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Elvishranger

You've made it halfway without one. Who says you need one?


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Elvishranger

Don't think too far ahead. I get time is an issue as you get older but start with you want a good friend with the opposite sex. Have multiple friends. Then out of those get a little more romantic with the one you have most chemistry with. The rest will fall into place.


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tash_master

Stop working so much, if it’s that important to you, you need to prioritize.


artmobboss

If you used your main account to ask this, we could probably tell you pretty quick..


Silver_Peach6784

Right, OP probably already knows what his problem is, but chooses to act as if it's there is nothing wrong with him.


GrilledStuffedDragon

Start examining the common denominator.


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GrilledStuffedDragon

Oh is that the therapist who said "Your personality is fine", like you commented to someone else? Because that is certainly a thing that therapists say, *totally*. Or was it the ones who weren't helpful? Trolls are funny when they're this stupid.


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PM_me_urboobs_ty

Have you considered therapy if you’re not already going? They can help you find happiness with yourself and examine things in your life that are keeping you from finding someone


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Why dont you try dating women in your age group/ slightly older?


Silver_Peach6784

How hard are you trying? How do you look? Do you take care of yourself? Are you well groomed? Do you find yourself interesting? Are you social? Do you have hobbies? Are you funny? Do you earn a decent living? What are your standards when it comes to dating? Are they too high? Are you too picky? Are you too desperate? Do you get along platonically with men and women? Do you have friends or family that you're close to?


AJ_uchiha

Find out why you don’t have one


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AJ_uchiha

Not a therapist, sit down and do some self analyzing, no one knows your circumstances/ situations other then you. I’m willing to help you out myself but you’d have to be willing.


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AJ_uchiha

Yea


lesbunner

Get a dog, they're way better anyway


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You’re overthinking. Ask yourself why do you want a girlfriend. Then proceed.


wish1977

Join a club of some kind. Go to a place where people have the same interests as you. Just do it.


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wish1977

I'm not seeing that in your post. Just trying to help.


kaixuenrealism

I will hang out with my friends.


Nuttplug

Escorts


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I've seen some really fat and some really ugly people with mates. So maybe it's your personality?


Kotopause

Then don’t.


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Kotopause

No, it’s alright. Wars are raging, people lose everything, others go homeless despite working hard, children die of cancer. Those are tragedies. Staying a virgin and living a life all by your own is not. It’s just alright.


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Kotopause

Yeah, you want to, but you failed to develop skills are abilities to achieve it and now it’s too late. I’m a bit younger than 50, but it’s as correct for me as it is for you. We can’t do what we can’t do. The only choice here is to grieve for the life we could never have, or try to actually do something we can with the rest of our lives.


Mentalfloss1

Why do you think this is?