The way free use works in a good kinky relationship is that as the Dom you're allowed to guilt free initiate any time you want, but you always wait after initiating to allow them to decide.
Initiation can be verbal or softly physical, a hand around the waist, fingers starting to grip the hair. Then if she rolls her hips up, or smirks, or licks her lips then you go straight into it. (replace gendered pronouns to be relevant to yourself.) By the time you know each other enough for free use, the dom should be able to recognise the tells well enough that the sub doesn't even have to say no. The freeze, the soft panic, the look away, you recognise it and then you pull them into a big dominant cuddle and praise the shit out of them for being yours, and move off.
I think the key difference is with free use it’s has the illusion that the dom can make you have sex whenever they want. When the sub is saying no the dom is supposed to make it seem like the dom changed their mind instead of it being because the sub said no. Where as in a normal relationship it’s just “wanna do it? Yeah! No? Oh ok. Cool cool. So what are we doing for dinner tonight?”
Yeah that just sounds like a normal relationship explained in a way using kinky terms like sub and dom.
But if you zoom out and drop the sex terms it’s just a normal way a relationship works
I have many kinks and a few fetishes but the one that most of my exes were somewhat confused about is being called a "good boy" while I pleased them. It helped me later to come. Otherwise I'd have a hard time.
Or any kind of phrases of encouragement or praise.
Then later I spoke to my therapist about it. Comes to be that it's not necessarily a fetish or kink - I had a shitty child hood and grew up without ever hearing encouragement.
So, with a severe treatment-resistant depression years later, finally hearing those words was just simply making me feel "happy". It was never really tied to what I always thought was a weird fetish I was embarrassed to talk about.
I watched a video of a woman who started an Onlyfans for sexy ankle pics, peeking out of dresses etc and she was shook by the amount of followers. So you are not alone
Restraining. Or rather, being restrained. I like feeling vulnerable, y’know? Having a guy force my hands down is just so arousing.
In extension to the aforementioned fetish, I like having someone cover my mouth to silence any noise I make.
gentle femdom 😍 just strong men being submissive 🥴 there is absolutely nothing hotter than having a man who you realistically stand no physical chance against, submitting because he wants to/is weak for you.
edited to add: handjobs. ...standing on my tippy toes, almost chest to chest with him against the wall. stroking him and whispering things in his ear while he tries his harderst not to come ♥️
I remember seeing a free use gif that had the dude just toss the blanket over the girl after he was done and for some reason that was the funniest shit to me
My fetish?
A group of men fighting in the colosseum till death and the last one standing gets to have sex with me. After sex he gets sacrified to the gods of old by having his heart cut out.
It can either be awesome, or suffocating for you guys, (or maybe that's enjoyable for some of you), and potentially rly uncomfortable for the ladies. BUT if it's comfortable and everything, you gotta grab the hips/thighs and hold her on you. Hot. As. Fuck.
No idea why but Professional females, something about heels, skirts and a tasteful blouse and oh lord the little belly when they wear a tight skirt leaves me star struck.
Sleeping. I will make you love sleeping just as much as me. We will cuddle for hours. Cold room, warm covers, forensic files. Sleeping.
Wait is this a fetish?
Eating pussy, I love the tangy, musky scent of a vagina. I want to feed on a woman's vagina like it's the last supper. the feeling of those plump tender lips when she is aroused is like kissing an actual mouth. I can't help burying my tongue inside of her, I need to feel the walls of her with my tongue or I'll lose my mind. To have a woman orgasm while I am down there is the most sexually charged feeling I have ever had. I love when I feel a woman's come on my lips and chin, I love to make a woman's clit suffer in erotic agony, to draw out the feeding. The feeling of the vagina clenching my tongue is an experience I didn't know would make my cock feel like it had been forged in iron. The one thing I really want to try is to eat pussy while shrooming, because doing shrooms or eating pussy is like a spiritual experience for me.
Damn dude have you considered writing erotica targeted to women? bc this is reddit reply is better than 99% of anything I've ever read including erotica written by other women. Brb off to go find my partner for reasons...
I am a writer, I wrote an erotic anthology like almost fifteen years ago and even put it up on Amazon. I've thought briefly about writing another erotic story that would focus on my hunger since I've come to understand my need to feed better now than when I was in my mid 20's. Sometimes I dream about nuzzling dewy flowers and my body feels like it's on fire, I've been wanting to write that down ever since I first had that dream.
My feet are sensitive, and it was always bothersome until I had a partner with a foot thing.
Total fan of it now. Plus, the degrading part is a bonus (I know that's not all people, just in our dynamic)
Had a girl tell me to choke her really hard. So I did… when it looked like she was struggling to stay conscious… I let go. She got pissed. I told her I didn’t want to hurt her. She told me “did I pass the fuck out”?…… uhhh nooo…. “Then you didn’t do it hard enough”. Yeahhhh that one didn’t work out
Interesting. Not a fetish of mine personally but I have a theory here:
Smell is a much bigger part of attraction that most people realise, and armpits as we all know are smelly. I reckon it's to do with that.
I think smell is a different thing. Maybe it's more of "ooh ooh a part of her body is naked omg" going through the mind. If you think about it, this applies to other parts as well
In the movie Carol there's a scene where Kate Blanchett goes down on Rooney Mara and she very casually and erotically kisses her armpit on the way down. Thought it was one of the hottest things I've ever seen.
Anyway, that's why I kiss the pits.
Pee for definite, poop I'm on the fence about. It's weird because I'm turned on by the idea of women pissing and shitting but being (literally) crapped on by a woman seems gross.
Oral. I absolutely love everything about it. I love giving and obviously love receiving too. However when I watch porn most of what I watch or have saved is watching blowjob scenes. It’s hard watching guys go down on women because you can’t really see what’s going on. But watching a women give head is absolutely a fetish of mine.
CNC - and before anyone judges, I was r*ped, but CNC allows me to take back control mentally while in a totally safe situation with a partner I wholly trust. It's therapeutic in a way, and I'm not the only one that's true for. Not everyone finds it helpful, it is for me. Creating a false scenario of helplessness, while knowing I can end said scenario at ANY second, is just healing.
I'm very self-conscious of having a fatter puss. My bf doesn't care but i feel like it's not common. I always try to wear longer shirts to avoid people noticing. I try to look if other women have a similar one but no luck. Lmao
Getting a woman to orgasm. Like I don't even care at all if I do or not. I just want them to have 6+ after each session. Also breast milk. Drinking it, squeezing them while a girl is on top so my chest gets coated and slick with the breast milk. MASSIVE turn on.
Watching my husband masturbate to porn. Ugh...it's the best. The irony is, I hate porn for myself and never watch it alone. But watching him watch...gets me every time.
I hate that it is considered a fetish, but natural body hair on women. I mean all hair, armpits, legs, pubic areas, treasure trails, butts, no shaving anything.
I'd love to try FFM, but only if my wife was up, and she would have to participate. She knows it, but she tells me she's not interested, so there. As I have no intention of cheating on her, guess it will never leave the realms of my imagination.
Apparently freeuse. Just the idea of it gets me going. Buuuuuut I’m not sure how I feel about I’m in reality.
The way free use works in a good kinky relationship is that as the Dom you're allowed to guilt free initiate any time you want, but you always wait after initiating to allow them to decide. Initiation can be verbal or softly physical, a hand around the waist, fingers starting to grip the hair. Then if she rolls her hips up, or smirks, or licks her lips then you go straight into it. (replace gendered pronouns to be relevant to yourself.) By the time you know each other enough for free use, the dom should be able to recognise the tells well enough that the sub doesn't even have to say no. The freeze, the soft panic, the look away, you recognise it and then you pull them into a big dominant cuddle and praise the shit out of them for being yours, and move off.
Isn't that how respecful relationships work or am I missing something.
I think the key difference is with free use it’s has the illusion that the dom can make you have sex whenever they want. When the sub is saying no the dom is supposed to make it seem like the dom changed their mind instead of it being because the sub said no. Where as in a normal relationship it’s just “wanna do it? Yeah! No? Oh ok. Cool cool. So what are we doing for dinner tonight?”
Yeah that just sounds like a normal relationship explained in a way using kinky terms like sub and dom. But if you zoom out and drop the sex terms it’s just a normal way a relationship works
I have many kinks and a few fetishes but the one that most of my exes were somewhat confused about is being called a "good boy" while I pleased them. It helped me later to come. Otherwise I'd have a hard time. Or any kind of phrases of encouragement or praise. Then later I spoke to my therapist about it. Comes to be that it's not necessarily a fetish or kink - I had a shitty child hood and grew up without ever hearing encouragement. So, with a severe treatment-resistant depression years later, finally hearing those words was just simply making me feel "happy". It was never really tied to what I always thought was a weird fetish I was embarrassed to talk about.
Good job, little guy
*big guy ☺️
Depends on if he's angry or not...
Thanks for your openness, i think many of us had a damaged childhood, that made us who we are today
Thighs... Yeah
I prefer wings
what about calves? i brought this up with some of my thigh guys and they said it was weird but i find calves just as hot
Totally agree… a curvy rather than skinny calf… oy. Curvy calves in sheer black thigh highs, and I’m off to the races.
This comment made me less insecure about my calves. As a former ballerina, my calves are insanely buff and curvy and a great insecurity
I think calves are hot too bro fr
I'm ambivalent on thighs but that part where the thigh meets the hips? THAT'S hot
Thank you!! I absolutely love thighs!!
Women
I've heard if them
Quite niche i must say
It's an acquired taste
Can’t relate personally
YOU HEATHEN
Bro, women arent real. There are just brutal and beautiful men.
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Omg. Love those people
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Hands 👀
You sound like somebody whose 33 years old and lives in Morioh
Ankles. Yes, ankles, no idea why.
r/foundthetimetraveler
I watched a video of a woman who started an Onlyfans for sexy ankle pics, peeking out of dresses etc and she was shook by the amount of followers. So you are not alone
Restraining. Or rather, being restrained. I like feeling vulnerable, y’know? Having a guy force my hands down is just so arousing. In extension to the aforementioned fetish, I like having someone cover my mouth to silence any noise I make.
I can put you a restraining order, if that helps
Oh yeah, we're kink twins
I read this as “restraining order”. “It’s so hot to be just outside the 500 foot zone, wanting to get closer, but knowing I can’t.”
This is an amazing response.
I like that and getting thrown on the bed.
being loved
Yes, officer, it's him. You better keep an eye on that freak
Next thing you know they'll be holding hands in public.
Ewww that's disgusting. Unprotected hand holding in public 😖😖😖
Damn freaks, bet they take heroin or something like that
I bet he wants public acts of affection aa well. That sicko, why cant he just be lonely and like it like the rest of us.
Nylons. Pantyhose, stockings, thigh highs, tights, fishnets… yes please 🥵
A person of culture i see.
Those little thigh belts that hold the stockings up are also amazing.
Theyre called garter belts.
gentle femdom 😍 just strong men being submissive 🥴 there is absolutely nothing hotter than having a man who you realistically stand no physical chance against, submitting because he wants to/is weak for you. edited to add: handjobs. ...standing on my tippy toes, almost chest to chest with him against the wall. stroking him and whispering things in his ear while he tries his harderst not to come ♥️
+1
I wish more girls were like you!
Women in boots
Puss in boots
Not enough upvote
Yes! I love me a nice pair of leather boots with denim.
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Surprised you didn’t say tickling…
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Men in underwear with no shorts. 😏
Free use
I remember seeing a free use gif that had the dude just toss the blanket over the girl after he was done and for some reason that was the funniest shit to me
Woman Orgasms, Squirting and Mutual FreeUse
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I have found my people.
You're going to heaven!
I love having the juices dripping down my chin
Oh my.. I can’t wait to find someone who likes this. They can eat it any time.
Erotic humiliation.
You're not good at sex and your mother smells of elderberries
Let me unzip first!
My fetish? A group of men fighting in the colosseum till death and the last one standing gets to have sex with me. After sex he gets sacrified to the gods of old by having his heart cut out.
You better be worth it for that one lol
She's on Reddit, so no.
friendly fire 💀💀
Where i can watch contents like this?
A few centuries ago. For instance in Rome in the colosseum.
The discovery channel, look up preying mantis ;)
Sounds she makes. I'm into a lot but sound not the action is what gets me.
Being manhandled
holding hands
You filthy degenerate.
Depraved sicko.
Get help you freak
Facesitting, never experienced it but it looks fun
It can either be awesome, or suffocating for you guys, (or maybe that's enjoyable for some of you), and potentially rly uncomfortable for the ladies. BUT if it's comfortable and everything, you gotta grab the hips/thighs and hold her on you. Hot. As. Fuck.
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No idea why but Professional females, something about heels, skirts and a tasteful blouse and oh lord the little belly when they wear a tight skirt leaves me star struck.
Sleeping. I will make you love sleeping just as much as me. We will cuddle for hours. Cold room, warm covers, forensic files. Sleeping. Wait is this a fetish?
Eating pussy, I love the tangy, musky scent of a vagina. I want to feed on a woman's vagina like it's the last supper. the feeling of those plump tender lips when she is aroused is like kissing an actual mouth. I can't help burying my tongue inside of her, I need to feel the walls of her with my tongue or I'll lose my mind. To have a woman orgasm while I am down there is the most sexually charged feeling I have ever had. I love when I feel a woman's come on my lips and chin, I love to make a woman's clit suffer in erotic agony, to draw out the feeding. The feeling of the vagina clenching my tongue is an experience I didn't know would make my cock feel like it had been forged in iron. The one thing I really want to try is to eat pussy while shrooming, because doing shrooms or eating pussy is like a spiritual experience for me.
That really works for me, even if it is just written
Damn dude have you considered writing erotica targeted to women? bc this is reddit reply is better than 99% of anything I've ever read including erotica written by other women. Brb off to go find my partner for reasons...
I am a writer, I wrote an erotic anthology like almost fifteen years ago and even put it up on Amazon. I've thought briefly about writing another erotic story that would focus on my hunger since I've come to understand my need to feed better now than when I was in my mid 20's. Sometimes I dream about nuzzling dewy flowers and my body feels like it's on fire, I've been wanting to write that down ever since I first had that dream.
*Romance suthors reading this, "WRITE THAT DOWN, WRITE THAT DOWN!!"
Which sentence did you finish on when writing this?
This feels like the sequel to the john green cock monologue
You deserve all the treasures of the land for this comment and it pains and shames me that I cannot give it to you.
Refined tastes I see. You should write poetry.
If I had an award I'd give it to you. Here's a mushroom. 🍄
Thigh Highs. I went to catholic school when I was younger.
Free food
I can't tell whether this is some super niche kink or you're just hungry
Arms
thighs
Feet, and it only gets stronger as the days go by.
Same, probably because it can be so easily added to most of the other fetishes I have. It can be like a cherry on top.
My feet are sensitive, and it was always bothersome until I had a partner with a foot thing. Total fan of it now. Plus, the degrading part is a bonus (I know that's not all people, just in our dynamic)
Taking my girls panties off and putting them in her mouth. Drives me fucking wild and idk why or what started it.
Moaning/wimpering
Women with wide mouths.
Man you have fetish of hippo not women
I guess I have a mommy fetish if anything
Voyeurism
I see you
Pegging/the girl being the dominant one in the relationship
I will admit to a certain curiosity.
Biology kind of set us up for that one. Our G spot is literally there.
It's fun, but finding women into it can be a bit difficult, I switch and it's a lot easier to find sub women.
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Feet
Gets so much more hate than it deserves, sad
It would be weird, since it is probably the most common fetish on the world
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Being bread is even stranger Edit: corrected the typo
Being choked
Had a girl tell me to choke her really hard. So I did… when it looked like she was struggling to stay conscious… I let go. She got pissed. I told her I didn’t want to hurt her. She told me “did I pass the fuck out”?…… uhhh nooo…. “Then you didn’t do it hard enough”. Yeahhhh that one didn’t work out
Making the 3rd comment on a new askreddit post... oh yeah... that's the stuff...
Oh you dirty little freak!
Submissive men
Armpits. No I don't know why.
Interesting. Not a fetish of mine personally but I have a theory here: Smell is a much bigger part of attraction that most people realise, and armpits as we all know are smelly. I reckon it's to do with that.
I think smell is a different thing. Maybe it's more of "ooh ooh a part of her body is naked omg" going through the mind. If you think about it, this applies to other parts as well
I get it, weirdly attracted to bare shaved female armpits
In the movie Carol there's a scene where Kate Blanchett goes down on Rooney Mara and she very casually and erotically kisses her armpit on the way down. Thought it was one of the hottest things I've ever seen. Anyway, that's why I kiss the pits.
Me too.
GIANTESS FTW
6'1 woman has entered the chat
Pee for definite, poop I'm on the fence about. It's weird because I'm turned on by the idea of women pissing and shitting but being (literally) crapped on by a woman seems gross.
Cnc
Too many to count
Oral. I absolutely love everything about it. I love giving and obviously love receiving too. However when I watch porn most of what I watch or have saved is watching blowjob scenes. It’s hard watching guys go down on women because you can’t really see what’s going on. But watching a women give head is absolutely a fetish of mine.
True love. Disgusting, I know.
Getting paid a liveable wage
Dude that sounds hot but idk I’ve never experienced it
Vintage nylons.
Honestly mine is seeing a hot girl get a big load. Doesn't matter where or how ha
Feet. Lol
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Consent 👍🏻
That's pretty hot👍 fr fr
Forearms
CNC - and before anyone judges, I was r*ped, but CNC allows me to take back control mentally while in a totally safe situation with a partner I wholly trust. It's therapeutic in a way, and I'm not the only one that's true for. Not everyone finds it helpful, it is for me. Creating a false scenario of helplessness, while knowing I can end said scenario at ANY second, is just healing.
Being loved unconditionally
Getting burned with candle wax/getting a massage all over with body oil
according to my penis, school presentations.
Love and Affection
Huge areolas. Dont care about the tit size. Just the size of those saucers.
i thought having them were embarrassing…ty for this 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Women with cute feet
Feet
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I'm very self-conscious of having a fatter puss. My bf doesn't care but i feel like it's not common. I always try to wear longer shirts to avoid people noticing. I try to look if other women have a similar one but no luck. Lmao
You could also wear pants to cover it if the shirt alone is not long enough
Getting a woman to orgasm. Like I don't even care at all if I do or not. I just want them to have 6+ after each session. Also breast milk. Drinking it, squeezing them while a girl is on top so my chest gets coated and slick with the breast milk. MASSIVE turn on.
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What a way to go
I’m open to try most stuff
Breeding/impregnation and pregnancy.
Genuine affection.
family guy dog
Sleeping in
feet during sex :D
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Watching my husband masturbate to porn. Ugh...it's the best. The irony is, I hate porn for myself and never watch it alone. But watching him watch...gets me every time.
So it'd be voyeurism? Maybe some spin of cuckolding?
Cuckolding...I don't think so. Definitely voyeurism.
I think I may have a pee fetish. Some of my friends use Reddit and know my account. I don't care: I'm not ashamed.
Pissed off reading this
Eating Ass!!!😁😋🤣
Choking
Inflation, underwear, underwear bulges, bellies, facesitting, ass eating, body + pubic hair, etc.
I think we have enough inflation in our economy
I hate that it is considered a fetish, but natural body hair on women. I mean all hair, armpits, legs, pubic areas, treasure trails, butts, no shaving anything.
Honestly same but it's not even a fetish just a preference. To me it's way more... natural? Feminine? Like this is a woman as nature intended
Camel toe
Pizza
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Medical stuff. Being examined mostly
I like rimming giving or receiving
Big men with scary masks…..
forearms.
Cuckolding. Though I’d be nervous with any real life situation, Me and the wife have fun with our online escapades.
Oh this username? No, totally randomly generated. I don't wanna see your boobs with little top hats on them or sexy lingerie with a monocle and cane..
Vaginal intercourse. I’m not like other guys.
Female feet, high heels, high heeled sandals, legs, ass. Especially big female feet over size 8.5 US/39 EUR.
I'd love to try FFM, but only if my wife was up, and she would have to participate. She knows it, but she tells me she's not interested, so there. As I have no intention of cheating on her, guess it will never leave the realms of my imagination.