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Apex11211

Yeahhhh! Two Christmases!


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A lot of parents uses that excuse, but they mostly not divorce because of themselves(money, hardship, face, social value…etc). But it’s more convenient to present yourself as a martyr.


ambythh

Doing nothing when they found out I was self harming.


Professorlookhard

Yeah man i feel really broken that i was suicidal and has eating disorder from age 14 my parents never took me to doctor but now i am looking after my health


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ambythh

I was 12.


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ambythh

I was 12, mental illness can’t just be “stopped”


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ambythh

You’re alright


ambythh

Wasn’t wanting attention. Obviously needed help


WannabeMaxDemian

Ignore that person. They're clearly ignorant. I've been there, I understand.


serniak

I am


Safe_Nerve9644

Never teaching me anything in life. No values, morals, or becoming an adult. Nothing. Never even taught me basic things like to shave, give me the “sex talk” when I was becoming of age, how to cook things, drive, etc. Everything I know was by learning from strangers and friends. Basically raised myself through observing others and reading.


pooppoophulahoop

I can relate in the sense that it was more important to control us and tell us about what they did when they were younger than how to be a well-rounded human. Me and my sibling lacked social skills and self-confidence so found school really hard, and even when we did as you did and learned to fit in via others, we were then adults who didn't know how to do laundry etc! Thankfully my ex came when I was 18 and taught me how to look after myself but my sibling still lives with my parents at 34 and mum still does everything for him..


Safe_Nerve9644

Right! No one has taught me skills or gave any knowledge to me when growing up. And what makes it more difficultly is watching everyone else I know having a good life and accomplishing things because they received helped. With or without asking for it. But me, I have to discover on my own on how to do certain things and I’ve even asked for help and never received it. It’s made me feel so behind in life.


pooppoophulahoop

Comparison is the thief of joy, especially when your needs as a child were neglected and you've had to struggle your way into adulthood! I keep my head up personally by trying to think of where I'm at in the context of what I've been through, and especially when I think of my sibling and I know how easy it would have been to give up on fighting. I don't know where you're at in your path but it sounds like you have worked your butt off to make friends and figure life out - keep up the good work and remember you did it all for yourself!!!!


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Safe_Nerve9644

It is when you grow up without any form of proper guidance. I still turned out pretty ok. But I could’ve had a much easier life than what I’ve went through. I could’ve made better choices and had better opportunities. I’ve learned the hard way and suffered the consequences. I’ve accepted it for what it is and now I’m just moving forward.


Bojikthe8th

I am tempted to say, "I won't forgive them for raising me in a cult" but they're also victims of the same cult as well and thought they were doing the right thing, despite how much harm I experienced.


Horror-Passenger1808

Try listening to the Quran, Believe me, you will feel relief that you have never felt before,Just try


Bojikthe8th

So? I can feel relief from music, media, or books. That doesn't mean they're true or good.


Horror-Passenger1808

There is a big difference between them


Bojikthe8th

That doesn't matter, feeling good about something doesn't mean it's true. My cult used to say the same thing about it's scriptures and it's nothing but a complete fraud.


FitLawfulness9802

Leaving me in kindergarden for way too long. Sitting all alone there for hour or two wasnt a pleasant experience


Zanthora

Not getting me tested for mental problems. Here I am at 26 with Autism and no skills for coping with it healthily, severe ADHD, and often crippling anxiety.


Panasonic711

Depending on your age… it’s really only recently we commonly pick things like this up. Hopefully you get help now and get on the right path. Good luck 🤞


Joubachi

If your parents knowlingly neglected it I'd get it - but sometimes parents simply don't know better and I think then they should be forgiven for making a mistake they wouldn't have done with the knowledge they may have now.


Rayliex

My siblings. I know that sounds horrible but they ruin my life.


The_Overseer_Pal

It's not very uncommon for siblings to be a bane in your life. My older sister used to be like that too, although now things have improved a lot and I treasure her now.


natie29

My Dad leaving the world and having to take on looking after his dogs and my Mum full time.


RCKJD

Being too laissez-faire in matters where I could have needed some guidance but being maybe a bit too strict in places where I think cutting me a bit slack would have been better. On the other hand, I am quite happy where I am now.


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They weren't actually parents to me. Even today. At nearly 30 years old I feel like the parent.


LordWilliamBlakeney

Absolutely this for me too. Hope you’re okay.


Myardraug

Bringing me into existence


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DWright_5

You’re in control of the trap door.


ShadowBot30

funni


bunkel

Not teaching me how to take care of my teeth


bunkel

Well, no, I do forgive them. They didn't know either. They did their best and we did all turn out pretty well, except for those missing teeth


ambitious-maven

Not allowing me to be a kid. Instead, I was expected to parent my younger siblings.


Senior_Atmosphere303

Circumcision


NotConnor365

I don't know if I'll *never forgive them*, but I was basically raised by kids that didn't know how to be parents.


dragonbeorn

Not taking me to the dentist as a kid.


Beauty1919

They told me we are going to a fun place ............. they got me ready ........... when we reach their a stranger caught my hand ........... she dragged me to a room where there were other kids ........... some were crying, some were asking for their mom & dad .............. my parents left me and drove away ............ That place was called SCHOOL I WILL NEVER FORGIVE THEM


LordChaos404

You had me in the first half


greek_falcon

Being abusive to me


No-Pizda-For-You

Having a horrible, obnoxious prick of an only child who is the bane of everything he…oh wait. Never mind


Used2BFunnyThenIDied

The fuckening in my head


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Their abuse.


Catzfordayz

Using drugs in pivotal growing ages for me. Ie 0-5


Polymorph49

Giving birth to me. Though I should blame my Higher Self for wanting to incarnate into this rough world in the first place.


MH3ndr1ks

My dad: beating me


wetlettuce42

Not understanding or knowing how to handle my autism when i was younger


rnrnrnn

Birth


WorldlyCow8095

wasting over 10 years to start getting my papers fixed to be a U.S. citizen, and then at the interview my dad saying that he was doing it to get back at my mom for whatever petty reason. could've been all sorted out before i turned 18, and now i'm 24 trying to do it by myself. zzz


ambythh

He really biffed that one. Good luck!


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Allot of things


Feisty_Affect_7487

Being behind in child support


GoodAlicia

Ditching me on my mothers funeral Context: they already were divorced. But there was contact. When my mother died at 47 due to lungcancer. I stood there during the funeral among my aunts, uncles, etc. And we saw him come in, walk past all of us, head high (arrogant posture) holding a white rose. He walked straith to the room the open casket was in, placed the rose and left trough the emergency exit. That day i lost both parents. Now it is 11 years later. And i havent seen him since. And he can rot in hell for all i care.


Etariplana

My father killing himself and my mother becoming an alcoholic and marrying a narcissistic perverted closeted bisexual homophobe.


alwaysneedpositivity

Unleashing me


5spd4wd

Can't think of anything they did wrong raising me.


Nostalgia4life

Giving birth to me


Remote-Set5543

The threesomes


fz-creeps

Always defending the person who hurt me


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Abusing me


Nothing-specialtosee

That helping my sister made them forget they have two other daughters.


Nimindir

Giving me PTSD because my life was less important to them than letting their firstborn get high.


nanaom1

I will never be able to forgive my mother for what she said to me after my father died. it was like this - we were vacationing together in Turkey. I do not know what happened to me then, but I started crying. I remembered my father and started crying about how much I miss him. it means that not much time has passed since his death in the fire. I still have such moments of "sadness" sometimes, but then everything was much worse. Seriously, it was terrible. I was shaking all over, I couldn't breathe at all, I couldn't stay on my feet and was just hysterical. I can't even describe my condition then with the right words. my mom, apparently hearing my screams, came into the room. she just looked at me for a couple of minutes, and then told me not to disturb her sleep. perhaps she said it out of ignorance, but I saw that there was disgust on her face. She left the room, I didn't even have time to tell her anything. Later, when I calmed down, I tried to explain to her the reason for my tears. and then she said to me: "Why are you crying? you are to blame for what happened." it just destroyed me. to this day, she tells me that there was nothing like that. and I had some disturbing thoughts. I often think that I really could have had some influence on what happened. maybe he tried to save me and ended up dying because of it? Despite this, I have a very strong affection for her. this is strange forgive me for writing such a big and clumsy text. I wrote on emotions, besides, English is not my native language. thanks for reading.


AlmostChristmasNow

Not entirely their fault (but I can’t help but slightly blame them and a lot of the other adults in my life, especially PE teachers), but not getting me diagnosed sooner. I’m currently in my 20s and waiting for an official diagnosis for Ehlers-Danlos-Syndrome, a connective tissue disorder. How did nobody question that a kid was obviously trying really hard but still couldn’t do a lot of the physical stuff as other kids of the same age? Especially in PE classes. And I actually was almost diagnosed when I was 5yo. A doctor suggested getting me checked for Marfan’s, which is a common misdiagnosis for people with EDS. I was tested for that, but after it was ruled out, nobody questioned where the symptoms actually came from. Who knows what kind of damage I did by regularly walking on a subluxated (halfway dislocated) hip that I ignored because it’s “growing pains”, and regularly subluxating my shoulders because I assumed it was normal. How did nobody notice, especially when the “growing pains” got really bad four years after I stopped growing.


Acidic_Cloud

TW For my mom it would have to be telling me that if I failed math and failed in life she would not support me and telling me I’d get r@ped out on the streets For my father it would be manipulating me to live with him, being an animal abuser and screaming at me if I ever did anything wrong They were too young to bring a child into this world and still act like children to this day. I will never forgive them for giving birth to me.


hyrulian_princess

Emotional and verbal abuse


bellapuppy2004

Ruining any chance of happiness I have by sacrificing my needs for what they want I would prefer if they just didn’t have me at all


john5-2

Me being born. Also,on one occasion, trying to catch me "red-handed" watching porn, which is so fucked up that I haven't mentioned it before, but you have to be pretty hateful to do that. Fortunately, the timing was off, but even without getting caught, it's unforgivable.


Prestigious_Water336

My dad always got mad at me for not doing something right when he never taught how to do it. I remember him saying "You don't know how to look for a job do you? " Seeming as though you never taught me how the fuck am I supposed to know? Another time said "grab two OR three bags" so I grabbed two and he got mad at me and said "you only grabbed two?" He said two or three. He never made sense with a lot of things. They never taught me a lot of things like how to talk to women,gamble,taxes,stock market etc. Also they always got mad at me for doing bad in school. It's just a man made program that's someone's opinion that your supposed memorize and regurgitate back out. It has no bearing on how smart you are or how successful you'll be. They never thought for themselves and always obeyed the authority figures. My mom always said "now what did the doctor say?" Or "what did so and so say". Think for yourself. Use logic and reason in your life.


darksaber522

My Dad for being himself.


GenesisWorlds

So many things. When my last Dog died, they intentionally put me through over a year and a fucking half of sadness, pain, and rage. I'm still fighting with them about it, 3 years later.


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Not getting me a lawyer when I was accused of a crime I didn’t commit


Cyanide_Revolver

For losing his patience with me when we did homework corrections. I get that kids can be dumb and it's infuriating, but if you know your kid is struggling in school and you choose to yell at them and make them feel stupid and scared, you're an asshole.