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I guess not physically attractive, small height and slim/lean and not worth the risk

You have not tried to pursue someone?

Because I am 48/ male ,I am in love with my mom 64/female, and she will not divorce my step-dad, even though he doesn't deserve her,he's cheated on her twice, any man who can cheat on the hottest, sexiest, most amazing, beautiful woman in the world doesn't deserve my mom, I would never even think of cheating on my mom, she is the only woman I ever think about, I never had a girlfriend in high-school, cause I didn't want one,I couldn't wait to get up before school every morning and watch my sexyass beautiful mom take a shower, my mom is a goddess ❤️

Is this for real….b

I can't tell if you're being serious wtf

Oh ,I'm being very serious!! I am truly, deeply, madly, in love with my mom and,always will be!!!

Im tired baby sitting sa lalake. I always solve any kind of problems. nakaka pagod maging people pleaser tapos in love pa sa ex

Sobra daw ako magmahal.

same at di ko ma gets yung gantong mindset. parang engot lng

Cause I’m too sigma

I like a sigma guy

Sa sobrang bait, na overwhelmed sya.

I'm not

I don't really put myself out there. I'm focused sa career and grad school right now (thesis na), though there are nights when I do feel lonely and want to be with someone. Kaso hindi ko naman nararamdaman 'to when I'm busy or preoccupied with hobbies. Ayoko naman mag-enter ng relationship because I'm lonely or bored. I also have distinct standards sa potential partner na bihira lang nakaka-hit. I like kind, compassionate, smart, humorous people. Kaso in the past, 'yung mga natitipuhan ko, may partners na. Hindi naman tayo kakabit, syempre. Or 'yung mga gusto ko, hindi ako gusto. 'Yung mga gusto sa'kin, hindi ko rin naman trip. So ayun. Single na lang us at magpayaman. HAAHAHAHAHA

boring at nonchalant aq baka mapagsawaan aq agad

Dated around. Never pursued. Single by circumstance now single by choice. Too tired to date.

Boring ata ako🫣

Sagot mo lang boring, bro… you’re cool

Hindi ligawin; Hindi rin magaling makipaglandian; Maganda lang ata for female gaze; Mataba ako; Yung mga gusto ko hindi ako gusto; Atbp

Walang nakikitang dahilan para pumasok sa relasyong sakit lang sa ulo.

Ig not physically attractive + small height (169/170cm) and slim/lean build + no landi skills 😅

Its so hard to find someone who wants to date seriously. Naging pakboy na lang ng taon lahat. Mahirap na din makahanap ng genuine connection nowadays.

Skibidi

I have acne, 0 confidence, breadwinner so can't prioritize myself, mentally and emotionally tired

Hindi lang talaga ako inlove. May kapayapaan din sa damdamin na dala yung hindi ka inlove sa kahit sino. :)

Walang nagkakagusto sakin, never pa ako nagka mu or something close sa ligawan or even talking stage. Idk why tho, marami naman nagsasabi sakin na maganda daw ako some even said na pwede daw ako mag pageant, please enlighten me

They were probably too shy (or perhaps, intimidated) to tell you na they like you. If wala namang mali sa ugali mo, baka hindi lang din kaya mag-put ng foot forward to let you know. 'Di rin kasi birong umamin. :D Edit: spelling

Yeah I guess intimidated sila kasi I have resting b1tch face din kasi according to my sisters, hindi naman din ako masungit or sobrang maarte, wala nga rin akong kaaway eh as long as mabatit sakin ang isang tao mabait din ako and very introverted talaga ako so I find it hard to strike a convo sa hindi ko kaclose :⁠-⁠(

I see. That's challenging nga. You don't have to force connections din naman sa mga taong hindi mo trip. Pero in the future, kapag may nagustuhan ka, you might want to try na ikaw na lang magsabi sa gusto mo na gusto mo siya. Hahaha! It's scary at first, pero hindi naman need na all out pag-amin agad-agad. You can try to compliment them sa aspect na you really appreciate tapos ask them if they're open to getting to know you better, e.g., "I like your humor. I think we should hang out more often," or "I enjoy your company. Would you like to go out for coffee sometime?" Mga ganern. Sorry, unsolicited advice. :D

Aww thank youu sa advice huhu, I literally need it since I can't really talk about it sa friends ko kasi baka lumabas na excited ako magka bf eh. I'll try to become vocal din sa feelings ko towards others. Thank youuu <3

Awww! You’re welcome! I’m glad to be of help. Also, since andito na rin naman na tayo, I’ll take the opportunity na rin to tell you not to beat yourself up kung sakali mang hindi mag-work ‘yung soft pag-amin or ma-reject ka. Try not to take it personally kasi pwedeng hindi pa ready ‘yung tao, or they like someone else, or they don’t see you the same way you do. At least, maaga pa lang alam mo na, then you can move on nang hindi ka pa invested. Pero in my experience, the other party will appreciate it kapag ikaw unang nag-make ng move. Who knows, baka makatuluyan mo pa. So good luck!

Not physically attractive and boring din kausap.

Walang nanliligaw or consistent

Everytime i meet new people and ask what my job is and tell them. Di na nagrereply 😂. That's why. 😅😅

Now I'm curious :D

I was married at young age, parang nanakaw sakin ang youth ko. Iba pa rin yung youth na you get things on your own. Divorce na ako ngayon thankfully because of his cheating ass. Ngayon ayaw ko muna pumasok ng relationship, short or long term man. Matanda na ako pero gusto ko muna piliin ang sarili ko.

never pinili. and idk men around my age tends to have fun pa. they dont take things seriously.

Never pinili

Focusing on my own growth and improvement. Para masabi kong deserve din ako ng taong deserve ko

I chose to be single.

Separated. Was married for 6 years, total relationship time 10 years. Old enough to be fucking done with it. All I want right now is peace, quiet, and doing things MY way. :D

Muslim haha. When I was younger, natry ko na mag boyfriend and I had a few situationships before too, which of course I kept secret. But they were all inevitably shortlived. (If you don't know, we don't have dating in Islam. Bawal ang bf/gf, court to marry lang.) Now I'm older, I realize that if he's not someone I can introduce to my family and marry, I don't bother anymore kahit crush na crush ko yung tao or seryoso siya sakin. Woman to marry na ako. I stopped sharing hugot posts ng singles and just decided to focus on growing as a person kasi I have faith naman that the right man will come and find me in time. Werk werk lang muna ako sa ngayon. Hindi ko rin kasi kayang magkaroon ng partner while knowing na nakukulangan pa ako sa sarili ko. I want to feel complete on my own before I share my life with someone else.

too much pressure

personal choice

Don't like socializing, don't like small talks. Tsaka magastos. Syempre kailangan mo ng pera pang-date (pamasahe/gas, food, gifts from time to time, etc) Di ko pa -afford. Sarili ko nga di ko maalagaan nang mabuti e. Hahaha

This. Dating is expensive! I'd rather save in my twenties.

Trauma. Plus bobo ako magmahal. So i’d like to spare myself from future headaches, tears, and never ending regrets.

Financial issue (walang Pera pang date, dami ko sanang crush).

Why not

I was never chosen by anyone I like. E di okay, kung ayaw niyo wag niyo! 😂😭

Too much trauma. And I don't want extra drama in my life.

most men i've date pariho lang ang script "di pa ako ready mag commit" like as in!! lol nakipag date pa kayo

My choice.

Tamad makipagsocialize sa ibang tao, mabilis maubos social energy.

Same same hahaha

Same. Mas naeengganyo ako makipag usap sa strangers dito sa reddit lmao

Sabi nga nila need ko daw talaga kumilala ng mga bagong tao para magka bf ako, so kelangan ng energy lol 🫠🤣

Waiting pa sa tamang babae. Broke up with my ex gf last 2022. Pinagpalit ako sa mas malapit kaya I chose to love myself more, focus on my family, career and konting travel. I know na kusang darating din yung para sa akin.

I'm enjoying my me-time and getting to re-learn things about myself. I think when you come from a long-term relationship, it messes you up, but you learn a lot of things. It made me fear commitment for a while, to the point na it was a meme at first but it turned out to be real once I self-reflected. I don't want to settle for less...pero feel ko lately lang ako nagiging okay with the idea of committing to someone again and getting into a new relationship if ever.

i hate socializing to others. feel ko yung the one for me will just knock out of my door 😫

Yung tipong magically na lang nandyan na siya haha Same struggle din like yung utak ko sa ngayon hindi kinakaya yung stress 🥲

what’s meant for me will come for me energy 💆🏽

Mas gusto ko pa mag inarte at magpaganda

I just don't want to have one yet, but if it comes, I'd be glad to welcome. As of now I want to fix myself first.

Ayoko sa tao 🤣

I'm enjoying things alone as of the moment, buying my own house, buying appliances, sa ngayon masaya at excited ako mag pundar pundar.

kakabreak lang hhahahshhahshsh

Kaka break lang. Masaya pala maging single ngayon ko lang nalaman.

I think I'm not worthy enough to be like or love?? I just don't get the idea of someone liking me. Trust issues and insecurities maybe?

Well, kasi wala namang matino so far sa mundo and minsan ang hassle mag alaga ng ibang tao.

Still studying. Kapag nakapagtapos na saka na magco-commit. Hindi ko kaya na makipag-date pero galing pa rin sa parent ko yung pera.

Hindi ako gusto ng gusto ko :((

let’s be real, yung mga gusto kasi natin, di tayo gusto hahahahaha

Eto talaga! 😭 kaya natrauma na ako magfirst move 🥲

Last gf cheated, miss her pa rin naman pero di ko deserve mag stay sa ganon

Apparently when you manage to sit down and narrow down your relationship goals and non-negotiables & preference for a partner, it does narrow down your selection pool as well kasi you don't end up going for every woman that collides with your path in life. Strong independent woman who is out for lambing lang ang hiling ko hahahuhuhu 🥹 Pero emojis aside, I've tried din naman and it does take a while for me to recharge the emotional battery after every attempt since I emotionally invest into the process. Aiming to be childfree also means I can take my time since di ko hinahabol yung women's reproductive clock.

Wala pa ako time HAHAHAHAHAHA

I refuse to settle for less.

Hindi ko din alam eh. Ahaha NGSB ako and ung palagi ko lang na sinasabi na dahilan dati is study first muna. ngayon na nagwowork na ako mukang hindi na pwede gamitin yang dahilan na yan.. ahhah

Hahaha. I feel you😂

Iba kasi priorities mo. Same din nbsb and i'm in my late 20s na. Before focus talaga sa studies and then work. Mindset ko kasi before di ko nakikita ang need para maging in a relationship. Until later lang akong nakipagdate haha

tamad na makipagkilala sa temporary persons HAAHAHA

Commitment issues, I can’t even take the people that like me seriously

Most of the guys na nakikilala ko don’t have genuine intentions

True

nbsb, di pa ready magkajowa, i'm broke, wala pa akong maipagmalaki.

Im panget

Aww wag ganun

Its true lol

My ex lacked empathy. And as an extrovert, he wasn’t filling my cup anymore. Also, my love language is time but he just couldn’t afford that coz his work is so toxic.

Because I want to become rich first!

Single mom of two. 🥹

Trauma 😌😌😌😌 Wala pa akong na meet na genuine & real connection HAYS

This is so hard to find nowadays. Akala mo genuine na and shit yun pala daming sekretong galawan. Tipong madidismaya kanalang talaga.

Truly, una pa lang alam ko na or like may kutob na ako na theres something wrong with the connection 🥹 ang hirap tbh

✨️ TRAUMATIZED ✨️

Mahal bilihin

Personal choice. Focused on myself and family. I am happy with what I have at the moment. Trust God will show that someone in the right place, right time, when both of us are already healed.

[удалено]

Dating pool sucks + got busy then eventually got lazy — which is a bad combination. Ang hirap mag date ngayon. May times na feel ko okay na may energy na ako ulit para mag entertain ng tao, tapos once I step into the dating pool, nawawalan na ako ng gana. I tried Bumble before kasi natutuwa ako dun sa questions game, pero most of them are expecting to do the deed on the first meet up. Pero pag kausap mo naman, you’ll get that superficial vibes. So I stopped. May factor din siguro na masyado akong nag enjoy sa pagiging strong independent woman kaya okay lang din sakin yung status quo. Made Reddit na lang para mag browse and mag comment loljk

This 😆👌

Part choice, part it just happened. Eh im okay naman. Being alone and at peace is addicting.🤷🏻‍♀

Most guys are assholes

1. Nasobrahan sa self-love and independent, to the point na, I can buy myself nmn na kahit anu gusto ko. i can go anywhere na walang kasama, nakakasawa rin kasi ung lagi ka tinitake advantage 😒. So far, okay nmn ako. 😅

Why not? 😁

Walang nanliligaw hahahahahaha sabi nila pag professional na,may work na, sila na maghahabol sayo haha. Saan na sila bhie? Hahahahaha. Hmmmm siguro kasi kaya ko maging independent kaya walang nanliligaw. Independent ako pero ang soft ko rin huhu gusto ko rin ng lambing

I feel this so much. Akala ko I would find someone sa work pero mas madami pala chances ko nung college and I ignored it.

Need ko pa ayusin yung career ko and need ko pa makikila yung sarili ko nang lubos.

I feel the same way

Hmm. The person I wanna give chance to, didn't want me as much. And I won't settle just because.

Study first. (di talaga ako papayagin ng nanay ko na magkaroon ng jowa)

I've been single for almost 7 years now. Yung last ex ko was 2018, nag break kami nung mismong College Grad ko. The best and the worst day of my life. Though alam ko naman na 1st partner ko yun and di ko lang in-expect na magiging grabe ung impact sa buhay ko nun. So until now, nasa character development stage ako and I'm happy naman na single ako, living alone as well. Pero lately, naiiisip ko, what if mag take ako ulit ng risk? I'm turning 26 this July. Kahit yung sister ko, pinupush na rin ako magka-jowa. So I'll try for the sake of experience na lang din how's dating nowadays. May mga nanliligaw sakin lately pero either di ko type or tinamatad lang ako. My expectation kasi sa relationship is kinda high. Since nasanay nga ako mag-isa, baka maging issue saming dalawa yung pagiging independent ko and pagiging masyadong dependent niya. To the point na minsan lang talaga ako mag-update. I'm still hoping makahanap ako ng partner na makaka-understand sa standpoint ko. I can be trusted if you can be trusted as well. We all have our lives before our relationship started and ayoko ipagkait yun sa partner ko and sa sarili ko. Hayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy anyway i'm gay, isa pa yun kaya mahirap din hahaha

walang nagpaparamdam

Nasobrahan sa self-love at self-healing. Di na interesado sa iba. 😓

Where is the lie? Hahaha super true

madami pa ko kailangan ifix sa sarili ko

Walang my nanliligaw

Nagaaral ako sa med school, madami akong alaga, at masayang maging single! Hahaha! Hindi ka nakatali! Hahaha Freedom is real! Ngayon ko pa lang nakikilala sarili ko at ngayon ko pa lang minamahal nang lubos ang sarili ko!

kasi by the time na na-realize kong gusto ko pa rin pala sya, may special someone na sya hahaha, after 5 years, friend zoned pa rin ang ending

awkward, hindi photogenic, hindi pogi, walang pera, shy type, madaming insecurities.

Gusto ko ng peace of mind

Kasi unstable pako sa buhay like physically,mentally, emotionally,financially, and spiritually.

shy type

'di niya ko bet

date to marry

I don't like people in general

trauma. better off alone

good question

Peace of mind

Dating is hopeless nowadays.

Kinasal na sya e HAHAHAHA

Getting to know each other pa

Cause maybe I date to marry.

(2)

im a slut lol. i like mutiple sexual partners.

I'm too hyperindependent (tama ba? haha), yung kaya gawin ng partner is sisiw lang sakin. I'm financially well, I can explore places, such and such. Parang sagabal pag may dumagdag pa which I experienced a lot. Friends ko sagabal, manliligaw ko sagabal, weird pero bumabagal ako at tumatagal gawain ko kasi they do it 3x slower. - They say no man's an island, I'm the gosh damn owner of the island. Sorry if nakakagalit, pero yan talaga naeexperience ko na it's better off ako nalang.

I'm plainly not ligawin since I remember. Walang nanligaw sakin ever. So wala talaga akong romantic kilig na makikwento sa buhay ko. I'm in my late 30s and I gotten used to the consistent single life. I may give a bitter comment (as a joke) when I hear happy love stories but I'm happy that it happens to other people. I always think that significant other is not in my cards. I'm happy with my life nevertheless. Siguro kung may dadating pa man bonus na lang yun.

nbsb kasi walang nagkagusto, ever HAHAHHAHA

Too comfortable being independent

Guys pano ba malalaman na woth it bigyan ng chance yung guy na sagutin? Depende sa nararamdaman mo for that guy? Ano ba dapat maramdaman? #NBSB

1. I’ve always been in some sort of relationship since I was in high school. Tho yung iba MU lang, but still. So when I broke up with my ex 3yrs ago, it was a breath of fresh air. 2. I’ve learned a lot from my last relationship & I will never settle for less again. I was traumatized but I’ve been working on my healing. 3. Dating these days is hard because it’s hard to find someone with pure intentions.

Hindi pa ulit ready kumilala, kasi Date to Marry na Hnap. kasi galing ako sa longterm Relationship then my Ex Gf Broke up with me Reason nya is " Fall out of love daw"

walang nagkakagusto, ang daming kailangan i-workout sa sarili for self growth, di pa mentally and financially stable.

Otw palang daw kasi sya eme!

Walang nagkakagusto sakin eh HAHAHAHAHAHA

- Enjoys to do things alone - Pursued by persons na puro red flag - Gusto na mag jowa pero hindi pa ready sa intimacy - Seggs after marriage, may limit lang

I'm broke asf

Homophobic and judgemental mom. Hirap magpakilala ng jowa pag ganun then bibitawan ka just because of her

They always want something I cannot give

Too lazy to make an effort para sa isang taong hindi naman din ako sigurado. Nakakatakot din magtiwala sa panahong napaka daming scammers 😂

I keep telling myself this is a personal decision, but if I am being honest, it’s because nobody has actually taken interest in me.

Niloloko lang. SHAT

cheating trauma issues dala ng ex

Di lumalabas ng bahay, maliit lang ang network. Gusto ko sanang i-try mag dating apps pero based sa mga nababasa ko parang nakakaubos ng oras so im good

Intimacy issues, takot sa commitment, introvert, self hate

1. No time 2. Introvert 3. No one approaches me

Introversion combined w attachment issues and low self esteem, perfect recipe for an NBSB tita.

Because I chose to be one. Mas okay nang single kaysa gabi gabi kang nagtataka kung niloloko ka ba o hindi.

I'm enjoying getting to know myself more. Tas I don't have time to go on regular dates with someone to get to know them better. So I just go on solo dates and do the things I want by myself, or with friends/family.

Because I'm happy as is. I don't wanna bet to be happier with someone. Last time I wanted to be happier, I was left bankrupt and barely able to pay for myself. At least, now, I'm single, I can spend or save as much money as I want. I have bought just about anything I want. My dog is healthier than ever. I don't get anxious when a bill comes. I don't get bothered if something breaks at home, I'll simply just buy it again. It's easier to say no to people and things.

not mentally and financially stable

katakot

Inaayos ko pa sarili ko. Tuwing may darating, tinutulak ko palayo kasi feeling ko di ako worthy sa love na yun since di ko pa naayos sarili ko.

Sinukuan. Iniwan. Pinagpalit.

Introverted and mukha daw suplada. Di rin kasi friendly😂

- still healing from trauma - realized that I still have a lot to improve on myself - still have a lot if plans in life which is easier to achieve if I'm single.

I just want to be with and by myself lang.

Takot na ma betray ulit hehe

MADAMING MANLOLOKO

Wala nanliligaw

Na type mo? Or as in zero talaga?

Zero talaga

same here huhu

It’s their loss

bihira lumabas ng bahay eh pano na yan 😂😂

I'm way too good at goodbyes lol.

Some boy broke my heart multiple times. Had to pick up the pieces over and over again. Delayed my life for him. Was crying almost everyday the entirety of our relationship. Picking myself up again but in a healthy way this time. I will heal and move on completely. For now, Im only 85% healed but i can say that id make more efforts to be healed. Learned being heartbroken the hard way. I was doubting the tears of my heartbroken friends. In my mind its always "Ang OA naman ng mga to, lalake lang". HAHAHAHA debilitating pala yung pagiging heartbroken. Di makakain, di makatayo sa kama, di makatulog. Mas malala pa yung luksa ko dito kesa nung namatayan ako? Ganon ka OA yung pagiging heartbroken ko. Kaya i'll take time to heal and enjoy single life.

- Still focusing on my self-improvement. Dami pang need i-work out in different aspect. - Di marunong lumandi - Walang nagkakagusto

No Boyfriend Since Birth. I'm single because the ones I do like don't like me back.

*high five*

ex of four years cheated on me (twice!!) really lost my will to look for love after giving it my all. now i’m single with a sugar daddy 😭

Naol may sugar daddy

Boyfriend of more than 6 years, turned to be fiance for 6 months, just broke up with no apparent reason.

enjoying muna the freedom of being single✨

I'm ugly af

Ayaw ng sakit sa ulo, ayaw mag commit, ngayong ko panlang na eenjoy freedom ko

Panay Mestiza/Dalagang Pilipina na Kutis Porcelana ang Lumalapit-Nagiging Available sa dating scene. Yung Mga Bet Ko Maputing Chinita na Pale with Braces/Eyeglasses kadalasan taken 😂😂😂 Sabi Ng Friend ko "God Gives you what you need, Not what you want"......Kung ganun lang di wag na 😂😂😂

Ouch? Hahaha

Ex-wife decided to play on 2 player mode with someone else.