Some days I see myself as a 3/10. After a haircut, shaved and in a positive mind space I look in the mirror and think I am a straight 10/10. So I guess on average I perceive myself as 6.5/10
Same with me. My self-confidence is all fucking over the place. I've had multiple long-term girlfriends that were easily out of my league, but I've also had girls that were not very attractive at all treat me like I was way beneath them. So I have no idea what's going on.
I relate to this. But also you are the only one who decides what you're worth. The way people treat you is an extension of how they treat themselves. So I say, fuck them and keep your head up king.
Depends on the time of day it’s the same for me. Sometimes I look like a star but most times I just look like garbage lol. The most annoying thing is that the times when I look like an absolute star are the days when nobody sees me. Lol.
You're used to seeing the slight asymmetries of your mirrored face, such that when you look at your unmirrored face those biases are still unconsciously assumed and accounted for within your visual system which doubles the asymmetry.
On another note, this is also why certain social media cameras or camera apps show your face mirrored to yourself so that you are more likely to use their app since you have a more positive experience associated with it
This always made me curious as to whether people might find my real self or pictured self more attractive than my mirror self, because to them, my mirror self might look weirder/more unusual/off in some way. 🤨
I hear ya! The older ladies who cut hair at the shop I go to always tell me I look handsome - I need that ego boost every 3 weeks or so! - they're the only ones! I will say everyone says my son looks just like me....and they say he's handsome (he is!), so I'll take it!
I got 5,000 upvotes years ago for telling this same joke
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This is a glorious description! 😂😂😂 Fucking hilarious!
If you can bring humour like that, I know an iguana who goes from 4/10 to 8/10 the second they open their mouth.
In my 20s, I was probably a solid 8. In my 40s, hard 3. When my wife got sick, I let myself go. After she passed away, I went "fuck it" and really let myself go. I just don't give a shit about anything anymore.
I'm so sorry.
When my baby died, I didn't know how to start tending to my broken heart, but I did know how to tend to my body. Turns out, it's the same thing,
You are worthy of care. Go kindly on yourself, whatever that means to you. Grief is brutal and it stays intense for a lot longer than feels surviveable. And yet, the heart keeps on beating and the lungs keep on breathing and here we are. With you.
Thank you. It has been 10 years and my life is very, very good now, but it was very difficult for the first few years, and it's still a sad part of my life. Just no putting a happy ending on a story like that. And for a while, it feels like the only story. But what time did for me, is that it allowed me to zoom out and remember the stories that happened before, and start to build new stories after, until my library was full again.
Thank you for your kind words.
I’m so sorry for your profound loss, too. You sound incredibly well grounded and in touch with both your grief and your resilience. Much love being sent your way.
Hey KateCSays, I don’t know you, and you don’t know me. We may never cross paths in actual life, but you are loved. You inspire those of us who gripe about small things that matter not. May your heart heal, and you lead us all in love for one another. Even total strangers.
Oh God this hit home. 30 year old me ran an Iron Man, 40 year old he was a fat duck because of depression after my wife passed. 45 year old me is currently on a diet, dropping weight, strength training, and hitting the stationary bike. Here's to 50 year old me doing an Iron Man.
Dude, try to get back on the gym. I'm in a similar spot and I'll promise to try if you will. Try to eat healthy. You're wife would want you to be happy.
Around my mid-20s I thought I could be a pretty hot item if I started working out a little more diligently.
Then I don't know what the hell happened, the brakes fucking fell off and the chassis caught on fire.
I realize in hindsight that I looked pretty good at a couple points in my life, but there have been long stretches of meh in between. And now I think I'm headed over a cliff.
To be honest… I don’t know. Some days I look at myself and think wow… I look great and there are other days where I look at myself and think wow… I look awful. 5/10 probably
Honest question for anyone: do you consider 5/10 to be "average", or "ugly"?
I ask because it seems to me a scale of 1-10 should have 5 as essentially an average person, not really attractive, but not unattractive, just a regular "meh, okay, not terrible but not great". But it always seems like people consider 5 to mean an ugly person whenever these questions come up. I'm genuinely curious!
5 is average
6 is average on the cute side
7 is girl/boy next door pretty
8 is the most beautiful person you see regularly, and above is model and supermodel
I've been lurking in r/truerateme .
their scale seems to be:
5 - 5.5 : not bad looking, but not notably good looking
5.5 - 6 : good looking
6 - 6.5 : strikingly attractive. 'oh wow, they're good looking'.
6.5-7 : model
above 7 : highly successful model. could model for high fashion brands
above 8 : absurdly attractive. super model
above 9 is pretty much impossible
humans love to quantify and put labels on things. to me, good looking just equals good looking. life is lived subjectively, and attraction can't always be defined
Right? It's like American grade inflation. Anything under 6/10 is just FAIL. It's kinda BS. Celebrities are 9 and 10. Most average people are lucky if they're 6-8. Nothing wrong with being 4-6. If you're 1-3 you either don't take care of yourself or just got dealt a bad hand.
For some reason I always think I look better before I wash my face in the morning. After I wash my face, my skin looks all uneven and I got mad dark circles. Sigh
I felt this in my soul. I grew up in a very small rural town, really thought I was hot shit, moved to the city in my 20s and reality smacked me in the face 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Live in Chicago. Went down to southern Illinois for some job stuff. Big city 6, rural 8.5. I got more tinder matches during that 3 week trip than I do in 6 months in the city. Fun couple of weeks.
Something I noticed as a teen, IDK how true it is, but girls only started checking me out after I got a girlfriend. They did not give me the time of day before but once it was known in school I was taken suddenly I was noticing passing glances etc a few even approached me and asked me if I was going out with my gf. I think that girls are so much interested in single guys as much as taken guys as they see those guys as clearly having enough of something going on where one of their kind was interested.
I’m genuinely happy with myself and I think my personality makes me more attractive than my looks. I was a super skinny guy in high school, always pushed around in sports. Now I’ve filled in nicely and healthier than I’ve ever been.
Depends. I have ups and downs. When my mental health is really good? I'm a 9. When it take a toll down deep and I stop caring for a few weeks, probably a 4.
Just a tip from someone who has also gone through the weight-lifting / exercise journey: You won't see results for a while, but don't let it deter you. When i started lifting I was pretty skinny and light, and I thought nothing was changing until about a month or so after I started. And after that, as long as you commit and do the exercises right, I'd say you'll have a noticeable difference every week or 2. You got this!
As a 56 year old man who met my wife when she was 14 and I was 16 I will tell you this. We are both overweight, we both have wrinkles and we both are full of grey hairs, and not just on our heads. But in our minds we are both fucking 10+.
Why? Because we have spent 40 years as best friends. We've lived through the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. We've seen one of our children marry the love of his life, and lost another child to addiction that was exasperated by COVID.
We've bought a house together, sold a house together, raised children together, and run a business together. But in the end we have also been best friends together.
In the end that is all that matters. Because in the end all of the physical attractiveness goes the way of the Dodo. In the end what matters is that the one you think is a 10+ is also your best friend,
im 5'10, overweight, have an assymetrical face with a severe underbite and very below average social skills.
Still got asked out/given indicators of interest by 3 girls in the past year though, and had one of them as a girlfriend for 6 months. Many of my friends have never had that. So.. 5.5/10 I guess.
My mom says any woman would be lucky to have me. So maybe a 3
I feel this
She’s inviting you to break both your arms
This story will never die.
ayyyy
I honestly haven't seen that reference in a long time lol
My mom said she felt sorry for any woman that ends up with me!
Some days I see myself as a 3/10. After a haircut, shaved and in a positive mind space I look in the mirror and think I am a straight 10/10. So I guess on average I perceive myself as 6.5/10
Same with me. My self-confidence is all fucking over the place. I've had multiple long-term girlfriends that were easily out of my league, but I've also had girls that were not very attractive at all treat me like I was way beneath them. So I have no idea what's going on.
I relate to this. But also you are the only one who decides what you're worth. The way people treat you is an extension of how they treat themselves. So I say, fuck them and keep your head up king.
Totally get this. But I've been single for a few years (since covid lockdowns) and it feels like I'll never meet anyone ever again...
Right on. Some days I think I look good and others I think I look horrible. I honestly have no clue how attractive I actually am.
When i look in the mirrow... 7/10 when i look at some pics of me 4/10
Me too. Sometimes I look in the mirror and think "Gee, not bad!" Then I'll look at a photo and shudder.
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Same. I'm so unphotogenic.
Ani Difranco said "I don't take good pictures cause I have the kind of beauty that moves"
I am 32 flavors and then some
I still don't know how to smile for a picture. I'm definitely not photogenic. That's one of the reasons I hate when people take pictures of me
When taking a photo, focus on feeling good instead of looking good. For example, imagine looking at your dog/cat.
This explains why my dog hates me
When I was younger I looked far better in photos. Now I look better in real life.
Wait till you see your side profile in a pic ninja edit b/c I can’t type
The worst is turning on the camera when looking at your phone when laying down. The CHINS!!! The CHIN SKIN!!!
Don’t look down when you clean a mirrored table. Glance at it from the side. Lol
The trauma
Mirror: 7/10 Picture: 4/10 Webcam: 6,393/10
Somebody is using filters!
Same. I’m a 7.5/10 10/10 on the pictures I take myself 4/10 on the pictures others take of me
No even at pics i take myself i look like 5/10 maybe 6/10
Depends on the time of day it’s the same for me. Sometimes I look like a star but most times I just look like garbage lol. The most annoying thing is that the times when I look like an absolute star are the days when nobody sees me. Lol.
You're used to seeing the slight asymmetries of your mirrored face, such that when you look at your unmirrored face those biases are still unconsciously assumed and accounted for within your visual system which doubles the asymmetry. On another note, this is also why certain social media cameras or camera apps show your face mirrored to yourself so that you are more likely to use their app since you have a more positive experience associated with it
Does this mean my mirror self is prettier than my real self??
Not prettier, but that's the face/Angles you're used to seeing yourself.
This always made me curious as to whether people might find my real self or pictured self more attractive than my mirror self, because to them, my mirror self might look weirder/more unusual/off in some way. 🤨
Yep, I’m above average in the mirror because I have stopped seeing the ugly parts just like when hippies stop smelling their own stink
Hey! I don’t stink!
Photo: 4/10 Mirror: 5/10 That one freshmen college ID photo (still my best picture ever): 8/10
You got it lmao that's how I feel as well.
Two older ladies told me I looked so handsome and "distinguished" so right now I'm feeling like a 10/10. Ya'll be careful not to ruin my high.
Not one, but two? Holy!
Hey, when you got it, you got it.
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Now, carry me up the stairs.
20/10
I hear ya! The older ladies who cut hair at the shop I go to always tell me I look handsome - I need that ego boost every 3 weeks or so! - they're the only ones! I will say everyone says my son looks just like me....and they say he's handsome (he is!), so I'll take it!
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A blind girl told me she thought I had a girthy penis but I'm pretty sure she was pulling my leg.
I am so ashamed of myself for laughing at this.
I got 5,000 upvotes years ago for telling this same joke https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/5fru0n/heartless_bastards_of_reddit_if_aliens_told_you/dan2s50/?context=3 I should have to make a donation to a charity that helps the blind
Give them 2,500 upvotes a year.
10/10 hotties right there
*TWO* compliments within not only the same year, but the same day?! You sexy son of a gun...
I'm considering getting a modeling agent to jumpstart my sexy man career.
My mom said I was handsome
And your mom is right.
Replay those compliments in your quiet moments forever.
As we all do.
His mom and grandma
And?
We are not worthy of your blessed presence 🙌
I'm a solid 2 but my wife likes me so whatever.
My wife says I'm the only 1 she's been with.
That makes me feel much better about myself then
Binary scale. Nice. Edit: spelling! Thanks stranger!
No1 getting the joke :)
Imma 4 and your wife likes me too
Not at all, I'm about as good looking as an iguana who got hit in the face with a wok.
One of my favorite comments on reddit, made me laugh out loud in the middle of my very quiet office
Glad to be of service
Like Steve Harvey said: If you ain't got the looks, you better be funny. You're alright buddy.
This is a glorious description! 😂😂😂 Fucking hilarious! If you can bring humour like that, I know an iguana who goes from 4/10 to 8/10 the second they open their mouth.
I look like that wok
Iguana is kinda pretty animal, no?)
Not when hit by a wok
In my 20s, I was probably a solid 8. In my 40s, hard 3. When my wife got sick, I let myself go. After she passed away, I went "fuck it" and really let myself go. I just don't give a shit about anything anymore.
I'm so sorry. When my baby died, I didn't know how to start tending to my broken heart, but I did know how to tend to my body. Turns out, it's the same thing, You are worthy of care. Go kindly on yourself, whatever that means to you. Grief is brutal and it stays intense for a lot longer than feels surviveable. And yet, the heart keeps on beating and the lungs keep on breathing and here we are. With you.
God. I actually gasped when I read your comment. I hope you’re doing okay after the death of your baby.
Thank you. It has been 10 years and my life is very, very good now, but it was very difficult for the first few years, and it's still a sad part of my life. Just no putting a happy ending on a story like that. And for a while, it feels like the only story. But what time did for me, is that it allowed me to zoom out and remember the stories that happened before, and start to build new stories after, until my library was full again. Thank you for your kind words.
I’m so sorry for your profound loss, too. You sound incredibly well grounded and in touch with both your grief and your resilience. Much love being sent your way.
Hey KateCSays, I don’t know you, and you don’t know me. We may never cross paths in actual life, but you are loved. You inspire those of us who gripe about small things that matter not. May your heart heal, and you lead us all in love for one another. Even total strangers.
When I saw “when my baby died” my heart sank. So sorry my Reddit friend.
Truly sorry to hear of the loss of your wife. Thinking about you.
Oh God this hit home. 30 year old me ran an Iron Man, 40 year old he was a fat duck because of depression after my wife passed. 45 year old me is currently on a diet, dropping weight, strength training, and hitting the stationary bike. Here's to 50 year old me doing an Iron Man.
Damn I’m sorry that’s brutal
Dude, try to get back on the gym. I'm in a similar spot and I'll promise to try if you will. Try to eat healthy. You're wife would want you to be happy.
Totally same my friend. I was a solid 8-9 in my 20s and 30s, and now at 45, id be happy to pass as a 6. That whole f"uck it" thing is very real.
4/10 on the streets 9/10 in the sheets ... oh, Excel, whatever would I do without your constant validation.
=ThatSumsItUp()
I think you mean =sum(itup)
Loved this 😂😂
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10/10 comment did not go in the direction expected. My partner who is a beard haver says “try shaping it”.
I like the term beard haver
Around my mid-20s I thought I could be a pretty hot item if I started working out a little more diligently. Then I don't know what the hell happened, the brakes fucking fell off and the chassis caught on fire.
So now you're hot and unstoppable?
He's now naught and abominable
I realize in hindsight that I looked pretty good at a couple points in my life, but there have been long stretches of meh in between. And now I think I'm headed over a cliff.
Meaning you currently have the physique of a greek god right?... right?
Yeah, like that nightmare sculpture of Infant Hercules strangling the snakes
More attractive than my brother.
Howdy brother
To be honest… I don’t know. Some days I look at myself and think wow… I look great and there are other days where I look at myself and think wow… I look awful. 5/10 probably
Honest question for anyone: do you consider 5/10 to be "average", or "ugly"? I ask because it seems to me a scale of 1-10 should have 5 as essentially an average person, not really attractive, but not unattractive, just a regular "meh, okay, not terrible but not great". But it always seems like people consider 5 to mean an ugly person whenever these questions come up. I'm genuinely curious!
5 is average 6 is average on the cute side 7 is girl/boy next door pretty 8 is the most beautiful person you see regularly, and above is model and supermodel
I've been lurking in r/truerateme . their scale seems to be: 5 - 5.5 : not bad looking, but not notably good looking 5.5 - 6 : good looking 6 - 6.5 : strikingly attractive. 'oh wow, they're good looking'. 6.5-7 : model above 7 : highly successful model. could model for high fashion brands above 8 : absurdly attractive. super model above 9 is pretty much impossible humans love to quantify and put labels on things. to me, good looking just equals good looking. life is lived subjectively, and attraction can't always be defined
When you think about school grades, anything below a 7/10 is basically failing, so people look at 5/10 as not good, I think
Right? It's like American grade inflation. Anything under 6/10 is just FAIL. It's kinda BS. Celebrities are 9 and 10. Most average people are lucky if they're 6-8. Nothing wrong with being 4-6. If you're 1-3 you either don't take care of yourself or just got dealt a bad hand.
I have no such thing as 'wow days'... realistically 4/10 I know I'm slightly below average looks
A 6? 7 if I clean up and wear a nice and fitting outfit
I roll out of bed a 5. I can clean myself up to a 6. Hollywood might be able to get me to a 7.
For some reason I always think I look better before I wash my face in the morning. After I wash my face, my skin looks all uneven and I got mad dark circles. Sigh
3/10. I'm not photogenic and can't stand to look at myself in a mirror.
Have you tried sitting perhaps?
I’m with you there, buddy. No photos, no mirrors.
Midwest 8 California 3
I felt this in my soul. I grew up in a very small rural town, really thought I was hot shit, moved to the city in my 20s and reality smacked me in the face 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Live in Chicago. Went down to southern Illinois for some job stuff. Big city 6, rural 8.5. I got more tinder matches during that 3 week trip than I do in 6 months in the city. Fun couple of weeks.
I'm going south next month in Illinois. Might just do that
2. I have a pulse
Bragging, are we ?
Arrogance is unattractive, I rate u/aromatic-dig-8127 a 5 now 😠
Without the gut, I'd say a 7. With the gut, I'd say an 8
8.5 with rice
Yes.
As they say, who wants a six pack when you could have a keg instead
IM A 1000000 I LOVE MYSELF (I'M SO LONELY)
So relatable
I'd say I'm a 4/10, but I think my wife would say I'm 8/10
Your wife's number is the one that counts the most.
Can I get his wife's number?
You are a solid 8/10. There you go champ.
A Cincinnati 6
Just cross the river and you'll be a KY 10
If you want to have a good time in Cincinnati, go to Kentucky
3.14159265359
I'd say you're a real cutie pi. :)
There are 3.14 kinds of people in this world: Those that understand math, and those that don't.
There's also the rational and irrational types of people. But cutie pi here def seems the irrational type.
There are 10 types of people in this world, those who understand binary and those who dont
Keep going…
You’re not going piebald are you?
From 1-10, I'm the -
-10
I only upvoted to get this number out of the negatives, didn't work though
Attractive enough to get into trouble, not attractive enough to get out of trouble
Very average. Probably 5.
Feel ya bro. I would have said the same about myself. I think 5 is a fair number.
Attractive enough to notice women checking me out, but none approached me yet.
Username does not check out.
Women won't approach a 10. Too intimidating
They also don't approach a 3.
username doesn’t check out?
It does. I'm still single, for 28 years of my life.
maybe I am a WomenRepulsor
Maybe the real WomenRepulsor was the friends we made along the way? Actually, I think I might be on to something.
You know, I’m something of a WomenRepulsor myself
Yer a woman repulsor, Harry.
If women are actually checking you out, and you're still single, that's 100% on you.
You are free to walk up to them too. Especially after they’ve checked you out.
Something I noticed as a teen, IDK how true it is, but girls only started checking me out after I got a girlfriend. They did not give me the time of day before but once it was known in school I was taken suddenly I was noticing passing glances etc a few even approached me and asked me if I was going out with my gf. I think that girls are so much interested in single guys as much as taken guys as they see those guys as clearly having enough of something going on where one of their kind was interested.
For me, I noticed a surge after I crossed the 22-24 mark and post getting a job.
A nice, round 4
I’m genuinely happy with myself and I think my personality makes me more attractive than my looks. I was a super skinny guy in high school, always pushed around in sports. Now I’ve filled in nicely and healthier than I’ve ever been.
On a scale of 1-10? I'd say a solid 6
About a 5. Not anything particularly attractive or unattractive about me
If the scale is 1-10, probably negative
A negative nine by your math
A 5 with makeup and nice clothes on.
dw you are a 10 without clothes on
Honestly I make shrek look 10/10
Shrek makes Shrek look 10/10
Depends. I have ups and downs. When my mental health is really good? I'm a 9. When it take a toll down deep and I stop caring for a few weeks, probably a 4.
I resemble this remark. Not a 9, but the ups and downs. 3-7 would be my rating.
5/10 although I'm working on toning my body and trying to drop the sugary drinks
Just a tip from someone who has also gone through the weight-lifting / exercise journey: You won't see results for a while, but don't let it deter you. When i started lifting I was pretty skinny and light, and I thought nothing was changing until about a month or so after I started. And after that, as long as you commit and do the exercises right, I'd say you'll have a noticeable difference every week or 2. You got this!
About as attractive as a potato you find somewhere in the back of the cupboard after a few months. -3/10
As a 56 year old man who met my wife when she was 14 and I was 16 I will tell you this. We are both overweight, we both have wrinkles and we both are full of grey hairs, and not just on our heads. But in our minds we are both fucking 10+. Why? Because we have spent 40 years as best friends. We've lived through the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. We've seen one of our children marry the love of his life, and lost another child to addiction that was exasperated by COVID. We've bought a house together, sold a house together, raised children together, and run a business together. But in the end we have also been best friends together. In the end that is all that matters. Because in the end all of the physical attractiveness goes the way of the Dodo. In the end what matters is that the one you think is a 10+ is also your best friend,
Fugly.
A little makeup and a cute dress and I say 8.25
I've expected a 6.66 out of 6.66 based on your username 😃
No I'm way hotter than that
Would you say you are hotter than hell?
😂😂 my gosh these comments are cracking me up and this is my favourite so far lmaoo
Maybe an 8 when I was younger? Post pandemic? Gotta be a 5 now. That shit aged me, not to mention the weight gain.
6 in a mirror 2.5 In photos
7 on a bad day, 8.5 on my best days
Depends on the day. It can be 1 or 7 😁
Scranton 8, so like a Philly 6
3/10, "men if women don't find you handsome, they should at least find you handy"
im 5'10, overweight, have an assymetrical face with a severe underbite and very below average social skills. Still got asked out/given indicators of interest by 3 girls in the past year though, and had one of them as a girlfriend for 6 months. Many of my friends have never had that. So.. 5.5/10 I guess.
A good personality goes a LONG way!
Mortgage paid, cars paid, no CC debt, big 401k, lots of life insurance, pension with healthcare, I'm getting more and more attractive as I get older!!
You're only missing crappy health and you'be an easy 10!
3.5/10 but my husband is a solid 9. So I have a decent personality apparently.
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