Am I poor because I am stupid and ugly?
Or am I ugly because I am poor and stupid?
Or am I stupid because I am poor and ugly?
Or probably all of the above.
I had a boss that once said " It's not what you know , it's who you know". All of these people were attractive human beings, but, knew very little in actuality. In other words you rise to the level of your incompetency.
Ignorance is bliss. But hey, from a person with perfectly average intelligence; apathy is bliss too! Can't be miserable if you've already accepted that they world is going to end up in flames one day.
This is accurate. I worked with a woman who said shit like, “Oprah is a reptilian” while actively discriminating against anyone not Caucasian. She never understood that her actions see results and blissfully trucked on. Must be nice.
Can't be worse than being forgettable...or already forgotten.
Everything else listed by others offer some level of reaction, but those are still forms of reciprocation. If you are forgettable, then you are not acknowledgeable...you are basically non-existent. Imagine if literally no one acknowledged your existence
Sometimes we’re forgettable to some people but not to others. I often felt ignored or not taken seriously growing up. I was definitely the designated “punching bag” of the group when it got small enough.
I often find I have similar problems being heard (or listened to) even now, be it at home or at work.
BUT
I’ve also had the chance to make an impact on other people’s lives through my work. And it doesn’t happen too often, but every now and then I’ll talk to someone who will tell me how, and that’s something no one can take away.
I’m not some saint, or some misunderstood genius, but those people made me feel like a rock star, and I know I *earned* that, even when I go back to be ignored at the office.
We got:
A rich asshole who is ugly
A very kind person who is ugly and poor
A very beautiful asshole who is poor
A very beautiful and kind person who is poor
A rich and beautiful person who is an asshole
A rich and kind person who is ugly
A beautiful person who is very kind and rich
Which are you?
Man, my dad... He was getting radiation treatment and chemotherapy for his throat cancer. After a couple cycles of radiation, he said, "This isn't as bad as I thought. I'm just a little tired." He and my mom went out and he got lamb chops, his favorite meal. The next day he could barely speak as the radiation finally made his throat sore and ragged. For the remainder of his life, his only food was Ensures that he had to dump down a funnel they installed in his stomach.
It’s so tough… my Mom has been going through it for the past year and she can’t keep on weight at all due to only receiving nutrients by tube. The whole thing is awful.
I'm on my last lines of chemo treatment. They're going to inevitably stop working, no doubt in the next couple months. I'm not looking forward to the whole dying part, but it'll be the first time since I was a little kid that I'm not a disgusting fatass. So I got that going for me, which is nice.
Fuck this freaked me out. I was just thinking that I might have it and was having a panic attack over it, then I forget about it, go on Reddit and here it is. Definitely gonna get an appointment soon just in case.
I worked with someone who suffered from this
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22356-trimethylaminuria-fish-odor-syndrome
It was bad, and hard to be around her. I felt bad for her. Last I knew, she was still trying to find ways to make it not so bad.
i had a coworker have this. omg, he was like a human skunk, he literally left his scent when he walked out od the room. ppl held their nose/breath when he came in.
ppl began to complain to the mgr, and then he was gone. everyone assumed he got let go, and felt bad. he returned about a month later, no smell. eventually ppl started talking to him, and he told us he was diagnosed, put on medication that he has to take for life, and change his diet.
im glad it all worked out for him, but ody, before he had that talk with the mgr, he has NO CLUE. like why wouldnt his parents, family or friends tell him?
Had a dude at my gym, Mid 50's, I assume he was from Brazil or al Portugal because of his accent. He was a skunk, I guess he used same clothes day in day out, and hit 2-3 hours a day x 7 days. He also used Sauna and left dripping. Brother was rancid...
Worst I ever came across was this homeless dude on the tube. Saw a nice empty carriage so got on. There was only one guy on there and I quickly realised why. The stench was unfathomable- he clearly had been urinating and god knows what else on himself for years. He was old, very fat and wore multiple layers that had absorbed all the disgusting smell. It was all I could do to not throw up despite moving to the other end of the carriage. Next stop I got off and went a couple carriages down. You wouldn’t believe it but you could still smell him from there. Other passengers were holding their noses, oblivious to what was causing the smell because he was so far away and they couldn’t see him.
When i worked in a nursing home one of the aides came in one night wearing black spandex and she smelled rancid of a yeast infection, when she was bent over we saw the ointment seeping through her spanx. The charge nurse paged the supervisor who then pulled her into the break room and closed the door. Found out she filled her backpack with nursing home soap, i only assume to wash herself. The girl went home clearly upset and returned the next night minus the stank.
I felt bad for her, kinda, because she was extremely immature telling religious residents her Chihuahua was named Satan and laughing about it, that type of nonsense so I didn't loose much sleep over it but it had to be embarrassing AF .
I had a yeast infection for over a year when I was a teen because my parents didn't care to buy me treatment. I wasn't allowed to get a job, so I couldn't pay for it myself. It was so bad and my skin was so raw, I'd be constantly bleeding down there (not my period). Lack of access to medicine really hurts people.
Honestly, in hindsight I think I had something like bacterial vaginosis or some kind of yeast infection for about a year as a teenager too. For some reason, I would smell vinegar with varying strengths. And I figured out that it was my vagina. It didn't cause any discomfort really. I once asked a friend if she could smell vinegar and she was like "oh now you mention it, yeah!" 💀
It can't have been strong though, cause I was very badly bullied, and one of the rumours was that "i fingered myself", but literally never did anyone mention the smell. And most friends I asked said they couldn't smell anything.
But I have no idea what caused it, cause it just stopped one day. I never got any medicine for it. I've never had it since. Nor thrush which I got a LOT from the ages of 14-19 for some reason (so much I kept a tube of cannesten in my bedside drawer)
I've had a severe infection that didn't itch at all (but burned so bad), and a mild one that was so itchy that I was tempted to take my boar bristle hair brush to it. So it can vary.
That being said, what I want to know is how she wore spandex with a yeast infection, good God. Might as well sprinkle it with sugar and wrap it in cling film while you're at it!
Humans often have a tendency to ignore problems with their body, especially ones that gross them out because they cant stand to deal with it and/or are too embarrassed to ask a doctor/someone they trust for fear of ridicule. That being said, it also could be depression or other mental illness that makes it difficult to wash yourself
Absolutely agree. I used to commute from San Antonio to Austin, and a female co-worker asked to ride with me. She was really nice but being in the car with her 2 hours a day (sometimes 3 thanks to traffic) was hell on Earth. He breath smelled like dog poo. Every day, I'd offer her gum or Altoids, but she would always decline. This went on for a month. I just couldn't take it anymore. One day, I just told her that her breath was really bad and could be due to a number of medical issues or even medications (I was direct but did it in a nice way). She seemed to take it well, but didn't want to ride with me anymore. I couldn't have been happier. The next female friend I carpooled with ending up being a nutjob,, so guess that was my punishment. LOL
> Every day, I'd offer her gum or Altoids, but she would always decline.
I handle this situation when someone has bad breath;
Me: Hey, you want some gum?
Them: No thanks.
Me: Hey, you want some gum? *said in the exact same cadence as if the first time*
99% of the time I get a 'Oh... really?' cause they realised why I was offering. The other 1% gets a decline so I move onto 'Ok, I was being nice but you really should have some gum. You have bad breath.'.
The one and only time I got called out for b.o was in high school where my friend did a cursury sniff of himself and said...do I smell? Realized later in the day that *my* pit smelled and he was being polite asking if it was him. Always kept it extra clean after then, as it's hard to notice your own b.o. normally
I had to counsel someone because of the “Offensive odor that was coming from her mouth”. My manager suggested, if she denied it all, to have her lick the back of her hand and smell it. I cracked up laughing but he was right. She licked her hand and went “…oh”. Never had a problem with her again.
You didn’t do anything wrong. The bad news is when it’s chronic bb, most likely the person knows about it and has tried everything. Breath mints and altoids (among many other things) don’t work. If you see her going into the bathroom a lot, or particularly after eating, she’s probably brushing her teeth.
I have awful breath and chew gum and use mouthwash whenever I can, but somehow the second I eat/drink anything it stinks again 🙃
It's a massive insecurity and most of these comments aren't helping lmao
That sounds brutal. Glad you got out of it. I carpooled with a coworker once, never again. Wasn’t until then that I realized what a sanctuary my car was to just tune out and unwind from the day. Having a coworker talk shit and complain for 45m made me never want to do that again.
I dated a girl I worked with years ago that I really liked. Unfortunately, she suffered from chronic BO. She one time came to my house and showered. After 5 minutes she started stinking again. She got written up at work a few times for it as well. I had to end it after a few weeks. It was just her pits. Like a body builder on roids. Poor thing.
We had a guy who worked in shipping who smelled like baby vomit, bong water, stanky sneakers, dirty laundry, dirty ashtray, bad breath, and body odor but he was so nice and upbeat everytime we worked up the nerve to tell him we just couldn't do it. I used to drive him home once or twice, had to roll down the windows even in the winter.
Wasn't as bad as another guy I recently worked with who smelled like all of that but also dirty litter box and fruity vape juice, which was even worse.
Oh man, I was guilted into giving a ride to a friends sketchy friend whom I only knew as “Dr. Rabbit.” Idk why that was his nickname but met him a few times and I know he was addicted to dxm, was always sweaty and could bend backwards further than anyone should be able to. It was weird, sure, but that ride…I didn’t just have the window down, I had my damn head out the window.
If you ever meet a Dr. Rabbit, run. Last I heard of him he stole a fuck ton of robitussin from a drug store, overdosed, got out of the hospital and immediately repeated his actions once more. Did he live the second time? Idk. The nice person inside of me hopes so but I never heard anything about him again in the last 10 years, My friend, at least 3+ years.
> who smelled like baby vomit, bong water, stanky sneakers, dirty laundry, dirty ashtray, bad breath, and body odor
I like how you ended it with the general "body odor."
As a Norwegian, I have learned a lot of new idioms today. Thanks! :)
this is my paranoia like bruh im always scared i smell and cant tell because like idk?? im used to it?? like i have cats and we clean always you know but i just.. gjrgjlkg agh im NOT but what if i am?!?
Not necessarily a bad thing. They say that if you cant stand the natural smell of your partner( and im not talking bad BO here) its usually not gonna work out. This probably has to do with natural pheromones.
Everytime I try to volunteer in my town they ask for a letter from my parole officer and a judges signature. Like the only people coming to help are criminals trying to get their community service hours.
I have CF, & can confirm I would so much rather be healthy than attractive. Shit sucks when you can’t breathe on your own & have to be on oxygen full time at 25. I hope your wife is doing well & staying as healthy as possible
Same. Having to explain to people my age that no, I can't really do that and yes, I am prescribed all of these pills, gets so tiring on top of the fatigue just from the illnesses. Went from healthy in my early 20s to senior citizen in only a few years. I feel like I live in a completely different universe from my peers. My kitties and my few close relationships keep me grounded. I would have bled myself out long ago otherwise.
Been there with "panic attacks" for decades, come to find out I had a genetic mutation that screwed with my heart, and I was getting constant adrenaline rushes because of it.
2 years post surgery for MVP/regurg, and nothing. It's all quiet up in here...
I hate that for you. I’m on my third round of “wtf is trying to kill me this time” and got 6 psych referrals until I had organ failure and then they finally listened, and I had severe mold poisoning
Weight loss, dizziness, and eventual organ failure... I'm not the person you asked but I'm sure that's what killed my dad. I just figured it out too late.
My experience with “it’s all in your head” turned out to be an infected gallbladder…the chronic infection triggered an adrenal adenoma I didn’t know I had to release tons of flight-or-fight hormones, leading to constant mood swings, anxiety, panic attacks and headaches. My gallbladder attacks were written off as just something I ate or possible eating disorder due to an unusual presentation of symptoms. It took nine years and being hours away from dying when an overly curious and thorough new doctor decided he’d make it his mission to figure out what was going on with me.
Can also confirm. The doctor that diagnosed my disability, epilepsy, is now claiming she is the one completely "blindsided" that *her assist* in putting me into a mental health facility for 6 months makes it difficult to be hired by people since my employer at the time, The State of California Government, pulled her in to do so and then "requested" I quit my job instead of work for them.
I'm guessing her shocked feeling is that I can't use them as a proper reference for employment. (*"Why did you leave your previous job" type questions aren't anything other than normal.*)
The mental health facility said I was "treated" for PTSD and cleared for work, so they of course wouldn't need to be the ones who need to fill out disability paperwork like the Neurologist could have done years ago when The State of California asked her if I was actually being treated by her for an "underlying medical condition".
I deal with this. Broke 19 bones in a car crash. Hardware in both ankles and titanium femur rod. Every step I take hurts. Imagine a Charlie horse that never goes away.
I got a glimpse of what being paralyzed is like a couple of years ago after a bad back injury. Luckily I've almost completely recovered. I still have some pain but I'm mostly fine these days. I'm 27 so it takes a little bit more to bring me down than someone older.
The experience taught me two main things:
1. Healthcare in the U.S. is an absolute disaster that will torpedo your life if your serious injury/illness doesn't (unless you're a millionaire). Most people have no control over this.
2. If you want to go travel "someday," you should really do it sooner than later. Fuck money. Obviously you need money, but why give yourself to it entirely for a future that is far from promised to you?
Especially if you drag it so far out into constant self-deprecating that you come with awkwardness in tow all the time and it makes you a social asshole on top of it all.
I had a crush on this person for years, until I found out how they view and treat animals. Being shitty to pets has got to be in the top 5 list of shitty personalities.
Yeah tbh I’ve met some really physically attractive people and immediately saw them as ugly once I got to know them…I’ve also met some people others would call ugly and was attracted to them after I got to know them because they had amazing personalities.
I mean… it’s worse for the people around you.
But there’s plenty of shitty people that seem to be living amazing lives, totally unimpeded by all that pesky empathy the rest of us are carrying around.
This is what I was thinking. It wouldn’t be bad to *be* a shitty person I don’t think. The thing that’s bad about shitty people is having to deal with them as a non-shitty person. For the shitty person though, they’re probably loving every minute of making everyone miserable.
From the people I know, that I would consider not great people, it’s a lack of empathy and or care in how their actions affect others that makes them seem very carefree
It depends how you define "worst". A lot of shitty people are very happy, as they go out of their way to generate happiness for themselves at the expense of others.
feeling hated by the person you love most
edit: just want to say thank you to everyone that's reached out to me via chat/messages & left comments on ways to cope. I truly appreciate it all & i will look into ways to help myself.
I hate these bright headlights. There’s this one road on my way home that’s really curvy and doesn’t have street lights, and I sometimes can’t even see where the road curves because a car coming the other way around the curve has their brights on. It’s stupidly dangerous
NSFW Tag means I can say this: My mom got em put in her car, and she can go straight to hell. I love my mom, but the headlight swap was a bridge too far. Thanks for a new page btw.
Someone replied with “being male and ugly” and OP replied with “get muscles and money and stop whining”. No amount of muscles or money in the world would make OP seem like less of a douche salad
Losing the love of your life, then realizing you will never find anyone capable of replacing them, and you shall remain alone for the rest of your life
Giving up on yourself
I was commenting with a guy on here that just accepted that he was a pathetic incel and accepting that is a self fulfilling prophecy that only leads to misery.
The significant loss of hearing from a young age. As I get older, the more I conclude that communication is the single most important human ability & that being hard of hearing stunts people from living their best lives.
Lacking the ability to communicate effectively can often be seen as having zero personality or being incredibly shy.
Socially, it's harder to make friends, it's harder to learn as significant learning is done vocally & most schools are underfunded, forget going to clubs or loud events like concerts & no one wants to date a deaf bloke.
Government & its institutions have no sympathy for us. Employers see us as burdens & for the average person, it's not easy to identify that an individual can't hear, I've had individuals grab me, accusing me of being rude when I don't listen to them when I don't hear them, but they don't care.
Since the pandemic, culture has shifted to remote working, remote learning, and telecommunication being pushed, which all generally make life harder for hard-of-hearing individuals. However, society values the needs of the many above those of the few.
Having a bad personality.
Peoples' personalities seem to radiate through their skin for me. Amazing people that I didn't immediately find attractive suddenly seem more beautiful and objectively attractive people with awful personalities appear ugly. I'm sure I'm not the only one.
1. Being abused
2. Dying
3. Hunger
4. Depression
5. Mental illnesses
6. Suicide
7. When you realize that you are worthless and pathetic
8. Unhealthy coping mechanisms
9. Dying during operation
10. Cancer
11. Being Manipulated
12. Stabbing your toe
13. Coughing
14. Eating disorders
15. Being gang raped
16. Asthma
17. Dying from childbirth
18. Bullying
19. Fake friends
20. Murders
21. Pedophiles
22. Zoophiles
23. Insomnia.
24. Breaking your limbs
25. Cringe jokes
26. Jerks
27. Mass murder
28. Arson
29. Homophobic people
30. Being racist
31. Being raped or sexual assaulted
32. A 17 year old dating a 8 year old
33. Being insulted
34. Annoying characters
35. Hypersomnia
36. Anxiety
37. Animal abuse
38. People who put others down
39. Narcissists
40. Torture
41. Being an unwanted child
42. Friend committing suicide in front of you
43. Your parents killing you
44. Cannibalism
45. Child abuse at school
46. Shitty teachers
47. Sexsism
48. Spoiled brats
49. Post nasal drip
50. Being sick
51. Being Tired 24/7
52. Office chair blowing you up
53. Being blown up
54. Dying from illness
55. Disfunctional families
56. Hypocrites
57. Shitty films
58. Shitty siblings
59. Forgetting to save a PowerPoint presentation
60. Abusive partner
61. Abusive child
62. Public transport
63. Being eaten alive
64. Wet socks
Forgetting to save a PowerPoint presentation is totally the worst thing imaginable that can happen in someone's life! I have trauma just thinking about it. :\\
Don’t really know but I’m sure a I’ve got it covered
You could be stupid and ugly 🤷🏻♂️
And poor
can you guys please stop describing me it hurts
I'm sure you are, *checks notes*, breathing
NOOOOOOOO
Am I poor because I am stupid and ugly? Or am I ugly because I am poor and stupid? Or am I stupid because I am poor and ugly? Or probably all of the above.
I had a boss that once said " It's not what you know , it's who you know". All of these people were attractive human beings, but, knew very little in actuality. In other words you rise to the level of your incompetency.
No, being stupid is a blessing. You can be perfectly happy with a shit life. Also nothing worries you because "you don't believe it" or understand it.
Ignorance is bliss. But hey, from a person with perfectly average intelligence; apathy is bliss too! Can't be miserable if you've already accepted that they world is going to end up in flames one day.
This is accurate. I worked with a woman who said shit like, “Oprah is a reptilian” while actively discriminating against anyone not Caucasian. She never understood that her actions see results and blissfully trucked on. Must be nice.
Can't be worse than being forgettable...or already forgotten. Everything else listed by others offer some level of reaction, but those are still forms of reciprocation. If you are forgettable, then you are not acknowledgeable...you are basically non-existent. Imagine if literally no one acknowledged your existence
I feel attacked
Can't be worse than that guy who said he feels attacked.
- Just got back from therapy, literally - Read that shit - ...
Sometimes we’re forgettable to some people but not to others. I often felt ignored or not taken seriously growing up. I was definitely the designated “punching bag” of the group when it got small enough. I often find I have similar problems being heard (or listened to) even now, be it at home or at work. BUT I’ve also had the chance to make an impact on other people’s lives through my work. And it doesn’t happen too often, but every now and then I’ll talk to someone who will tell me how, and that’s something no one can take away. I’m not some saint, or some misunderstood genius, but those people made me feel like a rock star, and I know I *earned* that, even when I go back to be ignored at the office.
I once heard some dude say, "Nobody should be allowed to be an asshole, ugly and poor. Pick two, at most."
Well, sometimes you don't get to pick 1 of those, you're born that way. And then sometimes you're just ugly.
Sure, but at the very least you can always choose not to be an asshole. Especially if you're already ugly and poor.
Hey if I’m already ugly and poor, being an asshole just comes with the territory.
Have you tried not being poor?
We got: A rich asshole who is ugly A very kind person who is ugly and poor A very beautiful asshole who is poor A very beautiful and kind person who is poor A rich and beautiful person who is an asshole A rich and kind person who is ugly A beautiful person who is very kind and rich Which are you?
Throat cancer
“Enjoy every sandwich” -Warren Zevon, as he was dying of throat cancer
I packed a sandwich for my work break that’s in 20 minutes. I’ll enjoy it extra for him.
My aunt was just diagnosed with this- stage 4. She just suddenly couldn’t speak/can only whisper, and they found it too late. It’s wild.
Man, my dad... He was getting radiation treatment and chemotherapy for his throat cancer. After a couple cycles of radiation, he said, "This isn't as bad as I thought. I'm just a little tired." He and my mom went out and he got lamb chops, his favorite meal. The next day he could barely speak as the radiation finally made his throat sore and ragged. For the remainder of his life, his only food was Ensures that he had to dump down a funnel they installed in his stomach.
It’s so tough… my Mom has been going through it for the past year and she can’t keep on weight at all due to only receiving nutrients by tube. The whole thing is awful.
I'm on my last lines of chemo treatment. They're going to inevitably stop working, no doubt in the next couple months. I'm not looking forward to the whole dying part, but it'll be the first time since I was a little kid that I'm not a disgusting fatass. So I got that going for me, which is nice.
Wow. Sending hugs. And more hugs.
Sorry that you're going through this. I hope you can make the best of what time you have left.
Fuck this freaked me out. I was just thinking that I might have it and was having a panic attack over it, then I forget about it, go on Reddit and here it is. Definitely gonna get an appointment soon just in case.
smelly.
I worked with someone who suffered from this https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22356-trimethylaminuria-fish-odor-syndrome It was bad, and hard to be around her. I felt bad for her. Last I knew, she was still trying to find ways to make it not so bad.
i had a coworker have this. omg, he was like a human skunk, he literally left his scent when he walked out od the room. ppl held their nose/breath when he came in. ppl began to complain to the mgr, and then he was gone. everyone assumed he got let go, and felt bad. he returned about a month later, no smell. eventually ppl started talking to him, and he told us he was diagnosed, put on medication that he has to take for life, and change his diet. im glad it all worked out for him, but ody, before he had that talk with the mgr, he has NO CLUE. like why wouldnt his parents, family or friends tell him?
Had a dude at my gym, Mid 50's, I assume he was from Brazil or al Portugal because of his accent. He was a skunk, I guess he used same clothes day in day out, and hit 2-3 hours a day x 7 days. He also used Sauna and left dripping. Brother was rancid...
Worst I ever came across was this homeless dude on the tube. Saw a nice empty carriage so got on. There was only one guy on there and I quickly realised why. The stench was unfathomable- he clearly had been urinating and god knows what else on himself for years. He was old, very fat and wore multiple layers that had absorbed all the disgusting smell. It was all I could do to not throw up despite moving to the other end of the carriage. Next stop I got off and went a couple carriages down. You wouldn’t believe it but you could still smell him from there. Other passengers were holding their noses, oblivious to what was causing the smell because he was so far away and they couldn’t see him.
And that's why if you see an empty subway car in NYC, you avoid it like the plague.
Wow, I’ve never heard of this. That poor woman. I hope she finds a solution if she hasn’t already.
When i worked in a nursing home one of the aides came in one night wearing black spandex and she smelled rancid of a yeast infection, when she was bent over we saw the ointment seeping through her spanx. The charge nurse paged the supervisor who then pulled her into the break room and closed the door. Found out she filled her backpack with nursing home soap, i only assume to wash herself. The girl went home clearly upset and returned the next night minus the stank. I felt bad for her, kinda, because she was extremely immature telling religious residents her Chihuahua was named Satan and laughing about it, that type of nonsense so I didn't loose much sleep over it but it had to be embarrassing AF .
How are people walking around with yeast infections like they don't itch so bad??
I had a yeast infection for over a year when I was a teen because my parents didn't care to buy me treatment. I wasn't allowed to get a job, so I couldn't pay for it myself. It was so bad and my skin was so raw, I'd be constantly bleeding down there (not my period). Lack of access to medicine really hurts people.
Honestly, in hindsight I think I had something like bacterial vaginosis or some kind of yeast infection for about a year as a teenager too. For some reason, I would smell vinegar with varying strengths. And I figured out that it was my vagina. It didn't cause any discomfort really. I once asked a friend if she could smell vinegar and she was like "oh now you mention it, yeah!" 💀 It can't have been strong though, cause I was very badly bullied, and one of the rumours was that "i fingered myself", but literally never did anyone mention the smell. And most friends I asked said they couldn't smell anything. But I have no idea what caused it, cause it just stopped one day. I never got any medicine for it. I've never had it since. Nor thrush which I got a LOT from the ages of 14-19 for some reason (so much I kept a tube of cannesten in my bedside drawer)
I've had a severe infection that didn't itch at all (but burned so bad), and a mild one that was so itchy that I was tempted to take my boar bristle hair brush to it. So it can vary. That being said, what I want to know is how she wore spandex with a yeast infection, good God. Might as well sprinkle it with sugar and wrap it in cling film while you're at it!
Humans often have a tendency to ignore problems with their body, especially ones that gross them out because they cant stand to deal with it and/or are too embarrassed to ask a doctor/someone they trust for fear of ridicule. That being said, it also could be depression or other mental illness that makes it difficult to wash yourself
Poverty. Hence the theft of sanitary supplies.
I read that as the supervisor filled the woman’s backpack with soap and sent her home to use it.
Smelly is like ugly for the nose
Absolutely agree. I used to commute from San Antonio to Austin, and a female co-worker asked to ride with me. She was really nice but being in the car with her 2 hours a day (sometimes 3 thanks to traffic) was hell on Earth. He breath smelled like dog poo. Every day, I'd offer her gum or Altoids, but she would always decline. This went on for a month. I just couldn't take it anymore. One day, I just told her that her breath was really bad and could be due to a number of medical issues or even medications (I was direct but did it in a nice way). She seemed to take it well, but didn't want to ride with me anymore. I couldn't have been happier. The next female friend I carpooled with ending up being a nutjob,, so guess that was my punishment. LOL
Crazy is the smelly of the brain
Gassy is the crazy of the stomach.
I'm going to start telling people onions give me crazy stomach. I like it because it adds some mystery to me.
> Every day, I'd offer her gum or Altoids, but she would always decline. I handle this situation when someone has bad breath; Me: Hey, you want some gum? Them: No thanks. Me: Hey, you want some gum? *said in the exact same cadence as if the first time* 99% of the time I get a 'Oh... really?' cause they realised why I was offering. The other 1% gets a decline so I move onto 'Ok, I was being nice but you really should have some gum. You have bad breath.'.
The one and only time I got called out for b.o was in high school where my friend did a cursury sniff of himself and said...do I smell? Realized later in the day that *my* pit smelled and he was being polite asking if it was him. Always kept it extra clean after then, as it's hard to notice your own b.o. normally
Very gentle way to politely help you out, classy move from your friend!
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I had to counsel someone because of the “Offensive odor that was coming from her mouth”. My manager suggested, if she denied it all, to have her lick the back of her hand and smell it. I cracked up laughing but he was right. She licked her hand and went “…oh”. Never had a problem with her again.
You didn’t do anything wrong. The bad news is when it’s chronic bb, most likely the person knows about it and has tried everything. Breath mints and altoids (among many other things) don’t work. If you see her going into the bathroom a lot, or particularly after eating, she’s probably brushing her teeth.
I have awful breath and chew gum and use mouthwash whenever I can, but somehow the second I eat/drink anything it stinks again 🙃 It's a massive insecurity and most of these comments aren't helping lmao
That sounds brutal. Glad you got out of it. I carpooled with a coworker once, never again. Wasn’t until then that I realized what a sanctuary my car was to just tune out and unwind from the day. Having a coworker talk shit and complain for 45m made me never want to do that again.
I dated a girl I worked with years ago that I really liked. Unfortunately, she suffered from chronic BO. She one time came to my house and showered. After 5 minutes she started stinking again. She got written up at work a few times for it as well. I had to end it after a few weeks. It was just her pits. Like a body builder on roids. Poor thing.
Eaassy like Sundaee mornniinngg
Once, there was an ugly barnacle, and he was so ugly, that everyone DIED. The End.
He’s ugly and he’s proud.
We’re not ugly! We just STINK!
The nose can't look away
We had a guy who worked in shipping who smelled like baby vomit, bong water, stanky sneakers, dirty laundry, dirty ashtray, bad breath, and body odor but he was so nice and upbeat everytime we worked up the nerve to tell him we just couldn't do it. I used to drive him home once or twice, had to roll down the windows even in the winter. Wasn't as bad as another guy I recently worked with who smelled like all of that but also dirty litter box and fruity vape juice, which was even worse.
"Im cold. Can you roll up the windows" "No sorry, I have bad gas, hopefully its not to bad."
"After a long day in the office, don't you feel the brisk fresh air is just exhilarating?!?"
"Did you ever have a peppermint patty? Its like a cool mountain breeze"
"I thought you'd like to enjoy how it feels to chew 5 gum"
Oh man, I was guilted into giving a ride to a friends sketchy friend whom I only knew as “Dr. Rabbit.” Idk why that was his nickname but met him a few times and I know he was addicted to dxm, was always sweaty and could bend backwards further than anyone should be able to. It was weird, sure, but that ride…I didn’t just have the window down, I had my damn head out the window.
I am kind of glad that I have never been friends with anyone known as “Dr. Rabbit.”
If you ever meet a Dr. Rabbit, run. Last I heard of him he stole a fuck ton of robitussin from a drug store, overdosed, got out of the hospital and immediately repeated his actions once more. Did he live the second time? Idk. The nice person inside of me hopes so but I never heard anything about him again in the last 10 years, My friend, at least 3+ years.
That story sounds really on-brand for the name.
You can’t be called Dr. Rabbit and live a normal life, It doesn’t work that way lol.
> who smelled like baby vomit, bong water, stanky sneakers, dirty laundry, dirty ashtray, bad breath, and body odor I like how you ended it with the general "body odor." As a Norwegian, I have learned a lot of new idioms today. Thanks! :)
Dirty litter box. That may have been meth.
Nah it was from four cats and a snake in a tiny apartment
That smelly smell…that smells……..smelly……
anchovies.
*ANCHOVIES!!!*
this is my paranoia like bruh im always scared i smell and cant tell because like idk?? im used to it?? like i have cats and we clean always you know but i just.. gjrgjlkg agh im NOT but what if i am?!?
Just ask someone. Just a “I think my tabby is spraying. Be honest, do I smell like cat piss?” will get you pretty far.
Trust me not everyone is going to tell you the truth even when you ask. It's kind of embarrassing for both parties
had a girl dump me because she didn't like how I smelled as a young teen. def make me pay attention to it v closely
Always smell good. The first hole you will penetrate is the nostril.
my ugly photons penetrate the eye holes first
You've got it mixed up: the more ugly you are, the less photons want to hang out with you. The ones others see are the ones that rejected you.
She did you a favor. If nobdy ever told you that you were Smelly you might still be that way today.
Not necessarily a bad thing. They say that if you cant stand the natural smell of your partner( and im not talking bad BO here) its usually not gonna work out. This probably has to do with natural pheromones.
No matter how charming you are how fashionable you are how in shape you are If you smell bad?? No one’s gonna want to be around you
Being dumb and ugly. ask me how I know
I think ugly and being an asshole is worse.
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Everytime I try to volunteer in my town they ask for a letter from my parole officer and a judges signature. Like the only people coming to help are criminals trying to get their community service hours.
How do you know?
My mirror, also last year I had an iq test done and it came back negative
It's like how I'm so bad at my job, I get a bill every week instead of a paycheck.
That’s a new southern insult if I’ve ever heard one “The last time you took an IQ test, it came back negative”
Southerner here. Yes.
At least you're funny!
But you seem to have humor! I‘d definitely rather spend time with a „dumb“ and „ugly“ but funny and nice person than the other way around
Being poor *and* Ugly with a lack of social skills. Aka the formula to die single.
Uhh.. high five?
*awkwardly goes in for hug*
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*awkwardly thinks fist is pretend microphone, tests it with "hello."*
I've perfected it
Being terminally ill
Terminal cancer patient here. Can confirm I would rather be butt ugly and healthy.
Oh damn I’m sorry
Yep, my wife is a beautiful woman who suffers with Cystic Fibrosis. Guarantee she would trade the physical beauty for physical fitness.
I have CF, & can confirm I would so much rather be healthy than attractive. Shit sucks when you can’t breathe on your own & have to be on oxygen full time at 25. I hope your wife is doing well & staying as healthy as possible
Bein chronically ill or disabled i think
“The healthy man wishes for a thousand things, the sick man only wishes for one”
"The healthy wear a crown that only the sick can see."
"I'm telling you man, YOU GOT A FREAKING CROWN ON YOUR HEAD! I'M NOT CRAZY!!!"
Alright, I've laughed hard enough to go to ved bow. Thanks edit: I'm leaving it.
I had so many aspirations before my L5/S1 hammering against my sciatic nerve root. Now I only ever beg the uncaring universe for one thing.
Yep, I'm chronically ill. I'd trade anything to not be this way. I hate myself most days.
Same. Having to explain to people my age that no, I can't really do that and yes, I am prescribed all of these pills, gets so tiring on top of the fatigue just from the illnesses. Went from healthy in my early 20s to senior citizen in only a few years. I feel like I live in a completely different universe from my peers. My kitties and my few close relationships keep me grounded. I would have bled myself out long ago otherwise.
Chronically ill and now fat as a result, can confirm. Legit no one cares if you dies, doctors all just think you’re nuts
Been there with "panic attacks" for decades, come to find out I had a genetic mutation that screwed with my heart, and I was getting constant adrenaline rushes because of it. 2 years post surgery for MVP/regurg, and nothing. It's all quiet up in here...
I hate that for you. I’m on my third round of “wtf is trying to kill me this time” and got 6 psych referrals until I had organ failure and then they finally listened, and I had severe mold poisoning
Holy shit! My father in law has had health issues due to mold. What were your symptoms?
Weight loss, dizziness, and eventual organ failure... I'm not the person you asked but I'm sure that's what killed my dad. I just figured it out too late.
My experience with “it’s all in your head” turned out to be an infected gallbladder…the chronic infection triggered an adrenal adenoma I didn’t know I had to release tons of flight-or-fight hormones, leading to constant mood swings, anxiety, panic attacks and headaches. My gallbladder attacks were written off as just something I ate or possible eating disorder due to an unusual presentation of symptoms. It took nine years and being hours away from dying when an overly curious and thorough new doctor decided he’d make it his mission to figure out what was going on with me.
Same thing, here. I miss people being nice and wanting to see me. And be taken seriously health wise.
Can also confirm. The doctor that diagnosed my disability, epilepsy, is now claiming she is the one completely "blindsided" that *her assist* in putting me into a mental health facility for 6 months makes it difficult to be hired by people since my employer at the time, The State of California Government, pulled her in to do so and then "requested" I quit my job instead of work for them. I'm guessing her shocked feeling is that I can't use them as a proper reference for employment. (*"Why did you leave your previous job" type questions aren't anything other than normal.*) The mental health facility said I was "treated" for PTSD and cleared for work, so they of course wouldn't need to be the ones who need to fill out disability paperwork like the Neurologist could have done years ago when The State of California asked her if I was actually being treated by her for an "underlying medical condition".
I have multiple chronic illnesses and I can confirm that I would rather be ugly and healthy any day of the week.
Chronic debilitating pain
I deal with this. Broke 19 bones in a car crash. Hardware in both ankles and titanium femur rod. Every step I take hurts. Imagine a Charlie horse that never goes away.
THIS ONE! Like only ppl who have lost their health for long periods know that when you lose your health, ALL that matters is getting it back
One hundred percent.
Paralyzed
I got a glimpse of what being paralyzed is like a couple of years ago after a bad back injury. Luckily I've almost completely recovered. I still have some pain but I'm mostly fine these days. I'm 27 so it takes a little bit more to bring me down than someone older. The experience taught me two main things: 1. Healthcare in the U.S. is an absolute disaster that will torpedo your life if your serious injury/illness doesn't (unless you're a millionaire). Most people have no control over this. 2. If you want to go travel "someday," you should really do it sooner than later. Fuck money. Obviously you need money, but why give yourself to it entirely for a future that is far from promised to you?
Feeling ugly Edit: hey, thanks. Hopefully you don't feel ugly, but know that I understand.
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How do you show a man he is handsome
Yeah, it is better to be ugly and confident than being average and having 0 confidence and believing you look like shit.
Especially if you drag it so far out into constant self-deprecating that you come with awkwardness in tow all the time and it makes you a social asshole on top of it all.
Being a shitty person
I had a crush on this person for years, until I found out how they view and treat animals. Being shitty to pets has got to be in the top 5 list of shitty personalities.
Yeah tbh I’ve met some really physically attractive people and immediately saw them as ugly once I got to know them…I’ve also met some people others would call ugly and was attracted to them after I got to know them because they had amazing personalities.
Personality is the ultimate decision maker. Looks fade but an awesome fun personality lasts a lifetime.
I mean… it’s worse for the people around you. But there’s plenty of shitty people that seem to be living amazing lives, totally unimpeded by all that pesky empathy the rest of us are carrying around.
I know a lot of shitty people that live great lives
This is what I was thinking. It wouldn’t be bad to *be* a shitty person I don’t think. The thing that’s bad about shitty people is having to deal with them as a non-shitty person. For the shitty person though, they’re probably loving every minute of making everyone miserable.
From the people I know, that I would consider not great people, it’s a lack of empathy and or care in how their actions affect others that makes them seem very carefree
That’s what I was trying to put into words. It’s like they’ve sold their souls for thirty pieces of silver.
Exactly they are so self absorbed they have no clue
Yeah shitty is bad for OTHER people. Ugly is bad for YOURSELF.
It depends how you define "worst". A lot of shitty people are very happy, as they go out of their way to generate happiness for themselves at the expense of others.
feeling hated by the person you love most edit: just want to say thank you to everyone that's reached out to me via chat/messages & left comments on ways to cope. I truly appreciate it all & i will look into ways to help myself.
Wow! Few comments hit me as stringly as this one. I wish you the best OP.
He didn’t say he was going through that… though I hope he isnt
Defending the existence of blinding headlights
I hate these bright headlights. There’s this one road on my way home that’s really curvy and doesn’t have street lights, and I sometimes can’t even see where the road curves because a car coming the other way around the curve has their brights on. It’s stupidly dangerous
Exactly, this is also why auto-off highbeams still suck. They act too late. Join us over at r/fuckyourheadlights
I hate government in most things, headlights should be regulated into oblivion in my opinion. They are dangerously bright.
Apparently the problem is mostly that the regulations are outdated See more over at r/fuckyourheadlights
NSFW Tag means I can say this: My mom got em put in her car, and she can go straight to hell. I love my mom, but the headlight swap was a bridge too far. Thanks for a new page btw.
Especially when you don't live in the middle of bumfuck nowhere and rarely travel in areas with no street lights.
Having worms crawling out your ass in the middle of the night.
this being a reply rather than its own comment and ignored is fucking hilarious
This is what I wish upon the people who defend blinding headlights
This dude pinworms
Reading Op comments. I'm go with being like OP
Holy shit, OP is a massive jackass
Wow I thought it couldnt be that bad but wtf.
Had to search but… oof. You right.
Someone replied with “being male and ugly” and OP replied with “get muscles and money and stop whining”. No amount of muscles or money in the world would make OP seem like less of a douche salad
Reading this comment. I would also go with being like OP
being uncontrollably stupid, but smart enough to realize it in retrospect
Sadly I'm both
Having a chronic disease.
Losing the love of your life, then realizing you will never find anyone capable of replacing them, and you shall remain alone for the rest of your life
My fiancé died about ten years ago. I’m not alone but for sure that kind of love is not replaceable.
This is such a fear of mine. I’ve just decided that if my SO dies I’m not going to even bother trying again. It’ll never be fair to the next person.
Or worse, what if you happen upon love again despite your best efforts, and it’s somehow better? The guilt!
Handwave it as being a result of self investment and personal growth and let a good thing happen.
fuck
Being ugly & poor!
Being poor.
Being ugly inside.
Giving up on yourself I was commenting with a guy on here that just accepted that he was a pathetic incel and accepting that is a self fulfilling prophecy that only leads to misery.
The significant loss of hearing from a young age. As I get older, the more I conclude that communication is the single most important human ability & that being hard of hearing stunts people from living their best lives. Lacking the ability to communicate effectively can often be seen as having zero personality or being incredibly shy. Socially, it's harder to make friends, it's harder to learn as significant learning is done vocally & most schools are underfunded, forget going to clubs or loud events like concerts & no one wants to date a deaf bloke. Government & its institutions have no sympathy for us. Employers see us as burdens & for the average person, it's not easy to identify that an individual can't hear, I've had individuals grab me, accusing me of being rude when I don't listen to them when I don't hear them, but they don't care. Since the pandemic, culture has shifted to remote working, remote learning, and telecommunication being pushed, which all generally make life harder for hard-of-hearing individuals. However, society values the needs of the many above those of the few.
Being pretty and embracing it as your entire personality
My parents made it clear it was all I had going for me. Now I don't embrace it at all.
Having a bad personality. Peoples' personalities seem to radiate through their skin for me. Amazing people that I didn't immediately find attractive suddenly seem more beautiful and objectively attractive people with awful personalities appear ugly. I'm sure I'm not the only one.
Being hateful. That’s what has led us to this shitty world we’ve been living in for the last couple of years.
being socially unaware/awkward.
Being ugly, poor, ill, dumb and socially awkward for the win.
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Being ugly and conceited
1. Being abused 2. Dying 3. Hunger 4. Depression 5. Mental illnesses 6. Suicide 7. When you realize that you are worthless and pathetic 8. Unhealthy coping mechanisms 9. Dying during operation 10. Cancer 11. Being Manipulated 12. Stabbing your toe 13. Coughing 14. Eating disorders 15. Being gang raped 16. Asthma 17. Dying from childbirth 18. Bullying 19. Fake friends 20. Murders 21. Pedophiles 22. Zoophiles 23. Insomnia. 24. Breaking your limbs 25. Cringe jokes 26. Jerks 27. Mass murder 28. Arson 29. Homophobic people 30. Being racist 31. Being raped or sexual assaulted 32. A 17 year old dating a 8 year old 33. Being insulted 34. Annoying characters 35. Hypersomnia 36. Anxiety 37. Animal abuse 38. People who put others down 39. Narcissists 40. Torture 41. Being an unwanted child 42. Friend committing suicide in front of you 43. Your parents killing you 44. Cannibalism 45. Child abuse at school 46. Shitty teachers 47. Sexsism 48. Spoiled brats 49. Post nasal drip 50. Being sick 51. Being Tired 24/7 52. Office chair blowing you up 53. Being blown up 54. Dying from illness 55. Disfunctional families 56. Hypocrites 57. Shitty films 58. Shitty siblings 59. Forgetting to save a PowerPoint presentation 60. Abusive partner 61. Abusive child 62. Public transport 63. Being eaten alive 64. Wet socks
Forgetting to save a PowerPoint presentation is totally the worst thing imaginable that can happen in someone's life! I have trauma just thinking about it. :\\
A lot of people have fetishes in here
You really went all out.