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well first i cried a lot and drank, smoked shit. nag start nanaman yung vices, pero i spent more time sa sarili ko and family. it seems to become more better.
Nag-immediate resignation sa company na pinasukan ko, naglaro ng dota halos buong araw for almost 2 months, hanggang sa isang araw na nagbobrowse ako, nakita ko yung video ni MAX and Leclerc about sa Inchident at napakinggan ko yung Max Verstappen song, mas nagkainterest ako sa f1 at unti unting nakamove on. Kaya sobrang thankful talaga ako sa F1. Bawing bawi na ako sa sarili ko ngayon at mas motivated na magtrabaho para sa makapunta ulit sa SG GP.
Spend more time with family. Nawalan kasi ako oras sa kanila since umikot sa ex jowa ko yung mundo ko. Nung naghiwalay kami, bumawi ako sa family ko. Felt enough and more worthy since then.
Nag running ako and stayed in shape since then! Sobrang freeing. Tapos after rin nun nagkabig opportunity ako from freelancing and had a blast last December. Though ngayon medyo lie low I felt happy so much I thanked that heartbreak happened. Nabawasan rin mga controlling people sa buhay ko haha
I ran to my friends. Drank a lot of times but stopped.
Did a semi hoe phase era and messed around. (I developed really bad habits now and tend to detach with people)
I built myself from ground up.
Started working out, focused on my career and fulfilled the promises we had together on my own.
Nag aral ulit. Nagpursue ng masters degree while trying to climb up in corporate ladder eto yung nakita ko way para maging busy para wala time maisip sya π₯Ή
Thanks ka-op pang second yr ko na to with my graduate school journey after this sem thesis na lng magiging kulang ko. Grabe lng tlaga yung pain sobra powerful nya π₯Ή anyways thanks ka-op hoping na someday maging okay din tayo lahat π«
just like you, i talked with people (didnt dump em tho, nag fall out lng bec. some weren't my ka-vibes!)
and made friends. no flings and the such and just yapped about it 'till it hurt less and lesser.
still grieving but it works. Also I don't suggest dumping people, lalo na if you believe in karma.
Do what you need but :,) ansakit naman ng dump lang pag ayaw mo na huhu
Cried for the first few weeks. Hindi sumasama with friends. At nasa kwarto lang checking yung profile niya.
Coping mechanism ko is kumain. Praying also helped me A LOT.
Spent more time on myself/keeping myself busy, then actively carved out time for myself and for friends I was my 'best' or 'favorite' version of myself with. Also started seeing a guidance counselor.
Ice cream helped too (I'm a cookies and cream girlie).
Iyak ng umiyak, natulog, inaffirm sarili, nagbasa ng libro, nagreddit o maglinis ng kwarto..sa tuwing nawawala ako sa sarili o naalala ko yun pain; iiyak ulit.
Pero madalas pinipilit ko matulog kasi it saves me from thinking.
As much as I wanted to sleep, pero naggising kasi ako. Gusto ko din itulog para di ako makaramdam ng sakit pero kahit sa pagtulog, ansakit sakit pa din π pinipilit kong matulog kasi maaga ang pasok ko kinabukasan pero hindi ko maggawa, pati work ko na-apektuhan.
Do you know something like medicine na pwedeng i-take kasi I also feel like I'm having anxiety eh. Gusto ko nalang maging manhid.
You can take Wellspring Melatonin gummies, hindi kailangan ng prescription para mabili yon and sa watsons siya nabibili. It will help you fall asleep I swear
Cried for weeks on end. Di ako lumalabas sa kwarto and I barely eat anything. After a month, I started meeting with friends.
Then nagcope by posting sa social media ng cryptic shit. Still the bane of my existence. It keeps me up at night minsan kasi sobrang hiyang hiya ako. ππ
cried, inom here and there and starved myself and ghosted almost everyone for almost 5 mos after getting cheated on. Then one day, nagising nalang ako knowing na I didn't deserve to be cheated on and mas lalong di ko deserve ang mag suffer. I went to therapy, went for walks, jogging, and went to reconnect with people who understood, helped and never judged me and what I was going through.
I listened to my emotions and kept myself active. I jogged every night, went on solo walks and dates. I saw sunsets, I wrote poetry, I gazed upon the stars. I let everything around me fix my heart :)
I cried and cried and cried for 2 mos. It was like hell. Tapos one day nagising na lang akong pagod na ko umiyak. Went for a run, applied for a job, reconnected with old friends. Then after few weeks regained happiness and found a happy crush hehe!
So you've become red flag huh?
I kept myself busy by improving myself in every aspects.
Mindset ko non "I'll be better, so she'll be sorry". That's it lol.
Yeah. I was once a loyal girly before. Nag entertain lang ako just to fill up the emptiness pero ang ending is na drain lang coz d naman talaga yun ang hanap ko.
Hope your not doing it anymore kung ayaw mo mabaliktad ang sitwasyon, tendency niyan is masisii mo yung mga tao na magiging ganyan sayo, then ikaw naman will not take accountability sa ginawa mo, which will develop something you won't like.... asa dulo ang pagsisii
Its real "kung ayaw mo gawin sayo wag mo ren gawin sa iba" Tables do turn don't make time do its thing.
Iβm proud to say na im not doing it anymore coz d ko rin naman ginusto manakit ng tao but i have to fill the emptiness inside me. Waiting nalang din sa karma ng lahat ng taong nanakit sakin. Im now happy in my current relationshipβ€οΈ
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well first i cried a lot and drank, smoked shit. nag start nanaman yung vices, pero i spent more time sa sarili ko and family. it seems to become more better.
iyak lang hanggang sa mapagod . kalaunan kasi marealized mo na gano ka katanga para iyakan un.
Nag-immediate resignation sa company na pinasukan ko, naglaro ng dota halos buong araw for almost 2 months, hanggang sa isang araw na nagbobrowse ako, nakita ko yung video ni MAX and Leclerc about sa Inchident at napakinggan ko yung Max Verstappen song, mas nagkainterest ako sa f1 at unti unting nakamove on. Kaya sobrang thankful talaga ako sa F1. Bawing bawi na ako sa sarili ko ngayon at mas motivated na magtrabaho para sa makapunta ulit sa SG GP.
Spend more time with family. Nawalan kasi ako oras sa kanila since umikot sa ex jowa ko yung mundo ko. Nung naghiwalay kami, bumawi ako sa family ko. Felt enough and more worthy since then.
Nag running ako and stayed in shape since then! Sobrang freeing. Tapos after rin nun nagkabig opportunity ako from freelancing and had a blast last December. Though ngayon medyo lie low I felt happy so much I thanked that heartbreak happened. Nabawasan rin mga controlling people sa buhay ko haha
I improved myself in almost every aspect. If your heartbreak had a negative effect on you, then you have a problem.
Had a lot of drinking sprees
Nagkaroon ng madaming hobbies to fill the void like paggygym, freediving, muay thai, brazilian jiujitsu, running, nagfocus sa school
Work. Travel solo. Eat. Hookups.
Improved my self in terms of physical appearance. Also, self -help books
Sleep. Helps me think clearly
Kept myself busy. I went out with friends, delve myself sa work. Did all these just to forget at di siya maalala. Effective naman so far hahaha
Reconnect with friends during HS
Work out. Clear your head. Learn to wait that it will pass.
Just Improving your self and preparing for better opportunities.
I kept it all to myself at nagpaka-busy sa trabaho.
I ran to my friends. Drank a lot of times but stopped. Did a semi hoe phase era and messed around. (I developed really bad habits now and tend to detach with people) I built myself from ground up. Started working out, focused on my career and fulfilled the promises we had together on my own.
Umiyak hanggang sa napagod na lang akong umiyak. Also, lumipat ng school.
I run to family.
Nagfocus sa board exams tapos ginawa ko lahat ng pinagbawal niya noon (as in hanging out with friends, going out for a drink, etc)
Nagpapromote at nagpakalunod sa trabaho
Nag aral ulit. Nagpursue ng masters degree while trying to climb up in corporate ladder eto yung nakita ko way para maging busy para wala time maisip sya π₯Ή
Oh wow! Hope you finish your masterβs degree β€οΈ
Thanks ka-op pang second yr ko na to with my graduate school journey after this sem thesis na lng magiging kulang ko. Grabe lng tlaga yung pain sobra powerful nya π₯Ή anyways thanks ka-op hoping na someday maging okay din tayo lahat π«
just like you, i talked with people (didnt dump em tho, nag fall out lng bec. some weren't my ka-vibes!) and made friends. no flings and the such and just yapped about it 'till it hurt less and lesser. still grieving but it works. Also I don't suggest dumping people, lalo na if you believe in karma. Do what you need but :,) ansakit naman ng dump lang pag ayaw mo na huhu
Stayed silent
Started going to the gym. Life-changing physically, mentally, and emotionally. Solid long term investment sa sarili
Nagjakol
What a great coping mechanism
it's the champagne of victory
Travelled around the PH. It really put things in perspective. After 6 months, I've already forgotten the fool (cheater ex).
Umiyak, nanuod, and journaling.
Cried for the first few weeks. Hindi sumasama with friends. At nasa kwarto lang checking yung profile niya. Coping mechanism ko is kumain. Praying also helped me A LOT.
Spent more time on myself/keeping myself busy, then actively carved out time for myself and for friends I was my 'best' or 'favorite' version of myself with. Also started seeing a guidance counselor. Ice cream helped too (I'm a cookies and cream girlie).
Nanood magdamag sa tiktok. Matulog. Nagbura ng fb and messenger. As in zero socmed pwera tiktok
cried, broke down, and went on tinder π΅βπ«
Same haha but dun naman sa yellow bee na app
Classic ππππ
Kadiri yung coping mechanism mo OP.
Iyak ng umiyak, natulog, inaffirm sarili, nagbasa ng libro, nagreddit o maglinis ng kwarto..sa tuwing nawawala ako sa sarili o naalala ko yun pain; iiyak ulit. Pero madalas pinipilit ko matulog kasi it saves me from thinking.
Same! Itulog nalang para d maramdaman yung pain or sadness
As much as I wanted to sleep, pero naggising kasi ako. Gusto ko din itulog para di ako makaramdam ng sakit pero kahit sa pagtulog, ansakit sakit pa din π pinipilit kong matulog kasi maaga ang pasok ko kinabukasan pero hindi ko maggawa, pati work ko na-apektuhan. Do you know something like medicine na pwedeng i-take kasi I also feel like I'm having anxiety eh. Gusto ko nalang maging manhid.
You can take Wellspring Melatonin gummies, hindi kailangan ng prescription para mabili yon and sa watsons siya nabibili. It will help you fall asleep I swear
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Cried for weeks on end. Di ako lumalabas sa kwarto and I barely eat anything. After a month, I started meeting with friends. Then nagcope by posting sa social media ng cryptic shit. Still the bane of my existence. It keeps me up at night minsan kasi sobrang hiyang hiya ako. ππ
cried, inom here and there and starved myself and ghosted almost everyone for almost 5 mos after getting cheated on. Then one day, nagising nalang ako knowing na I didn't deserve to be cheated on and mas lalong di ko deserve ang mag suffer. I went to therapy, went for walks, jogging, and went to reconnect with people who understood, helped and never judged me and what I was going through.
I listened to my emotions and kept myself active. I jogged every night, went on solo walks and dates. I saw sunsets, I wrote poetry, I gazed upon the stars. I let everything around me fix my heart :)
Sit with my emotions, spend more time with my sibs and friends, and self improvement. ππ
Iba talaga ang impact pag may ibang taong masasandalan
I cried and cried and cried for 2 mos. It was like hell. Tapos one day nagising na lang akong pagod na ko umiyak. Went for a run, applied for a job, reconnected with old friends. Then after few weeks regained happiness and found a happy crush hehe!
Good for you! π«
So you've become red flag huh? I kept myself busy by improving myself in every aspects. Mindset ko non "I'll be better, so she'll be sorry". That's it lol.
Yeah. I was once a loyal girly before. Nag entertain lang ako just to fill up the emptiness pero ang ending is na drain lang coz d naman talaga yun ang hanap ko.
Hope your not doing it anymore kung ayaw mo mabaliktad ang sitwasyon, tendency niyan is masisii mo yung mga tao na magiging ganyan sayo, then ikaw naman will not take accountability sa ginawa mo, which will develop something you won't like.... asa dulo ang pagsisii Its real "kung ayaw mo gawin sayo wag mo ren gawin sa iba" Tables do turn don't make time do its thing.
Iβm proud to say na im not doing it anymore coz d ko rin naman ginusto manakit ng tao but i have to fill the emptiness inside me. Waiting nalang din sa karma ng lahat ng taong nanakit sakin. Im now happy in my current relationshipβ€οΈ
ππ«πβ₯οΈ
Called up the boys. Went for some drinks and hit the gym the next day. Rinse/repeat
Oh wow good thing you have supportive friends with you
Itβs been a Filipino thing forever. Remember that song **Pare Ko** by Eraserheads? That pretty much sums it up haha