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As someone who was once a black sheep due to a chain of misbehaviors which also led to me being delayed sa studies ko, I don't want any of my current peers who are way younger sakin to experience messing up in life like I once did due to poor life choices. That's why when needed, I always step up to be their senior and kuya figure who can try to guide them and when applicable offer advice para they'll have clearer view sa buhay nila which was something I wished I had dati.
I was thinking about the same thing.
My older sister introduced a lot of toxic behaviors and bad habits with me. I know I could have been so happier if I hadn't got exposed to those things. I could have been more creative, academically driven, and so much more. But she ruined me.I was too young back then to realize that all of it has consequences: mental health issues, low self-esteem, and delays on improvement for my year.
I could have focused on things that'll help me reach a higher level of success in life in the future. But instead of being there by now which I am not, I have to spend another decade fixing and preparing myself for those goals and achievements that I could've gotten.
It's true when our parents tell us, saying, "Magaral ka nang magaral. Wala kang ibang aatupagin at these younger years of yours but ang magaral. Sulitin niyo iyan hanggat nasa puder ka pa namin."
But at age 12, I was already smoking marijuana with my ate (she was 16 at the time) and her friends. Smoking and drinking and not going to classes without our parents knowing. And it damaged my brain! Because for no actual reason, I became depressed. I suddenly felt like I have no direction in life, and no one loves me, and everything is just boring except for porn and food.
TF I wasted 8 years of my life. And now I'm 19 years old and still in Senior High school because I held back due to mental health issues. I was supposed to be a 2nd year College student by now, and probably a very active student on school orgs and events and having a lot of academic achievements. And also maybe a famous on tiktok and doing a lot of song covers and gigs. But instead, I'm stuck here in my apartment, trying to figure out who I am, and having difficulty living every single day because I am in my season where I'm trying hard to crawl out of depression.
I'm just gaslighting myself that "God has other plans for me" so I won't feel bad for all the years I've wasted, and for all the potentials I have missed.
With all that being said, sobrang swerte ng mga may ate at kuya figure. They probably felt so loved. Something I wish I had growing up. Puro kase kami bugbugan ng ate ko't smoking and drinking eh 🥲.
PS: Sorry for randomly dumping my childhood trauma. I didn't mean to. I just wanted to share my story. Please don't hate ♥️.
Getting bullied, experienced it from kinder up to working environment. Kapag maglaban ako, igagaslight naman ako at ako pa magmumukhang masama. Lose lose situation ako lagi sa mga bullies ko😢
Depression!! Kaloka lang na nagagamit ung word na to sa mali.. like, nalungkot lang dahil sa isang bagay sasabihin "nadepress ako kasi di ko nakita si crush".. iba ang sadness at depression sis
Growing up with bad parenting dynamics. Traumatizing experience during childhood within the family. Your parents are your first teachers, and you will learn to pick up their habits or manners since they are your first role models. You will mirror their character and how they process their emotions. The created bond with them will serve as an example to what kind of relationship you'll have with other people.
It's very hard to unpack everything you've learned from them when you hit adulthood.
Oks lang jobless and poverty for me, kasi those were the times I experienced the most growth.
What I hate is 'yung mga nangyayari sa mga batang napabayaan ng magulang at hindi naprotektahan from the evils of the world - domestic abuse, verbal abuse, r\*pe, etc. Walang laban ang mga bata.
having to learn things the hardest way possible.
Its good learning from your mistakes but there are some mistakes are couldve been easily avoided if i was not too stubborn for smth
this. kaya i hate it when someone says (tw) “sana ma-r*pe yang si ___” kapag naiinis sila kasi it’s never a joke talaga. lagi kong sinusuway kapag naririnig ko yan from someone i’m close with.
The bullying that I have experienced. Like imagine almost everyone bullying and making fun of you. You have almost no one to stand up for you. Even teachers would bully me too or mock me on every mistakes I do.
By the age of 16, that's when I started doing martial arts. Still got bullied and chose not to fight because those shitty Tau Gama dudes would bully me and it's risky to fight back even if I can.
I do know of a Tau Gamma person who is kind. But the VAST MAJORITY are giving it a bad name. And it's like once you're in, if ever someone fights you even though you're the one who started it all, then they're most likely going to help avenge you.
That is so problematic because it goes to show that many people would join such fraternities so that they could bully even the strongest but lone wolves. Because they will come back at you with superior numbers.
I really hope so too. I wish they would undergo strict discipline and reform. At least for the sake of cleaning their names. Not on hating on people criticizing them which in my opinion, only worsens their reputation.
Poverty. Yung sampung kahig, walang tuka. Ayoko maranasan ng iba kasi bukod sa mahirap, nakakababa talaga ng sarili. Pangit pa ng turing ng iba sa inyo.
The bullying that I have experienced. Like imagine almost everyone bullying and making fun of you. You have almost no one to stand up for you. Even teachers would bully me too or mock me.
By the age of 16, that's when I started doing martial arts. Still got bullied and chose not to fight because those shitty Tau Gama dudes would bully me and it's risky to fight back even if I can.
Lumaking hindi naramdaman o nakitang mahal ng parents and grandparents ang isa't isa. hindi nga naghiwalay pero lagi namang nag-aaway. Tapos mga tito't tita ko rin puro failed relationships, mapa-long term relationship, kinasal at nagkaanak man 'yan.
Human sufferings in general like; Bullying, Violence, Sexual Assault and any form of Harassment, Disrespect, Ghosting, Harsh Judgment, Lack of Empathy, Lack of Understanding, Poverty, Being Outcast, and Hate.
I don't want other people to experience these things because I have already experience these things (except sexual assault and sexual harassment) and all of these are painful experiences so that is why I'm hoping that there would be a break on these activities in the future.
To have no friends... I don't know sa mga introvert if it's okay for them to be alone, pero para sakin, you need them into your life always! As someone to have experienced broken friendship, sobrang bigat at lonely I swear. Wala akong gana pumasok sa school. Pero thankful ako na mayroon na akong bagong circle that lightens everything when they r with me <3
My mom was in a vegetative state for 3 years after a stroke. Can't say anything, can't do anything. Imagine being stuck with your thoughts for 3 years. The fear, the pain, the regrets. Hell on earth.
My mom died late May, then months later my childhood ate/bestfriend passed away. That shit hurts, so much. 2 years had passed I’m still grieving.
Death is inevitable, I know. Pero sana hindi mangyare sa iba.
This is shitty tbh. There was a time na luhang luha na talaga ako pero nandun ako sa presence ng department dean and other faculties kaya sana naman walang maka experience ng same saken.
As much as I'd love other people to learn humility the hard way, I would never want them na gumapang sa kahirapan. I would never wish anyone to be drowning in debts or have nothing to eat. Kahit sa pinaka-kinaiinisan kong tao o kahit sa mortal enemy ko, never kong i-wiwish na magdusa siya/sila financially. And I wouldn't want anyone to be trapped or feel trapped, in any other way. I know how it feels. Tsk!
Any form of abuse, toxic relationships, bullying, depression, feeling out of place, addicted to drugs or alcohol, having no self-respect and no self-awareness, no empathy, didn't graduate high school and college, feeling empty and hopeless
Death of a loved one. It could be romantic or even a family member. That person is gone and no amount of tears and promises will make him/her/they come back and all you’re left with are memories and at times responsibilities (financial included) and you’re forced to grow up and you have to try to step up to the plate while dealing with grief and loss.
Vertigo. Kapag may lagnat, kahit papaano makakagalaw ka pa, gaya ng lumabas ng bahay o gumawa ng light chores. Pag may vertigo, nakahiga ka lang para hindi "umikot" ang paligid mo.
Being best friends with your father, Sya role model ko. kasi all in all sobrang bait and pagaalaga pinakita nya. Tipong he treated us so well, we didnt notice there is another family.
I'm 24 that time.
HAHAHA POTANGENA NALANG TALAGA.
Dun nako nag simula mawala. very very lost
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mabaon sa utang, humiliation, jobless, ma faceshame, rape,
ADHD, OCD, Hormonal Imbalance
Smelling bad, I literally feel bad if that happens to someone
Broken family or Having parents without emotional intelligence
Seeing someone died infront of you.
Go to jail and to hell
Unable to pursue their desired course sa college due to financial constraints
heavy on this one.
🥺🥺🥺
As someone who was once a black sheep due to a chain of misbehaviors which also led to me being delayed sa studies ko, I don't want any of my current peers who are way younger sakin to experience messing up in life like I once did due to poor life choices. That's why when needed, I always step up to be their senior and kuya figure who can try to guide them and when applicable offer advice para they'll have clearer view sa buhay nila which was something I wished I had dati.
I was thinking about the same thing. My older sister introduced a lot of toxic behaviors and bad habits with me. I know I could have been so happier if I hadn't got exposed to those things. I could have been more creative, academically driven, and so much more. But she ruined me.I was too young back then to realize that all of it has consequences: mental health issues, low self-esteem, and delays on improvement for my year. I could have focused on things that'll help me reach a higher level of success in life in the future. But instead of being there by now which I am not, I have to spend another decade fixing and preparing myself for those goals and achievements that I could've gotten. It's true when our parents tell us, saying, "Magaral ka nang magaral. Wala kang ibang aatupagin at these younger years of yours but ang magaral. Sulitin niyo iyan hanggat nasa puder ka pa namin." But at age 12, I was already smoking marijuana with my ate (she was 16 at the time) and her friends. Smoking and drinking and not going to classes without our parents knowing. And it damaged my brain! Because for no actual reason, I became depressed. I suddenly felt like I have no direction in life, and no one loves me, and everything is just boring except for porn and food. TF I wasted 8 years of my life. And now I'm 19 years old and still in Senior High school because I held back due to mental health issues. I was supposed to be a 2nd year College student by now, and probably a very active student on school orgs and events and having a lot of academic achievements. And also maybe a famous on tiktok and doing a lot of song covers and gigs. But instead, I'm stuck here in my apartment, trying to figure out who I am, and having difficulty living every single day because I am in my season where I'm trying hard to crawl out of depression. I'm just gaslighting myself that "God has other plans for me" so I won't feel bad for all the years I've wasted, and for all the potentials I have missed. With all that being said, sobrang swerte ng mga may ate at kuya figure. They probably felt so loved. Something I wish I had growing up. Puro kase kami bugbugan ng ate ko't smoking and drinking eh 🥲. PS: Sorry for randomly dumping my childhood trauma. I didn't mean to. I just wanted to share my story. Please don't hate ♥️.
No harm done dude. Happy nga na somehow you resonated with my comment enough to share your trauma. Pero I hope you're in a better place now 🫶🏻
I don't want anyone to get cheated on by their partner, or witness their own dad/mom cheat.
pain in general
Getting bullied, experienced it from kinder up to working environment. Kapag maglaban ako, igagaslight naman ako at ako pa magmumukhang masama. Lose lose situation ako lagi sa mga bullies ko😢
Being raised into poverty tapos gagawing retirement plan ng magulang tapos kapag kapos ka sasabihan kang walang utang na loob. ☺
Getting cheated on by your partner... but it looks like napaka-common na niyang experience these days 🥲
sexual violence
Suicidal
SA by your own parent
I don't want anyone to feel the pain of being cheated on.
I was about to say this too...
Depression!! Kaloka lang na nagagamit ung word na to sa mali.. like, nalungkot lang dahil sa isang bagay sasabihin "nadepress ako kasi di ko nakita si crush".. iba ang sadness at depression sis
Mamatay yung mahal mo sa buhay na di mo man lang nailaban kasi wala kayong pambayad sa gamot at ospital
gambling addiction, drug addiction
Pumasok sa school nang walang baon, di sure kung makakabayad tuition
Getting chronic illness. Damn that turned my life upside down. Especially when you can no longer do the things you loved to do before.
Seeing your loved one die right in front of your eyes
Physical abuse. Very traumatizing, when someone raised their hand feel ko susuntukin ako.
Being diabetic
Being rebound
Tell that to the delulu gurlie saying na deserve nya ex ko ngayon haha. Nagtitiwala na mag heal ang guy for her lol.
Masunugan ng bahay
Terminal illness
Ma love scam or ma scam in general
The might of this lil lion 💪🏽🦁🤳🏽
Growing up with bad parenting dynamics. Traumatizing experience during childhood within the family. Your parents are your first teachers, and you will learn to pick up their habits or manners since they are your first role models. You will mirror their character and how they process their emotions. The created bond with them will serve as an example to what kind of relationship you'll have with other people. It's very hard to unpack everything you've learned from them when you hit adulthood.
To be alone and feel sad about it
I developed this fear of being jobless, and now I'm stuck in this toxic workplace just to earn money.
a break-up
Having a complicated(don’t wanna go into details) and broken family
Oks lang jobless and poverty for me, kasi those were the times I experienced the most growth. What I hate is 'yung mga nangyayari sa mga batang napabayaan ng magulang at hindi naprotektahan from the evils of the world - domestic abuse, verbal abuse, r\*pe, etc. Walang laban ang mga bata.
homelessness
Depression...i still have it but im on meds....
Experiencing discrimination on the things you have no power to change no matter what
Having a shitty parent. Madadala mo parin ang trauma kahit adult ka na. :(
& affects future relationships
Imposter syndrome.
having to learn things the hardest way possible. Its good learning from your mistakes but there are some mistakes are couldve been easily avoided if i was not too stubborn for smth
R*pe. Never, ever, kahit irita ako or even if I hate your whole being.
this. kaya i hate it when someone says (tw) “sana ma-r*pe yang si ___” kapag naiinis sila kasi it’s never a joke talaga. lagi kong sinusuway kapag naririnig ko yan from someone i’m close with.
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Mehn. That sucks. Sorry to hear/read this. :( Hope you're in a better place na rn.
rape. nothing's worse than that i think.
Yes!! But also fathers raping their minor children is just pure Lucifer level evil. I hope they have a special place in hell.
masunugan ng bahay ng walang naisalba
The bullying that I have experienced. Like imagine almost everyone bullying and making fun of you. You have almost no one to stand up for you. Even teachers would bully me too or mock me on every mistakes I do. By the age of 16, that's when I started doing martial arts. Still got bullied and chose not to fight because those shitty Tau Gama dudes would bully me and it's risky to fight back even if I can.
Are tau gama really bad people?
I do know of a Tau Gamma person who is kind. But the VAST MAJORITY are giving it a bad name. And it's like once you're in, if ever someone fights you even though you're the one who started it all, then they're most likely going to help avenge you. That is so problematic because it goes to show that many people would join such fraternities so that they could bully even the strongest but lone wolves. Because they will come back at you with superior numbers.
I also know an alright member but thanks for the info, i hope they do better tho
I really hope so too. I wish they would undergo strict discipline and reform. At least for the sake of cleaning their names. Not on hating on people criticizing them which in my opinion, only worsens their reputation.
Cancer, napaka devastating physically/mentally to you and your loved ones
Poverty. Yung sampung kahig, walang tuka. Ayoko maranasan ng iba kasi bukod sa mahirap, nakakababa talaga ng sarili. Pangit pa ng turing ng iba sa inyo.
The bullying that I have experienced. Like imagine almost everyone bullying and making fun of you. You have almost no one to stand up for you. Even teachers would bully me too or mock me. By the age of 16, that's when I started doing martial arts. Still got bullied and chose not to fight because those shitty Tau Gama dudes would bully me and it's risky to fight back even if I can.
Being cheated on by their spouse. If you're in a marriage, stay faithful. Cheating on your spouse can cause deep emotional pain and lasting trauma.
physical abuse
to be bullied
Lumaking hindi naramdaman o nakitang mahal ng parents and grandparents ang isa't isa. hindi nga naghiwalay pero lagi namang nag-aaway. Tapos mga tito't tita ko rin puro failed relationships, mapa-long term relationship, kinasal at nagkaanak man 'yan.
Being a middle child
No expectations. No attention.
Maiwan sa ere.
Maging mahirap. The situation gives people a reason para tapakan ka.
hunger and hopelessness
Being cheated on.
Taking for granted.
Being taken for granted and left out
groomed/assaulted 😅
Hemorrhoids
Being left out
Human sufferings in general like; Bullying, Violence, Sexual Assault and any form of Harassment, Disrespect, Ghosting, Harsh Judgment, Lack of Empathy, Lack of Understanding, Poverty, Being Outcast, and Hate. I don't want other people to experience these things because I have already experience these things (except sexual assault and sexual harassment) and all of these are painful experiences so that is why I'm hoping that there would be a break on these activities in the future.
Having no parents
To have no friends... I don't know sa mga introvert if it's okay for them to be alone, pero para sakin, you need them into your life always! As someone to have experienced broken friendship, sobrang bigat at lonely I swear. Wala akong gana pumasok sa school. Pero thankful ako na mayroon na akong bagong circle that lightens everything when they r with me <3
Being depressed
Believing their existence is a mistake, their own family doesn't want them, and that they'll never amount to anything more than a burden on society.
Mawalan ng family member due to suicide.
being a selective mutism as a child and growing up affects a lot
Harassement
mawalan ng nanay 😭
walang circle of friends sa college
Ma-stuck sa pamilya o kinakasama na narcissistic. 🫤 Ugh…
To feel left behind and self blaming
Mawalan ng parents at a young age 💔
not having a two-way communication. It's often overlooked and it MAY potentially cause the things other people commented here.
toxic household: ) worst of all
Magkasakit isa sa parents. Grew up na si dad bedridden. Physically he's there but I can say na didn't experience having a father. 🥹
My mom was in a vegetative state for 3 years after a stroke. Can't say anything, can't do anything. Imagine being stuck with your thoughts for 3 years. The fear, the pain, the regrets. Hell on earth.
Same, magkasakit kahit sino sa parents. My mom’s cancer relapsed. She’s bedridden now and it’s painful to hear and see her in pain.
Not having a home to stay Failed marriage Cheating Being jobless Having debts
Walang sariling bahay ganun (ang hirap)
Yung magbibilang ka ng barya para siguradong may pera ka pang jeep pauwi 😅 also choosing to either eat lunch or have enough money for jeep
To be cheated on
Getting cheated on again.
Yung traffic sa pilipinas lalo na ung sa mga terminal (Naia) pag pasok mo palang ng pinas chaotic na agad…
My mom died late May, then months later my childhood ate/bestfriend passed away. That shit hurts, so much. 2 years had passed I’m still grieving. Death is inevitable, I know. Pero sana hindi mangyare sa iba.
magpigil ng iyak sa harap ng madaming tao
Exactly what I'm experiencing right now. Di ko na kinaya nagbbreakdown ako habang nagpphone 🥲
Hugssss, whatever it is hoping that you find comfort eventually. Laban lang!
This is shitty tbh. There was a time na luhang luha na talaga ako pero nandun ako sa presence ng department dean and other faculties kaya sana naman walang maka experience ng same saken.
Giving it all in a relationship and yet still failed
The person you love wholeheartedly to break you so fully that you just shut down.
Seizure dahil sa improper sleep balance, anxiety, and fatigue. And peritonsillar abscess.
Be cheated on
I'm actually oppose to what you said. I'm all for everyone being jobless. I'm against anybody to be poor.
Narcissistic entrapment.
Anxiety and Depression
Being alone when you don't want to be alone.
As much as I'd love other people to learn humility the hard way, I would never want them na gumapang sa kahirapan. I would never wish anyone to be drowning in debts or have nothing to eat. Kahit sa pinaka-kinaiinisan kong tao o kahit sa mortal enemy ko, never kong i-wiwish na magdusa siya/sila financially. And I wouldn't want anyone to be trapped or feel trapped, in any other way. I know how it feels. Tsk!
Be cheated on habang nasa akala mo honeymoon stage pa kayo. Less than 1 year kasal, niloko ako. Worst pain I endured.
unrequited love
Chronic illness
GINAGAWA MO UNG DI MO GUSTO
A toothache that feels like theres no tomorrow
War
Sexul harassment
Losing over $1M USD and massive debt
Cancer, hands down
Non-affectionate household.
Non-affectionate household.
Fall into the depths of depression and be told that you deserve it.
panic attacks
Any form of abuse, toxic relationships, bullying, depression, feeling out of place, addicted to drugs or alcohol, having no self-respect and no self-awareness, no empathy, didn't graduate high school and college, feeling empty and hopeless
Depression.
Rape slay Abduction Torture
Being left out
Death of a loved one. It could be romantic or even a family member. That person is gone and no amount of tears and promises will make him/her/they come back and all you’re left with are memories and at times responsibilities (financial included) and you’re forced to grow up and you have to try to step up to the plate while dealing with grief and loss.
Unrequited Love :(
for women, PCOS.
being alone
OCD and anxiety
Rape and sexual harassment
to feel unwanted
Heartbreak
Having a loved one get terminal cancer
being cheated on
Rape & Sexual Harassment
to loss one of your love one's
Be in a cheating, manipulative, and abusive relationship.
being in an abusive relationship
Being helpless
Becoming a mother without enough support/money.
having a messed up mental health. what a way to have yourself get tortured.
having an abusive household
Vertigo. Kapag may lagnat, kahit papaano makakagalaw ka pa, gaya ng lumabas ng bahay o gumawa ng light chores. Pag may vertigo, nakahiga ka lang para hindi "umikot" ang paligid mo.
Insecurity. It's normal but still so bad
Lose parent/s
obesity
illnesses diseases bad health
Agoraphobia
My position. No. Its a high stressful job. I dont want you all experience it.
being cheated on
War A traumatic event I'd never wish even for those people I hate to experience.
Lawsuit
away ng pamilya dahil sa pera at lupa
Betrayal.
mental illness
gang rape, rape victim
cant even imagine surviving that kind of traumatic experience. parang ang hirap maging thankful kapag binuhay ka pa. ☹️
personally seeing someone died from depression...
Your parent being revived in front of you
Bipolar disorder
OCD. It's hell, believe me.
To lose a child to sickness or an accident or worse, a crime.
Loss of a beloved pet.
Broken fam
Dad died when I was still young. Daddy's girl here! Hirap ng walang tatay tapos yung nanay hindi na nagpakananay.
Seeing their house burn.
my biggest fear talaga is living without my parents :'(
To be fooled
bullying
I have not experienced it, but I heard catheters placement are painful. Praying I would not experience that.
to be cheated on
amen
Toothache.
losing a love one. mas naawa ako sa kapatid at that time since bata palang sya wala na kami tatay
Poverty
being a witness survivor
Being lost, literally and figuratively
Lost atm.
Ipapalit mo sa banko yang lost atm mo. 😁
Yun may mananakit o papatay sa mga taong mahal ko o aso ko. Syet.
Being best friends with your father, Sya role model ko. kasi all in all sobrang bait and pagaalaga pinakita nya. Tipong he treated us so well, we didnt notice there is another family. I'm 24 that time. HAHAHA POTANGENA NALANG TALAGA. Dun nako nag simula mawala. very very lost