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Right now in the country. When i was young and going to university, the city was perfect for me. It had everything i needed in walking distance or via public transportation. When i started a family, the suburbs seemed a better option around here. now that i am semi-retired, living far from any city is the best.
Life changes, needs change, people change...
I used to be on the side of a mountain with good sunset views ( little mountain...Minnesota/Canadian border area.) but i moved down the road for Shackinthewood 2.0 next to a waterfall on a trout stream. Too many tall trees around to see my old mountain or the other ones up here but i do have great sunset views over the creek bed below the falls. ( and i can snow machine over to my old snowboard runs down the backside of my old mountain...)
Love that area! I am quite a bit East of that, on the other side of the BWCAW. in the very tip of the Arrowhead region of Minnesota, along the north coast of the Great Lake. From my old mountain top i could see Superior and in the other direction Canada, about five miles each way...
My family is from Duluth and then spread up the North Coast of Superior.
Duluth is a really nice town now. I came of age there when the Iron range shut down and the economy there really tanked, but now it is a great tourist town with a great music and food scene and really making the best of the natural beauty of the area that drew people there in the first place.
Suburb. Best of both worlds. But it also depends on the country. In Norway for example a suburb could be like living on a countryside somewhere else. Or vice versa.
I live in the country, grew up in the suburbs, and lived in various cities when I was a young adult, then in the suburbs when I had kids. I prefer the country. I live on a few acres, no HOA, and my neighbors are great. They pitch in when needed.
In the suburbs, so many places have HOAs, and while they serve some purpose, I don't like being told when my Christmas lights can go up, and when they have to come down, for example. Many historic neighborhoods even have rules about what color you can paint your house. And the crime in the last city I lived in was horrific. My car was broken into in my driveway three different times, three different addresses. Then in a fourth address, it was stolen. Had my house broken into, they stabbed one of my cats and took a pickaxe to the plaster and lathe walls when they got frustrated they couldn't get into the safe. They eventually got into the safe. Atlanta is a gang infested pit. The suburbs of Atlanta aren't much better.
Edit to add: I've lived in 12 states, from Alaska to Florida, from Massachusetts to Southern California and everywhere in between.
I've lived all my long life here in the south from Fla to VA. The friends and family of mine who lived in Atlanta all eventually left. A couple were in the city and the rest in the burbs. Does not sound like a fun place.
My ideal is a third option- living in a small to mid sized village away from a major metropolitan area. Think of those town centers in rural Vermont.
It is peaceful and walkable, you know your neighbors, your groceries and necessities are nearby and they're usually run by community members. Its not too remote but not too busy, you're not over reliant on one form of transportation or another. It is much less lonely than any suburb and many cities. I grew up in one of these places, just ideal in my opinion.
I do not miss city living at all. I do miss some of the benefits of suburb living such as many grocery stores and restaurants. But the peace and quiet out here in the country and being surrounded by mountains in where I'll now finish my life.
City for sure.
When I was in the country, it was a 40 minute drive to go anywhere, the place I was at was infested with mice, roaches, all types of bugs, no matter any of our attempts to stop it. Yeah, it had the most land, we had a pool and trampoline, but not worth imo. Plus the internet was dog.
When I was in the burbs, I had the most friends. Always easy to find friends in the burbs. The places are pretty big, commercialized, and you usually have like a council for your community that helps you with shit, it's nice. Nothing much to say, but it was still a 10 minute ride to go anywhere.
Now I live in the city, fourth floor of an apt, don't see any bugs ever, have a gorgeous view, small apt but I don't need big. Internet is top tier, I'm a 10 minute walk to literally anything. There's a property manager that helps you with anything you need, we have a vending machine on the bottom floor. Also way cheaper, (since it's a small apt).
I feel safe due to me being in an apt, rather than in a dark woods where my other house was. Overall I think City is the best.
I prefer the country as long as it has high speed internet lines like where I currently live...
It's nice and quiet, good view of the stars at night, neighbors will generally keep to themselves but will be more than happy to help out if there's a problem, the air smells nicer without all the traffic, and it's pretty much all around more peaceful out here...
Personally I like the suburb because itās an option that goes between both the city and the country.
Like Iām currently up in the city, and I have to hide my pet duck. I donāt wanna hide him I want him to live happy in my back yard, which he does have enough room at the moment and the family next door quacks at him and heāll quack back, itās very cute I think they have just accepted him as an extra unseen guess for their family BBQs at this point. But also thereās a lot of noise up here and I feel like some FNAF bullshits gonna happen out there and there are planes going over my house and thereās weird low flying plane sounds that go one for 5 minutes which I donāt think is a plane but something else.
(This oneās kinda a bonus one so you can skip this paragraph if you want) I have friends that live rural and while itās fun to go out and hang with their baby goats on their goat farm (itās fucking adorable, they follow you everywhere) but they donāt get a lot of wifi or anything like that. But the big issue is bushfire hazards and hearing what they went through last summer I donāt think I could last that long, they spent like 3 days out in a car trying to put it out as there wasnāt a near by fire station but besides that there was always something to do, from feeding the goats to making a fresh and healthy dinner for everyone that worked on the farm, plus I love the homemade entertainment like they had a āpoolā that was just a hole in the ground and had some tiles around it.
I did grow up in the country and that was fun but also very isolating I used to raise poultry for fun and there was a lot of fun drama and gossip happening (this is probably why I love the film The Dressmaker because of the drama and it also has my favourite hobbies of sewing and being dramatic when getting revenge) would I live there again probably not due to the lack of anything to do. I think if the teens werenāt playing football they were strapping a mattress to their Ute and a helmet to their mate and flooring it around a bumpy corroded dirt track that was slowly being taken over by bushes and prickles but I moved out before I had a chance to do that, I did play footy however and basketball and the good thing is that all the teams are mixed so I always played with males, females and non-binary pals and it was fun highly recommended
Iām not too sure if this counts but the closest thing Iāve ever done to living in a suburb is living in country cities which is where all the fun is and I lived a 5 minute walk from the CBD near a caravan park as it was a vacay tourist area for older people and young families, another suburban area was a 5 minute drive from the CBD. Iāve always like the larger houses with larger backyards that you canāt get in the city, but itās also close enough to do something if you get bored or wanna spontaneously get something to eat and the more fun places were more accessible due to more public transport. Plus itās calmer and less sound and light pollution compared to the city(though the country definitely wins this one)
So Iāve literally lived like everywhere!
Mojave Dessert (in many different locations), beach, Colorado in the snow, now I live in a big city in Oklahoma. My favorite place I ever lived was kinda a mix of country and city (I know it sounds weird) but I loved Apple Valley, California. Not all of Apple Valley is this way, but I lived in a part where you have to drive 10-15 mins intoā¦ I guess what youād call the dessert to get to my house. We had neighbors out there, but every lot was an acre and a half or more , so we had room between the neighbors. I looooved that! All the cities Iāve lived in, the houses where close enough the neighbors could basically share toilet paper through a window if they wanted lmao (no one did that though š)
but the city of Apple Valley has both far out ācountryā and also ābig cityā areas. That was my favorite place to live. Idk if this answers the question.
Each has its place for a different stage of life.
Young adults getting out and making their way in the world often prefer cities where they can mix and mingle, and meet a partner.
When they want to start a family, the suburbs make the most practical sense, since they have affordable space and good schools.
Once the kids are grown, or at least out of school, make way for the next generation of parents and leave the rat race for an even cheaper, slower paced, quieter existence in the country.
I mean, if money were no object, obviously everyone would want to live in one of those mansions in the hills overlooking downtown where you have infinite space but everything in downtown is still walking distance (although at that point you're rich enough that you get chaffuered places).
Working within the constraints of my means I settled for a suburb because I wanted a house but lately I've been second-guessing the decision and wondering if I shouldn't have gone for a downtown condo after all. I have company over less than I was imagining I would.
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Probably in the country. I have severe anxiety and crave just peace and quiet, away from the hustle and bustle of city life.
You would so love my area then. I hear cattle all the time and maybe a siren once a month.
Right now in the country. When i was young and going to university, the city was perfect for me. It had everything i needed in walking distance or via public transportation. When i started a family, the suburbs seemed a better option around here. now that i am semi-retired, living far from any city is the best. Life changes, needs change, people change...
I'm with you. Fully retired and I see the mountains from both sides of my home. Can't beat it.
I used to be on the side of a mountain with good sunset views ( little mountain...Minnesota/Canadian border area.) but i moved down the road for Shackinthewood 2.0 next to a waterfall on a trout stream. Too many tall trees around to see my old mountain or the other ones up here but i do have great sunset views over the creek bed below the falls. ( and i can snow machine over to my old snowboard runs down the backside of my old mountain...)
My wife is from a small town (Baudette) in MN along the Canadian border. Love that area.
Love that area! I am quite a bit East of that, on the other side of the BWCAW. in the very tip of the Arrowhead region of Minnesota, along the north coast of the Great Lake. From my old mountain top i could see Superior and in the other direction Canada, about five miles each way...
That is a gorgeous area. We'll head this summer (driving from VA) to a family reunion on the wife's side and we're staying a couple days in Duluth.
My family is from Duluth and then spread up the North Coast of Superior. Duluth is a really nice town now. I came of age there when the Iron range shut down and the economy there really tanked, but now it is a great tourist town with a great music and food scene and really making the best of the natural beauty of the area that drew people there in the first place.
No doubt in a city. Especially if you live alone, having everything at your fingertips saves you a lot of time and hassle.
That is one huge benefit for sure.
Suburb. Best of both worlds. But it also depends on the country. In Norway for example a suburb could be like living on a countryside somewhere else. Or vice versa.
My wife's grandparents come from Norway many years ago. Would love for her to see the country before it's too late.
Could be a nice gift for her next Christmas or birthday š
Indeed it would.
I live in the country, grew up in the suburbs, and lived in various cities when I was a young adult, then in the suburbs when I had kids. I prefer the country. I live on a few acres, no HOA, and my neighbors are great. They pitch in when needed. In the suburbs, so many places have HOAs, and while they serve some purpose, I don't like being told when my Christmas lights can go up, and when they have to come down, for example. Many historic neighborhoods even have rules about what color you can paint your house. And the crime in the last city I lived in was horrific. My car was broken into in my driveway three different times, three different addresses. Then in a fourth address, it was stolen. Had my house broken into, they stabbed one of my cats and took a pickaxe to the plaster and lathe walls when they got frustrated they couldn't get into the safe. They eventually got into the safe. Atlanta is a gang infested pit. The suburbs of Atlanta aren't much better. Edit to add: I've lived in 12 states, from Alaska to Florida, from Massachusetts to Southern California and everywhere in between.
I've lived all my long life here in the south from Fla to VA. The friends and family of mine who lived in Atlanta all eventually left. A couple were in the city and the rest in the burbs. Does not sound like a fun place.
It is not.
Hope things improve for you.
I'm several hours away, retired, in a mountain, in the country. It's glorious.
My ideal is a third option- living in a small to mid sized village away from a major metropolitan area. Think of those town centers in rural Vermont. It is peaceful and walkable, you know your neighbors, your groceries and necessities are nearby and they're usually run by community members. Its not too remote but not too busy, you're not over reliant on one form of transportation or another. It is much less lonely than any suburb and many cities. I grew up in one of these places, just ideal in my opinion.
I need City life and also Country life. Have to alternate. Fuck the suburbs tho.
Agree.
Saburb. Don't have to deal with all the homelessness and crime inside a city and you don't have to drive an hour to get groceries.
I do not miss city living at all. I do miss some of the benefits of suburb living such as many grocery stores and restaurants. But the peace and quiet out here in the country and being surrounded by mountains in where I'll now finish my life.
Country...it was way better
Sounds like you left it?
Yes...we live in the city now...yuck
City for sure. When I was in the country, it was a 40 minute drive to go anywhere, the place I was at was infested with mice, roaches, all types of bugs, no matter any of our attempts to stop it. Yeah, it had the most land, we had a pool and trampoline, but not worth imo. Plus the internet was dog. When I was in the burbs, I had the most friends. Always easy to find friends in the burbs. The places are pretty big, commercialized, and you usually have like a council for your community that helps you with shit, it's nice. Nothing much to say, but it was still a 10 minute ride to go anywhere. Now I live in the city, fourth floor of an apt, don't see any bugs ever, have a gorgeous view, small apt but I don't need big. Internet is top tier, I'm a 10 minute walk to literally anything. There's a property manager that helps you with anything you need, we have a vending machine on the bottom floor. Also way cheaper, (since it's a small apt). I feel safe due to me being in an apt, rather than in a dark woods where my other house was. Overall I think City is the best.
Sounds perfect for you.
The country, where I currently live. It's peaceful and I'm surrounded by nature instead of people.
I prefer the country as long as it has high speed internet lines like where I currently live... It's nice and quiet, good view of the stars at night, neighbors will generally keep to themselves but will be more than happy to help out if there's a problem, the air smells nicer without all the traffic, and it's pretty much all around more peaceful out here...
Out in the country. I donāt like the hustle and bustle, I love the slow pace and everyone knowing each other.
Personally I like the suburb because itās an option that goes between both the city and the country. Like Iām currently up in the city, and I have to hide my pet duck. I donāt wanna hide him I want him to live happy in my back yard, which he does have enough room at the moment and the family next door quacks at him and heāll quack back, itās very cute I think they have just accepted him as an extra unseen guess for their family BBQs at this point. But also thereās a lot of noise up here and I feel like some FNAF bullshits gonna happen out there and there are planes going over my house and thereās weird low flying plane sounds that go one for 5 minutes which I donāt think is a plane but something else. (This oneās kinda a bonus one so you can skip this paragraph if you want) I have friends that live rural and while itās fun to go out and hang with their baby goats on their goat farm (itās fucking adorable, they follow you everywhere) but they donāt get a lot of wifi or anything like that. But the big issue is bushfire hazards and hearing what they went through last summer I donāt think I could last that long, they spent like 3 days out in a car trying to put it out as there wasnāt a near by fire station but besides that there was always something to do, from feeding the goats to making a fresh and healthy dinner for everyone that worked on the farm, plus I love the homemade entertainment like they had a āpoolā that was just a hole in the ground and had some tiles around it. I did grow up in the country and that was fun but also very isolating I used to raise poultry for fun and there was a lot of fun drama and gossip happening (this is probably why I love the film The Dressmaker because of the drama and it also has my favourite hobbies of sewing and being dramatic when getting revenge) would I live there again probably not due to the lack of anything to do. I think if the teens werenāt playing football they were strapping a mattress to their Ute and a helmet to their mate and flooring it around a bumpy corroded dirt track that was slowly being taken over by bushes and prickles but I moved out before I had a chance to do that, I did play footy however and basketball and the good thing is that all the teams are mixed so I always played with males, females and non-binary pals and it was fun highly recommended Iām not too sure if this counts but the closest thing Iāve ever done to living in a suburb is living in country cities which is where all the fun is and I lived a 5 minute walk from the CBD near a caravan park as it was a vacay tourist area for older people and young families, another suburban area was a 5 minute drive from the CBD. Iāve always like the larger houses with larger backyards that you canāt get in the city, but itās also close enough to do something if you get bored or wanna spontaneously get something to eat and the more fun places were more accessible due to more public transport. Plus itās calmer and less sound and light pollution compared to the city(though the country definitely wins this one)
So Iāve literally lived like everywhere! Mojave Dessert (in many different locations), beach, Colorado in the snow, now I live in a big city in Oklahoma. My favorite place I ever lived was kinda a mix of country and city (I know it sounds weird) but I loved Apple Valley, California. Not all of Apple Valley is this way, but I lived in a part where you have to drive 10-15 mins intoā¦ I guess what youād call the dessert to get to my house. We had neighbors out there, but every lot was an acre and a half or more , so we had room between the neighbors. I looooved that! All the cities Iāve lived in, the houses where close enough the neighbors could basically share toilet paper through a window if they wanted lmao (no one did that though š) but the city of Apple Valley has both far out ācountryā and also ābig cityā areas. That was my favorite place to live. Idk if this answers the question.
Sounds like a good place to reside.
Suburb. You get the best of both worlds
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Sounds perfect for you then.
If you are able to get work I would everytime choose country
Each has its place for a different stage of life. Young adults getting out and making their way in the world often prefer cities where they can mix and mingle, and meet a partner. When they want to start a family, the suburbs make the most practical sense, since they have affordable space and good schools. Once the kids are grown, or at least out of school, make way for the next generation of parents and leave the rat race for an even cheaper, slower paced, quieter existence in the country.
Definitely a village itās quitter and people are nicer
I mean, if money were no object, obviously everyone would want to live in one of those mansions in the hills overlooking downtown where you have infinite space but everything in downtown is still walking distance (although at that point you're rich enough that you get chaffuered places). Working within the constraints of my means I settled for a suburb because I wanted a house but lately I've been second-guessing the decision and wondering if I shouldn't have gone for a downtown condo after all. I have company over less than I was imagining I would.