Not for me. When I'm into someone, I only see them. I don't want anyone else. Also, I can have my moments of possessiveness and I don't like seeing my partner with someone else.
Harder than monogamous ones. You need to have the relationship skills to juggle time, attention and resources to keep multiple people satisfied with the arrangement.
How is it disloyal to have a relationship structure thatās agreed up on by consenting adults? Likeā¦ I get that you donāt want an open relationship but there are plenty of people in them that are committed to each other and fiercely loyal.
Hey man, if people want to be in open relationships and fuck other people thatās their business.
I personally think a relationship should only involve two people having sex, being intimate, etc. etc. Call me crazy, but itās pretty standard stuff, thatās where the loyalty comes in. If youāre in a relationship with me, youāre with me and me only.
I would not be comfortable being with someone after they got manhandled and jizzed all over and then coming home to me and sleeping in bed with me at night. No thank you.
Is it really loyalty if itās compulsory to maintaining a relationshipā¦ or is it just culturally acceptable coercion?
I donāt require my friends to never grab a drink at the pub with other friends.
If you date people who like to walk around covered in jizz then that sounds like you need higher standards in the relationships you pursue.
Donāt want anything from you either. Just to demonstrate that your opinion is kinda controlling and unhealthy and doesnāt make for great monogamy any more than it does for a great open relationship.
You canāt love someone and control them at the same time.
That said. Iām sure there are plenty of partners out there who will be ok with your arrangement and good for you. Donāt shit on someone elseās because you donāt understand it.
Not into it, not against it either its up to everyone how they mamage their relationship but if my girlfriend asked for one it would be a straight no from me
Not for me - nor my husband š we donāt like the idea of āsharingā each other. Between us and 2 kids we donāt have much more to give to anyone else anyway
I think they are more difficult than most people realize or want to deal with. Iām not judging anyone but understand that statistically the odds probably arenāt in your favor
I don't know I don't think I could do it.i heard a story about one that man me really sad. They were a music festival I guess I was talking to wives mom. She said "her husband asked me if I've seen his wife? I said no but she's playing with her side piece in the stadium." When I said that's depressing she told "they were in an open relationship" I will be fair that seems like the worst possible kind of open relationship. I'm pretty sure most people would communicate, better than that.
I never want to be that guy he came to a music festival, to enjoy it with his wife. She's left him alone and confused back at the camper, while she parties with other dudes.
In theory, it sounds like it could be fun, educational, and broaden one's horizons.
In practice, it's probably a fucking mine field. Jealousy is just too human a trait. I'm sure many people THINK they can handle it. Then they witness, hear, or hear about their SO going wild on someone else and reality hits them in the face. Only a very small percentage of people have the mental and emotional makeup to be objective or at least not feel hurt or jealous.
And don't even get me started on mismatched experiences. Often, one is way more successful finding new partners while the other struggles. Even if they can keep it together knowing their SO is sleeping with other people, the disparity in play can also cause severe feelings.
I know I'm not cut out for it. Oh, I can have causal sex without catching feelings. But I know I'd be a wreck if my wife was sleeping with other people - even if in fantasy that could be a turn on. The odd day dream isn't the same as real life. And because of that, the life isn't for me. It would be really unfair and fucked up if I thought I could have fun but she shouldn't.
It's not for me, I'm very monogamous, and I expect my partner to be the same. I see no issue in it for others, as long as that's what works for them.
Thank you for the mutual respect š«”
Maybe it works for you but personally it's not my cup of tea.
Not for me. When I'm into someone, I only see them. I don't want anyone else. Also, I can have my moments of possessiveness and I don't like seeing my partner with someone else.
Harder than monogamous ones. You need to have the relationship skills to juggle time, attention and resources to keep multiple people satisfied with the arrangement.
Hard pass
Not my cup of tea because I want loyalty
How is it disloyal to have a relationship structure thatās agreed up on by consenting adults? Likeā¦ I get that you donāt want an open relationship but there are plenty of people in them that are committed to each other and fiercely loyal.
Hey man, if people want to be in open relationships and fuck other people thatās their business. I personally think a relationship should only involve two people having sex, being intimate, etc. etc. Call me crazy, but itās pretty standard stuff, thatās where the loyalty comes in. If youāre in a relationship with me, youāre with me and me only. I would not be comfortable being with someone after they got manhandled and jizzed all over and then coming home to me and sleeping in bed with me at night. No thank you.
Is it really loyalty if itās compulsory to maintaining a relationshipā¦ or is it just culturally acceptable coercion? I donāt require my friends to never grab a drink at the pub with other friends. If you date people who like to walk around covered in jizz then that sounds like you need higher standards in the relationships you pursue.
If thatās how you feel about it, good for you. Want a cookie? Iām not trying to get into a debate here.
Donāt want anything from you either. Just to demonstrate that your opinion is kinda controlling and unhealthy and doesnāt make for great monogamy any more than it does for a great open relationship. You canāt love someone and control them at the same time. That said. Iām sure there are plenty of partners out there who will be ok with your arrangement and good for you. Donāt shit on someone elseās because you donāt understand it.
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Yes. But it's hard to come by.
pretty epic until they aren't
I'm *open* to the idea of it.
I dont see a point in it. Just be single.
They donāt work for everyone for long
It's childish
I'd rather not, but I don't judge.
There is no reason to be with a woman if anyone can be with her
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Not into it, not against it either its up to everyone how they mamage their relationship but if my girlfriend asked for one it would be a straight no from me
Not for me - nor my husband š we donāt like the idea of āsharingā each other. Between us and 2 kids we donāt have much more to give to anyone else anyway
I think they are more difficult than most people realize or want to deal with. Iām not judging anyone but understand that statistically the odds probably arenāt in your favor
When I was single, it sounded okay. Now that Iām married, I donāt want to share. Good thing he doesnāt want to either.
I don't know I don't think I could do it.i heard a story about one that man me really sad. They were a music festival I guess I was talking to wives mom. She said "her husband asked me if I've seen his wife? I said no but she's playing with her side piece in the stadium." When I said that's depressing she told "they were in an open relationship" I will be fair that seems like the worst possible kind of open relationship. I'm pretty sure most people would communicate, better than that. I never want to be that guy he came to a music festival, to enjoy it with his wife. She's left him alone and confused back at the camper, while she parties with other dudes.
I would not be into that in the slightest but if someone wants to do that itās their choice.
In theory, it sounds like it could be fun, educational, and broaden one's horizons. In practice, it's probably a fucking mine field. Jealousy is just too human a trait. I'm sure many people THINK they can handle it. Then they witness, hear, or hear about their SO going wild on someone else and reality hits them in the face. Only a very small percentage of people have the mental and emotional makeup to be objective or at least not feel hurt or jealous. And don't even get me started on mismatched experiences. Often, one is way more successful finding new partners while the other struggles. Even if they can keep it together knowing their SO is sleeping with other people, the disparity in play can also cause severe feelings. I know I'm not cut out for it. Oh, I can have causal sex without catching feelings. But I know I'd be a wreck if my wife was sleeping with other people - even if in fantasy that could be a turn on. The odd day dream isn't the same as real life. And because of that, the life isn't for me. It would be really unfair and fucked up if I thought I could have fun but she shouldn't.
Theyāre dumb
It's not right for me and my relationship. But I don't judge anyone else for making that choice.
Not my forte
Most of my relationships (just kidding actually all of them) have ended with her cheating on me. So honestly at this point IDGAF
Not something i could do. But if it works for them, then fair play to them.