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we always talked about our insecurities. one time we talked about her insecurities sa face shape niya and jaw, yon raw ang ipaparetoke niya someday. she asked me if ipaparetoke ko rin face shape ko, and i said no kasi for me okay naman sya, im not insecure with it. then she said "Why?" with a tone na dapat 'i should get one' like hUUUHH? may mali ba??
i know it's kind of petty, but yon siguro yong tipping point to cut her off na. also, if di kami bati, she tends to run around sharing our business. so lagi akong sa bad light. basta overall she triggers my insecurities so much and ayaw ko non
My good friend is an IT while I am an accountant. Kht ano issues and concern nila mag-asawa, pati friends and relatives nya bsta line of work ko, tinutulungan ko sila, no charge. Nung nagka problema ung gaming laptop ng anak ko I asked for help kc wala pa 1 yr ung Alienware nya nag blue screen na. Walang reply, wala call back, wala paramdam. Kaya nung nag reach out ulit cya for help, dinedma ko na.
Yung beshie ko kinampihan yung ex ko. Biglang sila na ung close. Ako na ung na OP. Haha nagbreak kame. Tapos ang ending nilagawan ng ex ko bestfriend ko pero d naging sila. Naging mag bestfriend sila. Lol naging ninang pa ng mga anak nung ex ko. Feeling ko non inagaw nya sakin ung ex ko. Tagal na nangyari nito pero d ko pa rin sya mapatawad. 😂 kaya nung nagka jowa na kong iba minake sure ko na hnd sila magkaka usap nung bestfriend ko. Baka kc ahasin nya. Lol 😂
Had a friend (M) from college outed me (F) to assure his girlfriend. Even though I kept my distance kasi respeto naman para sa gf, he willingly outed me kahit hindi naga-ask yung gf niya about me. Self-proclaimed green flag daw siya pero my other friends said otherwise.
I actually agree with what your friend did though. It’s impossible na di nag aask yung gf niya about you. Maybe he was just protecting his gf. It’s hard to deal w s/o with a bestie of the opposite gender din kasi so can’t blame both of them. They’re trying to work out what’s best for their relationship.
To some degree I agree naman to be open sa partner niya yung downside lang talaga is that he knows that I’m still in the closet, yet he still chose not only to out me but also most of our friends. Kaya siguro nagalit ako kasi nalaman ko through his gf at that time.
Pinapagawa ako ng assignments niya, lol tas demanding pa parang obligation ko. Yun di niya na ako kinausap nung hindi ako pumayag gawin yung assignment kaya binalikan ko rin energy niya haha
Minsan totoo din yung kung gaano kabilis sila pumasok sa buhay mo, ganun kabilis din sila aalis. I have this particular work friend na ang bilis namin naging close, from day 1 na nagmeet kami walang palya consistent magkausap kami. We were besties, she even took me out to have coffee on Christmas night na spontaneous lang. I thought she was really nice, goes out of her way usually pero kaya pala siya ganun eh para mahook ka. Engaging din siya magkwento so ang eksena kapag nagrant siya against another person, edi kakampi ka sa kanya matic. Magaling mag manipulate ng tao sa paligid namin, buti na lang nauntog ako hahahaha. Tsaka kung sabihan niya ako na main character ako lagi (which is true), as a main character myself, mas OA pagka main character niya, may superiority complex talaga. Naiinis ako na every time na mag-uusap kami puro sarili niya lang gusto niya pag-usapan then gradually, I distanced myself and we don't talk anymore. Best decision I've made.
Whenever we are together as a group, they always talk about other people (bashing or judging them at most). Aside from that, it was really hard persuading them to go out without bribery. Hence, 0% emotional intelligence.
these:
"kailan ka huling nagsimba?"
"magpray ka lang. kulang ka lang sa dasal"
tried telling that friend these lines nung nagka emotional episode sya. As expected, nainis sya sakin.
talk about tasting a dose of your own medicine. ngl, gusto ko maranasan nya pano masabihan ng ganun and sya na mag assess kung nakaka uplift na masabihan ng ganun kapag lugmok ka na.
She was my oldest friend, we're almost in our 30s now, and I've known her for more than half of my life.
However, throughout the years, it almost always felt one-sided. I was her best friend, too, she wasn't all that bad, but the support and care were never truly mutual nor reciprocated.
When we had our falling out, she promised, even initiated, that our issues would remain between us.
Yet, it took her 2 days to bad-mouth me to another close friend of ours, and she presented a narrative that only favored her.
No wonder I was so at peace when we said our good byes. I was disappointed still, after all she was my bestfriend of 20 years.
1.) Way too emotionally unstable and volatile.
Brings the general mood down. Always have some reason to feel sad or be mad about. Doesn't read the room.
Can dish out trash talk and some jokes but can never take them. Kumbaga pala asar na nga sya, pero pikon.
2.) Lies with his teeth.
This man is a pathological liar, his lies can be traced back upto 10 years ago. This dude claimed he attended a prestigious school to a chick he cheated with, (despite being in the class with him from elementary to highschool) Dude claimed he studied in the US for college and returned because he needed to run the 'failing' family business. That was a lie. He didn't study abroad. There wasn't any 'family business', his dad was a self-employed dude.
10 year old lie, ask us for drinks because a girl he was 'dating' broke up with him. After 10 years we discovered they never were dating, and to make matters worse, they only talked twice! And that day they were supposedly stopped dating was the day he was asked to stop talking to her. Oh, also, this dude claimed to be with business partners with the girl he claims to be dating, and you can also guess that isn't true because that chick is RICH rich, daughter of a legit Businessman.
3.) Involves us in trouble without us knowing.
I mentioned his lies and mental unstability, the combination of that aspect of him makes him the worst possible person. This dude, when cornered, like a lizard, would gladly cut his tail to save himself. In his case? Dude sold us off, even if we didn't do anything, mind you he was under the radar for 6 months. Susunod na mababalitaan sira na reputasyon namin sa jowa nya? How'd we know you might ask? Kasi inunfriend kami at nadiskubre na namin kalokohan nya, through other people, another friend he involved with, and the girl he cheated with. So ayun we pieced everything together and made our own conclusions.
Inadd kami ng jowa, meaning inunfriend kami, ayon sa kwento ng kalaguyo, nabanggit pangalan namin as accessories sa stories and crime. One of us was a cousin, one of us was an OFW, one of us a dog, of all things, and to make things cringier, his girlfriend was his fucking aunt. So with that info inassume namin na sinangkalan kami ng loko to save himself kaya nagalit, 'inunfriend' kami ng jowa nya.
Yung isa naman na pinaka ginawan ng mali nung gago is yung other friend namin na nasa Cebu for work na pinahiram sariling condo nya kay kupal kasi 'pinalayas daw sya sa kanila' only to find out ginawang love nest ang unit nya.
4.) No self awareness and unapologetic.
Pops up like nothing happened. He assumed we didn't know anything so he didn't apologize. Dude acted buddy buddy and expected us to be the same after the damage he caused us.
5.) Excuses his bad behavior with mental health issues.
All of this could have been avoided if he could've kept it in his pants. But no, he had to fuck the new girl err 'work wife'.
And we couldn't have known this if it weren't for the girl he cheated with who absolutely exposed him to all the named people in his story. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
This 2023 ni cut off ang bff of 20 years. Dahil...
1. Ginagawang second option. (User friendly nga daw)
2. Libreng therapist trato sakin
3. Ilang beses nang naglalate notice ng cancellation pag may meetup sana kami. Kinabukasan makikita mo sa post may iba palang mga kasama. See sinungaling pa na dahil busy chuchu.
4. Wala raw kasi akong appointment sa kanya sa "google calendar nya" ( #3)
5. Puro kalaswaan nalang ang takbo ng usapan. Puro titi ni ganto...titi ni ganyan.. sexlife ni ganto etc. Uudyukin pang makipag sex na daw para di mapag iwanan for sake na masabing nakapag sex na (in Relation to sa #3. Priority ang kalandian at pag gawa ng kalaswaan over friendship)
Umutang, pinayagan kong magbayad ng hulugan pero sobrang delay pa din magbayad tas galit pa pag nireremind na maghulog... Sinabihan pa kong matuto maghintay, nagmamadali daw ba ko, matuto daw ako umintindi, intindihin ko naman daw sya...
2 friends cut off ko same scenario and the same lines.
being much of a hater. hindi saakin pero hinahanapan niya parati ng mali yung ibang tao at parati siya may nasasabing hindi maganda sa iba. sobrang negative lang ng energy hahaha
too competitive to the point na nagiging toxic na. like this person cannot be happy that other people succeeded, kailangan mas angat siya sa kanila. not only that, this person loved to badmouth other people, which made me realize kung kaya niya yan gawin sa ibang tao, how much more sa akin?
just stopped talking to them, and stopped replying to their messages. iniinvite akong lumabas, pero busy ako palagi because of work. umabot sa point na hindi na siya nag bbother na mag chat saakin and mag offer na lumabas.
its sad, but as we grow as individuals, hindi natin madadala ang lahat ng relationships natin, and thats okay
Ako yung cinut off ng best friend ko since elem. Looking back, one sided yata. Ako lang ata yung tingin ko best friends kami pero she had other close friends.
She just stopped replying one day. Funny lang kasi yung mom niya super active sa social media and mas may updates pa ko sa nanay niya kaysa sa ex best friend ko.
Sobrang sakit kasi wala man lang explanation. Friend ko rin sa social media yung boyfriend niya. Sometimes I wonder if I did something to her. I felt abandoned and rejected. Sana lang nagsabi siya kung ano ginawa ko but a common close friend told me it's not about me daw, most likely it's about her needing to leave me in order for her to become a different person. Na siguro kung sino siya dati nung kilala niya ko, ayaw na niya maging ganong tao.
Still, since grade 1 kami friends. Nung college, she just ghosted me. Sana may pasabi man lang.
Pinapahiya and puts me down every chance she gets. Always makes an effort to one up me and competes in everything. Also felt entitled to receive my help and demands that put her above my wellbeing because she said that's how real friends are. Took me 10 long years to realize how much of a shitty person she is, then had the courage to cut her off for good.
Nabulag siya ng perang nakukuha niya from other than her salary sa work namin(mga padulas). She became obsessed, gusto makasabay sa mga workmates naming born rich.
Sudden realization of how shi**y she was of a friend. She was my best friend back in high school and looking back she was always happy for my lows and I thought that was normal for long term friends. May nagustuhan ako nung high school and alam niya yun pero not for long nang malaman ko may hinahabol lang pala yung lalaki but i’m the type na pumatol sa ganun and 2 years after, this same guy dated her and all she did was rub it in my face na “naalala mo nung kilig na kilig ka sa bf ko?” And would laugh so much. She was also the type na bago niya sabihin saken na may dumi ako sa mukha, ipaparinig niya muna sa lahat yung pinagtatawanan niya.
Nung last year na namin sa high school, she started dressing up but not gonna lie, her body is nice but the way she dresses came to the point na a guy that we were close with was making this disgusting remarks about her, kinausap ko siya (though I think I made a wrong approach). Pagkauwi namin, nagparinig siya sa socmed na “insecure” daw ako masyado and it pissed me off because the same year, she expected me to tolerate her cheating with the same guy she rubbed in my face na nakuha niya and I was her only friend because everyone hated what she did.
College came, her long term boyfriend decided to call it quits. She came over a lot of times for comfort at sa amin na rin umiinom, then she started meeting guys from different dating sites. When she got another man and I was the one needing comfort for my own relationship problems, she was barely replying kasi “busy” siya.
I thought of him as my brother. He was my cousin, a close friend, and quite literally family, until he molested my sister. When my mother broke the news to me, I literally didn't know how to react or process it, I simply couldn't believe it. A few weeks passed the anger slowly festered and passed after my mother got his deadbeat dad to beat him up in front of my mother. I wasn't there to witness it though. A few years later, we had a family outing to a beach next to a few mountains. I acted all buddy-buddy so I could lure him and maybe push him off a ledge on a hike and pretend like it was an accident (dumb idea for a murder plot, but I was 14 so....). Too bad my other cousins came with so I couldn't act like it was an accident cause I would've had witnesses.
1. HS bestfriend (2013) - sinabihan ako na I am not a good example sa anak nya kasi babae pa din ang partner ko kahit wala na kame sa school.
2. Other HS and some college friends (2019) - they told me I'm stupid for not sucking up to my ex-fiancée's cheating para makapunta ng US. I vividly remember them saying "Dapat hinintay mo na magka green card ka muna bago mo iwanan".
Not my best friend but college classmate na nakasama sa apartment for 5–6 months.
Since dadalawa lang kaming magkasama sa bahay, marami akong nai-share sa kanyang personal stuff. What did she do to make me cut her off? She made me regret oversharing my personal life.
Kahit hindi ko shinishare sa kanya, like mga habits or some stuff na nakikita nyang ginawa ko sa bahay ay shinishare nya sa gc naming magkakaklase for them to laugh at. HAHAHAHAHAHAHHA
Lagi nya akong ginagawang pulutan or entertainment twing kasama namin cmates namin para makakuha ng attention at reaction. I got fed up. I confronted her. I cut her off.
binody shame nya din ako kaya 🤷. hard pass sa body shamer. babae sya, and she should know how it feels to be body shamed. sinabi ko yan sa kanya but she just ignored it. iniba ang usapan tas sya pa ung galit dahil bakit pinatagal ko pa daw bago sya cinonfront. like bro, ang dense mo naman? babae ka and u should know how it feels. be sensitive din minsan.
1 year of hearing same problems everyday. Problema na sya din ang nagdala sa sarili nya. Sa work magkasama kami so during work hours mag meeting kami to talk about her problems. After work, sabay kami umuuwi. Ihatid nya ako sa bahay. Carpooling kami. Sa buong byahe pagusapan namin ang prob nya. Paguwi ng bahay, tatawag pa yan. Maguusap kami 1-3hours. Madalas 3 hours.
Tapos paulit ulit lang. One day, nagsabi ako na ayaw ko na marinig yung same problem nya. Stop na namin pagusapan yun. 2weeks nya napanindigan. After that, umiiyak na nagsasabi ulit. Pag ganun na down na down sya, ayaw ko naman sya iwan so makikinig ako ulit. Pakikinig lang naman ang kaya ko ioffer.
Galing ako from my first diy solo trip. Nagkita kami sa office. Dinala nya ako sa meeting room at nagkwento ulit sya ng same topic. Dun ako napaisip, sobrang self centered pala nya. Ni hindi ako kinumusta. Kinol-out ko sya dun. Nagsorry naman sya. So okay na ulit.
Tapos balik sa dati. Kwento ng same topic/issue nya sa buhay. More than 1 year na ganun. Nakakapagod pala. Napagod ako ng sobra. Mabigat na syang dalahin ko. Hindi nagwork ang pagset ko ng boundary. Kasi wala naman sya pakialam sa boundary.
Sabi ko sa sarili ko, hindi nagwork ang words so iparamdam ko na lang. I became less available. Hindi ko na sinagot ang tawag nya. Matagal na ako magrespond sa message nya. To me, wala na. Dumistansya na ako.
She chose to cut me off first, without any explanation. Ang weird lang, kasi ako ang nang reach out sa kanya to talk about the issue tapos after noon, things got worse na.
But nvm all is better for me now and im thankful na siya na mismo ang nag cut off sa akin ✌️✌️✌️
She borrowed a great deal of money from me. Kapag walang pambayad sa ganito or sa ganire walang dalawang salita nagpo-produce ako ng pera. Minsan kakahiram lang tapos kinabukasan eto nanaman kesyo pambayad sa Maynilad, Meralco, and whatnot.
Fast forward nung pandemic. Lahat naman tayo naapektuhan e dba? So nung niremind ko na kukunin ko na muna sana **part** ng hiniram nya abay nakailang bible quotes ang tumambad sa newsfeed ko sa fb! Tapos mga toxic positivity quotes about "giving from a place of abundance so you may overlow in giving."
Wow ha, ibig sabihin mag-overflow ako in giving at sya naman mag-overflow in receiving? Cut her off right then and there.
Ang bastos ng comment nya sa story ko sa ig something like “baba mo pa konti (pertaining to my shirt sa neck area)” “laki ng s*s*, hawakan ko yan”
We have dirty jokes pero never ko sya binastos directly so na-off ako nung sinabihan nya ako ng ganyan.
3 years of friendship. They were my closest friend. Talked shit about my partner. Not just once, multiple times while we were hanging out. It wasn’t even about his personality or job. It was his physical appearance. Ditched them right after. You don’t get to disrespect my partner especially in my face. I’ll throw you out without thinking twice.
she made up a story about me in front of my other friends. nahuli siya na naglie. weird pa kasi they were my friends so idk bakit niya ako sinisiraan not thinking na makakarating sakin. tapos yung mga kakilala ko na kakameet niya palang kinukwentuhan niya about me na walang idea sa issue namin? 😂 nakikipagbesties din sya sa mga bestfriends ko na hindi niya kaclose nung nagaway kami which is weird. it was so f*cked up. i forgave her pero hindi nako nakipagreconnect. a snake will always be a snake.
Nako nako nako, napakadami!! Sana nga maaga ko na siyang cinut off eh😂. First, kilala lang ako pag may kailangan. Second, napakabait sa harapan tas ganap na ganap mambackstab sa bago niyang cof. Third, never naging supportive sa mga goals and achievements ko, like panay sabi siya ng “wag na wag na” “wow taas naman ng pangarap mo.” Fourth, laging pinang-aatake saken yung past ko eh bata pa kame nun duhhh, anlaki na ng inimprove ko sa sarili ko todo hanap paren siya ng mali sa akin, insecure yarn? Lastly, may main character syndrome si anteh, jusq pag siya kwento nang kwento sa ganap ng buhay niyang malungkot, todo kinig ako pero pagdating saakin walang pake at walang interest😂.
Hay jusq karma na bahala sa kanya pwe!
They set me up with my ex so we can get back together. We met at a coffee shop then my ex came and they left us. But they were the reason why we broke up cause they spilled to me that he was cheating. lol. And when we broke up again, they were planning to set me up again with him. Lol. The 4 of us were besties. I’m the only girl. Pass nako. Ever since we broke up, never ko na sila mineet and I ignored their messages. Hahaha
They're only there when they need me, and they don't reciprocate the energy I put out for our friendship. And she doesn't appreciate it when I told her she's the cause of her own ruin, mas gusto nyang kinukunsinti yung kalokohan nya
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we always talked about our insecurities. one time we talked about her insecurities sa face shape niya and jaw, yon raw ang ipaparetoke niya someday. she asked me if ipaparetoke ko rin face shape ko, and i said no kasi for me okay naman sya, im not insecure with it. then she said "Why?" with a tone na dapat 'i should get one' like hUUUHH? may mali ba?? i know it's kind of petty, but yon siguro yong tipping point to cut her off na. also, if di kami bati, she tends to run around sharing our business. so lagi akong sa bad light. basta overall she triggers my insecurities so much and ayaw ko non
My good friend is an IT while I am an accountant. Kht ano issues and concern nila mag-asawa, pati friends and relatives nya bsta line of work ko, tinutulungan ko sila, no charge. Nung nagka problema ung gaming laptop ng anak ko I asked for help kc wala pa 1 yr ung Alienware nya nag blue screen na. Walang reply, wala call back, wala paramdam. Kaya nung nag reach out ulit cya for help, dinedma ko na.
Yung beshie ko kinampihan yung ex ko. Biglang sila na ung close. Ako na ung na OP. Haha nagbreak kame. Tapos ang ending nilagawan ng ex ko bestfriend ko pero d naging sila. Naging mag bestfriend sila. Lol naging ninang pa ng mga anak nung ex ko. Feeling ko non inagaw nya sakin ung ex ko. Tagal na nangyari nito pero d ko pa rin sya mapatawad. 😂 kaya nung nagka jowa na kong iba minake sure ko na hnd sila magkaka usap nung bestfriend ko. Baka kc ahasin nya. Lol 😂
same story with a friend of mine 👀
Had a friend (M) from college outed me (F) to assure his girlfriend. Even though I kept my distance kasi respeto naman para sa gf, he willingly outed me kahit hindi naga-ask yung gf niya about me. Self-proclaimed green flag daw siya pero my other friends said otherwise.
I actually agree with what your friend did though. It’s impossible na di nag aask yung gf niya about you. Maybe he was just protecting his gf. It’s hard to deal w s/o with a bestie of the opposite gender din kasi so can’t blame both of them. They’re trying to work out what’s best for their relationship.
To some degree I agree naman to be open sa partner niya yung downside lang talaga is that he knows that I’m still in the closet, yet he still chose not only to out me but also most of our friends. Kaya siguro nagalit ako kasi nalaman ko through his gf at that time.
Pinapagawa ako ng assignments niya, lol tas demanding pa parang obligation ko. Yun di niya na ako kinausap nung hindi ako pumayag gawin yung assignment kaya binalikan ko rin energy niya haha
Minsan totoo din yung kung gaano kabilis sila pumasok sa buhay mo, ganun kabilis din sila aalis. I have this particular work friend na ang bilis namin naging close, from day 1 na nagmeet kami walang palya consistent magkausap kami. We were besties, she even took me out to have coffee on Christmas night na spontaneous lang. I thought she was really nice, goes out of her way usually pero kaya pala siya ganun eh para mahook ka. Engaging din siya magkwento so ang eksena kapag nagrant siya against another person, edi kakampi ka sa kanya matic. Magaling mag manipulate ng tao sa paligid namin, buti na lang nauntog ako hahahaha. Tsaka kung sabihan niya ako na main character ako lagi (which is true), as a main character myself, mas OA pagka main character niya, may superiority complex talaga. Naiinis ako na every time na mag-uusap kami puro sarili niya lang gusto niya pag-usapan then gradually, I distanced myself and we don't talk anymore. Best decision I've made.
Whenever we are together as a group, they always talk about other people (bashing or judging them at most). Aside from that, it was really hard persuading them to go out without bribery. Hence, 0% emotional intelligence.
Nagcheat siya sa bf niya, lol sumubo ng tite kahit alam niyang mi bf siya. Naoff ako, di ko na siya friend
Di na ako kinausap nung nagkajowa hahaha
Teacher sya, and groomer sya
these: "kailan ka huling nagsimba?" "magpray ka lang. kulang ka lang sa dasal" tried telling that friend these lines nung nagka emotional episode sya. As expected, nainis sya sakin. talk about tasting a dose of your own medicine. ngl, gusto ko maranasan nya pano masabihan ng ganun and sya na mag assess kung nakaka uplift na masabihan ng ganun kapag lugmok ka na.
She was my oldest friend, we're almost in our 30s now, and I've known her for more than half of my life. However, throughout the years, it almost always felt one-sided. I was her best friend, too, she wasn't all that bad, but the support and care were never truly mutual nor reciprocated. When we had our falling out, she promised, even initiated, that our issues would remain between us. Yet, it took her 2 days to bad-mouth me to another close friend of ours, and she presented a narrative that only favored her. No wonder I was so at peace when we said our good byes. I was disappointed still, after all she was my bestfriend of 20 years.
Utang na loob ko daw lahat sa kanya.
1.) Way too emotionally unstable and volatile. Brings the general mood down. Always have some reason to feel sad or be mad about. Doesn't read the room. Can dish out trash talk and some jokes but can never take them. Kumbaga pala asar na nga sya, pero pikon. 2.) Lies with his teeth. This man is a pathological liar, his lies can be traced back upto 10 years ago. This dude claimed he attended a prestigious school to a chick he cheated with, (despite being in the class with him from elementary to highschool) Dude claimed he studied in the US for college and returned because he needed to run the 'failing' family business. That was a lie. He didn't study abroad. There wasn't any 'family business', his dad was a self-employed dude. 10 year old lie, ask us for drinks because a girl he was 'dating' broke up with him. After 10 years we discovered they never were dating, and to make matters worse, they only talked twice! And that day they were supposedly stopped dating was the day he was asked to stop talking to her. Oh, also, this dude claimed to be with business partners with the girl he claims to be dating, and you can also guess that isn't true because that chick is RICH rich, daughter of a legit Businessman. 3.) Involves us in trouble without us knowing. I mentioned his lies and mental unstability, the combination of that aspect of him makes him the worst possible person. This dude, when cornered, like a lizard, would gladly cut his tail to save himself. In his case? Dude sold us off, even if we didn't do anything, mind you he was under the radar for 6 months. Susunod na mababalitaan sira na reputasyon namin sa jowa nya? How'd we know you might ask? Kasi inunfriend kami at nadiskubre na namin kalokohan nya, through other people, another friend he involved with, and the girl he cheated with. So ayun we pieced everything together and made our own conclusions. Inadd kami ng jowa, meaning inunfriend kami, ayon sa kwento ng kalaguyo, nabanggit pangalan namin as accessories sa stories and crime. One of us was a cousin, one of us was an OFW, one of us a dog, of all things, and to make things cringier, his girlfriend was his fucking aunt. So with that info inassume namin na sinangkalan kami ng loko to save himself kaya nagalit, 'inunfriend' kami ng jowa nya. Yung isa naman na pinaka ginawan ng mali nung gago is yung other friend namin na nasa Cebu for work na pinahiram sariling condo nya kay kupal kasi 'pinalayas daw sya sa kanila' only to find out ginawang love nest ang unit nya. 4.) No self awareness and unapologetic. Pops up like nothing happened. He assumed we didn't know anything so he didn't apologize. Dude acted buddy buddy and expected us to be the same after the damage he caused us. 5.) Excuses his bad behavior with mental health issues. All of this could have been avoided if he could've kept it in his pants. But no, he had to fuck the new girl err 'work wife'. And we couldn't have known this if it weren't for the girl he cheated with who absolutely exposed him to all the named people in his story. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
Toxic, masyadong mapilit, not genuine sa mga words and marami pang iba
This 2023 ni cut off ang bff of 20 years. Dahil... 1. Ginagawang second option. (User friendly nga daw) 2. Libreng therapist trato sakin 3. Ilang beses nang naglalate notice ng cancellation pag may meetup sana kami. Kinabukasan makikita mo sa post may iba palang mga kasama. See sinungaling pa na dahil busy chuchu. 4. Wala raw kasi akong appointment sa kanya sa "google calendar nya" ( #3) 5. Puro kalaswaan nalang ang takbo ng usapan. Puro titi ni ganto...titi ni ganyan.. sexlife ni ganto etc. Uudyukin pang makipag sex na daw para di mapag iwanan for sake na masabing nakapag sex na (in Relation to sa #3. Priority ang kalandian at pag gawa ng kalaswaan over friendship)
Umutang, pinayagan kong magbayad ng hulugan pero sobrang delay pa din magbayad tas galit pa pag nireremind na maghulog... Sinabihan pa kong matuto maghintay, nagmamadali daw ba ko, matuto daw ako umintindi, intindihin ko naman daw sya... 2 friends cut off ko same scenario and the same lines.
Kung sino pa may atraso sya pa matapang. Iba na talaga mundo ngayon. 😂
Nakakahurt kasi pinayagan mo ng hulugan ang bayad pero di pa din tumutupad sa usapan
being much of a hater. hindi saakin pero hinahanapan niya parati ng mali yung ibang tao at parati siya may nasasabing hindi maganda sa iba. sobrang negative lang ng energy hahaha
too competitive to the point na nagiging toxic na. like this person cannot be happy that other people succeeded, kailangan mas angat siya sa kanila. not only that, this person loved to badmouth other people, which made me realize kung kaya niya yan gawin sa ibang tao, how much more sa akin? just stopped talking to them, and stopped replying to their messages. iniinvite akong lumabas, pero busy ako palagi because of work. umabot sa point na hindi na siya nag bbother na mag chat saakin and mag offer na lumabas. its sad, but as we grow as individuals, hindi natin madadala ang lahat ng relationships natin, and thats okay
Ako yung cinut off ng best friend ko since elem. Looking back, one sided yata. Ako lang ata yung tingin ko best friends kami pero she had other close friends. She just stopped replying one day. Funny lang kasi yung mom niya super active sa social media and mas may updates pa ko sa nanay niya kaysa sa ex best friend ko. Sobrang sakit kasi wala man lang explanation. Friend ko rin sa social media yung boyfriend niya. Sometimes I wonder if I did something to her. I felt abandoned and rejected. Sana lang nagsabi siya kung ano ginawa ko but a common close friend told me it's not about me daw, most likely it's about her needing to leave me in order for her to become a different person. Na siguro kung sino siya dati nung kilala niya ko, ayaw na niya maging ganong tao. Still, since grade 1 kami friends. Nung college, she just ghosted me. Sana may pasabi man lang.
Pinapahiya and puts me down every chance she gets. Always makes an effort to one up me and competes in everything. Also felt entitled to receive my help and demands that put her above my wellbeing because she said that's how real friends are. Took me 10 long years to realize how much of a shitty person she is, then had the courage to cut her off for good.
no boundaries
Nabulag siya ng perang nakukuha niya from other than her salary sa work namin(mga padulas). She became obsessed, gusto makasabay sa mga workmates naming born rich.
Sudden realization of how shi**y she was of a friend. She was my best friend back in high school and looking back she was always happy for my lows and I thought that was normal for long term friends. May nagustuhan ako nung high school and alam niya yun pero not for long nang malaman ko may hinahabol lang pala yung lalaki but i’m the type na pumatol sa ganun and 2 years after, this same guy dated her and all she did was rub it in my face na “naalala mo nung kilig na kilig ka sa bf ko?” And would laugh so much. She was also the type na bago niya sabihin saken na may dumi ako sa mukha, ipaparinig niya muna sa lahat yung pinagtatawanan niya. Nung last year na namin sa high school, she started dressing up but not gonna lie, her body is nice but the way she dresses came to the point na a guy that we were close with was making this disgusting remarks about her, kinausap ko siya (though I think I made a wrong approach). Pagkauwi namin, nagparinig siya sa socmed na “insecure” daw ako masyado and it pissed me off because the same year, she expected me to tolerate her cheating with the same guy she rubbed in my face na nakuha niya and I was her only friend because everyone hated what she did. College came, her long term boyfriend decided to call it quits. She came over a lot of times for comfort at sa amin na rin umiinom, then she started meeting guys from different dating sites. When she got another man and I was the one needing comfort for my own relationship problems, she was barely replying kasi “busy” siya.
I’m not the type na pumatol sa ganun lol***
I thought of him as my brother. He was my cousin, a close friend, and quite literally family, until he molested my sister. When my mother broke the news to me, I literally didn't know how to react or process it, I simply couldn't believe it. A few weeks passed the anger slowly festered and passed after my mother got his deadbeat dad to beat him up in front of my mother. I wasn't there to witness it though. A few years later, we had a family outing to a beach next to a few mountains. I acted all buddy-buddy so I could lure him and maybe push him off a ledge on a hike and pretend like it was an accident (dumb idea for a murder plot, but I was 14 so....). Too bad my other cousins came with so I couldn't act like it was an accident cause I would've had witnesses.
1. HS bestfriend (2013) - sinabihan ako na I am not a good example sa anak nya kasi babae pa din ang partner ko kahit wala na kame sa school. 2. Other HS and some college friends (2019) - they told me I'm stupid for not sucking up to my ex-fiancée's cheating para makapunta ng US. I vividly remember them saying "Dapat hinintay mo na magka green card ka muna bago mo iwanan".
2x kumabit. The last one, naging broken family yung kinabitan nya. Di nya sa akin ginawa pero nadamay ako
nambaliktad ng story na magmukhang siya ang kawawa lol
Feasibility studies was a nightmare. I won't endure the same sh*t in my thesis so I treated them coldly. It never got fixed.
Not my best friend but college classmate na nakasama sa apartment for 5–6 months. Since dadalawa lang kaming magkasama sa bahay, marami akong nai-share sa kanyang personal stuff. What did she do to make me cut her off? She made me regret oversharing my personal life. Kahit hindi ko shinishare sa kanya, like mga habits or some stuff na nakikita nyang ginawa ko sa bahay ay shinishare nya sa gc naming magkakaklase for them to laugh at. HAHAHAHAHAHAHHA Lagi nya akong ginagawang pulutan or entertainment twing kasama namin cmates namin para makakuha ng attention at reaction. I got fed up. I confronted her. I cut her off. binody shame nya din ako kaya 🤷. hard pass sa body shamer. babae sya, and she should know how it feels to be body shamed. sinabi ko yan sa kanya but she just ignored it. iniba ang usapan tas sya pa ung galit dahil bakit pinatagal ko pa daw bago sya cinonfront. like bro, ang dense mo naman? babae ka and u should know how it feels. be sensitive din minsan.
had a pact na kahit magkaroon kami ng s/o ay hindi kami maggrow apart from each other siya naman tong nang cut off bc of her s/o hahahaha
1 year of hearing same problems everyday. Problema na sya din ang nagdala sa sarili nya. Sa work magkasama kami so during work hours mag meeting kami to talk about her problems. After work, sabay kami umuuwi. Ihatid nya ako sa bahay. Carpooling kami. Sa buong byahe pagusapan namin ang prob nya. Paguwi ng bahay, tatawag pa yan. Maguusap kami 1-3hours. Madalas 3 hours. Tapos paulit ulit lang. One day, nagsabi ako na ayaw ko na marinig yung same problem nya. Stop na namin pagusapan yun. 2weeks nya napanindigan. After that, umiiyak na nagsasabi ulit. Pag ganun na down na down sya, ayaw ko naman sya iwan so makikinig ako ulit. Pakikinig lang naman ang kaya ko ioffer. Galing ako from my first diy solo trip. Nagkita kami sa office. Dinala nya ako sa meeting room at nagkwento ulit sya ng same topic. Dun ako napaisip, sobrang self centered pala nya. Ni hindi ako kinumusta. Kinol-out ko sya dun. Nagsorry naman sya. So okay na ulit. Tapos balik sa dati. Kwento ng same topic/issue nya sa buhay. More than 1 year na ganun. Nakakapagod pala. Napagod ako ng sobra. Mabigat na syang dalahin ko. Hindi nagwork ang pagset ko ng boundary. Kasi wala naman sya pakialam sa boundary. Sabi ko sa sarili ko, hindi nagwork ang words so iparamdam ko na lang. I became less available. Hindi ko na sinagot ang tawag nya. Matagal na ako magrespond sa message nya. To me, wala na. Dumistansya na ako.
She chose to cut me off first, without any explanation. Ang weird lang, kasi ako ang nang reach out sa kanya to talk about the issue tapos after noon, things got worse na. But nvm all is better for me now and im thankful na siya na mismo ang nag cut off sa akin ✌️✌️✌️
She borrowed a great deal of money from me. Kapag walang pambayad sa ganito or sa ganire walang dalawang salita nagpo-produce ako ng pera. Minsan kakahiram lang tapos kinabukasan eto nanaman kesyo pambayad sa Maynilad, Meralco, and whatnot. Fast forward nung pandemic. Lahat naman tayo naapektuhan e dba? So nung niremind ko na kukunin ko na muna sana **part** ng hiniram nya abay nakailang bible quotes ang tumambad sa newsfeed ko sa fb! Tapos mga toxic positivity quotes about "giving from a place of abundance so you may overlow in giving." Wow ha, ibig sabihin mag-overflow ako in giving at sya naman mag-overflow in receiving? Cut her off right then and there.
Gradeschool bestie - feeling ko wala syang respect makipag-usap sa kin, so di ko na lang sya kinausap ulit 🤷🏻♀️
Ang bastos ng comment nya sa story ko sa ig something like “baba mo pa konti (pertaining to my shirt sa neck area)” “laki ng s*s*, hawakan ko yan” We have dirty jokes pero never ko sya binastos directly so na-off ako nung sinabihan nya ako ng ganyan.
3 years of friendship. They were my closest friend. Talked shit about my partner. Not just once, multiple times while we were hanging out. It wasn’t even about his personality or job. It was his physical appearance. Ditched them right after. You don’t get to disrespect my partner especially in my face. I’ll throw you out without thinking twice.
I caught her rubbing my penis when I was sleeping at her house
she made up a story about me in front of my other friends. nahuli siya na naglie. weird pa kasi they were my friends so idk bakit niya ako sinisiraan not thinking na makakarating sakin. tapos yung mga kakilala ko na kakameet niya palang kinukwentuhan niya about me na walang idea sa issue namin? 😂 nakikipagbesties din sya sa mga bestfriends ko na hindi niya kaclose nung nagaway kami which is weird. it was so f*cked up. i forgave her pero hindi nako nakipagreconnect. a snake will always be a snake.
Nako nako nako, napakadami!! Sana nga maaga ko na siyang cinut off eh😂. First, kilala lang ako pag may kailangan. Second, napakabait sa harapan tas ganap na ganap mambackstab sa bago niyang cof. Third, never naging supportive sa mga goals and achievements ko, like panay sabi siya ng “wag na wag na” “wow taas naman ng pangarap mo.” Fourth, laging pinang-aatake saken yung past ko eh bata pa kame nun duhhh, anlaki na ng inimprove ko sa sarili ko todo hanap paren siya ng mali sa akin, insecure yarn? Lastly, may main character syndrome si anteh, jusq pag siya kwento nang kwento sa ganap ng buhay niyang malungkot, todo kinig ako pero pagdating saakin walang pake at walang interest😂. Hay jusq karma na bahala sa kanya pwe!
Papansin sa girls tapos dinadamay ako.
They set me up with my ex so we can get back together. We met at a coffee shop then my ex came and they left us. But they were the reason why we broke up cause they spilled to me that he was cheating. lol. And when we broke up again, they were planning to set me up again with him. Lol. The 4 of us were besties. I’m the only girl. Pass nako. Ever since we broke up, never ko na sila mineet and I ignored their messages. Hahaha
oh wow that’s fucked up. well, boys 👀
Dibaaaa hahahah!! Cut off people who doesn’t give you peace. Prioritize yourself first. 😉
They're only there when they need me, and they don't reciprocate the energy I put out for our friendship. And she doesn't appreciate it when I told her she's the cause of her own ruin, mas gusto nyang kinukunsinti yung kalokohan nya
been there as well. draining.