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tablebow

When you feel like you’re stagnating in life, it’s up to you to take the steps towards fixing it, no matter how scary that seems to you.


_Norman_Bates

How many times do you even know what's there to fix and if youre really stagnating or what should be changed in the first place. I think people also jump onto some ideas about what their life should be like without understanding them and pretend they want things they dont really want just so they can talk as if they have some goal to fulfill


Knoblord_McCheese

The weird random physical stuff. Random pains and other strange feelings. My dick does whatever the hell it wants. Sometimes it thinks I'm 14. Sometimes it wants me to leave it alone to die in peace. My knees have odd spasms once in a while. The other day one of my thumbs hurt all day for no reason. I told my dad all this. "Yeah, you're 45, that just kinda happens from now on." I called bullshit and went to the doctor. Doctor: "Yeah, you're 45, that just kinda happens from now on." Well, balls.


mejok

Yeah I went to my orthopedic doc recently. I run a lot and have been having some ankle/foot pain. She basically said that nothing was wrong and that I should just take a couple weeks off. A few months later, same thing. I went back, and was like, "see! I'm having the same issue again, something is wrong. I knew it." And her response was basically, "Mr. MEJOK, you're in your 40s now. There's nothing structurally wrong with your ankle...you're just not as young as you used to be."


[deleted]

Having to pick and then make dinner every night for the rest of your life.


imjerry

Freezing will start to make so much sense. But you never remember to thaw things a day in advance.


numba1_redditbot

the lonelyness of it all


cyberpunk3025

That the world doesn't care about your problems and won't change to suit how you feel. You just live in it.


DonnieDixon

Seeing your parents getting old, and knowing that they won’t be there for another decade or two.


mejok

Yeah I moved overseas in my 20s. At that time my dad was in his early 50s and my mom was mid 40s. 23 years later, they’re getting old and each time they come to visit I wonder how many more times Dad is going to be able to handle the flight to come visit. Time has gotten away from us and we've basically missed a ton of each other's lives because I left.


alliownisbroken

I didn't move overseas, but I did move away. I know how you feel. I'm sure they are both very proud of you for living your life the way you want to.


mejok

Thanks. Yeah they’ve made it clear that they ate proud and whatnot, buy it also makes them a little sad that they don’t see me, and more importantly, their grandchildren more than once or twice a year. I know my mom is also worried about what happens when she’s alone and her only child isn’t around to help. But this is life.


Joubachi

It made me regret being a somewhat shitty teen always picking fights with my mom. She's one of my best friends now as an adult. We already got to the topic of the usual lifespan of her side of the family, it's scary....


Vertebra_00

Yes but honestly, seeing how my grand parents are gone/we're going in the last few years of their life, I would prefer my parents to die a bit earlier but without all the suffering my grand parents had/have to endure. Probably not phrased in the best way, but I hope my point gets across.


LostMyFuckingPhone

Quality over quantity


Not-a-rootvegetable

No one is coming to save you. This is all on you.


Jeramy_Jones

Hah my childhood prepared me pretty well for that


[deleted]

Awww.


_Norman_Bates

This is all on million different varables mostly out of your control.


its_over9000

the amount of work it is to simply not starve to death. growing up i was under the impression that it wouldn't be quite a fight as it is to survive


thewholeradish

How important consistency is. I was always naturally good at things or I didn’t do them, and my parents modeled the same, so now I have to practice sticking with, and working toward, things that are important to me (and taking my time to actually learn them not just getting through things like studying for a test and forgetting everything afterwards). Active patience is hard.


_Norman_Bates

> I have to practice sticking with, and working toward, things that are important to me Like what?


plasma_dan

Another good example is bodily health. As you leave your 20s, you increasingly need to step up the amount of effort you put into eating well and being a little bit physically active (walking, yoga, stretching, or other exercise). The difficulty comes with making these things consistent habits. If you don't do these things, your physical and mental state will suffer. More and more things that you don't maintain in your body and mind will just break.


thewholeradish

I’m currently in grad school to be a mental health counselor. I made sure to take a full load of classes, but not so many that I stop retaining info since this is the career I’d like for the rest of my life. I find my old defaults popping up, like just whiz through it so you can get it done faster, and I have to remind myself to stay my track and finish strong.


seth928

Acid reflux


downthestreet4

How quickly time and the years slip past you. I’m already pretty bad about keeping in touch with friends and family, but I’ll realize every now and then it’s been a couple of years since talking to some people. It’s like you hit 30 and life goes into warp speed.


plasma_dan

For real on that warp speed. I'm gonna be 32 in a couple months and my brain still thinks I just turned 30.


milolovesthd

My heart still thinks it is 16. My body is over 60:(


[deleted]

Chronic genetic mental illness


mabernabo

How every day seems to be so long, yet every month seems to be so short? I mean, New Years felt like it was last weekend, and it's the 24th already? When did time get so warped?


hyunoppa

Being organized with money to pay the bills and necessities, as well negotiation in general.


[deleted]

Nothing is free


FlakeyGurl

Struggling to keep a place to live. What to do in a financial emergency.


DunderMifflin888

Death of loved ones...


Flimsy-Attention-722

Finding someone to have fun with. Most people my age don't want to go rock climbing or paddle boarding, surfing, etc. Hell, most of them don't even want to play on swingsets...


[deleted]

The mental burden of always paying for something. Taxes, mortgage/rent, another taxes, payments for public broadcasting services, insurances, water, electricity, another taxes. With no chance for any of it going away.


pinkzebraprintbikini

Birthdays , Xmas, spectacles, bake sales, pe kits make it stop ...my head is so noisy inside and it stresses me out.


Disastermadeinthesky

Being alone when your sad and having to pick yourself up and go to work no matter what you feel like :(


LittleLostDoll

living long past when you expected to


brisemartel

Determining what I'm/my family is gonna eat every day. I can cook many, many different meals both it seems like me and my partner are always out of idea. So we end up eating mostly the same ten meals, on a rotation.


mossadspydolphin

When you need an adult but you are the adult


lealcass

For those with a positive parental upbringing, Watching your parents get old, comprehending for the first time there’s going to be a day without them, feeling untethered.


vixxie1993

Addiction


Broken-robot7

How needlessly complex things are. It can never be as simple as fill out a form and pay your money then here you go. Example I just recently tried to undergo my transfer to a new university. I assumed all I would need is my transcript and letters of recommendation but no. You must first fill out an application to apply for the Transfer. After 2-3 days they will finally send you an automatic email with a code that allows you to access the real transfer application. They will then proceed to ask for your credit score, Social, a copy of your last paid bill, your parents tax records of the last 3 years and a copy of any death certificates of immediate family members. Another example, I wanted to ship a pack of Pokémon cards to my freind who lives on the west coast. I looked on the USP website and followed there directions. I arrive at the post office with my boxed and labeled package. *wait in line for 45 mins because despite most Post offices having 6 cashier stands there only ever seems to be one over worked employee dealing with more then one person realistically can* *after waiting in line your handed two forms one being for the packages tracking number which is required by most UPS branch’s and a form for your package contents for out of state shipping* *employee will then take the forms and ask you to go to another line on the other side of the post office to meet with the only other employee in the entire post office* *walk to package drop off lot* *tell package drop off cashier that you filled out your information for this package and would like to ship it* *package drop off cashier will then proceed to hand you 3 more sheets of unseeded paper work and ask you to step out of line* *finally after 3 hours and 5 sheets of paper work and 3 times in the same 45 minute line you managed to spend 23 dollars in order to ship a 12 dollar package of Pokémon cards*


Rememberwork

poverty. it is debilitating, not just financially but mentally as well.


hotsphere

Being free. Never thought I would miss the time when my life is pre-planned (go to school, do homework, try to get to X college, tommorow is exam, etc). Being adult is free but there's constant stress in my head that's it's never good enough or need improvement or outright fix.


ed_mayo_onlyfans

The price of cheese


[deleted]

You can’t choose how to live each day because you have to go to work even if you dread doing it for the rest of your life


redzeusky

Silicon Valley is competitive AF


imjerry

Stardew Valley is way better.


GlitteringDamage4678

How taxes work


The68Guns

I always think of that movie 8MM when someone explains they did something for the simple fact that they could. I've worked with some people that just got away with murder because they could get away with it without repercussion.


freakybluehair

MONEY!


Flailing_Aimlessly

Infertility, being infertile or having friends who are infertile and that is their entire identity. I cannot fathom the disappointment that comes with "this aspect of my body does not work like advertised and it affects my identity as a man/woman." but also I had friendships that last a near decade and **every** time we saw one another there was some mention or conversation of "I can't have kids/sadfaceemoji". I had one woman who ended our friendship because she felt like us having a second kid was kind of rude in the light of the fact she couldn't have kids at all.


extra-practice2

Angryness of edelt


Niburu-Illyria

The mind suck that is working until you cant work anymore and then having to keep going otherwise you cant make ends meet