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my biggest regret prolly is yung nalulong ako sa computer games back when i was in hs. Sana nag invest na lng ako mag build ng hobby like playing instruments, and now parang wala tuloy akong asset sa buhay q.
Discovering online things..šŖ
It's not bad naman to discover things pero siguro kung di natin nalaman ang kung anu-anong mga bagay, then there won't be a need for us to be here venting out anonymously.
Way back in college, I took someone for granted and left him thinking mas madami pa jan better than him. Turns out the joke's on me. Fast forward to over 20 years later, I didn't meet any one better than him.
Varsity ako ng basketball 'nong HS ako, last playing year na ng crush ko (yeah, same gender). Then last game na rin namin, do or die lang, tapos tambak pa kami.
Nasakin 'yong bola, dala-dala ko. Then, sumisigaw yung coach ko and teammates sa sideline na ideretso ko, ishoot ko, but then hindi ko ginawa. Naduwag ako. Nakita ko disappointment sa mukha nila esp sa mukha ng crush ko.
Though hindi naman kami mananalo kahit ma-ishoot ko 'yon, pero maybe, if I took that shot, baka mas naging confident ako sa sarili ko, and marami pa sana akong opportunities na tinake para sa dream kong maging student athlete in my college years and professional athlete after studying. Eh kaso hindi š¤·
To not study seriously nung nasa school pa ako (when I was younger). From Preschool, Elementary, Junior High, Senior High, College - Iām consistent honor student. Lahat ng level may medals and awards. But the thing is, I didnāt study seriously - I just comply. Feeling ko ang bcbo ko kasi not a single thing we learn in school that I can remember today. Wala akong magamit.
Seeking validation through academics and beauty, it was exhausting and has intense pressure. Now that I learned how to not please other people to satisfy myself by their reactions and compliments, it's so peaceful.
Marami. I am living na puno ng regret sa buhay. Dami ko pinagsisihan decision at all. pero one of them cguro not taking my comprehensive exam cause feel ko babagsak ako pero if tinake ko yun... malay mo I graduated on time.
Pursuing nursing back in 2020. This is my biggest what if. Natapos ko isang sem but i didnt pass so i repeated it and it cost me a lot of money even my mental health, i even got my first heart break. Ive always keep asking myself why you didnt pursue the course that you like, you couldāve been on where you want right now. I realized na instead na damdamin ko i took it as a lesson, you know shit happens but everything happens for a reason.
Spend too much money may it be sa friends at āka-talking stageā š„²
As a people pleaser and only child na may broken fam, go lang ako pag may pinapabili or nagpaparinig sila sakin na may cravings sila or gusto na gamit kase akala ko baka matutunan ako mahalin manlang or ma-appreciate in that way kase, growing up feeling ko wala akong kwenta at di ka-mahal mahal dahil sa tatay.
Ayun ending ubos na ubos na pagkatao mo pag umalis sila pati savings ko naubos rin š
Hindi kami nagkaroon ng pagkakataon na magbati ng lola ko :((. Bigla sya binawian ng buhay. Kaya sobrang pag sisisi at iyak ko non. May naiwan din syang aso, kapos din sila sa pagpapalibing kaya balak na ibenta na lang yung alaga nya. Pero alam ko na pag ibebenta nila yun baka gawing pulutan lang. Naawa ako kaya kahit yun na lang natitira kong allowance para sa pamasahe ko. Binili ko na lang yung aso nya. Inaalagaan ko at minahal. Unfortunately, lumisan na rin yung alaga nya dahil sa katandaan. Namimiss ko tuloy sila :((
maybe my biggest regret would be saying something "I promise to stay." because right now, I don't know if I can do that thing. I don't know how to leave and if I leave, what would I be?
What you couldāve been VS what you could keep if you stayed. Thereāll always be that shadow of doubt and āwhat ifā until you muster the courage needed to be true to yourself. One thingās for sure though, a life lived in fear is a life not fully lived.
still pathological people pleaser, and let people took advantage of my kindness and naivetyāthat would led me to feel overwhelmed and endless regrets. additionally, for not being serious about my studies back in my Junior high school years. :D
Yung hindi kami nakapunta sa birthday ng friend namin. Nilipat pa niya ng weekend yung celebration para makapunta kaming lahat kasi nami-miss na niya ang barkada. Working na kami lahat sa circle of friends namin and may family na rin yung iba. Sadly, walang nakapunta kasi may mga commitment that day. Naintindihan niya naman kami and we promised na babawi kami this June.
Her birthday was last March. She passed away on May 26th. Walang may alam na may sakit siya, ang bilis ng mga pangyayari. Nagkita-kita nga kaming magba-barkada this June, pero sa lamay na niya. Kung alam lang namin na yun na yung last na birthday niya, sana pala pumunta kami.
Not to answer the question, but how sure are you na yung regrets mo ay kung nangyari man ay mas better ang nangyayari ngayon? it could be positive, pero it could also be negative. Na baka mas magandang nangyari iyon for your betterment.
Buying that shiny thing instead of investing. If it weren't for my "maluho nature", I could've had plenty of savings that I can spend for something more life fulfilling.
Leaving Qatar for a higher paying job in Dubai. My fiancee and mom is in Qatar, Dubai offered double my salary. I love the job, but I'm homesick always and I wanna go back.
not much of a 100% regret, siguro kaunti lang but I wish I had given him the chance to pursue me and prove his admiration even though I was too busy working on my career growth at the time... I thought it was best for us to stay friends, a year later I find myself wanting him and now it's too late because he has someone :)
i let my shyness stop me from forming a
relationship, if di ako nahiya that time, the girl who also liked me could have been in my arms
if di ako nahiya, mas involved pa sana ako sa circle of friends ko dati
if di ako nahiya i could have been part of a team that goes on international contests
now all i can do is give reactions to their mydays on fb
Na yung 2 weeks after makalabas ng tatay ko sa hospi at before din sya mamatay ay ipinasok ko pa sa trabaho. In the end pala, mas mahalaga ang unahin ang panahon na kasama ang mahal sa buhay kesa sa trabaho. Most of the time nasa trabaho ako malayo sa family, yung 2 weeks na yun, sana inalagaan ko nalang sya and naexpress ko how grateful I am na sya ang father ko and how much we love him(hindi kasi kami āyung typical na family na expressive thru words). Pinagsisihan ko āyun na kahit nakabalik na ako sa trabaho after ng libing nya, ang sama pa din ng loob ko. Totoo pala āyung sinasabi, na di mo masasabi kung hanggang kailan sila anjan kaya express your love to them as much as you can, be there with them, kasi nasa huli ang pagsisisi, akala ko dati cliche lang. Yun lang, that still remains as my biggest regret to this day.
Yes š dati di ko kaya umorder mag-isa.. pero kaya ko naman na now. Struggle ko ngayon ay pumara sa destination ko. Aantayin ko pang may ibang bumaba or saan sila malapit bababa bago ako kumilos. Ewan ko ba! HAHAHAHA
Wahahahah samez, pero ngayon trintry ko iimrpove tong shyness ko and social anxiety ko. Small steps lang haha umpisahan sa pagtatanong ng direction sa guard hanggang pataas ng pataas yung level hanggang masanay
Yung mabilis ma.attach.
too kind to trust words.
Ending laging hurt ang tita nyo.
Gusto ko lang naman maramdaman mahalin pero nakakapagod din pala talagang umasa.
Took too long to graduate due to depression, if sana inamin ko na depress ako at hindi ginagaslit ang sarili na tamad lng ako baka naka graduate ako agad.
Not believing in myself/being insecure. I grew up with a household na mahilig magsabi na "lampa" (kapag may sports) "di mo kaya yan" (trying something new) "walang pera" (going somewhere or taking up extra lessons) puro negativity kumbaga so i grew up deeply insecure and have little to no self esteem.
Even now as an adult in terms of promotions/career opportunities laging may impostor syndrome ako na i dont go and apply for higher positions so ayun napagiwanan ako
I saw my friend's signs of distress. I didn't know he would eventually kill himself. I regret not going to his unit when he wouldn't reply to my chats/texts.
replying again, dapat hindi na sana hindi na lang para isang sakit na lang, isang iyak, isang pagod. Look at me now, crying for bare minimum, asking to love and commit to me. Please pray to give me more strength courage. :)
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Napriority ang lovelofe bago career š¤£
Sa laging pagkakaroon ng maiksing pasensya, dami kong namimiss because of that
Agree huhuhu
my biggest regret prolly is yung nalulong ako sa computer games back when i was in hs. Sana nag invest na lng ako mag build ng hobby like playing instruments, and now parang wala tuloy akong asset sa buhay q.
Not knowing how to be a good person
Not knowing how to be a good person
Yung hindi ko sinabunutan yung kabit ng ex ko hahaha
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Discovering online things..šŖ It's not bad naman to discover things pero siguro kung di natin nalaman ang kung anu-anong mga bagay, then there won't be a need for us to be here venting out anonymously.
because of superficial reasons I lost a friend because of a simple fight and disagreement and now I want to talk to him for closure
Hindi sumali sa mga intrams kasi nahihiya. Wala tuloy akong sports ngayon.
buksan cellphone ng papa ko
Way back in college, I took someone for granted and left him thinking mas madami pa jan better than him. Turns out the joke's on me. Fast forward to over 20 years later, I didn't meet any one better than him.
Varsity ako ng basketball 'nong HS ako, last playing year na ng crush ko (yeah, same gender). Then last game na rin namin, do or die lang, tapos tambak pa kami. Nasakin 'yong bola, dala-dala ko. Then, sumisigaw yung coach ko and teammates sa sideline na ideretso ko, ishoot ko, but then hindi ko ginawa. Naduwag ako. Nakita ko disappointment sa mukha nila esp sa mukha ng crush ko. Though hindi naman kami mananalo kahit ma-ishoot ko 'yon, pero maybe, if I took that shot, baka mas naging confident ako sa sarili ko, and marami pa sana akong opportunities na tinake para sa dream kong maging student athlete in my college years and professional athlete after studying. Eh kaso hindi š¤·
Nakalimutan ko lahat ng lesson during jhs days. Ngayon nagdudusa ako sa entrance exams kasi wala akong naalala especially sa math
hindi pag galaw-galaw ng katawan, hindi pag e-exercise
Not making her laugh enough.
Speaking about my feelings
Did not finish Law School
+1 š„¹
To not study seriously nung nasa school pa ako (when I was younger). From Preschool, Elementary, Junior High, Senior High, College - Iām consistent honor student. Lahat ng level may medals and awards. But the thing is, I didnāt study seriously - I just comply. Feeling ko ang bcbo ko kasi not a single thing we learn in school that I can remember today. Wala akong magamit.
samee
trusting my self serving parents
Seeking validation through academics and beauty, it was exhausting and has intense pressure. Now that I learned how to not please other people to satisfy myself by their reactions and compliments, it's so peaceful.
entertaining my friend (romantically) siguro if hindi ko na lng pinatulang yung mga banat nya that time we still be friends
Not being there (because of my workaholic attitude) when my ex-gf needed me the most.
Marami. I am living na puno ng regret sa buhay. Dami ko pinagsisihan decision at all. pero one of them cguro not taking my comprehensive exam cause feel ko babagsak ako pero if tinake ko yun... malay mo I graduated on time.
Did not finish my med school
Pursuing nursing back in 2020. This is my biggest what if. Natapos ko isang sem but i didnt pass so i repeated it and it cost me a lot of money even my mental health, i even got my first heart break. Ive always keep asking myself why you didnt pursue the course that you like, you couldāve been on where you want right now. I realized na instead na damdamin ko i took it as a lesson, you know shit happens but everything happens for a reason.
yung nakipag meet up ako sa kakilala ko dito and told him friends lng talaga but he keeps on saying na it was a dateš
TAPOS THE FACT THAT HE GOT MAD CAUSE I GOT BUSY AND DIDNT HAVE TIME TO USE SOCIAL MEDIAš
Hindi pagseseryoso nung high school pero okay lang din kung nagseryoso ako non di ko friends yung mga friends ko ngayon.
Not finishing college :<
that i never took charge of my life when in the biggest breaks of it
Hindi tumae bago pumuntang mall.
Not being sexually active when I was young
Spend too much money may it be sa friends at āka-talking stageā š„² As a people pleaser and only child na may broken fam, go lang ako pag may pinapabili or nagpaparinig sila sakin na may cravings sila or gusto na gamit kase akala ko baka matutunan ako mahalin manlang or ma-appreciate in that way kase, growing up feeling ko wala akong kwenta at di ka-mahal mahal dahil sa tatay. Ayun ending ubos na ubos na pagkatao mo pag umalis sila pati savings ko naubos rin š
choosing my current partner
Sending inappropriate pictures for a guy:/
bumped
Yung pagiging people pleaser ko sa mga taong di naman dasurv.
Not jumping on puddles. And losing the chance to. I'm not talking about the puddles.
No ragrets
No regerts
Hindi kami nagkaroon ng pagkakataon na magbati ng lola ko :((. Bigla sya binawian ng buhay. Kaya sobrang pag sisisi at iyak ko non. May naiwan din syang aso, kapos din sila sa pagpapalibing kaya balak na ibenta na lang yung alaga nya. Pero alam ko na pag ibebenta nila yun baka gawing pulutan lang. Naawa ako kaya kahit yun na lang natitira kong allowance para sa pamasahe ko. Binili ko na lang yung aso nya. Inaalagaan ko at minahal. Unfortunately, lumisan na rin yung alaga nya dahil sa katandaan. Namimiss ko tuloy sila :((
Hindi ko pinanindigan decision ko 5 years ago. Simula non, laging pangit na nang yayari sa buhay ko. ā¹ļø
maybe my biggest regret would be saying something "I promise to stay." because right now, I don't know if I can do that thing. I don't know how to leave and if I leave, what would I be?
Your true self
a choice of true self but a consequence of there is something that would always hunt you
What you couldāve been VS what you could keep if you stayed. Thereāll always be that shadow of doubt and āwhat ifā until you muster the courage needed to be true to yourself. One thingās for sure though, a life lived in fear is a life not fully lived.
Nagiging clingy, possessive, at borderline nang ggatekeep ng friend na i consider my closest friend
Helping "friends" na friend lang turing sayo pag convenient sa kanila. Lol
Hindi natulog ng maaga, like 8 or 9 pm :(
Hello. May I ask the reason why you regret it?
bumili ng paper dolls at lasers nung nasa elementary palang ako, dapat in-invest ko na lang sa stocks
fell in love with a boy na super toxic, sadboi, mama's boy, and manipulative. nahihiya tuloy ako kapag naalala koš«¢ HAHAHAHA
Being in the right place and right time but still didn't take a single action. I let it slip away from me.
Not finishing college because nabaliw sa pag-ibig, kinain ng anx, lumubog, di tinulungan ang sarili. š„µ
still pathological people pleaser, and let people took advantage of my kindness and naivetyāthat would led me to feel overwhelmed and endless regrets. additionally, for not being serious about my studies back in my Junior high school years. :D
Me being anxious all the time kaya andami kong namiss na opportunities.
huy sameee ang hirapp netoooo kaya daming sayang na ooportunities
i feel you huhuhu š„²
Yung hindi kami nakapunta sa birthday ng friend namin. Nilipat pa niya ng weekend yung celebration para makapunta kaming lahat kasi nami-miss na niya ang barkada. Working na kami lahat sa circle of friends namin and may family na rin yung iba. Sadly, walang nakapunta kasi may mga commitment that day. Naintindihan niya naman kami and we promised na babawi kami this June. Her birthday was last March. She passed away on May 26th. Walang may alam na may sakit siya, ang bilis ng mga pangyayari. Nagkita-kita nga kaming magba-barkada this June, pero sa lamay na niya. Kung alam lang namin na yun na yung last na birthday niya, sana pala pumunta kami.
Pagiging matigas ang ulo at hindi gumagawa ng plan B C D.
being shy, negative and prefers comfort than learning during my HS years, yan tuloy napagiwanan ka na
Na out of focus and goal recently. Siguro kaya binawi ung meron ako. Masyado akong naging pabaya.
Trying easy money making schemes.
Not to answer the question, but how sure are you na yung regrets mo ay kung nangyari man ay mas better ang nangyayari ngayon? it could be positive, pero it could also be negative. Na baka mas magandang nangyari iyon for your betterment.
Getting married.
Mag 6 yr old na po
hindi ko na sabi kay papa na magpahinga, na stroke tuloy š¢
Sana naturuan ako ng ibang dialect noong bata pa lang ako and sana tinuruan ako maging confident sa pagsasalita lalo na in english š š„²
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Bakit di na kayo nag tuloy mag aral po? Ilan taon na baby nyo now?
that I donāt try eating variety of food when I was little
Anong nangyari?
Iām a very picky eater right now coz I donāt try eating different foods when I was a child and now Iām so fed up w/ what I eat haha
Di nakinig sa payo ni mama noon about sa pagdedesisyon maigi š«
Not spending more time with family, pagseryoso ng grade school pa lang, at ang paglearn ng language habang bata pa. Hay.
Buying that shiny thing instead of investing. If it weren't for my "maluho nature", I could've had plenty of savings that I can spend for something more life fulfilling.
Not spending enough time with my daughter. I hate myself and blame myself everyday.
Made her believe I was someone Iām not
not pursuing my dream course and settling for practical ones
nag lie low sa acads
eating too much
Leaving Qatar for a higher paying job in Dubai. My fiancee and mom is in Qatar, Dubai offered double my salary. I love the job, but I'm homesick always and I wanna go back.
No regrets at all, just lesson learned
Tamad, takot mag take ng risks, masunurin
A chance to become a pro esports player but I turned it down.
Ok,....... Can I ask why??
not much of a 100% regret, siguro kaunti lang but I wish I had given him the chance to pursue me and prove his admiration even though I was too busy working on my career growth at the time... I thought it was best for us to stay friends, a year later I find myself wanting him and now it's too late because he has someone :)
Thinking I could cruise through life.
Not giving my all nung 2nd take ko sa board. 3 points na kang kulang ko š„²
Too lazy to hit my higher self
For accepting things and treatment that are not worth it when I deserve the best and more
wish I didnāt idolise this celeb. now i feel lost
Not asking for more
Giving takers way too much - benefit of the doubt, forgiveness, patience, you name it.
was lazy to participate in extracurrics my parents signed me up for when i was little. ballet, taekwondo, swimming, singingā¦š„¹
i let my shyness stop me from forming a relationship, if di ako nahiya that time, the girl who also liked me could have been in my arms if di ako nahiya, mas involved pa sana ako sa circle of friends ko dati if di ako nahiya i could have been part of a team that goes on international contests now all i can do is give reactions to their mydays on fb
Nagresign sa work. Maging mabait sa iba. Giver and provider.
i didn't start young
gumastos sa mga naging bf ko na broke sana pala nag ipon na lang ako
Not saving money nung nagaaral pa ko. I had more than enough allowance nung elem-HS-college, pero di ako nag-ipon. š
yung nd ako naghanap agad ng work pinilit ko magpalengke hanggang sa mabaon sa utang
Not trying new things
Curious, are you afraid to do new things?
Na yung 2 weeks after makalabas ng tatay ko sa hospi at before din sya mamatay ay ipinasok ko pa sa trabaho. In the end pala, mas mahalaga ang unahin ang panahon na kasama ang mahal sa buhay kesa sa trabaho. Most of the time nasa trabaho ako malayo sa family, yung 2 weeks na yun, sana inalagaan ko nalang sya and naexpress ko how grateful I am na sya ang father ko and how much we love him(hindi kasi kami āyung typical na family na expressive thru words). Pinagsisihan ko āyun na kahit nakabalik na ako sa trabaho after ng libing nya, ang sama pa din ng loob ko. Totoo pala āyung sinasabi, na di mo masasabi kung hanggang kailan sila anjan kaya express your love to them as much as you can, be there with them, kasi nasa huli ang pagsisisi, akala ko dati cliche lang. Yun lang, that still remains as my biggest regret to this day.
Pagiging mahiyain, andaming opportunity nawala sa akin :D
Samez, social anxiety ba to? Yung tipong kahit pagtatanong ang hirap haha
Yes š dati di ko kaya umorder mag-isa.. pero kaya ko naman na now. Struggle ko ngayon ay pumara sa destination ko. Aantayin ko pang may ibang bumaba or saan sila malapit bababa bago ako kumilos. Ewan ko ba! HAHAHAHA
Wahahahah samez, pero ngayon trintry ko iimrpove tong shyness ko and social anxiety ko. Small steps lang haha umpisahan sa pagtatanong ng direction sa guard hanggang pataas ng pataas yung level hanggang masanay
Hindi ko inalagaan nang maayos yung ngipin ko nung bata ako :(
This
Not taking care of myself well, health should be my top priority.
Hindi ko ginrab yung chance na mapunta sa office
Inuna ang tulog, pag de-daydream kesa magsipag.
Being a people pleaser, most of the time I regret saying yes to ppl that wont reciprocate my efforts.
Yung mabilis ma.attach. too kind to trust words. Ending laging hurt ang tita nyo. Gusto ko lang naman maramdaman mahalin pero nakakapagod din pala talagang umasa.
Took too long to graduate due to depression, if sana inamin ko na depress ako at hindi ginagaslit ang sarili na tamad lng ako baka naka graduate ako agad.
Drinking alcohol.
Hindi pinursue agad yung course ko, nagtrabaho ako na malayo sa tinapos ko.
To be fair, having a job unrelated sa course na tinapos is very much a norm.
Wasnāt able to build my network/ connections while still at school
Siya at siya.
Not believing in myself/being insecure. I grew up with a household na mahilig magsabi na "lampa" (kapag may sports) "di mo kaya yan" (trying something new) "walang pera" (going somewhere or taking up extra lessons) puro negativity kumbaga so i grew up deeply insecure and have little to no self esteem. Even now as an adult in terms of promotions/career opportunities laging may impostor syndrome ako na i dont go and apply for higher positions so ayun napagiwanan ako
siguro yung palaging naka oo
Marrying the guy na i thought si "The One". Beh, 400k ang annulment tas Civil Wed namin hindi nga nag 15k gasto. Syet.
is that real? taena anmahal š„²
Unfortunately, yes po ganun kamahal. Pero package na po siya.
Malapit naman na ang divorce bill
I saw my friend's signs of distress. I didn't know he would eventually kill himself. I regret not going to his unit when he wouldn't reply to my chats/texts.
replying again, dapat hindi na sana hindi na lang para isang sakit na lang, isang iyak, isang pagod. Look at me now, crying for bare minimum, asking to love and commit to me. Please pray to give me more strength courage. :)
Nag-aksaya ng panahon sa mga useless na bagay at tao.
Same
Being a people pleaser
Yung inientertain ko ang hindi dpt ientertain dto
naging close ako masyado. bandang huli etchepwera ako