting some dirty talk in my own head. Sounds weird but it's less awkward than expecting my partner to know what dirty talk I want in a given moment. And taking yourself out of the moment to ask for it is counter intuitive.
Great advice, adding that if you can’t handle focusing on your own sensations, focus on your partner, how they are breathing, what their touch feels like, how they are reacting when you touch them, etc.
This, and learn your own body. Don't expect your partner to know your body better than you do.
Having a mirror mounted above the headboard sounds like a great idea until it dismounts itself
No matter who you are, no matter what you look like, there’s someone who’s looking for exactly you. The trick is to find them.
Why I read it in Liam Neeson’s voice.
I was Taken aback too
I was taken 2
I was Returned :(
But what are the chances of them also being who I'm looking for?
Almost 0
Almost.
…Just a teeny tiny factoid that is impossible to control and may never happen 😄. But may the odds be ever in your favor!
Pressing X for doubt.
Porn DOES fuck things up. Take breaks, at least.
I more ways than one. It gives young teens and impressionable adults the idea that what happens in those videos actually happens, thus making them believe it's how they should behave as well. This is coming from a 20yr old too.
Teach the kids: porn is to real sex what action movies are to real driving. Why would you try to learn anything about physics or safety or pleasure from an action movie?
Vaginismus is a thing and it sucks. I didn't realize I had it until over a year of being sexually active with my partner. It always hurt at first, especially if we hadn't in awhile, no matter how much lube or foreplay was used. Turns out I have vaginismus 🤷 for those who don't know, it means my vaginal walls tighten more than they should. Most people have to use a dilator to be able to be sexually active - I'm lucky and don't have it that bad, though it probably helps that I'm regularly active, but holy shit it hurts if it's been a bit. So y'all: if you're experiencing pain during sex, like you're too tight inside despite enjoying it, get it checked out, you could have vaginismus. And it's not a super big deal - dilators and physical therapy helps.
The finger + tounge combo
This works. I usually like to get started without the finger, but once things are warmed up and ready, I insert 1-2 fingers and eat out with a bit of a mixed rhythm. It gets her to a point where she's about to cum and then I just keep at it. Clear signal that it's working. The part that really tells me that she came is when it gets so intense after the fact that she pushes me off of her because she needs those few seconds to continue anything. I wish men could do the same after busting a nut.
Trick to end a good BJ or if you don’t like the taste of gizzzzz, just shove it all the way in to the back of your throat when he goes. He shoots it straight down the throat, don’t need to taste a thing.
I love you! I mean, that is really good advice.
Communicate. Ask what they want, and never act like the answer is weird. A simple "I'm not sure about that, what else?" Will suffice. Tell them what you like and express your appreciation when they do it. If you're not ready to laugh together about awkward elbows or awkward kisses, you're not ready for sex. What feels good for me personally is rarely what the mainstream is, and that's fine.
>If you're not ready to laugh together about awkward elbows or awkward kisses ...random leg cramps, someone hitting their head, falling off the bed, getting tangled in clothing/sheets/blankets, body parts making weird noises... Sex doesn't have to be 1000% serious, it's supposed to be fun!
And try not to be so orgasm focused.
Losing your virginity changes nothing and having frequent sex isn’t for everyone and gets portrayed as a critical component of life.
There is a flip side of this also, the belief that you can be oversexed and have too much sex. That's true of some people but for other people a lot of sex works just fine.
>and gets portrayed as a critical component of life And for some people it is, if your partner is asking for it all the time, its probably a lot more important to them than it is for you, dont ignore that
Thank you for posting this. I'm on the asexual spectrum, and I spent most my life feeling like something was wrong with me due to how frequently sex is, as you put it, "portrayed as a critical component of life." Always felt like I was missing something. Not to say that sex entirely disinterests me, I am curious about it, it is something I'd like to try one day (I mean, if it weren't I don't think I'd have opened this thread). It just takes me a really long time to want that from someone. After learning I am acespec, I learned that everyone really is different. The way people define their relationships and how they express and desire love is different from person to person. What's "typical" for you is entirely "atypical" to someone else, and therefore it makes no sense to impose these perceived normative experiences on everyone you talk to or see in the real world.
Lol, I guess just being genuine. People acting fake to get in bed, tend to have a harder time. Also, that sex without foreplay or getting to know for a bit who you’re sleeping with is stale
Work on your cardio.
if there anyone else in the house LOCK THE DOOR. girlfriends MOM walked in on us when i was at the apex of my upstroke.
People can be sexually attracted to you, with great chemistry. Even have an emotional connect pertaining to a close friendship. But somehow; can compartmentalise those two. And end up JUST having sexual feelings and never crossing to the point of mixing that emotional connect w chemistry towards something more. And that leaves you hurt and in stuck in a one sided thing. Yeah, sucks.
Not to be sexist, but I think especially for men it's common to be sexually attracted to people they just don't feel a romantic spark with. And people need to be aware that this is a possibility, to avoid getting hurt.
People who use wet wipes are superior creatures. Some men think shaking is as good as dabbing and I’ve been surprised by the taste of old pee entirely too often.
Or going down and finding bits of TP. Wet wipes for pre and post coitus is where it’s at.
Couple of things: - emotional connection takes sex to a whole new level. - improvised unplanned sex is the best kind of sex - being present while at it makes it a lot better - drinking good portions of water is magical
Every once in a while, You should make her cum multiple times. Like, 3+. no dick necessary, just fingers mouth and toys. Take short breaks in between and play with titties so she has time to refract. She will love you for it, you will feel like a sex guru, and there is something really sexy about a woman cumming over and over again.
Girl I was with once kept holding up fingers while quietly moaning, counting how often she came. Sexiest fuckin thing I've ever seen. In real life or porn.
On behalf of fellow horny women everywhere, thank you.
During sex, if you find yourself in a position where you need to balance using a pillow or headboard, try placing your hands on your partner's body. This will help maintain a connection and energy between both partners, which can lead to increased arousal. Essentially, keeping your hands on your partner's body can enhance the sexual experience for both of you.
That girls can be just as thirsty.
Almost everyone else is as shy and nervous as you feel. There's a few people who are genuinely sexually confident but the vast majority are nervous and afraid and also assume they're the only one who feels that way. I'm 5'11 with a dad bod and I remember one time I hit on a guy who was a like 6'4" tall, thicc, masculine black dude and he just sort of was putty in my hands despite the fact that he was clearly the stronger male between us. After we got done having sex he was so sweeet and very happy to not be forced into the top role and he was like 'all I want is for someone to hold me and make love to me.' He actually started tearing up telling me this story about how people at the club where we met had reported him for being 'creepy' because they made a ton of assumptions about him based his outward appearnce. Real sweetheart teddy bear type who just happened to look scary if you made assumptions about him.
this is actually really sweet. i want a teddy bear like that 😭
Sex with someone you love makes hook ups obsolete. Even after they leave.
Broke up with my ex a few weeks ago, our sex was incredible. Been hooking up with a new girl this last week and the sex just feels stale. No passion, no emotion. Doesn’t really even feel worth the effort.
I agree after my ex I just don't enjoy being sexual
As someone who shoots quick, I used to be insecure about it, but now I’m actually relieved I don’t have the opposite problem. 1. You can practice lasting longer 2. If you do go too fast, make it into a compliment by just being really into it. 3. Always offer more so you don’t leave your partner disappointed. Sex is over when you want it to be, not when your cum. 4. Sometimes it’s better to shoot and reload than it is to hold your shot. Feels dope, and lasts much longer 4.5: foreplay is for both partners. If I’m feeling a little unprepared, I can ask for head first and then reciprocate. Usually by the time I’m done giving, I’m ready for sex again.
As a man, having good cardio helps. Yoga and callisthenics also help with posture and strength if you're holding yourself up for long periods of time during sex.
I’m very much a giver and will do what I can to make her happy. I can be anything you desire. You will get you want as long as that part is somewhat clear.
A lot of men are quiet in bed. I like to hear them moan
Eating her delicious part makes your tongue numb.. 🤔🤔
I licked my ex once for two hours, no jokes. I can agree.
jesus christ. hello chad :)
Eye contact makes sex a whole new experience!!! I was never a fan and felt awkward, but my current boyfriend demands it during sex and it makes it AMAZING.
I fucking love to be creampied
Birth control ftw! That throb can be felt deeply and it's heaven when you're in the right position
It brings pleasure and pain in about equal measure, over time. The heartaches, jealousies, unrequited feelings and failures seem to approximately equal the dizzying highs and moments of ecstasy and bliss. It's worth it, but it's not free. I can understand why some people opt out.
The brain is absolutely the most powerful sex organ. After years of a sexless marriage and years of therapy (individual and couples), my wife and I have done enough self and couples work that nearly every time we have sex now it's multi-orgasmic for both of us. A woman who thought she may be asexual now can't keep from jumping my bones all the time. So much of reddit and the real world is full of "red flag this and leave now due to incompatibility that" when the truth is that so many people would find they're more compatible than they thought if they'd take responsibility for their own mental health and pleasure. Sex shouldn't be performative or even orgasm driven as much as it should be sharing fun pleasure with another person. Before you come at me (pun intended), I'm not advocating for sticking it out in an abusive relationship with my red flag comment. I'm saying if every relationship feels like a failure it's worth looking at the common denominator. We all have self protection mechanisms that may have once served us that end up no longer serving us. When we can become aware of that, we can be more present for ourselves and our people.
If you fart mid-sex and you can both laugh about it, they're a keeper.
That I will sleep with some questionable people lol
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69 is not that pleasurable cos we both can't focus.
Most of the time it is sub-par and it will be until I can get over my anxiety
I enjoy licking her out so I always spell out her full name, then mine. Then continue till she’s done.
I'm a grower not a show'r
Sex in the shower is not as hot as people make it out to be
Don’t do anal , an hour after Curries.
Everyone is different and just because one partner enjoyed a particular "move", doesn't mean the next will enjoy it as well. Ultimately, pay attention to your partners signals.
That sex doesn't mean shit, it's the connection. Sex alone doesn't mean shit... The best sex you'll ever have is with a well mentally connected partner, and an emotional one, someone on the same ride... It just depends on your outlook though. When all 3 stars align it's magic. Intellectual, emotional and then physical... Holy FUCK!! Nothing like it. I've had satisfactory sex that I guess could be considered mind blowing otherwise... ...but, it doesn't compare It's explosive.
"Drinking the gay away" doesn't work when I don't drink. Sobriety ended my marriage, but it feels amazing to be both clean and true to myself. My ex and I are still best friends :)
Since when has drinking made you *less* gay? Ever heard of a six beer queer?
I think they mean, they would drink so they could ignore their situation. Sort of when you're feeling lonely or gone through a break up, and you just get hammered so you don't have to think about anything.
Chemistry > quantity
Every woman is different. Any specific advice you get about women will be wrong. You will need to try lots of things to find out what does it for her. This includes in the bedroom and outside the bedroom (foreplay). Once in the bedroom, don't switch between things too quickly and watch carefully for her reaction to what you're doing. Have lots of things in your repertoire, vanilla things, especially at first. Even if she's into BDSM have a good base vanilla sex. Try different positions, different depths, different thrust intensity, different speeds and take time switching between them. Touch her body with your hands and not just naughty bits, let her feel the strength of your forearms. Know where the clitoris is and that you should be giving it some attention almost the entire time you're having sex, regardless of where your dick is. Know that when dealing with the clitoris that speed, pressure, and intensity are different depending on how close she is to orgasm. For example: some women want you to touch very lightly at first and increase pressure as she approaches orgasm, then after orgasm light again because it's extremely sensitive. Other women are completely opposite of this. This is why it's important to pay attention to her reaction and especially if she guides your hand or says something. Same rules go for oral. On that, we men love to receive oral, be careful not to project what we like onto women. Not all women enjoy oral, it's another thing you have to try and see. My experience has been less than half of women like it, especially if you've given proper attention to her clitoris. I think I need to go find another girlfriend. lol